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Millennium sparks hope, fear in USSR MOSCOW (NC) - Vatican officials participating in June celebrations of the millennium of Christianity in what is now the Soviet Union praised the country's reforms and expressed hope for the future of religion in the country. But Cardinal Myroslav Lubachivsky, head of the Ukrainian Catholic Church, said the Soviet government used the millennium ceremonies to create an illusion of religious liberty under the communist government. He also accused a Russian Orthodox church leader of ecumenical "blackmail" on the issue of the legalizing the Ukrainian Church. Cardinal Agostino Casaroli, Vatican secretary of state, headed the Vatican delegation to the millennium ceremonies. Cardinal J 0hannes Willebrands, head of the Vatican Secretariat for Promoting Christian Unity, also attended. They prodded high-ranking Soviet leaders for more freedom of religion. Cardinal Casaroli, the No. 2 man at the Vatican and the highestranking Vatican official to visit the Soviet Union, told government leaders that Christianity is an "uncontestable reality" of human history and must be a factor in plan. ning for the future. "The realism of men of state makes it a necessity. And respect for man demands it," the cardinal said in a June 10 speech at Moscow's Bolshoi Theater, at which Raisa Gorbachev, wife of Soviet leader Mikhail Gorbachev, was present. Cardinal Casaroli praised Gorbachev's reform policies and expressed hope that they would lead to greater religious freedom. The Vatican official noted the improved relations between the government and the Russian Orthodox Church, the largest in the nation, and asked that this "new breath" be exended to Catholics and religion in general. The Christian vision of the world is in "complete opposition" to the view that human reason can eliminate religion, said Cardinal CasaroIL "The fact of religion, especially Christianity, is still an uncontestable reality," he said... It cannot be neglected by anyone responsible for facing reality, nor can it be neglected in daily life or in plans for the future." "The supremacy of the state in the religious field" is an outdated idea, the cardinal added. The Vatican official praised an April speech by Gorbachev in which the Soviet leader said a new law on freedom on conscience and organized religions was planned.
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MOTHER TERESA and some of her sisters ar.e escorted into the Concord House of. Correction to visit prisoners. (NC/UPI photo)
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Mother Teresa visits U.S. By NC News Service Mother Teresa of Calcutta, founder of the Missionaries of Charity, earlier this month and in late May took her message of love to prisoners, high school graduates and the poor in cities around the United States and in Mexico. But the Nobel Peace Prize winner talked tough in St. Louis, telling pro-lifers she would like to put physicians who perform abortions in jail. While visiting three prisons in the Boston archdio'cese June 4, Mother Teresa urged prisoners to take advantage of their time in prison to be alone with God. They responded by standing on chairs, whistling and trying to touch her. Inmate Donald Ouimet, a former monk who ha"s been exchanging letters with Mother Teresa for several years, called the 77-year-old nun "the hands and feet of the Lord and the glory of God." Mother Teresa visited maximum security prisons in Concord and Walpole and a women's prison in Framingham. As she has so often, she spoke against abortion. She told prisoners abortion is double murder the killing of an unborn child and of a woman's conscience. To pro-lifers in St. Louis June 7, Mother Teresa said, "If I had power I would open a jail and I would put every single doctor [who
performs abortions] in the jail for kiHing, killing life, killing a child, a gift of God." The comments came during a talk to more than 3,000 people on behalf of Presbyterian Pro-Life prior to the opening of the general assembly of the Presbyterian Church USA. The Presbyterian Church USA favors legal abortion. "We are precious to him, every single child that he has created. Every unborn child in the womb, precious to him." Each child was created "for greater things, to love and be loved," she said. "That is 'why abortion has become the greatest destroyer oflove, of peace." -She urged prayer and sacrifice "to make up for what is being done" by abortion. In Washington, D.C., June 5, Mother Teresa shook hands with each of 186 graduates of Gonzaga High School as she passed out diplomas. She told the graduates, "Go out being carriers of God's love. Never be afraid to do small thin~ with great love." Instead of making a donation to the school, the seniors gave their class gift - nearly $5,000 - to her order, which operates three missions in the District of Columbia. Mother Teresa ended a two-day visit to the northern Mexican border town of Tijuana with the June 1 inauguration of a shelter for the homeless and needy run by sisters of her order. "We will always have the poor.
That's why it is important that we all learn to give them love, that they should be provided with free education as well as food and clothing," she said. When asked by reporters ifthere was an incongruency between the poverty of the developing countries such as Mexico and expenditures on armaments by developed nations like the United States, Mother Teresa replied, "I don't want to mix charity, which is Christian love, with politics." The shelter was opened 11 months ago under the direction of one U.S. and three Indian nuns belonging to Mother Teresa's order. "Hunger today is not only for bread" but forlove, Mother Teresa said May 31 in San Diego in conjunction with the Tijuana visit. She told nearly 6,000 people at the University of San Diego that God has promised salvation to those who help the hungry, naked and homeless. "God wants us to love one another as he loves us. You are precious to God," she said. Mother Teresa contrasted giving of one's abundance with the ideal of "giving until it hurts." Citing an example of the latter, she described an impoverished family with six children to whom she took food. Before feeding her own children, the mother shared Tum to Page Six
His Excellency, the Most Reverend Daniel A. Cronin, Bishop of Fall River, has accepted the nominations ofthe Very Reverend William Heffron, SS.CC., Provincial of the Sacred Hearts Community, and has made the following appointments, all effective July I: Reverend Patrick Killilea, SS.CC., to Pastor of Saint Joseph's Parish, Fairhaven. Reverend Brian Marggraf, SS.Ce., to Parochial Vicar at Saint Joseph's Parish, Fairhaven. , Reverend Matthew Sullivan, SS.Cc., to residence at Saint Joseph's Rectory and Ministry at the Eastern Massachusetts Correctional Alcohol Center. 'Reverend Henry Creighton, SS.CC., to Technical Assistant at Saint Mary's Parish, Fairhaven. Reverend Alphonsus McHugh, SS.CC., to Parochial Vicar at Saint Francis Xavier Parish in Acushnet. Reverend Leo King, SS.CC., to Technical Assistant at Saint Francis Xavier Parish in Acushnet. The bishop has also accepted the nomination of the Very Reverend Alban Montella, O.F. M., Provincial of the Franciscan Province of the Immaculate Conception, and has appointed the Reverend Ronald Siciliano, O.F.M., to Pastor of Saint Margaret's Parish in Buzzards Bay, and its Mission, Saint Mary's'in Onset.
Feticide deplored WASHINGTON (NC) - A Catholic pro-life official has called it "tragic" that some doctors are using selective abortion to reduce the number of fetuses in women who are pregnant with several. "And it is all the more tragic in light of the advances that could be made if the relentless effort to destroy were rechanneled into an equally relentless effort to help every mother and every child," said Gail Quinn. acting director of National Conference of Catholic Bishops' office for Pro-Life Activities, Ms. Quinn made the comments' in response to a report in a recent issue ofthe New England Journal of Medicine. The article by a team at New York's Mount Sinai School of Medicine detailed the" selective reduction of multifetal pregnancies in the first trimester of a pregnancy." Another Catholic pro-life leader. Msgr. Orville Griese. director of research at the Pope John XXlll Medical-Moral Education Center near Boston. said the procedure was .. murder. ... There's no other way of looking at it." Tum to Page Six
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SAVORING THE bittersweet joy of graduation at diocesan high schools are, left to right, top to bottoni, Jennie Anderson, Eric Nelson, Cindy MaId at Bishop Feehan, Attleboro; Kim Tintle, Eric Souza, Idalino Eduardo, Coyle
and Cassidy, Taunton; Kelly Murphy, Joseph Czarkowski, Lisa Dumont, Gregory Rounds, Bishop Connolly, Fall River; nearly everyone at Bishop Stang, North Dartmouth. (Rosa, Torchia and Gaudette photos)
Per-family cost of clergy, nuns studied WASHINGTON (NC) - U.S. Catholics spend less to support their priests than do members of comparable non-Catholic denominations, said a new nationwide sociological study. It costs the average Catholic household $40 a year to support a parish priest and $8 for a nun, while the per-household cost of parish clergy is $241 for Episcopalians, $282 for Methodists and $382 for Lutherans, the study concluded. Two key reasons were CatholicProtestant differences in parish size and ratios of clergy to people. "We found the average Catholic priest (in the parishes studied) responsible for about 1,950 members, while the clergy in the Protestant parishes averaged being responsible for a little over 300," the study ~d.
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A third reason was differences among denominations in the compensation their clergy received. In round figures, Episcopal clergy on average received $45,000 a year; Lutheran clergy $39,000; Methodist clergy $35,000; and Catholic priests $26,000. The study found that lay leaders in all four denominations felt strongly about having ordained
leadership of their parishes. Catholic lay leaders, facing a nationwide priest shortage, "would prefer to have married priests or women priests" if the alternative is parishes without ordained leaders, it said. The study, funded by the Lilly Endowment, was conducted by Dean R. Hoge, a sociologist at The Catholic University of America; the Rev. Jackson W. Carroll, a United Methodist minister and sociologist at Hartford Seminary in Connecticut; and Crosier Father Francis K. Scheets, a church planning and management specialist.
Nuns in parish ministry receive "indefensibly low" compensation, they said. The average priest gets a salary of$7,525 a year but receives $18,85 I in housing, food, travel, retirement, insurance and other benefits, bringing his total compensation to $26,376, the study said. The average lay professional employed fulltime by a parish receives $16,061 in salary, but only $3,757 in other benefits, for a total compensation of$19,818, it said. It said that nuns in full-time parish ministry average $10,103 in salary and $5,017 in other benefits, for a total compensation of$15,120.
It was based on a detailed 1987 study of some 200 Catholic, Episcopal, Lutheran Church in America and United Methodist parishes, selected to give a cross section of those denominations. The researchers found that while full-time lay professionals in Catholic parish ministries generally receive much higher salaries than priests, their actual yearly compensation for the lay ministers is several thousand dollars lower after deducting costs of housing and other fringe benefits.
The researchers said that Catholics and non-Catholics face opposite problems of religious leadership: Catholics have a growing shortage of priests, while nonCatholics have "a shortage of positions adequate to support an abundance of fulltime clergy." The study said that while there is a shortage of priesthood candidates in the Catholic Church, "there is no shortage oflay professionals" willing to work fulltime for the church. The study noted that earlier
research on Catholic attitudes found that one obstacle to acceptance of lay professionals "is a widespread belief ... that the cost of replacing priests with lay professionals would be prohibitive." "Some people may be surprised to find that Catholic lay professionals are less costly than priests," the study commented. "We believe that Catholics can afford the cost of lay professional leaders as an alternative to staffing parishes fully with ordained clergy," the researchers said. "This is not to say that the laity are eager to do this; on the contrary, Catholic
laity, like Protestant laity, much prefer ordained clergy." They said the financial findings were important for Catholic planning because "all signs point to the increased use of lay professionals as the principal strategy for meeting the leadership crisis occasioned by the priest shortage." The researchers urged more attention to theological and pastoral education of professional lay ministers, noting that another source of resistance to lay leadership in all the denominations is concern that their training may be inadequate for the ministry expected of them.
Euthanasia initiative dies SACRAMENTO, Calif. (NC) - Proponents of a measure to legalize physician-assisted suicide for the terminally ill have failed to collect enough signatures to put the proposal on the state's ballot for November. The measure would have allowed physicians to give a qualified, terminally ill patient - one determined by two physicians to be suffering from a terminal condition
- a prescription-drug dose at the patient's request to cause instant death, without risking prosecution for the physician. The campaign for it was spearheaded by Americans Against Human Suffering, the political arm of the national Hemlock Society, a pro-euthanasia group. Opponents included the California Catholic Conference in Sacramento.
