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All warmed up for winter

WELCOME to the winter edition of Yarra Ranges Kids.

edition who have had their own private battles with pregnancy and cancer.

I cannot believe it's already winter and I have to admit while it often sends a shudder down the spine of many, I just love this time of year in the Yarra Valley and Dandenong Ranges.

If you're looking for inspiration - this is the place to be.

We finally get to light the fire (or go somewhere that has one), devour the many scones on offer in the region and snuggle into bed with a hot water bottle and some warm PJs. And then there's the excitement of taking the kids to the park - dressed in their warmest woollies and splashing around the puddles in their gumboots.

Oh, what a time to be alive!

Speaking about lucky to be alive, we speak to some amazing mums this

We also hear about a new mum's realisation that she was having twins, how a local councillor almost missed the birth of his child and we preview some exciting kids books you can snuggle up to the fireplace (or heating vent) and share with your kids.

And how about a little star power too? We've had a chat to well known Australian lactation consultant Pinky McKay, the Insta-famous Midwife Mumma, and AFL star Tom Hawkins about his promotion to daddy of two.

And let's not forget some delicious recipes from the wonderful One Handed Cooks.

I'm sure you've all heard of the books Raising Boys and Raising Girls by world-renowned author Steve Biddulph.

Well, Steve has written a piece just for us that I'm sure some parents are in desperate need of - and it's on raising girls.

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Owen family besotted by new addition

The Owen family: Jackie, Max, Brett, Will and little Maggie.

By Melissa Grant LITTLE Maggie Adelaide Owen burst into the world so quickly that father Brett nearly missed her birth.

In fact, the Cardinia Shire Ranges Ward Councillor only got to the the delivery room moments before Maggie was born.

"Brett made it with about 10 minutes to spare," wife Jackie recalled.

"I had sent him home because they started monitoring me. I was being induced and thought it would be a while before anything happened."

But things progressed quickly even though Jackie's waters were yet to be broken.

and that was downstairs," Brett recalled.

"Lucky it was at that time in the morning. If I had to battle school traffic I would have never made it."

her maternal grandmother. Her middle name Adelaide begins with the same letter as her brothers' middle names (Ainslie and Alexander).

Jackie agreed the timing of the drive was fortunate.

The boys adore their little sister, particularly Will.

"I wasn't holding on any longer!" she said.

"Will is very besotted. He's always loved babies. He gives her a lot of kisses," Jackie said.

Maggie was born at 4.44am on 21 March 2019, weighing 3.8kg.

She is the first daughter for Brett and Jackie, who are already parents to Max, 7, and Will, 6.

The Owens knew during the pregnancy that they were expecting a girl and decided to announce the exciting news via a Facebook video.

Will also sings his own version of Rock-a-bye Baby to his little sister, changing the last line to "brother will catch you, cradle and all".

Jackie says Will is definitely the performer of the family, while Max is the quiet achiever.

She predicts Maggie will be "the boss" or "the diva".

"I said 'you better call my husband'. It was 4am in the morning," she said.

They bought a gender reveal balloon and practiced what they would say when the camera started rolling.

So far, Maggie is pretty content - she sleeps well at night and loves being wheeled around the neighbourhood.

Brett was at home in Beaconsfield, only a short drive from St John of God Hospital where his wife was well into labour.

But when the balloon popped, Will strayed from the script by shouting "It's a boy ... oh it's a girl" as pink confetti went everywhere.

"Maggie loves the pram. I did a 6.5km walk around Beaconsfield the other day," Brett said.

"I only got to the hospital at 4.31am

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Brett, who typically works very long hours.

Jackie estimates her husband spends about 40 hours a week on council duties, which is on top of his work as a full-time police officer.

The Owens are a pretty busy family - Jackie is doing her Masters in Forensic Behavioural Science, Will is rehearsing for his first play and Max plays football and basketball.

Maggie, like her brothers, will also be a regular fixture at events across the municipality.

Brett often takes his kids along to the family friendly events he attends as a councillor.

He is well known throughout the shire - he's been on council since 2005 and has had two stints as mayor.

But he says being a father has given him an entirely different perspective on council services.

"Playgrounds - I look at them differently now. I even look at public toilets differently!"

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Baby journey

through cancer, surgery and IVF Parents Kelly and Luke Egginton with children Lara and Patrick.

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By Melissa Meehan

By her next appointment at the cancer hospital - Kelly was pregnant.

10 of them fertilised and three made it to day four for freezing.

IMAGINE being told you had three months to fall pregnant before facing a lifetime of infertility.

Patrick was born the following May and Kelly was back at Peter Mac within six weeks of his birth.

She had her first transfer on 9 October 2017 and received a positive pregnancy test soon after.

That's exactly the news Chirnside Park mum Kelly Egginton faced, with son Patrick just three months old in her arms.

They began all the pre-operation testing, including scans that picked up she had two tumour masses sitting near her liver.

But her HCG levels didn't rise high enough for doctors to be happy, so she stopped medication and had in effect a miscarriage.

Pregnancy had already been a bit of a rollercoaster for Kelly and husband Luke - they had spent more than 12 months trying to get pregnant with Patrick and had found out they were pregnant with him during a visit to the Peter MacCallum Cancer Centre.

"So that was added to the list of surgery," she said.

So faced with her final month, and two attempts that were unsuccessful Kelly tried again.

It was only months earlier Kelly's appendix had burst while she was at work, later finding out what caused it to burst was a mucus producing tumour.

Weeks later she received a phone call from the doctors saying she needed to see a gastroenterologist and would likely need chemotherapy at Peter Mac. "I went to Peter Mac and they pretty much said I needed to have an operation and hypec (a type of chemo) to mop up any tumour cells that had gotten into my abdominal cavity," Kelly said.

"And at the same time they would do a bowel resection to remove polyps found in my bowel during testing.

"That was pretty confronting - it was big surgery and we had been trying to get pregnant with Patrick for over a year by then."

So Kelly set about asking whether the chemo and operation would affect her chances of getting pregnant.

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Again, Kelly asked about whether the procedure would affect her growing family.

She and Luke had never discussed how many children they would have - but coming from big families they always thought it would be more than two.

They were sent to the Royal Womens' Hospital IVF clinic armed with questions - and were told the type of chemotherapy Kelly would need could gravely affect their chances of becoming pregnant.

"They said the chemo could destroy, or affect my uterus and ovaries," Kelly said.

"It might ruin my eggs, my uterus all of that, they couldn't guarantee that it would 100% be fine.

"So we had to go back to Peter Mac and they gave me the OK to try again for three months to get pregnant - but it had to be with full on IVF." So with a newborn in tow, Kelly and Luke started their IVF journey.

They went straight into a stimulation cycle but Kelly got pretty sick from that through ovarian hyper stimulation, which meant they couldn't do a transfer in the first month.

They were able to harvest 14 eggs,

"It was a fair bit of pressure. Early on I was thinking 'this is good for my babies to be further apart?', but as we got to the last month I thought to myself 'I'll go back to Peter Mac if it doesn't work and ask for one more month'," she said.

"The second time - it was upsetting, I was quite upset about it but I had a cry and moved on."

Kelly had her third and final transfer in November and was successful.

Lara was born the following July and Kelly was back at Peter Mac six weeks after she was born.

So with two kids under two, Kelly and Luke started another journey - her treatment and recovery.

By September she was told there was no delaying the surgery and she would need to have treatment before the end of the year.

"It was confronting, even though I knew it was coming, I had this new baby in my arms and we were talking about major surgery," she said.

"It was always in the back of my mind that I was not going to be able to care for them, play with them, change nappies, put them to bed ... but we were able to go to a Wiggles concert before my surgery."

The operation lasted almost five hours and Kelly was in hospital for eight days.

It was a success.

They didn't find any other disease either, a relief for Kelly who had consented for them to take away any organs affected by the cancer cells.

"The recovery was pretty hard - the operation was on December 3, 2018 and I started to feel OK between Christmas and New Year," she said.

"It was hard."

But Kellly says she couldn't have got through it without Luke.

"He was amazing. I only saw him once in the eight days I was in hospital and then I went back to hospital for another four days because of fluid around my lungs," she said.

"I didn't see the kids which was hard but I knew they were being well looked after by Luke so I wasn't worried about them."

Lara was still very young, but Patrick was a little clingy to Luke when Kelly returned home.

It took him a little while to warm to his mum again after Dad had been the sole carer for so long.

Almost six months on from her surgery, Kelly is fighting fit and has been given the all clear.

"It was a bit of an emotional rollercoaster - but its just part of my journey," she said.

