80% is good enough! Eight reasons why you shouldn’t seek perfection in a partner

I was in the hot-tub last week with a friend-of-a-friend, when the notion of perfection made its way into the conversation.

We have become so obsessed with perfection that far-toooften, we magnify the slightest flaws in others and bypass all of the great qualities they may have… But the truth of the matter is that perfection remains vastly overrated.

We demand 100% from our kids, friends, employees_ and we want nothing but a “perfect” partner. As I am getting older, I have become less pedantic. Adopting a laissez-faire approach has given me so much more pleasure than I could ever have imagined_ so I suggest you do the same. Looking for the good in people has truly allowed me to sleep peacefully at night.

For those of you who are in a relationship, let me make it make sense for y’all. You will not find perfection in another human. That’s that. You may

BY DAVIDSON

Louis

Rachel Wolchin once said: “If we were meant to stay in one place, we’d have had roots instead of feet.” On this quest to self-discovery, TC Islander Davidson Louis vowed to travel, write, paint, laugh and forgive. Subsequently, he hopes to find himself and or, leave behind a few pieces of himself. Contact him at hello. octopen@tcinews.tc come close to it, but perfect does not even exist! If you find someone who fulfills most of the things that are “important” to you, keep them.

The tall, dark and handsome man you want will certainly come with multiple baggage. And the ideal woman you have crafted in your head is rather far from what you’ll actually get. So when you find someone who comes remotely close to your ideal woman or man, you should embrace it, because you aren’t perfect either.

Here are eight reasons to let go and worry less when looking for a partner. If she or he is 80%. Take it. It’s good enough.

Perfection Leads To Disappointments

This almost goes without saying and has been backed up by life itself. Expecting perfection in others will most certainly turn into disappointments. Not asking you to accept mediocracy, just be open to human error.

Give It A Go

In so many cases, the less favoured candidates turned out to be the most authentic companions. Be mindful that the perfect partner may come in a less desirable wrapping-paper. So open it.

Perfection Is The Enemy Of Good

Do not waste time looking for perfection. It’s too easy to strive for perfection and lose sight of the fact that you’re, in many cases, doing this at a huge overall cost.

Focusing On Perfection Takes Your Focus Away From The Things That Really Matter

Make a list of the things that matter to you and not the things that are perceived to matter. Someone with integrity matters, someone with lovely hair, not so much.

You Do Not Know It All

You may not know what you really want until you try it. Take some risks.

Look In The Mirror

Just as you have flaws, so is everyone else. Let it go.

Perfection Is Impossible

Every physical thing is in a constant state of change, so even if you think someone is perfect now, they won’t be perfect for long. Give it up. Do not hang up on shallow perfections.

80% IS GOOD ENOUGH

Better settle with someone who ticks 80% of what you’re after as long as they have a good heart. The 80% can well be your 85% in the end. It is as good as it gets.

WHAT DOES THE PERFECT PARTNER LOOK LIKE?

I am intrigued to find out. Share and sent to louisedens@gmail. com