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People of action instruments of mission The following message is from Msgr. John J. Oliveira, diocesan director ofthe Society for the Propagation of the Faith, who states that he is relying not only on the generosity of parishioners but on their prayers for the success of Mission Sunday, Oct. 18.

Jesus was a man of action.

He healed the sick, cured the lepers, brought sight to the blind, made the lame walk, freed the captives, cast out demons Well, you get the picture.

Jesus also demanded action from his followers. Take for example the miracle of the multiplication of the loaves. The disciples were ready to turn the hungry crowd away, but Jesus asked them to bring him the few loaves of bread and the fish that they had. He broke and blessed the food, but he gave it to the disciples to distribute. They fed the multitudes through his power. They became the instruments Jesus used to work that miracle.

In St. Matthew's Gospel, we read another call to action from Jesus. To His disciples he says: "Full authority has been given to me in both heaven and on earth; go, therefore, and make disciples of all the nations. Baptize them in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Teach them to carry out everything I have commanded you. And know that I am with you always, until the end of the world!"

Today we celebrate World Mission Sunday, annually promulgated by Pope John Paul II for the entire Catholic world to support mission churches and

missionaries: to support those who daily are Jesus' "instruments," bringing his message of hope to all people. They carry out the command Jesus gave his disciples and through them many come to know and love Christ.

The church in the missions is growing. It is daily becoming more widely served by its own people, with more and more vocations to the priesthood and religious life coming from among those living in those nations. In Africa, for example, most dioceses are now headed by a native-born bishop. A short time ago, such was not the case.

Vocations, then, are growing.

In 1986, in fact, some 20 seminaries were opened on the continents of Africa and Asia to handle the increase in those who have heard and accepted the call to follow Jesus as priest.

Throughout the missions, there are currently 1,500 more young men studying for the priesthood than there were one year ago.

This growth in faith brings with it new hopes, new dreams for those living that faith. In a barrio in Caracas, Venezuela, lay missionaries help bring better telephone lines into the area.

In Kenya, we hear from a bishTurn to Page Six

PARTICIPANTS in the 13th annual diocesan peace procession, held Monday in Fall River, move toward St. Anne's Church. See story page 9. (Torchia photo)

3 honored by pope His Holiness Pope John Paull! named a Papal Chamberlain in 1977, and Very Rev. JohnJ. Smith has bestowed papal honors on three priests of the Fall River have been named papal Prelates of Honor. They are entitled to wear diocese. red cassocks or red piping on Rev. Msgr. Anthony M. Gomes, black cassocks. Father Smith, like named a Domestic Prelate in 1964, Msgr. Oliveira and Msgr. Gomes, has been raised to the rank of Prowill have the title of Reverend tonotary Apostolic. As such, he is Monsignor. entitled to wear a purple ferraioBishop Daniel A. Cronin will lone or full-length cloak on nonliturgical occasions calling for full ' present papal diplomas attesting to their new ranks to the honored ecclesiastical dress and may use priests at an Advent vespers cerethe letters PA after his name. Protonotary apostolics form one of mony to be held at 3 p.m. Sunday, Nov. 29, at S1. Mary's Cathedral. the chief colleges of prelates of the Roman Curia, dating from the 3rd Msgr. Gomes or 4th century.

Msgr. Gomes, born Dec. 16, Rev. Msgr. John J. Oliveira, 1914, in Taunton, graduated from

Notre Dame University in 1938.

His relationship with his alma mater has continued through the years. A chaplain to the Fighting Irish football team, he rarely misses a game, whether at home or away.

In 1982, in honor of his 40th anniversary in the priesthood, a game was dedicated to him.

Ordained June 4, 1942 after studies at S1. Bernard's Seminary, Rochester, N.Y., and the Seminary of Angra, Terceira, Azores, he served at St. John the Baptist parish, New Bedford, and at St. Anthony of Padua and Santo Turn to Page Six

Synod gets to nitty-gritty

"MISSIONARIES have always seen their principal tasks as preaching the Gospel to those who have not heard it. ..caring for their physical well-being and forming Christian communities." - U.S. Bishops' Statement on World Mission.

VATICAN CITY (NC) - The monthlong world Synod of Bishops on the role of the laity moved into its second phase - thrashing out concrete proposals for adoption - after hearing divergent viewpoints on core lay issues facing the contemporary Catholic Church.

Delegates aired differences on themes including: - Whether to emphasize the laity's role in the world or in the church.

- The concept of lay ministries and the specific tasks open to the laity, especially women, within the church.

- The relationship between the local bishop and international lay movements working in his diocese.

- The development of a lay spirituality.

The debate began Wednesday when the more than 210 delegates broke into small working groups, organized by languages, to draft proposals for adoption by the entire synod.

The synod is only consultative but in the past, popes have used its resolutions as the basis for documents on issues discussed. During its first two weeks, participants carved out an agenda of issues ne~ding church action or clarification.

Splits developed over whether the synod should put more emphasis on the lay role in Christianizing the temporal world or on

opening up more church activities and decision-making power to the laity. Many delegates who stressed the lay role in the world tied this to the need for the church to be highly active in the political and social lives of their countries.

The laity in Tanzania "find no time to fight their way into the sacristy either to seek employment or to express their Catholic identity," said Bishop Polycarp Pengo of Tunduru-Masasi, Tanzania.

"They are happy to find time for the evangelization of politics, economy and society," he added.

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The Anchor Friday, Oct. 16, 1987

Father Boniface Jone路s Father Boniface Jones, SS.Ce., who served in nearly every diocesan parish staffed by his community died Oct. 10 after a long illness.

He was 68.

His funeral took place Wednesday at St. Joseph Church, Fairhaven, with Father Thomas McElroy, SS.Ce., as principal celebrant and Father James Nickel, SS.Ce., as homilist.

Born in Rochester, N.Y., he entered the Sacred Hearts commUility in 1940 and was ordained to'the priesthood May 22, 1945. At various times he was pastor or parochial vicar at Holy Redeemer parish, West Harwich, St. Anthony, Mattapoisett and St. Joseph, Sa-

DCCWpians living rosary In observance of Our Lady of Good Counsel Sunday in the diocese of Fall River, board members of the Diocesan Council ofCatholic Women will participate in a living rosary at St. Mary's cathedral at 2:30 p.m. Sunday, Oct.. 25. The service, in the context of the Marian year of devotion, will focus on the family.

Miss Dorothy Curry, DCCW president, has appointed Mrs. Harry Loew, chairman of church communities, to coordinate the service. Assisting her will be Mrs. David Sellmayer, Mrs. John Calnan, Mrs. Bertrand Patenaude, Mrs. Anthony'Geary, Mrs. Michael McMahon, Miss Claire O'Toole, Mrs. James O'Brien, Jr. and all diocesan vice-presidents and district presidents.

Bishop Daniel A. Cronin will preside and deliver the homily and DCCW moderators from the five diocesan deaneries will participate.

Msgr. Anthony M. Gomes will . lead recitation of the rosary and Msgr. John J. Oliveira will be master of ceremonies.

Members of the clergy have been invited to attend and have been asked to encourage family participation in this Marian year program.

Solemn Benediction will follow the rosary. Music will be by Mrs. Richard Grace and Mrs. Elaine Nadeau. Rosary participants are asked to meet in the cathedral Lady Chapel by I :45 p.m.

The service will be followed by refreshments in the cathedral school with Fall River District Council board members and members of the cathedral woroen's guild as hostesses.

Self-evaluation for marriage program The 13 married couples on the diocesan Portuguese Marriage Preparation team who work with Father John J. Oliveira and Father . Gastao Oliveira will meet Oct. 25 at the Family Life Center, North Dartmouth, to evaluate the preparation program and discuss ongoing education of team members.

The couples, all immigrants, participate in marriage preparation of Portuguese-speaking engaged cQuples.

The Fall River diocese offers six Portuguese marriage preparation sessions each year, three in the Fall River and three in the New Bedford area.

Registrants come from the Fall River, New Bedford, Taunton and Attleboro deaneries, according to Father John Oliveira.

