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June C O N T E N T S

Letter from the Editor ............................................................. 6

Past SWM Events ..................................................................... 7 Fashion Forward: Dressing with my Partner ........................ 8 Syracuse Eats: The Cider Mill.............................................. 10

WBOC Leading Woman: Leslie Eimas .............................. 14 CNY Latino: Julio Urrutia ..................................................... 17 Special Feature: How to Support the Women in Your Life ............................................................................. 20

Fitness: OrangeTheory Fitness ........................................... 22 King of Arts: Adam Gold .............................................................24 Cover Story: George Kilpatrick ........................................... 27

For a Good Cause: ACR Health ...................................... 36 Inspire: Anthony & Eric McGriff .............................................38 Inspire: Gary Weeks.............................................................. 42 Inspire: Vincent Love ............................................................ 46

Upcoming Events ................................................................. 48 Movers and Shakers ............................................................. 50

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LETTER from the Editor

elcome to The Man Issue. You might be asking yourself, “Wait, wait, wait. Isn’t this Syracuse Woman Magazine? Why oh why is there a man gracing its cover?” I won’t lie to you. When the inaugural edition of The Man Issue came out two years ago, I wondered the same thing. I was living in Watertown at the time, working for NNY Magazines. My then-boss, Ken, liked to collect regional magazines when he traveled. So after a weekend trip to Syracuse, along with tales of wonder about Wegmans (an establishment the North Country is sadly lacking), he brought back the June edition of Syracuse Woman Magazine. He held it out to me, gestured to the cover with a quizzical look, and said, “Isn’t this a little weird?” “Huh…,” I said. “Yes. It is, isn’t it?” Then I went on with my work, not thinking much of it. Later that year, I found my way back home to Syracuse for good, and at the helm of Syracuse Woman. A few weeks in, I sat in a meeting with my coworkers to discuss monthly topics for the upcoming year. The question was posed to me: “Do you think we should do The Man Issue again?” Being new to the magazine and to position of editor, I wasn’t 100 percent sure about it. Men have had the spotlight for years, and our magazine aims to highlight local women’s achievements and contributions. So I thought about my own experiences. Growing up, my parents never stressed the concept of male and female roles. They both made dinner. They both read me books before bed. They both raised me. When I got old enough to realize some people followed stereotypical gender roles, I never even thought to subscribe to them. I was equally good at math and English. I wore makeup when I felt like it, but didn’t feel obliged to put it on every time I left the house. I had an equal number of male and female friends. I’m lucky enough that I’ve never felt pressured to act a certain way or do a certain thing simply because I’m a woman. And part of the reason I have that luck is because I had both men and women as role models and peers. Though they definitely fall into the category of feminists, these people never necessarily identified themselves as such. In my opinion, it’s because they didn’t have to. My family, friends and mentors lead by example in simply treating everyone with respect. And they do it because that’s what good people do. So that’s what this issue is about: the men who treat everyone with the same respect, dignity and love that every human being deserves.

Lorna On Our Cover: George Kilpatrick was photographed by Alice G. Patterson of Alice G. Patterson Photography in Alice’s Baldwinsville photography studio.

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PAST SWM Events

The ninth annual Bella Casa Fashion Show took place at the Holiday Inn Liverpool on Tuesday, April 11. The event supports Ronald McDonald Charities of CNY. Photography by Nancy Miller. Syracuse Fashion Week spanned from Tuesday, April 24, through Sunday, April 29. Shows were hosted at various Syracuse area locations. Proceeds benefited The Food Bank of CNY. Photography by Randy Zaborowski and James Bass. The annual WISE Symposium was held at SKY Armory on Tuesday, April 24. Kathrine Switzer, June 2017

the first woman to finish the Boston Marathon, was keynote speaker. The YWCA held its Day of Commitment to Eliminate Racism & Promote Diversity on Thursday, April 26, at Drumlins. WBOC held its monthly meeting on Wednesday, May 3, at the Genesee Grande Hotel. Photography by Jacqueline Vidler. A Cause to Celebrate hosted its third annual event on Friday, May 5, at The Mohegan Manor. All proceeds benefited Purpose Farms. Photography by Edges Photography. SYRACUSEWOMANMAG.COM

FASHION FORWARD Dressing with my Partner

How I Made a Fashionista Out of a Deadhead By Lisa Marie and Tim Butler

Lisa: The year was 1995. It was a cold November night. When my date canceled on me at the last minute, a girlfriend took pity on me and said, “Let’s go to Ladies Night at the Zoo Station.” (For those who don’t remember, it was one of the only rock clubs in town.) I was all dressed up with no place to go, so off we trotted. Apparently we were quite a sight, all decked out to play pool. At least that’s what Tim tells me. And that’s why he put his quarters on the table. I barely gave him a second glance. Not that there was anything wrong with him; he just wasn’t my type. He was fresh out of the army with a military buzzcut, baggy cargo shorts and a tie-dyed Grateful Dead T-shirt. Hardly taking him seriously at first, I thought of him as a fixerupper. As I came to know Tim, I realized his mind and soul needed no improvement — just his style. A lot of men don’t think about their personal style. They tend to just throw things together in a utilitarian way. Straight out of the army, Tim still wore some of his military items. I gently encouraged him to incorporate civilian clothes into his everyday look. The jacket was an easy thing to let go. The boots, not so much. Another item on my agenda was his hair. He assured me he had beautiful hair once he let it grow out. And grow it did. For a while, it grew so long that he rocked a ponytail. Now he has a signature shaggy head of hair — not too long, not too short. Those tie-dyed T-shirts still have a place in the drawer, but now he knows they are best left for Ratdog shows. After a few nudges and some shopping trips, he’s learned to love how he looks in a funky patterned button-up shirt. And one of his new sources of pride is a custom-made wool suit he picked up in Beijing. Tim’s learned to appreciate good clothes, and I don’t think of him as a fixer-upper anymore! Tim: I didn’t think of the weather — or anything else, for that matter — when I decided to don shorts, combat boots and a tiedyed t-shirt that night. I certainly didn’t think I was going to meet my wife. I trudged out into the cold with a couple buddies. Looking for a drink and a pool table, we found the Zoo Station. It took some time for Lisa’s influence on my style to take hold. I liked my jeans and old T-shirts, and still enjoy comfortable jeans most of the time. Although I’ve changed the style slightly, there’s nothing like a trusty pair of jeans. When we go out on weekends, maybe to dinner or a show, I do like to look nice. I like my funky patterned button-up shirts. 8

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yracuse Fashion Week executive director Lisa Marie Butler and Empire Brewing Company director of brewing operations Tim Butler are a stylish Syracuse power couple. But Tim wasn’t always the fashionister he is today. This is their story.

Some say there are certain pieces only I can pull off — I’m not quite sure if that’s a compliment or an insult. Another area of my fashion sense I’ve been focusing on lately is footwear. It really is amazing that a pair of shoes can make or break an outfit. I used to own one pair of shoes at any given time, and wore them until they were basically falling off my feet. Now, when I open my closet, I actually have choices of footwear, and even try to match them up with my outfit! I have to thank Lisa for helping me change my style. Even to this day, she still gives me a shirt every now and again that I wouldn’t have thought to try on. And thanks to my wife, the Syracuse Fashion guru, I always get compliments when I wear it. SWM For more information on Syracuse Fashion Week, visit syracusefashionweek.com. For more on Empire Brewing Company, visit empirebrew.com.

