How To Deal with Bullies Study Guide

by Bruce A Cooper

A Note to the Reader:

This e-book is intended to entertain and bring back to memory a simpler, more innocent time.

It is a tale of yesteryear in the last century. In days of old when boy scouts were bold.

They boldly went on long hikes, camped in the wild, climbed mountains, yes before cell phones, signaled to each other using signal flags, feel how they felt when they completed a mile swim, and learned many things, but also remembered to have fun along the way.

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For Students:

Please review this web link:

https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Bullies

Here is a summary of what was presented:

1. Deflect the bully with humor. Laugh it off to show the bully they can’t control your emotions.

2. Avoid the bully as much as possible. When your bully doesn’t see you, they won’t bully you.

3. Ignore the bully and walk away. Pretend you can’t hear and deny them the satisfaction of getting to you.

4. Stand up for yourself. Gather your courage and firmly tell the bully, “no.”

5. Use neutral language to describe the bully’s actions. Unemotional language makes it easier to talk without getting upset.

6. Distract yourself from the bully. Use distraction tactics so the bully can’t see how you really feel.

7. Stick close to your friends. Bullies are less likely to pick on you when you’re not alone.

8. Report the bullying to an authority figure. Tell an adult that you trust so they can help you deal with your bully.

9. Practice self-affirmations. Recite affirmations and remind yourself to be proud of who you are.

10. Stay positive. Resist the urge to insult your bully and sink down to their level.

11. Manage your stress. Stress-relieving techniques can make bullying feel less overwhelming.

12. Consider the bully from a new perspective. Bullies are unhappy people who take out their frustrations on others.

13. Help other people with their bullies. Stop the cycle of bullying by being an ally to other people.

Questions to help you analyze this story:

• How did Brian describe the bully’s actions (find two places)?

• How did Brian and Larry’s walking together stop the bulling of Frank?

• What did Brian and Larry say to make Frank feel better?

• How did Brian and Larry use humor?

• Describe how positive boy scout experiences builds confidence and self-worth using at lease three examples from the story?

• How did Brian inner strength prevent the bully’s actions from being successful?

• How did the bully feel after his last encounter with Brian?

• What other actions could the boy scouts use to handle the bulling that was not presented in the story?

Additional Web Links with Further information to ponder:

https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-dealwith-bullies-5213915

https://www.verywellmind.com/social-supportfor-psychological-health-4119970

About the Author

In his youth, BRUCE was a Boy Scout and obtained the rank of Eagle Scout. He credits his parents’ encouragements as a major factor in obtaining the rank of Eagle. This story although fictional is loosely based on his experiences as a boy. It was a simpler and more innocent time. He hopes you enjoy reading this e-book and please encourage him to write more e-books.

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