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Cardinal says synod supplied 20-year plan Suggests national, diocesan synods

Alison Shaw photo courtesy of Vineyard Gazette

FATHER ALMEIDA

Island pastor profiled

By Elaine Lembo

Reprinted courtesy of Vineyard Gazette Father Almeida, behind his desk: "I hl/-ve 200 bulletins to copy before Mass tomorrow!"

Father Almeida over a hot oven: "This is my first loaf of bread.

Want some butter?"

Father Almeida on the phone: "For dinner, 6 p.m.? But someone else already invited me for dinner.

"All right. I'll be there at six.

Don't let me down." He puts down the phone and turns away.

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PHILADELPHIA (NC) - Last year's extraordinary Synod of Bishops in Rome set "the basis for the pastoral agenda of the . next 20 years," Cardina'l John Krol of Philadelphia, one of the synod's three co-presidents, said in a recent article in the Philadelphia archdiocesan newspaper, The Catholic Standard and Times.

One "useful instrument" for . that agenda, he said, "might be national and diocesan synods."

Several dioceses around. the country recently have completed a diocesan synod or are engaged. in extensive prepanltions for one. Cardinal Krol's reference to a national synod asa possibility was similar to a suggestion raised last year by Bishop James Malone of Youngstown, Ohio, president of the National Conference of Cahtolic Bishops and another participant at the synod in Rome.

Cardinal Krol said the synod made it clear that "the theology of coHegiality' is much more extensive than its mere juridical aspect."

Before the synod Cardinal Joseph Ratzinger, head of the Vatican's doctrinal congregation, had strongly emphasized the strict juridical meaning of collegiality, or the authority of the world's bishops acting in unison with the pope. Much of the presynod debate had focused on how coHegiality was to be understood and' what is the appropriate role of less-than-global groups of bishops, such as national bishops' conferences.

In general, although the synod closed Dec. 8, much of its work has yet to begin. It involves carrying out numerous recommendations suggested Ify the nearly 160 delegates and approved by Pope John Paul II. Two recommendations emphasized were: --.:. Form\!'lating a "catechism or compendium of aU Catholic doctrine regarding both faith and morals" as a "point of reference" for locally produced catechism.

- Studying more deeply the theological basis and teaching ·authority of bishops' conferences.

Many ·recommendations will Those recommendations were not require detailed followup by considered key because, they coundl because local directly affect the universal the churches are expected to imchurch.

Planning the followup work plement them.

The pope convoked the synod of the synod is the task of the .l5-member council of the synod to analyze the teachings of the general secretariat. Cardinal Second Vatican Council 20 years Joseph Bernardin of Chicago is after its conclusion. the only U.S. member. .

During the synod sessions The current council,. composed there was disagreement as· to of 12 heads of. dioceses and what extent national and reo three Vatican officials, is re- gional bishops' conferences quired to meet at least twice a share in collegial authority. This year, usually in spring and led to the recommendation for autumn. further study.

It formulates precedures for Many synod delegates also carrying out synod recommenda- favored 'the drafting of a unitions and presents them to the versal ouNine of basic Catholic pope for approval. . teachings as a point of 'reference Other synod recommendations in the writing of local cateincluded: chisms. But there was no con- Developing conferences and sensus as to how this should be courses for priests, ,religious and done or who should do it. laity on documents issued by the Cardinal Bernard Law of BosSecond Vatican Council. ton, in a synod speech, 'asked that - .Encouraging education for a commission of cardinals be spiritual development "in priestly, formed to draft the catechism. religious and married :life.

After the synod, Cardinal - Improving communication Joseph Ratzinger, head of the and dialogue between bishops Vatican Congregation for the and theologians.

Doctrine of the Faith and a sy- Using religious instruction nod delegate, said the churchto improve understanding of the wide catechism would require liturgy. cooperation among several Vati- Studying the concept of can congregations. subsidiarity in 'the life of the Meanwhile, Cardinal Silvio church. Subsidiarity refers to Oddi, ,head of the Vatican Contetting local church authorities gregation for the Clergy and a handle local issues. synod delegate, said in a post- Interpreting the signs of that his congresynod interview the times in relation to the theology of the cross, inculturation, gation was putting the finishing the preferential option for the touches on a new catechism' poor, human rights and the which would .serve as a "guide" for locally written catechisms. social doctrine of the church.

The clergy congregation is responsible for catechetics.

Cardinal Oddi told National WHAT I,S Catholic News Service, however, YOUR PARISH that his project was independent of the synod recommendation. DOING FOR LENT? He said the project was begun We would like to publish a calenabout five years ago and that he dar ."of Lenten activIties planned bl diocesan parishes. Lectures? presented for the first half of the Dls~usslongroups? Films? Pilgrim. document to the pope Dec. 19. ages? Sacrificial prolrams? Aid to He said he hoped to have the the. needy? second half ready for the pope Let. us know by mall or phone

by Feb. 3 for pUblication In our by the end of January.

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"Maybe it will serve the needs Writ~or¢QII of the synod, maybe not, he said.

"I have nothing against setting up another group to draft ~(A);Box" F(,d" Rt~e .. 02722 a catechism. The two can then .', Tel. 675·7048 ' . be matched," said Cardinal Oddi.

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Friday, Jan. 24, 1986

Silver jubliee for three priests Three priests of the Fall River diocese will celebrate their 25th anniversa,ry of ordination next month.

They are Fathers James F. Greene, James F. Kelley "and Thomas E. Morrissey, raised to the priesthood Feb. 2, 1961, by Bishop James L. Connolly at the first evening ordination Mass in New England. The Anchor account of the historic event is reprinted on this page.

Following ordination he served for seven years' at St. Mary's parish, Mansfield, and was Attleboro area CCD director before entering the chaplain corps.

the Navy because I understood the problems and the system. So I requested permission from my bishop and he gave me the goahead."

. In a 1977 interview Father Kelley explained that he had not intended to iI'ejoin the Navy.

"But I watched our young men go off to Vietnam and I :buried some of them in our own little cemetery in Mansfield. That really tore me up. I got to thinking that I could help people in

As a chaplain, Father Kelley has traveled extensively, .frequently as a pilot. He earned a private pilot's license while he was in Mansfield and since being in the Navy has added ratings qualifying him to fly commercial planes, gliders and seaplanes. He also holds a flying instructor's

license and is a qualified swimming and sailing instructor. A sports enthusiast, he plays paddleball, handball, softball, and tennis and enjoys skiing and ice skating.

A highlight of his Navy career, he says, was a tour in Ethiopia, where he was the only chaplain at Cagnew Station in Asmara and had the "ecumenical responsibility" of caring for all spiritual needs of base personnel.

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Father Greene Father Greene, pastor of Sacred Hea,rt Church, Oak Bluffs, recalled that in 1961 his ordination reception plans were wiped out by a blizzard. "Only the caterer and 12 guests made it," FATHER GREENE he said.

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This time he's taking no J.Itl:\stwe~~'sl:listQ1\ic~ven.ing,()rdillatiQn c<ereIJlony inSt.Mary's Cath~dral, Fall River, chances. "My Mass and reception will be in May," he declared. f~rstin New England, wa~~g:iini~~eri~of9ays of ol~~ whenY0};IDg. rne~ prefaced their On Feb. 2, his parish Masses will a~surnption of the responsibilityofltpightho' od 6yasolemn; night-l~ng vigil before the be Masses of. thanksgiving and, !le~,~~d.~aC1\.~mellt. It s~01sapproprJat~.,thatth.e Clj.!lrc.h S.h9uldconfer the awesome reweather permitting, he'll leave sponsibility of the priest- . . .. .' .... the island of Martha's Vineyard bood at night.

So many/ofii as,'~~:~b~~:;~es:~~hutwithqn~~~~Sg ~o ~~~~~~nril~~n~~ for a family dinner on the mainher great moments h~ve' m~.~~rialkey~theVisi~le~9u~9' .J.itaIly, Q1e ordinands ,.Iayposland.

The son of the late Frank B. come in the hours of dark-" let/it also be your endeavor by trateon the floor of the sanctuary and Anne (Reardon) Greene, he ness.......,· ,{~o~E",.~p;l ~1fam~.let().shBtas a symbol of their1;1nw9rthigrew up in three parishes while .open to God the ness. . It was at riig-ht ~nat the Infant <to'tfiedevil living in the same house. As the . ,Lprdl;ame.to ~~thlehem~ It''iasiin~~§.iblei of GClQ"'Il,melY, // . Following the Litany came the Swansea-Somerset area grew, at ni~ht that He gave usthe" the hearts .',., the faft:hfu.lt tlie\1iosfsolem n moment of the rite he explained, "we began in St. Sg.craPient orUis BOdy'~d';p()r~.!'lrs",er~i!oI4tii;. i,i9f qrdim:ttion,. "the moment in Dominic's parish, were shifted to that He St. Thomas More and ended at Our Lady of Fatima."

An~it w~sa~ nig~t, la~t w forIectgrs;~hil~ex()~is~s,weye~f ~e~rdinandwhi~h ID:~kes After graduation from St. '. that ····three young 'men o')remind¢ijti:ii'Casf ini9uit}!fiQm',;~im~priestforever according to • Joseph School, Fall River, and ..Di.0.ce.se.. beca..me. . . o.ther Ch ; :their' o.wn minds andboc:lies that . th er.•. . . of 1':1elchoisedech.'

FATHER KELLEY bIShop' imposeS both his Case High School, Swansea, ~]ways moving, theemotifhey mightb¢'fitted tocoQifuano' viIs'" in tes?nd~ u~9nf?ach ordinan9 in .

Father Greene 'preparedfor or- t<~~ .~~~~s?f . ?~in~:tionse ¢~d'tlltbJ~ ::ytter' silehce' and attet him. all; dination at "St. Philip Neri, Car- <h~jght~nedbythe~tailit.. dinal O'ConneH 'and St. John's i e . seminaries in the Boston a,rchdiocese. Then after three years ,o..··f·.:.. .ao~·rfdg.rl~'nea't·.tl;hoen···cci!a}mmae·$ttihCe ID:c'00 :;>.~gl! de,co~:as,f9rt~~ ne~ end~h;~ o~:.'dst:e.nd cah()ndl~dtha' t,f.e~ : as parochial vicar at St. Joseph's '; Pri~stsi eglprio~s Lj~l1nypf t~e • parish, Taunton,he entered the q~g }~f~lIl9r()rd~rs~nd,~b~:St1!pts . ",as <:hlio.te4;: with 'aU . .~L J~ hushedin silence - i t is1 chaplain corps of the U.S~ Air oidimttionof adeaeon. All Con-pri~sts:presCi1nt joi . ip pe~i- as if the heavens opened and the: .CessionfiolYiSpirit came down in visible: Force, where he served for nine t~#but~ to. the, solemnity of;:!he . ttiC)Jl.to,?od.>fhroqgh hour. . . i.oftre~less~?Vir;gin~nd~ll ~e lomito take possession of His' years.

Astthelovely I.!atinof·{tJ1e,!sairl;ts,fpr pr.otec~ionagainst 'aU ~lectl' His Air Force assignments took him to bases in Mississippi, praye~s for Porters,Lect()r~~~x- ~ e . o.~ b~y apd~{)u1., "T~~, W!tat a mOment. for "memory! e}CiiurchTiI'iuxnph~ntisintbe words of the Easter LitMontana and Washington, DC, orcists, Acolytes!lnd neacQns' and to the' Greek Island of rolledout, all joine? inpet!~i9,n . . . cal!ed~pontointep;e . withljrgy, "0 vere beata nox" ...... 0 thy truly blessed night!