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SYRACUSE EATS The Cider Mill

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The emphasis is on scratch food. … And we use very little out of a can or box.” — Dan Seeley, The Cider Mill co-owner

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Comfort Food with a Scratch and a Twist By Shweta Karikehalli

hen diners enter The Cider Mill, they’re met with an atmosphere that’s homey and welcoming, yet elegant and upscale. Its location at 4221 Fay Road had served as home base for Diamond Catering in years past, but Dan Seeley, co-owner of The Cider Mill and Diamond Catering, had bigger aspirations. “When we weren’t catering, the building really just sat idle,” he said. “We wanted to generate revenue, and also add something new to the area since there isn’t a lot on this side of town.” The building has a rich history. The space originally operated decades ago as Morey’s Mill, a quaint red building that was a popular spot for cider, doughnuts and American comfort cuisine. Though The Cider Mill officially opened in November 2014, the establishment got off to a rocky start. Operations came to a halt in March 2015 when heavy ice caused part of the roof to collapse. But The Cider Mill crew didn’t let destruction dishearten them. Instead, they viewed it as an opportunity for renewal and growth. With a newly-red exterior, repurposed materials and memorabilia from Morey’s featured throughout the restaurant, The Cider Mill pays tribute to its predecessor. “Our bar is crafted out of 100-year-old cypress that used to be used on-site for cider barrels,” Dan explained. “We are also using the original cider press plates for decor inside.” Since reopening in early January with plans for year-round service, the team has added a bar to its offerings. The bar boasts extensive beer and wine lists. The staff even takes suggestions from customers on drinks they’d like to see on the menu. “If regulars are coming in and asking for a certain drink, and if we can get it for them, then we absolutely will,” general manager John Neville said. “We feature a lot of beers that are rare around here.”

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John mentioned Founders Brewing’s Kentucky Breakfast Stout and Devil Dancer, as well as Bell’s Brewery’s Oberon Ale. The Cider Mill’s menu offers a variety of dishes, ranging from classics like burgers and steaks to Thai and Italian cuisine. Pictured below is the seared salmon, accompanied by roasted potatoes, asparagus and whole grain mustard sauce. Though the menu’s style varies from plate to plate, each dinner has one thing in common: its preparation. “The emphasis is on scratch food,” Dan said. “We bring in whole primal cuts. We roast our own bones for stock. And we use very little out of a can or box.” Dan explained they call the food “modern American upscale comfort food” because the kitchen puts their own twist on everything they do. But above all, everything is fresh, he said, remarking that customers appreciate that special touch. Both Dan and John agree the success of the restaurant is thanks to the expertise and cohesive nature of their crew. “We’ve assembled quite an all-star team,” Dan said. “Everyone in the kitchen has gone to culinary school and the service staff has come to us from many of the finer restaurants around Syracuse, so they are all very experienced servers.” As for the future of The Cider Mill, Dan is thinking big, including an expansion of the building to add seating. “We are talking about doing a variation of a food truck that can cover both Diamond Catering and Cider Mill, and we haven’t ruled out another location,” he said. “I’m looking forward to what’s to come for The Cider Mill.” SWM The Cider Mill is located at 4221 Fay Road in Syracuse. For menus, hours and more information, visit thecidermill.us.

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WBOC LEADING WOMAN Leslie Eimas

A Path to Healing

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he pain began while Leslie Eimas was working as a reporter By using a combination of 100 percent pure therapeutic-grade oils, for the Syracuse-Herald Journal. As she sat writing and editing polarity therapy and light — which acts to increase circulation — at her desk for 10 to 12 hours a day, pains shot up her neck. Leslie intuitively determines the best combination for her A few years later, Leslie’s body ached from the waist up. clients’ needs. “I spent about 15 years trying to heal myself — massage, chiroSometimes Leslie sees a drastic difference after one session. practor, acupuncture, yoga, a little bit of everything natural,” Sometimes it takes more time. It all depends on the person, Leslie said. “I got temporary relief from a lot she explained. of things, but it never lasted until I came to The type of energy work Leslie does can the office I work at now.” elicit extremely emotional reactions at times. It had a profound change Leslie began attending therapy sessions at She’s had people uncover traumatic experiences on me, and I’ve seen it have from their childhood on the table and finally the Polarity Center of Syracuse and within six months, her chronic pain was gone. be able to release them, she said. a profound change on my Through her discovery of polarity therapy Such reactions initially came as a shock to clients.” — Leslie Eimas, combined with the use of Young Living Leslie. She hadn’t realized the impact she essential oils, Leslie found relief from her could have on other people. Polarity Center of Syracuse constant physical aching. “I had no idea I was a healer,” Leslie said. senior therapist It not only affected her life, but prompted “I have a lot of intuitive ability I didn’t know her to switch career paths and change the lives I had for most of my life. … I like seeing of others. During a session with her polarity therapist and eventual people feel better.” mentor in the field, Leslie felt such relaxation and clarity that she Since the transition in her life to polarity therapy, Leslie has looked up at her and said, “I want to do what you do.” moved her family to live in the country in a happier and more The therapist simply replied, “You can.” fulfilling lifestyle. Now, after becoming a licensed massage therapist, certified associate “Polarity therapy is more than body work. It treats the whole body, polarity practitioner and certified Kripalu yoga teacher, Leslie helps mind [and] spirit,” Leslie said. “It treats the whole person.” SWM others remedy pain, illness and mental health issues, as well as Leslie is the owner of My Oils Life. For more information, visit MyOilsLife.com. encourages them toward healthier and more natural lives. Women Business Opportunities Connections (WBOC) is a non-profit “The combination of the Young Living essential oils and the organization that has been supporting the Syracuse and CNY area for more polarity — I’ve just done it all, and this worked for me,” Leslie said. than 20 years. To become a member, visit wboconnection.org or follow the “It had a profound change on me, and I’ve seen it have a profound organization on Twitter at @WBOConnection. Syracuse Woman Magazine change on my clients.” is a signature sponsor of the WBOC.

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CNY LATINO Julio Urrutia

The Common Good of Justice By Alison Grimes

ulio Urrutia remembers watching movies like “Leave It To Syracuse was good for his career, too. Julio accepted a job at Beaver” and shows like “Father Knows Best” when he was Hiscock Legal Aid Society. growing up. The characters had every hair combed neatly “I was able to advance my career sooner, as opposed to if I had in place. They wore crisp suits and shirts with matching ties. stayed downstate,” he explained. They lived in big houses surrounded by bright green grass and The longer the couple stayed in Syracuse, the more Julio became white picket fences. involved in the community. He joined a number of organizations, Having moved from Puerto Rico to the projects in the Bronx like the Spanish Action League, Catholic Charities, Onondaga when he was 9 months old, County Health Advisory Board these picture-perfect stories were and Syracuse City School District, foreign to him. just to name a few. This juxtaposition influenced “In my own small way, I wanted Julio as a child, but not nearly to be able to make a difference,” as much as a series of assignJulio said. “When you’re younger, ments in fourth and fifth grades. you want to change the world. But as you get older, you start The teacher asked the students with one person, one case, one for a weekly oral presentation on trial, etc.” a current event from The New Julio became intrigued by the York Times. For most students, democratic process of a trial, and this was surely a difficult undertaking. For Julio — a boy raised was inspired to get involved with in a Spanish-speaking household trial work. He went on to advance — it was quite the challenge. his career as a serious personal But the knowledge Julio took injury attorney, while remaining away from those classes was an activist. more than just the presentations. As a father, husband and His teacher also introduced him community organizer, Julio works to the women’s suffrage movetirelessly for his family, clients ment, Frederick Douglas, and community. Driven by faith, Harriet Beecher Stowe and culture, integrity, compassion more. Those lessons opened his and adversity, Julio has developed eyes to civil rights leaders and well-rounded confidence, grounded by a sound sense of movements that would influence humility. his interest in justice and the Today, Julio works with Stanley common good. Law Offices and remains an active Fast forward more than 15 community member. years: Julio earned a degree from Those rights activists who Rutgers University School of influenced him in grade school Law, and met the woman of his still play a role in his life now. dreams. The couple married and Julio owns a copy of the three moved to Syracuse, where Julio In my own small way, I wanted to be able versions of Frederick Douglass’ began his career in law. to make a difference.” — Julio Urrutia, autobiography, and wishes to Within the first year, visions attorney at Stanley Law Offices continue learning and serving from “Leave It To Beaver” — the until he takes his last breath. SWM television-perfect, once unfamiliar lifestyle — began to become more of a reality for Julio and his wife. This article was provided by the CNY Latino newspaper, the only HispanicThey agreed Syracuse was a great place to raise a family. That first oriented publication in Central New York. The Spanish version of this article year in the area, they had a son, and decided to call the city home. can be read in the June edition of CNY Latino, in both the traditional paper version and the digital format at cnylatinonewspaper.com.