"When the team couples share," he said, "they share from their Portuguese cultural and religious backgrounds. They also talk with the engaged couples about the tensions of living married life in a new American culture."

The preparation program is directed by the Diocesan Office of Family Ministry, headed by Father Ronald A. Tosti.

Baby Talk "Be like newborn babies, always thirsty for the purespiritual milk, so that by drinking it you may grow up and be saved." - I Pet. 2:2

Clare Boothe Luce SISTER DURY

New Bedford native finds joy in missionary life MARYKNOLL, NY - 31 years after her first assignment to Africa in 1956, Sister Marian Teresa Dury still looks forward with courage and enthusiasm to continuing work with Tanzanians. This native of New Bedford is a Maryknoll Sister whose ministries have included teaching, nursing and community health work. She experiences joy and warmth in her relationships with women she has known over the years.

With masters' degrees in nursing and nursing education, Sister Marian Teresa hardly expected that her first assignment would be to help open a school. But in 1956 she plunged energetically into the project of establishing Marian College at Morogoro, the first Catholic secondary school for girls in Tanzania and only the second secondary school for girls in the country!

Sister Marian Teresa has many fond memories of school activities and is proud of the achievements of some of its first students who include one of the first woman doctors in Tanzania, the first woman judicial magistrate, and several members of the Tanzanian parliament. Sister Marian Teresa remembers her Marian College years as "very special".

"We tried to build a family spirit," she remembers, and the happiness of those relationships still shines on her face as she recounts stories of those days..

Nairobi, Kenya. As a staff member for the Sisters' Africa World Section House, a center for meetings and care of convalescent sisters, she provided support services for members in the Sudan, Tanzania and Kenya.

The time in Nairobi also gave her the chance to see some of her former students, now living in Kenya.

Sister Marian Teresa's missionary story is still unfolding. Temporarily in the the U.S. for renewal and service in the Maryknoll Sisters' Nursing Home, she looks forward to returning soon to a new health-related ministry in Tanzania.

She has seen Tanzania, a country only 23 years old, make progress in the face of many challenges. She witnessed it struggling against the odds of resources depleted by a war against Uganda dictator Idi Amin, a fuel crisis and a great shortage of foreign exchange. Yet the average annual income has risen to $210 per person and the average life expectancy is now 51 years - up from 30 years in the 1950s.

Tanzania has the highest literacy rate in Africa, up to 85 percent from 30 percent in the 1960s. The number of clinics has risen by 35 percent, although economic problems make it difficult to get necessary medicines. Nevertheless, having performed many deliveries and having given thousands of immunizations, Sister Marian Teresa is After working in mission educa- delighted to have had a part in tion and promotion in the United reducing the infant mortality rate States from 1966 to 1968, Sister in the first year of life from 150 to Marian Teresa finally had an oppor130 thousand births. tunity to use her extensive nursing "However," she says, "there is background. After studying mid- still lots to be done to reduce it wifery in England in 1969, she much further." returned to Tanzania to work in a Sister Marian Teresa Dury has dispensary/ maternity clinic in Shin- deep roots in New Bedford, where yanga, where some 250 persons' she was born. A member of Holy per day were treated and workers Name parish, she graduated from also serviced nine safari clinics at its grammar schol 'and in 1938 least once a month. from Holy Family High School.

This program was recently cited Though she has journeyed far, she in a study of Tanzanian health maintains close connections with initiatives having significantly re- her native city through family and duced the number of villages with- . friends. Her sister, Mrs. Helen out medical services. The project Mello, and her brother, Joseph had particular impact in the areas Dury, are New Bedfordites. And of nutrition and oral rehydration nephews, grandnieces and nephews of children suffering from diarrhea. and even great-grandnephews in Most recently, Sister Marian New Bedford and nearby comTeresa's ministry has been with munities help keep those roots Maryknoll Sisters themselves in firm.

WASHINGTON (NC) - A funeral Mass for Clare Boothe Luce, a convert to Catholicism who found fame in politics, journalism and theater, was offered Tuesday at St. Patrick's Cathedral, New York City.

Mrs. Luce, who died of cancer in Washington Oct. 9 at age 84, was baptized at St. Patrick's as a convert of then-Msgr. Fulton J. Sheen, who guided several promi-

Father Brodeur A concelebrated Mass of Christian Burial was offered Oct. 12 at Notre Dame Church, Fall River, for Rev. Roland Brodeur, 73, of Uniondale, N.Y., who died Oct. 6.

A Fall River native, the son of the late Amedee and Leontine (Parent) Brodeur, he was ordained to the priesthood May 28, 1942, in Washington, D.e. Subsequently he served in New Jersey, Florida and New York parishes.

He is survived by four sisters, Sister Irene Therese Brodeur of the Dominican Sisters of the Presentation, Dighton; Mrs. Adelard Beauregard of Westport; and Mrs. Adelard Canuel and Miss Alice Brodeur of Fall River; by a brother, Raymond Brodeur, of Fall River; and several nieces and nephews.

Interment was in Notre Dame Cemetery, Fall River.

cred Hearts and St. Mary's parishes in Fairhaven.

He was also prior and a professor at Sacred Hearts Seminary, Wareham, and in Jaffrey, N.H., and was superior of his community in Washington, D.e. He also served pastorates in Rochester, N.Y., and Mt. Gilead, O. Father Jones' last assignment was as chaplain at Sacred Heart Home, New Bedford.

He was the son of the late William B. and Estelle (Hasenauer) Jones and is survived by a sister, Jane Fernandes, of Florida and a brother, David Jones, of Rochester, also by nieces and a nephew. nent Catholics into the church.

The wife of Henry Luce, who founded Time-Life Inc., and whom she married in 1935, Mrs. Luce converted to Catholicism after the accidental death of her only child, Ann, the daughter of Mrs. Luce's first marriage to George Brokaw, which ended in divorce.

The conversion of Mrs. Luce, a playwright, congresswoman and journalist, was surrounded by media attention and she wrote of the experience in a lengthy article in McCall's magazine. She entered the church because in church doctrine she found "the solid objective truth," she said.

Before her election to the House of Representaties in 1942, Mrs. Luce worked her way up from caption writer at Vogue magazine in 1929 to managing editor at Vanity Fair magazine two years later.

Cathedral Mass for Polish-Americans In observance of October as Polish-American Heritage Month, Bishop Daniel A. Cronin will celebrate a Mass for Polish-Americans from Fall River and neighboring dioceses at noon Saturday, Oct. 31, at St. Mary's Cathedral.

All Polish-Americans and their friends are invited to attend the event at which the wearing of national costumes is encouraged.

"The secret of life? Sure. Give generously on World Mission Sunday."

THE ANCHOR - Diocese of Fall River - Fri., Oct. 16, 1987

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Maryknoll official .lauds Nobel award to Arias MARYKNOLL, N.Y. (NC) President Oscar Arias of Costa Rica "certainly" deserved the Nobel Peace Prize for his Central America peace plan because "the immediate No. I priority is peace," said the Central America superior for the Maryknoll Fathers and Brothers.

"But underneath this plan there is a whole other layer that won't be touched," said Father Ronald S. Michels. "That is the changes in structures that are necessary so people like the Indians in Guatemala can get land. Unless that happens, five years from now we're going to be needing to sign another peace accord."

Father Michels was interviewed Oct. 13 - the same day the Nobel prize for Arias was announced while at Maryknoll headquarters for a meeting of all region'll superiors. The priest, a native of Fond du Lac, Wis., was ordained a Maryknoll priest in 1972, has served since then in Central America, and became regional superior there in October 1986.

In addition to the Maryknoll Sisters, who have their own administration, Maryknoll has 39 priests and brothers, five priest associates and 12 lay missioners in Guate- ' mala, EI Salvador, Nicaragua and Honduras, Father Michels said.

Because of a shortage of personnel and difficulty in coordination, work in Costa Rica was discontinued at the end of 1986, he said.

