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Christian Unity • sche,duled serVlc,es Churches in New Bedford and Fall River have announced ob servances of the annual Week of Prayer for Christian Unity which begins Tuesday, Jan. 18, and will conclude Tuesday Jan. 25. The Greater New Bedford Clergy and Religious Association will sponsor a service in New Bedford at 7:30 each night of the week, as follows: - Tuesday, Jan. 18: Trinity United Methodist Church, 473 County Street (at Elm); - Wednesday, Jan. 19: St. Martin's Episcopal Church, County and Rivet Streets; - Thur~day, Jan. 20: St.

Paul's United Methodist Church, Kempton St. and Rockdale Avenue; - Friday, Jan. 21: South Bap tist Church, 745 Brock Avenue; - Saturday, Jan. 22: Union Baptist Church, Court and Cedar Streets; - Sunday, Jan. 23: St. Law rence Catholic Church, County and Hillman Streets; - Monday, Jan. 24: Friends' Meeting House, Seventh and Spring Streets; - Tuesday, Jan. 25: Pilgrim United Church of Christ, 635 Purchase Street.

In Fall River an ecumenical service will be held at 7 p.m. Tuesday, Jan. 18, at Our Lady of liealth Church, 642 Cam bridge Street. The homilist will be Rev. Gerard Blais, pastor of St. Paul's Lutheran Church, Fall Rtiver. Sponsored by Niagara Neighborhood churches, includ ing SS. Peter and Paul Catholic Church, the service is open to all area residents. The national theme for the 75th annual Unity Week is "Jesus Christ, Life of the World." The diocesan chancery office has distributed prayer leaflets and a Unity Week poster to all parishes and pastors are

encouraged to hold services dur ing the Unity Week. The suggested 1983 prayer ser vice incorporates the ancient Breastplate of St. Patrick which begins "I arise today through mighty strength, the invocation of the Trinity, through belief in the threeness, through confess ion of the oneness of the Creator of creation." Began in 1908 The prayer service was de veloped by the Graymoor Ecu menical Institute, run by the , Turn to Page Six

Code's meaning By Jerry Filteau NC News It Is expected that Pope John Paul II will issue the revised Code of Canon Law Tuesday, Jan. 25. Some questions and an swers about it follow. Q. What is the Code of Canon Law? A. The Code is a unified com pilation of canons or laws gov erning the Latin Rite Roman Catholic Church around the world. Before 1917 there was 110 such code but at that time, after 14 years of work, the first uni fied body of law was issued. The new code has been in prepara tion for 20 years, involving the most extensive consultation with the world's bishops and other experts ever undertaken by the church.

Q. When will the new code

take effect? A. This is up to the pope and will be stated in the official promulgation decree. It is likely that there will be a delay before new canons are effective, afford ing time for education and prepa r~tion for those affected by them. Some confusion will almost surely arise. An example of this, important for the United States, concerns the American proce dural norms, simplified proce dures used in U.S. church tri bunals for marriage cases since 1970. In 1975 the Holy See ex tended permission to use those norms "until the new order of matrimonial court procedl1re is promulgated for the Latin church.~' U.S. church officials admit uncertainty as to whether Tum to Page Three

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THE ANCIENT PSALM, 'I will go in to the altar' of God, to God who giveth joy to my youth,' is brought to mind by these transitional deacons, ordained last Saturday at St. Mary's Cathedral. From left, Paul Caron, Richard Andrade, John Perry.

New parley on pastor,al By Jim Lackey WASHINGTON (NC) - The committee of U.S. bishops pre paring a pastoral' letter on war and peace has begun writing the third draft 0 fthe letter and has met. again with Reagan admin istration officials in an attempt to clarify certain aspects of U.S. defense policy. Cardinal-designate Joseph L.

Bernardin of Chkago,. chairman of the five-member committee drafting the pastoral letter, char acterized the two-hour meeting Jan. 7 with administration offi cials as "constructive." "We didn't resolve all of the difficulties," said Archbishop Bernardin in an interview with NC News. But the meeting did result in clarifications by both

the war and peace committee and by the administration on cur rent defense policy and on points made in the second draft of the pastoral, he said. In addition to meetipg with ad ministration offcials during pre paration of the third draft, Arch bishop Bernardin said meetings are scheduled in Rome this Turn to Page Two

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Friday, Jan. 14, 1983

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VATICAN CITY (NC) - The by the pope are Bishop Joachim Meisner of IBerlin, whose diocese Jan. 5 naming of- 18 new car is made up of, territory in both dinals by Pope John Paul II Direction of demonstrates his desire to de~ East and West Germany; Arch Rev. J. Joseph Kierce velop a body more representa bishop Jozef Glemp of Warsaw Author and Producer of tive of the worldwide church and Gniezno, Poland; and Arch The N,ew England Passion Play and to recognize church leaders bishop Franjo Kuharic of Za liTHE CHRISTUS" greb, Yugoslavia. in communist-run countries. When the 18 new members Of the 138 members of the col join the college Feb. 2, they will lege, 120 are under 80, thus eli increase by seven the number gible to vote for a pope under of nations represented and in current church rules. They're clude, for the first time in years, flect a' European dominance. 'In a cardinal living in the Soviet the new college, they will numUnion. 'ber 59 Europeans, 14 Africans, Thailand, Lebanon, Ivory Coast, 12 North Americans, 20 Latin' Yugoslavia, Angola, New Zea Americans, 11 Asians and four land and East' Germany -will be from Oceania. added to the 50 countries repre Although two of Pope John TOUR 1 - EASTER VACATION IN THE sented by the college's 120 cur Paul's appointees are over 80, HOLY LAND AND JORDAN! + either rent members. his general thrust is toward giv ROME (THE HOLY YEAR!) or EGYPT OP· Four of the new members are ing the College of Cardinals a TION - $290. CARDINAL-DESIGNATE Bernardin at news confer from East Europe, doubling the younger face.

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Cardinal~designate Alfonso ment. (NC/UPI Photo) FOR ONLY dinals to eight. The Soviet Union, previously Lopez Trujillo, 47, of Medellin, represented only by 90-year-old Colombia, will be the youngest 'Do good, darling' Cardinal Josip Slipyi,long-exiled member of the college. APRIL 3 - 10 Jesuit Father Henri de Lubac, Includes three meals a day, sightseeing archbishop of Lvov in the Uk 86, an internationl!lIy known'

and 1st class hotels. See Amman and raine, will have a cardinal with Qumran. Jericho and Jerusa1em, (Old and in its borders. He is Bishop Juli French theologian and writer,

New), Bethlehem and Bethany, Nazareth jans Vaivods, 87, apostolic ad was the only non-bishop on the and Cana, Tiberius and Haifa, Caesarea Archbishop Bernardin said he CHICAGO (NC) - Cardinal pope's list. He and fellow Jesuit and Tel Aviv, Dead Sea and Sea of ministrator of the Latvian dio designate Joseph L. Bernardin of thought it would be "improper. Galilee (Cruise), Garden of Agony and ceses of Riga and Liepaja. Archbishop Martini will join 20 Chicago Jan: 5 call~d his eleva to have a huge an~ costly cele Way of Cross, Waring Wall and Dome of The other church leaders from other cardinals belonging to reli- '

tion to the College of Cardinals bration of his elevation. He sug Rock, Mounts of Carmel, Temptation, East European countries named gious orders. Transfiguration and Beatitudes! "a tribute to the goodness" of gested that those who' might be planning to charter a flight to the Catholics of Chicago. TOUR 2 - HOLY YEAR IN ROME! p'us Rome to attend the consistory ITALY, FRANCE, ENGLAND, GERMANY, He also said it was an "affir AUSTRIA, HOLLAND. SWITZERLAND, might· donate the money to mation" of the work an ad hoc MONACO, THE VATICAN! GRAND EURO· charity instead. PEAN TOUR Continued ~rom page one Paul-Minneapolis, president of committee of U.S. bishops which he heads is trying to do in draft The archbishop will become month with representatives of the National Conference of Cath- ' FOR ONLY war and ing a pastoral letter on the 10th U.S. cardinal. the French, West German, and olic Bishops; Msgr. Daniel F.

peace. Two of the American prelates NCCB general secretary,

Hoye, British bishops'! conferences. "An honor of this kind also are over 80 years of age, thus The third draft of the pastoral and FatherJ. Bryan Hehir, NCCB

ineligible to vote for a pope. JULY 14-30 is scheduled to be debated by staff adviser to the war and has a personal dimension," Arch bishop Bernardin said at a news They are Cardinal Patrick A. peace committee. Visit London and Paris. Rome and F1or· the U.S. bishops at a special ence, Munich and Innsbruck, Venice and meeting in Chicago May 2-3. O'Boyle, 86, archbishop of Wash conference. "I am deeply grate While in Washington Jan. 6-7 ful to the holy father for the con Pisa, Geneva and Genoa, Amsterdam and . ington from 1948 to 1973, and Archbishop "Bernardin said the the war and peace committee be Rotterdam; -Berne and Lucerne, MontI} Cardinal Lawrence J. Shehan, fidence he has placed in me." Carlo and Nice. Frankfurt and Heid~l· meeting with administration of gan redrafting the pastoral. Arch 84, archbishop of Baltimore from berg, Cologne and Cortina, Grenoble and ficials, including representatives At the news conference Arch bishop Bernardin noted that the Calais + Rhine River Cruise! 1961 to 1974. that bishop Bernardin recalled from the State and Defense de third draft would follow the (Schedu!ed flight from/to Boston partments and the National Se Two others are retired arch in appointing him to Chicago, same general outline as the sec or N.Y.! ' bishops: Cardinal John F. Dear-' the pope used the word "maxi curity Council, was a follow-up ond. TOUR 3 - THE GOLDEN WEST, CANYON: to a critique of the second draJt den, 75, archbishop of Detroit ma," meaning "largest," to de LANDS, LAKE TAHOE, YOSEMITE, DIS· from 1950 to 1980, and Cardinal He said the committee would scribe the archdiocese, the larg NEYLAND CALIFORNIA, ARIZONA, by William P. Clark, President John J. Carberry, 78, archbishop ~gain in Washington Feb.