Crete. In Montana he was the for the young men beginning the .. God that He may 'giYe only priest for over 2000 military personnel and their dependents and in Washington he was at Arlington National Cemetery, in charge of conducting funerals for Catholic personnel.

FATHER MORRISSEY Returning to the FaH River diocese in 1973, he wasparochial vicar at St. Francis Xavier parish, Hyannis, and St. Dominic, Swansea, until he was named to Funeral rites took place ,last his present pastorate in 1979.

Saturday at Holy Family ConOak Bluffs, he says, is a magvent, North Providence, for Sisnet for friends he made in his ter Gertrud Maessen, FMM, 89, of St.. Anthony's Convent, Fall Air Force days and his hobbies there include walking the beach, River, who died Jan. 15. cooking arid listening to music, Born in Bingen-Rhein, in what supervised by his two schnauis' now West . Germany, the ers. daughter of the 'late Jean and Father Kelley Katherine (Hoehner) ;'Maessen, Expecting to celebrate his jushe entered the Franciscan Missionaries of Mary in Austria in bilee aboar~ the USS !Enterprise 1917 after serving as a nurse somewh"ere in the Indian Ocean is Father Kelley, '~ho ~ince 1968 during World War I. She worked in houses of her has bee!! a U.S, ,Navy ,chaplain.

A native of New Bedford and community in Providence for many years before becoming ad- the son of Frederick E. and·Marministrator of St. Francis Resi- . garet (Norton) Kelley, he attended grammar and high school in dence, Fall River, in 1960.

Her survivors include two New Bedford, served as a Navy brothers, Henry and Hans Maes- enlisted man for four' years, then HISTORIC NIGHT: Principals in last week's historic evening ordination ceremony, sen, and two sisters, Billa Bau- prepared for' the priesthood at mann alld Sefi Siepmann, alI of. Cardinal O'Connell and St. John's left to right, Rev. Thomas E. Morrissey, Fall River; Rev. James F. Greene, Swansea; seminaries.

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ity of bringing people together.

Continued from page one , He has jet black hair, a big smile, I 10ve reunions, I 'love getting a sparkle in his eyes and a secret people together. I really believe about his age. He is dressed in in that. I always welcome the black pants, black long-sleeved 'visitors. The greatest place for sweater and black shkt with me to, meet others is in the church, where there is singing Roman collar.

"See what I go through." he and joy," he says.

Father Almeida has not limited laughs.

Father Almeida, at the deli at his involvement exclusively to, breakfast on weekdays, Father St. Elizabeth's. With the clergy Almeida, with children on a of other faiths on the Island, he horse-drawn sleigh ride on a has taken part in prayer groups snowy morning, Father Almeida, and parties and discussions. He leader, friend, and spiritual ad- is also in constant communicaviser to the parishioners of St. tion with the pastors of Star of 'Elizabeth's Catholic Church in the Sea Catholic Church in Oak Edgartown and aH those he meets Bluffs and St. Augustine's Cathacross what he calls, at Mass olic Church in Vineyard Haven. ev.ery Sunday morning, the IsThe names of the Rev. John D; tand of Martha's Vineyard. . Schule Jr., the Rev. William W. SOME OF THE scores of pro-lifers who last Sunday braved chilly rain to participate in From the time he rises, at Eddy, and the late Rev. John a downtown New Bedford March for Life sponsored by Greater New Bedford chapter of about 6 a.m., to the time he goes Greely are mentioned immediMassachusetts Citizens for Life. Many also took part in the National March for Life to bed, shortly before 11 p.m., ately.

"It's nice to ,be ecumenicaHy held Wednesday in Washington. (Rosa photo) the Rev. George F. Almeida, pastor, runs a schedule rigid minded. I miss Reverend Greely enough to jam in all his respon- terribly and - Reverend Eddy is sibilities and flexible enough to wonderful. It's just like team include plenty of the other stuff ministry," he says. of life.

On the Vineyard, Father Al"I have a lot of fun. I enjoy meida says, there is a great need WASHINGTON (NC) - Three plan to 'discuss human rights in in meetings with Bishops of life. Just do it, 'live, on the spur for all faiths to keep the spirit U.S. bishops plan a Feb. 3-6 pas- Haiti and the plight of undocu- other conferences - have beof the moment," ,he says. of worship alive. toral visit to Haiti at the invita- mented Haitian ,refugees in the come frequent in recent years.

In 1985 U.s:. bishops visited He was born in Newport, "Some people here are not tion .of the Haitian bishops' con- United States.

Rhode Island. and while in the quite enough aware of Jhe priori- ference.

The USCC has protested recent Cuba, Nicaragua, EI Salvador Nary from 1950 to 1954, he ties in life. I wish they wouId The delegation will be headed human rights violatioes in Haiti. and Poland, and bishops from served Mass as an altar boy. He take into consideration that the by Archbishop Roger M. Mahony In November three student~ were Poland, Cuba and Mexico visited entered ,a seminary in Connecti- spirit is more important than the of Los Angeles, a member of the killed and others wounded by the United States. cut in 1956, was ordained in the body.

Committee on Social Develop- Haitian troops after demonstraDiocese of Fall River in 1965.

"On the Vineyard, people are ment and World Peace of the tions in Gonaives.

He spent time on the Island as a more independent, more to them- U.S. Catholic Conference.

Two Catholic stations in Haiti THE ANCHOR (USPS·545-020). Second Class priest working with youngsters selves. They just won't look for Postage Paid at Fall River, Mass. Published Other members are Bishop were ordered off the air for re- weekly except the week of July 4 and the for several yea·rs before becom- the assistance or the advice they week after Christmas at 410 HIghland Avening pastor of 5t. Elizabeth's on should probably have. They Anthony J. BevHacqua of Pitts- porting the violence. 'ue. Fall River, Mass. 02720 by the cath· Pastoral visits - delegations ollc Press of the Olocese of Fall RI'{Ilr. June 10, 1981. sometimes don't have enough burgh, chairman of the Migntion Subscription price by mall, postpaid $8':00 and Tourism·' Committee of the of bishops offic~aHy represent- per year. Postmasters send. address changes humility.

It's more of an enHe likes ·to talk about his job to The Anchor, P.O. Box 7, Fall River, MA National Conference of Catholic ing their episcopaI conferences 02nZ. as a priest and the Island priest's closure within their minds, to Bishops, and Bishop Daniel P. role in what he sees as a grow- deal with a particular problem Reilly of Norwich, Conn., chairing Catholic 'and ecumenical on their own. They would find man of the boalld of directors of a better way of coping with community of the Vineyard.

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"A priest shouldn't be aloof," 'mental and social problems if Holy Cross Father WHliam he says. "You should be able to they spent' more time with the. ask the Lord.

They need to Lewers, director of the usec call on him whenever you need Lord's help in addition to their Office for International Justice to. neighbors and their friends. and Peace; Thomas E. Quigley, "More people are becoming "The Catholic Church has been the office's Latin American afaware of an increased need. for through crises before and the fairs adviser; and Father Silvano a spiritual me. In coping with Chur,-h rises up again. And it Tomasi, director of the NCCB the pressures, tensions and will become stronger each time. Office for the Pastoral Care of crises, living one's faith can Our Lord said he will be with Migrants and Refugees, wiH acunder the spiritual direction help a Ilot of people pull through you through the end of time. I company the delegation. of situations. do not doubt this."

Father Lewers said the bishops "When your faith starts to go, little by little you seem to become degraded. The greater the faith, the more you forget yourself. You do more for others.

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You want to think less of yourOn his time off, 'he said, he Father Morrissey, the son of self and it shows by the good ••,.rtll' M 121.

All inclusive deeds you do. It does help," he did flying for missionaries, ferry- James and the late Exina (Chamrtlanlll, MI' 261. from/to seattle ing medicines, other supplies poux) Morrissey, is a Fail River says. of Preand medical personnel to :remote native, and a graduate And the deeds Father Almeida vost grammar and high schools.

Hong Kong Peking Guilan has performed in his tenure at desert and jungle areas.

Father Morrissey He studied for the priesthood at St. Elizabeth's read like the good Shanghai Xi'an Guangzhou Friends, relatives and present St. Charles Seminary, Catonsworks of a humanitarian. He past parishioners of Father ville, Md., and St. John's Semand The Great Wall of China has worked on the. gardens of 5t.Elizabeth's property, he has Morrissey will attend his con- inary, Brighton.

The first step is to send in this coupon today. By return mail, you will Before his present assignment raised funds for improvements celebrated Mass of thanksgiving receive a day-by-day itinerary brochure which tells you whalyou .in the buHding such as carpet- at 10 a.m. Jan. 26 at Sacred he was parochial vicar at St. can expect every moment of an unforgettable experience. , . ing and ~ighting, and this year,' Heart Church, New Bedford; Mathieu, St. Jean -Baptiste and ~----------------------~~--~~-~-~ pastor since Notre Dame parishes, all in Fall where he has been he used his own money to pur, .'

I '. River. In FaH River ~e was also 'cJtasethe life-size statues of 1960. : Rev. Gerard J. Pineau Telephone I ,Music will be by th~parish' assistant area CYO. moderator · carolers, who .sing recorded I 81. Colman Rectory ~86-1575 I · Chiistmas' tunes' on' the lawn of choir and Father Lucien Jus- .and area director for the marrit 4~ Wendell Avenue . .: .' the., rectorY.'. . . seaome, chaplain at Out Lady's ...•. :age preparation progiam of the I Brockton, MA 02402 . I, .' .

I "rm;very . pleased with the, Haven, -Fairhaven, will be' homi- ' Office of Family Ministry.

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A Ch'ange of Heart During the past week, there were many celebrations of the new Martin Luther King, Jr. holiday.

In the course of one, liberal activist and folk singer Joan Baez lamented that today's causes are very different and much quieter than those of the 60s. She, like so many others, reminisced about the demonstrations and marches so much a part of that turbulent decade and was almost at a loss for words in attempting to describe current complacency.

There is no doubt that time has a way of changing priorities and causes. Recent national and international surveys show that a large number oftoday's teens and early 20s are repudiating many of the anti-establishment values so predominant 20 . years ago.

According to professional polltakers and the young people themselves, many members of the new generation have eschewed mass protest in favor of conservative values and individual performances.

From the anti-Green Party citizens of Germany to the Yuppies of Madison Avenue, there is a change in attitude. Many believe it has developed because the previous generation failed in what it set out to do. The shift, in short, is away from political enragement and toward private fulfillment.

For many, realization of the inability of mass movements to achieve full success and recognition of their limited influence has been a turning point. Such people are no longer satisfied to spend their lives marching for halfhearted causes. .

The new emphasis on individual achievement has been accentuated by the uncertain world economy and the tight job market. In addition, the inept attempts of governments at solving the proble'ins of the Middle East have focused more attention on personal survival. The oil crisis alone has clearly dashed the hopes of many who were promising a utopia.

This does not mean that the new generation is less critical of the establishment than its predecessors. Rather, it sees' many in leadeFship roles as products of the 60s, with all that that implies.

NC photo The youthful instinct to rebel is very much alive, but today it 'God loveth them that love her.' Eccu. 4: 15 is the in thing to be conservative. Such values support the striving of individuals to achieve, not so much on the theoretical level of idealism but in the very pragmatic world of the consumer.

This is quite a turnabout for youth and one that must be noticed. To ignore such a trend, as do some middle-aged holdovers, is to deny the very process that formed their own thinking.