Busman's holiday for musicians
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By Pat McGowan One would be surprised if guests at an office party spent their time at computers or copiers. But when pastoral musicians get together, they do for their own delight what they spend the rest of the year doing for their fellow Christians. Weekly they lift other hearts, but once a year they invite their own spirits. So it was last Sunday at St. Thomas More Church, Somerset, as the musicians and singers of the diocese gathered for their annual Mass. As ever, it was a feast of liturgical music and song, shared by St. Thomas More parishioners and a few liturgy enthusiasts from other parishes. In his homily Father David A. Costa, parochial vicar at St. Thomas More, quoted the nursery rhyme "Mary, Mary, quite contrary" to ask the musicians "How does your garden grow? "We're cultivators, nurturers,. carriers of nourishment to God's people," he said. "We don't bring or nurture our own seed but the seed of Christ. We do it with our gift of music." Continuing the garden analogy, he pointed out that ministers reo quire patience with, for instance, congregations reluctant to sing. "In God's time, things are brought to fruition, not our time," he reminded his hearers, saying that summer reminds people to slow down and take time, possibly to answer the question "How does your garden grow?" The gathering song, "All Creatures of Our God and King," based on St. Francis of Assisi's "Canticle of the Sun," was set to the 17thcentury German hymn, "Lasst Uns Erfreuen"; the Gospel acclamation, "Celtic Alleluia," was by Fintan O'Carroll and Christopher Walker; and the communion hymn, "Unless a Grain of Wheat," was by Bernadette Farrell. Coordinators for the Mass and a following reception were Joanne Mercier, Sacred Heart parish, North Attleboro; and Joan Cuttle, St. Thomas More. Father William G. Campbell, pastor of St. Dominic's parish, Swansea, concelebrated Mass with Father Costa; Nancy Smith of St. John Baptist parish, Westport, was cantor; Elaine Nadeau, cantor at St. Mary's Cathedral, was lector; Glenn Giuttari, Our Lady of Mt. Carmel parish, Seekonk, was organist; and Paul Cabral, Holy Name parish, New Bedford, was trumpeter. And the singing was unforgettable.
Rev. Mr. James M. Krupa, SJ, who taught at Bishop Connolly High School, Fall River, from 1983 to 1985, will be among eight members of the New England Province of the Society of Jesus to be ordained tomorrow to the priesthood. The ordaining prelate will be the Most Rev. Lawrence 'Burke, SJ, Bishop of Nassau, Bahamas. The ceremony will take place at Holy Cross College, Worcester. Father Krupa, the son of Mr. and Mrs. Robert Krupa, Renovo,
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Surrogacy opposed WASHINGTON (NC) - The New York State Catholic Conference has supported a governor's task force recommendations that the state ban commercial surrogate mother contracts. The task force said the state should declare such contracts unenforceable as contrary to public policy and urged criminal penalties for surrogates and those who arrange surrogacy contracts.
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Let's Go for the Ideal Another Father's Day rolls around and once again we run to men's shops and card shops to fil)d a way of letting the "old man" know he is at least remembered, if not loved. Certainly Father's Day is far less of a merchants' bonanza than Mother's Day. Maybe this is the way it should be, or it could merely be a reflection of a basically matriarchal society. However, there is no doubt that in some areas of today's society the male parent is indeed forced into the back seat, if not locked in the trunk, by the antics and foibles of those who would deny gender roles and identification as a given of nature. This being voiced, it is well that we examine the male role in parenting. After all, that's what Father's Day is all about. But examination is not an easy task at a time when more and more couples contemplating marriage worry more about premarital legal agreements than personal compatibility. For many, marriage is simply the climax of a dating game. They do not live marriage, they play at it as if it were the ultimate personal soap opera. As a result, many people merely use one another and find themselves in a dead-end relationship of ill treatment, even perversion. In many situations, a marriage gets along fairly well until children come along. Some people are so afraid of parenting that they panic; others simply do not want children, so abortion becomes the easy way out. Still others permit the birth process but neglect their children. Never having grown up themselves, they cannot cope with them. Because of all this, it is well that we celebrate parenthood. This weekend is Dad's turn and that is good. It gives us the opportunity to reflect on the role of the father, which ideally .combines pragmatism and hope. It is important to encourage and foster accountable fathering. This involves the revitalization of such words as values and responsibilities in reference to interpersonal relationships in a marriage. This is not easy in a social order inordinately devoted to personal freedom, individual license and private pursuits. Those entering marriage should realize that morals and ethics playa very important role in this intimate relationship. Thus when the good life becomes the all-encompassing goal of a husband and wife, one can be fairly sure they have lost the basic qualities of regard and reverence for one another so necessary in making marriage an expression of selfless love and enduring f i d e l i t y . ; In fact, respect should be among the most sought-after qualities in a marriage; but one cannot give what he or she does not possess. It is very important that husband and wife respect themselves as persons and show equal respect to their partners. In a sacramental union of love and grace this r~spect also involves mutual respect for God, the source of all life. On this Father's Day, is it too much to recall the ideal? Must we settle for separation and divorce to obtain so-called freedom? It's about time that we who preach also teach. Let those in ministry not be afraid to tell it as it should be. Let marriage counselors and family therapists seek solutions rather than encourage quitting. Above all, let husband and wife be just that for each other, not freakish Frankensteins created by the whims of fantasy. Father's Day is indeed a time for love and, if necessary, for a fresh attempt to go for the ideal in marriage and parenthood. The Editor
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Newman's lesson for today By Father Kevin J. Harrington One could labor under the false impression that ours is the only age that has lived through a crisis' of faith. But history students are well aware that the 19th century was also a stressful time. The word crisis is best understood through its Greek root "krinein," meaning to decide. To be in crisis means to be at the threshold of decisive change, often attended by considerable risk and uncertainty. It is always wise at times of decision to avail oneself of the insights of persons who have had experiences similar to OUTS. That is precisely the purpose of this essay on Cardinal John Henry Newman. His life spanned practically the entire 19th century, a time of unprecedented upheaval in England. The age of the Enlightenment had given rise to an empiricism that acknowledged only truths experimentally verifiable. Rapid changes in society erupted with the onslaught of the Industrial Revolution. People were uprooted from rural communities and thrust into towns and cities where there was little sense of belonging. It was against such a backdrop that Cardinal Newman emerged as both the Church's finest apologist and visionary. It is only through a sad jettisoning of our religious curriculum that many college students know of him only as the per-
son whose name appears on some of imitation. If we find our faith campus pa!ltoral centers. either shaky or shaken, we should Newman dealt with intellectuals follow his example of reflecting on whose faith was threatened by the experience of conscience. We Charles Darwin's evolutionary may find ourselves on his road to theories and whose lives were gov- faith. erned by the belief that knowing It is not likely that a 15-year-old how meant more than knowing boy today would experience a priwhy. When their minds were be- vate struggle between good and fuddled by self-doubt, Newman evil as Newman did. Contemporappealed to their hearts through ary awareness fashions a wider the voice of conscience. world conscience and the con. His message to his 19th century sciousness of young people is often contemporaries is as refreshing and raised on issues that look beyond relevant today as it was then. It themselves. would behoove us all to apply his They are called' to respond to insights to help free us from the such realities as the protection of cultural presuppositions that im- our planet's resources from war or prison us. wasteful abuse. They are more Rationalists and so-called free- aware than any generation of the thinkers remain debilitating forces hunger and woundedness of the in the process of conscience for- Third World, the unfair distribumation. The truths of God cannot tion of opportunities within the be demonstrated by rationalists First World and the problems of nor will free thinkers admit the sexism and racism. Indeed, they claims of conscience. should be less preoccupied with Newman claims we believe be- themselves and more occupied with cause we love and his foundation stone is the experience of con- seeking how to live in such a way science. The cardinal first exper- as to really make a difference on ienced faith as coming alive for this divided planet. It is such calls of conscience that him personally at age 15 when a crisis awakened within him a dra- . can arouse our hearts from commatic sense of his own conscience. placency to generosity. We need Through this painful interior con- yield neither to despair at the flict between right and wrong, he enormity of the world's needs nor moved from what he called a to guilt at our sense of inadequacy. "notional" level of religion to a Rather, we need to trust that the "real assent" to the presence of God who has awakened our conGod within him. science will sustain us with a hope Newman's path is truly worthy that will keep us faithful to its call.
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Time with Dad There's a story that goes like this. A father and son went on a fishing trip. Later
the son wrote in his diary, "Went fishing with Dad. It was great!" His father wrote in his journal, "Went fishing but didn't catch anything. Pretty much a waste of time." How differently we view time and experiences. Are they wasted if we don't catch fish but do interact with our children? Lucky the children whose fathers enjoy wasting time with them. "The best time of my week was when Dad and I went for a walk after Sunday Mass," a 50-year-old woman said. "We just meandered downtown, stopped for an ice cream cone and watched the cars go by. I always had the feeling he liked to spend time with me alone." A father of three said, "My best time with my dad was puttering around the car and garage with him. We talked about everything and he made me feel important by giving me little repair jobs." Wasting time with kids is one of the greatest gifts parents can bestow, better even than a VCR. And some dads do it very well. They shed the stress of the workplace and the tyranny of their lists of things to do to share relaxed
time with their kids, listening, talking and laughing together. I was struck by a study of children of divorced fathers which came out a few years back. These kids, who saw their dads only on Saturdays, were asked what they most enjoyed doing on visitation day. "Hanging around with Dad" was chosen above going to the zoo, circus, or ballgame. They were clearly saying that they didn't want distractions, they wanted Dad. Some mentioned their pleasure in helping their dads paint the porch, stack firewood, or wash the car. They also said that sitting together in front of TV was not their idea of a good time with Dad. I'm well aware of the stresses on today's fathers. Saturday is their day to catch up on personal and family chores and Sunday is their day to worship and relax. Wasting time with children comes last on the list of fast-track successful men. But the beauty of wasting time with children is that it forces stressed parents to relax. Maybe Dad has three calls to return, a lawn to mow, cars to service, and a report to finish. If he accomplishes all this in a weekend, he's apt to go back to work on Monday as stressed as he came h,ome on Friday. When dads are willing to live with a less-than-clean garage and
True confessions Difficult as it is to say so, I must confess that I have ,become an ACF - an addicted computer freak. Like all addictions it began innocently. I told myself that my work would benefit greatly if I knew how to use a computer. I can remember the first day I conquered the task oflearning how to get into a computer system and run a program on it. What a high I had as I watched the printer spew out a column I had created. Little did I know that the taste of that apple was the beginning of my downfall. As I look back it was the men and women I hung around with who started my decline. They would ask in an excited way, "Have you seen the latest software?" I didn't realize initially how true it is that "curiosity kills the cat." If only I had practiced custody ofthe eyes and the humility which says, "Be content with what you have." But it was not to be. My capitalistic, materialistic dark side took over. I had looked at and tasted the latest in computer technology and I went on a binge. It was not enough that my computer could print 10 pages every five minutes. I wanted one that could print 10 pages every one minute - and I got it. _ The simple pica print no longer suited me. I need the Swiss Helvetic bold IS-point pitch produced by a laser printer. Worse than my corrupted materialistic tastes though, I noticed that I was becoming a recluse in more than one way. At parties, just as alcoholics are barflies, I found myself gravitating toward other ACFs. We would huddle in a corner and talk about baud rates, megabytes, dBASE III PLUS and the new dBASE IV PLUS. To non-computer friends we were foreigners speaking a foreign lan-
guage and what scornful looks we received. But did we care? By no means. It felt good to be in that other world of "higher things" away from the common folks. It wasn't long before my life went from bad to worse. I began to find myselfcoming home and turning on the computer before I turned on the lights. I would tell myself that I only wanted to check something. Four hours later my mind would· be reeling with the intoxication of yet another discovery. My friends have tried to help, but they can't get through to me because my computer usually is talking to another via my telephone. On sunny days off I used to go out and ride my bicycle in lovely parks. Now I stay in with the shades closed so that the outside glare won't interfere with my computer screen. At one time, running a 26-mile marathon was the ultimate conquest. Now it is retrieving a lost document on my computer and seeing whether my nerves can outlast the mechanical nerve center of the computer. In many ways I now understand to its fullest the inscription Dante
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less-than-perfect report to have lazy time with their children, they go back to work more relaxed after the weekend. Asking adults for their fond memories of Dad brings heartwarming responses. "Friday night was our night with Dad," one told me. "We popped popcorn and played Battleship or Risk." "My dad had a special time for each of us during the week," a nostalgic executive recalled. "There were five of us and each had a day: We walked four blocks to the bus stop and walked home with him. All we did was walk and talk but it was the best time of the week for me." He paused and said sadly, "I'm not doing it with my kids.". Being alone with Dad, wasting time together, seems to bring out the best memories, not his work success or stature in the community or church. So here's a cheer for dads who recognize their immortality lies in their children's memories, not newspaper clippings. There are thousands of you out there and we are grateful for you.