meet Reagan's national security ad in the country, with 2.4 1J1i1 est UTAH, NEVADA! SEE THE WONDROUS. of St. Louis from 1968 to 1979. 17-18. It has set a March 15 lionCatholics. HISTORIC BEAUTY SPOTS OF OUR OWN viser. COUNTRY. One is a Vatican official: Car- . "The Latin word can also mean Clark, whose critique of the deadline for completion of the

dinal William W. 'Baum, 56, ap proposed pastoral was delivered third draft so that it can be in the 'greatest,''' Archbishop Ber FOR ONLY the hands of all U.S. bishops by nardin said. "I have come to be pointed prefect of the Congrega to the bishops during their dis 1, one month before the lieve that too of this unique tion for Catholic Education in April - , cussion of the seCond draft at a part of the universal church." 1980 after seven years as arch meeting in Washington last . Ctticago special meeting. AUGUST 6-23 bishop of Washington. November, complained that the Asked what his mother Tour San Francisco and Los Angeles, draft reflected "fundamental mis thought of the pope's announce The others are: Sacramento and the Wine Country, Son· ment, Archbishop Bernardin said ora and San Joaquin VaHey, Bass Lake readings. of American policies." - Cardinal Terence J. Cooke, and Carmel·by·the·Sea, Monterey and she was enthusiastic. . 61, named archbishop of New Thus, according to Archbishop Big Sur, Hearst Castle and Morro Bay, York in 1968 and a cardinal in Bernardin, the meeting between hequoted his "Its wonderful," Solvang and Santa Barbara, Santa Mon· Ica and the swallows of Sanjuan Capis· the committee' and administramother as saying about the new 1969. Letters are welcomed, but should be no trano, HOllywood and Beverly Hills. San tion officials was "generally a more than 200 words. The editor reserves Cardinal John J. Krol, 72, honor. "I love you very much," • • • the right to condense or edit. II deemed Diego and option to Tijuana, M~xico. presentation of their (the admm- , necessary. 'All letters must be signed Ind she, told the newly-named' car named archbishop of Phila Yuma and Gi'a Bend, Phoenix and istration's) part to us in which include I home or business address. delphia in 1961 and a cardinal in dinal. "Do good, darling." Scottsdale, Monte7.lIma Castle and Se·

dona. the Grand Canvlln and Lake Pow. t?ey explained various dimenArchbishop Bernardin said he 1967. ell. Bryce' Canyon, Zion National Park slons of our (U..S.) defense

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Dear E.ditor: try. ' 73, a native of Ireland, named (Scheduled fright from/to Boston or N.Y.! No additional meetings with I for one am very glad to see In, a separate interview with archbishop of Los Angeles in Inc'udp.s two mea's a day. tins for administration officials are plan 1970 and a cardinal in 1973. articles appear in the Anchor the Chicago Catholic, archdioce baggage and rooms. d~luxp' and 1st class ned, Archbishop Bernardin said, concerning nuclear war. As a san newspaper, Archbishop Ber hotels and air·conditioned coach. - Cardinal Humberto Med although one could be held if father of five children I stl'ongly nardin said he was surprised at lAir fares subject to change) eiros, 67, a native of the Azores, either the committee 'or the ad believe that parents must voice the speed of his elevation to the named archbishop of Boston in SPACE LIMITED - CALL NOW ministration finds it useful. their opinion. I am also pleased College of Cardinals. 1970 and a cardinal in 1973. The administration officials -to see the bishops-oppose nuclear REV. J. JOSEPH KIERCE Many had expected that he St. Ifevln Rectory , were headed by Deputy Secretary ·weapons. Please continue to would be. named a cardinal, since _ ..•.."'........""""""..'"" ..•.._ _...,'''..''''"n'''''...... I'_.

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The program for the ball, for which tickets will be available at the door, follows: - 8 to 8:45 p.m.: dance music in the ballroom by the Art Perry orchestra;

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Youngsters attending the Naz· areth Hall schools and summer camps will benefit from this top event on the New England social calendar.

Tonight will be the prelate's 13th appearance as ball guest of honor.

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Thousands of friends of ex· ceptional and underprivileged children will dance tonight to the music of the Art Perry and Al Rainone orchestras at the 28th annual Bishop's Charity Ball at . Lincoln Park Ballroom, North Dartmouth.

A highlight of the evening will be presentation of 37 young ladies from diocesan parishes to Bishop Daniel A. Cronin. With elaborate ceremony each pre sentee, escorted by her father or other relative, will be intro duced to the bishop.

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What will new code mean?

Continued from page one In the long run, yes. this means that the special norms One important aspect of the can be used until the new law new code is that many areas of goes into effect, or whether church Iife once governed in de their use must end on Jan. 25 tail from Rome are now govern - 9 p.m.: introduction of Art when the new code is announced, ed at the world level by more CjlJi:i;;;;=~7.· Perry orchestra in the ballroom; even if new procedures do not general, flexible norms. More ......liI::lf:illll_ _:::::'~ - 9:05 p.m.: Bishop Daniel A: go into effect until several specific legislation is left at the Cronin is escorted to his box by months later. They may have to local - primarily the diocesan George G. Mendonca, president, ask the Vatican for a ruling on - level. 391 HANOVER STREET . Whether one is talking of the New Bedford district council, the question. FALL RIVER, MASS. Q. Will the new code make old code or the new, it is funda Society of St. Vincent de Paul, any difference ao the average mental that the life of the church and Miss Ethel M. Crowley, presi For. individuals who should not be living- Catholic? is basically spiritual, and law dent, Diocesan Council of Cath alone, but who do not need the expensive 'care A. Not immediately. Most can neither force nor prevent the olic Women, honorary ball co changes in the Mass, administra life of the spirit. Two liturgical of a nursing home, Hanover House can become chairmen; tion of the sacraments and fast celebrations in neighboring par a beautiful alternative. - 9:10 to 9:35 p.m.: introduc and abstinence regulations have ishes can fulfill the letter of the tion of presentees to Bishop Cro already been made and will mere law in every respect, yet be vast Located adjacent to the new Charlton nin by Robert McGuirk, Taunton ly be officially included in the ly different in their spiritual and Memorial Hospital, guests at Hanover House area Society of St. Vincent de code. There are, however, long pastoral richness. enjoy gracjous independent living, courteous Paul; range innovations in the new Q. How specifically does the staff members are available at all times to - 9:35 to 10 p.m.: dancing; new code differ from the old? code. - 10 p.m.: Grand March; sing provide assistance as needed, including the For example: substantive hUe A. The new code is much ing of National Anthem by Ken man rights within the church are shorter, about three-fourths as serving of meals, the monitoring of medica eth Leger; introduction of Bishop for the first time recognized and long· as the old code. While the .tions, assistance with personal hygiene, many Cronin by Msgr. Anthony M. protected by law; procedures old code was modeled on Europ:' diversified activities programs, etc. Hanover Gomes, diocesan ball director; are established to protect those ean civil law, the new code reo . House has private accommodations for both dancing until 1 a.m. rights; and a number of laws flects Vatican II theological long term and short term stays.. that discriminated a;;ainst women views of the church; the sacra are changed to eliminate this. ments, for example, which are Highest Prayer For Further Information Contact: On another level the new code central to the church's life, are "The goodness of God is the also central to the structure of highest prayer and it cometh exhibits a very different atti MRS. GREENWOOD down to the lowest part of our tude toward the role of law in the new code. The new code reo At 675 -7583 the church, an attitude it is flects Vatican II's emphasis on need." - Juliana of Norwich hoped will gradually pervade the importance of the local Catholic life. Those brought up church - the diocese headed by before Vatican II remember those the bishop. days of legalism when eating meat on Friday was a mortal sin and people calculated the January 15 Communion fast to the minute. Rev. Thomas F. Kennedy, Pas tor, 1948, St. Joseph, Woods Hole They also recall. the post-Vatican Rev. Msgr. John E. Boyd, 1977, II attitude, when many seemed St. Patrick, Wareham (Retired to reject anything that smacked of law or authority. The shift to Pastor) a law based on theological and -C.OMPlETE HEATING SYSTEMS January 17 pastoral principals is expected am & IMSTALLATIOIrl PIlOMPT DELIVERIES Rev. John Laughlin, Retired to evoke a new respect for law DIESEL OIU Pastor, 1967, Holy Ghost, Attle among't:atholics without the leg 24 boro alistic attitudes of old. HOUR SERVICE Q. Will life nn my pall'ish or January 20 465 NORTH FRONT $T . diocese be changed by the new Rev. Roland J. Masse, Assis NEW BEDFORD 1 tant, 1952, Notre Dame de code? A. Immediately, probably not. Lourdes, Fall River

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'Immigration Concerns I

Social scientists, historians and that the United States is in the midst waves of immigration in its history. since 1975 the country has annually immigrants, legal and illegal.

demographers agree of one of the largest It is estimated that received one million

What differentiates this tide of immigration from past American experiences is that it is not European. Today, Latin America and Asia account for 82 percent of all immigrants. A 1982 Roper poll found that 68 percent of those ques tioned wanted to decrease the number' of immigrants. The . same poll found that most respondents considered immi grants from Mexico, Korea, Vietnam, Central Ameri~a and' Haiti to be quite undesirable. It also indicated that many feel that America has lost control of immigration, that the country is being "invaded," that the large Latino influx threatens to turn the United States into a Spanish Quebec and that America's racial composition is being dramatically -altered. It is also evident that there is increasing opposition to this new immigration. Union leaders, politicians, commen tators such as Theodore White and Eric Sevareid and advo cates of zero population growth, all have seemingly joined in warning Americans that this country is forming into massive separatist camps. Some scholars warn that if immigration is unchecked, what is identifiable as America will soon disappear. Many 'historians, however, point· out that what is occurring is not new to American life. The consensus is that, like peoples of the past, the new immigrants will be absorbed' into the mainstream of American life. Over time, they say, there is little likelihood of the' United States becoming bilingual. English is overpoweringly the language of the marketplace. Most immigrants want to be in that marketplace. National TV, national brands and national corporations, together with compulsory education, all factors nonexistent in the past century, will eventually Americanize these immigrants. History has also shown that no major ethnic 'Suffer the little children tn come unto me and forbid them not; for of such group in the United States has succeeded in transmitting its , is the kingdom of God.' Mark 10:14 tongue and culture to its third generation. All in all,one can find nearly as many opinions on this subject as there are immigrants. Yet some facts should be faced in the near future for the total welfare of the country and indeed of the immigrants themselves.

