November 2013 by Barbara McSpadden

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THE RESCUE MISSION

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November ETC 7 PLATTER CHATTER: PATSY’S PIZZA

FASHION FORWARD 10

WISE WOMEN: LURA LUNKENHEIMER

FABULOUS FINDS

IN HER OWN WORDS: THE RESCUE MISSION

WBOC LEADING WOMAN: SYLVIA CONSTABLE 18

FOR A GOOD CAUSE: VERA HOUSE GALA

SPECIAL FEATURE: MAGGIE WALTERS

HOLIDAY GIFT GUIDE 23 QUEEN OF ARTS: MARY ANN CALO

COVER STORY: MISSY SHAFER

I AM THAT LADY: BLACK FRIDAY

SPECIAL FEATURE: 2013 HOLIDAY SHOPPES

FITNESS: STAYING FIT DURING HOLIDAY SEASON 40 SYRACUSE WOMEN INSPIRE 43

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HEALTHY WOMAN: NYS HEALTHCARE EXCHANGE 48 MIZ MATCH: ARE YOU A GOOD GIFT GIVER?

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Plus, the holiday season means it’s getting cold in CNY, and if it’s getting cold in CNY…it means it’s football season in the ‘Cuse! With that said, we have the First Lady of Syracuse University Football, Missy Shafer, on our cover. Missy takes us inside the world of being in a football coach’s family after the Shafer Family’s 20-plus years of experience. With the Orangemen in full swing of their 2013 season, you can join the huddle on page [32], to read about the ‘Cuse inspired cover woman.

“The idea is to write it so that people hear it and it slides through the brain and goes straight to the heart.” — Maya Angelou The reason Syracuse Woman Magazine has existed for almost three years now is because there was a need in the community. We took note and listened to the call for action! Now, the SWM staff and I have the distinct privilege to celebrate what women are doing in our community. Just as Maya Angelou has said (and so inspired this month’s quote), the written word is meant to slide through the brain and go straight to the heart. It is in this way that we communicate with our beautiful audience. The genuine appeal of the women of Central New York is what you want to read about, so that’s what we focus on each month. We hope the story of each woman that has been featured in SWM over the years has made a home in your heart. Because we’re upon the holiday season, we know your hearts are probably beating a bit faster, too! With that in mind, we’ve got you covered. Gift-giving should be fun, not stressful. This edition is packed with gift ideas and you will undoubtedly find something for everyone after you’re done reading. Turn to page [14], to browse our Fabulous Finds and be sure to check out “I Am That Lady” on page [37] for some cost-saving tips when you’re holiday shopping this month. And the annual Syracuse Junior League Holiday Shoppes are happening this month. Turn to page [38], to read about the community event that we’re sponsoring! We have pages filled with local businesses and services that are waiting to make some holiday magic happen for you.

This month, SWM and the CNY community are welcoming home our very own Miss America, Nina Davuluri! On Nov. 15, Nina will be a part of a celebration in NYC, but then she is back in the Salt City from Nov. 16 to 18. We are proud to announce that we’re the exclusive women’s magazine of the homecoming weekend! Join us in celebrating Nina’s journey thus far. She will be making appearances all weekend and will culminate the visit with the Syracuse Woman Magazine Breakfast with Miss America from 8:30 to 10 a.m. on Monday, Nov. 18. The breakfast will take place in the Horizon Ballroom at the Crowne Plaza in Syracuse with Nina as the special guest. Tickets are $40 each or $350 for a table of 10. Tickets can be purchased at www.missny.org/ homecoming. Proceeds will benefit Miss NY Scholarship Fund. As always, we’re here to celebrate your ideas and your achievements, but most of all we’re here to talk about what matters most to you. Keep in touch with us online at facebook.com/ SyracuseWomanMagazine and on Twitter at @SyrWomanMag. You also can follow me on Twitter at @FarahJadran for behind-thescenes coverage of SWM and lots of tweets about running, food and fashion! Until next month, be beautiful and genuine. In other words — be you! Sincerely,

Farah ON OUR COVER... Missy Shafer, the First Lady of Syracuse University Football and wife to SU Head Football Coach Scott Shafer, was photographed by Cindy Bell, of Focus Studio, located at 920 N. Salina St. in Syracuse; www.cindybellphotography.com. Cover shoot location: Carrier Dome at Syracuse University. Makeup and styling provided by Antonietta Moritz; find her work at Trucco by Antonietta Moritz on Facebook.

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OUT & ABOUT 2013 BUY LOCAL BASH – November 25 To be a true part of your community, you must eat, breathe and buy local! Syracuse Woman Magazine agrees and wants you to be a part of the 2013 Buy Local Bash! Join us from 6:30 to 9 p.m. on Monday, Nov. 25, at the MOST (500 S. Franklin St. in Syracuse) for the annual Buy Local Bash! Every day should be taken as an opportunity to buy local in order to benefit the community you live in. Come and enjoy samples of food and beverages from local food vendors and restaurants. There will be live music, great company, information about Syracuse First and much more! Purchase your Buy Local Bash ticker at www.centerstate.com/events. Get social and connect with event-goers before Nov. 25 by using the hash tag #BUYLOCALBASH13!

About Time - 11/8 The night after another unsatisfactory New Year party, Tim’s father tells his 21 year-old son that the men in his family have always had the ability to travel through time. Tim can’t change history, but he can change what happens and has happened in his own life---so he decides to make his world a better place...by getting a girlfriend. Sadly, that turns out not to be as easy as you might think.

The Best Man Holiday – 11/15 After nearly 15 years apart, Taye Diggs, Nia Long (Soul Food), Morris Chestnut, Harold Perrineau, Terrence Howard, Sanaa Lathan, Monica Calhoun, Melissa De Sousa and Regina Hall reprise their career-launching roles in The Best Man Holiday. When these college friends finally reunite over the Christmas holidays, they will discover just how easy it is for long-forgotten rivalries and romances to be ignited.

Syracuse Woman Magazine is the proud sponsor of this event.

SYRACUSE WOMAN MAGAZINE PRESENTS: MISS AMERICA HOMECOMING BREAKFAST - November 18 Join Syracuse Woman Magazine and the Miss New York Scholarship Organization in welcoming our very own Miss America, Nina Davuluri. From 8:30 to 10 a.m. on Monday, Nov. 18, we will gather at the Crowne Plaza Hotel in the Horizon Ballroom to hear from Miss America and to enjoy the company of many special guests. Representatives and supporters of both the Miss America organization and the Miss New York Scholarship Organization will be present. Local businesses and organizations are encouraged to purchase tables at the event. Tickets are $40 each or $350 for a table of 10 and can be purchased at www.missny.org/homecoming. Syracuse Woman Magazine is the proud sponsor of this event.

Hunger Games: – 11/22

Follows Katniss Everdeen who has returned home safe after winning the 74th Annual Hunger Games along with fellow tribute Peeta Mellark. They must now embark on a “Victor’s Tour” of the districts. Along the way Katniss senses that a rebellion is simmering, but the Capitol is still very much in control as President Snow prepares the 75th Annual Hunger Games - a competition that could change Panem forever.

Oldboy – 11/27 Follows the story of an advertising executive (Josh Brolin) who is abruptly kidnapped and held hostage for 20 years in solitary confinement. When he is inexplicably released, he embarks on an obsessive mission to discover who orchestrated his bizarre and torturous punishment only to find he is still trapped in a web of conspiracy and torment.

SWM’S HOLIDAY PARTY TO BENEFIT WBOC – December 4 Are you ready to celebrate the holiday season with Syracuse Woman Magazine? We hope the answer is “yes”! This year SWM is proud to partner with Women Business Opportunities Connections to get you in the holiday spirit. The WBOC is a local organization that supports women entrepreneurs and women looking to succeed in the business world. Join us for this year’s celebration 5 to 8 p.m. on Wednesday, Dec. 4, for a holiday auction: “I’m dreaming of a wine Christmas” at the Greenwood Winery. Enjoy wine tastings, hors d’oeuvres, networking, raffles and the WBOC Holiday Auction with many amazing items to bid on. Bring a friend, colleague or spouse and enjoy the evening with us! Tickets are $30 per person or two for $55 through Nov. 26, and then $40 after this date and at the door. Purchase pre-sale tickets at www.wboconnection.org! The Greenwood Winery is located at 6475 Collamer Road in East Syracuse. Syracuse Woman Magazine is the proud sponsor of this event. Tickets and all proceeds benefit the WBOC.