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June 18 1935, Rev. James M. Coffey, P.R., Pastor, St. Mary, Taunton 1984, Rev. Declan Daly, SS.CC., Associate Pastor, St. Joseph, Fairhaven June 19 1916, Rev. Hormisdas Deslauriers, Founder, St. Anthony, New Bedford June 20 1931, Rt. Rev. James J. Coyle, P.R., LL.D., Pastor, St. Mary, Taunton June 21 1926, Rev. Desire V. Delemarre, Pastor, Blessed Sacrament, Fall River 1948, Rev. Francis D. Callahan, Pastor, St. Patrick, Wareham 1964, Rev. Clement Killgoar, SS.Cc., St. Anthony, Mattapoisett 1976, Rev. David O'Brien, Retired Pastor, SS. Peter & Paul, Fall River June 22 1977, Rev. Alexander Zichello, Pastor, St. Francis of Assisi, New Bedford June 24 1907, Rev. Bernard F. McCahill, Pastor, SS. Peter & Paul, Fall River
Use of saliva at baptism Q. I recently witnessed the baptism of several babies, one a relative, 'in a Catholic church. During the ceremony the priest took some saliva from his lips onto his finger and applied it to the lips of all the babies being christened. I was shocked, but have not mentioned the incident to anyone. Have you ever heard of this? What is its significance? (Pennsylvania) A. The action you mention has no place in the baptism rite today. From ancient times until about 20 years ago, however, the ritual forbaptism provided for a similar ceremony. Immediately before profession of baptism vows, the priest took some saliva from his mouth and touched the ears and nostrils ofthe infant while praying that the ears would "be opened" and that the child might receive the fragrance of God's sweetness. The action derives, of course, from the incident in the Gospel of Mark (7:33) in which Jesus cured the man who could neither hear nor speak by touching the man's ears and tongue with spittle. It sounds like a good idea, of course, but the practice certainly jars our modern sensibilities about germs and disease. The former rituals themselves permitted the ceremony to be omitted for reasons of cleanliness or danger of disease. The practice died out in many places long before the church revised the baptism rite after Vatican II. As those who have participated in our present baptism liturgy will know, however, this poweiful symbol and prayer continues in a modified form even today. Shortly after he pours the baptismal water, the priest or deacon may touch the ears and mouth of the child with his thumb (there is no mention of spittle) while saying, "The Lord Jesus made the deaf hear and the dumb speak. May he soon touch your ears to receive his word and your mouth to proclaim his faith to the praise and glory of God the Father." Possibly the priest you mention is not yet familiar with the revised baptism rite. Q. We have a confirmation coming up in our family. Our child has asked that one of us, his parents, serve as sponsor. Our parish does not seem to allow it. We have seen it done elsewhere. Is there a regulation about this? (Ohio) A. According to general church law, parents should not act as sponsorfor their child at confirmation. Canon laws governing reception of the sacraments state that confirmation sponsors must fulfill the conditions given for sponsors at baptism (Canon 893). Since their relationship to the child (or adult convert) is quite different from that of a godparent and since the godparent can be uniquely valuable spiritually, mothers and fathers are not to serve as baptism godparents (Canon 874). Part of the confusion arises in
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DIETZEN the fact that no confirmation sponsor is absolutely required in the first place. The Rite of Confirmation and canon law, respectively, specify that "ordinarily" and "insofar as it can be done" a sponsor should be chosen for the candidate. Further confusion arises from the statement in the confirmation ritual that "parents themselves may present their children for confirmation" (No.5). It is clear from what I mention above, however, that while parents may "present" their child for confirmation, they are not eligible to serve as actual sponsors. A free brochure explainina Catholic teachina and pndice on annulments is available by sending a stamped, self-addressed envelope to Father John Dietzen, Holy Trinity Parish, 704 N. Main St., Bloomington, 111. 61701. Questions for this column should be sent to Father Dietzen at the same address.
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In recent ceremonies at the Catholic Memorial Home, Fall River, 32 nurses' aides received certificates and pins marking completion of a 34-hour geriatric training program. Home administrator Sister Shawn Flynn welcomed guests and Rev. Joseph Costa, associate director of diocesan health facilities, was the speaker. Certificates were presented by Jean Quigley, RN, director of nursing, and pins by Sally Rose, RN, director of resident services, and Janet Brewer, LPN, in-service direc,tor. Names of the new aides follow: Elizabeth Belisle, Jeannette Berard. Cheryl A. Botelho, Lori Cavanaugh, Susan M. Costa, Muriel R. De Maranville, Ethel Diogo. Charlene Gagne, Maria J. Ferreira, Patricia Jordan, Carolyn J. LaRoche. Kimberly Leduc, Lynda Leduc, Pauline L. Levesque.
Remarks "stun" WASHINGTON (NC) - The nation's two Native American bishops and other Catholic Indian leaders have expressed shock over President Reagan's recent remarks to Soviet university students that the U.S. government "humored" American Indians by putting them on reservations. Coadjutor Bishop Donald R. Pelotte of Gallup, N.M., said he was "shocked and stunned" that Reagan would "know so little about the actual situation of a very significant group of his people." Bishop-designate Charles J. Chaput of Rapid City, S.D., said the president lacked understanding of his own administration's policy to recognize the self-determination of Indians.
Potawatomi bishop WASHINGTON (NC) - Pope John Paul II has named Capuchin Father Charles J. Chaput, midAmerica provincial for his order, bishop of Rapid City, S.D., making him the second Native American U.S. bishop. The bishop-designate is a member of the Prairie Band Potawatomi tribe.
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Doing OK MANILA, Philippines (NC)Despite high unemployment, most Filipinos are satisfied with President Corazon Aquino, according to a poll conducted by Jesuit-run Ateneo de Manila University. 76 percent of 2,000 respondents approved Mrs. Aquino and all cabinet members were also perceived as satisfactory. Those polled gave the president high marks for protecting human rights, speaking the truth, maintaining peace and developing livelihood projects.
Mother Teresa Continued from Page One some of the gift with her neighbors, Mother Teresa said. J In Gallup, N.M., May 2~27, Mother Teresa visited the Casa San Martin soup kitchen established by her order, met with about 20 priests ofthe diocese and attended Masses at the Gallup cathedral and with Indians on a Navajo reservation. She also received a letter asking her community to establish a base in the Phoenix diocese. Merle Parker, Phoenix regional link for the Co-Workers of Mother Teresa, said, "Mother Teresa has already confirmed that the sisters will be coming here. We just don't know when." Gallup Bishop Jerome J. Hastrick said, "I believe Mother Teresa has found the thing that people are looking for - the love of Christ in the Eucharist and the love of Christ in our fellow man." As she left the mission a man yelled from the soup kitchen, "Hey Mom, thanks for everything."
"The acceptance of killing as a medical procedure threatens to supplant the Hippocratic Oath as a gu,ide to good medical practice," Ms. Quinn said. "We have reached a point where some in the medical community will not only kill, but seemingly suffer no embarrassment or qualms ofconscience when they detail in learned journals how the killing was accomplished," Led by Dr. Richard L. Berkowitz, the Mount Sinai team assessed results of the procedure used in 12 pregnancies to reduce the number of fetuses in order to increase the chances for the women to deliver healthy babies at full term. The study included two women with six fetuses, one with five, five with four and four with triplets. After the procedures, seven of the women gave birth to twins and one had a single child. Four pregnan.cies ended with loss of all the fetuses. The article said that the number of multifetal pregnancies has been increasing as a result of use of fertility drugs and in vitro fertilization. The reduction procedure was done in two ways: initially doctors used ultrasound to find the 10week-old fetuses then removed by suction those closest to the mother's cervix. But after excessive bleeding occurred and resulted in death of all four fetuses being carried by one patient, the doctors switched to a second method: inserting a needle through the abdomen to inject potassium chloride into the fetal heart to stop it. The doctors said the procedure could be an option for couples facing multifetal pregnancies. Such couples, they said, are usually told either to do nothing and take their chances on a successful outcome or terminate the entire pregnancy. They acknowledged that the ethical issues associated with the procedure "are considerable." "Is it justifiable to lower the number of fetuses in the uterus in order to reduce an unspecified risk to all the fetuses?" they asked. "It could be argued that in any society in which abortion is available on demand the selective reduction procedure requires no additional rationale." But they also warned that candidates for the procedure be counseled·about its potential risks and told not to undergo it unless they were "prepared to lose the entire pregnancy as a consequence." In an accompanying editorial in the journal, Dr. John C. Hobbins of the Yale University School of Medicine said that even those "who think abortion may be appropriate under special circumstances must wrestle with the concept of sacrificing some fetuses so that others can survive."
To advise Scouts IRVING, Texas (NC)-Salina, Kan. Bishop George K. Fitzsimons has been named adviser to the National Catholic Committee on Scouting. He succeeds Juneau, Alaska, Bishop Michael H. Kenny. Bishop Fitzsimons will be a liaison between the bishops' conference and the National Catholic Committee on Scouting. The committee oversees over 345,000 youth in 10,600 U.S. Cub Scout packs, Boy Scout troops and Explorer posts in parishes and other church-related institutions.
Vatican debt committee administrator named ALLENTOWN, Pa. (NC) Father Thomas J. Benestad, 43, a pastor in the Allentown diocese, has been named by Cardinal John J. Krol as administrator of the U.S. steering committee setting up a multimillion dollar investment fund to help defray the Vatican's debt. He is a charter member of the Allentown diocesan finance committee. Cardinal Krol, retired head of the Philadelphia archdiocese and a leading figure in Vatican budget discussions, is chairman of the steering committee. Other members of the commit-
JERI LYNN HUGHES, a senior at Bishop Connolly High Schc~l, Fall River, receives plaque from Big Brother/ Big Sister organization recognizing her as Fall River's High School Big Sister of the Year. From left, James L'Heureux, Connolly community service director; Francis Smith, Big Brothers/ Big Sisters executive director; Miss Hughes; Father Stephen Dawber, SJ, Connolly principal. Smith said Miss Hughes "exceeded all expectations of a Big Sister volunteer during the past year." Volunteers are asked to spend two to three hours weekly offering friendship and leadership to a child from a single-parent home. Miss Hughes exceeded time commitments and exerted a significant positive influence on her Little Sister.
Youth program planned at Cathedral Camp The diocesan Office of Youth Ministry, in conjunction with the Center for Youth Ministry Development in Naugatuck, Conn., will sponsor a Christian Leadership Institute from Aug. 28 to Sept. 2 at Cathedral Camp, East Freetown. Open to young people ages 15 to 19, the program will offer professional training in Christian leadership. It will be limited to 60 representatives of parish or school groups.