Sex no, violence .yes

By Michael Gallagher learn that St. Paul called our thousands and thousands of For example, past immigrants were marked by a diver -bodies temples of the Holy Spirit cockroaches stir and then start sity of -tongues. Today more than one half our newcomers Recently I talked to the pleas that should regard them to pour out of its mouth. and speak Spanish. There is also no doubt that the new immi ..ant Catholic mother of three as such? we If reading about all this is She would never let grants account for a higher share of population growth than children, one a preteen. She saw her children see a movie that loathsome, think what seeing it nothing wrong with taking her contained nudity. But, tell me, is must be like. Yet when I saw do longer-settled Americans. children to see "Creepshow." Yes, nudity in movies, in terms of it preteens were all around me, It is evident that no one will remain unaffected by, this she thought some parts of it violating the sanctity of the despite its R-rating. They hooted migration of peoples. American citizens have made or will were a bit "gross," but it was be forced to make some important judgments of conscience - good as a "spoof." Nor is she temple of the Holy Spirit, really and howled, of course, at the so much worse than graphic vio worst sections: Though I won in this regard. ,altogether untypical. Many lence' directed against the hu der if they really felt that way Catholics seem to be at full alert man body? As this is done it would be well if those already estab or if they were ashamed to act lished in this land remembered that they too are nearly all with 'regard to sexual material otherwise in front of their peers. Consider ,the following inci IBut I'm being too stuffy, you descendants of immigrants and that their ancestors came in films but careless with regard dents, all of which occur in to violence. say. It's all a spoof, you see. It's to these shores for the same basic reason as today's new "Creepshow." A walking corpse, As a further irony, this Cath rotted and slobbering, takes a so horrible that it can't be meant Americans. . olic mother might, as do many , terrified woman by her head and as real. So it's a spoof - get it? If this is kept in mind, perhaps our new neighbors will Catholics I encounter in the gives it a half-twist with appro If you do get it, then you and I be greeted with an open hand, not a clenched fist. course of giving talks, consider priate sound effects so that she have to part company. I'll take .

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humanism as one of the great scourges of the age. Such is the effect of a particularly virulent form of Protestant anti-intellect ualism upon those Catholics who apparently have no idea that the . writings of St. Thomas Aquinas had much to' do with the origin 'of humanism and that St. Thorn , as More was an outstanding hu manist. But, Aquinas and More aside, did this mother, I wonder, neve.r

is facing backwards. Later we get a closeup of a man buried to his neck in sand drowning as the tide covers 'his head. His mouth yields a final air bubble as his eyes glaze over in pain and terror. Another man, his en· tire body covered with' a green vegetable growth, fumbles for a shotgun and blows off his head. Finally, the dead' white skin of a corpse suddenly begins to squirm and bulge grot~squely as

humanism any day to the kind of Catholicism that may draw the line at nudity but accepts the most frightful and nauseating violence with equanimity as long as sex doesn't seem to be in volved. Gallagher is afim. reviewer for, the U.S. Catholic Conference Department of Communication. His reviews _frequently appear in The Anchor's television and film column.

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Family Night

A ,veekly at-home program for families

sponsored by the Diocesan Office of Family Ministry

OPENING PRAYER Gentle Jesus, help our family to learn to be more trusting of your Spirit's guidance in our daily lives. Dear Jesus, help us to be aware of your presence in the little things in life as well as the big. Be especially with us as we share this Family Night. Amen.

TO THINK ABOUT Most of us do trust God with the big things in life; like the fact that the sun will rise and set daily. Yet, it's often hard to trust God in the other things of life. He may have a plan for our life but we may want something different. It's hard to trust God daily with our plans, our hopes, our dreams. Yet, if we can't trust God, where are we?

ACTIVITY IDEAS Young Families TRUST TRAIN Materials: col~ ored construction paper, scissors, pens, glue or tape. Cut out shapes to make an engine and then a car for every member of the family. Share some ideas about our trusting God. Use lots of examples from nature. Think of some ways the family can

trust God more in their daily lives. Write a family member's name on each car with Jesus marked on the engine. Share some ideas why Jesus should be the engine on the train. Hang the Trust Train .in the eating area for the next few weeks.

Middle Years Families TRUSTING IS . . . POSTER Materials: magazines, scissors, glue, posterboard, and pen. Sit down and brainstorm all the ways the family counts on God. Look especially to natural hap penings. Then together create a poster completing the phrase, "Trusting Is . . . " Answer and share ideas on "The more, we trust God, the more we trust one another." True or false? Why?

Adult Families Share some thoughts on why at times it's difficult to trust God in our daily lives. Read to gether Isaiah 12:2, John 4:46-53, and then 1 Corinthians 1:21.

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Several years ago when our boys were shorter than I am, one of them came home from elementary school dejected and not hungry. So I knew something had gone wrong at school and I asked, "What's wrong, Steve?" "Nothing," he answered so quickly and emotionally that I knew indeed he had a problem. I also knew enough not to press him so he eventually' offered me his suffering. "I was the 1ast one chosen to day," he said. Suddenly the pain of childhood came back to me in full force. Remember being the last chosen? Maybe you weren't, but I was usually the last chosen in any game requiring speed, be it foot ball, porn-porn pull-away, or tug of-war. I figured it wouldn't help much to share my story with Steve ,be cause I'm Mom and mothers aren't expected to have played ball well but I was wrong. I did tell him and it did help. He laughed when I told him my four brothers would force me to play ball because they needed a team but then none of them wanted me on their team. And the side that got me usu ally added the ultimate humilia tion by wailing, "Do we have to take her?" They put me in the least significant spot and assign ed me to chasing balls while they rested between hits. Great fam

ily sport. The reason my story helped Steve was that he realized, per haps for the first time, that I knew how he felt - unvalued, awkward, and unliked. That was several years ago and now my fast and tall son would probably laugh over that day but hope that someday in the future he, too, will draw upon its remem bered pain if his own child is the last one chosen. I've reflected since that we are all the last one chosen in some areas of life but we are also the first chosen in others. I was the last chosen in child hood sports, maybe, but the first chosen to write a play or a pep assembly: A friend was never chosen in an election but she was the one everyone went to for ideas on prom themes and gym decorations. Some first chosen athletes complain that they aren't even considered for academic achievement, even though they are bright. Often we parents neglect to let our children know that we failed as children, thinking in some unfathomable fashion that if they discover we weren't al ways on top of life, it might give them permission to let up. Yet, this might be what they need most to know - that their par ents were and are human and struggling, just as they are. Our failure to admit our weak nesses, failures and experiences

SNACK TIME Put a .different perlion in charge each week to make and serve the snack. An idea - gra ham crackers with melted marsh mallows on top. It's called "Jan uary snowstorm."

Doctors, shot down The lame-duck session of Congress got generally dreadful reviews, but some people think it redeemed it

self by handing the American Medical Association its head on a platter. ENTERTAINMENT Charles Peters, editor of the WHAT IS IT? Give everyone Washington Monthly and no a pencil and paper. Turn off all Pollyanna when it comes to Con the lights and instruct everyone gress, hailed Sen. Warren Rud to draw a house or tree or per man's David-vs.-Goliath victory son. Turn on the lights and re over the most formidable of the ward the best (?) drawing. special interest groups as "the Chuckle! first step back on the road of the politics of selfishness." SHARING The American Medical Associa - Each share a time he or is the biggest, toughest lob tion she was fearful the past week. by of them all. Not only does it - All share what their fav give money"':" $1,723,335 in 1982 orite animal is and why. it has in the friendly family - Share what each person physician, who cautions his pa likes best about him or herself. tients against anti-AMA politi cians, a lobbyist of preternatural CLOSING PRAYER influence. Dear Jesus, how much your Common cause President Fred father in heaven cares for us, his Wertheimer regards the AMA's children! Thank you for our defeat as significant because it world and for the delicate bal shows what one resolute and ance of nature. Help us to be adept senator - Rudman is a ever mindful of our responsi freshman Republican from New bility to care for this world. Hampshire - can do against a Thank you Jesus for this special' supposedly invincible fat-cat time tQgetlier. Amen. group. Common Cause has declared war on the PACs, which donated $80 in illion to the 1982 congres sional elections and have covered politics with a money sludge that could sink the democratic pro By cess as it is generally under stood. DOLORES The AMA had every reason to think it could get away iwth its CURRAN arrogant demand to be exempt from Federal Trade Commission jurisdiction. It won in the House on Dec. 1, even though the anti regulatory Reagan administra tion and FTC Chairman James gives rise to' perfectionism, a Miller were against the pro sure way to promote failure in posal. Common Cause promptly kids. Who can compete with the revealed what may have mat perfect parent or more accurate tered more than the merits of the ly, with the parent who was the bill: All but 53 of the 403 repre perfect kid? sentatives who sided with the I see this problem most evi doctors had received AMA PAC dent in faith/value conflicts in contributions. our Christian families today. But Rudman, one 0 fthe few Parents of youth who question senators who take no PAC the value 'of God, Mass or faith money, was waiting for them on often give the impression that the other shore of Capitol Hill. they never had doubts. They fear The doctors spurned his com that if their young people dis promise amendment and were cover their own doubts and faith out in the hall all through the struggle it will ·put them on the night buttonholing sleepy sena road to losing their faith. tors on their way to the chamber. . Yet the speakers to whom Rudman noted that for the first youth listen most intently are time in 20 years, doctors were the very ones who speak of an "making house calls" - and at earlier life without faith, the 6 o'clock in the morning. ones who tell of their hunger for Rudman had offered to keep meaning in me, the ones who st~te control over so-called qual share their struggle and eventual ity-of-care matters but, against jay in finding a personal relation AMA wishes, retain FTC author ship with God. Athletes, convicts, ity over anti-competitive com and businessmen today are tell mercial practices. What the doc ing their faith stories and young tors wanted, said Rudman, was people are listening. status "above the law." "Mr. President," said the for We parents are the first ones mer attorney general of New chosen to tell these stories to Hampshire, a square-jawed, our children. Why don't we?

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cheerful man, "I do not get ex cited when n see someone at tempting to perform a frontal lobotomy on the free enterprise system, which is precisely what is going on here." He won by a healthy margin, 59-37. Peters and Wertheimer think that what happened in the dawn's early light of Dec. 16 may have beem the battle of Con cord and Lexington in the war on PACs, whose contributions, al though legal, have become the equivalent of the millions of dol lars in illegal campaign funds donated by Richard Nixon's rich friends in 1972., PACs of all descriptions gave their record· $80 million mostly to ·incumbents. What the lobby ists say they expect from their investments is success - the . chance to go can on an elected official from time to time. But the dismal, inescapable conclu sion that intrudes on this picture of unfocused cordiality is that they expect the "right" vote on their issues. Rudman regards PAC money as "a scandan that is waiting to happen." Rudman promised his consti tuents that he would do some. thing about it. He will try, with. out much hope of early success, to limit the amount of PAC funds that candidates can accept. The scandalous dimensions of PACs are laid out by Elizabeth Drew in an cJchaustive two-part series in recent issues of The New Yorker. PACs. have.-grown in number from 600 in 1974 to 3,500 in 1982. Most of the new PACs have been organized by business, which saw them as a means of countering organized labor's groups and obviously has access to much more affluent contributors. They give purses to powerful committee chairmen to make them more powerful - and accessible. Rep. Dan Rostenkow ski, D-Il1., chairman of the Ways and Means Committee, who has been virtually unopposed since he was first elected in 1958, got '$445,000 in PAC money this year. Ms. Drew shows us how the Democratic Party, desperate for business PAC money, bent itself out of shape in the squalid bid ding war foIl' independent oil PAC funds in the 1981 tax-cut bill. Her masterly account offers few heroes. One of them, Rep. James Shannon, D-Mass., was told by a lawyer for the in· dependents, "It's you guys who've caused! this problem ... it's you guys who've put Con gress on the auction block." That's why the lame-duck session's single shining hour meant so much to so many. It said, against much contrary evi dence, that money isn't every thing..