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BY FARAH F. JADRAN I PHOTOS BY RICK NEEDLE Turkey Pot Pie Pizza — what do you mean you’ve never tried it before? Chances are you’re in the group that is yet to try this masterful Thanksgiving-inspired creation. This unique pie can be found on the Westside of Syracuse at Patsy’s Pizza…and just in time for the holiday. Greeting you at the door is a delectable aroma infused with fresh garlic and tomatoes, and even a hint of buffalo chicken wing sauce. Rose Insalaco and her brother Mike Scutari are the proud co-owners of what was once their father’s business. Pasquale “Patsy” Scutari and his wife Rosa opened the shop in 1982. For a long time the Italian native was dreaming of opening a family pizza place to highlight the family’s long list of traditional recipes. Patsy, 84, worked in construction for many years, all the while the oven was warming up. The first site of Patsy’s Pizza was in a small plaza near Le Moyne College across from Hurlbut Elementary School in Syracuse. However, it was (and is) the Westside that felt “like home” to the Scutari Family. The well-known location on Erie Boulevard West opened in 1992 and the family actually ran two shops until 1997. During the transition, Patsy renovated the new space. Now, the Westside is the family’s pizza jewel. The sister-brother duo has been leading the way for 21 years and even Patsy recognizes their leadership. While visiting Syracuse from Noepoli Potenza, Italy, Patsy was in the shop to share this with me: “They’re the bosses now, not me.” Both Rose and Mike are involved in the menu planning and the cooking. But when it comes to generating monthly themed-pizza recipes, the honor is all Mike’s. November’s pizza of the month — the aforementioned Turkey Pot Pie Pizza — is being featured for the first time. This pie contains sliced potatoes, turkey, gravy and peas and carrots and it’s topped with fresh mozzarella. “Every month is new,” Rose said. “We’ve repeated a featured pizza maybe twice in the last few years.” The monthly pizza was created to highlight a holiday (like Thanksgiving) or an ingredient that is in season. October was Baked Ziti Pizza Month (ricotta, mozzarella, meatballs, pasta and homemade marinara sauce) and September was Pizza Primavera, which featured fresh zucchini, squash, spinach, fresh peppers and Rose’s spicy sauce. Also, Mike is known to make a mean chicken wing. “Mike’s sauce is a homemade recipe that he uses,” Rose said. There are different grades, of course, but the favorite tends to be either the mild or the medium chicken wing sauce. There also are such options as garlic parmesan and smoky barbecue. What’s the secret to success? “Everything is homemade and authentic,” said Rose with a hint of pride in her family’s heritage. “The area our family is from (Noepoli Potenza, Italy) tends to use very fresh ingredients.” The family has chosen to take the same approach here in Syracuse. Next to the fresh approach, Rose said simplicity does indeed pay off. For instance, Patsy’s marinara sauce is just that. It contains fresh tomatoes, a specific olive oil and garlic. “There is so much flavor in that,” Rose said. “Some people overdo sauce and you really don’t need a lot in there.” The same applies for Rose’s Garlic Pizza, which boasts flavor in its olive oil, garlic, oregano, fresh tomatoes, roasted red peppers, black olives, provolone and mozzarella. This recipe was born when Rose’s daughters came home from college for a visit and requested “something different.” Now, it’s a customer favorite. No matter if it’s creating a new pizza recipe, filling a catering order for a downtown business or meeting the Friday night rush, the family is ready for all of the above. Order up! For more information on Patsy’s Pizza, visit www.patsyspizza.net or stop by 1205 Erie Boulevard West in Syracuse.

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Glitter,

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BY JASMON BROWN

I just received the company’s email about this year’s Christmas party! I hit the reply button, gave my rsvp and included my plus-one. Now, for the important part, what will I wear? Last year I wore a very cute red and black peplum dress that included a lace collar, but this year I want to be different. I want to go for the glitz and glam that makes the holiday season memorable! Since this is the time of year when clothing companies and designers begin to reveal their holiday collections, I’m sure, I will be able to find endless options of glitter, glam and gold, so let’s get stared… The length of your dress should be based on your preference; however, remember your dress should be an appropriate length for the occasion. For example, a shorter length dress may be appropriate for a cocktail event or a work holiday event, but a longer length dress may be more appropriate for a ball-like event. The functionality of the dress should also be well thought-out. All holiday parties are different so take into consideration what you will be doing at the party. If your company planned a more formal party, think black tie. If it will be more of a casual event, where you plan to dance the night away, you may want to opt for a dress that allows you to move without restriction. Now on to the fun, flirty and fabulous dress designs and features! This is the time to go all out and get creative. Look for great holiday colors like red, gold, green, silver, cobalt blue and black. These colors are commonly used for holiday wear as they can transition easily into more glamorous and chic looks. You want to stay away from very bright colors such as yellow and floral prints. Those colors and prints do not imply the “holiday” theme. Great features to look for are lace, mesh, fringe and sequin. Lace provides a touch of femininity. It can tone down a bold look and make it more playful while not taking away from the fierceness of the dress. Mesh does the opposite; it will spice up a piece. When trying to incorporate a little more sexiness, always opt for mesh as it allows you to show a little more skin without it becoming inappropriate. Searching for a little more glitter and shine? Try sequin dresses. The way the light reflects off sequin adds a great touch of fun and fabulousness. Reach for a dress with fringe when you want to stand out and feel like a star. Fringe is a great surprise on any garment and is a notable conversation piece. So, there you have it! Some fabulous tips to make this year’s holiday party more memorable. You will find all of these features and colors in a variety of different dress lengths, trends and styles. If you are not looking to spend a lot of money on a dress for only one occasion, you should visit www.renttherunway.com. This site has amazing designer dresses including plus-sizes for all occasions. You can rent for as low as $50. The holiday season is a time for family, friends, joy and love. Celebrate this time looking fabulous. Cheers! Jasmon hosts body image coaching, image consultations and various workshops. For more information on Jasmon or Size Fabulous, visit www.sizefabulous.com or follow her on Twitter at @SizeFabulous.

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Lura Lunkenheimer President, Peaceful Schools

n 2008, armed with a master’s degree and what appeared to be a set career path, Lura Lunkenheimer was working as a school psychologist and loving her job. Owning and operating a business was not a thought that had ever crossed her mind. After several years of supporting students as a school psychologist, Lura became interested in the concept of peer mediation and began to think about how schools and students could benefit consistently utilizing this type of structured support. A year-long hiatus from the school setting for professional development was all Lura had planned for. Fifteen years later, she’s never returned to her intended career, but instead followed her dream of helping students by working to create supports for schools that engage students to learn social skills and those needed for facing adversity, responsible decision making and peaceful, productive problem solving. “Being able to work on a larger scale is what drives and motivates me,” says Lura. Being in an industry facing budget cuts at both the federal and state levels, Lura found it necessary to constantly think on her toes and really consider her business model. Realizing that the traditional funding model for education programming was changing,

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Lura initially found it hard to adjust, but she eventually realized that moving forward and accepting and embracing those changes helped strengthen her business and services it offered. Peaceful Schools recently celebrated its 10th year in business, but Lura notes that there were many ups and many downs in that timeframe. Just a year ago, she wasn’t sure whether she would have to close her doors for good or if she was going to reenergize the business. “As an entrepreneur, there comes a time where you start to doubt yourself,” says Lura. “Meeting with a business counselor at the WISE Women’s Business Center helped me gain an outside perspective on the business and map out a strategic plan.” Later this year, Lura and her team will be rolling out a new online subscription model, with a goal to sign up 10,000 subscribers within three years. Although each of the new products and services are exciting opportunities, Lura shares that she is still learning what the implication of growth would be and strategizing how to be prepared for a variety of issues that may arise, but overall she is excited for the challenges (and opportunities) ahead.

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fab finds November is the definitive start to the holiday season We sent Syracuse Woman Magazine intern Erin Reimel out to find some holiday essentials for the Syracuse woman. Here are a few local places and some online products to check out that will take your holiday season to the next level.