The pros and cons of such a situation are open to argument

By Father Kevin J. Harrington unions are all too evident. Indeed, and feel no sense of parental obliabortion opponents are beginning gation. by sociologists at all points on the spectrum. But gathering, Thirteen years after the Supreme to find allies among liberal femiinvestigating and evaluating the facts of the matter are imporA man may be a child's father Court legalized abortion, an inter- nists, of whom many are taking a tant tasks that should be relegated not merely to political esting phenomenon is developing. second look at the so-called pro- . but he thinks of him or her as the parties but also to all areas of our social structure, including Roe versus Wade was originally choice argument. (I myself have woman's choice. Two or three years considered a triumph for a wom- always objected to the pro-choice down the road the mother's only that of the church. an's right to privacy. The decision terminology because the unborn recourse ,is to obtain a courtCertain areas of moral concern that have long been church ordered minimal commitment from that right above the right to child is in no position to choose.) placed priorities might be viewed in a different light by the developing the father. Many men pay more on life of the unborn child. generation. This could be especially true with regard to civil . Many feminists have joined the their cars than in child support.

In this connection, it is interestrights, economics, justice and world peace; not that these ing to note that whenever contro- right to life movement because The vast majority of women and matters will be ignored but rather that a new and more indi- versial issues evolve new vocabu- they see abortion as lessening the father's sense of parental obliga- children in this world depend upon laries are spawned.

Abortion vidualistic approach may well direct the manner in which they sounds barbaric, so those in its tion. While the decision to have men who have both -moral and will be handled. favor prefer to call it termination sex is usually made by both part- sexual commitments to them. It should Each era will differ, yet we should be aware that true pro- of pregnancy. n~rs, the decision to bear a child is not be surprising that the intrusion gress never stops. It is in continual flow, sometimes generating of the Supreme Court into the very High school counselors ask un- often the woman's alone. act of procreation has had such a married pregnant teens: "Do you mere ripples, sometimes crushing waves. .

We live in a litigious society and harmful impact upon the family. want to go to term with this pregIf the portents of today are accurate, it seems we are seeing a tragically often the only bond nancy?" Some even probe into the new generation that is seeking quiet waters. between fathers and children is I

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The Editor

OFFICIAL NEWSPAPER OF THE DIOCESE OF FALL RIVER Published weekly by The Catholic Press of the Diocese of Fall River 410 Highland Avenue .

Fall River Mass. 02722 675-7151 PUBLISHER Mosl Rnv. Daniel A. Cronin, D.O., SJ.D.

EDITOR Rev. John F. Moore

FfNANr.IAL ADMINISTRATOR Rev. Msgr. John J. Regan .

personal life of teenage girls by asking if they are sexually active and, if so, encouraging them to use contraceptives. This often gives teenagers the mistaken notion that sex outside of marriage is fine as long as one prevents unwanted pregnancy. ~eproduction is not cOl).duciv~ to privacy. While the act of sexual intercourse is usually private, its consequences are far from hidden.

The increase of sexually transmitted disease, the astronomic rise in abortions, the low self-esteem of contemporary teenagers and the lack of permanence in conjugal

that obtained through a court order. Feminists thus have started looking to the past, when people assumed that sexual intercourse carried with it the commitment by both parties to accept parental responsibility.

The sense of parental obligation should be as mutual as the decision to have sexual intercourse.

Contraception and abortion negate a natural process directed towards bonding of parents and care of children. '

Feminists are correct in assuming that many men have used the legal availability of abortion as a means to evade parental responsibility. There will always be men who want sex but not a child. If a woman wishes to bear a child conceived under such conditions, such men see it as the woman's choice

While it is true that other factors besides sex bind the family unit, there can be little doubt that the separation of sexual intercourse from procreation has inflicted more than its share of harm upon women and children. It is encouraging to see many feminists recognizing this and joining the right to life cause.

Getting hurt Most of us have been hurt in our lifetimeS by a trusted friend, a parent,·a lover, a child, a priest, or an employer.

And it is painful. Even memories of a long ago hurt can trigger unexpected feelings and pain when we least expect it.

While being hurt is a fairly universal experience, we react to it in different' ways. Some people seem able to toss if off easily. I call them "rejection-proof" persons. They assign the problem to the person who perpetrates the hurt. Such people usually have high selfconfidence and are to be envied.

Some people confront the perpetrators to learn the motivation.

"Why would you do a thing like that?" "Did you realize you hurt me?" "What did you mean by say" ing that?" These people are more courageous than many of us but by going to the source, they exercise some control over their hurts.

They, too are enviable.

Some people get back at the perpetrator. "He hurt me. Now I'm going to get him." Revenge is sweet for some of these individuals and once they've gotten even, they're satisfied. Other revengers· feel worse after getting even.

Some people nurture their hurts.

They replay them so often they are in a constant state of pain. They never forget but never know

whether the hurt was intended or not.

I met a woman who had .nurtured a hurt from her daughter for years. Her daughter told her she didn't think she would have children because she didn't see much good parenting going on around her. Her mother took it as a personal criticism of her parenting and. was deeply hurt.

If only she had confronted her daughter with, "Are you meaning me?" she may have discovered her daughter wasn't even thinking about about mother's generation.

Some people search for hurts.

They read meaning into the most meaningless acts and statements.

A woman sits by her window and counts the cars of people who "drive right by and don't stop to see me."

Maybe they're rushing to the store for milk, maybe they don't know she wants them to visit most likely they don't even think about her, but in her mind they are deliberately spurning her.

Some people swallow their hurts and try unsuccessfully to make them go away. They pretend they aren't hurting even though they know otherwise. Such people are sad because their hurts pile up and emerge in unhealthy ways - anger at children, overeating, cynicism.

Finally, some people close off

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their emotions as a defense mechanism against future hurts. They don't allow themselves to risk vulnerabilies because if there's no risk of intimacy, there's no danger of rejection and potential hurt.

These are the saddest people of all. They become surface people, robot people, hollow people. If they meet someone who threatens their dead emotional state, they back off.

Many of us know people like this. They serve as models of what happens when we refuse to open ourselves to others. Sure, we'll be hurt occasionally but we'll also experience the rewards of living.

The alternative is living in a state of numbness.

When' talking about hurt, it's important to admit that we also inflict hurts. Do we forgive as often as we expect to be forgiven?

Do we even want to know when we have hurt others?

When we accept that hurting and being hurt are part of life, we can better deal with our actions and reactions. If our present response is unsatisfying, we can change it and grow through our hurts.

By FATHER

If you are a parent who wants your college-age child to get a better focus on life; if you are a person caught up in the competitive world, but wondering about the value of competition; if you are a married couple concerned about growing in your relationship; or if you are just an American who wants to know what the United States is about, there is a book for you to read this year.

It is "Habits of the Heart: Individualism and Commitment in American Life," by Robert Bellah and a team of sociologists (U niversity of California Press).

In the 1830s, the French social philosopher Alexis de Tocqueville visited America and observed the habits of the heart that he thought formed American character. In his book, "Democracy in America," he singled out familylife, religious tradition~ and participation in local politics.

One of his conclusions was that Americans were "restless in the midst of prosperity," He said: "In America, I have seen the freest and best educated men in circumstances the happiest to be found in the world; yet it seem to me that a cloud habitually hung on their brow and that they seemed serious and almost sad even in their pleasure."

Why? Because they "never stop thinking of good things they have not got," he said.

Bellah and his associates have once again, like de Tocqueville, interviewed Americans and ana-

Iyzed their habits in order to identify values and define their meaning. For example, the book states: 'For most of us, it is easier to think. about how to get what we want than to know what exactly we should want." We want freedom, success and justice, but freedom, success and justice for what?

On the subject of work, Bellah observes that many people are in jobs that do not speak to their"calling." Many find it difficult to see how their work is a contribution to the whole of society. Without a sense of calling, commitment to a . job flattens out with time. This may be why we see more persons seeking early retirement.

The book points out that in their drive toward independence many Americans have forgotten their ancestors. This has made the current nostalgia for "the family" all the more poignant. All of a sudden people want to find their roots.

For people who become so individualistic that they rely on themselves as the main source of moral guidance Bellah has a warning: utility could replace duty; selfexpression could unseat authority; being good could become feeling good. A Mark Twain saying is aptly quote here: "Something moral is something you feel good after."

The Bellah book sees three· essential components of friendship. Friends must enjoy each other, be useful to each other and they must share a common com. mitment to the good.

The third component is one of the values least understood today - the shared commitment to the good. We should hold up a stand-

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ard for our friends and be able to count on a true friend to do likewise.

"Habits of the Heart" does not have all the answers about the nation's future. But it has the right questions to ask if there is to be a future.

{necroloQY..J January 27 Rev. John T. O'Grady, Assistant, 1919, Immaculate Conception, Fall River Rev. Joseph M. Silvia, Pastor, 1955, St. Michael, Fall River January 28 Rev. Joseph M. Griffin, Pastor, 1947, St. Mary, Nantucket Rt. Rev. John J. Shay, Pastor, 1961, St. John Evangelist, Attleboro J.anuary 29 Rev. Christianol. Borges, Pastor, 1944, St. John Baptist, New Bedford Rev. Albert J. Masse, Pastor, 1950, St. Joseph, Attleboro January 30 Rev. Raymond F.X. Cahill, S.J., Assistant, 1983, St. Francis Xavier, Hyannis January 31 Rev. Charles J. Burns, Pastor, 1901, St. Mary, North Attleboro Rev. William F. Sullivan, pastor, 1930, St. Patrick, Somerset Rev. Manuel C. Terra, Pastor, 1930, St. Peter, Provincetown

On not • paSSIng judgment Q. The enclosed article from a newspaper shows why there is such confusion in the church today. As you can see, a bishop has approved a group of Catholics who call themselves the 10:30 Community.

They have regular communion ceremonies with Protestants, reject authority of the church, refuse to have a pastor and use Wonder Bread for Communion, which they give to anybody who wishes. How c~n you explain something like that?

(Ohio) A. I admit my usual practice is to ignore letters like this; Such tales of bizarre practices supposedly approved oreven promoted res'ponsible Catholic authorities always, at least in my experience, turn out to be distorted.

The same is true ofthe situation you describe, which I pass on only because I received horrified letters from several parts of the country, quoting (and sometimes misquoting) the same source. As in the other instances, the picture you present is simply not the truth.

You are speaking of an experimental community of Catholics in the Archdiocese of Denver experimental only in the. sense that they do not have a permanent pa~­ tor. Different priests serve them each Sunday, but they are a legitimately established community of the archdiocese and function in regular consultation with their A r('hh;~h()n

It i's obviously impossible for' any bishop, or for that matter any pastor, to know everything that is going on his diocese or parish all the time. The liturgical aberrations you describe however, are simply not the policy of this particular community.

I include this discussion in the question column only because it offers a good lesson for all of us.

The causes of justice and truth, not to say charity, are never served by our naive acceptance of weird stories, which we sometimes readily believe because they tell us what we wanted to believe in the first place.

The truth is that communities such as this, as well as another in that same archdiocese in which a priest is training, a team' of religious and lay people to administer a parish, have a potential for real service to the church in coming years when many parishes will probably be without a resident priest.

Q. Some time ago you responded to a comment about changes in the Church. You said you understood the reader's feelings, but you do not!

The 'current Church is administered by liberal clerics. No Vatican Council required changes, only a group of liberal bishops. Nothing can take the place of the Tridentine Mass, and no group of liberal clergy can change my mind.

In view of the decree by Pope Pius V that the Tridentine Mass never be legally revoked or amen-

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ded, how can anyone recognize the validity of the new order?

I accept no rationalization for unnecessary changes. You and the other priests are always on the defensive about this. (Mississippi). . A. I hesitated to pursue this subject further. But in light of the static most priests still receive from a few vocal people, perhaps your words need some response.

First, what you see as defensiveness is, I think, deep frustration. A major responsibility of priests in these years is to help people adjust to the changes of them.