"I don't feel too emotional about it - but I think having two kids sped up my recovery and that was great."

For now Kelly will continue six-month check-ups at Peter Mac and hope the surgery and chemotherapy has done its job.

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Patrick Benjamin Hicks was born at home on Boxing Day.

A dream birth at home

By Melissa Grant WHEN Patrick Hicks was born, his parents were sitting in an inflatable pool at home, listening to music and surrounded by candles.

Despite being the hardest thing she has ever done, it was a dream birth for mum Rachael, who initially wasn't sold on the idea of a homebirth.

Rachael and Liam Hicks with their son Patrick.

It was actually her husband Liam - a paramedic and homebirth himself - who first suggested they look into delivering their first child at their Mount Evelyn home.

"I'm a nurse, so I was like 'I don't know about that idea'," Rachael recalled.

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"But as I began to research and learn about the safety and benefits of homebirth, I came to realise that I couldn't imagine having my baby anywhere else."

Patrick was due on Christmas Day, a time which is often busy and stressful for many families.

However, when Rachael went into labour on Christmas night she felt pretty relaxed.

"We had done a huge amount of preparation and I felt completely ready," she recalled.

"A lot of people asked us why we bothered to write a birth plan, when birth is so unpredictable. I would say that a birth plan is not about planning how the birth will unfold, but about planning how you want those present to act and respond.'

When Rachael started having contractions, she didn't feel the need to rush home from her parents' house where her family had just enjoyed a festive feast.

"It was a really hot day and I was a bit over being pregnant, so after dinner I went for a jog, which really looked more like a waddle," Rachael remembered.

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"We sat down and watched a movie on Christmas night, and I started having a few contractions.

"Liam kept saying 'this is it, I think we should go home'.

"I just wanted to finish the movie!"

As Rachael and Liam headed home, the contractions began getting closer together.

It was around 3am on Boxing Day, when those invited to be there for the birth began arriving at the couple's home.

"I'm an extrovert, so I had a lot of people there," Rachael explained.

Both their mothers and Rachael's sister arrived, plus a friend who is a doula, a student midwife and, importantly, Robyn and Lisa from Yarra Valley Midwives.

"The whole thing was really relaxed," Rachael said.

"I was able to walk around the house as I wanted, with no restrictions placed on me. There were a couple of points were Robyn and Lisa got everyone to go down the street so it could just be Liam and I which was nice.

"There were a few times when things slowed down, and a benefit of having a homebirth was that there was no pressure put on me to get things moving again in any strict timeframes.

"They (Robyn and Lisa) didn't stress me out by telling me when things were slowing down. I opted to have no internal examinations, which meant I didn't have to worry about how many centimetres I was at any given time."

Rachael didn't have any pain relief during her labour, however the warm water in the inflatable pool provided her some comfort.

Patrick Benjamin Hicks was born at 5pm on 26 December 2018, weighing 4kg.

"Lisa and Robbie were sitting back - it was so uninvasive. They let us do the whole thing," Rachael said.

"When he was born I was able to lift him up myself, and hold him for a long time before anyone else.

"We got to discover that he was a boy for ourselves, and didn't even weigh him until the next day.

"We were able to listen to our own music and create an environment that suited us for our birth. It all added to not feeling stressed.

"We couldn't have asked for a better, more supportive or respectful birth team. I just really loved we got to do the whole thing our way." www.yarrarangeskids.com.au

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Raising a daughter makes you want to change the world

World renowned author Steve Biddulph.

IT'S an interesting time to be a parent.

We are learning that every boy and girl is on a gender continuum, and it's important to let them be just who they are, and never put kids into boxes.

At the same time there are differences, for most kids most of the time. The average girl develops far quicker than the average boy, even in the womb, and there are parts of their brains that are 20 months ahead by age five. They take to school much better, they start puberty a couple of years sooner, and are more likely to go to university.

But its far from being a girls' world.

Part of the problem is that girls have greater awareness of other people, their feelings and responses. You'd think that was a plus, but in the craziness of the modern world, that can take its toll.

Girls are twice as likely as boys to get anxious or depressed. One girl in five will be on stress medication during her teens. As many as one in three have self-harmed, and suicide is going up.

We have a mental health crisis in girlhood.

To make your daughter strong, you have to change things around.

Protective factors are the ones that allow her to grow at her own pace, and not be pressured into conforming. Despite 60 years of feminism, girls are being ever more told how to look and behave because social media, and in fact

Raising teenage girls to be the women we want them to be. almost every media blasts them with pressure to look good, be seductive, be tame (though it's framed as wildness), drink this, eat this, wear this. Advertisers know that if they can make a girl anxious, they can sell her anything.

What helps? It's all in the way of life we create for our children (and the same goes for boys too). Lots of nature plenty of peace, a rhythm to our lives that has big spaces doing nothing.

Having plenty of plants, animals and open space. Few screens, the least possible TV, loads of books, stories, and being physical and free.

Parents who have plenty of time to just chat. A dad who clearly lets her know she is more special to him than life itself, who talks to her about everything, asks her opinion, has fun and spends time.

She needs role models of different kinds, so that from toddlerhood she can admire and emulate that gutsy auntie, that oh-so-unconventional family friend.

So when a boy in the playground runs over and bellows "you're fat" she can rise to her full height, tilt her head, and reply "I love my body. Race you to the fence", because she's heard an adult say that, and liked the feeling.

Stay away from shopping malls, diets, talk of weight or looks, clothes beyond what keeps you colourful and warm and yourself. Op shops are good for this. Be outdoors, make and do things

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with your hands, don't take school marks too seriously, but take learning very seriously. If your family really has bad signs of stress (and the kids are usually the first to show this), consider having a year off and drive round the country as a family. The modern human world is crazy and we ought only to dip into it sparingly.

TEN THINGS GIRLS NEED MOST (from Steve's book of the same name!)

1. A secure and loving start (parents who take time and are safe and peaceful for her).

2. Time to be a child - being messy, wild, and in nature a lot. And not rushed to grow up too soon.

3. Friendship skills - learning by discussion with you how to navigate their tricky social world 4. The respect and love of a dad (or substitute dad figure) who lets her know she is special 5. Spark - an interest, hobby or activity that captures her spirit and engages her in the larger world 6. Aunties - yes, someone you can

Making strong women is fun, and slow, and joyous, and it will make you want to change your life too.

Steve Biddulph wrote Raising Girls in 2012 and Ten Things Girls Need Most in 2017, He will be speaking on Raising Girls across Melbourne this winter. www.stevebiddulph.com talk to other than mum, who shows a different way to be female 7. A happy sexuality - knowing she owns her body and what happens to it, and that its a joyful thing.

8. Backbone - being able to endure, persist, hold to her principles, and sees you doing that too.

9. Feminism - knowing that the problems of her and her friends are part of a big picture of women fighting for respect and equality.

She's not alone.

10. Spirit - feeling connected to the universe, to nature, and to life, part of something larger that carries her through life.

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THE Yarra Ranges Kids team want to welcome Asher Les Brock into the world.

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Journalist Danielle Galvin, her partner Paul and big sister Zara are very proud to introduce him to you.

Asher was born at Box Hill Hospital on 7 March 2019, weighing 2.4kg.

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Experience matters at Yarra Ranges Kindergartens YARRA Ranges Kindergartens INC runs and operates a number of preschools in the Yarra Ranges region, from Chirnside Park to Warburton and Coldstream to Belgrave - they've got the local area covered.

Funded by the Department of Education with the help of local fundraisers - including the Kalorama Chestnut Festival - some of their kinders have been around for almost 50 years.

CEO Andrew Wright says it's that experience that sets them apart from their competition.

Each of their 12 kinders shares a wealth of experience as well as a mixture of new faces with all the latest teachings.

"One of our teachers has taught for over 40 years - so that experience is priceless, but we've also got younger teachers - giving us a really good mix of experience and energy there," Mr Wright said.

And just because the kinders are

managed by a small team in Mooroolbark doesn't mean they have a cookie cutter approach to each centre.

"Montrose opened in the early 60s, Warby has celebrated 50 years - so these kinders have been around for a while and they are kept up to date, but it's certainly not a cookie cutter approach," Mr Wright said.

"They all have their own personality that reflects their history and community.

"We know that Warburton is very different to Montrose - they have great people in both areas but there are different demographics and life priorities there and we realise that."

All kinders offer three-year-old and four-year programs which allows your child to step away from the wings of mum and dad and into the world of education and engaging with other children.