CELEBRATING in Attleboro, top photo, are, clockwise from top left, Very Rev. John J. Smith, St. John the Evangelist pastor; Bishop Cronin; principal Sister Martha Mulligan, RSM; Department of Education director Father Richard W. Beaulieu; seventh grade teacher Frances Powers; Sister Plante; eighth grade class president Tom McGee and school parent representative Veronica Maher.. In Taunton, from left: TCMS's Teaching/ Learning committee chairman Daniel Thompson; School in Community chairman Lorraine Frisbee; student Mary Giovanoni; Bishop Cronin; school priest director/chaplain Father Arnold R. Medeiros; Sister Patricia Mulryan, SUSC, principal; Organizational Services committee chairman Joan Butler; student Joel Nadeau and School as Community chairman Roberta Schneller. (Motta and Kearns photos)

Two schools complete self-study programs St. John the Evangelist School, Attleboro, and Taunton Catholic Middle School recently received certificates of recognition from Bishop Daniel A. Cronin for successfully completing "Verifying the Vision," an 18-month self-study of the school and how it utilizes its resources.

Sister Mary Michaelinda Plante, RSM, superintendent of Catholic elementary schools for the diocesail Department of Education, began the program to enable the schools to better identify their strengths and weaknesses and to begin to project themselves "toward the year 2000."

Sister Plante expects that all diocesan elementary schools will complete the self-study over the next five years.

At the St. John the 'Evangelist ceremony and prayer service, Bishop Cronin was presented with a pair of school basketball shorts and an invitation to sit with the school hoop team at any game by seventh-grader David DesVergnes.

Eighth grade vice-president Xerry Materia, representing (he school community presented the :,ishop

with a sweater.

At Taunton Catholic Middle school, the certificate presentation ceremony was followed by a cafeteria reception.

During the ceremony, Massachusetts State Senator John Parker presented the school with a congratulatory citation from the Commonwealth, an appreciation plaque

was offered by Joe Murphy of the Home-School Association and eighth-grader Jennifer Nunes presented the school with a rose as a symbol of love for the bishop and the church.

Student Jeff Nadeau presented Bishop Cronin with a school sweatshirt, formally welcoming him as a member of the TCMS family.

Father Michels, who is based in Guatemala, expressed optimism about the prospects for' peace' in Nicaragua. He said Cardinal Miguel Obando Bravo and Sandi.nista government leaders have stopped criticizing each other as severely as they formerly did and seemingly have adopted the view that "we have to work this out."

Divisions in the church also appear to be "healing," he said.

Such actions as the closing of La Prensa and the Catholic radio station in Nicaragua, Father Michels said, were not the result of the Sandinista revolution but of the contra war. He said the Sandinistas made a "mistake" in exiling some church leaders from the country, but he denied that the

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O'Haire Award, which will be presented at the 1988 Serra International convention in Sydney, Australia.

The O'Haire award is the highest individual honor bestowed by the organization. Nominees will represent more than 500 Serra clubs in 29 countries.

Costa has been a Serran for over 28 years. The father of nine, he is a charter member of the New Bedford club, has twice served as its president and has been governor of Serra's District 40, which comprises the dioceses o[ Fall River and Providence.

Faith Conquers "We win the victory over the world by means of our faith. Who can defeat the world? Only the person who believes that Jesus is the son of God." - I In. 5:4-5

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Costa chosen Outstanding Serran Gilbert J. Costa of St. Mary's parish, New Bedford, a member of the Greater New Bedford Serra Club, has been named Outstanding Serran by his brother members.

Nicaraguan governm'ent has engaged in religious persecution.

In EI Salvador, he said, the Arias plan can lead to peace in the "short term." But for a lasting peace, he said, E1 Salvador must have a more just distribution of land and removal of military officers from their position of political power.

Honduras, Father Michels said, does not now have significant guerrilla activity. "However, if things don't change, it probably soon will," he said.

A law providing for transfer of unused land in Honduras to landless people is not being implemented, he said, and "the people have lost patience." So they are going ahead and moving onto land, he said, and are receiving moral support from Maryknollers.

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,the moorin~ A Play for Power Regardless of Senate action concerning the nomination of Judge Robert Bork to the Supreme Court, the situation has been a most interesting study in the art and debasement of politics. Never before have so many done so much within the framework of political innuendos and insult to block a presidential nomination.

Playing to the media was the obvious intent of some who saw themselves as potential presidential candidates but in the melee of internal dissension. they died on the hoof. The infighting has left few viable and credible candidates. Bork most likely will not be confirmed. Some presidential hopefuls have been plunged into despair.

However. the situation has emphasized the importance of the Supreme Court in the life of the nation. Presidents and senators come and go. High Court judges seemingly remain forever. Because of their almost limitless influence, it truly is important that the right people are appointed to the court.

For decades. the Supreme Court has been the darling of the liberals. be they Democrats or Republicans. Its rulings have been the product of subjective interpretation of the Constitution by its members. To date, its liberal legislation has been sustained. In fact. the court could be considered the most influential branch of our government.

At present it is in a process of ideological change. The liberals do not want to give up their judicial power base but time is not on their side. Justices Brennan and Marshall are long lived but not eternal and their presence is the sole safeguard of the philosophy that has long supported liberal decisions.

Right now. Bork might be a sacrificallamb but one can be sure that the president has not abandoned his effort to nominate one who agrees with his convictions of government. He has plenty of time to continue his campaign to swing the court to the right. The liberals cannot hold out forever. The way they have disavowed one another is a clear indication of their difficulty in standing together. They spent a great deal of money and time to defeat the Bork nomination. It is doubtful if they could be successful with a less controversial figure.

Indeed. they are running scared while the president is playing a close hand of cards.

It will be interesting to observe how the Senate faces reality.

Each senator will be forced to take a position on the Bork nomination. For the country, that will be good. given the controversy and mudslinging that have been going on. But no senator will remain unscathed by the fallout of the Bork hearings. It might help some ofthem to realize that partisan politics do not confirm a Supreme Court justice.

The Supreme Court may lack the superficial glamour of the presidency or the Congress. What it has is power, including the power to affirm life and the ways in which that life will find fulfillment in our democracy.

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MISSION SUNDAY

"I was sick and you visited me." Matt. 25:36

The mission predicament

By Father Stephen T. DeMott, M.M. A missioner might be compared to a traveler who stumbles and falls across a small stream landing with his hands on one bank and his feet on the other. Stuck in an awkward position. he ponders his next move knowing there is no way he can get up without faIling into the water. Adding to his discomfort, his companion says "As long as you are stretched out like that, would you mind if I used you as a bridge?"

Vncomfortable predicaments are an inescapable part of the missioner's vocation. Sent to a foreign land to preach the Good News of Jesus Christ, the missioner, despite years of preparation, inevitably is tripped up by the difficulties of learning a new language, adapting to a strange culture. or trying to understand such complex realities as Latin American Christianity, Buddhism or Islam.

Although most missioners, often to the bewilderment of family and friends, come to identify strongly with their new-found tribe or nation, their feet remain in their home country.

Perhaps it is the missioner's experience of never quite being able to master the subtle intricacies of Chinese or to fully adapt to the rarefied atmosphere of the Aymara Indians' mountaintop home, that has prompted the entire Church to be a little more humble, tolerant and open to other peoples.

The bishops at the Second Vatican Council, taking into account the missionary experience of the Church, began listening to voices asking Catholicism to be more inclusive and prophetic. The number of bishops and cardinals was greatly expanded to include the native sons of such places as Indonesia, Samoa and Tanzania, while small Christian communities of socially active laity received official backing.

In our own country, the bishops, after consulting with hundreds of V.S. miSSioners, reiterated the missionary challenge last November in their pastoral statement, "To the Ends of the Earth."

"In this work of dialogue and evangelization, the Church must be a leaven for alI cultures, at home in each culture," wrote the bishops.

Notwithstanding this ideal, most missioners confess they are at home in no culture, not even their own.

Missioners point out, however, that their uprootedness is also an opportunity. Stretched between two realities they experience a third.

They observe how cultures or classes more often than not misunderstand one another or worst of al~, look upon each other as enemies.

Missioners remind the poor of their dignity and their power and encourage them to confront their oppressors not with guns but with truth and love.

V.S. missioners are in a unique position to show Latin Americans that not all North Americans are Rambos, or to work with Africans to overcome the legacy of racism and colonialism.