We take that responsibility seriously. That some people close their minds and hearts to the tremendous opportunities today's church offers them for holiness and fidelity is not something we take lightly.

I think I do understand. I too was raised in the "old church," and had to go through the same process of study, prayer and (I hope) . openness to the Holy Spirit as did other Catholics to understand where the Spirit is leading us.

I know that to be asked by anyone, including God, to move where we have never been before is painful. But he did just that with Mary and all the saints, and he does it with us.

You speak of the "Tridentine Mass"approved by Pope Pius V in 1570. Are you aware that this Mass has not been used by the church for nearly 400 years? Only 34 years after Pius V gave his decree, Pope Clement VIII issued changes, and said that now his was the definitive edition. Several subsequent popes did the same, resulting in the Mass we had before Vatican II. But today's "new" Mass is far more traditional in the church than that of pre-Vatican II. You say you will always be a Catholic as you were taught. In what catchism did you learn that one pope may be accepted at the rejection of others? To say acts are "irrevocable"is routine in official church documents, although possiblya poor choice of words. Pope Pius V changed such "irrevocable" acts of popes before him, as he had the responsibility to do as he saw necessary for the church. . Are we to say that as of the beginning of this century Jesus betrayed his promise to be with his church always, and to give it the guidance ofthe Holy Spirit? If not, then we must believe that John XXIII, Paul 'vI, John Paul I and John Paul II, and the bishops who are with them, deserve our respect and obedience as much as any pope of the past. . A free brochure giving basic prayers, teachings and practices of the Catholic faith is available by sending a stamped, self-addressed envelope to Father Dietzen, Holy.

Trinity Parish, 704 N. Main St., Bloomington, III. 61701.

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Award to Percy NEW YORK (NC) - Novelist Walker Percy has been chosen by the Catholic Book Club to receive the St. Edmund Campion Medallion "for long and eminent service in the cause of Christian letters."

The award will be presented Feb. 2 at Loyola University in New Orleans.

Percy, a convert to Catholicism, is the author of "The Moviegoer," which won the 1962 National Book Award; "The Last Gentleman;" "Love in the Ruins;" "Lancelot;" and "the Second Coming."

The Catholic Book Club is a subsidiary of America, a weekly journal of opinion published by the Society of Jesus in New York.

The award is named for St. Edmund Campion, a Jesuit who was put to death in 1581 when he refused to renounce his faith. He was canonized in 1970.

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FATHER THOMAS L. RITA, center, diocesan pro-life apostolate dir,ector, joins members of the Pro-life Committee of St. James parish, New Bedford, at dedication of billboard the committee is spo'nsoring on Route 6 near Bishop Stang High School. Contributions will determine how long the billboard will remain in place. (Rosa photo)

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Campus ministry letter~ property plan WASHINGTON (NC) By mail ballot the U.S. bishops overwhelmingly have approved a pastoral letter on campus minisTOUR 1 try and norms for the disposal THE ISLANDS OF HAWAII AND MAUl! of church property. They de: The Experience of A lifetime bated -and began voting on the issues at their fall meeting last FOR ONLY Nov. II-IS. Robert Wonderly, a public affairs spokesman for the National Conference of Catholic Bishops, APRIL 17 • 24 said Jan. 8 that the bishops apTOUR 2 proved the campus ministry pasTHE NORWEGIAN FJORDS, SWEDEN, and toral 237-4 and the property disDENMARK plus LONDON and CRUISING posal norms 236-3. on the NORTH SEA! Votes taken during the NovemSCENES OF SPECTACULAR BEAUTY ber meeting had shown nearly FOR ONLY unanimous backing ,lor b.oth items among bishops present: But the voting occurred shortly before the meeting closed when JULY AUGUST 1 many bishops had already left to catch flights home.

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The norms decided on by the bishops need Vatican confirmation before they can take effect, said Father Donald Heintschel, NCCB associate general secr:etary. The request was sent to the Vatican in December, he said.

He added, however, that Vatican approval might take longer than usual for such matters because to his knowledge the norms approved by the U.S. bishops are the first in the world to use a sliding-scale formula instead of flat-rate basis.

Under the norms, a diocese with 200,000 or fewer Catholics would need Vatican approval to

seH or mortgage a piece of church property worth more than $1 mil1ion. For any diocese with 1 mil1ion or more Catholics, Vatican approval would be needed only for transactions in excess of $5 million.

For dioceses with a Catholic population between 200,000 and 1 million, the point at which Vatican approval would be needed would be determined by the sliding scale.

Father Heintschel said the $1 million limit remains in effect until the Vatican approves new norms.

To head Jesuit education Rev. VincentJ. Duminuco, S.J.: who will conduct a professional . day Jan. 31 'at Bishop Conolly High School, Fall River, has been named secretary of education for the worldwide Society of Jesus by Rev. Peter-Hans Kolvenbach, super-' ior general of the society. He will move to Rome early in 1987 to assume his new position, in which he will succeed Rev. James W. Sauve, S.J. ofthe Wisconsin Jesuit province.

Following an exchange of eltters in June 1985 between the diocese of Providence and Mrs. Mary Ann Sorrentino, for the past eight years director of Planned Parent, hood of Rhode Island, it was publicly announced this week that her "professional association" has brought about her excommunication from the Catholic Church.

The situation came to light after cable television programs last Tue~day featured a statement by Father John Randall of the Providence diocese that Mrs. Sorrentino "is in fact formally excommunicated from the Roman Catholic Church."

Following the telecast, Mrs. Sorrentino said she had written to Providence Bishop Louis E,Gelineau last June to clarify her position in the church.

In reply, Father Salvatore R. Matano, cochancelJor and vicar for administration of the Providence diocese wrote in part: "It is not the Bishop of the Diocese who has excommunicated you, but rather you are excommunicated by reason of the universal law of the Church. Canon 1398 of the Church's Code of Canon Law states: A person who' procures a successful abortion incurs an automatic excommunication.

The penalty of Canon 1398, excommunication, is described as latae sententiae. that is, a penalty inflicted by the law itself immediately upon commission of the ' offence.

"You may argue that," in fact, you have not procured an abortion. However, the meaning of the canon is that 'to procure an abortion' extends to those who assist others or cooperate with others in effecting an abortion. You may argue further that the law containing the censure for abortion does not name the cooperators as liable to penalty. flowever, Canon 1329, clearly states: 'Accomplices who 'are not named in a law or in a precept incur an automatic penalty (latae sententiae) attached to anoffense if it would not have been committed without their efforts and the penalty is of such a nature that it can punish them; ... ' "It is incomprehensible that you cannot perceive that you are an accomplice when you direct an agency where,. according to the November 11,1984, edition of the Sunday Journal Magazine. 'about one-sixth of the state's 7,000 abortions a year are performed.'

represent Father Kolvenbach in the World Union of Jesuit Alumni.

Holder of a doctorate in education from Stanford University, Fath~r Duminuco, 52, is currently president of the Jesuit Secondary Education Association, a national .

"This is the heart of the issue association of U.S. Jesuit secon- and the very cause of your excomdary schools headquartered in munication. Your efforts have Washington, D.C. resulted in'the sinful termination of human life."

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New attitudes undermine • marrIage, says expert WASHINGTON (NC) - While major economic result" of nogovernment data released this fault divorce has been "the sysimpoverishment' of January showed a slight decline tematic in U.S. divorces between .1982 women and children." and 1983, there is no evidence "When we change the rules of that this is a trend, said Msgr. divorce," she said, "that is when James T. McHugh, a family life we change the rules for what is and population specialist. expected of husbands and wives "Societally, we've adopted upon divorce - we also change new attitudes towards divorce the rules for legal marriage: we and marriage" in which economic implicitly create and "institufactors play a major role, he tionalize' new norms for marsaid. "Where the economic situa- riage." .

The Catholic Church in the tion allows divorce - at times United States has engaged in a almost rewards it (for men) you're not going to see a rever- serious effort to stabiHze marriage through better premarital sal of the trend.

"The only thing that can re- preparation, but it has no emverse it is a reconsideration and pirical data to analyze the efreaffirmation of some of our fectiveness of that work, Msgr. basic concepts about marriage McHugh said.

"For a significant time now, and the family."

Msgr. McHugh, a Newark, dioceses have been establishing N.J. priest who is special con- policies of some preparation for sultant on population issues to marriage besides just filling out the Holy See's United Nations forms," he said. The primary office, was interviewed by tele- effort has been along lines of phone after the U.S. National organized, required group and Center for Health Statistics re- individualized instruction for ported its final divorce statistics couples planning marriage, he said. for 1983.

But no diocese or other agency The center reported that divorces in the country declined 1 . has initiated any long-term or percent in 1983. There were comparative studies to measure 1,158,000. divorces, 12,000 fewer the impact of those programs, than in 1982. The 1982 figure in he said.

"My impression is, generally turn was 4 percent below that of they have had a good effect," he 1981. aut 1981's 1,213,000 divorces said. The mere demand for such capped a long string of increases preparation "tells young people which saw the yearly number of that the church considers mardivorces more than triple within riage a serious business," and those going through such a pro.20 years. gram, especially younger couples, Msgr. McHugh pointed out "generally come away with a that provincional statistics from the Population Reference Bureau, positive feeling about it. They an independent agency, indicate see it as a process of enrichthat final figures ror 1984 and ment."

Their greatest weakness, he 1985 would again show increases said, is "that we have not put in the number of divorces.

Even without those data, the . enough effort into the systempriest said, he would not view atic training of those who are the two-year decline as a trend, conducting the programs."

Aside from strong premarital because there is no evidence of changes in more basic factors. preparation programs, in more "We don't have any evidence general terms "the church needs that marriage is getting more to make a more concerted effort, solid. There is no evidence that in a systematic way, to teach the people are better. prepared or indissolubility of marriage," he more committed to making mar- said.

"Years ago, priests were reriage work," he said.

As Americans began to marry quired to preach at least twice later and have children later, a year on marriage, on one Sunsome people looked at those day in Advent and one Sunday phenomena as signs that marri- in Lent," he said. While not obages would begin to be more' jecting to liturgical reforms stable, "but this hasn't oc- which led to changes in preaching norms, he said that no other curred," he said.

Msgr. McHugh said that in the systematic practice was brought early 1970s, when no-fault div- in to replace the old one. _orce legislation was being passHe also said that he did not ed all around the country, "I object to church marriage court wrote a couple of articles .•. in practice or the pastoral care of which I argued that you cannot divorced Catholics, but "unforjust streamline the divorce laws" tunately, because of all .the pubwithout having an impact on lic attention" devoted to changes how people approach marriage in those areas, many Catholics itself. have been left with a mistaken The empirical data are now "impression ... that the church bearing out that view, he said. has relaxed its views on indisHe cited a new book, "The solubility."

Divorce Revolution," by Stan"What I'm arguing for is a ford University sociologist Len- much stronger presentation of ore Weitzman, who has monitor- indissolubility - not only asa ed the socialogical effects of canonical (legal) thing, or even California's no-fault divorce law on the theological. level, but as - the first in the nation something th.at is deeply persince its inception. sonal, that touches on the very Quoting from the book, he nature of marriage and their said she concludes that "the well-being as Christians~"

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C4anges for Military Vicariate . SILVER SPRING, Md. (NC) - The third largest Catholic archdiocese in the United States - the archdiocese serving U.S. military personnel around the world - has moved its headquarters and formally announced a change in its name.

Formerly the U.S. Military Vicariate, it now carries the title ..Archdiocese for the Military Services, United States of America."

Located in New York City since the first U.S. military vicar was named in 1917, it opened its new offices Jan. I 3 in Silver Spring, a' suburb of Washington.

With some 2.1 million Catholics

under its care, the Archdiocese for the Military Services trails only the Los Angeles and Chicago archdioceses in Catholic population..