Bishops meet HONG KONG (NC) - A bishop from Taiwan and a bishop from China met June 9 in Hong Kong, the highest-level encounter between churchmen from the two countries since the People's Republic of China was formed in 1949. Retired Archbishop Stanislaus Lokuang of Taipei, Taiwan, and Chinese-appointed Bishop Aloysius Jin Luxian of Shanghai, China, met after both attended an international Christian-Confucian conference. Church sources said the meeting was arranged by Honk Kong Cardinal-designate John Baptist Wu Cheng-chung. Bishop Jin, who told reporters the meeting was cordial, said they talked about the Catholic Church on the mainland and in Taiwan.
It is suggested that participants have exhibited leadership or possess leadership potential. Appropriate candidates might be teenagers who are now or will be in such roles as parish teen council officers, student councilors, class or club officers or athletic captains. The schedule will offer skills workshops, personal support groups, prayer and worship experiences, hands-on planning and leading of activities and recreation time. . The Leadership Institute will be staffed by eight diocesan, school and parish leaders trained by the Connecticut center and will be directed by Mark Bouchard of the center. Father George E. Harrison, director of youth ministry at, Cathedral Camp, will be spiritual director for the session. Additional information is available from the youth ministry office, PO Box 428, 157 Middleboro Rd., East Freetown 02717, telephone 763-3137.
New diocese WASHINGTON (NC) - Pope John Paul II has created the diocese of Knoxville, Tenn., and has named Father Anthony J. O'Connell, rector of St. Thomas Aquinas Seminary in Hannibal, Mo., as its first bishop.
Kudos for Mary Ann The May issue of MassacHusetts Citizens for Life News features on the front page a photo of members of Our Lady of Mt. Carmel parish, New Bedford, holding "Roses for Life." The annual Mother's Day rose drive benefits MCFL and was very successful this year with over
100,000 silk roses distributed at Massachusetts churches and other sites. Among those given credit for distribution increased 50 percent over last year was Mary Ann Booth of St. Mary's parish, South Dartmouth.
tee are New York Cardinal John J. O'Connor, Newark Archbishop Theodore E. McCarrick, four U.S. corporation executives and an attorney. Many Vatican commissions, such as those for the family, the laity and justice and peace, were created after the Second Vatican Council, said a statement from the Allentown diocese. "The commissions, doing the work ofthe universal church, have been running a deficit. More than 57 percent of their revenue is going toward salaries and pensions. This papal fund is to help take that
worry from the Hoiy Father," Cardinal Krol said. The diocesan statement said the fund is distinct from the Vatican Bank, the annual worldwide Peter's Pence collection.
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Poor come first, hospital workers told NEW YORK (NC) - Catholic hospitals must keep themselves financially solvent, but not at the expense of their mission to the poor, Archbishop John R. Roach of St. Paul-Minneapolis said in a New York address. "The very worst thing," he said, "would be to tailor our services to suit the affluent ol1ly, or to opt for expensive, high-technology or high-profitability services over those our communities truly need." Hospitals that fail to deal realistically with the increasing pressure from cost and reimbursement trends will go out of business, he , acknowledged. "Something has to give," he said. "But it must not be our Gospel mandate to care for the poor." Archbishop Roach, a former president of the National Conference of Catholic Bishops, spoke at St. John's University, Queens, delivering the keynote address at a recent study program for administrators of Catholic health care facilities. Archbishop Roach said he had seen reports indicating that Minnesota Catholic hospitals had no better record in serving the poor than for-profit hospitals, both spending about 5 percent of total revenues on charity. One way of shifting toward greater concentration on the less affluent, he suggested, would be to
pass up purchase of "ultra-high technology," and focus rather on "meeting the lower-technology needs of the many." He said the Catholic health care community should not only serve the poor in its own institutions, but be their advocates in the national debate over public health policy.
Strangers no more ARLINGTON, Texas (NC) Although the quest for Christian unity must continue, recent progress allows Protestants, Orthodox and Roman Catholics to say honestly, "we are no longer strangers," says Rev. Arie Brouwer, general secretary of the National Council of Churches. From the get-acquainted dialogues of the late 1960s, the ecumenical movement has moved into the "stronger head winds" of recognizing one another's baptism, he said as he opened a "Gathering of Christians" in Arlington. The ecumenical event featuring worship, workshop~ and seminars was sponsored by the National Council of Churches and brought together 1,000 people from scores of Christian denominations.
While facing financial pressures, Catholic hospitals must also realize that "the day when we could just assume that others respected and shared the spiritual values we cherish is past. Nowhere are these disagreements more in evidence than in health care." Giving an example of the value orientation that should characterize Catholic hospitals, Archbishop Roac h ca II ed for recogm't'IOn 0 f "the redemptive nature of suffer. an d d ea th" mg . "That is something unique to us - no one eIse can d 0 th a t " he . "k ..' said. Ta.e. away thiS all-Important . extra dimenSIOn, and we are Just another plain vanilla 'pill mill.' "
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New Bedford Jesuit remembered in Maine
A Jesuit p;iest, a native of New Bedford, has been memorialized at St. Xavier's Home, an apartment complex for the elderly, handicapped and disabled in Ban,gor, Maine. Rev. Raymond P. Bertrand, SJ, who died June 4, 1987, at age 57 after a long illness, was the son of Mr. and Mrs. Napoleon Bertrand Living and Active of St. Joseph parish, New Bed"The Word of God is living and ford. After graduating from St. active. sharper than any two-edged Anthony School, New Bedford, sword." - Heb. 4: 12 the former St. Anthony High School, and Boston College, he entered the Society of Jesus. He was .pastor of St. John's Church in Bangor from 1978 to 1984, and while there was a prime mover in establishment of St. Xavier's Home, which was dedicated Jesus, Himself, did not like to lose anything or anyone. May 22. A plaque unveiled by his "For the Son of Man is come to save that which was lost;' . mother at the ceremony reads: "St. He said. Xavier's Home is dedicated to the Today, throughout the Developing World - the loving memory of Rev. Raymond Missions - Jesus calls young men to follow Him as p~est. P. Bertrand, SJ, beloved pastor of Should that call go unheeded - become "lost" - because St. John's Catholic Church, 1978of a lack of financial means? 1984, without whose vision, inspiration, leadership and courage St. The answer, of course, is "no:' And that is why you Xavier's Home would not have are so important. Aware of the tremendous need for come into existence." priests in the Missions and also aware of the danger of The present pastor of St. John's, losing those who have heard Jesus' call simply because Rev. Maurice T. Lebel, SJ, was of a lack of funds, Pope John Paul II asks each of you to previously Attleboro area director support a mission seminarian by contributing to the of Catholic Social Services. While Propagation of the Faith. in that post he was in residence at Answer the Holy St. Mary's rectory, Mansfield. At the May dedication he introduced, Father's call so that Portland Auxiliary Bishop Ameyoung men in the dee W. Proulx, who spoke. Missions may heed
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Also unveiled by Mrs. Goulet was a portrait of her son painted by Portland artist Debra Cote. It will hang in St. Xavier's recreation room. A story on the dedication in the Church World, Portland diocesan newspaper, quotes a St. John's parishioner, Joseph M. Fox, who said of Father Bertrand, "One of the good guys in this world of ours. Very bright, a gourmet cook, a sports fan. A lover of music, he started the drive to have the organ at St. John's restored, and a very hard worker. He turned the parish into a .vital, bustling community during his stay." Mrs. Bertrand, together with her son's two sisters, brother and an aunt, was among guests of honor at a dinner held in conjunction with the dedication. Father Bertrand's father was prevented by illness from being present. Among those Mrs. Bertrand met at the event was Very Rev. Richard E. Harvey, who has served 16 years at St. John's parish and who worked with Father Bertrand on several projects, including St. Xavier's. Father Harvey described Mrs. Bertrand as a "charming and lovely lady who must have had a profound influence on her son, who had the same charm and goodness." The Church World story, by Marie Sullivan, concluded with the comment that "Father Bertrand's spirit will whisper in every corner of the home."
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PORTUGUESE A PHOTOGRAPH of Mother Katharine Drexel looks down on present members of her community, the Sisters ofthe Blessed Sacrament. Seated, Sister M. Juliana Haynes, community president; standing, from left, Sisters Marilyn Foy, Mary Norbert Moline, Theresa Chato, M. Carmel Tursi.
Philadelphia woman near beatification PHILADELPHIA (NC) --A Philadelphia woman who died in 1955 may be beatified as early as this fall. Beatification is the last step before declaration that a person is a saint. On June 7 the Vatican Congregation for Sainthood Causes forwarded the cause of Mother Katharine Drexel to the pope after unanimously accepting the likelihood that a miracle can be attributed to her intercession, according to members of the order she founded. If Pope John Paul II ratifies the congregation's decision, a date can be set for her beatification. In January 1987 the pope declared her "venerable." In Rome, an official ofthe Vatican congregation told National Catholic News Service that the miracle was discussed at a June 7 meeting of the congregation and that the information was forwarded to the pope. The official, Msgr. Robert Sarno, said he could not comment further until Pope John Paul rules on the case. If the pope approves the miracle, "a fall beatification date would be a pos~ibility," Msgr. Sarno said.
The tinal determination that a miracle took place can be made only by the pope. Cardinal John J. Krol, retired archbishop of Philadelphia, said that the unanimity of all of the votes so far, and the relatively short time that has passed since Mother Drexel's death, are "a clear indication she is helping out." "She is such a perfect role model for the church today," the cardinal told The Catholic Standard and Times, archdiocesan newspaper. She was a "debutante, a millionaire heiress who gave up all for Christ and committed herselfto an apostolate that was very unpopular at the time, the blacks and Indians," he said. A member of a wealthy Philadelphia family, Mother Drexel renounced her fortune and in 1891 founded the Sisters of the Blessed Sacrament for Indians and Colored People. She retired in 1937 and died in 1955 at age 96. Cardinal Krol officially opened her cause for sainthood on Feb. 27,1964. . The June 7 vote by the congregation followed earlier unanimous findings by doctors and theologi-
ans concerning a miracle attributed to Mother Katharine's intercession Last December, a panel of doc'tors in Rome certified that the 1974 cure of a severe inner ear infection of 14-year-old Robert Gutherman, whose parents had known Mother Drexel, was medically unexplainable. On March 15 a board of theologians unanimously affirmed the likelihood that the cure was accomplished thr~:>ugh the intercession of Mother Drexel. Another miracle proven to have taken place after her beatification would be necessary for her to be declared a saint. "We are delighted that our foundress, Katharine Drexel, may soon be declared blessed by the church," said Sister Mary Juliana Haynes, president of the Sisters of the Blessed Sacrament. "Katharine Drexel was a woman whose challenge to society is still very relevant today when the evils of racism and materialism destroy the life and spirt of so many in our country and in our world," Sister Haynes said.
U.S. theologates extend programs WASHINGTON (NC) - U.S. Catholic theology seminaries are moving increasingly to five- and six-year programs in place of the four years traditionally associated with theology training, according to a study by the Center for Applied Research in the Apostolate. The study, wr'itten by Benedictine Father Adrian Fuerst. attributed the lengthened programs to three main factors: _. Renewed emphasis on a full four-year program of academic studies; - A growth in yearlong programs of supervised parish internships: - Increased need of many new seminary students for a year of pre-theology training. Father Fuerst cited a significant
decline in students in college seminaries as the reason why many theologates - theology-level seminaries - have developed pretheology programs. Twenty years ago, he said, there were nearly twice as many college seminarians as theology seminarians, and nearly all who entered theology came from college seminaries. Now the figures are nearly reversed: in 1987-88 there were 3,934 priesthood students in theologates. but only 2,441 in college seminaries. The study quoted Father Charles M. Kavanagh, executive director of the seminary department of the National Catholic Educational Association: "Everyone needs some pre-theological time,
especially now that so many come from outside the seminary system. They need 'Catholic culturalization' time." According to the center's report. in the early 1970s many seminaries reduced theology academic programs to about 3.5 years to accommodate increased demand for pastoral as well as academic formation. But in the early 1980s, it said, almost all seminaries shifted back to four years of academics. A number of seminaries now provide pastoral formation through a one-year internship, often between the second and third years of academic formation. Some make the internship mandatory, others provide it as an option.