Back home, missioners have the difficult task of convincing fellow citizens that the cause of most revolutions is not Communism but lack of food, jobs, housing and health care, or to explain how the same economic system that enriches V.S. corporate giants is impoverishing Third World peasants and factory workers. Such a message is not always understood or gladly received. .

The missioners' example challenges all of us to stretch our minds and hearts to include new realities. new peoples. new points of view. The missioners ask us to step outside narrow national interests to become a global family.

And they urge us to take an active part in nonviolent efforts towards peace.

Missioners turn to their fellow Christians because they know, as do we all, that ev~ry Christian is a missioner. We have within ourselves the capacity to reach out to others, sometimes in uncomfortable, risky ways, trusting that this is .what Christ wants and this is where Christ is. The more we stretch ourselves, the more likely it is we will become bridges of understanding and peace in this troubled world.

Family dining Five years ago, when I was doing research on healthy families, I was surprised that professionals who worked with families chose "values the family table" as one of the traits most commonly found in healthy families.

Now, as I read statistics, I realize my colleagues were more perceptive than I was. Living in a family where the family dinner hour is an assumption, I had little idea of how many .families sacrifice the daily dinner together to other activities.

Since then I have found that many families have stopped eating together, for a variety of reasons.

Two-paycheck parents, dinner meetings, children's sports and activities and parttime jobs conspire to make it difficult if not impossible to sit down together at the end of the day.

"I confess we just stopped trying," a mother told me. "Whenever we did manage to get everyone at the table at the same time, we were so rushed because someone had a meeting or game, it wasn't worth it."

So what do they do now? They're part of a growing microwave/ television dining population in America. The food is put out, each person heats it up at will and takes it to the TV set. Many families eat together only once weekly, on the weekend.

Besides overscheduled lives, eating out has become a factor. About 42 cents of every food dollar in the U.S. is now spent away from home and the average working woman makes 26 more restaurant visits a year than the stay-at-home housewife.

As the trend toward fewer children increases, eating out becomes more popular. "We eat out at least three times weekly," one couple said. "And we munch from doggie bags in between. Neither of us gets home before six and we don't feel like spending an hour cooking."

What does disappearance ofthe family dinner portend? Less communication, for one thing. It has traditionally served as the time for families to touch base on what's happened during the day and to share thoughts and feelings. And if the family finds itself going from weekend to weekend without daily interaction, it begins to experience physical and emotional distance.

Members forget to share important experiences and messages. Before long the family operates more like a household of roommates than kin. Relationships suffer.

Eating out as a family has its positive side. It gives us unrushed time to share. We talk while we wait for our food and linger over coffee. Behavior and food struggles are less likely to occur than at home. And there is no after-dinner cleanup, so we're more relaxed.

Positive penance Why did Pope John Paul II make such a point of encouraging priests to frequent the sacrament of penance when he spoke to them in Miami? Is this a negative emphasis, focusing on human weakness rather than on the positive?

"The whole of priestly life," the pope said, "suffers an inexorable decline if by negligence or for some other reason a priest fails to receive the sacrament of penance at regular intervals."

As he continued the pope quoted from his 1984 exhortation on reconciliation and penance. "Praise to our brothers who have served well and serve each day the cause of reconciliation through the ministry of sacramental penance," he said.

The fact is, in the pope's view an emphasis on the sacrament of penance is highly positive. A close reading of his exhortation tells us why.

First of all, the pope speaks of penance in his exhortation as the ordinary way of obtaining forgiveness. And to approach God with one's sins is to approach a tribunal of mercy, not a tribunal of harsh and rigorous justice.

It is before this tribunal of mercy that a commitment is made to renew one's growth. What occurs in the sacrament is in direct contrast to sin viewed as a refusal to grow.

Moreover, for the pope, penance has a healing quality, "a medicinal character." Sin, which often leads into despair, is replaced by renewed hope.

For the pope, penance means coming to know better where the heart really is. The more frequently the sacrament of penance is celebrated, the greater the opportu-

nity for the heart and the conscience - that gnawing inner voice that desires to be at one with self - to be converted to a higher order and thus to be at peace.

Through this sacrament, the pope believes, a person is given the opportunity to rediscover his or her own real identity by coming to grips with what the conscience demands and what the heart truly desires.

"Nothing is more personal and intimate than the sacrament in which the sinner stands alone before God with his or her sins," says Pope John Paul.

So, although penance is a re-

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By DOLORES CURRAN

With our modern lifestyle, it's unlikely we will return to the "Life with Father" style of family dining. But it's a mistake to give up the family table too quickly. Ifwe set a goal of eating together at least three times weekly with each member agreeing to come home from a sport early or leave for a meeting late, it indicates that we care more about each other than our individual activities. We aren't helpless. Our schedules belong to us.

Priorities come into play. Which is more important, the basketball game, the church activity, television or family sharing? Which memories will we cherish the most? Will our children remember pleasant times and conversation around the table when they grow up and leave or will they remember the microwave and television?

If we have abandoned this valuable time to activities, perhaps we need to look at our schedules with a critical eye. We don't have to choose outside activities over family interaction, in spite of what our culture dictates. It's our choice.

And it's our family.

By FATHER EUGENE HEMRICK

minder of sin, it also fosters growth, healing, mercy and hope; it leads toward self-discovery and real peace.

Priests today are attempting to function sanely in highly confusing times. I have to believe that the sacrament of penance - viewed as the pope views it - was an excellent choice of topics for maintaining priestly balance and fostering ongoing renewal. ,

"Natural sanction" October 17 1984, Rev. Gerald Lachance, Missionary Father October 19 1928, Rev. Manuel A. Silvia, Pastor, Santo Christo, Fall River October 21 1937, Rt. Rev. Edward J. Carr, P.R., Pastor, Sacred Heart, Fall River, Chancellor of Diocese, 1907-21 1942, Rev. Francis E. Gagne, Pastor, St. Stephen, Dodgeville 1979, Rev. Walter J. Buckley, Retired Pastor, St. Kilian, New Bedford October 22 1940, Rev. Jonn E. Connors, Pastor, St. Peter, Dighton 1983, Rev. Jerome F. O'Donnell, OFM, Our Lady's Chapel, New Bedford October 23 1970, Rev. Joseph Eid, Pastor, St. Anthony of Desert, Fall River

SAN FRANCISCO (NC) AIDS is not a punishment from God but is a "natural sanction': against homosexual activity, which "violates our 'nature," the Vatican's top communicator said in an interview with a San Francisco daily newspaper. Speaking in Rome, Archbishop John P. Foley, president of the Pontifical Commission for Social Communications, said AIDS stands as another reason, "in addition to the moral reason," for avoiding homosexual activity.

"We shouldn't engage in any form of activity that violates our nature," Archbishop Foley said in the San Francisco Examiner interview.

"Don't take excessive alcohol.

Don't become addicted to drugs.

Don't engage in homosexual activity because this can be one of the consequences," he added.

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Relics and the altar Q. In years past the priest kissed the altar stone that contained a relic of a saint. The stone was inlaid at the top of the altar.

At that time an altar stone was required for a priest to say Mass.

My ques'tion is: Has the liturgy been changed to eliminate that requirement? (Kentucky) A. First, let's clear up a misconception implied in your note. It is true that in the early centuries of the church, the tombs of the martyrs played a major role in the development of some liturgical practices.

Perhaps the presence of the body of the saint, upon whose tomb the eucharistic sacrifice often was offered, provided some reason for the development of the practice of kis6ing the altar.

However, the major reason for that practice in the church's tradition was not the presence of a saint's body (or later a part of that body) but rather that the altar represented Jesus Christ himself.

This ancient relationship between the altar and Christ is found even in Scripture. In the Letter to the Hebrews (4:14; 13:10), Christ is presented as the high priest who is the living altar of the temple in heaven. The Book of Revelation (5:6) speaks of the Lord as the living Lamb taken to the heavenly altar.

By kissing the altar, the presiding priest or bishop symbolized reverence for Christ as the community began the. liturgy. We experience this ancient belief even today many times in our liturgy, in addition to the kissing ofthe altar.