The military archdiocese serves Catholics of the five U.S. military services and their families at home or abroad. It also serves those in Veterans Administration hospitals and the U.S. government's overseas personnel and their families.

Last March Archbishop Joseph T. Ryan was named first head of . the independent archdiocese, which until then had b~en headed by the archbishop of New York.

Plans were announced at that time to change the structure of the

vicariate and move it to the Washington area, closer to the nation's military and military chaplaincy headquarters.

Auxiliary Bishop Angelo T. A~erra, archdiocesan vicar general,

saId that over the decades the former Military Vicariate has built up in its archives the sacramental records of some 2 million Catholics. He said Catholics needing access to those records should now write to: Archdiocese for the Military Services, United States of America, 962 Wayne Ave., Silver Spring, Md. 20910.

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Our Lady of Lourdes School, Taunton

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New Bedford' native pastor of Bahamian parish

By Joseph Motta, Father Martin Gomes, SS.CC., a native of Our Lady ofthe Assumption parish, New Bedford, has been pastor of St. Joseph's parish in Nassau, on New Providence Island in the Bahamas, since September 1983.

"It's just exciting to participate with the worshiping community," said the Sacred Hearts Father, the first American of Cape Verdean ancestry to be ordained into that community. "everyone sings so well, powerfully, with meaning and intention.

"Church worship is an important part of life" for members of the 51-year-old parish, Father Gomes explained.

"The Bahamas is a developing nation with a developing Church," he continued, noting that Roman Catholics make up about 22 percent of the islands' quarter milion population.

Tourism accounts for about 85 percent of the nation's economy, the priest said, adding that "there are a lot of hurting people throughout the diocese of Nassau." Many have no water or electricity in their homes, he said.

One of the largest parishes in the Nassau diocese, St. Joseph's facilities include a primary school directed by native Benedictine Sisters.

The Sacred Hearts community has served the diocese of Nassau on the island of Abaco since 1961.

Parish ministry at 5t.' Joseph's began 10 years later.

Other Sacred Hearts priests with ties to the Fall River diocese who have served at St. Joseph's include Fathers Jo.hn F. Sullivan, now chaplain of Sacred Heart Home, New Bedford, and Benedict F. Folger, now parochial vicar at Holy Trinity parish, West Harwich.

While growing up in the Whaling City as the second of the II children of Antonio and Lydia

Gomes, Father Gomes was a leading high school athlete. As a student at New Bedford Vocational High School, he w~s recognized as an outstanding basketball player, as was his older brother Paul, still a New Bedford resident. ' The brothers participated in the 1957 Tech Tournament at Boston Garden, with Martin earning first team all-tourney honors and his b'rother being named the tourney's most valuable player.

The future priest was also named to the All-Bristol County basketball team for four consecutive years, and additionally was a gridiron standout.

He considers sports "a way of moving on in life," explaining that the maturity he gained through' athletics came in part from team play, which brought him in contact with people from all walks of life.

Father Gomes also spoke of the "gift" of having been raised in New Bedford's Cape Verdean community.

"The whole neighborhood took responsibility for one another," he said. He lived in a three-story home with three generations of his family.

"Doors were always open," he said, describing the extremely close family ties.

A graduate of St Mary's Grammar School, New Bedford, now' St. James-St. John School, Father Gomes remembers the powerful influence of the Sisters of Mercy on his life and those of his five brothers and five sisters. "They contributed' a great deal in terms of my development, growth and understanding of what it meant to grow up," he said.

Now in his mid-40s, he poi!1ts to the late Msgr. Hugh A. Gallagher as another important person in his life. Msgr. Gallagher, who was pastor of St. James Church, New Bedford, and a strong presence at the grammar school, often took the young Martin with him to collect medical supplies to be forwarded to Catholic missions.

As a teenager, Martin Gomes became involved in parish life at Our Lady of the Assumption. He remembers the late Father Edmund Francis, a parochial vicar, and Father Raphael Flammia, a former

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Dear Dr. Kenny: I have a problem with my 45-year-old son. 18 years ago he was on drugs. Now he is going overboard with religion.

He carries the Bible wherever he goes- and puts religious signs all over his car and bedroom and outside wherever he can. He has withdrawn from the family and said all he wants to do is go to heaven.

Several mental clinics told us he should be hospitalized. But he says he is doing nothing wrong. I couldn't live with his religious beliefs so I told him to get a room and he did. But I feel guilty.

benefit from medication. He needs to see a psychiatrist.

A psychiatrist is a physician who specializes in mental disorders.{ Psychiatry is a recognized specialty in medicine. However, since any physician may refer to himself as a psychiatrist, you need to ask your psychiatrist if he o'r she is board certified in his specialty. If you are lucky and skillful enough to get your son to see a professional, you should be sure the professional is fully qualified.

How do you get him to see a psychiatrist? Why not begin where he is, instead of where we think he sholild be? Why not begin with his religious frame of reference?

He works a few days a week but Find a priest or minister your I don't know how he gets through son respects and who can separate the day. He doesn't have friends true religion from mental illness in because he always preaches to religious terms. Ask your son to them. I want to help him, but he ' see the priest. If your son will not, won't listen. I can't stand the ask the priest to go to your son. thought of having him committed. , A ,wise priest or minister will What do you think I should do? begin with the religious issues that (Ohio) preoccupy your son, and move You are right to dis!inguish relifrom there to a discussion of the gion and religiosity. Because he drives and fears and pain behind has the- trappings of religion does' his fanaticism. At no time will he not make his behavior intrinsically confront your son with the religious. Your son sounds- men"wrongness" of his approach. In tally ill. time, he may lead your son to professional help.

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If your answer at this time to both questions is no, then you cannot force him to accept help.

He is a free person and has civil rights. Stay in contact with him, be available when he needs or asks for help and pray for him.

Ask at your mental health clinic if they have a group for parents of mentally ill adults. You may find considerable wise counsel in talking with others who face a ~jmilar problem.

The fact that you have done everything you ca~ should help allay your guilt. The love that waits is no less love.

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Eva is a woman in her late 20s with a law degree from a prestigious university. Despite good looks, intelligence and a loving family, she suffered for seven years , with intense bouts of depression.

As she struggled to get through college and law school, she told me, she was continually bedeviled by attacks of self~hatred,debilitating anxiety and strong suicidal longings.

No amount of psy~hotherapyor drug therapy seemed to help her.

"I stayed in psychoanalysis for seven years, unraveling every thread of my complex web of personality, identity and ego," she said.

But she became more depressed than ever. "My IQgic reduced me to purposelessness and utter despair."

pered, 'Perhaps it's because you on, I have never doubted the existwant to live.' " .ence of God, his love for human"I pondered that little voice for kind and, most important, that several days. Something in me each one of us has a special purwanted to believe it. pose. I may not know why I'm "Three nights -later, it huge, viohere, but I have an unshakable lent storm ca'me. I went upstairs to faith that my life is valuable. And my room to watch the lightning I'm not depressed any_more." and thunder raging over the val- , When we celebrated the Epiley. I kept all the lights off and the phany, we remembered the comnight had a powerfuly mysterious ing of the magi as the first manifesenergy. Suddenly it appeared as if - tation of Christ to the gentiles. An the words were blazened across epiphany is just that - a manifesthe black sky, 'There's no question tation of a divipe being or spiritual truth. there's a God!' Many people have described such "I knew the words weren't there but I still felt their presence. Exactly experiences, where a simple but at that moment, to my utter amaze- striking event occasions an imme- ment, the lamp in my room lit up diate perception of reality; followed by itself. The light of God was sent by a personal awakening to faith.

Eva's story reminded me that to me at that exact moment. faith is life's essence. All our logic, "Now, I know that a fierce light- technological progress, work, hobning storm can produce unusual bies, sports and art are meaningelectrical phenomena, but all I less without a sense of connection know is that from that moment to a larger reality.

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At that point Eva took a medical leave from her job as a corporate lawyer to spend the autumn at her aunt's country home. She didn't know what to do because "no activity had any meaning left for me.

SCRANTON, Pa. (NC) - The directors of Catholic Golden Age have elected Thomas D. Hinton of Scranton to succeed Margaret Mealey of Oakland, Calif., as president of the national senior citizen association.

"The only thing I wanted to do was drive the car - as long as I was driving there was motion, but I would dread the return home when the motion would stop and all signs of life within me would cease.

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THE ANCHbRFriday, Jan. 24, 1986

Guatemalan bishops mull .monitoring~human rights of .more than 200' people who GUATEMALA CITY (NC) The Guatemalan bishops' con- have disappeared, had pressed ference is considering establish- the military government for in. ing a human rights monitoring formation about those' missing.

About 300 Mutual Support organization.

It iI'eportedly would resemble Group members joined 100 memTutela Legal, the human rights bers of t~e International March watchdog organization of the . for Peace ·in Central America San Salvador. archdiocese in Jan. 14 at Cerezo's inauguration his address to the people and ~ neighboring El Salvador.

In separate interviews, Arch- later ~ass. They held aloft posbishop Prospero Penado!? del ters With photos of missing peo.

Barrio and Auxiliary Bishop pie and carried handmade straw Juan Gerardi Conedera· of Gua- h?ts bearing the names of the temala City confirmed that the disappeared in red. The probishops ·are considering the mat- testers were predominantly poor ter. Bishop Gerardi said the and Indian, those who, according bishops had feared persecution to Archbishop Penados, "suffered if the organization had been es- most under the military's arbitablished under the' former mili- trary exercise of power."

"Alive they took them, alive tary regime. we· want them," the demonstraGuatemala's first . civilian tors chanted. president in 20 years, Vinicio A spokeswoman said the group Cerezo, was inaugurated Jan. 14. was demanding that Cerezo's He succeeded Gen. Oscar Mejia government "not let itself be Victores, whose counterinsur- manipulated by the military." gency war against rebels of the She noted that a decree of the Guatemalan National Revolu- out~oin~ ~overnment had granttionary Unity left 60,000 people ed Immumty to military personeirher dead or missing in the n~l s~spected of human rights last five years. Another 50,000 Violations. refugees, mostly highland In. "We are simply asking for jusdianS. have fled to Mexico. tice, that the new government Members of the Mutual Sup- ap~ly t~e law to the military for port Group, friends and relatives their crimes," she said.

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By Hilda Young I d?n't want to overstate my fear of gOing to the dentist, but I would rather go to face-to-face confession to the sternest of stern than have my teeth cleaned.

On the health history form where they ask if you have ever had an adverse reaction to dental work, I wrote an additional page.

"When did you develop a rash?" the dental assistant asked reading this form. ?

"About a week before the appointment," I told her.

"So it had nothing to do with the procedure itself?" she asked evenly.

"That's what you say," I thought to myself. "Hard to say," I said.

"And the dizziness and shortness of breath?" she went on. ~'While I was in the waiting room."

She looked at me suspiciously over her half-glasses, "How about the locking knees; thickening of the tongue, heart palpitations, cold sweats, spots before your eyes and stammering?" .

"When my name was called" I said ~s calmly as possible, calling to mind the deodorant comercial about not letting the.enemy see you sweat.

"Have you ever had an allergic reaction to anesthetic?" she pushed. "I see here the dentist noted he had a difficult time with it." , I squirmed a little. "Well, that might have been the time he couldn't get my mouth to open."

"Lockjaw' or paranoia?" she aske~ rather bluntly.' .

"I don't remember," I replied cleverly. "I think I had passed out by then."

"You know, Mrs. Young,'" she said slowly, "you really' .should

work to overcome your unnecessary and exaggerated fear of dental work. This is the era of painless dentistry. " "You mean you don't implant that savage little device under the tongue that sucks all the moisture out of your body?"