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1_TREAT YOURSELF The Speach Family Candy Shoppe sells almost every homemade candy and chocolate you could dream of. Order online or stop into the shop in Syracuse to grab some gifts for you or your loved ones. - www.speachfamilycandy.com 2_HOLIDAY COOKING MADE EASY With holiday celebrations piling up, Ree Drummond of the Food Network makes the season simple with her newest book The Pioneer Woman Cooks: A Year of Holidays: 140 Step-by-Step Recipes for Simple, Scrumptious Celebrations. Take a page or two from Drummond’s book and impress your guests! – www.amazon.com 3_EUREKA CRAFTS Located in Armory Square, Eureka Crafts offers a variety of crafts created exclusively by American artists. Check out this unique shop for possible holiday gifts or decorations. – eureka-crafts.myshopify.com

4_SHARE YOUR PHOTOS WITH THE FAMILY Digital picture frames are an easy way to share the past year’s memories with your family. Set up a few around the house and give your family a beautiful slide show to watch throughout the evening’s festivities. – www.amazon.com 5_INDULGE IN THE SEASON Central New York’s Wine and Chocolate Festival is coming to the New York State Fairgrounds on Nov. 30. Try some fabulous wine and chocolate and pick up some gifts for your friends and family. – www.cnywineandchocolate.com 6_A SMALL THANK YOU Thank you notes are the perfect way to show your gratitude to your loved ones this season. Personalize your cards online and show how thankful you are for the people in your life. www.tinyprints.com/thank-you-card-notes

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The Rescue Mission welcomes

you

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Everybody has a story and I love listening to those of the people we serve at the Rescue Mission. For the past 17 years I have had the privilege of hearing these stories from many of the hungry and homeless people we help. I never tire of learning about who they are, what their journey has been like, what brought them to our campus or what goals they have for themselves or their children. Each story is as unique as the person sharing it. Whether it is Dawn who lived on the streets as an alcoholic and prostitute for 25 years; or Jeff who never dreamed he would be homeless and separated from his children; or Mike who deals with mental health issues after witnessing the loss of his father and brother in a house fire when he was a child — they help me better understand the human condition of those we serve. Whatever the story, we stand ready to welcome each man, woman and family who comes to our doors. As the holidays approach we are very busy. Our guest lists are long — actually much longer than they have been in the past. Thanks to the support of many from our community we are decorating, purchasing and wrapping gifts and preparing for very large meals on Thanksgiving and Christmas. In order to make the holidays brighter for the growing number of people who are hungry and homeless we depend on the support of individuals, companies, churches and civic groups for both financial and volunteer support. On both Thanksgiving and Christmas day we will provide more than 2,000 meals for those in need. This is a wonderful time to engage and hear some of those stories I mentioned earlier and more stories of hope for those who we are reaching. The pace is fast, but all are filled with the anticipation of bringing a smile to someone whose story is void of hope and joy. While the holidays are when many think to reach out and help us serve

those in need, we work hard every day and need your help 365 days a year. When your schedule slows down a bit, I invite you to: come for a tour, serve a meal, attend a program or fundraising event, pray for the needs of the organization, give financially, hold a used clothing drive, check out our website, request a copy of our strategic plan and learn more of how we are sharing hope, ending hunger and homelessness and strengthening communities one person at a time! Did you know? More than 250 homeless men call the RM home each night in Syracuse, 10 homeless families call the RM home in Auburn each night, 10 homeless men call the RM home in Ithaca each night and 32 homeless men call the RM home in Binghamton each night. Every day is important at the Rescue Mission. There are even more people who need our help. To this end, the Rescue Mission’s “Mission District” campus will undergo a redesign and expansion starting in the New Year. It’s an exciting time in the history of our 126 year-old organization and we invite you to come and learn more about the life changing work that is taking place! Is it time for you to get engaged and help change our community? As we often say, it is not just the residents’ and clients’ lives that are changed at the Rescue Mission. Being involved is life-changing for staff, volunteers and supporters and ultimately for our community! I hope you will take me up on the offer of a tour or a conversation about the life-changing work of the Rescue Mission. Please feel free to contact me at (315) 701.3855 or email me at Carolyn.hendrickson@rmsyr.org. Carolyn Hendrickson is the Chief Development Officer at the Rescue Mission in Syracuse.

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Sylvia Constable: In business, you are not alone “When you are in business for yourself, it’s not uncommon to feel isolated,” confessed Sylvia Constable, masseuse at and owner of The Massage Place in Liverpool. “When I attend WBOC meetings, I understand that I am not alone. There are other businesswomen out there, and we are all working and striving to make our businesses known and accepted and patronized.” In joining WBOC (Women Business Opportunities Connections) about eight years ago, Sylvia realized that she was no longer running her business on her own, but had the help of hundreds of local businesswomen. “The WBOC collection of women is amazing,” she admitted. “Upon attending my first meeting, I very quickly realized that, for every aspect or part of my business that I needed to improve upon, there is a savvy businesswoman already there who could help me.” Sylvia discovered the Scentsy products (Pam Minchew) and Young Living Essential Oils (Leslie Rose McDonald) she uses in her business; and found her organizer (Lisa DeVeau), administrative task expert (Deb Bilello) and even a handful of massage clients through attending WBOC meetings. “Networking is the rock my business rests on,” she explained. “I believe in it strongly, as well as doing business with local businesswomen. All you have to do is tap into the source.” Perhaps this source is what’s helped keep her business open, since, according to Sylvia, “being in business for 11 years is pretty unusual for massage therapy.” Or perhaps it’s just all her life experience - or both. Before opening her own business, Sylvia spent 34 years working for telephone company AT&T. In 2001, however, she knew it was time for a change, so she began taking classes at the Onondaga School of Therapeutic Massage. “Once I passed my licensing boards, I said to myself, ‘I am going to make this a full-time business. Here it goes,’ and I dove in very bravely.” Today, Sylvia continues to love everything she’s doing in her career - but there’s definitely still room for growth, she told me. “I am literally taking every class I find interesting,” she revealed. “There is so much information out there, and I think massage plays an important role in today’s health care industry.” Most recently, she’s been learning about Vibrational Healing, a massage practice that involves Young Living Essential Oils and tuning forks. Looking ahead, Sylvia would like to become both an instructor for CARE -the Center for Aromatherapy Research and Education -as well as a mentor to others getting into the field of massage. She’s even considered applying for a position on the WBOC Board. “One of my ambitions is to be a mentor, or become involved with more businesswomen because I believe in it so passionately. I want to be there for another person like WBOC has been there for me,” she said. “The WBOC women are the people in my life who remind me, ‘We are here with you,’” continued Sylvia. “They are all doing the exact same thing you are: trying to run a business. The energy and the knowledge at meetings are phenomenal, the programs are always right on target, and you learn something every time you go. It’s a grand group. There is nothing quite like it.” So don’t worry if you’re a businesswoman and you feel alone, because the truth is: You’re not. Look to WBOC, and you’ll never be alone again. The WBOC is a non-profit organization that has been empowering professional women in the Central New York area for more than 20 years. Its members are women business owners, women in business and women business start-ups. Syracuse Woman Magazine is a signature sponsor of the WBOC.

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Vera House celebrates 22 years of ‘New Beginnings’ BY CHRIS BENTON, VERA HOUSE INC Celebrate the season with friends old and new...and dust off your dancing shoes! Get ready to turn up the glam factor for the Vera House Foundation’s 22nd Annual “New Beginnings” Gala on Saturday, Dec. 7, at The Oncenter. Cocktails and silent auction will begin at 6 p.m. and a formal sit-down dinner will be served at 7 p.m. People don’t often associate the words elegant, fun-filled, and chic with Vera House, but we assure you that we know how to throw a sensational party. Indulge in an evening of dinner and dancing while helping to raise money to support Vera House’s mission to end domestic and sexual violence. You also won’t want to miss our exciting silent auction featured at “New Beginnings.” Perhaps you’d like to find a unique holiday gift, or maybe just pick out something special for yourself. Whatever the reason, you’ll be able to bid on an array of items including: vacations, artwork, fine furnishings, sporting event tickets, jewelry, restaurant gift certificates and much more. But save some energy because you’ll want to dance the night away to the sounds of Atlas, boasting some of the finest musicians in Upstate New York. An important aspect of “New Beginnings” is the recognition of our Honorary Chairs. This year Vera House is thrilled to acknowledge the contributions of Caroline and Nick Brust and Daynia and Paul Dodd. Caroline Brust has been an active member of the Vera House Board of Trustees since 2003 and served as Chair from 2011-12. Very passionate about community service, Caroline is presently a docent at the Everson Museum of Art, a Family Court volunteer for Vera House and is a member of Syracuse Garden Club and 5 Seasons Garden Club. Nick Brust was employed by First Trust and Deposit, which is now Key Bank, for 36 years. Nick currently serves on the board for Planned Parenthood and the George W. Wortley Senior Center, and volunteers for Francis House. Paul and Daynia Dodd live in Fayetteville on East Genesee Street in “everyone’s favorite house,” the Fairfield Estate. It is there that they have opened their doors to several non-profit organizations as well as fundraisers. Paul Dodd is managing partner with Northwestern Mutual Financial Network—The Greater New York Group and joined the Vera House Foundation Board of Trustees in 2012. Paul is also active on the boards of Make-A-Wish and Centerstate CEO. Daynia Dodd is currently on the Board of Directors at Rosamond Gifford Zoo, where she also is head of the Development Committee and serves on the Executive Committee. Vera House is extremely grateful to the Brusts and the Dodds for lending their support and leadership to help ensure a successful event. For your opportunity to support Vera House and its mission and to celebrate the volunteers, purchase your tickets to our “New Beginnings” Gala by visiting www.verahouse.org or call 425.0818 for more information. Tickets are available for $195 per person.