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EPISCOPAL FATHER Kim Driesbach of At lanta's Church of the Incarnation explains Shroud of Turin exhibit to a visitor. The exhibit is sponsored by the Atlanta Center for the Continuing Study of the Shroud of Turin, an ecumenical group trying to raise funds to keep 150 shroud photos on permanent pisplay in the Georgia city. Father Driesbach hopes Atlanta will become the U.S. 'center for research on the shroud, believed by many to be.the burial cloth of Christ.

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A lesson for teachers

LOS ANGELES (NC) - Cath olic educators here recently got a lesson themselves - in the art of being a church-related teacher. Their professor was Norber tine Father' Alfred McBride, for mer director of the National Forum for Religious Educators of the National Catholic Educa tional Association. At an in-service workshop on Christian formation, he told 300 teachers that they must master the identifiable body of Catholic knowledge and that as teachers in church schools they must themselves be church-related. As a practical way of becom ing spritual, Father McBride suggested that teachers form prayer groups in schools. "I think," he said, "that pray ing together is a good idea be-. cause then we see each other, as fellow Christians in this project of education." Father McBride offered five suggestions for conducting a prayer group: - Start with silence. - Treat the group as a prayer group, not a study group. - Treat each other as human beings, not as professionals. For get degrees and titles. - Listen not only to words but also to other persons' feel ings. - Trust in God to make the experience work. A teacher's spiritual life, Father McBride said, involves not only a personal relationship to God but also intellectual mastery of an identifiable body of Cath olic knowledge. A Gal1up poll finding that most American adults have a vague knowledge of the major tenets of their religion is also true of Catholics, he said. "People who cease to know and appreciate their own religion will start to look fQr another reo ligion somewhere else," he said. "What I want you to do is be come a literate Catholic, if you're a Catholic. If you're not a Cath olic, I expect you to become literate about Catholicism." Rejecting the view that there is no identifiable body of Cath olic knowledge, Father McBride said, "The two most popular books in Catholicism today are books that contain an identifiable

Blacks, Indians WASHINGTON (NC) A record $4.2 million was donated to the 1982 Black and Indian Mission (:ollection, the most in the collection's 99-year history. But grant requests from U.S. bishops, totalled more than $12 million, said Msgr. Paul A. Lenz, director of the mission program. Noting that the 1983 collection will be taken up the weekend of Feb. 20, he said that many needs remain unmet. "Mission schools are fa(:ed with closing for lack of funds; priests and sisters are struggling to keep old cars going, sometimes for hundreds of miles a week; deacons and catechists must work with outdated reli· gious instruction materials, or no materials at all, and these people plead with their bishops for assistance."

body of Catholic knowledge." Those books, he said, are "Cath olicism" by Father Richard Mc Brien, ,chairman of the theology department at the University of Notre Dame, and "Christ Among Us" by Anthony Wilhelm, "which is now selling 1.5 million copies." After being a spiritual person, the most important thing a teacher can become is reflective, Father McBride said, recom· mending that educators read at least four books a year outside their specialties. "If you are going to be in a church-related school," he said, "you must be. a church-related person. Bond yourselves to the Catholic Church in three ways - as a community, as an institu tion, as a heritage. "In order to make our church schools work well, we have to have church people in those schools, people who love being there and who love being part of the church which has created those schools," he added.

.Bishop scores racial injustice MIAMI (NC) Just days after racial disturbances ~rupted in the city Archbishop Edward A. McCarthy of Miami issueeJ a pastoral letter, in preparation' for almost a year, saying that Catholics and the community at large cannot escape responsi bility for continuing racism and its effects on society. While not condoning civil dis turbances and violence, Arch bishop McCarthy said Jan. 4 that despite improved legislation and superficial (:hange. the underlying causes of social un rest, such as poverty and in justice, remains firmly entrench ed. , A central point of the pastoral letter, titled "One People Under God," is that even Catholics who may not have caused present in justices are obligated to undo them "lest we become bystand ers tolerating and tacitly endors ing evil and thus share in the guilt. "In no way a Catholic be as sociated with organizations that promote racial injustice," Arch bishop McCarthy continued. . "This being indifferent to the attitudes of racism whi(:h are incompatible with the teachings of Jesus is in itself demoralizing and de-Christianizing and should be despised for this reason as well," the archbishop said. He added that bla(:k Catholics also have a special calling to con front the evil of racism. . Laws make discrimination il legal, the archbishop said, but it is another thing to "convert hearts and minds," and that is where the churches come in. "I call for action on three dif ferent fronts: at the family level, at the chur(:h level and at the community level," said Archbishop McCarthy. "We all share in the responsi bility" for this social evil, he said. "Racism is a radical evil which cannot be conquered by human effort alone. We need the strength of the Lord Jesus and the healing power of his spirit."

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divorced parents. They, much like the children who have lost "Divorce doesn't really become a parent through death, often final until the death of the child battle intense anger. ren." Those words of a marriage The custodial parent can be-' and family counselor illustrate co'me the target of the child's, what may be the. most agonizing venom, she said. The child is ROUTE 6-between Fall River and New Bedford concern for divorced and separa angry at the situation more than ted persons ~ their children. at the parent, so she suggests One of Southern New England's Finest Facilities The children of divorced and the parents try to avoid taking separated pare'nts frequently the child's anger personally. Now Available lor don't know how they fit 'in any What intensifies the anger ~'is more, co~mented Cecilia Ben that the children don't have any BANQUETS, FASHION SHOWS, ETC. nett, director <If the Institute of body else to get angry at," Sister Pastoral Ministry at Biscayne Marietta commented. "They don't FOR DETAILS, CALL MANAGER - 636·2744 or 999·6984 College, Miami, Fla., and mem have anybody else to go talk to ber of the board of directors of an dsay, 'Mom did so and so,' 'So Beginning Experience, a spiritual the one parent gets all. the renewal program for the separ~ blame," , ted and divorced and their fami According to Platten, "Kids lies. don't think they should be angry," Children used to living in a That makes them feel guilty society where most of' their about being angry. "In our soci "110M( 1IAT116

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ent after returning from a stay with the other. Parents have to understand that their children benefit from having a good relationship with both parents, pointed out Kath leen Kircher, executive director of the North American Confer ence of Separated and Divorced Catholics. Once parents can come to that conclusion,. many of· their tactics that harm the children stop. Counselors also warn that chil dren of divorced and separated parents can be' given too much responsibility. Cecelia Bennett of Biscayne College stated that at the time when a young person is naturally starting to do 'things away from home, he or she can be saddled with always having to baby-sit for younger brothers and sisters. The single parent can also be come too emotionally' dependent on children, confiding in them too much. Sometimes an oldest son is expected to do for pis mother what his father previous ly did for her. That, say coun selors, is demanding too much from the boy. Another ball the single parent must juggle for the child's benefit is discipline. The child needs rules, structure and discipline, commented Sister Marietta. But parents' often feel they shouldn't punish the child because he or she has suffered enough because of the separation or divorce. Ad ditionally, because 'the parents may feel guilty about the situa tion, they sometimes yield to their children's demands instead of standing up to them. With disciplining, parents need to stress it is the improper conduct, not the child.. that is being rejected."I love you, b~t I will not accept ,this kind of be havior. I know you are hurt and I am sorry, but this is not the proper way to express tliat," is an approach ,a parent can, take, suggests Sister Marietta. The children use guilt to mani pulate their parents. One sixth ,grader told a friend, "Whenever I . tell my mother she's a bad mother, she gets guilty and buys me clothes," Children also try to play one parent off against the other. For example, a boy tells his father that his mother ~aid he was al ways too busy to spend time with the boy. The father becomes a Disneyland dad, taking the boy everywhere,' spending as much time with him as possible, doing only what he· wants. Another example: a daughter tells tales about her father when she's with her mother and about her mother when she's with her father. The advice that applies to dual parent families is just as valid - but sometimes more difficult for those in single-parent families: both parents must de cide on a position of course of action together so they know what is happening. The child -in a single-parent family frequently sees the cus todial parent's dating as .a threat to his or her time with that parent. . Turn to Page Sixteen

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Asian church small but mighty

ALBANY, N.Y. (NC) - -The Catholic population of Asia may be tiny, but it can be mighty, Bishop'Howard J. Hubbard of Al-, bany found when he attended a plenary assembly of the Federa tion of Asian Bishops' Confer ences in Sampran, Thailand, as a representative of the U.S. bishops. "Something I didn't appreciate before going," said the bishop, "is that, except for the Philip

pines, Catholics are only one per cent or ,less of the populati9n of these nations. That brings unique problems and chaHenges to the church there. "The dioceses are very much subjected to political pressure because Islam is often the state religion. However, Catholics "have an influence beyond their numbers,"

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The Catholic church in Thai land is getting two firsts this month. On Jan. 5 Pope John Paul II announced that the country will : The Post Office has increased from: -have the first cardinal in its _ 13 to 25 cents its charge to THE_ - ANCHOR for notification of a sub-' history, 54-year-old Cardinal : scriber's change of address. Please: designate Michael Michai Kit _ help' us reduce this expense by noti-_ bunchu, since 1972 the archbish - fying us immediately when you plan_ op of Bangkok, the country's - to move. : PLEASE PRINT YOUR NEW : capital. , ADDRESS BELOW, , January will also see the ar rival in Thailand of Father Alan , Name , Dorsari of Wareham, part of a team that will establish the first : Street Address : Maryknoll mission in the south east Asian country. Father Bor : Apt. #, City, State : sari is a native of St. Patrick's parish, Wareham, and was a , New Parish : missioner in Taiwan for II years before accepting his new assign .: Date of Moving : ment. : And please attach, your OLD ANCHOR: Cardinal-designate Kitbunchu : ADDRESS LABEL below so we can up-: has played a major role in so , date your record immediately. : liciting and coordinating assist 'ance funds received from all over the world for. Vietnamese and : Paste Old Address Label Here : Cambodian refugees who· have fled to Thailand. Fluent in Thai, English, Italian, , Clip this entire form and mail to: , French and Chinese, he has often , THE ANCHOR ': traveled to the West to talk : P.O. BOX 7 : abou the plight of the refugees. Until last year he was presi FALL RIVER, MASS. 02722 _ : THANK YOU! : dent of the Bishops' Conference of Thailand. ~""""""-""""~ . ,"""""""""'~'U;