"Well," she started, but I didn't give her a chance to alibi.

"And I'll bet you still use those hypodermic needles that look like scuba tanks attached to Shish Kebab skewers."

"But, Mrs. Young... " she tried again.

"And what about that drawer' full of stainless steel hooks and jabbers? That's not the dentist's collection of crochet needles."

She stiffened. "Mrs. Young, do you want your teeth cleaned or not?"

I just knew she wouldn't understand !f I asked to say three Hail Marys and an act of contrition and leave. '

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become worried. What if employers or colleges learn about the suspension? WiII his grades be affected while he is away from class? And did he even get a fair chance to argue his case to the school officials? .

Suspension from school is no small matter, but your child may have more' rights than you think.

Discipline in the schools has come a long way since a Massachusetts grammar school student was expelled in 1870 for the offenses of laughing and whispering.

The Massachusetts Supreme Judical Court refused to interfere with this expulsion, citing a reluctance to second-guess school administrative actions. The court's decision is indicative of the general attitude towards school discipline in the 1800's. It was a century in,which some schools were known to punish disruptive students by susp1::nding them from the rafters in a closed sack.

Things are certainly different today. Schools in this age are concerned not with whispering and· giggling, but with narcotics, vandalism, assault, false fire' alarms' and theft. Nor are these problems

confined to urban areas. Many cess." Due process is a complicated legal doctrine, but essentially surburban and rural school administrators confront them on a it means that you are guaranteed fair procedures and protections in daily basis. For this reason, a growing legal framework has your dealings with federal, state, and local governments. arisen in the schools which protects the rights of students while According to the Supreme also' permitting the schoolS to Court, due process requires that if maintain a disciplined learning . you, as a student, are suspended environment. For there can be no for up to ten days, you must be learning without maintaining a given notice the of charges against system of order. you. If you deny the charges, In the early 1970's Dwight school officials must state the eviLopez, a high school student in dence they have against you and Ohio, was suspended from school give you an opportunity to give for ten days, as a result of a disturbyour side of the story. Suspensions ance in his school's cafeteria. which exceed ten days may require Dwight claimed he sat by passively greater safeguards, such' as an while others overturned tables and impartial hearing and the right to created disorder but was neverthecross-examine witnesses with less suspended the following day attorneys present. without talking to a single school Here in Massachusetts the exact official about the occurrence. procedures to be followed in Dwight and his parents felt they implementing a suspension are had been treated unfairly, so they determined by each local school waged a legal battle which led all district, following the Supreme the way to a landmark U.S. . Court guidelines. But at the very Supreme Court decision. least, it your child is facing a susThe Supre.me Court found that pension, you have a right to receive Dwight had indeed been treated notice of the precise charges. Your unfairly, basing its decision on the child'also has a right to an infor~ constitutional right to "due pro- mal meeting with a 'school admin-

strator, at which the charges may be discussed. As a parent you will usually be allowed to attend this meeting. You and your child have a right to hear the evidence which forms the basis for the charges.

You may also dispute this evidence. In some school districts you may be able to request a further hearing before an impartial school official. Formal hearings are often required for "long" suspensions which exceed ten school days. At a formal hearing you may be allowed to bring a lawyer and witnesses.

You or your attorney may also be able to ask questions ofthe school's witnesses.

All of these due process safeguards are intended to weed out .the mistakes which are inevitable in the disciplinary process, while still allowoing the schools to punish those who do disrupt the process of education. It is a system which takes into account the rights 0"£ not only the accused offenders, but also the need for all students to have a decent learning environment. .

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• to step up an ti-a p'artheid actIon WASHINGTON (NC) - ,In' 1986 U.S. Catholics and members of other mainline Christian bodies can expect intensified church aCtion against South African apartheid.

Answering last December's plea from South African church leaders to quit issuing statements and start doing things, some 150 U.S. church leaders met in Washington Jan. 13 to devise a common antiapartheid strategy.

They proclaimed 1986 "the year of action by U.S churches against apartheid," and they seem ready to make good on that promise.

Economic pressure to force rel~ atively peaceful change may be the only' alternative to violence, they, said declaring that apartheid South Africa's policy of segregating the races and denying the vote and other civil rights to the nation's black majority - is "an unmitigated evil, the product of sin and the work of the devil."

Among the leaders' plans are a day-long lobbyil"\g action on Capitol Hill this spring and a day of prayer, fasting and public witness June 16. June 16 is the 10th anniversary of the Soweto riots equivalent for black South Africans to the storming of the Bastille in France or the Boston Tea Party in the United States.

Key goals of the U.S. church leaders include "comprehensive economic sanctions" a'gainst South Africa by the U.S. government, getting U.S. banks to deny South Africa any renewal or rollover of: short-term loans coming due this spring, and escalating the campaign to force U.S. corporations to dissociate themselves from apartheid.

Catholic officials at the meeting included Father Rollins Lambert, African affairs specialist of the U.S. Catholic Conference; father Joseph Witmer, ecumenical affairs officer of the National Conference of Catholic Bishops; and African Missionary Father Thomas E. Hay-

den, president of the board of the Washington Office on Africa.

The C~tholic Church is not a member of the World Council of Churches, whose U.S. office coordinated the Washington meeting, but participants said they consider Catholic involvement important.

Father Lambert said afterward that if Catholic officials got involved in the actual development" of interfaith strategy, "so much the better." Even if the U.S. Catholic Conference did not participate in that way, it would work on a parallel track, cooperating wherever it could with the plans, he said.

In one way or another a policy of opposition to South African apartheid has been part of the institutional fabric of virtually all non-fundamentalist U.S. churches since at least the early 1970s.

But the keywords in the new movement are "common strategy."

Until now, church bodies opposing apartheid have ~perated separately.

One might content itself with a declaration that apartheid is evil and must be ended, while another might divest its stock portfolios of all shares in certain corporations investing in South Africa, or use those shares to introduce shareholder resolutions against apartheid. A third might focus on efforts at the nationalleve\ to change U. S. foreign policy toward South Africa, while a fourth might leave it to each local church to decide its own action.

In the Catholic Church, many religious orders and a few individual dioceses have been members of the inte'rfaith Center for Corpo-rate Responsibility. Through shareholder resolutions or divestiture, they have pressured corporations with investments in South Africa to leave the nation or to adopt corporate policies resisting apartheid.

The U.S Catholic Conference, which represents the American Ca-

tholic bishops on pu'blic policy issues, consults closely with the South African Catholic bishops in formulating its positions. It has not yet called. for corporate divestment, but in a major policy statement last September said that investments and loans to South Africa "carry grave moral burdens and have critical impact on issues of human rights."

While the USCC has been more cautious than many Protestant bodies which more openly advocate divestment, it has shared their

attitude regarding U.S. government policy.

In the Sept. I I policy statement, the USCC specifically called for congressional passage of the AntiApartheid Action Act, despite the fact that President Reagan had adopted many of its pro~osals two days earlier by executive order in order to preempt the congressional action.

The USCC said it welcomed Reagan's executive order but still believed "a stronger and broader approach ... is necessary."

Homosexual discrimination deplored by SF archdiocese SAN FRANCISCO (NC) -.

The Justice and Peace Commission and the Board of Ministries of the San Francisc'o Archdiocese have urged an end to violence against homosexuals, which has included homicides and assaults.

The archdiocesan agencies said that there t)as been an alarming increase in such violence. adding that discrimination "based on sex. race. ethnicity. age or sexual' orientation is a grave injustice and an affront to human dignity."

It added that recent statistics from the National Gav Task Force indicate that 93 percent of all homosexuals in the United States hav.e experienced some sort of vio-' lence.

Quoting a 1984 letter from Archbishop John R. Quinn 'to deans ofthe three-county archdiocese, the statement said, "This archdiocese wishes to convey to those who. will listen the 'utter incompatibility of such acts of vio. lence with a witness to the Gospel.

"We believe that the love and peace to which Christ calls us suggests that 'violence' goes beyond the threat or actuality of afflicting bodily harm to include its more subtle forms of interior prejudice and outspokcn antigay remarks and jokes."

"Nothing can justify these attacks on homosexual persons and the church must clearly repudiate such acts."

Violence is "not the way of the Gospel" or of the church. it added.

Archbishop Quinn had sent the letter in August 1984 after a much publicized attack by teen-agers on a 40-year-old 'homosexual man who later died from his injuries.

"Thesc kinds of violencc are equally inconsistent with Christian morality."

The statcmcnt said thc archdiocese was "well awarc". of the increasing violence' from reports of Community United Against Violence. a local group that monitors violence against homosexuals and others.

Your Forever "That which you have, you leave for someone else. What you are will be yours forever."

Cancer-hit mom nixes abortion., has healthy baby

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ATLANTA (N C)- The Catholic faith of Tom and Laurie Slagle of Griffin, Ga., was tested when doctors discovered Mrs. Slagle had inoperable breast cancer while in the early stages of her II th pregnancy.

The courts were also tested when Mrs. Slagle was refused chemotherapy treatments by 'Emory University Hospital in Atlanta because she refused an abortion.

"It's strange that my wife and I, who always fought abortion, were the ones that had to be put to thetest," Tom Slagle told The Georgia Bulletin, newspaper of the Atlanta Archdiocese.

Slagle, a permanent deacon, and his wife are members of Sacred Heart parIsh in Griffin.

Their son Jonathan was born healthy Sept. 21, said Mrs. Slagle, but when her cancer was diagnose.d, abortion had been recommended.

"The radiologist just assumed we were going to have one," Slagle recalled, adding that it was brought up again and again and "we sai~ no (and) said no again."

When Mrs. Slagle arrived at the Hospital for her first chemotherapy treatment, a lawyer greeted her and her husband and said hospital officials were concerned about the effect of treatments on the fetus.

She said another concern was , whether the hospital and doctors would be held legally responsible if the treatments affected the child's health.

The Slagles waived their own rights but were told they could not, waive the rights of the unborn child, who could choose to sue when he or she reached 18 if the treatments proved harmful.

"I had made up my mind that our only chance was to get everybody to pray," Slagle said. "I doubt there was one church in Griffin that. wasn't praying for her. " Lawyers for the Slagles and for the hospital went to court to determine whethe'r treatments for Mrs. ' Slagle! by then five months preg-, nant, were in the best interest of the unborn child. A lawyer was appointed to represent the rights of the child.

The judge ruled that treatments could take place but requested regular reports on any changes in Mrs. Slagle's condition or that of the baby.

Mrs. Slagle said she received chemotherapy and radiation with few side effects until a couple of weeks before the baby was due.

After the birth, treatments resumed.

"I always felt it would come out fine," said Mrs. Slagle, who said she feels her cancer eventually will disappear.

"We have one half of the miracle," she said, referring to J onathan, "and now we just need the other half."

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By NC News Service Jazz singer Sarah Vaughan has recorded an album of songs based on poems written by Pope John Paul II. The album, "Let It Live" is the culmination of three years' work that included a concert in June 1984 by Miss Vaughan in Dusseldorf, West Germany, which was televised across Europe.

Miss Vaughan was accompanied by a chorus and orchestra of German classical players in collaboration with internationallyknown jazz musicians, said Gene Lees, producer of the album for Jazzletter Records'in Los Angeles.

The album contains eight poems written, by the pope as a young priest, said Lees, who also translated the poems from Polish and Italian into English.

The record proj'ect took root when the pope's writings were given . to Libreria Editrice Vaticana, the Vatican publishing house. Mario

DiNardo, a Roman film producer, became aware of the poems and asked Gigi Campi, a music publisher, if he thought any of them could be set to music.