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Senior vote seen vital Statistiesshow tbat wbereas in 1790, when the first United States census was taken, fewer tban 1 percent of tbe population was 65 01' older, senior elt" zens make up nearly 11 percent of today's population, totaling some 30 million penons, about two-thirds of them female. Since 1920, life expectancy has risen from 54 years to 76 years, with a large part of the increase comprised of persons 85 or older. In fad, the elderly segment of the population is increasing at more than twice the rate of overall U.S. growth. This translates into voting power and in this national election year, senior citizens may well determine the future of their children and grandchildren. The power of the ballot is well recognized by politicians, making it imperative that seniors take the time and make the effort to inform themselves on national and world issues. Recalling the words of Pope Leo XIII, that "the same one man is both citizen and Christian," seniors should make certain to vote and should urge friends, relatives and neighbors to do likewise.
JOHN Vargas, a resident of Fall River's Catholic Memorial Home, celebrated his tOOth birthday on May 24 with a party at the diocesan home. Vargas married the late Mary Agnes Veronica Silvia 路0 1911 and is the father of four. He worked for 54 years as a chauffeur to a Fall River family and after retirement was a farm hand until 1987. (Garland photo)
RESIDENTS of six area nursing homes joined residents at Our Lady's Haven, Fairhaven, for a recent National Nursing Home Week celebration. Also on the week's agenda were appreciation luncheons for nurses and other staff members.
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BUSY SIBLINGS: Donald and Agnes Black of Sacred Heart parish, Fall River. (Motta photo)
Seniors on the move inn is planned for July ("All the golfers are going on that one," There's nothing like keeping busy Miss Black smiled) and a Sepand seeing the fruits of your labor. tember holiday to Cape May, NJ, Philadelphia and Atlantic City is Just ask Donald Black. Black, 71, has been president of scheduled. Also on tap for that the Seniors' Group at Sacred Heart month is a stay at a New Hampparish, Fall River, since the organ- shire resort. Miss Black books the reasonization was formed in 1978. He and his sister Agnes, 73, the group's able-cost mini-vacations herself. activities chairperson, are among "I'm not much of a television fan," the people investing much time ;she explains. Profits go to Sacred and energy on behalf of its 100- Heart's church renovation fund. Last year the group gave Father plus members. Edward J. Byington, the parish's Black enjoys the work. "You're present pastor, over $2000. doing something," he says. "You Father Byington and his prederealize you're one of God's instru- cessor, Father Barry W. Wall, who ments for good." succeeded Father FoIster as pas"It gives you a good feeling," his tor, are and were as supportive of sister adds. the group as its founding priest, Retired Newport Naval Base the Blacks said. Membership in the organization worker Black said that Sacred - Heart's pastor in 1978, Father John is limited to about 100 , since the R. FoIster, "wanted to establish a trips are so popular and "100 persocial group for seniors in the par- sons are enough to handle" for ish." Retired schoolteacher Ray Miss Black. About 60 names are Powers, now close to 90 and prob- currently on a waiting list, with ably the group's oldest member, priority going to Sacred Heart parishioners. was among key organizers. 95 percent of group members The organization meets monthly are women. 59 is the minimum age at Sacred Heart parish hall. Mem- for membership; most members bers pay路$1 in dues each month, are in their late 60s and early 70s. and that dollar covers much. Every Miss Black, for the last year a October, birthdays are celebrated member of Sacred Heart's parish with a full-course meal at an area council, was a regular member of restaurant. A Christmas party with the group when the late Catherine refreshments and entertainment is Nestor, then the organization's also covered by the dues. vice-president and, according to During the winter months, re- Miss Black, its" 'let's go' lady," freshments and bingo follow regu- asked her to run a trip. lar meetings. . She did, it was a big success and -When the warm weather hits, "we've been going ever since," said though, Sacred Heart's seniors Miss Black. She said her brother really kick into gear. That's when and current vice-president and hosMiss Black, a retired telephone pitality person Stella Pavao are company group manager, coordi- "big helps" in coordinating trips. nates monthly day trips and sevOrganizing the excursions is a eral four and five-day excursions. joy for Agnes Black. Grcup members are "very congenial af ~ they're In April members went to Bosnot hard to work with," ue said. ton to lunch at a city restaurant Her brother, a Sacred Heart lecand see "Les Miserables." "Group tor, usher and eucharistiC: minismembers seem to like musicals," ter, who laughs when he txplains Miss Black said. that he's been president for 10 Last month saw members shopyears because "no one els~ wants ping at a famous Maine outlet it," is the group's representative to store. Fall River's Senior Citizens Senate, The group recently returned from a monthly gathering of ,iaisons a five-day visit to Washington and from every seniors' group in the Williamsburg. A trip to a Vermont city. By Joseph Motta
On being the Jesus with skin "I'll be a good nick for you, grandpa." My grandson Brian, 6, was talking to me as I was leaving his home after a family brunch. He was reacting to a farewell line I often left him with: "Be a goodnick now, Brian." His words reminded me of the countless times I've heard our children, including Brian's mom, repeat pet words or phrases of mine. It's nice to realize the little ways we influence our grandchildren, even when we spend only a fraction of the time with them that we did with their parents when they were growing up. Even though there's a grandparents' month, I have always felt more a part of Father's Day. Maybe it's only habit, but grandfathers have to be fathers first, right? . Fathers with children from 2 to 12 spend an average of 12 minutes a day with them, according to a recent survey. As the father of six, I find that hard to believe if it means one-on-one time. Twelve minutes seems about right, I'd say, if you count any shared or common time-like meals or going to church. . With one child, 12 minutes hardly seems adequate. With six kids, one-on-one would take 72 minutes a day! One advantage of a large family is that the kids not only 111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111
Delegates, says Black, discuss issues concerning seniors' health care and bring back Council on Aging information and news for handicapped seniors to their own group meetings. Black says that members of the Sacred Heart group make bandages for missionaries to use in leper colonies and other health care institutions and for Fall River's Rose Hawthorne Lathrop Home. Agnes Black points out that a Mass for deceased group members is celebrated each November at Sacred Heart Church. "If Catherine Nestor were living now," she said, "she'd be very proud of our group!"
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play together, but learn to help each other, Our older kids learned the art of baby-sitting, including diapering, long before their teens, practicing on their younger siblings. Diapers were not disposable then, either. Rinsing diapers in a toilet bowl is a life experience no one should be denied. It's not the number of minutes we spend with our children or grandchildren that counts, of course, but what we do with them. We learn more from what people do than from what they say, but as a dealer in words I am conv~nced of their power to move us.路 Our Lord's parables, after atl, were only stories, but each packed a powerful message. Remember the Good Samaritan? ". Some good words of advice for fathers-and-mothers- were spoken by Auxiliary Bishop Roger L. Kaffer of Joliet, IL, at a family life program last year in my parish. To your children you must be "the Jesus with skin on," Bishop Kaffer said, using a small boy's description of a priest. "They must hear the gospel according to you." On dealing with children who misbehave, breaking a favorite vase, for example, he said, "My parents felt I was a lot more important than any broken vase. God didn't get mad when Moses broke the tablets with the Ten Commandments. "I am able to give and receive forgiveness and reconciliation because I received both from my parents...The greatest gift a father can give his children is his love for his wife." Think how many problems involving young people, such as drugs, running away, theft, vandalism, suicide, would begin to fade away if every parent became "the Jesus with skin on." It's a big order, but it's one worth striving to fill. You hope you're on the right path when the littlest family member tells you he's going to "be a goodnick for you."
Adults should pay their way By Dr. James and Mary Kenny Dear Mary: Our 24-year- old daughter has returned to our home, a single parent with two daughters. They are 3 and 4 years old. We have a 14-year-old and because we are what I call "older parents" (49 and 47), lam pleased with the way our lives were going or was until the older daughter came home. We went through a period where she "parented" her sister until the little sister was ready to move out. We had a couple of talks and things got better. She is dating a wonderful man who is crazy about her and her little girls. His job calls for him to be away. When he is home, she lives with him. (I won't even go into the moral issue here of the problem this causes us as an example to our 14-year-old.) When he goes back to work, she comes back to our house because she is afraid to stay by herself. We don't know whether she plans to marry this guy. We suggested she set a goal as to when she should be on her own. She has a good job. My husband had a heart attack three years ago and still runs his own business, which is stress enough. We are barely making it. What to do? - Louisiana Your letter suggests you are a
caring parent caught in a difficult situation. You are realistic in recognizing that this stress may be too much for you and your husband. You are also on the right track in setting a goal for her to be on her own. Your actions are supported by two principles in regard to adult children: I) Adults pay their own way. 2) Adults take responsibility for their own lives. You might have difficulty getting your daughter to move out because there is no incentive. The present situation works for her. To make her choices more equitable, you might need to take more dramatic steps. Plan to redesign your home to create an apartment for her and her girls separate from your living space. You might need to remodel to make such an arrangement possible. Then charge her a fair rent for an apartment, perhaps $300 or $400 per month, and use the money to recoup your expenses. If your daughter accepts this offer, she will be taking responsibility for her life. You will be recompensed for your trouble, and both will have separate living space. If she would rather move out, that choice is open to her. Some parents have great 'difficulty charging an adult child, especially if the parents do not feel they need the rent. That charge is
important because it symbolizes the difference between young children and adult children. Parents accommodate young children. They get up at night and often put the child's activities ahead of their own. Adults do not the same things for other adults, because it is neither necessary nor appropriate. You are not being mean t,o your daughter but simply treating her as an adult, pressing her to grow and accept adult responsibilities. Relating to your granddaughters is another issue which you should keep separate from the issue of living space. You might arrange to keep them overnight occasionally as visitors, take them on outings or baby-sit as your wishes and needs dictate. In short, be a grandmother to them, not a parent of last resort. Your daughter has made some choices which impinge on your living space and cause you severe stress. You can and should change this situation without "throwing out" your daughter. Allow your daughter to make choices different from yours, but insist she take responsibility for the choices she makes. . Reader questions on family living or child care to be answered in print are invited. Address: the Kennys, Box 872, St. Joseph's College, Rennsselaer, IN 47978.
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The tragedy of surrogate motherhood By Antoinette Bosco Eight years ago a woman who called herself Elizabeth Kane became a surrogate mother in the United States. . She was married and had three children when she agreed to become pregnant with the sperm of another woman's husband and have a baby for that couple. Her decision to do this put her on a pioneering path where new legal issues, personal conflicts, disturbing emotions and ethical dilemmas would rise and churn. Mrs. Kane became a celebrity of sorts with her pregnancy and the birth of Justin. But, if the delivery of her child to strangers standing at her side after she gave birth made the couple happy, it didn't do the same for her. It only made her empty. Within a short time, the pain she experienced from the loss of her child was severe enough to turn her full circle. Instead of defending surrogate mothering, she began to denounce it. Mrs. Kane, a Midwest housewife whose real name is Mary Beth, was in the news again last year, comforting Mary Beth Whitehead in the "Baby M" case. Mrs. Whitehead, also a surrogate mother, rejected the contract between herself and a couple in New Jersey. In late April, Harcourt Brace Jovanovich Inc. published "Birth Mother," the story of Mrs. Kane's odyssey. The publishers are calling it, "The courageous, intimate story of America's first surrogate mother.,. The book, unfortunately, is not great reading. One gets the sense that to make a book out of the story, each month of the pregnancy was dragged out. Clearly Mrs. Kane's pregnancy became a kind of three-ring circus. Her husband comes out like a victim, even losing his job because of town talk. And Mrs. Kane's children appar-
ently are not given any consideration until they begin to ask questions about the brother or sister they will never see. Last year, after the Baby M case, Mrs. Kane related that her daughter, then 17, was still having problems with what happened. Mrs. Kane's story takes on considerable pathos when she tells of going through the indignity of being before a camera even as she gave birth. But after Justin was born and her special role came to an end, the postpartum blues set in with a vengeance. Mrs. Kane says, "I lay there feeling tricked, used and cast out with yesterday's garbage." In the last part of the book we get a glimpse of the power "Birth Mother" might have had if it focused less on Mrs. Kane's diary
and more on the explosive issue surrogate mothering was destined to become. Toward the end of her pregnancy, this woman who contracted her uterus out for $10,000 said, "We were all paying a price for the giving and receiving of life." She came to believe that "surrogate motherhood is nothing more than the transference of pain from one woman to another.... It is against human nature for a woman to psychologically disassociate herselffrom the child she is carrying . Children are not a commodity .. This is reproductive prostitution." In spite of its flaws, "Birth Mother" is worth reading because it forces us as a society to look at the complexity of surrogate mothering and how tragically contradictory it is to human nature.