Chris Benton is the director of communications and special events for Vera House Inc. The Vera House Foundation “New Beginnings” Gala is made possible through the generous underwriting support of: Cadaret, Grant & Co., Inc.; Community Bank, N.A.; Cygnus Management Foundation; Horowitch Family Foundation; National Grid; Northwestern Mutual; Carolyn D. Palmer; Raymour & Flanigan Furniture; Carrols Corporation; Linda and Dick Cote and Nan and Carter Strickland; Caroline and Nick Brust; NYS Association of Transportation Engineers; Janet and Donald Barter; and Kathy CNY Fertility Center and Pinnacle Investments. 20 Jim november 2013 ::Burns; syracuseWomanMag.com

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leads Syracuse Crunch into 20th anniversary season BY ERIN REIMEL I PHOTO BY RICK NEEDLE Being part of a team was Maggie Walter’s goal as she prepared to pursue a career in communications. A long-time sports fan, Maggie knew she needed to be a part of the athletic world and took steps to make it reality in her college years. In her time as a Syracuse University undergraduate, Maggie interned at the university’s athletic department before she found her place as an intern at the Syracuse Crunch, Syracuse’s hockey team that is celebrating its 20th anniversary this season. After two years of interning with the Crunch, she was hired for a full-time position as the director of communications and marketing, doing everything from making living arrangements for the players to managing the team’s social media. If someone were to take a behind the scenes look at the Crunch, he or she would find Maggie juggling a million and one jobs effortlessly. Rob Zettler, the Syracuse Crunch’s Head Coach, will be the first to sing Maggie’s praises. “Maggie has been a lifeline for the team,” Rob said. “She does so much more than probably what her job description says.” Maggie seems to go above and beyond what is expected of her, a trait that undoubtedly helped her to score her position at the Crunch. Maggie was hoping to find a career where she could be part of the group, something she loved from a young age while participating in team sports. Though hockey is a typically male-dominated field, this does not seem to faze Maggie. “They treat me as part of the team and are very accepting of me,” she mentioned when discussing her role as one of the few women working in the league. While working in the athletic office at Syracuse, Maggie got a chance to work with successful women in athletic communications, “I saw them doing what they’re doing and they’re role models,” Maggie said.

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Now, Maggie can act as a role model to other young women who dream of working in athletics. While discussing the 20th anniversary of the Syracuse Crunch, Maggie reflected on the team’s journey to the finals last season, she said the team is absolutely looking for a repeat. She sees her job as the bridge between the fans and the team. “The more people we put in the building, the more people that are talking about us and excited about us, the better our chances of winning are.” Despite not being on the ice with the team, Maggie is an integral part of the Crunch’s success. “I’m absolutely not going to go out and score goals for the team, but putting people in the stands and making sure they feel appreciated in the community is how we help the team.” Maggie’s work behind the scenes was surely a push in the right direction last year for the team’s first trip to the finals. As the Crunch looks forward to making their way to the finals again, they are celebrating the last 20 years and looking forward to the years to come. Maggie is looking forward to anniversary events in the coming season and getting the fans involved in helping the team have a successful season. She has already been hard at work finding homes for the players and tweeting game statistics. Maggie is a committed and determined team player on Syracuse’s hockey team. Although you will never see her in a uniform, scoring goals, she keeps the team together and the fans in their seats. For more information about the Syracuse Crunch and the 2013-14 season, visit www.syracusecrunch.com or follow them on Twitter at @SyracuseCrunch.

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“There is a kind of life to art you don’t really fully appreciate from sitting in the classroom. Art has a greater meaning — it’s part of a culture.”— Mary Ann Calo

For more than 20 years, Mary Ann Calo has been a professor in the Art and Art History Department at Colgate University. She is not an artist, but a historian. She teaches courses focused around 20th century western and American art before World War II and early 20th century art in Europe and historical America. Mary Ann also has taught with her social scientist colleague to bring different perspectives to students. Her colleague studies who visits museums and which areas in art have experienced growth and decline, while Mary Ann studies the art world and who artists believe their audience is. As a researcher, Mary Ann studies the history of American art criticism. She looks not at the artists’ productions, but at what people say about the work and how they understand it. Recently, Mary Ann has been writing about African American art made before World War II in the United States. She is interested in discovering what non-black people say about it and how the art appeals to different audiences. Along with her research, Mary Ann is also the Director of the Division of Arts and Humanities and a member of strategic planning committees focused on the future and advancement of the school’s program. Mary Ann works to answer questions such as, “Where do we stand now and what will our future look like?” She is currently involved with a planning committee exploring options to open a new art museum. The committee wants to locate the museum in Hamilton, instead of on campus, to benefit the entire community. After all, people can be involved in the art community long after their days of schooling. Mary Ann has conversations with her students on how to become part of the art world while not necessarily being an artist. She has taken students to Italy, London and Australia to show students art is a part of life and culture, not just pictures on the walls. While in Australia, Mary Ann looked at the intersection between the contemporary and aboriginal people within the art community. Her students were able to study first-hand the culture of the work they have in their own Picker Art Gallery. “Colgate is a great school to extend interests beyond the classroom. We are very supportive of that, and we get students involved in innovative ways,” Mary Ann said. Mary Ann’s favorite thing is travelling abroad. “I really value these experiences because I get students to understand art in a way that is different from the classroom. Art is a part of people’s cultures, and seeing it in person is a lot different from looking at pictures,” Mary Ann said. “There is a kind of life to art you don’t really fully appreciate from sitting in the classroom.” Mary Ann has lived in Syracuse her whole adult life, but her professional life has been in Hamilton. “Most of my energy was at Colgate, but I’m becoming more interested in what is going on here. I want to be more useful to the Syracuse art community because there are very interesting things going on now. My next step is to get involved here.”

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For more information on Mary Ann and Colgate’s art program, visit www. colgate.edu/academics/departments-and-programs/art-and-art-history.

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Missy Shafer

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It’s been 23 years of memories, new experiences, bumps in the road, first downs — and those dreaded third downs — along with triumph and heartbreak. For many couples, it has become common to form a “team” in order to work together in the most effective way. The team starts out with only two players, and sometimes, it expands with a birth or two, or many more. Sorting and assigning responsibilities can be tough, but a starting lineup that recognizes its strengths and weaknesses is the winning formula every time.

First Down It might have sounded like it started out as the typical “cheerleader meets football player story,” but in reality it was meant to be much more than that. Missy Shafer, wife to Syracuse University Football Head Coach Scott Shafer, says that it did take some time for them to finally meet although they were at the same college — Baldwin Wallace in Barea, Ohio. “Such a cliché, I was the cheerleader and he was the quarterback,” said Missy. She continued to reminisce and a smile came out. “He was a stud on campus.” So it would seem that Missy was a little shy at the time and the two only “knew of each other” until they met in a group setting among a few mutual friends after almost four years of school. But that is all it took. After that first meeting, the two spent the next 24 hours together. “We talked about everything… just about everything.” Missy said. They even picked out some names for their future children. Missy learned of Scott’s ambition to be a football coach and how it really was his passion in life. Scott’s father, Ron Shafer, instilled this passion within him as he was always leading the charge as the Riverside High School head coach in Painesville, Ohio. Each of the four members of the Shafer family is grateful for the rest of the family, and they believe that everything really does happen for a reason. If Scott never transferred to Baldwin Wallace after playing one season at Ohio University in 1985, he would have never met his future wife. “I think about that a lot,” Missy said.