Campi showed the poems to composer and pianist Tito Fon-' tana, who with fellow composer Sante Polumbo produced a tape with singer Paola Orlandi, released in Italy under the title "Concert For Peace."

Campi decided to have the songs translated into English by Lees, who studied them but found the job oftranslating nearly impossible.

"How could one possibly fit the English language to melodies determined by the Italian translations of poems written in Polish, without doing violence to the meanings of the originals?" he asked.

With Miss Vaughan singing, Lalo Schifrin conducting and jazz saxophonist Sahib Shihab penning the score, the project was completed with the recording of the Dusseldorf concert.

The, album opens with "The Mystery of Man," a reflection on man's origins, and proceeds to "The Actor," seen as containing all men within him. It then examines a "Girl Disappointed, in Love," and ends with the plea "The Planet is Alive, Let it Live."

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THE ANCHO~-DioceseorPaH River.-Fri., Jan. ~4, 1986

By C.harlie Martin

CRY . You don't know how to ease my pain' You don't know You don't know how to ease my pain You don't know what the sound is darling It's the sound of my tears falling Or is it the rain?

You don't know You don't know how to play the game And you cheat you lie You make me want to cry Don't you hear any voices crying That's the sound of our love dying Here comes the rain You don't know how to play the game And you cheat you lie You don't even know how to say goodbye You make me want to ~ry Sung by Godley and Creme. (c) 1985 by Godley and Creme Breaking up with a girlfriend or boyfriend is always difficult.

Yet doing so may sometimes be the only way one can improve his or her life. If we learn from what has happened, we will be more' likely to form successful and loving relationships in the future.

Godley and Creme's "Cry" tells us about a relationship. that falls apart. Tne people's hurtful behavior destroys whatever love may have been there: "You cb~at,

you lie, you' make me want to cry."

What may be even worse, this couple does not seem able to break off the relationship, as in thesorig'swords"Youdon'teven know how to say goodbye." . The song is a reminder that we do not know what will happen in a dating relationship. As time passes, we may discover that what we thought would be a good relationship is h'ot turning

out as we hoped. We may come to see that breaking off the relationship is the only positive decision left.

However, leaving a relationship, even one like the song describes, may not be easy. The person wanting to leave may feel guilty or afraid that the other will' be hurt. The following suggestions may not make the' decision easier, but they will help you get through such a process.

I. Be honest, both with yourself and the other person. To pretend love or affection that no longer exists is to tell a lie. Such false actions only lead to deeper hurt.

2. Be fair. It is unlikely that the failure of the relationship is only one person's fault. Do not blame the other for all the relationship's problems.

3. Be sensitive. Allow the other person to have his or her feelings. The person may expr~ss anger, hurt or any other emotion. Part of the process of separation is to to the other's feeling response.

4. Be firm. If you have honestly decided that no other alternatives are available for helping the relationship change and grow, do not agree to the ·other's attempts to continue the relationship.

5. After the separation, be gentle on yourself. You are likely to encounter grief·andsadness , for a while, but do not sit around and mope. Do things that bring some enjoyment into your life. , Your comments are always. welcome. Address Charlie Martin, 1218 S. Rotherwood Ave., Evansville, IN 47714..

Does loneliness ·hurt?

By Cecilia Belanger During the year I receive many letters from lonely people. Their ages vary from seven to 77.

Sometimes letters are from invalids, other times from the hale and hearty. Loneliness can strike anyone. Its statistics art: impressive. . It's said that unless you have experienced loneliness yourself you cannot really understand it.

But then, how many people do you know who haven't experienced it at one time or another?

as punishment. In old Japan isolation was called mura-hachibu.

When someone broke a community law, such as stealing water from a neighbor's rice paddy or moving a land marker, he was removed from the village. All community rights were taken a way with the exception of two: villagers were obligated to help in case of fire and to attend his funeral.

Loneliness hurts. Isolation hurts.

However, I have met people who love to live alone. They shun too much company, detest cro'wds and don't "go in for visiting." So A poll recently conducted by . . th.e~e ilre exceptions., Psychology Today indicates that loneliness is a frequent problem.

The lonely love to receive mail.

38, percent .of that magazine's They consider a walkto the grocery female subscribers and 43 percent store a fun experience because of· its male ~ay they often feel ther.e· might be someone. to talk to !onely. there. No one even notices them Psychologists warn that lone- on the sidewalk, they sometimes, liness is dangerous to' people) say; A smile ~puld help, they add .. health;' sadly, . it ~as' also'. 'been Loneliness begins with a feeling' pro~en that ~emg m the ,midst of, of ;solation. It comes creeping in'~ family and friends doesn .1 always' . .' . . . . •. alleviate it. Mahy have told' me' and ,envelops Its ~Ictlm. The ~alls ~f tl:tey feel lonely when they are not one s;w~rld begm to move m u~t11 e, with those who understand them cut off from the mamand have something in common '. s ream.

Wh~tto do about it?· with them. They <:annot rdate to people from the other end.of the i~t's:look at'iu)w·.Christiariity . spectrum of their lives. :can .aid .the lonely. It. carigive' Children often feel lonery: .., lonely.people a companion, some.. Loneliness often is used as onewlu>isalwayswith ~hem. That punishment~ Solitaryconfinement;comp!lniQn is Jesus. When we are we call it; the punishme.nt given to ··.~.Ionely we are not truly enjoying hardened offenders. . '. the presence of God in our lives. I I have read that every traditional' have . seen 'many lonely people society used some form of isolation helped' by reading their Bible.

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In the Psalms we can find many conversing with God, and can read statements that tell us that God is near, taking care of his people. Psalm 23 is a favorite: "The Lord is my shepherd." Then there's psalm 103, which says that God is like a father to his people, taking care of us, his children. p~ople

Loneliness is an enemy. It must be fought the moment it begins creeping into our lives. Just as sins can be washed away by placing them at the foot of the cross, there we may place our loneliness and the pain it 'brings, remembering and being grateful for the words, "~ome to me." '

==focu/a on youth MEMBERS OF "JOURNEY," the youth group at St. Mary's parish, Mansfield, visit LaSalette Shrine, Attleboro.

Father Stephen Avila, advisor, is at lower left. (Breenphoto)

Bishop Connolly Faculty at Bishop Connolly High School, Fall River, will .attend a professional day Jan. 31 directed by Father Vincent Duminuco, SJ, president of the Jesuit Secondary Education Association of the United States. There will be no classes that day.

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Q. What do you do when your. parents fight so milch that you can't stand to live at home?

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A. First, here are two things you should not do: Don't cover yourself with guilt by thinking, mistakenly, that you are somehow the cause of their fighting .. I suspect the chances against you being the cause are at least 1,000 to one.

And don't run away from home.

That solution is full of ghastly dangers. You could end up getting killed.

Butwhat are some positive steps you might take while you live in a sort of domestic battlefield? ' .

When the time seems right and the atmosphere is calm, you might, . if you think it will. do some good, show your parents, in separate,sessions, this column and tell them' you are the questioner.

Try to explain gently to your parents how p.~inful it is for you to see two people you love so much, fighting with each other. Make clear that you do love them both.

If tears' should 'start f10wirig as. you talk, let them flow. They will help bring out clearly how disturbed and hurt you are by the .situation io, your home. .

direction of Douglas Smith, will present "Ordinary People," at 8 p.m. Feb. I. There is no admission charge and the public is welcome.

Connolly seniors Mark Condon and Elizabeth Fasy were selected as December "Teenagers of the Month" by the Fall River Lodge of Elks:

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may be willing to talk with your parents about what the fighting is doing to you.

An ·adult might also help you take a tour through the Yellow Pages of your telephone book.

Under "Social Services Organizations" you may find a group that provides professional help· for troubled families.

Then you can make a phone call. The person who answers is likely to be friendly and also willing to give you some ideas about what to do for yourself and for your parents.

Now, let's suppose the worst: The fighting at home continues and you cannot help in any way.

You become desperate and want to run away. .Place your heartbreak with his.

If run you must, then run to the Your burden will,be lighter. home of a relative, peighbor or friend and ask for help.

Consider too, and hang onto this idea, that while life at home is grim and terribly painful, it's nothi!1g compare4 to what you THiBODAlJ.X, La.,.(NC) will"find if yo'u try' to live on the Young people must us~ themselves, streets. . , their education- and achievements Hang on'also to the idea that the and' eventually their careers "in the Lord is close to the brok·enhearted. service of Christ and his church;" He's as close as a whispered prayer. sayS Bishop. James Malone :of Talk to him in your own words Youngstown, Ohio; "president' of and let him know how much you the National Conference ofCath- . hurt. ollc BI·shops. The bishop said' ~hat Do try to .talkWith another The Lord can' comfort you, and the Second Vatican Council called adultallout the problem - a rela- eventually you will find that in youths to take responsibility-for tiv€:,..·a· teacher, apriest,a school' some way he has answered your the Catholic Church and the world co~nselor or· some adult friend. prayers and has strengthened you "by virtue of their baptism." He . One of these ·peop.le may have to })ear what seemed unbearable. spoke ala National Catholic Stu:" some suggestions about getting Send questions·to Tom Lennon, dent Coalition conference at Nich- your ·parents·:to go to a profes-: 1312 Mass. Ave. N.W., Washingolls State University in Thibodaux. . sional family counselor. Or they'. ton, D.C. 20005.

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portswQtch Spattanette coach honored Terry Dougall, head field hockey coach at Bishop Stang High School, North Dartmouth, has been named the Southeastern Massachusetts 'tonfer~nce Field Hockey Coach of the Year.

During her 17 years as leader, Stang teams compiled a very impressive record of 139 wins, 27 ties and 21 losses. With 12 straight years of post-season tournament play, Stang earned II league championships and four state titles.

A recent alumni-varsity basketball game netted almost $200 for. the John O'Brien Scholarship

Fund. In the close contest, the grads nipped the varsity hoopsters 69~68. The late O'Brien was a Stang coach many years.

Also, in a, release from ,the school's athletic department, it was noted that the girls' basketball team had won the Old Rochester Christmas TQurney'for the third consecutive year.

Spartanette Jennifer Markey posted a time of 7.1 to take first place in the hurdles, at the Massachusetts State Coaches meet, held recently at Harvard University.

Kineavy again awards chairman John Kineavy, rotired principal of Dartmouth High School, ~as again been chosen as a wards chairman for the Father Donovan CYOScholarship Fund All-Star Game, setfor April '3 at Fall River Driscoll Rink.

He will be assisted by John Viveiros, a former Merrimack College player and Dave Mazzerella, a former hockey captain at Southeastern Massachusetts University. Plaques will be presented to each team's top three players at the event.

The game pits a stellar team from the Bristol County CYO Hockey League against one made up of local senior high school skaters.

John Carey, director of CYO

hockey and varsity' coach at Fall River's Durfee HighSchool, will direct the senior team with the assistance of Connolly's Mike Relihan and New Bedford's Greg Tougas.

The CYO team will be under direction of Glenn Souza and Gus Venice of Fall River South, Paul Labonte of the New Bedford squad and Mansfield's Nick DeMarco. .

Leonel Ventura, Driscoll Rink director, and Bob Richards, a former Durfee coach, wilfbe m"asters of ceremonies.

All-Star selections will be announced over the next two weeks. A special committee will host the traditional post-game banquet.

All-Star designates Members of the Fall River Herald News Small Schools AIIStar Soccer Team have been named.

Among them are Curt Hilbert, Ian Bardoff, Ted Boudua and Steve Vincelette. Lou Matos,

Westport High's outstanding forward, and his teammates Ken Tripp and Mike Gagne are also on' the stellar combine. Others on the team are D.J. Machado, Dave Bushell and Carlos ,Casanova of Case.

