What’s your love language?

Let’s cut to the chase. Love is hard. And if, for any reason, you think it’s easy, just wait and see — it will get hard really quickly. And when that happens, you have the option to stay or leave. To fight and really build a relationship or to start over in the hopes that the next relationship won’t get hard. However, that’s naive, because sooner or later you will be disappointed.

You are the author of this book. It is entirely up to you to decide how you want to love and how you want to be loved. At some point, you will have to think about how you want to be loved. This is where it gets complicated, because the person you end up with, may crave something totally different from you.

This week, I asked everyone I know what their love language was, and all of them gave me the same dull responses: Act of services, physical touch, words of

BY DAVIDSON LOUIS

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Paying Attention

This is not just about praising and giving compliments. Words are more important than deeds for this type. People who prefer this love style want to feel that their partner is paying attention to their personal qualities and the little triumphs of their lives. Look for the smallest things in your partner and make a big deal about it. That is a winner!

Emotional

Be emotionally present! Know when to stay calm and when to manage your ups and your downs. I am differently running to the hill if I notice slight irregularities in emotions in someone. This type feels loved when they receive caring support during emotionally challenging or vulnerable times.

Financial

People with the financial love style feel loved and valued when their partner shows generosity with finances in order to bring them joy. Treats and surprises are certainly part of this love style, but it is not limited to receiving gifts. Gucci, Prada, Louis Vuitton are welcome. Financial security however is the ultimate component here.

Intellectual

Connecting through the mind. They feel loved when their partner values their intelligence, respects their opinion, and takes part in thoughtful discussions of important issues. While the Intellectual love style includes a desire to spend quality time together. It also focuses more specifically on a meeting of minds and valuing each other's intelligence.

Practical

Practical love is about going “above and beyond”, and doing things that are unexpected and specifically for the benefit of your partner. I am more interested in what you do.

Activity

People with the activity love style feel special and valued when their partner takes an interest in their hobbies, interests and makes an effort to enjoy those activities together. The motivation here is the link that is present when both parties are engaged in the same activity, it goes beyond just the time spent together. Try to indulge in your partner’s hobby, however dull it may be. What other love language can you think of? Do share with me, email louisedens@gmail.com if you can think of anything else.