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SPECIAL FEATURE How to Support the Women in Your Life

Where are the Men? By Chris Allen

he old saying goes: “Behind every great man is a great woman.” Well, what about every great woman? Is there a man supporting her success — practically and emotionally? Could men’s support of women be key for greater and faster progress for increasing gender equality? I think the answer is yes. From the 1970s to the early 2000s, there was fairly consistent progress in the advancement of women’s rights. The gender wage gap decreased. The percentage of women in management and political leadership increased. There was greater diversity in many occupations, from medicine to engineering. However, this progress has stalled. Despite the fact that women comprise roughly half the country’s population and earn almost half of all advanced professional degrees, we lag in positions of leadership and real economic power. At the current rate of change, the Center for American Progress estimates women won’t reach parity with men in political and economic domains in the United States until the year 2085. My own children will be more than 90 years old. There is considerable data showing that gender equality not only benefits women but helps everyone. This holds true for individual companies as well as whole countries. The truth is we cannot fully empower girls and women if men aren’t part of the solution. Since men hold the greatest economic and political power, they’re in a position to impact gender equity by supporting, promoting, mentoring and encouraging women. Admittedly, some men won’t get it; the irony of privilege is when we have privilege, we’re inclined not to recognize it as such. Some men will deny that women lack advantages, claim reverse discrimination or — even worse — argue women belong at home.

Thankfully, most men don’t believe this. Rather, many have little impact on gender equality, simply because they aren’t aware of the importance of their actions or don’t know what actions to take. So, men, here are some suggestions to help move society toward equality: 1. Share the non-work related responsibilities. This includes family obligations, childcare, housework and financial management. One woman I spoke with said, “[My husband] is an equal partner at home. He does not shirk ANY responsibility related to home, cleaning or childcare.” 2. Promote and support equal pay for equal work. Promote policies that favor salary transparency so women and men can compare and see if they’re being paid fairly. Speak up if you know injustice and unfairness are happening. 3. Be an involved and engaged father. This includes supporting girls and women as athletes. Sports for children and teenagers can contribute greatly to girls’ self confidence and self esteem. Research shows successful women often had fathers who encouraged them. 4. Speak up to other men who don’t get it — especially when you hear them say something thoughtless to or about women. Don’t ignore it when you witness sexual harassment at work; encourage women to report it and be willing to report it yourself. Call it out as what it is: wrong. 5. Offer to help in the kitchen at family events. There are some women who won’t “let” you help, but you can still offer. If several men offer together, maybe women will be more likely to accept! (Women, please accept the help, even if it isn’t how “you” would do things!) 6. Take pride in being in the life of a successful woman! A women’s success doesn’t have to diminish the status of the man. It’s not a zero-sum game. Data show gender equality is a win-win for everyone in health, happiness and success. 7. Promote women and prioritize diversity in the professional world. A woman I talked to said, “At work, mentor me and support new opportunities for me.” Everyone needs support and encouragement. Men should celebrate the victories with women, rather than offer a half-hearted, inattentive, “That’s nice, honey!” 8. Be one of the MWGUs — “Men Who Get Us,” a term I learned from local businesswoman, leader and entrepreneur, Gwen Webber-McCleod, who describes her partner as someone who “fully gets me.” She goes on to say an MWGU “understands what it takes for a woman to be successful, believes in her and is always positioned to support and help her succeed.” Although it may take the help of men to bring women’s power, strength and leadership to the forefront, we will all reap the benefits! SWM Chris Allen, a workplace psychologist and executive coach, is the vice president of Insight Business Works. For more information, visit insightbusinessworks.com.

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[We] could all be in the same room; all getting a workout; all having so much fun; all having the team energy behind you; but still get the most out of it for what we were looking for.” — Vanessa Fuleihan, OrangeTheory Fitness franchise co-owner

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Bringing OrangeTheory to the Orange City By Lorna Oppedisano

hen Vanessa Fuleihan tried out a new fitness class — OrangeTheory Fitness — on a trip to Georgia, she loved it. But by no means did she see a future in it. She returned to New York City, where she worked as an event planner, and took a few more hour-long classes from time to time to treat herself. But then she talked to her sister, Heather, who had recently moved home to Syracuse from Florida. The sisters had both been tennis players in college. Heather, a CPA, had always wanted to own a gym. The duo talked about opening a location of OrangeTheory in their hometown of Syracuse, a place to which Vanessa hadn’t exactly planned to return. They took their father, a local cardiologist, to the nearest OrangeTheory gym in Rochester. They were all hooked. “What made him fall in love with the workout and OrangeTheory as a whole is that us at a young age, and former athletes, and then our father in his 70s — who pretty much just walks on a treadmill now for his workouts — could all be in the same room,” Vanessa said. “All getting a workout; all

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having so much fun; all having the team energy behind you; but still get the most out of it for what we were looking for.” OrangeTheory classes are one-hour-long sessions that incorporate endurance, strength and power, Vanessa explained. Gym-goers — 24 to a class — spend time on treadmills, water rowers and weights. Trainers work with the clients before and after class, and individual goals are dependent on the person. The workouts, created by the corporate OrangeTheory office and scientifically-based, can be enjoyed by everyone, Vanessa stressed, adding that their youngest client is in their teens, and the oldest in their 70s. The new Syracuse OrangeTheory location on Erie Boulevard is one of more than 600 worldwide. Buying the franchise territory in their hometown was a no-brainer for the sisters, they explained. Being an “orange town” came in handy, they joked. But it was the readily available network that made Syracuse a good fit. Local businesses and family friends have been more than willing to help, they said. “It’s been nice to see what a small community Syracuse is in that way,” Heather said,

“and how everybody wants to help each other and are excited for other small businesses.” They found an ideal location on Erie Boulevard, centrally located with convenient parking. They began construction in February, and opened mid-May. Vanessa and Heather have proven to be perfect partners. Their strengths and weaknesses as business owners pair perfectly, Vanessa explained. Heather, the CPA, has the head for numbers, while Vanessa, the event planner, thrives off high stress. Being first-time business owners, the sisters have faced a steep learning curve, but know that will help when they open their second franchise location in North Syracuse — hopefully within a year, they said. “It’s definitely been a big learning experience, and it’s definitely helped us both grow a lot throughout the process,” Heather said. “And [it’s] shown us what we’re capable of, too, even at times when we may have doubted ourselves or second-guessed things.” SWM

OrangeTheory Fitness is located at 3150 Erie Blvd. E. in Syracuse. For more information, visit syracuse. orangetheoryfitness.com or facebook.com/OTFsyracuse.