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The Rookie Season Missy and Scott tied the knot in June 1990, before they were both Baldwin Wallace alumni. Scott was a fifth-year senior and Missy had already graduated with her degree in communications and was working in finance and insurance for a local car dealership. At the time, Missy knew the journey of being a coach’s wife was about to begin. In January of 1991, the first stop on the Shafer Team schedule took them to Hoosier land. Scott was a graduate assistant at Indiana University for two years working primarily with quarterbacks and tight ends. Given that Scott was the Baldwin Wallace quarterback for an offense that ranked 17th in the nation in pass efficiency — he knew a thing or two that would be of benefit. While this sparked his career, Missy’s football boot camp also began. “From the start I would be right there with him when he would grade film,” Missy said. “It was almost the only time I would get to see him.” The Shafers would sit and watch game film and break it down together. The two would read what the team charted for the play and then Scott would put it in the computer. “I actually learned football that way,” she said. “I learned the passing play and then the running play…Scott is a good teacher and he really helped me learn the game as well.” Indiana’s then assistant coach, Floyd Keith, was offered the head coaching position at Rhode Island which prompted an invitation for Scott to join him. In 1993, Scott would take on his first position on the defensive side of the field. Missy says this was an intriguing opportunity for someone like Scott who had studied defense through the eyes of a former quarterback. The journey of being a coach’s wife continued and it began to take Missy across the country… During the two-year stay in Rhode Island, came the birth of their son, Wolfgang. After Rhode Island, came a seven-year stretch at Northern Illinois University in Dekalb, Ill., and the birth of their daughter, Elsa. Since then, Team Shafer has been to the University of Illinois, Western Michigan, Stanford University, the University of Michigan, and now, the one and only, Syracuse University. That’s seven stops on the coaching circuit, if you lost count.

Leading the Orange The Shafers came to Syracuse to start their Central New York home for the 2009 season. Scott brought in (by Doug Marrone) as the defensive coordinator and also dabbled in the secondary during his second season. However, the opportunity to take over as head coach — Scott’s ultimate goal — came to fruition as the team prepared to enter its 2013 season. It was around Scott’s birthday (Jan. 6) that he learned the news. “We knew a lot of things were going to happen, but we just didn’t know how fast,” Missy said. And then, Scott gave first press conference as head coach, one that still has Salt City residents and true ‘Cuse football fans talking. Scott presented to the community his idea of what the team should be — hardnosed. The job was not just a first for Scott, but for the whole family, according to Missy.

Team Captain: Missy Shafer

It’s not only Missy’s role as the wife of the head coach that matters, but the roles of all the women who are spouses of the SU football team’s coordinators. “We have to stick together,” she said. When she joined Team Shafer, Missy soon found inspiration and guidance to this life of a football coach’s wife from women she trusted and admired in this same position. In particular, Missy said that Beth Barcus, wife of Lou Holtz (best known for his long career and time as the head coach of Notre Dame and South Carolina), was a stellar example. There also are Facebook pages dedicated to lending support to women in this position at the college and professional levels. Annually, there is a conference to gather football coaches’ wives, too. “There is a lot of pressure to win, whether you’re the head coach or not,” Missy said. Taking wins and losses in stride must be in the forefront for any coach and their family at any time. This pressure trickles down to each family member, according to Missy. “The kids have to deal with it, too.” The kids have grown up in the business of coaching and don’t know any other way of life. Elsa, a sophomore at Fayetteville-Manlius, and Wolfgang, a freshman at Ithaca College, are both behind their father 100 percent. And I would be remiss if I did not mention the fifth member of the Shafer household: Lily. This little lady is the family’s pooch and she was adopted from a rescue in Joliet, Ill. “Scott says the kids don’t always rush to the door anymore when he gets home, but Lily always does.” It would appear the support within the Shafer home is never-ending. Missy has assumed the position of leadership for the other SU football coaches’ wives and has advised some on things she has learned over the past 20-plus years. “Don’t read anything about the game,” she said. “If you do, don’t read into it.” Taking a postgame media review to heart can be devastating and so, the best option for this play is to take a knee. “Always be encouraging and have each other’s back,” Missy added. The last thing a team of coaches’ wives needs is a break in the support line. Overall, Missy has been open to sharing her experiences througout the years with other women and helping them through a transition, too. Right now, in Scott’s first season as head coach, the family is excited and proud of what he’s accomplished. “We love Syracuse Football and Syracuse is a great place to raise our family,” Missy said. “We couldn’t ask for more.” She and Elsa have been exploring different ways they can volunteer and give back to the community that has welcomed their family. “We’re looking into everything,” Missy said. “I think this is something we can do together.”

When we entered the Carrier Dome for Missy’s photo shoot, she was overcome with joy and you could see a different glow than her already outgoing experience. Her love of the game and her appreciation for the Orange atmosphere was apparent. “This is the Dome… My second home.” A special “thank you” to the following for making this photo shoot happen:

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From the beginning of Scott’s career and the family’s assembly as a team came the responsibility for Missy to be the heart and soul of the operation. She looked to the wives of other college and professional football coaches for guidance. And of course, Scott’s mother was a “coach’s wife,” and this was something Missy could relate to.

Missy says there has never been a question in her life of whether or not the family comes first for Scott. “We are his priority and everything he does — he does with us in mind. You will often hear him say that everything in life is really overrated — everything but family.”

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“This affected the whole family and the kids especially.” No matter where the family moved, Missy knew it was her job to see them acclimate. However, assuming the position as the son and daughter (and for her, the wife) of the local university’s head football coach was a new role altogether.

The Syracuse University Athletic Department and the staff at the Dome. Also, thank you to Manny’s on the SU Hill for providing the Orange gear used in this photo shoot. It was a great team effort!

The Shafer Family Roster:

If Coach Scott Shafer were to put “Team Shafer” on the field, the playbook would outline the following…

Quarterback: Missy

According to Scott, “Missy is definitely the quarterback in the family managing the ‘game of life.’ Missy is a very strong leader that keeps us all pointing toward the goal and objective of keeping the family first.”

Wildcard: Elsa

“Elsa would play a lot of positions. Knowing she is a play-maker we would utilize all of her talents that help the team maintain harmony and balance throughout the game.”

Offense & Defense: Wolf

“Wolfgang will play both ways on the team. He would be a backup quarterback when dad is gone recruiting to help mom manage the team.”

Utility: Scott

“I would take a role of utility player accepting the roles designated by Missy probably on defense, defending the family philosophies throughout any crucial plays in the game of life.”

Cheerleader: Lily

And according to Missy, “Football is not really Lily’s sport, so she would be the loyal cheerleader!”

“Such a cliché, I was the cheerleader and he was the quarterback,”

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17 Years of Holiday Shoppes

BY KAYLA ISAACS

“We’re not just a group of people to go and just volunteer,” says Heather Wallace, President of the Junior League of Syracuse. “We train ourselves to be civic leaders and develop ourselves along with serving the community and helping women and children.” Training its members and building their potential is a key focus of the Junior League. Not only are they making Syracuse stronger, they are making themselves stronger at the same time. Within the Junior League, each active member is able to get deeply involved. A member typically holds a position for one year before it is passed on to the next, allowing many the opportunity to take on leadership positions. This is partly due to the smaller scale of the Syracuse chapter of the organization, which can typically prohibit the amount of activities that they are able to take part in, but allows them to really get to know and connect with one another. Plus, having nearly every member hold a board position gives them an advantage that larger leagues would not get to experience. “You learn so much,” says Heather. “I’ve taken on so many roles in the League that probably coming into it I never thought I would. I didn’t come in saying, ‘Oh I’m going to be president,’ you just kind of evolve into it.” In a similar way, Whitney Browne, the public relations chair of the Holiday Shoppes, understands the evolving roles each member takes on. The Holiday Shoppes is a major annual shopping fundraiser for the Syracuse division, Whitney did not go into her role knowing anything about PR or advertising, but after shifting into it, she is now well versed in radio, TV and billboard advertising. It is such growth that drives this Syracuse organization and allows for the camaraderie that the members easily acknowledge. “This is a safe environment to test your skills because there are people there to support you,” explains Heather. “You’re not alone, we’re not looking for you to be perfect, and we definitely help each other.” The Junior League aura that is present in each activity they take on is what propelled Christie Yesersky, co-chair of the Holiday Shoppes,

“I was so impressed that it was all women that volunteered their time to create this huge, big event, and I was like, ‘That’s something that I want to get involved in,’” says Christie. Now a member, she has been able to participate in events that have left footprints on her mind. The first time that she ever volunteered as a League member, she helped provide underprivileged women with professional clothing suitable for a job interview. This event stood out to Christie and showed her the power of volunteerism.