High school games tonight Play tonight in high school basketball features inter-division games in the Southeastern Massachusetts Conference. ,

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Last Horseman SCRANTON, Pa. (NC) -left halfback' jim Crowley, the last surviving member of the famed Four Horsemen of Notre Dame football in the 1920s, died Jan. 15 in Scranion at the a'ge' of 83.' A funeral Mass'was'held jan. 17 at St. Clare;s 'Catholic Church' in Scranton. The"mime Fotlr.'Horsemen was giv'en:the quartet in 1924 by sport~writer,qrantland Ric.e:of The N~ew. Y.ork"Herald Tribune.

Harry Stuhleqreher,' the qUllr'te'rback, died in 19(i5; Elm'er Layden, the fullback, d,ied in 1973; and' Don Mi~ler,' the :right, hillfb~ck, died in ,1979: .AIl'fo.iJrwere elec'ted to the' National Football Hall of Fame. ' . ,

Coyle-Cassidy at Dennis- Yarmouth, Connolly at Durfee and Feehan at Attleboro.

• In girls' basketball, Feehan treks to Connolly a'nd Stang visits Dartmou!h.

Sacred: Heart is host to Tri· County in a Mayflower League boys' hoop encounter; The Greater New Bedford Voke-Tech' Invitational"' Track Meet will tie held at' I p.m. tomorrow. . "

. Consultors , . ,V ATICAN CITY (Nt) BishopS- 'John' R: K'eating' of Ar-' lington, Va., and Ad!\-nl J:, Maida of Green Bay, 'Wis.., have been' named consultors to the Pontifical Commissi(jn for tife Authentic Interpretation 'of Canon Law. ' ' The co'mmission provides official interpretations ,of ~anon law, the ~hurch's .legal co<le. Consultor.s, arl periodically asked to submit opinions on"canon Jaw issues and attend Vatican meetings,

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tv, movie news Symbols following film reviews indicate both general and Catholic Film Office ratings, which do not always coincide.

General ratings: G-suitable for gen· eral viewing; PG·13-parental guidance strongly suggested for children under 13; PG-:-parental guidance suggested; R-restricted, unsuitable for children or younger teens.

Cathol ic ratings: AI-approved for children and adults; A2-approved for adults and adolescents; A3-approved for adults only; A4-separate classification (given to films not morally offensive which, however, require some analysis and explanation); O-morally offensive.

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Fall River 675·7496 this role-reversal plot are mildly diverting with saccharine-coated 'problems and an old-fashioned HThe Adventures of Mark happy ending sure to elicit groans Cornwell Memorial Twain" (Atlantic) - Combining from feminists. In other words, the elements of the author's life and film's sel\sibilities are of an earlier Chapel, Inc.. times with excerpts from his writ-' generation, like the husband's total 5 CENTER STREET ings, this animated fantasy will innocence of the basic survival WAREHAM, MASS. amuse youngsters while providing skills.that used to be known as the DIGNIFIED FUNERAL SERVICE older viewers with some insights domestic arts. The film toys with DIRECTORS into Twain's complex character. but firmly rejects several plot lines GEORGE E. CORNWEll EVERETT E. IIAHRMAN What makes the film a visual treat leading toward infidelity. A2, PG is its use of clay animation, mak295·1810 Religious TV ing possible fully mobile characSunday, Jan. 26 (CBS) - "For ters in imaginative sets. Several' scenes may be frightening for the Our Times" - In thi!! second provery young, but otherwise it is gram on the 1985 extraordinary Synod of Bishops, CBS reports on the implementation of the Second Vatica,~ Council in Third World 936 So. Main St., Fall River countries.

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THE ANCHOR-Diocese of Fall River-Fri., Jan. 24, 1986

SECULAR FRANCISCANS, ' ST. MARY,NB Parent interviews for next year's POCASSET St. Francis of Cape Fraternity kindergarten and nursery programs meeting 2 p.m. Feb. 2, parish center. are now being held by Father John Father Edwin Dirig, OFM, will celeF. Moore, pastor, and Dennis Poyant, parish school principal, by brate Mass and speak. Information: Dorothy Williams, SFO 394-4094. appointment. Information: St. Mary's School office, 995-3696 , COMPASSIONATE FRIENDS, Illinois Club: meeting 7:30 p.m. FALL RIVER/TAUNTON Jan. 28, school. All parish men are Meeting 7:30 p.m. Jan. 27, St. invited to join.

Louis de France School, Swansea.

CORPUS CHRISTI, SANDWICH Parish men's retreat: Jan: 31 to Information: Sandra Sousa, 823Youth choir: first rehearsal 4 p.m.

Feb. 2, Family Life Center, No. 5240. tomorrow, church. Children grades Dartmouth. Information: Terry ST. ANTHONY OF THE DESERT,' 3 to 6 welcome. Information: Ada Breton, 995-3696, or Father John F. FR Simpson, 746-5440. , Moore, 995-3593.

Adoration of BI. Sacrament noon Adult choir: rehearsals 7:30 p.m. ' Retreat renewal evening for those Thursdays. New members welcome. who made the parish retreat last to 6 p.m. Feb. 2, ending with holy hour.

Parish Bible study group informa- year: 7:30 p.m. Jan. 29. School hall tion: 428-9456; get-together follows Mass.

HOLY NAME, FR The parish youth group begins a ST. DOMINIC, SWANSEA "Snowstorm in the Jungle," a two-day ski trip today to Mt. Wildmovie about drug trafficking and cat, New Hampshire. substance abuse suitable for junior high school or older students, will be O.L. VICTORY, presented at 2 and 7 p.m. Feb. 2, and CENTERVILLE HONG KONG (NC) - Life for The parish youth group has raised at 6:45 p.m. Feb. 3 Fathe,r Carey a substantial sum of money through Center. Guest speaker Tom Croke practicing Christians in Moslem Pakistan can be difficult, especially a recent rock-a-thon to benefit a will discuss the movie. All welcome. in rural villages, says Pakistani needy family in the Dominican ST. MARY, SEEKONK Republic.

Father Emmanuel Asi. Prayer group: meets 7:30 p.m.

Father Asi, rector of the Catholic Mondays church hall. ' BLESSED SACRAMENT, FR National Theological Institute in Alcoholics Anonymous: meets 7 Choir get-together: 7:30 p.m. Jan. , Karachi, Pakistan, describes his 30, church basement. All children p.m. Wednesday, church hall. southwest Asian country as an Introduction to the Bible, a sixand adults welcome to meet choir Islamic republic strongly pursuing members,consider joining and enjoy week Lenten series for adults, will be offered by Father William F. Baker refreshments the Islamicization of its society. parochial vicar, at 9:45 to II a.m: ' The priest, in Hong Kong for a ST. JOHN EVANGELIST Lenten Tuesdays, and 7 to 8: 15 p.m.

Bible workshop, said a Christian Boys' ECHO weekend: Feb. 7 to Lenten Thursdays. living in a village that is nearly all 9. Applications at parish center.

Parish appreciation dinner: 6:30 Moslem - the type of village he Parishioners interested in forming p.m. Feb. 2. a prayer group may contact Deacon grew up in - has "a kind of O.L. MT. CARMEL, NB Robert D. Lemay, 477-2435. untouchability. " Parish prayer groups: New CreaFAMILY LIFE CENTER, "When I was a student in a tion: 7 p.m. Mondays, church base- ' NO. DARTMOUTH ment. O.L. Mt. Carmel (Portuguese) government school, I had to sit in Marriage Preparation Team 7 p.m. Thursdays, church. Youth a corner of the room. I couldn't 'workshop: 12:30 p.m. to 5:30 p.m.

Prayer Community: 7 p.m. Fridays, drink water from the same tap as church basement.

Moslems," Father Asi said.

ST. JULIE, NO. DARTMOUTH Rosary and Benediction: 7 p.m.

"At a restaurant," he continued, ST. JOSEPH, FAIRHAVEN Sunday.

Cub Scout PacR meeting 5:30 p.m. "they have special utensils for ChristSunday, church hall. Also Sunday, ians and ask if you're Christian."

IMMACULATE CONCEPTION, Marriage Enrichment night 7:30 to There is less religious discrimi-' TAUNTON 9:30, rectory, with Father Chuck nation in larger cities because "noBabysitting service available at no Gallagher video. body knows you," he said. But cost during 10:30 a.m. Sunday Mass.

ST. STANISLAUS, FR there is still "lots of social discriminST. JOAN OF ARC, ORLEANS School registration for next fall:, ation."

Choir: practice 7 p.m. Thursdays, following 10:30 a.m. Mass Feb. 2.

Orleans.

About one-half of I percent of Pakistan's approximately 90 million population is Catholic.

Father Asi said getting a job is complicated by the use of European baptismal names. "Once they know our names, they know we are Christians," he said. Moslems JUNE 30, 1986 '''want to feed their community

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ST. PATRICK, FR Youth group: meeting 7:30 p.m Monday, school. New members age 13 to 18 welcome.

CHRIST THE KING, COTUIT/MASHPEE Adult choir rehearsal: 7:30 p.m.

Jan. 29, St. Jude the Apostle Chapel, Cotuit.

RECOLLECTION, LOWER CAPE A Night of Recollection, including a Mass, for all people involved in the spiritual development of children (ECHO and youth minister~, priest directors, religious educatIOn helpers and teachers), sponsored by the Lower Cape Board of Religious Education Directors and dirc:cted by Father William M. Costello, will be offered from 7 to 9:30 p.m. Fe.b. 2, O. L. Victory Church, Centervl1le ST. FRANCIS XA VIER, HYANNIS Prayer group: meeting 8 p.m. Tuesdays, parish center.

ST. THOMAS MORE, SOMERSET Confirmation I'retreat weekends: Feb. 1-2, March 8-9, parish center.

SACRED HEARTS, FAIRHAVEN Holy hour: 7 p.m. Jlln. 28. Celebrant: Father Martin Buote, pastor of St. Anne's parish, New Bedford.

Information on Monday evening Inquiry classes: the Harts, 994-7717.

ST. ANNE, NB Greater New Bedford Choral Society concert 3 p.m. Feb. 2. To be heard: Mass in the Time of War, Haydn; selected medieval hymns and Renaissance songs.

BL. SACRAMENT ADORERS Holy hour Sacred Hearts Church, Fairhaven, 7 p.m. Jan. 28, directed

by Father Martin Buote. Refreshments will follow. ' LaSALETTE SHRINE, ATTLEBORO Healing service 2 p.m. Jan. 26, People's Chapel, conducted by Father Leo Maxfield, MS.

Pakistani Christians have difficult ,time

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and relatives" so Christians take second place in the job market, he said.

"Some young people want to keep a Christian and a Moslem name. They justify this as 'incul.trualization,' " he said. "After all we have suffered, it's good to take a Pakistani name and also keep a European - I don't say Christian - name.

"If we use names from the Old Testament, they are equally holy to Moslems. A baptismal name is okay, but we must have a Pakistani name," he said.

Father Asi said that Christian evangelizing is almost impossible because of social pressures that exist in a Moslem society. He said that what is accomplished is done through catechists.

"They reaily reach people,," he said. "A priest may have 80-120 villages and seven catechists. With the climatic and. social difficulties, he may visit a village once or twice a year.

"But the catechist is with the people often, so most evangelization is done through him," he said.

A priest'sjob is not easy, Father Asi said, but seminaries offer hope.

"The vocation rate is growing," he said. "We are very happy.", He said there are 300 priests for I million Pakistani Catholics. There are five to seven ordinations annually and over half the priests have ben ordained less than 25 years.

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LIKE THESE LITTLE nut processors, 44 million Indian children between ages 5 and 15 are part of the country's work force, pressed into service because of family pover~y.

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