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Friday, Jan. 14, 1983

By Father Eugene Hemrick

How I loved to discuss the in tricacies of an abstract idea. To The semester is over. day, the business of the moment The midnight oil has been dictates that I be practical and burnt, the caffeine stained cups ,concrete and save my philosophi cleaned and the ashtrays emp cal interests for leisure hours tied. that never seem to come. As professor of Education 161 Furthermore, I find that with at Catholic University in Wash out my notes it would be im ington, D.C., I also closed my possible to' recall all the impor books for a bit at semester's end. tant facts I emphasized with the As I set them aside, however, I students. wondered: -Is it· any -wonder I- worry. about. What did 'they really learn? the real influence a university Would they.have been better professor has on his students? off entering the business' world Nonetheless, some memorable instead of the university? Most moments stick with me. students are likely to be re-ed I remember how one student ucated anyway by the business disagreed with a chapter I had they choose after graduation. assigned and offered a creative What goood did it do them to response that made the autht'r's take my course, "Foundations point of view look ridiculous. of Education?" The course began Another student used her in with the early Greeks and how genuity to hold us fascinated PLANNING ecumenical discussion are, from left, Anna they planted the seeds of educa throughout an entire class with Harrison, Pilgrim United Church of Christ, New Bedford; tion. her presentati,?n. Sister Dorothy Byrne, OSF, St. Mary's Home, New Bedford; There were the Sophists, for There was another time I Mark Howard, St. Stanislaus Church, Fall River. instance, who believed a student should be skilled in grammar, reveled in the improvement of a rhetoric and logic. Those skills slow starter and, without a word being spoken, our eyes met and enabled one to use words clever expressed our' mutual- approvat- , ly and persuasively "to argu~' in telligently. Recognizing the significance of tional 'material, and to provide Perhaps the value of education the proposed pastoral letter of literature or answer questions. is not so much in how many My class also took III big leap Anyone interested in further in to 19th and 20th century U.S. facts a student learns and retains the National Conference of Cath educators. The students studied at it is in these moments which olic Bishops, "The Challenge of formation on the group or in the philosophical and social arrive unexpectedly - ~oments Peace: God's Promise and Our arranging for a member to pre thought of William T. Harris and which could not have happened Response," and the impact it sent a program may contact Joe could have on the nation's lead Harrison at 996-8827. industrialization; Bishop Spald , if young students and their par ing and Americanization; Jane ents had given up on a college ers, the New Bedford Area Freeze Group will sponsor an education. Addams and immigration; Fran Wise Bees ecumenical public discussion of cis Parker and Progressive Edu Perhaps ,learning the history of "Bees cannot stay in a place the letter on Sunday night, Feb. cation. education is not the most impor where there are echoes or re 6. Details of time and place are

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corded before a video camera. the more important part is learn Holy Spirit remain in a house My students wrote papers and ing to capitalize on the precious The freeze group is beginning where there are:' 'clamor, strife, we visited various schools to moments when students are en its second year as an organiza contradictions and altercations." make the connection between thusiastic and creative in apply tion striving to educate area resi - St. Francis de Sales. what we had studied about edu ing what we are studying. One dents as to the nature and dan cators and what educators were day, these qualities could make ger of nuclear war and working for an immediate USSR-US nu actually doing. Discussions history. Savings? We have a abounded. clear weapons -freeze, followed high-interest plan for by mutual reduction in nuclear 'Xet I find myself wondering arms. every savings need! what lasting value these efforts Members welcome interested produced. Mr. and Mrs. Leo G. Belanger As a young student I too burnt marked their golden anniversary individuals to their monthly gen the midnight oil frequently, last Sunday as they renewed eral meetings which feature studying philosophers. Today I their wedding vows at Our Lady speakers, films and discussions. am lucky if I can recall their of Grace Church;' North West- . Various committees work on names, let alone their fine points. port. The couple were married specific aspects of the group's When the pressure of exams was Jan. 9, 1933 in St. Anne's goals. They include education, Now 11 convenient offices off, the material so carefully Church, Fall River. They have program, political action and including Seekonk & Taunton. church outreach committees. memorized blew away like eight children, 30 grandchi~dren leaves in the wind. and 11 great-grandchildren. The latter promotes awareness of the nuclear situation among congregations of all faiths. Mem bers include Anna Harrison of, Pilgrim United Church of Christ; A COLLECTION OF HELPFUL FLOOR Sister Dorothy -Byrne, OSF, St. HINTS BY 'AL' GARANT Mary's Home; Helen Walsh and GARANT Joseph Harrison, St. James FLOOR COVERING Church; Ruth Heath, North Dart 30 CRAWFORD ST.

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On the way to Jerusalem By Father John J., ,castelo!

Jesus ,is journeying toward Jerusalem, instructing as he goes his disciples and the crowds. Mark has collected some of those jnstructions in Chapter 10. Divorce is a subject of con cern to, Mark's community of early Christi,ans. Some Pharisees felt it permissable for a man to divorce his wife, for "Moses per· mitted divorce," as spelled out in Old Deuteronomy 24:1~4. But Jesus indicates that the dispensation was granted because people did not accept and appre· ciate God's will in the matter. 'He reminds his listeners that "God made them male and fee male." The story in Genesis 1:27 indicates God's intention that people form a union as perman ent as "one flesh:" Therefore, Jesus says, no one has the right to dissolve the marital union. Later, to the disciples, he makes the teaching more specific~ "Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adult·,

ery against her." In Jewish law, adultery was not considered a crime against one's wife but Jesus' recognizes that the woman has rights too. Mark, applying the teaching to' his community, adds that a wo man is forbidden to divorce her husband, although Roman law permitted .it. The instruction on marriage is followed by an incident involve ing children, in which Jesus dis plays indignation that his dis~ ciples should seek to prevent children from approaching him. This story may have been pre served because Christians found it, answered' a question as to whether children should be bap. tized -like their parents. ' In fact, when Jesus orders the disciples not to hinder the child ren, the word he uses for "hin· der" is that used in the baptismal rite. And Jesus'laying his hands on the children brings to mind a gesture used in basptism. The distinctive characteristics of children in Jesus' day was

The people of the Eucharist By Katherine Bird

People in love frequently reo peat expressions of endearment. Few would expect a single "I love you" to suffice. There is something about the language of love which cries out for a 'response, notes Nicholas Lash, a theologian at Cambridge University in England. To assure another of continuing love, Lash adds, it is necessary "to renew the declaration, to reinforce and repeat it." In some mysterious way, such -$tatements build love up: Lash uses that analogy of a couple's love to spark his dis· cussion of the Eucharist in book titled, "His Presence in the World." He points out that the earliest Christians were sure they. were in the presence of the Spirit of the risen Christ. Today, too, when Christians gather for the, Eucharist, the theologian writes, the same risen Christ is present, shaping the people into his com· munity. ' Coming to the Eucharist, says Lash; is the way Christians reo spond again and again in love and trust to Christ. Father Robert Griffin, Uni

versity of Notre Dame chaplain, tries to give people a sense that the liturgy presents a God who loves them without qualification and is waiting to help them deal with their shortcomings. In fact, he 'is convinced that some people reach an important conversion point only after "they have some personal experience with failure," usually as adl,dts. At such times, the role of the Eucharist can become easier to understand, he suggests. The Eucharist is also an 9P portunity for Christians to learn to live as a loving community. , Often when the Eucharist is cele. brated, people's needs come to light.

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man~ People called him "rabbi."

Baruch spent all his time the Bible. He tried to obey all God's commandments perfectly. He was always eager to learn more about God's word. So he was excited one day -as Turn'to Page Thirteen st~dying

utter dependence on others. Therefore, only people who ac I k~owledge their dependence on God are open to receive his sav ing love. , A similar meaning can be found in .the story about the rich young man..in-Chapter 10, verses 17~23. The young man is obvious ly sincere but misinformed. He thinks he can earn God's favor. Jesus tells him that he cannot earn everlasting life by "doing." Actions are important, but it is more important to surrender completely to ,God's' gracious love. , Grace is a gift, not a reward. Jesus is not calling the young man to a life of poverty but is graphically teaching that depend ence on God, not on wealth or personal efforts, is required. That is why it is difficult for the rich to enter the kingdom. Their independence is an ob stacle to dependence on 'God. But, as Jesus says: "with God all things are possible."

Sometimes, for example, Chris· , tians are reminded of the wealth' of interests and the wide range of needs within a Christian com munity by hearing the concerns e~pressed during the prayers of petition at Mass. , An observant college student may draw attention to the needs of the poor in developing coun· tries. ' , A high school student in a large metropolitan area may ~ow people from several ethnic groups. Through his behavior, he may stimulate others to zero in on racial injustice. A busy professional d(;mate~ time reggjarly at a St. Vincent de 'Paul store for the poor. ltis behavior may lead others to simi lar action. A Illember of the congregation brings. a handicapped person to Mass each Sunday. By her sere vice, she lives her commitment to Christianity. , At the Eucharist, then, the lives of those who serve and those who hav:e special needs are linked by Christ. ' And often we are stimulated by the gifts and concerns of others to look more carefully at our own gifts and at ways to use them.

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"THE WORLD and all that dwells there are sacramen. tal, for they speak to us of God and communicate God to us." Commitment to the Eucharist leads to loving service to others, as with this woman comforting a child following a school bus accident. (NC Photo) ,

Eucharistic living By Dolores Leckey

The Eucharist - the Mass is central to the -lives of Chris tians in the Catholic tradition. We come together, some each day, to offer God the ordinary fare of our lives, 'bread and wine, "the work of human hands." In doing so, we remember 'Jesus' final days on earth. On the night before he died, Jesus invoked ,a blessing:' "This is my body," he said as he offered bread to his friends. Then he shared a cup of wine with them saying, "This is my blood." Across the centuries,and many cultures, the church preserved and treasured those words. The church believed from the begin· ning that the bread and wine of the table (and later the altar) really became the body and blood of Jesus. ' -In the second century, Justin Martyr said: "We have been taught that the food, over which thanks have been give~, the flesh and blood of that Incarnate Jesus." !Believers, even the most theologically unlearned or most defiant, know that with those words the bread and wine are no

longer ordinary. They are the Christ. . Television viewers or readers of Evelyn Waugh's "Brides~ead Revisited" will recall the scene when Julia, no longer a prac. ticing Catholic, is challenged by her lover, Charles, to explain the "magic" of the Mass. "You know it's all nonsense," he asserts. Julia's whispered response is, "I wish it were." Julia cannot shake the mys te.ry of Christ or Christ's pres encein the sacrament out of her head or her heart. Perhaps she has partaken too often of the divine food and bit by bit has absorbed too much of Christ into the marrow of her life. The result: She decides finally that she must leave Charles and walk, alone, a new path. (Both , Charles and Julia are divorced.) In Julia's anguish one hears the echoes of St. Augustine: "If then you, are Christ's body and his members, it is your own mystery which you receive." Julia can no more deny the pres ence of Christ in the Eucharist than she can deny her Own reality. Turn to page thirteen