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It is these women and this organization that are constantly focused on volunteerism, aiding different organizations and targeting women and children’s groups whose lives could benefit from improvement. But these women bring more to the table than meets the eye.

to join. After attending the event the year prior to enrolling, she was able to see the kind of work that the women produce.

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When a large group of community-oriented women comes together it can often mean something great is about to happen. And when it’s the women who make up the Junior League of Syracuse, the whole community can become a better place.

“It was just the one-on-one connection that you are having with people; you really get to see how a little thing can really change someone’s life,” Christie says. The League is able to create such change by working with so many different organizations. They work with women’s shelters, educational causes and most recently, human trafficking, to name a few, and it is to be able to continue helping causes such as these that propel the League to make money which can than be used for their efforts. This is where the Holiday Shoppes come in. Its biggest event happening every November, it consists of more than 100 booths where vendors sell mostly hand-made or locallymade products, from crafts to holiday decorations to clothing and accessories. It’s the uniqueness of the products and the difference in vendors that makes the event stand out and draws in a large crowd year after year. For the upcoming Shoppes, Kseniya Lifanova, co-chair of the event, explains that in addition to securing returning merchants, they discovered new vendors by attending new festivals and contacting people from a wider range of areas, adding more hand-made items to the mix. Since its start 17 years ago, the festival-turned-shop has constantly changed with a new perspective and new people coming in every year, part of what makes the event stand out. By holding the event in November, customers can get ahead of the curve and get some holiday shopping done early. “You’re not usually going to buy [crafty items] for yourself. You may buy one thing for yourself, but it’s so nice to be able to buy a gift that is unique or is locally made or that you can find through this one vendor,” says Christie. “It’s nice that you can get [your gifts] all under one roof and then start ticking people off your list.”

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Newcomers: “Lockwood Lavender Farm will be selling lavender products; Sweet Lemonade will be selling handmade girls’ clothing, and Zilla’s Queen, with their collection of statement necklaces and vintage jewelry.” – Whitney Browne Returners: “Natural Creations will be creating their beautiful wreaths, Rhubarb Kitchen Shop will be selling gourmet food, and Boom Babies will be keeping our fashion in check!” – Whitney Browne syracuseWomanMag.com ::november 2013 39

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When winter rolls in and the holidays arrive, it becomes easy to lose our fitness motivation. The summer sun is no longer calling us outside to be active, and instead our attention is being called to the many extra activities that the holidays bring. It’s easy to feel like you don’t have time for that workout, but changing your mindset and adding in some of these tips and short intense workouts can help you power through the holidays! MAKE A GOAL Focus is easily lost when we don’t have goals. Make a goal for the holidays and stick to it. It can be as simple as being active three times a week for 30 minutes or as detailed as gaining a personal record (PR) for a dead lift. Remember you want to be able to enjoy the season so make the goal attainable but not overwhelming. Be realistic and honest about your goal and write it down! ADD IN A HIIT A HIIT or a High Intensity Interval Training is great way to squeeze in a heart pumping, endorphin creating workout quickly. These workouts contain a short burst of high energy with a quick rest. For example a 20-second sprint with a 10-second rest. There was a lot of talk earlier this year about the “7-minute workout” which is basically an HIIT. Complete as fast as you can go for 30 seconds followed by a 10-second rest. Complete the circuit 3 times: Jumping Jacks; Wall Sit; Push-Ups; Crunches; Chair Step-Ups; Squats; Tricep-Dips; Plank; High Knees or Running in place; Lunges; Push-up Rotations; Side Plank. STAY HYDRATED Keep that water close by. Fill up your water bottle and set a reminder on your phone to keep drinking all day long. Aim for eight glasses a day. WORK OUT EARLY, WORK OUT OFTEN This is my personal mantra during the holidays. Set the alarm early and make the commitment of time for yourself. Working out earlier in the day ensures other commitments don’t get in the way. Add a half-hour to your morning alarm and wake up with time for 20 minutes of yoga, Pilates or a run. The best part is crossing it off your to-do list before the

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day has even begun. PHONE A FRIEND Sometimes it’s OK to multitask and working out with a partner is one of those times. You can catch up with each other while sweating out those extra holiday treats. Buddy workouts are a ton of fun and keep you accountable and motivated. PACK YOUR SNEAKERS There are times when you just need a walk. Even a short walk of 10 minutes can eliminate stress and boost your mood. Unfortunately walking outside in the cold isn’t always a great answer, especially during those busy work days. For these moments take a trip to your local mall and just walk around a floor or two. Don’t have time to drive? Hit the stairs of your building. LIMIT TV TIME Television can be a major time suck. We get into a show and can’t get away. That half hour of time could be spent getting your sweat on. If you can’t miss your guilty pleasure show, mix it up by adding in crunches during commercials. Try couch squats or planks while watching. Again, multitasking will help ensure you’re reaching your fitness goals during the holidays. WALK MORE Park your car at the far end of the lot. It’s a simple step that will keep your feet moving for a few extra steps! TRY SOMETHING NEW Try a new group exercise class to keep your fitness challenged. These tips should help you power through your fitness goals for this holiday season! If you’re bored then you’re boring has long been Renee Benda’s favorite quote and her blog Bendifulblog.com proves there is a lot you can enjoy in one life. With spirit, spunk and spurts of seriousness this busy mom of two boys gives her readers tips and tricks for healthy living and fitting in fitness. Follow her at @cusecomm on Twitter, we already do!

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LINDA WRIGHT

Executive Director, The Salvation Army

BY KAYLA ISAACS I PHOTO BY JUSSARA POTTER

Before her college days even came to an end, Linda Wright began her career working for The Salvation Army, and to this day, remains an integral part of its operation. Linda is the executive director.

Joining this service organization that is committed to helping the needy was a position that Linda knew was right for her. “I had volunteered and worked some summers for The Salvation Army working with kids, and so I was looking for my first real job to ‘save the world’ as a social worker,” says Linda. “It sounded like the right thing to do and the right adventure.” Her work helping others has evolved from a summer job into a fulltime one, where every day she oversees the community as well as the professional programs of The Salvation Army. The Salvation Army was founded in 1883, and has since become an organization devoted to bettering the community, fostering growth within youths and servicing the underprivileged. Each year, the Syracuse division of The Salvation Army aids about 40,000 people within the Onondaga County area. Most residents are unaware that such an astonishing number of people within their community are in need. “Sometimes we’re not visible because we do our work so well that you don’t even know about the people that we serve,” says Linda. “Sometimes it’s hard to get the full vision of our work because there are so many different things going on.” This broadness of work consists of a strong focus on helping impoverished individuals and at-risk youths who, if helped early on, can be placed on a better path for the future. The Salvation Army has child day care services, after school programs and homes to shelter pregnant teens so that they can finish their education and prepare to care for themselves and their child. Other programs include the Barnabas House — a living program for runaway or homeless young adults — and the Juvenile Justice Service to help keep younger citizens out of jail. The Salvation Army also has programs for families, senior citizens and food shelters, all of which focus on enhancing the quality of people’s lives. “When I was working in daycare, I got this call one afternoon from a young woman who said, ‘I bet you don’t remember who I am.’ And then proceeded to tell me that I had met her when she was pregnant and on the street and was being trafficked,” said Linda as she reflected on this memory. She explained how The Salvation Army used its resources to support this girl and put her and her child into a foster family until she could take care of the child herself. “That was sort of amazing that someone could be there at different parts of this young woman’s life and really help her to do what her desire was, to become independent and capable and contribute to this community and be a great parent for her little one,” she says. “People don’t have one need, one time, and then everything’s perfect. People…need support at different times in their lives,” she explains. (continued on page 46)

