Marriage counseling and self help guide

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Marriage Counseling and Self Help Guide Health psychologists are professionally trained to understand the problems of the human mind and assist people in fixing it. A health psychologist may be required for numerous fields such as within a police department, with schools and children of various ages, in old age homes and hospitals; there are many areas where a health psychologist would be needed. However let us study the role of a health psychologist in a marriage set-up. In this set-up we can divide the family life cycle into 4 parts. The first part is when the couple is a new nest or a new family unit of two members and/ or extended family. Why would a couple need marriage counseling at this happy stage you ask? Because all their lives they have been two independent individuals making decisions for themselves. If they were in a relationship they are unhappy with, they could opt to get out of it. Marriage is tough work when two individuals become a unit. A lot of compromises, understanding and adjustments need to be made and a lot of space needs to be shared with one another. It can get a little difficult to adjust to this complete shift in lifestyle and habits. In order to make new marriages work, couples fear that they have failed and prefer taking help from either their family or a professional therapist. Another stage of life where marriage counseling could be required is when this nest grows from having no additional responsibilities to having a child. Sometimes mothers may have Pre or Post Natal Depression Syndrome which can affect the entire household’s mental health and wellbeing. Sometimes the husbands feel excluded and neglected and may behave in a way that may upset his wife. There is a lot of prioritizing to be done and in that aspect a lot of times two grown adults may find it difficult to accept this selfless lifestyle. Sometimes the husbands do not understand that their wives lives have completely changed. It is to help the couple through this process of change that marriage counseling may be required. Yet another stage where marriage counseling comes into play is when the children have grown up and there are a whole host of things that have changed in the lives of this couple. This couple has grown up together, faced difficulties together and has matured through their problems. They now have obnoxious teenagers who are exploring their identity, sexuality, interests and go through many phases. Through http://www.tanuchoksi.in/


these phases certain communication barriers may arise or behavioural patterns may be adopted that nobody is happy with. It may even take the marriage apart in some cases. Here is where a health psychologist helps this couple understand and go through this phase of their life successfully as well. And the final stage is the empty nest syndrome. Here the health psychologist is able to guide a couple through that phase in their lives where their nest is empty. The children have now gone away to lead their respective lives and the parents feel a sense of purposelessness in their lives.

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