42 SDM MAGAZINE SUMMER ISSUE
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The Art of Giving Good Oral – A Sex Expert Tells Us How
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hether you’re diving under the sheets and between her legs on a cold winter’s night, or hungrily spreading them in the back of your car as she grabs your collar and pulls you into her body, there’s arguably no bad time to pleasure your woman. But how can you be a true winner at giving head? Start off slow with light touches, using your fingers first before your tongue. Don’t be too centralised with your approach; kiss all over her body rather than just focusing on her clitoris. The side of the tummy (just above the appendix) is highly erogenous for most women – brush your fingers there as you make out with her. Kiss her labia (the ‘lips’) and gently nibble them. Breathe her in and tell her how damn good she tastes. Slide your tongue up and down her clitoris and labia in a rhythmic motion, continuing the same pulse for some time and watch for her bodily responses. As her vagina starts to open up and self-lubricate, slide in your index finger and move it in a ‘come hither’ motion. (Don’t jab. Ever.) As she gets into it – and you’ll know because she’ll relax her body – increase your enthusiasm. Speed up, grab her arse, her thighs and her tits like you’re hungry for her entire being. Giving head is about admiring the woman, not admiring the vagina attached to the woman. Too often, men can approach going down as something to be done with trepidation – ‘it’s an unknown and if I just run my tongue around the area in the shape of the alphabet, she’ll get there’. She probably won’t. The biggest difference between a good oral sex experience and a bad one is attitude. Dive in there and worship her pussy, her legs, her body. Grab her arse by wrapping your arms under her and pulling her into your face. Smell her, look up at her with hungry eyes and moan when you’re really enjoying yourself. The more you relax her through (genuine) compliments that show your enthusiasm, the more she’ll ease into it and free her mind for orgasm. Say things like, ‘I love how your thighs tense up right when you’re about to come’, ‘you taste incredible’, ‘this part of you right here is my favourite’. We all have insecurities and making your girl feel good will make the experience better for the both of you.