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Eucharistic Continued from page twelve

Julia's story demonstrates how the Eucharist reaches beyond our conscious life into the hidden and unconscious dimensions of our being. There, in our secret places, Christ touches us. There our inner vision is cleansed ever so gradually so that we come to see with the eyes of God. We begin to see that the incar nation of Jesus, the Eucharist and creation are intertwined. The world and all that dwells there are sacramental, for they speak to us of God and com· municate God to us. Like the poet Tennyson, who saw God in every flower, we know that God's spirit courses through the universe, from the fallen leaf to the farthest galaxy. Where does that kind of aware ness lead us? If we are willing, it must lead, I believe to a delib erate choice to share actively in God's creative and redemptive work in the here and now. This has to be a conscious choice, I think, for we live in a world not generally given to the praise, thanksgiving and reverence that characterize our Eucharist and that could come to characterize daily life. On the contrary, we live in a

world which pollutes the air we breathe and the water we drink; where wealth is concentrated among a small percentage of people while millions go hungry; daily where technology and sci· entific achievement often bene fit only the few. Ours Is a world of terrorists and revolution, where nuclear war is not only thinkable but Increasingly probable. Those who claim to be Chris tians are caUed to lead eucharis tic lives, to forge a coul}ter culture of sorts. I think this means, first, a fearless examina tion of all the ways each of us inhibits God's redemptive and creative work. It will mean naming and con fessing our own violence and ir responsibility. It will mean ap proaching the sacrament truth fully and humbly. Only then can we begin to live in a eucharistic way - a way that reflects what the Mass means. Only then can we begin to offer all that we are and all that we possess In order to create, with God, a world marked by cooperation and unselfishness. When Jesus broke the bread and blessed the wine and gave it for aU, he summoned us to a new kind of communion. When over and over we eat his bread and drink his wine, the summons bit by bit becomes clearer.

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By Nancy Frazier NC News Service The Vatican, China and Tai· wan - often at odds in recent years over a variety of religious and political issues - have join ed in praise for a 16th-century Italian Jesuit who is considered the founder of the Catholic Church in China.

STILL IN VESTMENTS, Father ~ohn Cornelius, pas tor of Immaculate Concep tion parish, Seattle, rushes to check on fire set by' ar sonists during Sunday Mass, killing one worshiper and causing $120,000 dam age. (NC Photo)

For. children Continued from page twelve he listened to a group of people known as Sadducees arguing with Jesus. They claimed there was no life after death. Jesus said there was. Both Jesus and the Sadducees quoted the Bible. "Jesus is clearly winning this argument," Baruch thought. "He knows the Scripture better than ,the Sadducees. I'm impressed with his teaching." Soon the Sadducees broke off the argument and went away. The crowd cheered Jesus. Then Baruch decided to ask Jesus a very important question about God's law. "Which is the first of all commandments?" he asked. His question got right to the heart of God's law. Jesus did not hesitate. "This is the first," he answered: "Hear o Israel! The Lord our God is Lord alone! Therefore you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind. and with all your strength." Then Jesus added "And this is the second: You shaIl love your neighbor as yourselfl" Baruch was surprised. The first commandment Jesus gave was the answer Baruch had expected. All good Jews recited that com mandment every morning and evening. But the second com mandment was another matter, even though it came from the Bible too. "Excellent, teacher." Baruch responded finally. "You are right. Surely to love God with all our heart, thoughts and strength, l\nd to love our neighbor as ourselves, is worth more than any burnt offering or sacrifice." Jesus smiled at Baruch. He . was pleased with him. "You are not far from the reign of God," he said.

The unusual display of unity is . prompted by celebrations marking the 400th anniversary of the arrival in China of Jesuit Father Matteo Ricci, who reach ed the island of Macao off the south China coast on Aug. 7, 1582. In China, government-run Radio Peking recently praised Father Ricci as the initiator of cultural and scientific relations between China and the West and a' government magazine dedicated two pages to the anni versary: In Taiwan, the Catholic bish ops have begun a nationwide evangelization effort· designed as a "thanksgiving offering to God for his gift to us of Matteo Ricci's bringing of the faith to China."

And at the Vatican, Pope John -Paul II has indicated his support for the commemorations by ask ing the Pontifical Gregorian University in Rome to hold special seminars on the anniver sary.

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grounds of what is now a school for future leaders of the Chinese Communist Party, is open to visitors by appointment. Commemorative activities in Taiwan include renewal pro grams for priests, Religious and catechists; workshops on Chinese adaptations of the liturgy; publi. cations on Father Ricci's life and work; a traveling exhibition "showing the relationship be tween church and country;" and an evangelization program. The Chinese Bishops' Confer ence "in Taiwan hopes the evan· gelization program will result in .30,000 new Catholics by the end of 1983. "What we have set as our primary objective for this cen· tenary celebration was also Mat teo Ricci's own primary goal in coming to China," the bishops said in a pastoral letter.

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"The Jesuit, Father Matteo For Info Contact Ricci, understood and apprecia,:.=w. ED & BECKY ST. PIERRE 68 Roper Street ted Chinese culture fuIly from .,' the beginning and his example Fall Rlwer, MA 02723 , . EE Tel 875·2276 . should serve as an inspiration to many," the pope said in a 1981 'address to Chinese Cath ONl YFUll·L1NE RELIGIOUS 61FT STORE ON THE CAPE olics during his visit to Manila, Philippines. • OP£N: Non • Sal; 11- 5:30 • OPEN 7DAYS Father Ricci, born Oct. 6. during IU/lIllMIr 1552, in Macerata, Italy, was a ..... 30~~~~ specialist in mathematics, astron omy, geography and oth~r sci ences. He combined the teaching of Scien~e with 'his evangelical mission in China. "His vision," according to the 428 Main 51.: HyannIS New Catholic Encyclopedia, "was 775-4180 to win the intellectual masters John & Mary lees. Props. of Confucian society, using the ascendency of learning as a mag net; then, because the cult of of ficialdom was everywhere deeply CAPE COD inbred, the masses would be in COUNTRY CLUB evitably drawn to the faith." Father Ricci first set foot on the Chinese mainland in Sep tember 1583 and reached the walls of the city of Peking for CAPE COD'S MOST INTERESTING the first time on Sept. 7, 1598, GOLF COURSE

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for peace and the de-escalation of nuclear buildup." "Last year I,vowed I'd accept By Cecilia Belanger this face of mine I don't like and I won the battle. I'm accepting As children we thought we everything about myself, my own could easily follow Christ's ex nature, my hard-to-comb hair, ample; in fact, we 'often made. it my uncoordinated walk, and I'm a New Year's resolution. Which really ,laughing at myself. I'm brings me to my annual question: my own entertainment!" "What is your resolution for In striving to keep our reso 1983?" Here are some of the an lutions, we must guard against swers: "I have to do an overall job either discouragement or self· righteous pride. Alan Paton, the on myself. Don't ,like the direc South African writer, tells of a tion in which I've been drifting, so it's .top to bottom with me. I rabbi who urged his people to keep two' slips of paper handy. mean it." On one, to be read in moments "Lately I've been aware of of complacency, was written' "I the old-fashioned definition of sin and I like it. From now on I , am dust and ashes;" on the other, for moments of despair, answer to myself for my mis "For your sake the world was takes. I don't want tl)em explain created," ed away as' 'sociological acci dents,' " I'm going to laugh more. I've been a grouch all year. People The chorus of the Attleboro tell me I'm over-religious and don't 'have it sense of humor. high school will host an exchange concert this morning with stu I'ye discovered you can be reli dents from ~cAuley High School, gious and laugh a lot too," "Spendipg money on movies ' Portland, Maine. The' visitors has got to stop. So few are any spent last night with Feehan stu- . good. I'd be better off reading or dents and will in their turn be taking a walk or visiting some- ; hosts and hostessfils' in May, when Feehanit$ travel north for one who needs company." "I've goofed off too much a return concert. Also in the musical line, the this. year at school. Gonna be more serious in the New Vear. Feehan Adult Chorus has reo Life doesn't payoff in goofiness sumed Thursday evening r:e hearsals and is preparing for a - unless you're a comedian." spring concert. New members . "For a chang~ I'm going to are welcome. give the other guy a break when Last night the school's Parent I think he or she is lying. In ,the Organization was scheduled to past I've been' too quick to host a lectuie workshop session judge." on use of television programs as "There's too much ego all a springboard to discuss sex and around me, and I'm too vain too. sexual attitudes with young I've got to work on becoming people. more huinble. I've got to be able to take hard criticism because in my case I know it's for my own good." Students are preparing for "It's terribly hard for me to' semester exams, to be held Tues forgive an injury. I've got to day through Th~rsday of next keep working on ,that and do 'a week. Jane Hendricks has been lot of praying." "I'm going to spend more time named as one of 10 finalists in alone. I'm too much with people the Massachusetts Century III and still I don't know where they Leaders' Program for 1982-83; and Marjorie Gomez is the school leave off and I begin."

nominee to the Hugh O'Brian "I'm too obsessed with perish 'Foundation Leadership Seminars. able things and not enough with A freshman parents' night will . those of the spirit." be sponsored by the religion de . "I'm terrible at making prom partment a,t 7'p.m. Thursday.. , ises I don't keep." "I've got to stop causing my' t¥I{4 lOW I/IQ/TIr I parents so much grief. I don't XlV TIlE C/iR ~ /IN!) , do anything real bad, but I know >fpAS;/( Nl ~N some of the things I do' bother them," '~:-w w"NrIT? "I've been collecting dozens of ---j/ new recipes and early in 1983 I'm throwing a big bash and in viting friends to my first home" cooked dinner. I'm doing' it all myself," "I saved over $200 dollars last year and that for me is some thing! I've stopped buying use less, frivolous things." '~I'm going to continue to ~or~

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HEARTBREAKER

ficantly altered, part of our pain comes from realizing our dreams will be unmet and our needs un· fulfilled.

Sometimes we expect, too much from another person and then are disappoin~ed when he or she cannot live up to our , hopes or demands. What are guidelines to loving another person? First, we should be careful what we say to others. If we use words loosely or with· out thought, we will surely hurt others. Saying "I love you" can be taken as a promise of un· conditional commitment to an other.