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LIZ NOLAN

Executive Director, Hillside Children’s Center BY ERIN REIMEL I JUSSARA POTTER

The holidays are a difficult time for struggling families, but for Liz Nolan, the executive director of Hillside Children’s Center Central Region — it’s about working to make the holiday season just a bit easier for children with disabilities and their families. Hillside Children’s Center is an affiliate of Hillside Family of Agencies and works to care for children and provide opportunities to families to give their children a safe and successful life. Hillside, one of the oldest family and youth non-profit human services organizations in Western and Central New York, works to offer mental health, child welfare, special education, a safety net, infant, international and specialneeds adoptions and developmental disabilities services to children and families. Liz Nolan oversees all of these operations. Not only is November the beginning of the holiday season, also it is National Adoption Awareness Month. Hillside is helping to sponsor National Adoption Day in the Syracuse Area on Nov. 22 to finalize approximately 70 adoptions. Liz looks forward to this event every year. She especially enjoys hearing a bell ring at the finalization of each adoption. “It’s incredibly heartwarming,” she said, when describing this event when children of every age find a home thanks to the work of Liz and Hillside Children’s Center. Hillside organizes foster care as well as adoptions, yet many families end up adopting a child after bringing them into their homes. Seven of the children from Hillside’s foster program are being adopted this month at Adoption Day. In addition to the adoption programs in November, Hillside’s “Special Santas” program begins around Thanksgiving and continues throughout December. Hillside sets up three drop-off points for people in the community to donate unwrapped gifts to the center. “We want every child to get three gifts,” Liz mentioned. The program helps families who cannot afford to buy their children presents and ensures each child gets to feel the joy of opening a few gifts during the holidays. This program is an integral part of the way Hillside makes the holidays brighter for those families with which the agency works. As for children who are unable to live with their families, whether it is due to the child’s behavioral or emotional challenges or another reason all together, Liz works toward getting many of the children home for even a short period of time during the holidays. “We are tuned-in to what families need to have a successful holiday,” Liz said. And if the children cannot visit their homes, there are always special events for the children to celebrate the season with the staff of Hillside. After five years of work with Hillside, Liz realizes the importance of her work with the children and families she interacts with every day. “What drives me is being a part of creating something new … asking how we can make it better.”

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DONNA REESE

Outreach Specialist, Aurora of CNY BY KAYLA ISAACS I PHOTO BY CINDY BELL

If you have ever given a speech in front of a crowd, then you know it is no easy task. Nerves ring through your body and your focus remains heavily placed on the piece of paper before your eyes until you can gauge the crowd’s response and begin to feel at ease. But imagine not being able to read off a page of notes, or to see someone’s face agreeing with or understanding you. For Donna Reese, this is the case. Donna is a 52-year-old woman living with Glaucoma, a sight-stealing disorder that has left her with only a little blurry vision in her right eye. She was 35 when her vision began to decline. Six surgeries later, she is blind in her left eye and has mild vision in her right. So, when Donna gives presentations and speeches as an outreach specialist for Aurora, the program that helps empower individuals with visual or hearing problems and offers them services, she does so solely from memory. “I can’t catch all the body language or facial expressions. I always pretend that everybody’s just hanging on to my every word, that they’re fascinated with what I’m saying,” says Donna. “…It’s going to come from my heart.” As she talks about her own triumphs and stories to give advice and encouragement, it’s likely the audience is taking in every word. Inspiration radiates from Donna with her positive outlook on life and her desire to help get others there, too. When Donna was first diagnosed with Glaucoma, her attitude wasn’t anywhere where it is today. It was hard for her to come to terms with the realization that her sight could one day be forever lost. “I got very depressed, cut myself off from my friends and family, and my selfesteem just dropped so low,” she says. “I didn’t want people to know, I didn’t want people to think that I was less than [them].” But with her family’s support she was able to adopt a new perspective. Things started to click when her son, Duane, told her to “walk by faith and not by sight.” She realized that “it’s not about praying for God to heal me, it’s about praying for God to help me get through this experience and come out through it a better person,” she says. “I realized that I had my own stereotypes against people who were blind. I would think, ‘Oh those poor people…’ I didn’t want people to think that of me.” Now, Donna is showing the world, through her position with Aurora, that a disability does not define character, and that anyone affected is just as capable at everyday tasks with some minor adjustments to method. For Donna, this means using tools like ZoomText, a program that allows her to zoom in on her computer to aid in seeing the screen. “One thing that I have to get over is asking for help. That was my biggie,” she says. “If I’m upset, I need to admit I’m upset…and make sure that people know what’s going on, instead of trying to deal with it by myself.” Through her outreach, she lets others know of the help (continued on page 46) syracuseWomanMag.com::::november syracuseWomanMag.com november 2013

LINDA WRIGHT

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DONNA REESE

Part of what makes The Salvation Army stand apart is that in the midst of providing so much support for the community, there is a similar sense of guidance within the individuals who work there. The member’s work as mentors to each other, making sure that the organization consistently grows.

she needed to be a part of. “I am inspired by all of our staff people,” she admired, “I am challenged every day to be better.” Liz, without a doubt, is making a difference through her work with the agency.

accessible to them, especially through places like Aurora. Donna explains that the hardest thing about losing sight is that you are stripped of your independence. She aims to tell others that a strong support system is out there. Donna found hers in her family, who was always by her side and willing to do anything to help.

“There’s a big difference between being a manager and being a leader,” says Linda. “Leading is helping to communicate the mission and the vision, and helping to get the resources to others to ensure that that vision gets accomplished.” In her position, Linda serves as a leader and a mentor, with different members reaching out to her as a resource, guiding them like she was guided when she first started with the organization. As another holiday season commences, the Syracuse division, now celebrating its 130th year, is in full swing with a multitude of volunteers and a Christmas Bureau Distribution event. The Salvation Army usually reaches about 7,000 children through this event, providing families with food baskets and a shopping experience so that each can celebrate the holiday they want in their own homes. It is through outreach like this that makes a difference in a life, even if it is only the beginning. Linda eloquently summarizes: “You don’t always know when you plant some seeds, where they’re going to blossom, how long it takes for them to pop up through the ground, but you water them some more and they pop up with a flower.”

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In her time at Hillside, Liz and her staff have ensured that the children and families receive the best care the agency can offer — whether it is teaching families to care for a child with serious behavioral or emotional challenges in order to allow a child to remain in the family’s care. If the family is unable to provide a stable home, Hillside works to provide children with foster care. Liz and the Hillside staff do all they can to make the lives of the children and families in the community the best they can be. While discussing her work with families that come to Hillside, Liz said, “Every child should have a permanent, safe environment.” In order to ensure this, Hillside works with children and families to set goals and help the families to reach those goals. The work Liz Nolan and the entire staff at Hillside Children’s Center do every day is truly inspiring. Not only do they ease the struggle of the holiday season, Liz and the staff at Hillside work year-round to ensure every child has a safe place to live and every family has the resources they need to care for their child. “We have a philosophy of service,” Liz said, “They create futures for themselves.”

“We’re always a phone call away,” says Tamara Reese, Donna’s youngest daughter, of her family’s role in helping their mom. “She may feel alone when she goes to sleep in the dark, but we are always here.” Despite all of the hardship that came with Donna’s diagnosis, it brought her family, and her three children — Duane, Tamara and Tequila — together, showing her who she can rely on, and giving her what she considers her life purpose of helping others. “I actually think, in a way, I was blinder before I lost my sight than I am now,” she says. “Because a lot of things I see now that I didn’t see before.” Just as Donna was guided by her experience, through her passion for reaching out to the community and her desire to give back, she is constantly giving others hope and cheer. “She is my star,” says Tamara. “In my life and in my eyes, she is my star.” For more information about Aurora, visit www. auroraofcny.org.