Yarra Ranges Kindergartens accepts enrolments from birth.

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Trucks and tractors aren't just for boys.

Cire tackles gender stereotyping in early years ADDRESSING gender stereotyping is one of the ways Cire Children's Services strives to provide children with the best possible start during their crucial early years.

Cire is proud of its holistic approach in helping equip children with the building blocks to become positive and well-balanced contributors to society and that includes gender equality.

Executive Manager of Children's Services, Diletta Lanciana, said Cire took seriously its responsibility to ensure that children have learning environments and play experiences that are gender neutral.

Despite some gains in gender equality, male/female stereotyping is still very evident worldwide.

Labelling roles and behaviours as inherently masculine or feminine can influence what is considered to be 'normal' for each gender. For example, women have been considered better suited to be nurses, teachers and educators while men have been encouraged into trades and business and leadership roles. This type of stereotyping is reinforced through toys, sports and games, clothes, books, the media, education, and attitudes of teachers and families.

Consider the divide of 'boy toys' and 'girl toys' and the use of pink and blue for children's clothing in many stores.

Research suggests toys are more divided by gender today than they were 50 years ago (Breaking Gender Stereotypes Early, Dr Tania King, University of Melbourne).

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emotions. Another example is, 'it is just boys being boys'. These types of messages surface frequently in a myriad of settings including family, friends, education, and all forms of media including advertising and marketing and television shows, as well as the early childhood sector.

Gender stereotypes perpetuate inequality and reinforce differences between men and women, rather than respect individuals as people first, and equals. They put pressure on boys and girls to conform to certain notions of masculinity and femininity which can limit and restrict young children.

Stereotypes influence the activities children engage in, their interests and skills and ultimately their roles in society as adults. (Martin, Ruble, & Szkrybalo).

Children start developing a perception of gender from a very young age (Early Childhood Education Journal, April 2007, Nancy K. Freeman) through attitudes, values and behaviours that are considered to be 'normal' or 'acceptable'. Societal messages significantly impact on how children see gender in their world.

According to Freeman, children as young as three apply common gender stereotypes to 'boy toys' and 'girl toys' and can predict adult reactions when they choose certain toys.

Cire's Diletta Lanciana stressed the importance of breaking down gender stereotypes by being aware of our own attitudes and behaviours and the subtle messages that we may be giving our children.

"We are often not aware of the messages we are projecting," she said.

"Simple things such as using genderneutral language when describing firefighters, and not saying fireman, can

Boys can play with dolls too. make a huge difference to the perception of a child, and that of others."

Melbourne University's Tania King says that terms and categories that are a normal part of life such as 'boys' and 'girls', should not be removed. However, research suggests that minimising these distinctions on the basis of gender and making individual attributes and skills a priority, can help reduce stereotypes, discrimination and bias. Such a conscious approach helps build inclusive behaviours in children.

Imagine a future where every girl and boy grows up to be equally valued, heard and respected, and with equal access to opportunities.

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flexible learning opportunities to people of all ages through outreach and the following core areas: ■ Cire Children's Services encompassing long day care with integrated kindergarten; occasional care; outside school hours care and other family services including playgroups.

■ Cire Community School which offers a positive secondary education experience to students needing an alternative to mainstream schooling.

■ Cire Training, a Registered Training Organisation (RTO) delivering accredited and pre-accredited short courses.

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socialise, play and learn at playgroup

FINDING a place where your child can socialise, play and learn before starting school is not always an easy task.

There are many different settings and businesses screaming for your attention.

But one alternative you could think about is joining a playgroup.

Melissa Meehan spoke to Playgroups Victoria CEO Danny Schwarz about what playgroup is and why you should join one.

What is playgroup?

Playgroups bring young children, parents, families and communities together to learn and develop through informal play activities and social interaction.

It's here to help families to have fun, relax and to build friendships that last beyond playgroup. Playgroups work best when they are inclusive of all, creating an open, welcoming and friendly environment for all children and their families, no matter their circumstances, backgrounds or cultural identity.

Why should you join playgroup?

Playgroup is fun! At playgroup you get to meet other people going through similar experiences, ease the isolation that can come with caring for young children and find out about local community, health and support services. It allows families to enjoy this precious time with their kids while they develop and grow. It also provides reprieve from the daily grind. Parents - you can have a cup of tea and unwind while your children play in a safe space.

What are the benefits of playgroup?

There is significant evidence about the benefits of playgroup and it continues to build. Vital development occurs in the first five years of life, and the first year is especially critical.

The neurons in the brain are connecting, laying the foundations for the year to come. The social, emotional, physical and intellectual development that occurs through the play and interaction at playgroup is great for the mind and body. Knowledge builds and skills are refined. Children learn social skills and language skills. It readies children for the next step into kinder and prep.

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it's also about parents are carers. Their job is one of the best in the world, but raising children is not always easy.

Playgroup is here to lighten the load.

You can connect with other people in the same stage of life as you. At playgroup you can share, have a coffee, relax in a safe environment. It helps to reduce isolation you may feel and discuss things of interest to you.

Playgroup also provides you will access to local services you may need.

Does it help kids socialise and learn through play?

Playgroup is all about socialisation, creativity, imagination, sharing, reading, learning, outdoor play, self-expression and fun. We know that play helps children to learn and so we encourage lots of it, in a variety of ways. Playgroup Victoria has a monthly calendar of different themes: Healthy Habits, Creative Play, Active Play, Music Month, Science Month, Letters and Numbers month, and so forth. With this we provide members with an activity booklet to make the most of all wonderful things activities and events happening, plus homemade and simple things to do. It does not have to be whizz-bang to be good for us. Playing in the garden is one of the best things to do. Playgroup encourages families to explore different topics, bond over shared interests, learn new things together, discover amazing things about the world around us.

Why is this so important?

Learning through play is the most human thing we do. Children are particularly good at it. They are curious and eager. They want to be part of the fun and they desire more information - so they go out and get it, often without the inhibitions of adults. While playing, they explore, they alert their senses to feel, smell, observe and listen. They collect subtleties while at play. This is how they make sense of the world when they do not yet have the words or ability to express it as they would like. As Albert Einstein said, "Play is the highest form of research". Play allows children to study, investigate, communicate, bond, show love and distress - and truly, it is fun which also makes it memorable.

Can parents attend or can they drop their kids off?

Playgroup is a time for parents, carers and kids to come together. In the early stages of a child's life, their parents are their first educators. Right down to facial expressions, voice and scent, there is a profound link and this is where children

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first begin to learn, with the comfort of their parents close by. This support at playgroup gives children an extra confidence boost to explore and play.

Some children are very young who attend playgroup and it is essential for their parents to accompany them.

Are there playgroups with facilitators?

Some playgroups are run by facilitators while others are run by supported playgroup leaders, volunteers or parents. Playgroups can be run anywhere but are commonly held in halls, schools and community centres.

Increasingly, nature playgroups are run in the great outdoors.

What are the differences between structured playgroups and those run by parents?

Structured playgroups usually have a routine: an activity, snack time, free play, story time and a song. Parent-run playgroups are more flexible and may have different activities, nature play or outings. All playgroups are unique and the members of that group are free to make it whatever they would like it to be.

What age can kids join playgroup?

Any children aged 0-5 can join playgroup. We have baby playgroups sprouting up, that your Maternal Child Health nurse can usually direct you to, or at least that can guide you in the right direction to playgroup. Depending on your area, you can find something to suit you. Often, it is good to have a range of ages at playgroup, so that they can learn from one another. If older children are bounding ahead, activities or an older aged playgroup can be a better fit for them.

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Visit our Find a Playgroup page and search your area. From here you can extend your search to surrounding areas. If you are having difficulty, feel free to call our membership team and they will assist you in finding a group: 1800 171 882 (within Victoria) or (03) 9388 1599 (outside Victoria)

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your life It’s

Tom Hawkins

on fatherhood, footy

IT'S shaping up as a big year for Geelong star Tom Hawkins. The power forward kicked the 500th goal of his career in round one - the same week he welcomed his second child. Here, he tells Kids reporter Melissa Grant about being a parent of two little girls, his wife's tough pregnancy and getting kids involved in footy.

Congratulations on the recent arrival of your second daughter, Primrose Grace.

How is your new addition going?

Thank-you! It's a significantly busier household. Emma and I very much enjoying being parents of two beautiful little girls.

Primrose arrived just before the first game of the season - that must have been a crazy time. Would you have missed the match to be at the birth?

It was a crazy few months.