I got to say it and it's hard for me You left me crying Dike I thought I would never be Love is an eagle but you let me down How can I love you when you ain't around • And I get through the morning and you never call Love should be everything or not at all And it don't matter whatever you do Second, love is much more I made a life out of loving you about giving than receiving. If Only to find the dream that! ~~Uowed is dying I'm crying in the rain our love is based only on get ting needs met or dreams ful I should be searclting my world for' a love everlasting Feeling no pain filled, it may change if this isn't happening. Real love involves When will we meet again giving to another, first of all: Why do you have to be a heartbreaker Finally, every successful love 'Is it a lesson that I never knew also involves a balancing of one's Got to get out of tl)is spell that I'm un:ler own and another's' needs. Learn My love for you ing to be realistic about what we Why do you have to be a heartbreaker c~n expect from another involves WIlen n was being what you 'wanted me to be .Suddenly everything I've ever wanted -' dialogue.. We must take tl1e risk of telling the other what we Has passed me by need. And every couple should This world may end' reevaluate their needs as their Not you and I circumstances change. My love is stronger' thilR the universe My soul is crying for you Finally, it is helpful to keep Everything can be reversed in mind that no single relation You made the routes and you could not see ship has all the ingredients to You made a life out of hurting me make us totally happy. Still, dis· Tell me where do we try covering what we can share with Or do we say goodbye each other realistically is one secret to building a lasting love. Sun~by Dionne Warwick, Written by B., R., and M. Gibb, © 1982 Arista Records Inc. Your comments are always THIS SONG describes a typi- out of loving you only to find welcome and may be u~ed in fu cal' heartbreak situation and the dream that I followed is dy ture columns. Please address prompts,' some questions about ing."

them to Charlie Martin, 1218 S. expectations in relationships. It is common to ,have hopes .Rotherwood Ave., Evansville, One line states: "I made a life and dreams as we enter are Ind. 47714.

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portswQtch Aldrich Paces Marion To Upset Wnn Tom Aldrich scored four goals, including the game-winner at 9:30 of the third period, in pac ing Marion to a 5-4 upset vic tory over Fall River South in a Bristol County CYO Hockey League game in Fall River last Sunday. In the companion game, de fending. champion New Bedford bounced back from it56-3 loss to Marion in its last previous ap pearance to pin a 6-1 setback on Seekonk. Games next Sunday in the Driscoll Rink pit Marion against

Mansfield at 9 p.m., New Bed ford against Fall' River South at 10. . New Bedford continues to set the pace and now has an 11 point lead over Fall River South, whose game against Marion next Sunday is crucial to the Southies' pennant hopes. The standings: New Bedford 11-1-0 (won, lost, tied), FalI River South 5-4-3, Marion 5-6-1, Mansfield 3-6-2, Seekonk 2-9-2. Post-season playoffs are sched ueld for March 6, 13, 27, April 5 and 12.

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Jim Moser's script raises is sues important for teens, such as the value of education, coping with a tight job market and cul tivating a strong sense of self esteem. Willy-Bill's plight dramatizes the problems of young black Americans whose rate of un employment is higher than that of any other group in the coun try. The focus of the program is limited but effective in suggest ing that the individual who has a sense of his own dignity and self-worth is on the right road. Produced by Father Ellwood Kiese~s Paulist. Productions, the

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Catholic ratings: AI-approved for children and adults; A2-approved for adults a.nd adolescents; A3---:approvedfor adults only; A4-separafe' Classification' (given to films not morally offensive program has a timely message which, however, require some analysis for young viewers. and explanation); O-morally offensive. Religious Broadcasting - TV NURSERY INC. New Film Sunday, Jan. 16, WLNE, Chan "On The Cape" nel 6, 10:30 a.m. Diocesan Tele "The Dark Crystal" (Univer "WE BEAUTIFY OUTDOORS" .Evergreens, Flowering Shrubs, Trees vision Mass. sal): Muppet ~asters Jim Hen lawn Fertilizer· loam . Annuals "Confluence," 8 a.m. son and Frank Oz offer a Talk each Block of Granite Dinner Upcoming landscape Design ien-Iike fairy tale of good versus Sunday on Channel 6, is a 958 MAIN ST. - RTE. 28 The 13th annual Vince Lorn members are John Connell, for evil and the restoring of a shat-· panel program moderated by EAST F-AlM-OIJITH bardi ·Block of Granite Award mer coach at Bishop Stang High tered crystal to wholeness, which Truman Taylor and having· as dinner will be held Sunday, Feb. School; John McCarthy, former will bring about an a never-end 548-4842 permanent participants Father 13, at Venus de Milo restaurant, coach at Swansea's Case High ing reign of· justice and peace. Peter N. Graziano, diocesan di School; Oscar (Pete) Levesque The story is a bit thin and rector of social services; Right Swansea. -~ ar-.....-..--~~ The award, sponsored by the of the Fall River Herald News rather solemn but the old Mup Rev. George Hunt, Episcopal Greater Fall River Cancer So sports department; Bill Camp pet humor survives to make this Bishop Of Rhode Island; and clety, honors the Greater Fall bell, member \ of the board of an enjoyable film for youngsters. Rabbi Baruch Korff. This week's . In I River area's outstanding high directors of the Southeastern \ However, although rated AI, topic: Communism and Religion. 22 BEDFORD STREET I school lineman, selected from Massachusetts Football Officials PG, some classified effects may "The Glory of God," with I ~ , FALL RIVER .nominees submitted by nine area Association; Ronald Boulay, for be too strong for children under Father John Bertolucci, 8:30 a.m. high schools. mer assistant coach at Durfee six or seven. II OHice Furniture each Sunday on Channel 27. The selection committee is High School; and Richard Dias, Films on TV "Spirit and the Bride," a spirit OHice & School again headed by Jim Sullivan, former coach at Dighton-Reho Saturday, Jan. 15, 9-11:30 uat· growth program with Dr. I Supplies former head coach of football at both Regional High School. p:m. (CBS) _ "Hooper, (1978) _ Wiliiam K. Larkin, a psycho Somerset High Scl1ool. Other Paper Goods Burt Reynolds is a Hollywood therapist, and Grace Mackay, a I. stuntman contending with a recording artist, 7 p.m. each (617) 675·7838 Coyle-Cassidy Off To Good Start young rival to his preeminence Monday, Fall River cable chan t_~ ~ Posting a pair of victories in scheduled for tonight. in his craft. Little more than a nel 36. the first week of play in DivisThe only games tonight in the collection of stunts and bar "MarySon," a family puppet ion Two Southeastern Massachu- Hockomock Basketball League room brawls, the movie is filled show with moral and spiritual setts Conference basketball, the are Canton at Foxboro 'and King with profanity and is otherwi~e perspective, 4:30 p.m. each Mon Warriors of Coyle-Cassidy shared Philip at Sharon and a single morally offensive because of its day, Fall River and New Bedford first place in that division with game tomorrow has Stoughton reckless attitude toward human cable channel 13. Sunday, Jan. 16, (ABC) "Di Dennis-Yarmouth and Wareham. at North Attleboro. Franklin has life. 0, PG Sunday, Jan. 16, 9-11 p.m. rections" - Reports on the in In an early season "crucial," the bye on the weekend sched for every occasiof! . , , Coyle-Cassidy and Dennis-Yar- ule. Next Tuesday it will be (NBC) _ "Young Frankenstein" f1uence of ethics upon the busi Baptisms .. mo~th._clas!ted last Tuesday in North Attleboro at Sharon, (1974) - Mel Brooks' spoof of ness community. First Communions Taunton in Ii' contesC ffiaf -rEi:' '--StougIUOtlilt-Yoxlmro-anct"Frank"r- the- 'hoITor'classic---includes-·the-· _Sunday.... J.an. _J6..._(c.ItS.1_·~F..9r_ - _. arr:thda'y's . duced the number of unbeatens lin at King Philip. usual uneven Brooks humor with Our Times" - The Rev. Allah Confi rmations 'Boesak of South Africa exam in that division. Tomorrow the action is 1n four much vulgarity. A4, PG Weddings Coyle-Cassidy visits Greater sports. In hockey Coyle-Cassidy ~ Friday, Jan. 21, 9-H p.m. ines the issues of political un Anniversaries (ABC) _ "Alligator" (1981) _ New B~dford Voke-Tech tonight and Dartmouth meet in the Het rest in his nation.

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La Salette Shrine Dvision One action tonight has· erset- is- at Dennis-Yarmouth in tertaining thriller.. Violence calls _ Father John Randall, 9 to 10 a.m.

Park Street - Route 118 New Bedford at Biship Feehan, the Cape COd, Coliseum at 6:30 for A3, R ratings. and 11 to 12 p.m.; Father Edward Attleboro. Massachusetts Falmouth at Bishop Connolly, p.m. and Falmouth hosts Feehan TV Program McDonough, 8:15 a.m.; Father Somerset at Durfee and Attie at 8 p.m. In trying to find work to add Real Bourque, 8:45 a.m. boro at Barnstable. New Bedford In track the spotlight will be to his family's meager ipcome, Father McDonough is also on and Somerset, each 2-0, shared on the State .Coaches' Meet in a teen-ager learns some hard WMYD from 1:30 to 2 p.m. each first place entering this week. Boston at 10 a.m.D,urfee is host lessons' about life and his own Sunday. Sunday, Jan. 16, (NBC) "Guide In Division Three Bourne and at 1 p.m. to Falmouth 'in gym values in the half-hour Capital Seekonk, who sported 2-6 rec-· nastics and Cape Cod. Tech is Cities Family Special, "Hang li~e" - Fa~her Ellis DePriest, -ords' at-the-end-'of-last- -week -hOme-.t9-the- MiI1toppefS.in-wrest... __TIght. Wi1ly:~.ill,~' jliri,!g on m..Qr_e_ director of htu~gy for ~he . New than 140 stations through Jan- Orle-amr -ArchdlOcese;-ls- lOter· clash in Seekonk, Diman Voke is ling at 11 a.m. at Holy Family, in the only games uary and early February. viewed about c~urch worship 20 Seeing that his underpaid years after Vatican II. mother has trouble meeting fam YOU'LL ily expenses, Wi1ly~Bi1l (Todd 8E Bridges) drops out of high school Memorial

TICKLED I Son," said the pope. "When to seek a full-time job. Dis VATICAN CITY (NC) Speaking to a pilgrimage of 3500 Mary is let go, one finishes couraged when he can't find free de~lvory-Call Italian members of the Legion of sooner or later with the letting work, he turns to a social work 5 CENTER STREET go also of her Son." Mary, Pope John Paul- II praised -WAREHAM, MASS. er (John AmoS) who gives him .the Marian spirituality of their DIGNIFIED FUNERAL SERVICE sound advice on appearance, at Throughout much of society organization, which was founded DIRECTORS

a crisis of faith in God has been titude and self-confidence. But GEORGE E. CORNWELL

in Irelan~ in the early 1900s and 373 New Boston Road EVEREn E. KAHRMAN

preceded by a drop in devotion remaining unemployed, he checks is now ~ worldwide movement. Fall River 678-5677 out an Qffer of fast cash for ped to the Virgin Mary, he said. 295-1810 dling drugs. "Where Mary is, there is her

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THE ~NCHOR-Diocese of Fall River-Fri., Jan. 14, 1983

Iteering pOintl

ST. MARY, NB

F,irst communion candidates will receive first penance at 10 a.m. tomorrow. All welcome. A discussion group meets each . Tuesday at 10 a.m. and a Bible study ~roup each Tuesday at 7 p.m., both in the CCD center. The Athletic Association will meet at 7 p.m. Sunda.y in the school.