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“It might just be that it’s a break for a year and a half and we’ll s a Syracuse University student, Adam Gold performed live build a new one there,” he said. “There’s a lot of factors to it. I don’t music and served waffles at the house parties he hosted on have all the numbers I need to make that decision, but I certainly Ackerman Avenue. Nearly 11 years later, that concept still thrives as Funk ‘N Waffles, would be interested in it. We had a good thing going there.” Adam still performs at Funk ‘N Waffles and at other locations a unique restaurant and live music venue in downtown Syracuse. throughout the country with his band, Sophistafunk, a group During their junior year, Adam and his housemates were craving which combines spoken-word artistry, old-school hip-hop and waffles. They decided to experiment. The group raided the freezer, funky rhythms to create a unique live band experience, according found Thin Mints and threw them in the batter. Once those were to its website. successfully prepared, they branched out, trying batches including Adam’s interest in music was sparked when he began taking fruit, cream cheese and even bagel chips. piano lessons with his older brothers. He was instantly hooked From there, the group began serving waffles at their parties, on the piano, he said. Soon he was writing his own music where Adam and his band played. When those parties were a hit, and performing. Adam and his friend, Kyle Corea, came up with the idea to turn Sophistafunk has toured across the country and played venues the combination of live music performances and distinct waffle in major cities like New York City recipes into a full-time business. and San Francisco. His favorite “That first party, everybody just performance with Sophistafunk was at went nuts,” Adam remembered. the Shambhala Music Festival in the “They were like, ‘There’re waffles There’s something about music. United Kingdom, he said. at this party.’ They were texting all It’s the universal language. And food “It was just such an experience to be their friends. Everyone was getting out there in another country with my excited. We really felt like we had hit is the same way.” — Adam Gold, buds and my bandmates,” Adam said. something at that point.” Funk ‘N Waffles owner “Just seeing how far the music took us. Adam and Kyle entered their That was really a trip.” idea into the Panasci Business Plan Touring gave Adam the opportunity Competition, a student business to explore how other music venues contest hosted by the Whitman operate. It’s allowed him to improve the procedures and expand School of Management. They received positive reviews from the the musical offerings at Funk ‘N Waffles. judges, and eventually their plan took home fourth place. “[Touring] gives me a little more perspective on what is Following their graduation, the first Funk ‘N Waffles opened happening out there at other music venues,” he said. “The ones on South Crouse Avenue in 2007. Seven years later, the business that I respect the most, I try to take as much as I can and learn expanded to a second location downtown. from them, and apply it to my own business.” This year, Funk ‘N Waffles is branching even farther, this time Charley Orlando, Funk ‘N Waffles talent buyer, first met with a new location in Rochester. Adam said the new location will Adam when both were touring musicians. It’s Adam’s passion be the biggest yet, and will allow Funk ‘N Waffles to host largefor music and food that allows Funk ‘N Waffles to be successful, scale musical acts. Charley said. “There are many, many music venues in Rochester that have “He is this business,” Charley said. “Without him, this would ticketed events on a regular basis,” Adam said. “That just means not exist.” there are people to go see that.” Ten years ago, Adam never imagined Funk ‘N Waffles would Sam Levey, Funk ‘N Waffles general manager, said Adam has grow the way it has. a specific vision for the restaurant and musical acts that perform “I love seeing families come in here and eat waffles and I love there. He’s seen Adam grow during his time owning the business, seeing their kids jump up on stage and get excited about the idea Sam said. of music,” Adam said. “There’s something about music. It’s the “He is a mature and respected business leader in this town,” Sam said. “He’s also a friendly guy who’s still cool and has his finger universal language. And food is the same way.” SWM on the pulse of what’s happening in music, what’s happening in For Funk ’N Waffles locations, menus and calendar, visit funknwaffles.com. this town and what’s happening locally.” To learn more about Sophistafunk, visit sophistafunkband.com. After operating for more than 10 years, the original Funk ‘N Waffles location closed in February, as plans to level the structure and build a luxury apartment complex in its place are in the works. Adam said the restaurant could return to the area by campus once the new building is complete.

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I believe in lifting every voice and making sure that under-represented voices are heard. And so that’s the way I’ve operated in the work that I do and the life that I’ve had.” —George Kilpatrick, Vera House Men’s Outreach program coordinator

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How to Be a Man By Lorna Oppedisano

t was just another normal night. George Kilpatrick was driving After he completed undergraduate studies, George worked in down 481, when suddenly, an idea struck him. the banking industry for a while, and then eventually got a job He’s been in media for decades — radio and television — at city hall as the director of minority affairs, a program aimed but that night, he had an inspiration for a new show. It was given at providing opportunities for women- and minority-owned to him, he said. businesses in the community. “I received a message from God, I believe,” George said, Seeing the good things government could do for its people, “that there was a need for a conversation around uplifting positive George wanted to build on his experience and learn more. contributions, particularly for the African-American community, Fourteen years after his first time at Syracuse University, he returned, this time to Maxwell School of Public Administration in a climate where that information wasn’t readily available.” to earn a master’s degree in public administration. A transplant to Syracuse, George has been initiating Although his original aspirations included returning to conversation and creating platforms for healthy dialogue from government work, George was offered an opportunity in his first years in town as a student at Syracuse University to his marketing. Having always been good with people and interested current position as radio host and Men’s Outreach program in business, he took it. coordinator at Vera House. Then, after about four years, “I believe in lifting every voice and making sure that he turned his full-time attention But what we’re asking men to do is … take to his passion: media. under-represented voices are heard,” George explained. a leadership position. Because while maybe “And so that’s the way I’ve you’re not a perpetrator — we know most operated in the work that I do and the life that I’ve had.” men aren’t — what about your mom? “Being able to be a voice. What about your sister? What about your Telling a story. Making sure that I talk about the issues that I’m partner? What about any woman who’s concerned about. And being a in your life who could be potentially a progressive voice in a conservativedominated industry, still to this victim?” — George Kilpatrick, Vera House Thinking back to his first day. I just wanted to be able to semester at Syracuse University, Men’s Outreach program coordinator break stereotypes,” George said. George remembers a recordThis is what attracted him to setting snowfall, with a hearty media. George’s first venture into laugh. Despite the brutal welcome the industry was in undergraduate studies at Syracuse University to Syracuse’s seasons, he found a great community, and decided with work on public affairs radio shows. to stay. Over the years, he dabbled in TV and radio, including a show Originally from New York City, George had expectations centered around conversation with the mayor during his time in about the small Central New York city, he admitted. Raised by city hall, and a dance show called Syracuse Soul. socially-conscious parents — his mother, “the No. 1 humanitarian,” He started his full-time career in media at WCNY, where he used and his father, “a straight-up activist,” he said — George expected his voice and position to bring issues and concerns to the table. Syracuse to be less progressive than he was used to. “And luckily, gratefully, through the time I was there, there was But as George ventured off campus senior year for a research no issue, no story that I couldn’t tell, that we couldn’t bring to the class, he got to know Syracuse better. air,” George said with a smile. It was the early ’80s. The aim of the class was to work with George was part of a number of different shows with WCNY, the Urban League to report quality of life stories. With the including Hour CNY, Access with George Kilpatrick, and a opportunity to sit with people and learn their experiences and handful of special programming centered around public issues, stories, George found a sense of community, with the Africanincluding an AIDS documentary. American community in particular, that connected him with his Returning to his radio roots, George produced and hosted a new home in a way he hadn’t expected. number of radio programs as well, including 20 years of The “And it was also a way for me to understand that we all have George Kilpatrick Show, and his most current show, New the same dreams, goals and aspirations, depending upon the Inspiration for the Nation. opportunities that we’re exposed to,” George said.