Unfortunately Emma had a really tough pregnancy. I certainly think completing a pre-season would have been easier than carrying a baby. If Emma went into labour on game day I would definitely have missed and been at the birth. However our obstetrician was a Geelong supporter and didn't want me

to miss a game so he induced Emma.

Emma and yourself have been pretty open about parenthood on social media. To share or not to share is a question many parents grapple with.

Has it been a positive experience for you so far?

So far it has been positive. Being parents has been the best thing we've done, however it is bloody hard work at times. Social media gives you a platform to create conversations about different parenting techniques if you do choose.

Your father, uncles and grandfather all played for the Geelong Football Club.

Footy is obviously in the blood. Has your two-year-old daughter Arabella shown any interest in footy yet?

I'm happy to say Belle (Arabella) and Mimi (Primrose) are Geelong supporters.

We've made an effort not to push football, however Belle is showing a keen interest. She's just starting to understand that dad plays for the Cats.

She gets a little crazy. It's giving our families a lot of joy to watch!

What's the best way children can get involved in the game at grassroots level and why is it important for kids to be involved in grassroots sports at such a young age?

Guiding mums on their

often other medical professions are working with outdated information.

COLOURFUL author Pinky McKay demands attention when she walks into a room.

"It's not life or death if the baby has one bottle of formula - but often the mum just needs to have something to eat and drink and have a lie down."

Her gentle approach and quick wit make for great reading - but her real passion is to see mums happy.

"There's a lot of noise out there - but I take more of a holistic approach and if mums want support I am happy to provide it," says the lactation consultant.

"What we do know is that mums are doing their best, and I want to let them know that breast is normal and I want to support people that want to breastfeed."

What are the benefits of the Auskick program?

That Auskick is an affordable and available program for kids who are starting out their footy journey. And with the revolutionised Auskick program, it takes a modern approach to coaching and ensures kids experience

fun, active play that just happens to be footy.

What do you love most about Auskick?

I just loved playing with my friends.

And I loved the challenge of trying to be the best at kicking, handballing, bouncing and marking. I was (and still am) very competitive.

What would be your advice to a child who has their heart set on playing AFL or AFLW? Enjoy it. And if you have your heart set on playing like I did, work hard to be the best player you can be.

"Every woman is different, every baby is different and every birth is different - it takes a while for things to work out."

You may also know Pinky as the producer of the famous 'Boobie Bikkies', a brand that supports breastfeeding mothers.

Pinky said she recently assisted a mum who had glandular tissue and was never going to have a full supply of breast milk and helped her use donor milk.

"A friend said to me that I should make them - new mums don't have the chance to," she said.

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I played Auskick. And I still believe it's the best place to start. Kids get so much out of learning and playing our great game. It's good for their health, social skills, discipline and above all it's fun.

"If the mum wants to do it (breastfeed) she doesn't need to be told not to do it," she said.

After seeing far too many exhausted and stressed mothers who don't have time to have a shower let alone bake some lactation cookies, she decided to take matters into her own hands.

"I see all the hard stuff and I think it would be fabulous if lactation consultants were on Medicare because

than carrying a baby

Pinky said stress often limits the hormones that produce milk and mums often need gentle support without being "bulldozed".

And that doesn't mean that mums with little supply or other issues that affect their ability to breastfeed are failing their babies - it just means that there may be another approach.

"I'm here to help the people who want to do it," she said.

I certainly think completing ‘‘ a pre-season would have been easier

breastfeeding journey

By Melissa Meehan

Her bright pink hair might stand out from miles away but she's Australia's most recognised breastfeeding expert and best-selling author of four books.

Post match... Tom Hawkins with wife Emma and daughter Arabella.

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"I was in Sydney at the time and came back to Melbourne and the rest is history."

Go to www.pinkymckay.com.au for more information on breastfeeding or to find where you can buy one of Pinky's books.

Breastfeeding expert and author Pinky McKay.

GIVEAWAY: Pinky McKay is giving five lucky readers a copy of her book and some Boobie Bikkies.

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What to look for in a

playgroup doing the same. These friendships will often carry through and form the community in which your child and you spend time, continue to grow and learn.

These early beginnings help your child's social and emotional wellbeing to develop in a healthy way that will lay a strong foundation for the future. Having good facilitation with an experienced leader can support these steps.

WITH so many options when it comes to playgroups, it can be confusing when searching for one that suits you and your child.

The following are some important things to consider when looking for a playgroup: ROUTINE Children thrive on a regular daily and weekly routine. We all know how much easier it is getting your little one off to bed when you follow those same steps preparing them for bedtime each night.

Young children feel safe, and are calmer as a result, when they know what to expect next. The same goes for playgroup. Many playgroups can be noisy and a bit chaotic without any structure.

BEYOND PLAYGROUP The early years are laying the foundation for your child's educational experience. It is valuable to look forward to the journey that you would like your child to have beyond playgroup, through to kinder, primary school, secondary school and even into adulthood.

Research continues to show the impact these early years have on adulthood. We ask ourselves how do we, as parents, lay foundations for an education that will equip our children to be adults who will change the world?

Although it is important to give children time for uninterrupted play, it is equally important that this is in the context of the 'routine' of the playgroup session.

When a playgroup is hosted by an experienced facilitator, it can change the experience for parent and child alike. The routine could be as simple as including story time, morning tea and a craft activity, along with the playtime.

Attending a playgroup that is structured and facilitated in this way

Playgroup is a time when children and parents form friendships. also helps to prepare children for kindergarten or preschool. Finding a playgroup that offers the continuity through to the kindergarten years supports young children in that next step.

VALUES AND COMMUNITY It is important to find a playgroup that aligns with your values. Playgroup is a time where children begin to connect and form friendships with one another but, just as importantly, parents are

Some playgroups do charge a fee, but it is important to weigh up the value of having an experienced facilitator and a quality experience for the cost.

For more information on playgroups in the early years team at Yarra Valley Council earlyyears@yarraranges.vic. gov.au.

P l a y g ro u p L i t t l e Yar ra S t e i n er S c h oo l *Organic food provided * Affordable sessions with an experienced leader *Quality craft activities

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www.lyss.vic.edu.au “The aim of Steiner Playgroups is to develop a sanctuary of safe play for children and an oasis of peace and friendship for parents.” Billington 2001

Meet Jules, our Playgroup Leader “Each week in Playgroup I aim to create an environment where children can play freely as part of a structured program, whilst also giving parents the opportunity to connect.

We begin our mornings with inside play and preparing the bread rolls and fruit. We then have circle time songs and morning tea, before outside playtime. We finish each session with a story before children go home.

It is a simple routine, but perfect for children of this age group. I find it also stands them in good stead for when they start kinder.”

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Education

Homework

in primary schools - do we need it?

By Danielle Galvin IN a changing digitised world, one education expert believes it's time to shake-up the traditional approach to homework and get with the times.

Dr Ian Lillico has been working as a teacher, deputy principal and principal for 31 years in Western Australia.

He believes there's a different approach to learning, homework and after hours activities that many schools have adopted, and parents should consider.

It's called the homework grid.

Dr Lillico spells out the approach by way of example.

He believes sending children to their rooms to study, revise and complete daily projects or tasks isn't doing our kids any favours.

Different "cells" represent a different task - so daily tasks, which could be counted as homework, doing a chore around the house, discussing bills or helping a parent with the shopping, taking part in an activity outside, or even meditation.

He believes a major factor in children leading sedentary lifestyles is the fact that they spend hours of a night time locked up in their rooms, either completing homework tasks for the next

day at school, or in front of a screen.

"Everything in our schools has changed," he said.

"I suppose we as teachers and parents expect kids to do the old analogue form of learning, which is copying things out and so on.

"The other reason for a change in homework is that kids are already very sedentary and we've got to make sure we keep them moving and active because they are sitting down at home, they are being driven to school, and then they sit down at school and then they come home and sit down again.

"It ties in with some research, some years ago, that showed homework, particularly in primary schools, was really a waste of time. It was a construct that parents wanted, it was a way of keeping kids quiet and under the thumb.

"But it wasn't really successful in making them productive."

While he doesn't believe in ditching homework all together, he says there are ways that it can be redefined.

Some ideas include getting kids to read to their parents, playing a game with an adult, or doing something creative.

"Traditional homework still has some role in areas where you've got this

Children

assignment due in in a week's time," he said.

"When that happens they can that fit that in with sporting connections, family things, it allows kids to manage their time within that week or within that fortnight.

"We have to be aware they already spend a fair amount of time sitting down when they are at home, we have got to get them moving, get them active, and get them talking with adults and with other people.