For example, the fifth Preface of the eucharistic prayer during the Easter season gives thanks to our heavenly Father because "as he (Jesus) gave himself into your hands for our salvation, he showed himself to be the priest, the altar and Lamb of sacrifice."

To answer your question, the church has for various reasons which are not pertinent here removed the requirement that a relic of a saint must be placed in the altar for the celebration of Mass.

In fact, unless certain conditions are fulfilled, the altar should not contain such a relic. The Rite for the Dedication of an Altar, the authority for such matters since it was promulgated by Pope Paul VI in 1977, provides placing relics of martyrs or other saints in'the altar only under the following conditions: I. Tiny relics of one or more saints should not be used. Relics must be of such a size that they can be recognized as parts of human bodies.

2. Authenticity of the relics should be reasonably certain. As the introduction to the rite notes, "It is better for an altar to be dedicated without relics than to have relics of doubtful credibility placed beneath it."

3. The case containing the relics must not be placed on the altar or in the table of the altar but underneath the table as the design ofthe altar might allow.

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The new Code of Canon Law (canon 1237) provides that such depositing of relics should be reserved to fixed altars, that is altars which are attached to the Ooor so they cannot be moved.

A free brochure on confession is available by sending a stamped, self-addressed envelope to Father John Dietzen, Holy Tri~ity Parish, 704 N. Main St., Bloomington, III. 61701. Questions for this column should be sent to Father Dietzen at the same address.

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People of action Continued from Page One op who is developing a water irrigation system in his diocese.

Another Kenyan bishop wants to open a home for disabled children, so that they can receive an education - something that would otherwise be denied them.

And in India a bishop describes courses he wishes to offer the Christian laity in his mostly Hindu diocese in order to "increase their role in their church" and fit them to provide desperately needed leadership.

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3 honored by pope Continued from Page One Christo parishes, Fall River, before assuming his present pastorate at Our Lady of the Angels Church, Fall River, in 1961.

Since 1967 Msgr. Gomes has coordinated the annual Bishop's Ball and since 1969 has directed the annual Catholic Charities Appeal. He is also moderator of the Diocesan Council of Catholic Women.

ter's degree in education from Rhode Island College.

Ordained May 20, 1967, he has served at St. John of God parish, Somerset; Our Lady of Mt. Carmel, Seekonk; St. John the Baptist, New Bedford; St. Anthony, Taunton; and St. Mary's Cathedral. He was chaplain at the former Mt. St. Mary Academy, Fall River, and at Coyle and Cassidy High School, Taunton.

Msgr. Oliveira A New Bedford native, born Sept. 28, 1942, Msgr. Oliveira graduated from Our Lady of Mt. Carmel grammar school and Holy Family High School in that city.

He prepared for the priesthood at Our Lady of Providence Seminary in Providence and St. Mary's Seminary, Baltimore. He holds a mas-

Named episcopal secretary in 1972, vice-chancellor in 1976, cochancellor in 1983 and chancellor and vicar for administration in 1986, Msgr. Oliveira is also diocesan director of the Society for the Propagation of the Faith and diocesan archivist. He is an advocate on the Diocesan Tribunal and a member of the Diocesan College

of Consultors and the Diocesan Finance Council.

Msgr. Smith Msgr. Smith was born in New Bedford June 12, 1932, and graduated from Holy Family grammar and high schools. Following graduation from Providence College, he prepared for the priesthood at St. Mary's Seminary, Baltimore.

In 1963 he earned a master's degree in education from Bridgewater State College.

The new prelate served at St. Patrick's Church, Wareham, and St. James, New Bedford, before being named to his present post as pastor of St. John the Evangelist parish, Attleboro, in 1975.

He has been diocesan director of vocations since 1968 and episcopal vicar for the AttleboroTaunton area since 1975.

Synod gets to nitty-gritty Continued from Page One lay movements are needed to keep governments from becoming repressive.

"The contemporary world is marked by cowardice and fear.

And it is precisely upon these human weaknesses that dictators build their dominion," said Cardinal Frantisek Tomasek of Prague, Czechoslovakia.

Other delegates said the laity should concentrate on Christianizing culture and a world marked by religious indifference.

Archbishop Derek Worlock of Liverpool, England, spoke of overemphasis on the lay role in the church after the Second Vatican Council.

"We need to examine our consciences about whether there has been so much concentration on the renewal of worship and the structures of the church after the council that lay people have been drawn into new ministries and structures for dialogue and have perhaps overlooked their secular responsibilities," he said.

A different view was presented

by Cardinal Tomas O'Fiaich of Armagh, Northern Ireland, who called the laity "an untapped resource."

"The laity are not involved in decision-making processes and not consulted on important issues," he said.

An African archbishop proposed that lay people be accepted as regular ministers of baptism, matri-mony and anointing of the sick -sacramental tasks normally reserved to priests or deacons. Such a policy would ease the priest short-

age, said Archbishop Elias Mutale of Kasama, Zambia..

A top Vatican official said the laity should be regularly consulted on the "very difficult and important question" of choosing bishops.

Cardinal Bernardin Gantin, head of the Vatican Congregation for Btshops, said canon law provides for lay consultation.

During the first two weeks, discussion on the lay role in the church focused on the term "ministry" and the need to clearly define it.

Archbishop Roger M. Mahony of Los Angeles said the term "minister" should be reserved for those in full-time, formal church positions. He asked that the term "lay minister" be rejected as a "contradiction in terms" and urged a clearer distinction between lay and clergy roles.

Some delegates suggested it would be better to use terms such as lay missions, tasks and offices to describe lay roles in the church.

Others routinely talked about lay ministries.

Tied to the lay role in the church were numerous calls to open all lay functions to women.

Most delegates stopped short of asking that women be ordained to the priesthood, but several favored ordaining women to the permanent diaconate. Bishop Jean-Guy Hamelin of Rouyn-Noranda, Quebec, asked local churches to set up study groups of priests, lay men and lay women to study the issue of a female priesthood. "The reasoning used so far to explain the reservation of sacred orders to men has not seemed con-

vincing, especially not to young people," he said.

Some synod delegates called for an end to legal barriers and practices which hinder the access of women to positions in the church's diplomatic corps, Vatican congregations, as seminary teachers and in local, national and international church decision-making bodies.

Others, however, stressed that limits should be placed on women's role in the church.

"Every effort should be made to avoid the 'c1ericalization' of women," said Cardinal Raul Primatesta of Cordoba, Argentina.

"There are also pastoral limits to this," said Bishop Dario CastrilIon Hoyos of Pereira, Colombia, president of the Latin American Bishops' Council.

Several delegates were at odds over the value of lay organizations, especially those developed as renewal movements in the postVatican II period.

Several bishops stressed that these movements must be under the strong control of the local bishop. Other delegates warned that these movements are international with special "charisms," or gifts, that should not be stifled through local controls. No specific groups were named.

Bishop Paul Cordes, vice-president of the Pontifical Council for the Laity, defended the movements from the "negative" reactions of some bishops.

The bishop "is not, in fact, the holder of the political power of a diocese, but the servant of the same Spirit who also promotes the movements," said Bishop Cordes.

Plans. Purposes. You too can be an instrument, a necessary one, to help with others' plans and purposes. Like the disciples, you can let Jesus work through you.

The "how" of that process we'll get to in a moment. It is the "why" that is so important.

When you were baptized, you received a special gift: membership in God's family, becoming a brother or a sister to Jesus.

But with that gift came a special responsibility, a call to action, a call to be a missionary.

In their 1986 Pastoral Statement on World Mission, "To the Ends ofthe Earth," the U.S. Catholic bishops remind us of that fact: "In baptism ... we respond to Christ's invitation and are empowered to join in his mission."

One way to fulfill your role as part ofthat mission is to enable missionaries throughout the world to continue their work of bringing the Good News, the message of hope, to all they meet.

For the bishops also write in their pastoral that it is the duty of Catholics to "affirm missionaries in their efforts to proclaim the Gospel and promote the reign of God. Jesus Christ . . . is with them as they go forth in his name. So must the entire Church in the United States be with them ..."