ST. JOHN OF GOD, SOMERSET LaSALETTE SHRINE,

Holy Rosary sodalists will re ATTLEBORO .

are asked to submit news items for this ceive corporate communion at column to The Anchor, P.O. Box 7, Fall The Prisoner of War and , 9:45 a.m. Mass Sunday. River, 02722. Name of city or town should be included as well as full dates of all The Women's Guild will hold Missing 'in Action committee of activities. please send news of future rather Moderator's Night on Wednes the DIsabled American Veter than past events. Note: We do not carry' day, beginning with Mass at 7 IIns will hold a Dublic ecumeni news of fundraislng activities' such as bingos, whists, dances, suppers and bazaars. cal service 'at .the shrine at 2 p.m. We are happy to carry noticp.s of soiritual The parish fellowship group n.m. Sunday, Jan. 23. Former prourams, club meetings. youth projects and POW L'arry Stark will speak will meet for Mass and 'a social similar nonprofit actiVities. Fundralslng pra lects may be advertised at our regular rates, and among those In attendance hour at· 7 p.m. Thursday. Dea obtainable from The Anchor business office,' will be Rep. Barney Frank and con Tom Prevost of St. Michael's telephone 675-7151. parish, Swansea, will speak. George Brook.s, nation ,;1, chair On Steering 'Polnts Items FR Indicates Fall River. NB Indicates New Bedford. m~n for POW/MIA Families. Father Andre _A. Patena.ude, ST. MARY, SEEKONK ST. MARY'S CATHEDllAL, FR MS, shrine director, will be as Parents of Grade 2 CCD stu Confirmation candidates will sisted by American Legion arid dents will meet 'at 7 p.m. Sun a.ttend a retreat Wednesday aft DAV chaplains a·t the service, day in .the social room. ' ernoon at the Family Life Cen "whose purpose is to remind The Youth Ministry will meet ter, North Dartmouth. Americans that 10 years after at 7 p.m. tomorrow at the CCD Year's-end parish statistics the Vietnam war nearly 2,500 center. show 55 baptisms, 22 weddings, servicemen remain unaccounted An appreciation dinner for 30 first communicants, 22 con parish workers will be ·held at for. firmations and 52 funerals in 7 p.m. Saturday, J.an. 29, in the 1982. FAMILY LIFE CENTER church hall. BL.SACRAMENT,FI!t St. Anne's Hosoital. Fall ST. THOMAS MORE, 'Parents of first communion River, will hold management SOMERSET candidates will meet at 7 p.m. workshops' at .the North Dart An appreciation night for par Sunday in the small chapel. mount center Tuesday through ish workers will follow 5:15 An attendance survey taken Thursday. A confirmation oro p.m. Mass Saturday, Jan. 29. in November showed a total gram 'is scheduled for Wednes Cocktails. dinner and entertain ayerage attendance at weekend day. ment will be on the program. . Masses of 658 adults and chil dren. The survey _ was made ST. STANISLAUS, FR .-- DIOCESAN CIIIARISMATllCS preparatory of taking a parish Polish classes will begin at Charismatics of the diocese census.. 7:45 tonight in the school under will meet from 9:30 a.m. to noan directi'on of Father Richard tomorrow at Our. Lady of Mt. ST. FRANCIS OF ASSISI, NB Carmel Church, 984 Taunton 1982 parish 'statistics show one Philiposki, S.Chr. Kinder~arten registrations for Ave. (Rt. 44), Seekonk. ': adult and 17 infant baptisms, eight weddings, nine funerals September will be accepted at 11:45 a.m. Sunday, Jan. 30. ST. RIT~, MARION (average age 71), 23 confirma . The Women's Club will meet ti{)ns and 12 first communions. Other grades' will be accepted at 7:30 p.m. Tuesday in the rec Mass attendance is up by five' at 11:45 a.m. Sunday, Feb. 6. A senior citizens' group is in tory. Sister Lucille of the Di percent and parish organizations process of formation. Those in ocesan Family Life Center will are thriving. CCD classes will resume late terested wiJ,l meet at 2:30 p.m. speak on the Billings method of Sunday in the school.' natural family planning. in February. PUBLICITY CHAIRMIR

Twenty-Eighth Annual

Bishop's Charity Ball DIOCESE OF FALL RIVER For The Benefit 9f The Exceptional And Underprivileged Children Of Every Race, Co~or And Creed .

FRIDAY EVENING, JANUARY 14,

19~3

LIN.COLN PARK BALLROOM DANCE' MUSIC BY

AL RAINONE AND HIS ORCHESTRA IN COCKTAIL LOUNGE 9 P.M. to 1 A.M. . and FEATURING

ART PERRY AND HIS ORCHESTRA IN THE BALLROOM...,.. 8 P.M. to 1 A.M.

C H A R I T Y B,A L L SOU V E N I R BOOK LET SEVEN CATEGORIES IN MEMORIAM· 4 Tickets· Admit 8 - $200.00 or more 'VERY SPECIAL FRIEND· 4 Tickets - Admit 8 $150.00 or more . GUARANTOR - 3 Tickets - Admit 6 $100.00

BENEFACTOR - 2 Tickets .- Admit 4 - $100.00 (box holder) BOOSTER - 2 Tickets· Admit 4 - $75.00 SPONSOR - 1· Ticket • Admit 2 - $50.00 PATRON - 1 Ticket - Admit 2 - $25.00

GENERAL ADMISSION "":'1 TICKET $1 0.00 - ADMIT 2 AVAILABLE AT ANY RECTORY IN THE DIOCESE . DEADLINE FOR NAMES IN SOUVENIR BOOKLET IS JANUARY 3, 1983 , Contact any member of the Society of St. Vincent de Paul, Council of CatholiC Women, Bishop's Ball . Committee or call or mail name for one of these categories to: BISHOP'S CHARITY BALL HEADQUARTERS - 410 HIGHLAND AVENUE - P. O. BOX 1470 FALL RIVER, MA 02722 - TEL. 676-6943

This Message Sponsored by the Following Business Concerns in the Diocese of Fall River BUILDING MATERIALS INC. DURO FINISHING CORP. THE EXTERMINATOR CO.

fALL RIVER TRAVEL BUREAU GLOBE MANUFACTURING CO.

GILBERT C. OLIVEIRA, iNS. AGENCY

.. .. ST; ANNE'S HOSPITAL, FR Relationships between hospi tals and community mental health centers will be discussed at a conference to be ,iointly sponsored by St. Anne's, Charl- _ ton Memorial Hospital and Cor rigan Mental Health Center on Wednesday, Jan. 26, at White's ·restaurant, North Westport. In formation: 674-5741, ext. 257.

SS. PETER & PAUL, FR CCD teachers and helpers will .attenda day of recollection di rected by Father Richard Mc

Nally, SS.CC., at 3 p.m. Sunday

at Father. Coady ,Center. The

program will conclude with .a potluck supper. Word has been received that

a :balloon released last April

during the parish's 100th anni

versary celebra·tion was found

in December in South Middle

boro.

O.L. GRACE, WESTPORT

A communion breakfast will

be held Sunday. for Teen Club

members and their families.

HOLY NAME, FR Parents of confirmation candi dates will meet at 7 p.m. Monday. at Holy Name School. Inter views with candidates will be held a the rectory Jan. 22 and 29 and Feb. 5. Catholic ,high school candidates will attend parish classes beginning in Feb ruary and days of recollections for all C'll1o i dates will take place in March. SECULAR IFRANC.ISCANS, FR Queen of Angels Fraternity

members will observe' Visitation Day this Sunday at a 10 a.m. meeting at Our Lady's Chapel, 600 Pleasant Street. S'll'.ANNE,FR A fellowship meeting will be

held -at 7:30 p.m. Thursday and

a Cub Scout ,pack meeting at the same -time Friday, Jan. 21: SACRED HEART,. FR Couples married within the last five years are invited to a meet1ng. at 7:45 p.m. Sunday, Jan: 23,. for the purpose of forming. a young couples' club. .A sewing group meets at 1 p.m. each Wednesday to make pads for the Rose Hawthorne Home. New members are welcome. Confirmation candidates will meet 'at 9 a.m. Saturday, Jan. 22.

Sperm bank rapped VATICAN CITY (NC) L'Osservatore Romano, the Vati can's . daily newspaper, has edi torially criticized sperm banks seeking to produce new geniuses from Nobel prize' winners. The newspaper called such genetic selection "racist~' and compared it to Nazi attempts to produce supermen. The editorial took as i.ts point of departure a senes of articles published earlier in the daily La Stampa of Turin, Italy. That series discussed a U.S. sperm bank which has as its aim the production of geni uses' from the donated sperm of Nobel prize winners.

IUFFINTON fflORIST, INC. 490 ROBESON STREET fALL RIVER, MASS.'

tiel. 678-5'651 Member F.T.D.A.

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Divorce Continued from Page Eight "A lot of how the kids will react has to do witl) the kind of relationship they have with their par~nt," stated Platten of Par entship, Inc. "If it's an open and close relationship, the kids will probably understand if their mother is dating again and will want her to have close friend ships."

If the kids have a poor rela tionship with the parent, they will create all kinds of problems, such as throwing tantrums be fore the parent leaves for a date or making life twice as hard for the babysitter. In addition to what might be called the usual problems of chil dren of separated and divorced parents, those between the ages . of seven and eight, and adoles cents, face special difficulties, according to Sister Marietta. Younger children deal with the emotions associated with the loss of a parent through fantasy, she explained. Children between the ages of seven and eight have generally outgrown that. "They are faced with the cold reality and often are absorbed by the pain," she said. - Adolescents are especially vulnerable because at the time the teens are t~ing to separate themselves fr.om their parents, and become independent, "the parent breaks from them." "This especially strikes adoles cents' view of commitment," Sister Marietta stated. "They question the possibility of ever making a permanent commit ment. They see it as impossible, thinking 'If my dad or mom did it (divorced), then I might do it too.' .. Sister Marietta and 'others dealing with the children of div orced and separated parents stress that despite the difficul ties, children can and do turn out to be ve~ healthy and hap py people. "Pain can be a maturing pro cess," said Sister Marietta. "if you help children (to deal with the loss), they mature more rapidly because they learn to cope with reality. Some kids can accept the situation as it is and come out with a stronger sense of identity and self-worth. But that is something all children have to find for themselves.;' Reprinted

with

pennission

li'rom OUR SUNDAY VISITOR.