"And at the moment, as we know, kids are very happy to sit behind a console or a screen."

He says the idea of the homework grid is to marry up the school's approach to homework, as well as family life.

It's about getting kids to contribute in a small and meaningful way at home, get talking to their parents again, as well as revising and learning some key principles like learning to read and times tables.

"The types of jobs they will be doing are very different - we have to give them those skills to think on their feet and be interpersonal with other people, to know how to provide themselves some leisure some physical activity and communicate with adults.

"Writing things in a book or

Dr Ian Lillico's homework grid approach is changing the way schools and parents view homework.

memorising things doesn't do that."

There's also merit in encouraging the two-way dialogue with parents and children.

As we know, with parents leading increasingly busy, hectic lives, that communication can be lost. And it's something all parents have to work at, putting the phone down, switching off from work and commitments, and engaging with your child.

Dr Michael Carr-Gregg, a leading child psychologist, has spoken about the need for parents to engage with their children for just eight minutes a day.

Dr Lillico agrees. He believes many kids would be lucky to get eight minutes of their parent's time and undivided attention each day.

"We want (parents) to spend time with their kids by going out and playing, doing chores together or doing activity with their child," he said.

"When they are sitting there doing something complex (like homework) something they should really be doing in the classroom, it's not actually giving the parent and child the opportunity to interact positively.

"I find a number of researchers, like myself, are finding the interaction between parents and child sometimes is zero in a 24-hour period."

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Teaching children about nature is a focus at Smart Reader Kids Yarra Junction.

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Nature is also a big focus at the long day care centre, with the outdoor play area featuring a vegetable garden where children water and pick produce.

Children aged from six weeks to five years are welcomed at the centre, which boasts pre-kinder and kinder programs.

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WARM up this winter by clowning and capering around like a professional during Burrinja's 7th Annual Circus Festival.

Burrinja Cultural Centre will yet again morph into a Big Top these school holidays with an array of professional shows, student shows, classes and family activities for all skill levels and interests.

It will certainly be a holidays your kids are sure to remember as they experience the jam packed program brought to you by Burrinja and Ruccis Circus.

Between 29 June and 7 July the whole family can get involved and learn circus tricks to amaze and impress through a series of workshops.

Or if marvelling at the talent of others is more your thing - witness the highest of highs as talented Ruccis circus students and teachers put on a show that is sure to wow.

On the Line! Is a contemporary circus cabaret will take you to dizzying heights, debuting new creations from instructors and advanced students from Ruccis circus school.

See up-and-coming circus artists put

their hearts on stage in an intimate evening of performance.

Ruccis Circus co-owner Emily Huybers says she's excited about the upcoming festival because students not only get to show off their skills but share them with others too.

The Burrinja Circus Festival is on these school holidays.

"It's a nice way to spend winter days and nights and get out of the cold weather, "Ms Huybers said.

"There are lots of ways to get involved."

The Brilliant and hilarious Dummies Corp will also bring their new show "Don't Mess with the Dummies" to the Burrinja Cultural Centre direct from Melbourne Comedy Festival and Adelaide Fringe where they won 2019 Best Children's Show Adelaide Fringe Weekly Award.

Blindful Productions will also being their "My Sight Their Sight" show about friendship and sight to Burrinja during the festival.

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Hit kids cartoon Bluey fetches a second series

PARENTS and kids rejoice - more Bluey is on the way.

The much-loved Aussie animated children's series has been renewed for a second season, with 52 brand new episodes to screen next year.

The show, which airs on ABC Kids, has won over the hearts of kids and parents alike with its warm and humorous take on modern family life.

Set in Brisbane, where creator Joe Brumm lives, the show is about a family of Blue Heelers - sisters Bluey and Bingo, mum Chilli and dad Bandit - who turn everyday life into extraordinary adventures.

In the second series, Bluey will play fun and elaborate new games with her sister, Chilli's relationship with her girls will be further explored as she juggles work and family life, and Bandit returns with his wry sense of humour.

Bluey has been an amazing Aussie TV success story. It's currently the number one children's series on metropolitan TV and has amassed a whopping 75 million program plays

on ABC iview.

"We've all been amazed and overwhelmed by how Australians have taken Bluey into their hearts and we're totally stoked to be making another 52 brand new episodes," said Charlie Aspinwall, Bluey Executive Producer.

The show is created, written, animated and post-produced in Brisbane.

Production on the second series was due to start in late May. In more good news for Bluey fans, three books based on the series will be available in time for Christmas.

And it looks like the true-blue Aussie series will soon go global.

"The response from global clients has also been phenomenal and we think it will be embraced by audiences worldwide," said Henrietta HurfordJones, Director of Children's Content at BBC Studios, which commissions the show with ABC Children's Studios.

"We can't wait to introduce the world to this Blue Heeler family who will clearly resonate everywhere."

Hit kids cartoon Bluey has been renewed for second series, with 52 episodes to air next year.

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party time

The cost of

kids parties CHILDREN love celebrating their birthday and parents don't mind spending a bit on making it a memorable occasion.

judging other mums and dads on their child's birthday party or other celebrations for being too extravagant.

Research shows Aussie parents spend an average of $270 on kids birthday parties.

On the flipside, less than 10 per cent of parents said they had judged other parents on putting on celebrations that were too modest or simple.

Interestingly, many mums and dads feel pressured to throw Insta-worthy parties for their kids.

When it comes to gifts, parents spend an average of $185 on their own children.

Seven out of 10 who responded to a Real Insurance Australian Family Values Survey agreed that social media and celebrities have put more pressure on parents to throw visually impressive parties they can share with others online.

But how much should you spend on presents for someone else's child?

But apparently you can go too far when celebrating your child's birthday.

But thankfully it's still the thought that counts, with nine out of 10 parents agreeing with this sentiment.

Around two in five parents admit to

According to the research, we spend an average of $46 on our children's friends birthdays. With the average child attending around eight parties a year, the costs can add up quickly!

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Boosting your basics Simple recipes for healthy kids

WHETHER it's breakfast, lunch or dinner, every meal is an opportunity to introduce your children to the joy of eating, help them discover new tastes and textures, and boost their nutritional intake.

of recipes and mealtime advice to provide inspiration and ideas for family-friendly food that's healthy, simple to prepare and packed full of flavour.

Following on from their highly successful debut cookbook, the hugely popular One Handed Cooks (Allie Gaunt, Jessica Beaton and Sarah Buckle) have created a new collection

■ Introduce solids, textured meals and finger foods to babies in ways that encourage mindful eating and food acceptance

The book aims to help parents:

■ Make every meal count by

maximising the nutritional content of favourite home-cooked meals, snacks and sweet foods using easy swaps and additions, to support your child's growth and development

■ Use daily structure, mealtime routines and pre-meal sensory-based activities to reduce anxiety around eating and instead encourage discovery and enjoyment

■ Manage and move on from common fussy eating behaviours, including food jags and food refusal

■ Adapt a single meal to suit the whole family - baby, toddler and adult

■ Create happy family mealtimes that nurture positive associations with food

CHOC CRUNCH MUESLI

METHOD

NO-BEEF BURGERS

MAKES 5 cups (500 g)

1 Preheat the oven to 160°C (140°C fan-forced) and line a baking tray with baking paper.

MAKES 8 small burgers

2 Place the cacao, maple syrup and oil in a small saucepan over medium heat. Stir until the cacao has dissolved and the mixture is evenly combined, then set aside to cool.

■ 2 tablespoons olive oil

3 In a large bowl, combine the oats, puffed rice, coconut, seeds and macadamias and stir to combine.

Add the melted chocolate mixture and stir to coat.

■ 1 tablespoon Worcestershire sauce

4 Place the mixture on the prepared tray and spread evenly. Bake for 5 minutes, give the pan a shake, and bake for a further 20 minutes, checking at 3-minute intervals, 3 or o until toasted to your liking. Allow y tto cool and stir tthrough the dates.

SServe with milk or Greek-style G yoghurt. y

■ 400 g tin brown lentils, drained and rinsed

PREP TIME 10 minutes COOKING TIME 25 minutes ■ ¼ cup (25 g) cacao powder ■ ¼ cup (60 ml) pure maple syrup ■ ¼ cup (60 ml) coconut or macadamia oil ■ 1¼ cups (110 g) rolled oats ■ 2 cups (70 g) puffed rice or Rice Bubbles ■ ¾ cup (60 g) shredded coconut ■ ½ cup (80 g) mixed seeds, such as pepitas, sunflower seeds, chia seeds ■ ½ cup (70 g) roughly chopped macadamias ■ 4 medjool dates (80 g), pitted and chopped milk or plain Greek-style yoghurt, to serve

B BOOST YOUR BASICS: Seeds, B nuts, cacao powder and oats all contribute to an impressive list of valuable nutrients and antioxidants that you wouldn't expect to see in a chocolate muesli.