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With his years in media, George has earned a reputation of having a progressive voice — a title he welcomes with a proud smile. And with that experience and position comes pushback. It comes with the territory, George explained with a chuckle. “My thing is this: what I promoted on my show was respectful disagreement and dialogue,” George said. Sure, people won’t agree on everything. They’ll get angry. But at the end of the day, we’re all just passionate about the issues, he explained. “What I’m concerned about today is that we’ve lost the ability to disagree and be able to work through that disagreement,” he said, stressing the importance of coming from a place of sincerity, truthfulness and respect. While George has received a fair number of angry calls and letters — some of them anonymous — he’s also been approached by people who’ve remarked his words have made them think about situations and issues from a slightly different perspective. With his most recent show, George hopes to promote a dialogue he thinks has always been an undercurrent of conversation, but not as overt as it should be. “I wanted to show, especially [to the AfricanAmerican] community, that the success that they

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How to Be a Man from page 29 were looking for wasn’t new,” he explained. “It wasn’t an apparition.” Some of his guests are local, and some aren’t, George said. His aim is to bring new voices and information to people, to give them access to “something really big.” Growing up, George’s parents instilled in him ideas of success and greatness. But he knows not all people are lucky enough to have that influence in their lives. There’s a community of people here whose success isn’t always broadcast, he explained. He wants to show them this success of the African-American community is nothing new, as his parents taught him. “It’s my obligation to make sure that I’m a conduit,” he said, “to make sure that I’m representing that voice.” The reach of New Inspiration for the Nation has expanded beyond Syracuse. Now syndicated throughout the country, George’s voice reverberates into other states and communities. On a recent trip to Las Vegas, one of the show’s broadcast locations, George was talking to his friends, when all of the sudden, a stranger walked up to him and said, “I thought I heard you and recognized you!” “I was like, ‘This is good! This is good,’” he said. In a political climate that tends to polarize people, George often asks the question, “What now?” to his guests. Their answers align with George’s mission of creating a space for dialogue and bettering the community. It doesn’t mean you stop fighting and helping those who might not have a voice, he said. It means you fight for everyone’s access to vote, and place at the conversational table, all while continuing to care for your community and family, he explained. “So I think that’s what our message has always been,” he said. “We’ve still got to do our work. It doesn’t stop.”

Becoming an ally Back in his days at WCNY, George created a lifelong ally: Vera House. His goal of shining a spotlight on under-represented voices included sparking conversation about domestic violence and sexual assault. The two organizations partnered to produce a couple of halfhour specials about domestic violence. In response, George received an email he’ll never forget. George remembered reading that day: “Thank you for that. I did not realize that I was in an abusive relationship, or at least I tried to convince myself that I wasn’t in an abusive relationship, and then you showed me the signs. And I am with someone who is very prominent in the community, and here I am, wearing the mask, walking around.” Another powerful segment George helped produce at WCNY included conversations with the perpetrators themselves. It served as a vehicle to educate others, in showing how the problems could begin and escalate, he explained.

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In 2009, his role with Vera House grew when he was asked to be an honorary co-chair of the White Ribbon Campaign, a monthlong effort to raise awareness about domestic violence and sexual assault. Then, in 2012, the position of program coordinator for the Men’s Outreach program opened up, and Vera House asked George if he would consider taking it. Already familiar with the organization, not to mention being a lifelong advocate of highlighting important social issues, George was a perfect fit. Through a Department of Justice grant — the third of its kind granted to Vera House, this time for a three-year period — George leads a variety of workshops and training for men and boys, to help them understand the role they can play in ending domestic violence and sexual assault. The theme interwoven into most of George’s work — dialogue — plays an important role in his mission with the Men’s Outreach program. The challenge of the job barely ever lies in the discussions themselves, George explained; it’s getting men into the room that’s most difficult. Most men aren’t assailants. So when they hear a conversation about domestic violence and sexual assault, they assume, “Well, that has nothing to do with me.” “But what we’re asking men to do is … take a leadership position. Because while maybe you’re not a perpetrator — we know most men aren’t,” George said, “what about your mom? What about your sister? What about your partner? What about any woman who’s in your life who could be potentially a victim?” Through a variety of programs, ranging from mentorship in schools to partnerships with area organizations, the Men’s Outreach program looks at topics like masculinity, consent and respect. Once they get men or boys into the room, the walls come down, and the participants often feel vulnerable enough to open up and speak freely in honest dialogue, George said. “And they’re free to be challenged around some of their own behaviors and some of their own actions,” he said.

What it means to be a man In a society that’s historically patriarchal, the Vera House Men’s Outreach program conversations are important. Most organizations are open to helping facilitate these conversations, but there are still barriers, George said. Some of the resistance to the work might be due to people’s fear of letting go of that patriarchy, he hypothesized. There’s nothing wrong with the “tough guy,” “John Wayne” version of masculinity, he explained, as long as you’re not using it as a weapon. “What we’re saying is that’s OK as long as you’re not making me have to be that, too,” he said. “We’re saying that there’s different degrees of what a man looks like, and that I shouldn’t have to conform to one notion of that.”

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George stressed that these conversations are important for any man in any situation. In raising their four children, George and his wife made sure to stay conscious of room for discussion. The best example is how they interact, George said with a fond smile covering his face. Looking to the future, George is excited about the potential the Men’s Outreach program has in the community. And — ever that progressive voice — he challenged any men reading this who might think Syracuse Woman Magazine has nothing to do with them to think again. “Because if you care about the women and girls in your life, then we’re challenging you to step up and be a leader in their lives and in your life, with the people that you run with,” he said. “Because that’s where you can have the most impact. Start where you are.” SWM

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From Addiction to Advocacy By Bridget Whitfield

he only thing Ryan Barone cared about, had hope in, and looked forward to was crack cocaine. Once an aspiring actor, substance abuse had caused Ryan to become an empty shell of the man he used to be. He had morphed into a person his family didn’t recognize. Now, years later, Ryan is happily married, raising a child and working as community engagement coordinator at ACR Health. In August, he celebrated seven years clean from drugs and alcohol. “You don’t always see an individual who’s so honest and open about their experiences,” said Daniel Reed, ACR Health senior prevention health advocate. “And I think that has made him to be this beacon in ACR Health, because he’s a wealth of knowledge on so many different levels.” Ryan relapsed in September. Leaving his home in the morning, he spent the next 10 hours using. After, he returned home, and he’s been clean since. The humbling experience — one of the toughest moments of his life — reminded him he will always be in recovery, he said. “My ego started to come into play again, and I thought I had it all figured out,” Ryan said. “It was hard, and it came with a lot of guilt and shame losing seven years.” Ryan’s first contact with drugs was during high school, when he experimented with marijuana. It eventually became an everyday hobby. After his mother discovered the habit and urged him to stop, he backed away from the drug and graduated. But on his first night of college at SUNY Brockport, where he went to study theater, he was tempted again. With the hope of fitting in, he started smoking marijuana. By the following year, he was introduced to psychedelic drugs like ecstasy and acid. He eventually was expelled, with a .008 GPA. Ryan moved home, and made a living selling drugs and bouncing between entry level jobs. A coworker who had been recently released from prison introduced him to crack cocaine, and he was hooked. “I almost knew I was addicted after that first hit,” Ryan remembered.

The next few years were filled with crime, violence, jail time and stealing from those closest to him. Ryan’s mother had no idea about his drug abuse, and was devastated when he admitted to her he was battling addiction. “It was the most difficult seven or eight years of my life,” she remembered. “I told him I used to pray to whoever was there to take me and save him. That’s how painful it was and I just wanted him to be OK.” In 2009, Ryan went to treatment court, and spent 30 days in jail. He decided to turn his life around, spending time in rehab and then a half-way house. Ryan wanted to get a job in public health. When someone suggested ACR Health, he knew he’d found a place where sharing his experiences could help others struggling with drug addiction. Ryan was hired as the community engagement coordinator, and was recently promoted to oversee a new program relating to HIV testing and education throughout Onondaga County. He works with the peer education program at ACR Health. Peer educator Tracie Adams said she greatly appreciates Ryan’s counsel. After Tracie had served two years in prison, Ryan helped her readjust to life in society. “When I came home from prison, I went to talk to him and he gave me his honest opinion,” Tracie said. “He was a great listener and he helped me out a lot.” Ryan admits he’s not a model of perfection. His peers and clients appreciate that. It makes him a role model they can approach in both moments of triumph and moments of weakness. Knowing he helps people save their own lives is “more than fulfilling,” he said. “It’s one of the most amazing feelings,” Ryan said. SWM