Now for the "how." Last year, U.S. Catholics contributed some

$17.5 million to the World Mission Sunday collection to affirm missionaries in their work and let them know that they were not alone. The collection, gathered under the aegis of the Society for the Propagation of the Faith, is distributed in its entirety to provide for the missionary and pastoral work of the church worldwide.

Through the Propagation office, 51 percent is given to the poorest faith communities of the developing world. Of the balance, 40 percent is for missionary work in needy areas of the United States, through the American Board of Catholic Missions, and nine percent for the work of the Catholic Near East Welfare Association.

The bishops of the United States urge the "fullest celebration of World Mission Sunday in every parish." They quote Pope John Paul II, who said that the day gives us "an excellent occasion for an examination of conscience with regard to our missionary obligation, and for reminding all the faithful ... that each one is involved in this duty."

Through your contribution, then, on World Mission Sunday, you are fulfilling in one way the call to action you received at baptism. You are helping, too, to provide for accomplishment of the plans and projects of those in mission countries, like the Kenyan bishop's school for the disabled or the Indian prelate's lay formation courses. The Propagation office also aids in development of catechists and through its sister organization, the Society of St. Peter Apostle, supports formation of priests and religious.

So on this World Mission Sunday, when you are asked to contribute to the church's worldwide missionary effort, become a person of action and give generously. Your financial sacrifice helps others to be instruments ofJesus' mission: salvation for all who believe in him.

Women priests opposed ROME (NC) - U.S. delegates to the bishops' synod have affirmed their support for the church's opposition to women priests and said there are still major historical and theological doubts about the possibility of ordaining women deacons.

Milwaukee Archbishop Rembert G. Weakland said bishops are adhering to a request by Pope John Paul II not to discuss the ordination of women or support groups that call for the ordination of women. For this reason, the U.S. bishops would not support a call by Bishop Jean-Guy Hamelin of Rouyn-Noranda, Quebec, for local study groups to look at the issue of women's ordination, he added.

Speaking at an Oct. 12 press conference at the North American College in Rome were Archbishop Wea1dand, Chicago Cardinal Joseph L. Bernardin and Los Angeles Archbishop Roger M. Mahony.

U.S. bishops are not making any move to discuss the issue of women's ordination, nor would they consider establishing a group

to reexamine the issue, saio Archbishop Weakland.

He said U.S. bishops continue to adhere to the request of the pope, made during their "ad limina" visits in 1983, "not to discuss the ordination of women and not to support those groups that do propose the ordination of women."

"Ad limina" visits to the Vatican are made by heads of dioceses every five years.

Regarding proposals to ordain women to the diaconate, Cardinal Bernardin said there is still historical and theological debate about路 what the church meant by the word "deaconess."

"Were these deaconesses or-. dained or not? To the best of my knowledge I don't think there is any evidence" that there was actually an ordained order, he added.

"If indeed the diaconate is part of the sacrament of orders, then it seems to me that the same theological difficulties that exist with ordination [of women] to the priesthood would exist in regard to the diaconate," he concluded.

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SEVEN TO EIGHT HUNDRED persons participated in a Marian year living rosary service at St. Joseph's Church, New Bedford, one ofa series planned by members of the Legion of Mary. Father Maurice Gauvin was homilist. (Rosa photo)

Bishop's Charity Ball presentee parishes named 36 Fall River diocesan parishes will participate in the 33rd annual Bishop's Charity Ball presentee program on Friday. Jan. 15. at Lincoln Park Ballroom. North Dartmouth.

A young lady from each parish will be presented to Bishop Daniel A. Cronin, honored guest at the social and charitable event.

A listing by area follows: Attleboro: St. John the Evangelist. St. Stephen, Attleboro; St. Mary. North Attleboro; Our Lady of Mt. Carmel, Seekonk.

Cape and Islands: St. Margaret, Buzzards Bay; St. Patrick. Falmouth; St. Joan of Arc. Orleans; St. Augustine, Vineyard Haven; Our Lady of Lourdes, Wellfleet; St. Elizabeth, Edgartown; St. John the Evangelist, Pocasset.

Fall River: St. Mary Cathedral, Holy Name, Notre Dame, St. Anne, St. Louis, St. Michael, St. William, Santo Christo. Fall River; St. Bernard, Assonet; Our Lady of Grace, North Westport; Our Lady of Fatima, Swansea.

New Bedford: Our Lady of the Assumption. St. Francis of Assisi, St. John the Baptist, St. Joseph, St. Kilian, St. Theresa, New Bedford; St. Mary, Fairhaven; St. Rita, Marion; St. John Neumann, East Freetown.

Taunton: Holy Rosary, Our

Lady of Lourdes. St. Mary. St. Paul. Taunton; Immaculate Conception. North Easton.

A commer:norative booklet is issued in conjunction with the annual social event. listing seven catego'ries of supporters.

The categories are: Memorial$200 or more. four tickets; Very Special Friend - $150 or more. four tickets; Guarantor - $100. three tickets: Benefactor - $100. two tickets; Booster - $75. two tickets; Sponsor - $50, one ticket; Patron - $25, one ticket. Each ticket admits two persons.

The Memorial and Very Special Friend categories have a special

listing in the booklet. Guarantors and Benefactors are listed on gold pages. Boosters and Sponsors on silver pages and Patrons on white pages.

Persons or organizations wishing to be listed are asked to contact committee members. members of the Conference of the Society of St. Vincent de Paul and members ofthe Council of Catholic Women.

Listing of names may also be sent to the Bishop's Charity Ball Headquarters. 410 Highland Avenue, Post Office Box 1470, Fall River 02722. telephone 676-8943 or 676-3200.

Names may be submitted until Dec. 28.

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Not only do they suffer in childhood, but they carry their scars into adult life. It has recently been realized that adult children of alcoholics are frequently characterized by strikingly similar behavior patterns.

These patterns were discussed by psychotherapist Jacqueline N. Gauthier at a recent daylong seminar sponsored by the Diocesan Council of Catholic Nurses at St. John the Baptist church hall, Westport.

Mrs. Gauthier, who holds a master's degree in counseling psychology and is a certified alcoholism counselor, 'is in private practice with Counseling Affiliates in Worcester.

She told her large audience that she spoke from experience, having grown up as one of II children in a poverty-stricken single-parent home after her alcoholic father deserted her mother.

Widowed in her 20s, she became a low-paid teacher's aide. "The principal at the school where I worked urged me to go to college," she said, "but I felt I didn't have the brains - a typical reaction of the child of an alcoholic. I finally

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took one night course and surprised myself by getting an A. I took more courses and got more As but I was sure I was getting them because people were sorry for me - another typical reaction.

"Now," she said, "I like who I am - but the healing process took a long time."

Mrs. Gauthier told' the nurses that children of alcoholics are bombarded with mixed messages, such as "You can count on me - next time." She explained that although alcoholic parents "want credit for their good intentions, they don't want their disappointing behavior to count." The oft-disappointed child becomes the adult who has learned not to want or expect things and not to depend on others.

In another typical mixed message, the child is told that everything is fine although the home atmosphere clearly conveys "hopelessness, depression and anxiety."

As an adult, such a child has a distorted view of reality and distrusts his or her judgment of situations.

Also a recurring situation in many families is for a child to be told that an embarrassingly drunk parent isn't at fault - he or she "is just drunk." The message the child gets is that if one is drunk one has license to do whatever one pleases.

Profiling the adult child of an alcoholic, Mrs. Gauthier said he or she - continually seeks approval, affirmation and praise; - overreacts to changes over which he or she has no control (as in childhood he had no control over his drinking parent); - is either super-irresponsible or superresponsible (the latter characteristic is typical of nurses, who take very seriously their responsibility for patients'lives, noted Mrs. Gauthier); .

- cannot say no ("someone mighn't approve of me") and have unrealistic expectations of themselves; .

- is not a good team member; if on a team will organize, direct and do three-quarters of the work; - is exceedingly loyal even if loyalty is undeserved; is a "doormat to the world" because of need for approval; will do anything for you, even if unappreciated; - is afraid of making mistakes; apologizes for his existence; - seeks immediate gratification rather than postponed rewards because as a child he learned to get while the getting was good.