STORAGE: Keep in an airtight jar for 10 days.

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ALLERGIES/ INTOLERANCES: Gluten/wheat: use quinoa, quinoa flakes or buckwheat flakes instead of the oats as a gluten-free option and rye or barley flakes as a wheat-free alternative to the oats. Nuts: replace the macadamia oil with coconut oil, and the macadamias with extra seeds or simply omit. Dairy: use dairy-free milk, and instead of the yoghurt, serve with a dairy-free alternative such as coconut yoghurt.

PREP TIME 20 minutes COOKING TIME 16 minutes ■ 1 carrot, peeled, coarsely grated ■ 1 brown onion, finely chopped ■ 1 clove garlic, finely chopped ■ 1 tablespoon pure maple syrup ■ 1 egg, lightly beaten ■ ¾ cup (60 g) rolled oats ■ ¾ cup (55 g) fresh multigrain breadcrumbs

■ 1 small handful of flat leaf parsley, chopped ■ Pinch of salt and pepper ■ 8 small multigrain bread rolls, to serve ■ 1 cup (40 g) baby spinach leaves, to serve ■ Fried onion, ½ cup grated cheese, tomato sauce or favourite toppings, to serve Always on the hunt for that elusive no-beef burger recipe? We think this one fits the bill. So easy to make, these burgers hold together beautifully and when topped with your favourite sauces and fried onion, there will be no holding back!

METHOD

■ Cater to common allergies and intolerences (such as dairy, gluten and wheat) with simple substitutions that don't compromise on nutrition

pan over medium-low heat. Add the patties and cook for 3 minutes each side, or until golden brown.

Drain on a paper towel and continue with remaining mixture.

4 Serve on bread rolls with baby spinach, fried onion, grated cheese and tomato sauce or other toppings of your choice.

BOOST YOUR BASICS: Some young children find a loaded burger literally too hard to wrap their head (or mouth!) around. Try mixing up the way you serve it: some may like it in a soft bun, while others prefer it chopped into fingers between 2 slices of bread - or simply just slice the patty and offer as finger food.

STORAGE: Store cooked patties in an airtight container in the fridge for up to 2 days. To freeze, you can either flash freeze before or after cooking.

Store with baking paper dividing each patty in a freezer-proof bag for up to 2 months.

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NOTE: Traditional Worcestershire sauce contains anchovies, so choose a vegan version or substitute with g soy sauce for a vegan alternative.

1 Heat 1 tablespoon oil in a non-stick frying pan over rrot medium heat. Add the carrot and onion and fry for 5 he minutes or until soft. Add the garlic and fry for a further 2 minutes. Add the maple syrup and cook for 3 minutes or until slightly m caramelised. Remove from the heat and allow to cool slightly. Stir through the Worcestershire sauce and egg until well combined.

2 Combine the onion mixture, rolled oats, breadcrumbs, lentils and parsley in a food processorr and season with salt and pepper. Pulse the mixture until it just comes together,, being careful not to over-process and turn it to mush. Use a ¼ measuring cup to scoop and shape the mixture into patties.

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reality bites

Keep your kids safe online Australia's eSafety Commissioner Julie Inman Grant.

THE internet can be a dangerous place, especially for children.

With the threat of exposure to pornography, violence, cyber bullying and predators, it's no wonder parents are fearful of what their teens - and even younger kids - are getting up to online.

However, with the internet so ingrained in our daily lives it's impossible to keep our children out of this virtual playground - so how do we keep them safe?

As the country's eSafety Commissioner, Julie Inman Grant is responsible for promoting online safety for all Australians.

She tells Kids reporter Melissa Grant what parents can do to protect their children online.

How early should parents educate their children about cyber safety and what should the message be?

With our research showing 81% of parents have given their pre-schooler access to an internet-connect device, good digital habits should be encouraged from the get-go. It is never too early to get involved with your kids' online lives or to start the chat about using the same positive manners and behaviours they would use offline.

The reality is that sometimes things go wrong online. But by having the chat before anything negative happens and letting them know they can come to you for help if they or a friend experience something they feel uncomfortable about, is one of the best ways to encourage open dialogue about what they might be experiencing online.

At eSafety, we know it can be tricky talking about sensitive issues in a way that doesn't alarm children or give them more information than they need, so we've developed age-appropriate conversation starters to help parents take the plunge (www.esafety.gov.au/ parents/skills-advice/hard-to-haveconversations).

How important is it for households to invest in filtering software? What are the best filters to keep children safe from offensive and illegal content?

While there really is no substitute for being actively engaged in your children's online lives, technology tools can help.

Filtering technology is improving and over the past year we have seen a range of device level controls being launched on iPhones, iPads and Android devices. There are a range of filtering software products available on the market, which can be a helpful way to block sites known to host offensive material. eSafety supports the operation of safety programs such as the Family www.yarrarangeskids.com.au

Friendly Filter Scheme that allows Australians to inexpensively obtain protection from offensive and illegal content for their home network and family devices. These accredited filters have gone through rigorous independent testing to ensure they meet certain criteria including effectiveness, ease of use and configurability.

Parental controls on devices, gaming consoles or streaming services can be another way to block or limit your child's access to certain content. Using safe search settings on search engines can also help limit your child's access to inappropriate material.

What is the best way for parents to monitor their child's internet activities?

We encourage parents to use a range of protective strategies - which may include parental controls and filters - to monitor their child's internet activities and minimise online risks. But be aware not to 'set and forget', as tech savvy kids can find ways to circumvent technological protections or may be accessing online content from a friend's home or device.

Beyond these technological protections, there really is no substitute for active engagement in your children's online lives. Speak to them about potential risks and help them develop good cyber judgement and resilience for when they do come across inappropriate content. Most importantly, let them know you'll be there to support them if anything goes wrong online.

Statistics show one in five young Australians has been cyber bullied.

What should parents do if they discover their child is a victim?

As parents, our first instinct may be to ban our children from social media, disable the Wi-Fi or turn off the data access. But it's important to remember cyber bullying is a social and behavioural issue playing out in a technological sphere and not caused by technology itself. This is why we encourage parents and educators to focus on building positive behaviours and skills in young people, including developing the 4 Rs for the digital age: respect, responsibility, reasoning and resilience. These valuable social and emotional skills will not only help guide more positive experiences online, but also offline.

If you discover your child is being cyber bullied, there are four simple steps that can help minimise the harm: report the cyber bullying to the social media service where it is occurring; collect evidence of the cyber bullying material; if the material is not removed within 48 hours, make a report to eSafety; block the offending user.

Most importantly, remain calm, listen to your child without judgement, and let them know you will be there to support them through this.

Research also shows that one in four teens has been contacted by a stranger online. If this happens, what should a

parent do? At what stage should authorities be contacted?

harmful consequences for their wellbeing and future relationships.

Young people need to be aware that not everyone they engage with online is who they say they are, and they may not always have the best intentions.

Parents can play an important role in helping young people handle these risks and explore safely online by talking to them early and often.

It's encouraging to see from our research that more parents want to take responsibility for this issue, but we know they need some help starting the 'porn chat', which is where those conversation starters at our website.

Here's some things you can do to help:

Our research shows the most common negative online experience reported by young people is unwanted contact, experienced by one in three teens. One in four teens have also been socially excluded or had threats and abuse directed to them online. These kinds of negative experiences can potentially have devastating impacts on a young person affecting their emotional, psychological and physical wellbeing.

■ Ensure your child's social media accounts are not publicly available, help them with adjusting privacy settings and establish rules around what types of content they should share online.

■ Encourage your child to delete contacts they don't know or talk to from their friend or follower lists on social media.

■ Encourage your child to delete friend or follow requests from people they don't know. A good tip is to get them to check whether new requests share mutual friends. If they feel unsure about someone, encourage them to delete the request.

■ Let your child know they can talk to you at any time if they receive any contact that is inappropriate or makes them feel uncomfortable - and there are steps you can take together.

■ If your child receives any unwanted contact from someone they know or a stranger, encourage them to report and block this person on the site or service used to contact them. Our eSafety Guide has online safety information and direct reporting links for different apps, games and social media services.

■ If the contact persists, or they feel they are in physical danger, contact your local police.