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Changing the Conversation By Bridget Whitfield

nthony and Eric McGriff are not the stereotypical feminists. guidelines when handling sexual assault. So far, 10 college campuses have signed contracts with Vera House to educate and train For one thing, they’re men. Both stand almost 6 feet tall. employees. The initiative also connects students who may be They’re biracial, with light skin covered in red freckles. But spend a few minutes talking to the twin brothers, and you’ll struggling with sexual assault with the resources that can help them. start to think otherwise. Eric is reaching out to children before they hit the college level, with hopes of preventing the issues Anthony is addressing. Eric works “We are very outspoken about being feminists,” Anthony said. with students from the kindergarten level to high school in “But we’re not what you would imagine, not what people who are prevention education. He aims to help them build healthy unaware would imagine a feminist looking like.” relationships, and introduces them to programs like Mentors for The duo began standing up for women’s rights when they were Violence Prevention, which instills in students the same skills 16 years old. They volunteered at Vera House, where they now Eric and Anthony use in their advocacy work. serve as peer educators, fighting to correct the falsehoods around Eric also works with men who have committed violent crimes. the idea of masculinity by challenging the way men think. He spends his Mondays visiting 60 men in jail, challenging them Anthony thought back to the stereotypical “male” environment he was surrounded by as a boy. It was a world filled with aggression, on their own beliefs. Whether or not an agreement is reached, he enjoys the open debate and exchange of ideas. fighting and phrases like “man up” and “don’t be a bitch.” As he “One thing about me: I don’t mind being challenged,” Eric said. matured, Anthony grew to actively disagree with this culture. His brother agreed with him. “People who challenge me think I’m While attending Syracuse University, trying to look down on them because the McGriff brothers participated I’m smiling. I’m smiling because We do have our privilege, but we you’re saying something I’ve never in groups like A Men’s Issue, which heard before and you’re really making encouraged men to stand up against try to use it to get men involved in me think.” sexual violence and change the way this work.” — Anthony McGriff, What helps Anthony and Eric in they thought about problems deemed spreading their message is their only as “women’s issues.” Vera House peer educator understanding of the importance of “Some men, they assume that we healthy dialogue. Instead of forcing only talk about women’s rights, but it’s really so much more than that,” Anthony their beliefs on others, they wish to said. “It’s so interconnected. But from the outside looking in, open others’ minds to another way of looking at the situation. [to] people who don’t really know us and why we do the work we Eric explained that once men see women as equal, it’s no longer do, it can be perceived as just women’s issues.” considered weak to show emotion and be loving and nurturing. When he joined a fraternity, his peers first perceived him as a “It’s no longer feminine or not manly to do domestic chores, strange man constantly talking about women’s issues, he rememtake care of your kids or be a stay-at-home dad,” Eric said. “Seeing women and feminine things as equal liberates us to be bered. But once the other students took the time to listen and whoever the heck we want to be.” engage, they began to understand the depth of the issues and how With a firm stance on challenging men to drop their egos and they also affect men. Anthony’s dedication and work then made think outside stereotypical cultural norms, the brothers aim to sense to them. fix the environments that create men with toxic masculinity. The brothers understand that being men of color gives them They hope to inspire men to get more involved with the convera slight advantage. Men they engage in conversation might be sation of gender equality. innately more willing to talk to them than to a woman. Anthony and Eric have the ability to navigate different rooms “My goal 10 years from now is for guys to be like, ‘Oh, you’re filled with people from all walks of life. not a feminist? You’re bugging,’” Anthony said. “I want this “We do have our privilege,” Anthony said, “but we try to use it feminism thing to be cool. I want it to be an inherent part of to get men involved in this work.” being a man.” SWM Anthony has been working with a college campus initiative For more information on Vera House, visit verahouse.org. at Vera House. They hope to assist colleges in following proper

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The Original Man of Teal By Kathryn Walsh

f you’re ever wandering through the Great New York State Fair There’s the state fair booth, or cheering on the Syracuse Crunch, and a silver-haired man an annual walk/run held in Minoa approaches you with a handful of teal ribbons, don’t be alarmed. and a fashion show/brunch event. It’s just Gary Weeks, and he’s come to save your life. The group has raised $800,000 It’s Gary’s mission to spread the word about the symptoms and for research and patient support. risks of a disease he said doesn’t get enough public attention. Gary and Frieda deliver gift baskets to local women fighting An estimated 22,440 American women will receive a new diagnosis ovarian cancer. They’ve also organized two support groups: Sisters in Strength, open to any woman with cancer, and Positively of ovarian cancer in 2017, according to the American Cancer BRCA, for women who have tested positive for BRCA gene Society. About 14,080 women will die. mutations, a diagnosis that dramatically increases a woman’s Gary might seem like an unlikely champion of women’s likelihood of ovarian or breast cancer. reproductive health, but he has a powerful motivator. He and his Other than the BRCA test, there’s no pre-screening test to detect wife, Frieda, are carrying on the work their daughter, Heather, never got to finish. ovarian cancer. The symptoms — which include bloating, pelvic or Heather was a talented dancer and great student. In 2008, abdominal pain and change in appetite — can be hard to identify after completing a “Sesame Street Live” tour and starting a job at as abnormal. That’s why Hope for Heather’s mission is so essential, the Ovarian Cancer Research Fund, she was diagnosed with Gary said. colon cancer. She was 23 years old. “Since there is no test for ovarian cancer and the symptoms are Although Heather didn’t have ovarian cancer, her work at the so vague, the disease is almost always misdiagnosed,” Gary said, OCRF inspired her to get involved in explaining that if symptoms persist for the fight against the disease. She felt more than two to three weeks, women women weren’t getting the information should insist their medical team prove needed to educate themselves about they don’t have ovarian cancer. I lead with a ribbon. That diffuses the ovarian cancer and weren’t talking to Gary spends a lot of time thinking fear and expectation that a woman’s their doctors about it, Gary said. and talking about cancer. As of this “She wanted to make the teal ribbon going to have when a man approaches year, he’s a five-year survivor of bladder cancer. as recognizable as the pink ribbon,” her.” — Gary Weeks, ovarian cancer he explained. “Make sure that all “Five years is kind of a milestone,” research advocate women — regardless of age, race, he said. financial background — all women He does take time for himself with would know about the symptoms of music and trips to the Finger Lakes, ovarian cancer.” but Hope for Heather and its mission are never far from his mind. Heather wanted to run an informational booth at the state fair. He’s involved in all elements of the group’s work, from filing taxes to decorating for events to, of course, handing out “I remember Frieda saying, ‘Yeah, yeah, honey, you just get symptom cards. better and we’ll work it out and we’ll have a booth at the fair,’” “Even when he used to have his cancer treatments, he was Gary said. “She never made it, unfortunately.” visiting all the doctors’ offices in that building, giving them Heather passed away on November 14, 2008, just after her cards,” Frieda said. “I tried to go one day and they were like, 24th birthday. ‘Where’s Gary?’” With a small sum of money that remained from a benefit for Gary’s tenacity and dedication to women’s health have inspired Heather, Gary and Frieda decided to carry out their daughter’s other men to get involved in the fight against ovarian cancer. mission. Hope for Heather was born. Every September, Hope for Heather tasks 30 male volunteers — The next year, Gary used PVC pipes to build a booth. They sold rubber bracelets for $1 apiece and handed out informational the “Men of Teal” — with an important job: not to raise money, materials. The Weekses set up the booth Heather had envisioned. but to pass out cards and ribbons to women they come in contact Getting people to take a break from state fair merriment to talk with, educating them about ovarian cancer. about ovarian cancer proved difficult. Approaching them with “We use guys from all walks of life,” Frieda said. “But Gary is symptom cards didn’t work, Gary realized. He needed a better way our original Man of Teal.” to start the conversation. So he figured out how to make ribbons At the fair this year, be on the lookout for a guy in a teal shirt and enlisted volunteers from his church to make hundreds of them. that says “Heather’s Dad.” He might be wearing a sandwich board “Now when we go out, I lead with a ribbon,” he said. and carrying symptom cards emblazoned with a picture of his “That diffuses the fear and expectation that a woman’s going to beloved daughter. Rain or shine, he’ll be out there, and he’d love to talk. SWM have when a man approaches her.” Today, Hope for Heather organizes three major annual events. For more information about Hope for Heather, visit hopeforheather.org. The annual Teal Ribbon Run is slated for Saturday, September 23, in Minoa. June 2017