Things mothers learn By Hilda Young "If people teach their children manners at home, they won't have to be embarrassed when they take them to a restaurant." That's a statement I made in youth, when I thought playpens were invented to keep toddlers happy, not controlled. You can teach a child to say please and thank you at home, but how can you anticipate a 3-yearold dislodging a chunk of gum from under the table and dropping it into his grandpa's coffee? Emily Post never prepared me for Marie sneezing with a mouthful of hash browns. Who would predict that a 2-year-old would scream because he didn't get a menu too? Johnny thought he was helping when he put ketchup on Joey's waffles. Joey wasn't really hungry anyway. He had already eaten three packages of sugar and half his napkin.
When Johnny choked on the ice in his water, it gave Marie a good reason to slap him on the back, which, of course, gave him a good reason to stick her in the arm with his fork. I've never seen a warning about what restaurant air does to children's kidneys. Marie spends as much time traveling to and from the restroom as she does at the table. "Is that little girl bothering you?" a waitress asked us once. "I notice she keeps coming over to your table." Once as we left a restaurant, Johnny told the waitress he was not allowed to chew gum the way she was because his mommy had told him it would ruin his brain. And once I actually said, "If parents would teach their children neatness while they are young, they will never have to worry about sloppy teen-agel's,"
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Vatican, U.S. "grope" for relationship IRVING, Texas (NC) - The Vatican and the United States are "groping ... for the appropriate relationship," says the U.S. ambassador to the Holy See. In an interview with the Texas Catholic, newspaper of the Dallas diocese, Frank Shakespeare discussed the U.S.-Vatican relationship. He was in Texas to speak at the commencement of the University of Dallas in Irving. "The Holy See is very skittish about becoming contaminated with a superpower," he said. "And we are very skittish about becoming contaminated by the church. So we are groping, both of us, for the appropriate relationship.," Shakespeare, ambassador to Portugal before becoming ambassador to the Holy See in January 1987, sees his ambassadorship as different from other diplomatic positions. "When I took this assignment," he said, "(Secretary of State) George Shultz said to me in a private. conversation, 'Frank, this is not a post in the sense of a diplomatic post. It's a worldwide observation point.' " Unlike most diplomats who are concerned with interests of trade, military issues and consular affairs, ambassadorship to the Holy See involves no bilateral relations. But, says Shakespeare, "the United States and the Holy See have a common, distinct attribute: each is universal in the sense it has interests and involvements all over the globe. The United States is the greatest temporal power; the Holy See is perhaps the greatest spiritual power." The ambassador said the Holy See and the United States also often share objectives. Both, he said, ha-ve an interest in pluralism within a society, in freedom of religion, in human rights, and in the protection of the family. In Mozambique, for example, the Holy See is interested in religious freedom in the small African country while the United States is interested in Mozambique severing ties with the Soviet Union. For its part, Mozambique wants aid from the West, the ambassador said. "By establishing ties with the Holy See, they hope to soften their image in Europe and the United States," he said. Poland is also pressuring the Vatican to establish diplomatic relations, according to Shakespeare. With the exception of Yugoslavia, which established diplomatic ties to the Vatican during Marshal Tito's coolness toward the Soviet Union, ties to Poland would be the first between the Vatican and a European Soviet-bloc country, he said. Such a move would be a "significant development. If you grant diplomatic relations to Poland, it's going to immediately raise the question, what about Czechoslovakia, or Hungary?" As a Catholic he may personally be interested in the state of Catholicism worldwide, the ambassador said, but he keeps his personal feelings and his job as diplomat separate.
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Millennium sparks hope, fear in USSR Continued from Page One Cardinal Casaroli met with Gorbachev at the Kremlin June 13 to discuss church-state relations, but both ruled out the possibility of an imminent papal visit to the Soviet Union. After the hourlong meeting in the Kremlin, Cardinal Casaroli said the meeting's main achievement had been to establish a dialogue and that it was too early to speak of setting up diplomatic relations between the Holy See and the Soviet Union. The cardinal also said he had given Gorbachev a letter from Pope John Paul but that time had been too short to address problems raised in the letter. Before the meeting, journalists asked Gorbachev when he intended to invite the pope to Moscow, and the Soviet leader said: "Many things have yet to happen." During a June II meeting with religious officials, Cardinal Casa-
roli asked Soviet President Andrei Gromyko if the government planned to ask religious comunities for "observations, proposals and objections" to the planned Soviet religious liberty law. Gromyko answered that religious communities "will be informed and, as is logical, listened to at every stage of the preparation of the law." Cardinal Willebrands, alluding to the Ukrainian Catholic Church, asked about the status of Catholics outside the Baltic Soviet republics where the Catholic Church is legally recognized. The Latin-rite Catholic Church is legal in the Soviet Union, but the Ukrainian Catholic Church, an Eastern-rite church, is illegal. It exists clandestinely with about 4 million members. "There is no intention to limit the rights of Catholics in our country," Gromyko told the religious leaders. "But there are concrete problems which should be faced
with local authorites. In the near we will answer this question, and the region where the Catholics are located will not make any difference." As millennium celebrations ·began June 4, Russian Orthodox Metropolitan Filaret of Kiev announced that talks regarding the status of the Ukrainian Catholic Church would be conducted June 19-26 in Finland within the framework of an official theological dialogue between representatives of 14 Orthodox cl)urches and the Christian unity secretariat. But Metropolitan Filaret warned Vatican officials not to be too "aggressive" about legalizing the Ukrainian Church. "Restoration of the church will mean a deterioration of brotherly ecumenical relations," he said. The Soviet government would have the final voice in determining the legality of the Ukrainian Church, which has been illegal in the Soviet Union since 1946. f~ture
2,000 share -evening in Vatican gardens VATICAN CITY (NC) - 2,000 people walked quietly in two parallel lines for about a half-mile along paths winding through the manicured lawns behind St. Peter's Basilica: . For non-church officials it was a rare twilight view of the Vatican gardens with their pines, palm trees and vine-covered grottoes, normally the strolling area reserved for Pope John Paul II and the cardinals of the Roman Curia. But on the evening of May 31 the gardens were open to anyone who wanted to pray with the pope. May is Mary's month and this May fell during the Marian year that ends in August. So the pope ended May with a liturgical service in the Grotto of Lourdes atop one of the rolling hills in the 107-acre Vatican City State. To participate, people had only to say, "I'm going to pray the rosary with the pope." That got them past the Swiss Guards who normally block unauthorized people from going through the stone gate alongside St. Peter's Basilica. Once inside, people processed
to the grotto, where the pope led the rosary, interspersed with Gospel readings and Marian hymns. Afterward, he preached briefly, asking that Mary remain part of people's spiritual lives. For most it was a rare view of the Vatican gardens and a visual example of the pope's deep devotion to Mary. John Paul's coat of arms bears the letter "M" for Mary. His trips in and out of Italy are punctuated by visits to Marian shrines and dedications of nations to her care. His emphasis is always on Mary as the prime example of obedience to God's will. He reiterated this thought several days later in a letter on Mary to members of religious orders and secular institutes.
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Pope urges Sunday Mass attendance VATICAN CITY (NC) - Pope John Paul II asked U.S. bishops to promote regular Sunday Mass attendance by U.S. Catholics about 52 percent of whom go to church weekly. "The eucharistic celebration of the Sunday Mass is of immense importance for your local churches and for their vitality," he said June 10 to 25 bishops from the ecclesial provinces of Washington, Baltimore, Atlanta and Miami. "Participating in the Eucharist is only a small portion of the laity's week, but the total effectiveness of their lives and all Christian renewal depends on it," the pope said. "The time is ripe to renew gratitude to God for this great gift and to reinforce this splendid tradition of American Catholics," he added. The bishops were at the Vatican for their "ad limina" visits required every five years to report on the status of their dioceses. At the meeting, the pope also noted that he will present Archbishop Eugene A. Marino of Atlanta, the first black U.S. archbishop, with his pallium at a June 29 Vatican ceremony. The pallium is a. band of white wool given to the heads of archdioceses. Archbishop Marino was at the June 10 papal meeting. The pope did not announce the names of other archbishops scheduled to receive their palliums the same day. He coupled his call for attendance at Mass with a plea to deepen the prayer life of U.S. Catholics. "Human work is revolutionized by prayer," he said. "The call to prayer must p1'ecede the call to action, but the call to action must truly accompany the call to prayer," he added. "Prayer is an essential condition - even if not the only one - for a correct reading of the signs of the times," he added. "In prayer the church braces herself to engage in paschal conflict with sin and with the devil," the pope said. "Not everyone is waiting to be called to prayer; not everyone is willing to respond, but millions of people are," he said.
Women championed PIACENZA, Italy (NC) - Although the state should provide equal social benefits to homemakers to help them fulfill their role as mothers, that does not mean that women should be "locked up inside the four walls of the home," said Pope John Paul II in a recent· speech to Piacenza workers in which he also condemned abortion and trial marriages and said the "entire range of human activity" is and should be open to women.
Beatification set ROME(NC)- Pope John Paul II will beatify Father Junipero
Serra, the 18th-century founder of nine California missions, Sept. 25 at the Vatican. Bishops from Majorca, Spain - Father Serra's birthplace - San Francisco and Monterey, Calif., will attend the ceremony.
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One, shortly before he got married, said to me, "You know, Tom, marriage really is a kind of prison, but it's a prison where in the long run you find happiness and real freedom."
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Ageless "A thousand years in thy sight are but as yesterday when it is past
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I also remember another guy who once said to me: "Sexual attraction is very, very important for a marriage. It's got to be there. But I won't think I'm really, really in love until I've acquired skill in making sacrifices for my wife. You gotta be tough to get married. You gotta be willing to give and give and give."
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I suspect he meant that real freedom comes only with self-discipljne and self-mastery.
Rod: "You just can't be free if you get married, and I really don't want to either." Since I knew these young men slightly, I interjected this comment: "Oh, when you're a little older you'll be ready to settle down and stay home." Steve said nothing but looked slightly puzzled. Rod frowned and muttered, "Not me." One part of me laughed inwardly at this conversation, but another part was disturbed by the selfishness expressed by the two young men. Later my mind journeyed back in time, and I thought of some young men I had known who eventually had long and successful marriages. As I remember them, they were
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THE ANCHOR-Diocese of Fall River-':"Fri., June 17, 1988
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Coyle and Cassidy High School Coyle and Cassidy High School, Taunton, recently presented awards for academic excellence and school service to over 100 students. The ,school's top honors, the Coyle and Cassidy Man and Woman of the Year awards, were made to seniors Joseph Paulo and Jennifer Potoczak. Kevin Rafferty garnered the Outstanding Junior Award. Sophomore and freshman honors went to Nicole Dorthe and Melissa Poyant. Principal's Service Awards were earned by Susan Clark, Michele Napier and David Simas. Richard Clark, Jennifer Potoczak, Kevin Rafferty and Eileen Zopatti merited Coyle-Cassidy Service Awards. Academic excellence honors were given to Carlos Diaz, Debra Pelletier, David Melanson, Melissa Vallillo, Stacey Sanborn and Marie Foley. 10 students earned academic letters and 24 were inducted into the National Honor Society.