Doesn't Know "Normal" The adult child of an alcoholic parent, said Mrs. Gauthier, "doesn't really know what constitutes normal behavior because he didn't see it as a child. Thus he guesses at what is appropriate to a situation."

For this reason, "traditional client-centered psychotherapy can be destructive because it assumes the answers lie within the person.

The adult child doesn't have the answer because he or she never had the role models. He or she is used to denying feelings because it isn't realized that they are OK." Children in alcoholic homes tend to adopt one offour roles, said the speaker: - Family Hero: the child hopes "that achievement and personal selflessness will end the family disharmony and bring about love and connectedness." Failure to accomplish this goal is attributed to the child's inadequacy.

- Scapegoat: the attitude is "I'm the problem, not the drinker."

By misbehaving, the child causes the family to blame its troubles on him or her and continue denying "that drinking is the cause of the problems."

- Lost Child: To avoid conflict, the child adjusts to every demand and every situation, withdrawing emotionally and physically, but always being agreeable and striving to be as inconspicuous as possible, "regarding this as the safest course.:' - Mascot or Family Clown: Humor is this child's trademark and he or she uses it to defuse explosive situations, always being attuned to stress or conflict and trying to prevent small arguments from escalating.

Mrs. Gauthier said that healing for one caught in the psychological tangle of the adult child of an alcoholic comes from working through one's mixed feelings of anger at one's parent and guilt at not succeeding in remedying the family situation. The process of recovery from anger, she said, is like the steps in grieving after the loss of a loved one.

"But you're entitled to happiness," she said briskly "and should do what you can to get it."

She suggested membership in a support group, noting that among those in the diocesan area is one at St. Joseph's Hall, South Dartmouth.

The nurses' council announced that a workshop planned for March 26 will focus on stress management.

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THE ANCHOR - Diocese of Fall River - Fri., Oct. 16, 1987

"The rosary brings peace"

By Joseph Motta "I am here because I love Our Lady of Fatima."

Those words, spoken by Leonilde Senra of Espirito Santo parish, Fall River, are a good summation of the feelings of about 2500 persons who participated in the 13th annual diocesan candlelight procession and Mass for peace Monday in Fall River.

Despite brisk temperatures, pepple of all ages gathered at St. Mary's Cathedral at twilight to march to St. Anne's parish, about a mile away, the site of the peace Mass.

Bishop Daniel A. Cronin was principal celebrant at the Mass and a marcher in the peace procession. Diocesan chancellor Msgr.

John J. Oliveira was master of ceremonies and about 20 diocesan and order priests concelebrated.

Portuguese persons made up a large percentage of marchers; other ethnic groups represented in force were French, Spanish, Italian and Polish.

Marchers carried banners identifying themselves as members of area parishes. There were many watchers along the route and some, including Tania Pacheco, 9, a thirdgrader at St. Anne's School,joined the marchers.

If we pray for peace, Tania said, we might just see it "because God forgives our sins and he always gives us tries." Peace is important, she said, "so people won't fight and won't pull hair or take drugs or anything bad."

A"!natue of Our Lady of Fatima was carried by marchers, honoring the appearance of Mary to three children at Fatima, Portugal.

Through them, Mary told the world to pray the rosary to achieve peace.

Many watched the arrival ofthe marchers and their glowing candIes from the steps of St. Anne's Church. The marchers' prayers and hymns could be heard from over a block away.

Mrs. Senra was one of those at St. Anne's.

"I am positive she [ Our Lady of Fatima I can bring peace all over the world," she said. "I am sure she

.can do it through her son Jesus Christ."

Like several others, Mrs. Senra emphasized that 1987 is the 70th anniversary of Mary's appearance at Fatima.

"Even 25 years ago it was a different world," she sighed. "I can't understand the world today. Drugs, wars in so many countries.

"I think we need to pray and I think God is the answer to everything."

Laura Souza, watching the Columbus Day procession from a sidewalk vantage point, commented that praying for peace can give one "confidence in their hearts and minds."

Manuel Canito, fairly bursting with national pride, told The Anchor that "the Portuguese people never forgot [ about Our Lady's message at Fatima]" and that the rosary is of vast importance to members of that ethnic group.

"The rosary brings peace," he said.

The peace Mass was preceded by recitation of the rosary. Decades were prayed in Portuguese, Polish, French and English for various intentions.

Petitions at the Prayer of the Faithful were also offered in several languages.

Bishop Cronin gave his homily in English and Portuguese.

"The peace that the believer seeks to realize is ultimately rooted in the Prince of Peace, the Lord Jesus Christ," he said. "Mary, as the ever faithful servant of God's word, portrays the interior and exterior attitudes of one who seeks to walk the path of the word made flesh.

"Mary's pilgrimage of peace is a threefold pathway. First, she is attentive to God's word. Second, Mary is the woman offaith. Third, she stands in justice and compassion.

"Mary stands open to the Word.

How many words cross our paths during the course of a single day? .. .Iifegiving words often go unheard among the distorted noises of the world at large...The word of life,

Jesus Christ, too often remains a voice crying in the barren deserts of those who exercise selective deafness.

"Like Mary, we stand at the foot of crosses of human suffering.

Mary's example invites us to a heightened awareness of the poor and rejected of society. We sing our Magnificat as we commit ourselves more deeply to principles of social, political and economic justice. We are men and women of compassion....

"Tonight we pray for peace. We honor Mary, a woman of peace.

For each of us, Mary is a model of what we are called to be. Having rediscovered the pathways undertaken by Mary, may we listen with open and attentive hearts to the word oflife. May we remain steadfast in faith to the Lord whose promises are fulfilled."

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By Dr. James and Mary Kenny

IT'S A LOT of baloney was the reaction of 100 students at Boys Town, Neb., as they carried a 200-foot, 1,450 pound roll of bologna donated by the Oscar Meyer Foods Corporation to the Boys Town dining hall. Expected to make 23,200 sandwiches, the bologna is expected to set a world's record for length. (NC photo)

Snow time like the present

By Hilda Young

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"How do you feel about putting on the snow tires today?" I asked my husband last Saturday morning.

He briefly stopped chewing his toast. A dark look came over his face. "Do you want an an,swer to that in front of the children?"

There are three things he and I have never agreed on: where to vacation, what we should have named our firstborn and when the snow tires should 'go on. He uses what I call the 911 method.

When it's 15 degrees, four inches of snow have fallen and we are headed down the freeway, he'll say, "Time for the snow treads."

He could have been Custer's front man.

I tried to humor him into it. "It's the only thing you know how to do on a car besides put gas and money into it. I'd think you would enjoy it."

"Give me a break."

"Just because we have the only car in the city with a mayonnaise jar lid for a gas cap. Just because you replaced the windshield wipers and the first time it rained the car flipped them over three lanes of traffic. Just because.....

"Whoa," he said. "Did you marry me so you'd have a resident mechanic or for love?"

When I didn't answer, he added, "What if it's a mild winter and it doesn't snow? Why should we wear

down the treads and studs?"

"Call me se,ntimental," I said.

"It's just not a'utumn to me until I hear the hum of snow tires, the c1icketyclack of metal studs on the pavement, the sound of you screaming when I slam on the brakes and the tires make sparks."

I tried changing strategy.

"Wouldn't you like to try something new this winter and change the snow tires in a nice, warm garage rather than put them on lying on your back in three inches of slush with road salt dripping in your eyes and traction sand eating into your socks?"

His eyes narrowed.

"Ok," I went on. "Then if you don't want me to use the rear end of city buses to help me make stops this winter, why don't we take:an early vacation and spend December in the islands?"

"Are you guys arguing about the snow tires again?" oldest daughter interrupted.

"None of your business, William,;' my husband barked.

"Why does he call me William when he's mad?" she whispered to me.

"It's a long story," I told her.

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It's Powerful "The prayer of a good person has a powerful effect." - Jas. 5: 16

'Dear Dr. Kenny: I read your recent column on the good coach and would like to add a few ideas of my own. For 15 years, with two boys, I was associated with football, baseball, basketball, swimming, soccer and tennis as a coach andor parent. So my comments come from a lot of experience and a great deal of thought. I would recommend the following.