With the amount of pornography online, children are bound to be exposed to it. The topic of pornography can be awkward to talk about - how early should parents be raising it with their children?

Absolutely - when it comes to our kids being exposed to online pornography, unfortunately it's not a matter of 'if' but 'when'. Parents are right to be concerned about this issue, so they should be proactive and take steps to help minimise the risks of exposure and potential long-term impacts of online pornography.

Understandably, many parents report feeling embarrassed talking to their kids about porn. But these conversations are important because allowing children to think things like violent porn are normal can have

What are the most common negative experiences teens can have online?

Reassuringly, our research also showed us that 66% of young people were able to reflect on their experience in a positive way and learn from their negative online encounters. And 40% became more aware of online risks, while 33% became more aware of who their real friends were, and 23% learnt to use the internet in a more balanced way.

What are the key things parents should be telling their teenagers about the online world to help keep them safe?

As parents and carers, we know our children better than anyone and have the best opportunity to support and guide them to have safer online experiences. The best way to help guide them on this journey is to be open, supportive and actively engaged in their online lives.

As teens develop their independence it can become harder for parents to enforce rules about their technology use. However, if these are introduced from a younger age, it can be easier to adapt and grow trust between you both.

Rather than telling, it's more about doing. It's not only important for parents to regularly engage with what they're child is doing online and set ageappropriate rules, they also need to be modelling responsible behaviour in their own technology use. This can be as simple as asking your child's permission before sharing a photo of them.

Respectful communication, responsible use of technology, the resilience to withstand harmful conduct or contact online, and the ability to reason and critically evaluate online content - these are the behaviours and skills that will help prepare young people for the range of different experiences they may encounter online.

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Mums want not a pretend

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perfect life

By Melissa Meehan

questions day in and day out," she said.

AMELIA Lamont is a midwife and sleep consultant whose own kids had moments when they refused to sleep.

"So I thought 'what better way of putting together all the information, in my own honest words and how I speak, than to do a book?'

Armed with all the tricks of the trade, she couldn't get her son Alfie to sleep when he was three months old and her second child wasn't much better.

"So I wrote my preggy guide and then all these mums asked me when I was writing a book on birth - so I'm doing that now."

"I'm a sleep consultant and my daughter Essie is the worst sleeper," she laughs.

She has plans to grow the series too, covering birth, birth classes, postpartum and the fourth trimester.

"I just say it how it is."

It's that honesty that has seen her grow her Instagram following to 38,500.

Better known as The Midwife Mumma, Amelia maintains she herself is the worst sleeper out of anyone.

Her mind doesn't stop and when she does finally lie down, she puts her phone down, gets an idea and picks it back up again.

So it's no surprise that as well as working as a midwife, a sleep consultant and running a successful blog - she added author to her many talents.

"I was getting regular messages from mums and pregnant women and found that I was answering the same

"I think mums on social media are desperate and tired and want someone to relate to, and I think that's why I have such a loyal following - it has been organically grown and I'm my authentic self," she said.

"I'm the same on my Instagram stories as I am in real life and people seem to respect that."

While most people portray the perfect life on Instagram, Amelia celebrates the highs but doesn't hide the lows.

"People don't tell you the truth on Instagram or often in real life when it comes to parenting," she said.

"I'm a midwife and I know all the settling techniques but even today Essie

Midwife Mumma Amelia Lamont tells it how it is on Instagram.

Picture: Rob Carew is such a little turd and she can be up until 10 at night.

"I'm a sleep consultant and I've been through it - and it's nice to be able to tell people that there is a light at the end of the tunnel because I've been there."

Not academically minded at school, Amelia always wanted to have kids and worked full-time as soon as she finished high school.

But with so much focus on kids and babies - she thought there was more she could do.

So she applied to become a midwife.

"And it's been the best thing ever," she said.

"It was an intense course but look at where it has brought me six years on."

THE MIDWIFE MUMMA'S PREGNANCY GUIDE includes: ■ Week to week of pregnancy from conception to birth

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The birth plan that didn’t go to plan

IF you asked Samantha Lamour about her birth plan, she was fairly relaxed, except for the idea of having a caesarean.

She didn't judge other women for having one - but her mum had 'natural' births and that's what she wanted too.

But as luck would have it, the Boronia mum had no choice and her son Ollie was brought into the world by c-section.

A routine 36 week check-up turned into a rush across to Angliss Hospital after it was revealed Sam was suffering from pre-eclampsia and had extremely high blood pressure.

"I was 36 weeks and four days and they said they would induce me," she said.

"So here I was just going on maternity leave two days earlier and I was about to meet my baby."

But when the early makings of the induction made little difference to her cervix, they decided it was too risky to break her waters - and would need to do it in surgery.

Ollie was surrounded by fluid and wasn't settled, which meant breaking Sam's waters could result in him having the umbilical cord wrapped around his neck.

"But because I wasn't to term and I wasn't in labour I kept getting pushed back for more urgent cases," she said.

"Until I started getting contractions and I started to panic because they had told minutes earlier that there could be some issues."

They rushed her down to surgery at 10 at night.

Samantha Lamour and Ollie at home in Boronia.

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the anaesthetic in Sam's back, so her sanity came from a friendly orderly who hugged her as the needle went in.

"It was such a weird experience, they had to lift my legs back onto the bed because you can't move at all and I think the thing no one warns you about is that once they cut you open - you don't feel pain ... but you feel everything," she said.

"It's like sitting on your foot and running your finger along it.

"But the caesarean itself wasn't too scary."

Soon enough the curtain was pulled down and Samantha saw her beautiful baby boy.

But then the stress started, "He was purple and wasn't breathing," Sam said.

"The nurse was violently rubbing him, and Dylan actually said to me 'oh they are cleaning him up' - and I was like 'no - he's not breathing'."

Ollie ended up in the special care unit but has gone from strength to strength ever since.

For Sam, she thinks the negative stigma attached to a caesarean birth needs to change.

"Even if it is a choice, you need a pretty valid medical reason," she said.

"And I did get some comments from random people who were super negative.

"The asked me if it was because I didn't want to mess up downstairs or if I was too precious to push ... which was horrible."

Asked if she would have another c-section with her next child, Sam said she'd loved to try a vaginal birth, but next time she won't be so cutthroat about her birth plan.

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Juggling writing novels and being a mum

By Melissa Meehan FOR many of us, Melina Marchetta's novel Looking for Alibrandi was the book of our generation.

Part of the Victorian school curriculum, it told a story of a young woman finding herself between different cultural identities all while doing VCE. And Melina's new book, The Place on the Dalhousie, also tells a story of finding yourself in the form of a house.

"It's about a house - also about two women who both believe they are have a right to that house," Melina said.

"One is upstairs and one lives downstairs, they don't talk to each other. It's about the community they build inside the house and outside it and how they learn to become something other than enemies."

Melina says she loves putting characters in a confined space and seeing how they nut things out.

The characters, the daughter of a man who built the house and her step mother, learn to work with each other than against each other.

"I don't know many people who don't have messy families - so I like working with the idea of family, and that doesn't have to be blood relatives either. It can be a combination of friends, past friends and people they let into their lives."

For Melina, the writing process takes between 18 months and two years to pull together a novel - it's not two years of solid writing.

And it's the perfect profession for her - she can be present for her young daughter while still working.

"I'm a single mum," Melina says.

"It's like the novel - I work with my community and I'm very fortunate to be able to call on people including my

An unforgettable story about losing love and finding love.

Melina Marchetta, well known for writing Looking for Alibrandi, has a new book family when I need help.

"I never try to be away for more than one night - and that will change when she gets older and is emotionally capable of dealing with it."

Being able to work on her novel when her daughter is at school and edit the work once she is in bed makes a good balance for Melina.

"It's not easy, I would never pretend it's easy.

"There are days like today where I know I'm going interstate tomorrow and I'm wondering how it affects her.

"But it's important for me to know that she is the most important person in my life - but I also have to think about myself, I'm entitled to have a profession where I do have to step outside of her little world."

But the guilt she feels about travelling is balanced by her ability to be involved when her daughter was in

kinder and even helping in the school library or canteen.

"The bonus is I can be flexible with my time and I can be there for her," she said.

"But if I don't do the work, I have to make sure with that lack of structure that I am getting work done.

"It's a juggling act and we're not struggling but I do fund the juggle is emotionally hard."

Soft toy obsession leads to dadâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s first book

By Melissa Grant

"The book came about just from hanging out with him (Rio) every day.

THREE-YEAR-OLD Rio Chalmers is never far from his beloved soft toy 'Foxy'.