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Charting Your Course through the NYS Healthcare Exchange BY ANGELA RENNA

Welcome aboard the NY State of Health Marketplace! On Oct. 1, individuals, families, and employers embarked on their first journey through the New York’s official healthcare exchange. Open enrollment will continue through March 31, 2014, giving ample time for people to review the health insurance options and make an informed choice. The new health plans will begin Jan. 1, 2014. We all have, no doubt, been inundated with news and information regarding this new healthcare exchange, but what does it mean to you? Through the Affordable Care Act (ACA), health insurance plans have been standardized with essential health benefits such as pediatric dental, preventative care, and hospitalization, to name a few. Along with these essential benefits, we now have an online marketplace to compare and purchase health insurance. When you visit the Marketplace, the insurance plans you see will all have these essential health benefits but the key difference is how much you will pay for monthly premiums and services. These plans are called metal levels; Bronze, Silver, Gold, and Platinum. Simply, if you are rarely sick and not taking medication, you may want to look at bronze level plans because the premiums are lower. However, if you or someone in your family regularly goes to the doctors, a gold or platinum plan with a higher premium may be the right fit for you. Not everyone will need to go to the Marketplace for insurance. If you are offered health insurance at work and your premium costs are largely covered by your employer, then staying with your employer’s plan will likely be the best option. If this is not the case, you will want to poke around the exchange and see what is available to you and your family. The first step is registering online. Once you have done this, you will be able to use the tax credit and premium estimator to see if you are eligible for an immediate reduction off the premium cost each month. This is determined using income and household information that you will be asked for as you go through the registration screens. If your household income is below 400 percent of the federal poverty level, (currently around $46,000 for individuals $94,000 for a family) then your premiums may be reduced and you can see the actual

reduced cost of the different plans. This will be a great tool to ensure that you are receiving an appropriate health plan that fits into your household budget. As you navigate through the options, you should be thinking about the level of care that is important to you and your family. Don’t stop at just what the monthly premium cost will be. Additional out of pocket costs should also be considered in making your decision. You must look at what your copay would be each time you see a doctor, whether a deductible must be met before plan benefits will cover costs, and how much you will pay for prescriptions. By answering these questions, you may find it more cost effective to choose a higher premium plan that offers lower costs for doctor visits and prescription drugs. Other things to consider are potential surgeries, the cost of hospital visits, and any chronic health conditions you may have. For friends and families that are battling chronic illness, you no longer need to worry if your pre-existing condition will be covered under your new health plan. Under ACA, a provision mandates that insurance policies cover preexisting conditions. Also, there will be options available to help you manage your costs for continual treatments. Here is the good news! You don’t have to go it alone. Certified insurance brokers and navigators are available to help provide guidance as you enter these unchartered waters. An online resource is available to search for a certified broker or navigator in your area. Lastly, don’t feel overwhelmed. The Marketplace is not just new to you, it’s new to everyone. Now is the time for you to chart your own course for healthcare. Take the wheel and visit www.nystateofhealth.ny.gov for more information. Angela Renna is a Financial Consultant and owner of Sterling Financial Group in Cicero and Oswego. She is a certified broker through the NYS of Health exchange. Find more information on Sterling Financial Group at www.angelarenna.com.

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The large box was wrapped in white glossy paper and adorned with red velvet ribbon that crisscrossed. It was trimmed with a large crowning bow and curly ribbon tails that draped down the sides of the package. My three sisters and I were giddy in anticipation as my father proudly delivered the (obviously store wrapped) masterpiece to my mom. A broad toothy smile brightened her face as we all arose from the crumpled giftwrap that encased us, abandoning our own gifts to gather for the answer to the much-anticipated question: What did dad buy mom this year for Christmas? He encouraged her to give it a jiggle and take a few guesses. Could it be the mink stole that she always wanted? (It was the ’60s, people!) Or maybe he had put sparkling diamond earrings in a small box that was enclosed in a series of bigger and bigger boxes, each carefully wrapped. The suspense was killing us. As she began untying the ribbon ever so slowly, we wiggled and squealed in excitement, begging her to put us out of our misery and rip that puppy open! She obliged. And much to our wondering eyes should appear, but an avocado colored Waring blender with multiple gears. Now, if this were a TV show, the sound track of that very moment would have been Wah. Wah. Instead I remember nothing but a long awkward silence, interrupted by, “A blender? You got me a blender?” And it was at that moment when I realized that either you’re a good gift giver, or you’re not. My dad, as much as he tried, was not. It wasn’t until my sisters and I were old enough to take on the task of either buying it for him or assembling a very specific list complete with earmarked catalogs that we strategically passed onto him — that we finally found peace on Earth at the holidays. Based on the many people I’ve spoken to about the worst gifts they’ve received,

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I am fairly confident to say that most of us have been the recipient of a terrible gift at one time or another. Whether it was the gym membership you didn’t ask for; the impersonal heated towel rack that is still in the attic; the “joint gift” of the new barbecue grill, or even the “let’s agree to not buy each other gifts this year” and then he buys you something and makes you feel like a heel. One woman told me about how her husband brought back a souvenir T-shirt from a holiday sports tournament in Hawaii that he attended while she stayed home with their week old baby. That was his one and only Christmas gift to her that year. Worse yet, she’s a petite size 2 at the very most. The T-shirt he gave her was a size XXL. They are now divorced. Being short on cash isn’t a good excuse to be a bad gift giver. In fact, the best gifts don’t require money but rather a little creativity. For example, one year I created a coupon book filled with special vouchers that my husband could cash in on, such as: Good for one night of staying in when I want to go out.” Or for agreeing to “be wrong” when I know “I’m right”’ in an argument. He loved it. No matter what gift ideas you come up with this year for that special someone, give yourself enough time to think it through. Ask lots of questions, listen carefully to what he or she is saying, is wishing for or enjoys doing, and chances are, you will put a genuine smile on your loved one’s face and reap the rewards of being a great gift giver. Susan and her husband, Bill, a very good gift giver, live in Syracuse with their dog Yankee, who was a “joint gift” four years ago. She can be reached at mizmatch@ mizmatch.com. If you have been on the receiving end of a bad gift, tell us about it at www.mizmatch.com or @mizmatchblog.

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SWM’s Events 2ND ANNUAL RUNWAY CELEBRATION I PHOTOS BY PAUL C. VIGGIANO A fabulous night of fashion and fun while celebrating every size and every style on the runway for Ophelia’s Place took place on Sept. 25 at the Landmark Theatre in Syracuse! Syracuse Woman Magazine would like to thank everyone who was a part of this Circle of Change in the Community, especially MOVIN 100.3 and Skip Clark. Your support for Ophelia’s Place and SWM is appreciated! Check out our event photographer at www.facebook. com/PaulCarmenPhotography! THIRD ANNUAL CAROL M. BALDWIN A RUN FOR THEIR LIFE Breast cancer awareness is alive in the Central New York community! Supporting moms, grandmothers, sisters, daughters, aunts and all loved ones is key to raising funds for local breast cancer research. A Run For Their Life benefits the Carol M Baldwin Breast Cancer Research Fund Inc. in CNY. www.findacure.org HOPE FOR HEATHER’S FIFTH ANNUAL TEAL RIBBON RUN & WALK We had a great time sporting teal with Hope for Heather Ovarian Cancer Awareness of CNY and the community! Telling a woman about the symptoms and risks could save her life. Do your part in raising ovarian cancer awareness in your community by joining the conversation on Twitter at @Hope4Heather. www.hopeforheather.org

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6 2013 HOLIDAY SHOPPES

WHEN: 10AM to 7 PM Nov. 15; 10 AM to 6 PM Nov. 16; Noon to 5 PM Nov. 17 WHERE: Horticulture Building, NYS Fairgrounds WHAT: Three days of shopping with a variety of specialty shops from all of CNY brought to you by the Syracuse Junior League.

JINGLE BELL RUN/WALK

WHEN: 8 AM Registration; 10 AM Run/Walk WHERE: SRC Event Center, OCC Campus WHAT: A festive 5K event that also raises funds for the Arthritis Foundation. REGISTER: www.arthritis.org/programs-events/jingle-bell-run

15 17 SWM BREAKFAST WITH MISS AMERICA

18 2013 BUY LOCAL BASH

WHEN: 4:30 to 6 PM WHERE: Crowne plaza Hotel, Syracuse WHAT: Do you know how your smart phone can help your business? Find out with Women Business Opportunities Connections. REGISTRATION: www.wboconnection.org

WHEN: 8:30 to 10 AM WHERE: Crowne Plaza Hotel, Syracuse WHAT: Join the Miss New York Organization and Syracuse Woman Magazine for a breakfast in honor of Nina Davuluri, Miss America 2014, and the women of the Miss New York and Miss America organization; a WHEN: 6:30 to 9 PM WHERE: The MOST, 500 S. Franklin St., Syracuse WHAT: Come and enjoy samples of food and beverages from local food vendors and restaurants, live music, great company, information about Syracuse First and much more! TICKETS: Presale $20 at www.syracusefirst.org

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