Exemplary schools WASHINGTON (NC) - The U.S. Department of Education has given its 1988 Exemplary School Award to 31 Catholic elementary schools. They are among 287 elementary schools to receive the designation.
A Shield "His truth shall be thy shield and buckler." - Ps. 91:4
CC Headmaster Michael Donly presented Mr. and Mrs. James Moran and Mr. and Mrs. Michael Rafferty with Parents' Service Awards for their years of school support.
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The 1988 yearbook was dedicated to Sister Mary Elizabeth, S USC, for "her untiring devotion" both to CC and her community, the Holy Union sisters.
IT'S 100 STRAIGHT regular season wins for the girls' tennis team at Bishop Feehan High School, Attleboro! According to proud coach Anne Carroll, standing right, the victories take the team back to the close of the 1981 season. Feehan's girls also won their seventh consecutive Bishop Stang league championship and in 1987 were Massachusetts state champions. This season's team was, clockwise from top left, Kathleen McCarthy, Paula Silva, Jennie Anderson, Jennifer Jackson, Dozens of the 208 graduates of Jacquelyn Dooley, Kristen Brooks, Cynthia Malo, Beth Oliveira, Melissa Barlow, Courtney Bishop Stang High School, North Dartmouth, have been honored ' Hamilton and Heather Theodore.
with scholarships lind awards. Denise Kissell earned a $500 academic scholarship to Marquette University. She was one of only 25 students accepted into the school's six-year pre-dental program. The Paul A., Duchaine Family Scholarship, valued at $10,000, went to Robert Costa. Drew Makin and Nancy Hunter were awarded $500 Stang Parents' Club scholarships. Many graduates will further their education at Catholic schools. Among the institutions they will attend are Emmanuel, Boston, Salve Regina, Stonehill, St. Anselm, St. Leo, Trinity and Merrimack Colleges, the Catholic University of America and Marquette and Fordham universities. Over 90 percent of 1988 Stang graduates are college bound.
One of world's youngest black-belters John Robinson, 16, a student at Coyle and Cassidy High School, Taunton, has become one of the youngest persons in the world to earn a black belt in Uechi Ryu karate. The North Easton resident passed his black belt exam on his first try two weeks after his 16th birthday in May. Persons under 16 are not allowed to take the exam. John has been studying Uechi Ryu since he was seven. His father, John Sr., also has a black belt, thanks to his son. "My dad spent so much time waiting for me, driving me to and from my lessons," the young master said, "that he decided to take up karate, too." Uechi Ryu teaches students to be outwardly bold while maintaining inner peace. Learners arejudged on strength, speed, accuracy of technique, balance and, most importantly, concentration. "The hardest part," says John, "is the concentration and keeping , yourself calm. We learn a form of meditation called Sanchin to allow us to concentrate."
Sanchin, he says, has helped with schoolwork, sports and his
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St. Anne's School honors graduates EIGHTH GRADERS, from left, Michael Thomas, Lenny Ramos, Daniel McLaughlin and Stephanie Nye with church history projects: (Rosa photo)
Holy Family-Holy Name School ,Students at Holy Family-Holy Name School, New Bedford, recently participated in the school's eighth annual educational fair, at .hich parents and friends viewed class projects on such topics as church history, the Old Testament, the sacraments and the Ten Commandments. The fair's theme, said teacher Cecilia Felix, was "Our Catholic Roots and Faith. to A highlight of the evening was "'Sir Oliver's Song," a sign, song and dance presentation by 41 glee club members directed by volunteer Teresa Furtado. The musical, featuring Maurice Ouellette, examined the Ten Commandments. Eighth graders emphasizing local
church history interviewed area pastors and made models ofdiocesan churches.
Honors graduate William J. Butler, Jr. of St. Lawrence parish, New Bedford, recently graduated from Boston College with a bachelor's degree in biology, magna cum laude. The 1984 graduate of Bishop Stang High School, North Dartmouth, was a BC dean's list student and a member of the school's Mendel (biology) Club and the Alpha Epsilon Delta and Cross and Crown honor societies. He will enter Tufts University School of Medicine.
outlook on life. "The philosophy is based on self-discipline. When I need help studying or with a problem, I always refer back to karate." John has won the Uechi Ryu New England Grand Championship twice, at ages 9 and 14, and placed third once. The CC student, who also plays baseball for his school and the Easton Senior Babe Ruth League, hopes someday to open a karate school with his father.
31 eighth graders recently com- $500 education award from an pleted their elementary education anonymous parishioner for a stuat St. Anne's School, Fall River. dent planning to attend a Catholic Many were recognized for out- high school. Susan Carreiro took the Princistanding accomplishments. St. Anne Home and School As-' pal's Award for greatest academic sociation Awards were presented improvement, Justin Chicca and ,to graduates Carlin Saccucci, Susan' Eric Bradbury were recognized by Amaral and Susan Carreiro for the school with Service Awards scholarship and to Lisa Bisson" for "consistently and tirelessly givPaula Leduc, Alice Fagundo and ing of themselves." Larry Bird, Stephanie Bergeron for achieve- Bryan Salva, Jarrod Sirois, David Lopes, Roy Machado, Emmanuel ment. Melissa Saoft, Kimberly Snow Paiva and Patrick Oliveira earned and Kristen Charette, who will Service Certificates. Justin Chicca, Bryan Salva, Jarattend Catholic high schools, were awarded Home and School Asso- rod Sirois, Keith Guay and Emciation $100 scholarships. Sandra manual Paiva received altar boy Teixeira and Alice Fagundo re- awards for parish service. Lisa Bisson and Paula Leduc ceived St. Anne Credit Union Outearned awards for service to St. standing Citizenship awards. Justin Chicca merited the Ern- Anne's choir. est J. Lavoie/Roger Mercier Memorial Award, $250 towards a Catholic school tuition. The Home Maria Sarmento and Elise Gagand School Association gave its liardi of Fall River and Mary Jane Christian Living Awards to Eric Provencher of New Bedford are Bradbury and Stephanie Bergeron, spring semester dean's list students and Emmanuel Paiva garnered a at Salve Regina College, Newport.
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Many of this year's 226 graduates at Bishop Feehan High School, Attleboro, were award winners. Honors were distributed for extracurricular involvement in debate, fundraising, Feehan Print (school newspaper), Shaman (literary magazine), Flashback (yearbook), Student Council and band. Graduates were also recognized for high achievement in social studies, computer science, art and home economics and involvements with the national, French, Spanish and Latin honor societies. Vocal department, theatre arts and math league standouts were also recognized, as were students with exceptional attendance records. Business department awards included recognition of outstanding typing/ keyboarding and accounting students. Exceptional science, English and language students were also lauded. Christine Fanning was awarded a medal for one year of perfect attendance, William Walker a medal for two. Christie Carges'was honored for maintaining an average of 93 percent or above with no mark below 80 during every marking period for four years. Exchange student Raquel Medina Bethencourt achieved the same record for two years. Scholarship recipients included Julie DiMartino, Attleboro Rotary Scholarship; Jill Metilly, South' Attleboro Knights of Columbus Scholarship; Brian Collins, Air Force ROTC scholarship; Kristen Barbero, Mansfield Social Club, Emblem Club and nursing scholarships.
The Anchor Friday, June 17, 1988
tv, movie news NOTE Please check dates and times of television and radio programs against local listings, which may differ from the New York network schedules supplied to The Anchor. Jy Robert Doolittle Matt, a freshman, came to the youth group for only one reason: Elaine. She came from out oftown and it was the only way he could see her. He expected to find a group of nice quiet religious types, but that image soon was blown away. He found jock types and theater types, honors students and struggling students, rowdy people and shy ones. Later he told the group why he had come and what he'd expected. He had us laughing and then he said, "But, really, this is awesome. Everyone is different and you all get along." Matt wanted to break out of teen groupings with just one type of person, so he decided to stay, though he ended up going out with someone else. Matt will go through three more major changes by the time he graduates. I want to describe and name these transitions grade by grade. Matt's big move was deciding to be his unique self instead of a type. Dropping that mask and opening up is the first major change. My name for it: Being Yourself With Others. To illustrate the second change, I will introduce Jason. As a sophomore he always used to clutch during tests. Though he studied thoroughly, he did poorly. In the youth group he heard a lot of people talk pretty openly about their encounters with Christ as a "friend you can turn to." So before tests he began asking for calmness and got it. Now he has his own story to tell about how Christ came through and freed up his abilities. This is change Number 2: In a group that's open about experiences with Christ, people gradually learn to let him bring out their gifts. The name I give it: Being Your Best With Christ.
Most juniors reach a critical turning point in spiritual growth. Now they can have great impact, but first they generally come up against a heavy-duty individual issue which, once resolved, unlocks ministry gifts which can affect the group deeply. Here's what Cindi faced. She had a naturally warm and outgoing heart, but didn't believe it because of a stubborn habit of selfdislike. As she grew with Christ, he led her to give up this sin, this disregard for God's view of how good she is, by talking with a priest in confession. Feeling great relief about herself, she went on a rampage in the . group, teaching people to point out what's beautiful in one another and to believe what they heard. Cindi had come into the special strength juniors can wield. I call it: Taking Charge in a Group. . Seniors are busy charting their adult course. School and job decisions loom large, and there are even bigger decisions about a basic life posture. Laurie, a senior, watched three girls in the library tease and embarrass a socially awkward boy by sending him notes that one liked him and wanted him. Laurie told them, "I see what you're doing and it really stinks, so quit it!" And they did. The ability to focus Christlike anger on the evils around us erupts beautifully in seniors. Their witness of courage can make a big difference inside and outside the youth group. I call this last big change: Taking a Stand in the World. To capture in single words what breaks through with each change, there is openness, then faith, then power, then courage. These fine human qualities are latent in everyone. Robert Doolittle is youth ministry coordinator at St. Agnes parish in Reading.
Symbols following film reviews indicate both general and Catholic Films Office ratings. which do not always coincide. General ratings: G-suitable for general viewing; PG-13-parental guidance strongly suggested for children under 13; PG-parental guidance suggested; R-restricted, unsuitable for children or young teens. . Catholic ratings: AI-approved for children and adults; A2-approved for adults and adolescents; A3-approved for adults only; 4-separate classification (given films not morally offensive which, however, require some analysis and explanation); O-morally offensive. Catholic ratings for television movies are those of the movie house versions of the films. New Films "Big" (20th Century-Fox) - A 12-year-old boy (David Moscow) wishes to be big on a carnival fortune-telling machine. He wakes up next morning with a 30-yearold body(Tom Hanks). Sweet-natured. Some profanity, brief, discreetly filmed sexual situation. A2, PG "Big Business" (Touchstone) Two sets of identical twin girls are mismatched at birth - one set ends up running aNew Yorkbased conglomerate, the other is raised by a poor West Virginia couple. This riotous farce details how the real twins are reunited. Bette Midler and Lily Tomlin play both sets of twins and their individual quirks add to the humor of the piece. Clear and fast-paced. Much humor with sexual connotations and some rough language. A3, PG "Call Me" (Vestron) ~ Basically soft porn fancied up with an inane plot about hoods tracking a woman (Patricia Charbonneau) who inadvertently witnesses a murder. She also gets hooked on an obscene phone caller, who mayor may not be one of the hoods..