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Through various conversations and meetings, Vincent and his s a young black man growing up in the Pioneer housing group were introduced to 100 Black Men of America, a nationprojects on the south side of Syracuse in the early 1960s, wide organization focusing on educating and empowering young Vincent Love didn’t have many role models who looked black teens through mentorship, health and wellness initiatives, like him. His educators, principals and figures of authority were and economic empowerment programs. predominantly white. It was exactly the change he longed to create. But Vincent himself was surrounded by community-wide issues “I’m not one to sit around and talk about issues,” Vincent said. like violence, drug abuse, teen pregnancy and high crime rates. “I want to take action.” Rather than resign to following the life that seemed to be laid out So with his friends, Vincent formed a local chapter of the before him, Vincent forged his own path — and it all began organization. The group contacted Fowler High School to with his mother’s encouragement. coordinate a mentorship program, began recruiting members and “My mother was a very strong advocate of education,” planned an event to introduce themselves and their initiative to Vincent said. the community. Now the treasurer for the North Syracuse Central School There was only one problem: they had no designated leader. District, Vincent also serves on several local boards and is president At the group’s first event, none of the members had put together of 100 Black Men of Syracuse. With the group, he coordinates an agenda or planned a speech to kick off the meeting. mentorship programs for youth growing up in an environment As a self-described “do-er,” Vincent took action. similar to the one he was raised in. “I don’t know what came over me, but I decided to speak up,” His mother’s advice inspired Vincent to excel in math and he recalled. “I talked about the need for a collective voice of men of science, which led him to take college-level courses in high school color in this community to step up to do and gain acceptance to a number of something to help our youth thrive.” universities across the country. But still, Vincent’s vision and initiative led to his circumstances nearly prohibited There was a God watching over him to be named president, a role he has him from pursuing the life he’d always dreamed of. me, and he had a plan for me to be held ever since. He currently oversees 35 group members, and coordinates Unable to raise the funds or scholarhere where I am today. Growing up the mentorship and SAT prep programs, ship money for tuition, Vincent considered in this community, I wanted to give serving approximately 400 students enlisting in the U.S. Coast Guard. a year. That is, until a high school guidance back in whatever way I could.” Education empowered Vincent to counselor called him into his office — Vincent Love, 100 Black Men transcend his life circumstances and seek one day and told him Florida A&M success for himself and for the betterment University was recruiting accounting of Syracuse president of his community. Now, he takes a handsmajors, and Vincent was being offered on role in his organization to empower a full-tuition scholarship. local teens to do the same. Vincent enthusiastically accepted the “I know that if it hadn’t been for the education I received, I never offer, and his entire worldview changed. would be where I am today,” Vincent said. “That’s the kind of “It was a great cultural experience for me,” Vincent said. “To be experience I want to pass on to our young people.” on a historically black campus, to see teachers who looked like me Growing up in a housing project himself, Vincent knows and students who looked like me … That did wonders in terms barriers to success are more than just economic. They are of giving me the confidence to know that I can be successful in emotional. That’s why he speaks with students about their lives my life.” outside the classroom, and works with parents and guardians to After completing his degree, Vincent worked in city and state foster a supportive home environment. government positions across California for more than a decade Although Vincent lacked for role models of color when he before finally returning to Syracuse in 1985 to care for his was growing up, he’s taken it upon himself to become one. elderly mother. Vincent’s own experiences serve as a reminder to teens that “There was a God watching over me, and he had a plan for me success is attainable, and life is worth fighting for. to be here where I am today,” Vincent said. “Growing up in this “Don’t ever feel like your life doesn’t have value,” Vincent said. community, I wanted to give back in whatever way I could.” “There’s a reason that you’re here. You’re worth something, and you After talking with some of his friends about issues facing the have a purpose.” SWM youth in his community, Vincent began helping coordinate meetings for local men of color. They sought to answer one simple, For more information on 100 Black Men of Syracuse, visit 100blackmensyr.org. yet equally complex, question: What can we do?

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UPCOMING SWM Events Friday, June 2 & Saturday, June 3 Taste of Syracuse When: 11 a.m. to 11 pm. each day. What: Includes more than 100 restaurants and vendors and three stages of music. Saturday will feature Pink Power day, starting with breast cancer walk to benefit the Carol M. Baldwin Breast Cancer Research Fund of CNY. Cost: Free admission. Where: Clinton Square, downtown Syracuse. Info: tasteofsyracuse.com. Saturday, June 3 Wine in the Wilderness When: 4 to 9 p.m. What: Annual Utica Zoo fundraiser features wine tasting, food samples, live music and more. Cost: $20 to $75. Where: Utica Zoo, 1 Utica Zoo Way, Utica. Info: uticazoo.org. Saturday, June 3 Paige’s Butterfly Run When: 8 a.m. to noon. What: Options for 5K, 3K and children’s race to benefit pediatric oncology and patient programs at Upstate Golisano Children’s Hospital. Cost: $30 to $45, dependent on race and registration date. Where: Check online for downtown Syracuse race locations. Info: pbrun.org. Sunday, June 4 Spring Into Love Live Wedding Experience and Open House When: Noon to 4 p.m. What: Live wedding gives vendors a chance to meet prospective clients. Cost: $5. Where: Wolf Oak Acres, 6470 Creek Road, Oneida. Info: wolfoakacres.com. Sunday, June 4 Team Save the Base 315 Fundraiser When: Noon to 4 p.m. What: Fundraiser for American Cancer Society’s Making Strides Against Breast Cancer includes food, live music, raffles and door prizes. Cost: $15. Where: Sharkey’s Banquets and Events, 7240 Oswego Road, Liverpool. Info: Search on eventbrite.com. Wednesday, June 7 1 Million Cups When: Doors open, 8:30 a.m.; presentation, 9 to 10 a.m. What: Presentations by local early-stage startup companies aim to draw feedback from peers, mentors, educators and advisors. Open to the public. Cost: Free admission. Where: Syracuse CoWorks, 201 E. Jefferson St., Syracuse. Info: 1millioncups.com/syracuse. 48

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Wednesday, June 7 WBOC Annual Meeting When: 4:30 to 6:30 p.m. What: Annual end of year meeting. Cost: $25; member, $10. Where: Genesee Grande Hotel, 1060 E. Genesee St., Syracuse. Info: wboconnection.org. Thursday, June 8 CEO Presents: Breakfast Stories Presented by VIP Structures When: Registration, networking, continental breakfast, 8 a.m.; program, 8:30 to 9:30 a.m. What: Biannual speaker series features presentation from Ray Halbritter, Oneida Indian Nation pepresentative and CEO of Oneida Nation Enterprises. Where: 441 Electronics Parkway, Liverpool. Info: lmetot@centerstateceo.com. Friday, June 9 My Big Gay Prom When: 8 p.m. to midnight. What: CNY Pride Week kick-off event includes sweet and savory bites, wine and DJ entertainment. No dress code. Cost: $30. Where: Sky Armory, 351 S. Clinton St., Syracuse. Info: skyarmory.com. Friday, June 9 Cystic Fibrosis Fundraiser Yoga Class When: 6 p.m. What: All proceeds to benefit CNY chapter of the Cystic Fibrosis Foundation. All levels welcome. Cost: $5. Where: O Yoga, 5th floor, 1003 W. Fayette St., Syracuse. Info: SWM editor Lorna Oppedisano, laoppedi@gmail.com. Friday, June 9 Rockin’ The Redhouse When: Doors, 5:30 p.m.; concert, 7 to 10 p.m. What: Benefit concert for local nonprofit, The Red House Arts Center. Cost: In advance, $10; at door, $15. Where: Landmark Theatre, 362 S. Salina St., Syracuse. Info: theredhouse.org/rockin-the-redhouse. Various days June 9 through June 18 The Secret Garden When: 8 p.m. What: New adaptation of Tony Award-winning Broadway musical. Cost: $25. Where: Red House Arts Center, 201 S. West St., Syracuse. Info: theredhouse.org.