"To start with, he had one toy fox he just loved - he's basically had it since he was born.

There was even a time when Rio constantly wore Foxy on his head, even if he was out in public.

"The fox was from London. We ordered about five and over the years he's found three, so know he walks around with three.

The boy's obsession with the toy fox inspired his father, David, to write a story about it.

"He even went through a period where he wouldn't take the Fox off his head - he couldn't be without it unless it was on his head!"

Every night, Rio enjoyed listening to his father's tale about the boy with the fox on his head.

Rio loses 'Foxy' at least once a week and often calls out for him at night.

David loved reading it too - although it never crossed his mind that other parents might also like to share the story with their children.

In the book, Rio actually wants to go to sleep but his cheeky fox has other ideas.

It was actually his wife, Fiona, who suggested he should try to get the story published.

David has written another three books which he hopes to have published this year.

"I sent a manuscript in and got a publishing contract straight away!"

David said.

"I have heaps of material just from spending time with him (Rio)," he said.

His book, aptly titled The Boy with a Fox on His Head, was released earlier this year.

David says it was his time as a stay-at-home dad which put him on the path to publishing. www.yarrarangeskids.com.au

David Chalmers reads his book to son Rio. Before becoming Rio's primary carer and arriving in Australia, David ran a commercial relocation business in the UK for nine years.

Picture: Rob Carew "It was one of the hardest jobs I've ever done and one of the best things I've done as well," he said of his time as a full-time stay-at-home dad.

"Even though I've gone back to work part-time, I get to hang out with Rio most of the time."

The Boy with The Fox on His Head is available on Amazon, Booktopia, Waterstones and the publisher's website Austin Macaulay.

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JUST

FOR DADS WITH JARRED KELLERMAN

Can fathers be

attachment figures for their children?

A father's role as an attachment figure is often absent from discussion when dads first become parents. I know that when I became a father, the topic was not discussed by maternal health practitioners in the first year of my daughter's life.

Research has demonstrated that children who grow up living without consistent father involvement are at higher risks of having difficulties with school and social relationships than children who grow up living with both their biological parents full-time. This of course is not to say that all children raised by single parents will have problems, but it does highlight an important point in regards to attachment, and fathers as an attachment figure in particular.

Attachment theory was established

by John Bowlby in the 1950s and can best be described as "a secure base from which to explore close relationships". In other words, the patterns of child-parent interaction in the early years promote the development of secure relationships between children and their caregivers. This relationship provides a foundation for emotional security that promotes healthy functioning across many domains of development.

Initially, it was thought that there was only one attachment figure and that this was primarily the mother.

However, later research recognised the existence of two distinct attachment roles with equally important functions for a child's development. One attachment role is to deliver love and security, and the other role is to participate in challenging practices. This second role, which is often the father's role, is an important factor in encouraging exploration and gives the child confidence in trying novel tasks.

Typically, in families with two parents raising their children, one parent will adopt the role of providing a secure base and refuge for safety in periods of distress, and the other parent will provide opportunities for exploration and excitement.

Researchers found children who excel in social situations as young adults had mothers and fathers who adopted these separate, but equally as important, attachment roles.

It is important to note that the research does not suggest that fathers should enforce rigid gender roles onto their families, but it does suggest that parents should have a discussion about their roles as attachment figures and figure out what works best for their parenting style.

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Summer (left) and Scarlet with Mum Rhiannon.

Mum wouldn't change a thing about her identical,

fraternal twins

By Melissa Meehan WHEN Rhiannon McLachlan first found out she was pregnant her partner Tem joked that it could be twins.

But it soon became a reality when a dating scan revealed the pair were set to grow their family by two.

"The sonographer says 'I've got news for you' and I say 'it's twins isn't it?'," Rhiannon says with a smile.

"And I just started crying - I was thinking 'I don't know how to look after one baby, how will I look after two?'"

But on the way home the couple started to think about all the positives about having twins.

They knew they wanted to kids and this meant Rhiannon could return to netball and work quicker, go on holidays sooner.

But the avid Kilsyth netballer says she couldn't imagine life being any other way.

Summer and Scarlett are now 22 months old and Rhiannon loves being a twin mum.

The duo are fraternal twins, but identical at the same time - given the medical term of dichorionic diamniotic DC/DA. "Basically they had their own separate housing when I was pregnant, so appeared fraternal - but they came from the same egg," she said.

mum knew about it and all the research said that if they were both girls there was a chance they could be identical," she said.

"But there wasn't a test available when I was pregnant to find it out so I had to wait until they were born and that test confirmed it."

Luckily for Rhiannon her pregnancy was straight forward.

She had no morning sickness whatsoever and worked up until the day she was induced.

She planning on breastfeeding them but it didn't work out.

"Its definitely easier now - when they are babies the challenge is trying to hold two crying babies at once, which is hard," she said.

"I cried a lot during the first six to 12 weeks.

"I had all these ideas about not wanting to form bad habits - but I should have just not worried about that."

The girls are about to make their big screen debut, starring in Judy and Punch movie to be released later this year.

Rhiannon and Tem had no real plans to get their daughters involved in show business, but a friend tagged them in a casting callout on social media and it went from there.

"They were the right age, Caucasian and the same sex - they didn't ask for identical twins," Rhiannon said.

"They had their own sac and placenta, but in the end the placenta's fused together."

"So I sent a photo and they contacted me within a day and we met the director shortly after."

It's a startling statistic that 30 percent of so-called fraternal twins are actually identical - just like the Olsen twins.

A dark comedy, Rhiannon laughs that it's probably not one she would let the girls watch until they are older - but enjoyed the experience.

"It wasn't a surprise for me, because

Summer (left) and Scarlet.

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- we all have a place we belong."

THESE days, Australian families look very different from the traditional, nuclear family unit of decades gone by.

That's partly why author Tenielle Stoltenkamp felt it was time to do justice, in the form of a children's book, to the diverse, blended, co-parenting, single parent families and others who may not always be depicted in the pages of kids books.

Growing up, she was an only child with a single mum, with half siblings and step families.

Her new book, 'My Family Doesn't Look Like Your Family', depicts a more modern, changing world where families differ greatly.

"The reaction has been mostly positive. We've had so many people say 'finally - this is my story' or 'this is the book my family has been looking for'," she said."Other people may feel challenged by the notion that we're looking beyond just 'traditional' families in this book. This isn't the case at all.

"We're celebrating and depicting all families and embracing the reality that every family is a little different, but we are ultimately one big family after all."

Stoltenkamp hopes the messaging in 'My Family Doesn't Look Like Your Family' is clear to young readers.

"Our aim is for every child to see their own family on the pages of this book and to know that - even though every family looks and does things differently

It's this sense of belonging that's an important thread in the book.

Children are often very accepting by their nature, but may have questions about the make-up of a family that looks completely different to their own.

"How we, as adults, respond to these questions can shape their view on diversity," Stoltenkamp said.

"Whatever the makeup of a family unit, diversity is something we can all embrace and celebrate."

Talented artist and illustrator Go Suga is behind the breathtaking imagery in the book.

He wanted to bring it to life as well as breaking down the status quo of the traditional family structure.

Stoltenkamp said the style of the illustrations was incredibly important to complement the narrative.

"It was a tough brief for an illustrator - we were basically asking them to avoid as many stereotypes as possible, remove elements of race and gender, and ensure the counting element of the book was clear," she said.

"Go's unique aesthetic was perfect for the complexity of the task and his personal ethos and passion aligned with the vision of the book.

"Our goal was for every child to see themselves and their family represented on the pages of the book."

Stoltenkamp's vision is that the book will be read as a family, or even in

Children's author Tenielle Stoltenkamp classrooms across the country.

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11 June: Magic Scratch Wand & Mask, 10am-1pm 25 June:Beanie Monsters, 10am-1pm

12 JUNE PRESCHOOL INFORMATION NIGHT Robyn Jane Children's Centre Inc is holding a four-year-old preschool information night at its centre on Wednesday 12 June, 6.30pm-7.30pm.

During the session, preschool teacher Sarah will cover the importance of play, the meaning of school readiness, the centre's curriculum and why parents should choose the centre's pre-school program.

Brochures and enrolment forms will be available on the night.

RSVP to admin@rjcc.org.au

17 JUNE PARENT HEALTH & WELLBEING WORKSHOP Presented by Inspiro and Eastern Health in partnership with Yarra Ranges Council Early Years team, this interactive workshop looks at parental challenges and parent/child interactions with emphasis on nurturing the positive interactions using touching, stroking and cuddling.

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