Much gory violence, profanity and rough, sexually explicit language. Insensitivity to offensive nature of obscene phone calls. 0, R "Funny Farm" (Warner Bros.) - A couple (Chevy Chase and Madolyn Smith) leave New York City for the joys of Vermont farmhouse life. Speedy disenchantment comes through many comic situations, some hackneyed. Some profanity and a skewed picture of country natives as greedy nasties. A3,PG . "My Best Friend Is a Vampire" (Kings Road) - Humorless comedy about a nerdish but likable teenager (Robert Sean Leonard) seduced and bitten by a new neighbor, actually a vampire. Much offensive sexist humor, some profanity, disconcerting visuals. 0, PG "The Wrong Guys" (New Mode Pictures) - Often entertaining wilderness reunion of onetime Cub Scouts threatened by their old neighborhood bullies and an escaped con who wields a mighty ra.nge of weaponry. Cast mostly With young stand-up comics. A2, PG Religious TV Sunday, June 19 (CBS) - "For Our Times" - CBS producer J oseph Clement discusses moral and religious questions related to euthanasia as the Dutch move toward its legalization. Religious Radio Sunday, June 19 (NBC) "Guideline" - Television producer Zach ~ichter discusses the troubles of living on dialysis.
Gorbachevappeal WASHINGTON (NC) - More than 240 U.S. religious and political leaders have appealed to Soviet leader Mikhail Gorbachev to legalize the Ukrainian Catholic Church and other religious groups banned in the Soviet Union. The leaders also asked for reform of Soviet laws controlling religious freedom and that parents be allowed to "transmit their faith to their children without being harassed or discriminated against."
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St. Anne's Hospital gratefully acknowledges contributions that we have received to the Remembrance Fund during May, 1988. Through the remembrance and honor ofthese lives, St. Anne's can continue its "Caring With Excellence. "
Fred H. Azar George Carvalho Jeannette Chace Alice Croteau Edward G. Depin Josephine Dery Dennis A. Desjardins Antone S. Dias Joseph Dion Ellen Doherty Sally Flowers John Guozdz William S. Knapinski Albert R. Laverdiere Eleanor S. McGuire Myles M. Mosher Alcide G. Paquette Dean Parker .Gertrude Rezendes Normand Sequin Elizabeth Smith Richard Sousa Vera Tacovelli Wayne Viveiros Brad West We are grateful to those who thoughtfully named St. Anne's Hospital's Remembrance Fund.
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THE ANCHOR-Diocese of Fall River-Fri., June 17,1988
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MCFL, SWANSEA Massachusetts Citizens for Life Swansea cbapter meeting 7 p.m. June 23, Swansea Public Library; guest speaker: John Grant, health coordinator at Somerset High School; all welcome; information: Pauline Desrosiers, 673-4939. ST. FRANCIS XAVIER, HYANNIS Women's Guild $500 scholarships have been awarded to Nathan Lambert of Hyannis, a Barnstable High School graduate who will attend Providence College, and to Corey Ann Logan of Yarmouth, a DennisYarmouth High School graduate who will attend Williams College. NEW LIFE PROGRAM New Life program for the divorced meeting 7 to 9 p.m. Sunday, Immaculate Conception church hall, Taunton; topic: adjusting daily routines. ST. JOHN THE EVANGELIST, POCASSET Bingo scholarship recipients are Linda Milner and David J. Gregoire of Monument Beach. New parish council officers: Kevin McGonagle, chairman; Marilyn Timo, vice-chairperson; Christopher O'Donnell, secretary. ST. MARY, N. ATTLEBORO Fred and Zita Thorpe are celebrating their 60th wedding anniver-. sary. June devotions in honor of the Sacred Heart 7 p.m. Tuesdays. Father Ralph D. Tetrault, pastor, and Mary Kennedy will cochair the parish centennial celebration. ST. PATRICK, WAREHAM CYO organizational meeting 7 p.m. June 21, cenacle. CYO trip io Rocky Point Park tomorrow.
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ST.ANNE,FR New Senior Citizen's Club committee members include Herve E. Tremblay, president; Albert Lavoie, vice-president; Julie Janson, secretary; and Raymond Brodeur, treasurer. ST. ANTHONY OF PADUA, FR Council of Catholic Women meeting and catered supper 6 p.m. June 21. Installation ceremony at 9:30 a.m. Mass June 26 with banquet 6 p.m. June 27 at location to be announced. New officers: Gilda Coelho, president; Mary Silvia, vicepresident; Mary Oliveira, treasurer; Sophie Hamel, secretary. LaSALETTE SHRINE, ATTLEBORO One-woman play, "Mary's Boy," with Margaret Anderson portraying Mary, 7:30 p.m. tomorrow, People's Chapel, following 6:30 p.m. Mass celebrated by Rev. Andre Patenaude, MS, shrine director. All welcome. ST. PATRICK, SOMERSET Reception for Father Brian Harrington, new pastor, following all Masses this weekend. Rosary recited 3:30 p.m. each Thursday; all welcome. HOLY ROSARY, TAUNTON Altar boy/choir girl picnic June 29 with car pool leaving church parking lot 9 a.m. BL. SACRAMENT, FR The summer schedule for weekday Masses is in effect, with daily Masses as usually scheduled but at the convent chapel. A Mass at 8 a.m. each Saturday has been added. Mass and healing service 2 p.m. Sunday. Women's Guild installation banquet in church hall follows 7 p.m. Mass June 29 in church. LaSALETTE CENTER FOR CHRISTIAN LIVING, ATTLEBORO "Teach the Children Well" program for DREs and catechists July II through Aug. 5; Bible vacation school and supervised recreation fttl' children of participants available; _ information: 222-8530. CATHEDRAL CAMP, E. FREETOWN Westport Middle School picnic 9 a.m. to 2 p.m. Tuesday. King Philip Regional School picnic 9 a.m. to 2 p.m. Wednesday.
ST. JOAN OF ARC, ORLEANS Vincentian Father Sebastian Mappilaparambil of Kerala, India, will speak about his mission group's work at June 25 and 26 Masses. Boston Celtics star Kevin McHale will speak at a parish hall communion breakfast after the 8 a.m. Mass July 10. St. Joan of Arc Guild $500 scholarship recipients are Danielle Anderson of Eastham, who will attend the University of Pittsburgh, and Nicole Gibbons of Orleans, who will study at New Hampshire's Colby-Sawyer College. ST. JOSEPH, TAUNTON Canned goods are collected by Vincentians at Masses the first weekend of each month for needy parish families. and Taunton's Our Daily Bread soup kitchen and its Food Pantry. ST. THOMAS MORE, SOMERSET Intentions ofthe parish family are this week being remembered in the prayers of Fall River's retired Sisters ofthe Sacred Hearts. Timothy Quinn, who will enter the Massachusetts Maritime Academy, is the recipient of the Women's Guild Rev. HJ>ward A. Waldron Memorial Scholarship. New Guild officers are Linda Marcoux, president; Veronica Andresen, vice-president; Kathleen St. Laurent, secretary; Christine Boardman, treasurer. Jessie and Andy Kelly are celebrating their 65th wedding anniversary. Parish council meeting Tuesday, religious education center. ST. MARY, SEEKONK Parish softball 6 p.m. Sunday, North School Field. Life in the Spirit information night June 26, parish center. ST. MARY, NB Rosary before 7 a.m. Mass June weekdays. Class for prospective altar servers 9:30 a.m. June 25, school hall. New eucharistic ministers: Arthur Correia, Michele Coulombe, Dennis Desnoyers, Bernard Flood, Paul Guy, Donna Labrode, Jeffrey Lawrence, Marianne Moura, Steven Perry and Christine Poyant. Men's Club picnic noon to 5 p.m. June 26, Our Lady of the Lake Camp, E. Freetown. ST. ANTHONY, MATTAPOISETT Reception for departing pastor Father Stanley J. Kolasa, SS.CC., 2 to 5 p.m. June 26, church hall. Dee and George Avila are celebrating their 50th wedding anniversary. ST. STANISLAUS, FR Mr. and Mrs. Edwin Reid are celebrating their 30th wedding anniversary, Mr. and Mrs. John Rybka their 40th.
CATHEDRAL, FR Farewell reception for departing pastor and rector Very Rev. Barry W. Wall, who will take up the pastorate of St. Anthony's parish, Mattapoisett, after 10 a.m. Mass June 26; Father Wall will be principal celebrant at the Mass. Pro tem officers of new senior's group include Frank Reis, president; Dan Shea, vice-president; John Ready, treasurer; Anna Thibault, secretary; next meeting 2 p.m. July 7.
Surprise meeting The June meeting of the Fall River area First Friday Club was highlighted by a reunion of a teacher and student who had not seen each other for 46 years. The teacher, Armand Dallaire, is retired from the Fall River school system but teaches parttimeat Bishop Connolly High School, Fall River. Previously a Brother of Christian Instruction at the former Msgr. Prevost High School, also in Fall River, he had among his students Donald Bergeron, selfdescribed as "a tough, wild kid always in trouble" who was frequently disciplined by Dallaire, then known as Brother Eugene. After high school, Bergeron served in the Army, then joined the Newport, RI, police department, where he served for 28 years, 15 of them in charge of the department's juvenile division. Known by Newport youngsters as "king of the kids," he said, "I am the classic example of a tough kid who ends up being OK, and a help to other tough kids, and much credit for this is because. Brother Eugene cared enough about me to firmly discipline me." The two embraced before 60 First Friday ClUb members and guests at the meeting. The encounter was a total surprise to Dallaire; although Bergeron knew of it in advance. MASS. CITIZENS FOR LIFE, NB Meeting and membership drive 6:30 p.m. June 30, Buttonwood Library, 745 Rockdale Ave., New Bedford. Volunteers also needed to work" from home. Information 636-4903.
ST. JOSEPH, FAIRHAVEN End-of-school Mass 9 this morning, followed by awards and early dismissal. CCD registration 9 to II :30 a.m. tomorrow at school. Farewell reception 2 to 3:30 p.m. June 26 for Father Columban Crotty, pastor. CORPUS CHRISTI, SANDWICH Child care service has begun at 9:30 a.m. Sunday Mass at Father Clinton Hall. Cars will leave parish parking lot at 7 tonight for ultreya meeting at St. John Evangelist, Pocasset. A Catholic Health Association pamphlet, "Christian Affirmation of Life: Directions for My Treatment," discussing "living wills," is available at the church entrance. ST. DOMINIC, SWANSEA Mary, Queen of Peace prayer group meets 7 p.m. each Wednesday. All welcome. Women's Guild installation 6 p.m. June 21 at church, followed by banquet at Venus de Milo restaurant. NOTRE DAME, FR Seminarian Charles Jodoin of St. Theresa's parish, New Bedford, will speak on vocations at all Masses this weekend.
Social ethic urged MISSOULA, Mont. (NC) Recent scandals involving television evangelists, Wall Street businessmen and public officials show the need for a "consistent social ethic" in U.S. society, said Seattle Archbishop Raymond G. Hunthausen at a recent conference in Missoula. The U.S. people had no patience with Ivan Boesky's insider trading on Wall Street or the conduct of former presidential candidate Gary Hart, but at the same time they "failed to come to grips with the moral and ethical dimensions of the Iran-Contra scandal," the archbishop said. "Our ethical sense begins to fail precisely at that point when we leave the sphere of private life and enter the social realm," he said.
Cubans emigrate WASHINGTON (NC) - Sixteen Cubans, including nine former political prisoners, recently arrived in Miami, 10 months after a U.S. Catholic Conference official obtained permission from Cuban President Fidel Castro to allow ' 348 current and former prisoners and their immediate families to emigrate.
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CATHEDRAL CAMP, East Freetown, was the site ofa recent meeting of the New England Conference of Diocesan Directors of Religious Education, highlighted by workshops on alternative models for religious education programs offered by Dr. John Westerhoff of Duke Divinity School. Principals at the meeting included, from left, Father Francis Kelly, NECDDRE executive director; Dr. Westerhoff; NECDDRE president J. Sinwell; Sister Mary Duffy, CSJ, associate director of religious education for the Worcester diocese.