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Sunday, June 11 City Market When: 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. What: Good from local vendors include ceramics, vintage clothing, furniture, home decor, handmade crafts, antiques and more. Museum admission is free this day. Cost: Free admission. Where: Everson Museum of Art, 401 Harrison St., Syracuse. Info: citymarketsyracuse.com. Wednesdays, June 14, 21 and 28 Wellness Wednesday When: 6:30 a.m.; noon; 5:30 p.m. What: Organized by Metro Fitness. Where: Clinton Square, downtown Syracuse Info: getmetrofit.com. Wednesday, June 14 Speed Networking When: 8 to 10 a.m. What: Opportunity for small group dialogue. Where: Teracai, 217 Lawrence Road E., North Syracuse. Info: centerstateceo.com. Wednesday, June 14 Red Hot. Red Heart. Reception When: 5:30 to 7:30 p.m. What: Fundraiser for American Heart Association’s Go Red for Women campaign includes auctions, music and more. Where: Stickley, Audi & Co. Showroom, Towne Center, 300 Towne Drive, Fayetteville. Info: Syracusegored.heart.org. Saturday, June 17 Plazapalooza When: 10 a.m. to 3 p.m. What: Includes Pancakes for Peace, Juneteenth parade, food trucks, art making, raku firing and artist demos. Cost: Free. Where: Everson Museum of Art, 401 Harrison St., Syracuse. Info: everson.org. Saturday, June 17 Art on the Porches When: 11 a.m. to 5 p.m. What: Features local art, music, entertainment, food and more. Where: Ruskin Ave., Strathmore neighborhood, Syracuse. Info: artontheporches.org. Saturday, June 17 Save the Mansion Annual Home Tour When: 10 a.m. to 2 p.m. What: Twelfth annual tour of Barnes Hiscock Mansion and private Sedgwick homes. Cost: Members, $15; nonmembers, $20. Where: Barnes Hiscock Mansion, 930 James St., Syracuse. Info: grbarnes.org. June 2017

Sunday, June 18 Virtual Father’s Day 5K When: Any time. What: 3.1 miles completed at runner’s choice of location. Portion of registration benefits nonprofit Team Hoyt. Cost: $17, includes custom medal and bin. Info: moonjoggers.com. Wednesday, June 21 Celtic Woman: Voices of Angels When: 7 p.m. What: Multi-platinum international group includes singers Susan McFadden, Mairéad Carlin and Éabha McMahon, as well as Celtic violinist Tara McNeill. Cost: $39 to $69 Where: Crouse-Hinds Theater, 411 Montgomery St., Syracuse. Info: oncenter.org/event/celtic-woman-voices-angels. Saturday, June 24 Ride and Run for the Rescue When: 6 a.m. to 2 p.m. What: Fundraiser for Rescue Mission offers 5K run/walk or five different bicycle courses. Look online for schedule. Cost: 5K, $35; bike, $50. Look online for more fundraising options. Where: Long Branch Park, Liverpool. Info: rescuemissionalliance.org/ride-run-rescue. Saturday, June 24 & Sunday, June 25 Salt City Comic-Con When: 10 a.m. to 6 p.m. Saturday; 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. Sunday. What: Includes celebrity guests, cosplay contests, video games, vendors, prizes, children’s activities and more. Cost: Saturday, $15; Sunday, $10; weekend pass, $20. Where: War Memorial Arena, 800 S. State St., Syracuse. Info: saltcitycomiccon.com. Sunday, June 25 Wine, Women & Song When: Doors, 1 p.m.; show, 2 p.m. What: Featuring CNY Songbirds Donna Colton, Maureen Henesey and Joanna Jewitt. Presented by Red Shoes Black Bag Productions and Owera Vineyards. Includes a glass of wine and hors d’oeuvres. Cost: $20. Where: Owera Vineyards, 5276 E. Lake Road, Cazenovia. Info: oweravineyards.com. Wednesday, June 28 Annual Member Appreciation Event When: 5:30 to 8 p.m. What: Exclusive after-hours event for zoo members and adopt parents includes entertainment, demos and refreshments. Cost: Members and adopt parents, free; guests, $10. Where: Rosamond Gifford Zoo, 1 Conservation Place, Syracuse. Info: rosamondgiffordzoo.org.

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movers AND Shakers Excellus BlueCross BlueShield awards nonprofits

Komen Awards Grant to Crouse Health Foundation

Eight Central New York nonprofit organizations have been chosen from among 200 applications to receive Excellus BlueCross BlueShield’s Community Health Awards. Each award recipient received up to $4,000 of the $110,500 allocated by the company to help fund health and wellness programs in its 31-county upstate New York region. Awards focus on improving the health status of the community, reducing the incidence of specific diseases, promoting health education and enhancing overall wellness. Winning organizations are selected based on the proposed program’s scope of need, goals and the number of people expected to benefit from it.

For more information about mammography screening at the Falk Breast Health Center, or to make an appointment, call (315) 470-5880, or visit crouse.org/mammoappt. To learn more about Crouse’s Spirit of Women, visit crouse.org/spirit.

The Susan G. Komen Twin Tiers Region has awarded a $19,752 grant to Crouse Health Foundation to encourage women in Syracuse and Onondaga Country to seek breast cancer education and screening. The project aims to promote awareness of breast cancer to all women in the region, including those between the ages of 30 and 40 having strong family histories of breast cancer. Crouse’s Spirit of Women program educates, engages and empowers its 6,000 members to make more informed healthcare decisions. The Komen grant will enable Crouse Health and Spirit of Women to continue collaborating with community groups, such as YMCA, Clear Path for Veterans, and Breast Care Partners to increase breast health awareness. Crouse will also be able to increase its outreach to women and their family members who may need financial help to receive the diagnostic services they need.

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The organizations awarded are:

• Brady Faith Center, Syracuse, to establish a pilot community supported agriculture program for low-income families. • Calvary Food Pantry, Auburn, to increase the amount of fresh produce offered to clients of the food pantry. • Catholic Charities of Onondaga County, Syracuse, for the organization’s Refugee Health Services program. • Home HeadQuarters, Syracuse, for its Lead Water Testing Program. • Liberty Resources, Syracuse, to fund the organization’s Whole Health program. • McGraw Lions Club, McGraw, for the organization’s “See” Sight Program. • REACH CNY, Syracuse, to fund the Breastfeeding Café program in Oswego County through December 2018. • Syracuse Model Neighborhood Facility, Syracuse, to fund the Teen Outreach Program for youth ages 10 through 21. Stewarts Holiday Match Grant

GiGi’s Playhouse Syracuse recently received a $500 grant from the Stewarts Holiday Match Program. The organization plans to use these funds to support GiGi’s Playhouse Literacy Program, one-on-one literacy tutoring provided by the playhouse at no cost to participants. The program includes not only direct instruction with the children, but educational outreach to the parents as well.

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CH Insurance recently moved to its new Syracuse-based office in The Atrium Building at 100 S. Salina St., suite 370, Syracuse. The expansion to the new offices reflects the growth and vision of CH leadership and its team. Led by CH founder and CEO Joe Convertino, Sr., and president Joe Convertino, Jr., the CH team is proud of its tradition and innovation. The company recently celebrated its 15th anniversary of serving Central New York. SWM

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