1. Under no conditions should a parent coach his or her child.

This applies to any sport, and at any level of competition. At a mimimum, parents expect too much on the playing field from their child. Other children and parents expect this child to be a superstar or else there are cries of favoritism. These pressures are unreal and totally avoidable.

2. As a general statement, most children at a young age have about

By Antoinette Bosco It usually starts at a family gathering when people who don't see each other every day get together, maybe for a holiday, birthday or wedding.

And it generally begins in a fun mode, like "Remember when you were 9 and you lit the' oven to heat it because you wanted to bake a cake. Only you didn't know Dad had put a pile of plastic forks and spoons in it and the smoke poured out and you'almost set the house on fire."

Then the person who lit the oven has to retaliate and remembers, "Yeah, well that wasn't so bad. How about the time you took the car out for a joy ride and you hit a rock and blew out the back tire on Mom's car."

That usually stimulates.... more memories of the long-past misbehaviors offamily members and the free-for-all is on.

No longer is the family gettogether fun. It deteriorates into a long litany of recollections, with the theme of "Who was naughtiest?" Generally, as the anecdotes pour out. the heat turns up.

At t'his point, it can happen that someone starts yelling defensively that no one is remembering the

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Some arrangement can be made for payment or possible college credits as on-the-job training or as a co-op student. Most children respond better to an older youngster who actually plays the sport than to a frustrated parent who is trying to fulfill his or her fantasy through his or her child.

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This talent is motivated by confidence. If a child believes in himself or herself, and the coach believes in the child too, then he or she will develop confidence and play better. The reverse is also true. The child can start to believe that he or she is a poor player, lose confidence and eventually drop. the sport.

problems, "concerned parents" can volunteer their time as referees or umpires. (Kentucky) Thank you for your thoughtful and wise elaboration on coaching children. Now that community sports run year-round for both boys and girls, your suggestions are always in season.

I think, as you so, practically express it, the key is to keep the focus on the children and not primarily on winning. Better to lose a game than lose a child.

I especially like what you say about instilling confidence in youngsters. All good coaches are 90 percent positive about what happens on the field.

I suspect that you are a very good coach.

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past clearly and maybe one or two storm out of the room. The party becomes a family squabble or maybe even a nightmare, No, this is not a scene from a Woody Allen movie - though he has certainly had such moments in a few of his films. This is, unfortunately, a fairly familiar pattern in relationships, For somehow, no matter how much we try to avoid unpleasant memories, we seem to fail. The past comes back to haunt us all too often when we are with those who mean the most to us.

It's hard to understand why we allow this to happen, but I think the answer lies simply in human nature and in the nature of family relationships. Family members share a history. Each knows the past good times and the bad times, the tragedies and joys, the losses and gains, the triumphs and failures they experienced and lived through together. That's powerful and dangerous stuff, because each remembers these happenings differently.

It is amazing, when you think of it, how selective memory is. Whenever we bring up an incident from the past, if three or four of us remember 'it we certainly don't remember it in the same way. I am reminded of the Japanese play

the past

"Roshomon," where one incident is witnessed and related by three people. What emerges is three different stories.

Realizing this, I have become very conscious of the fact that when families get together they are vulnerable. They can so easily hurt one another by bringing up past situations. That's because each is going to have a somewhat personally designed memory of what happened - generally one that makes the teller look and feel good, until the next witness challenges that recollection. ...

Wise people caution, "Let bygones be bygones." Our Christian teaching tells us to forgive and forget. A modern banner reminds us to leave the past behind by concentrating on the truth that "today is the first day of the rest of your life."

We know that life is always future-oriented and should not be weighted down with baggage from earlier years. Yet we are so often reluctant to let go of past hurts, perceived or real.

It takes maturity and love to free ourselves from our past failings and allow those close to us to be free of theirs. For peace in families, the past is frequently best left buried.

Ministry of daily life unrecognized, says bishop ST. LOUIS (NC) - The church has done a better job of calling lay people to their "ecclesial ministry" than to the ministry of their daily work and of social concerns, Bishop Raymond Lucker of New Ulm, Minn., recently told a national rural ministry meeting at St. Louis University.

"We've done a marvelous job in calling people to be teachers of religion, youth leaders, sacramental ministers, lectors, all kinds of ministers," Bishop Lucker said, "but we haven't done very well in helping people recognize their call to the ministry of their daily life.

They are called to the transformation of society."

"We have to help people come to believe and feel that they are the church," the New Ulm bishop said.

"The farm crisis has helped us to recognize that."

He said farmers "in pain" have told him that fellow parishioners ignored the fact that they were going through foreclosure proceedings. "Somehow we need to be present, we need to give support."

While the church has developed ministries of religious education, word and worship, "social concerns ministry is the area in which we are poorest," he said.

He said projects such as food pantries, clothing depots and prolife activities are a beginning.

"But we also need to be concerned about broader issues" such as justice, land, ecology, war and peace, Central America and sexuality, he said.

Bishop Lucker also urged "work for the recognition of the equality of women in our society and in our church."

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First Friday Club marks 40 years The 40th anniversary of the First Friday Club of Fall River was marked earlier this month with a Mass at Sacred Heart Church at which Bishop Daniel A. Cronin was principal celebrant.

At a following banquet, the bishop discussed his impressions of the recent visit of Pope John Paul II to the United States. Calling his participation in the trip "a retreat" and "a magnificent experience," the bishop noted that as a member of the U.S. bishops' Communications Committee, he attended a papal meeting with communications specialists in Los Angeles.

He was also present at a youth conference. .

Dr. Joseph R. Stanton and Mary Ann Booth will speak and show films on the abortion issue at a Nov. 6 open meeting of the club, to follow 6 p.m. Mass at Sacred Heart Church, Fall River. Dr. Stanton represents the Knights of Columbus and Mrs. Booth Massachusetts Citizens for Life.

Club History In connection with the anniversary celebration, the present club president, Daryl Gonyon, prepared the following history of the organization: The club began in January 1947 as an activity of Fall River Council 86 of the Knights of Columbus. It continued under K of C sponsorship until 1961 ,for many years using the old K of C hall on Franklin Street for its meal and speaking program.

In the 1960s the club began electing its own officers and continued as an entity no longer formally sponsored by the Knights. One of the earliest elected officers was Fred Dolan who served from 1961 to 1962.

Clement J. Dowling, a founding member, was president from 1966 to 1967 and 1983 to 1984.

Msgr. Felix Childs, chaplain to the Knights council for 35 years, was a true spiritual

power behind the First Friday Club, and considered it his pride and joy.

For the first 15 years or so .of the club's existence, Msgr.

Childs recruited speakers and the K of C Grand Knight selected masters of ceremonies for meetings.

For many years members attended Mass in their own parishes before each meeting.

A major reason the club was successful was its cook, "Chef Louis Shea," as he was affectionately known, the father of the present Fall River fire chief, Louis Shea, Jr. In the early years the club meal cost 35/t.

On March 31, 1949, the club entertained one of its most prominent speakers, Father James Keller, founder of the Christophers. Because of the number of people interested in hearing him, that meeting was held at the former Hotel Mellen in Fall River.

In 1947, a little-known, newly ordained priest addressed the club on Our Lady of Fatima. That priest was Father Humberto Medeiros, later to become Cardinal Medeiros, the brother of club member Manuel Medeiros.

Another founding club member is Raymond Powers, age 90, who still assists at Mass on occasion as an altar server. He recalls traveling by trolley from the north end of Fall River to St. Louis Church for club meetings.

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Papal visits . move deeply

Theologian welcomes criticisms VATlCAN CITY (NC) - Peruvian Father Gustavo Gutierrez, considered a leading exponent of liberation theology, said the Vatican has the "duty and the right" to express reservations or criticisms regarding his branch of theology.

Father Gutierrez said Oct. 6 in an interview with Vatican Radio that the Vatican's recent documents and statements have been "useful" and have helped liberation theologians correct some terms that were not quite accurate.

In 1984, the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith warned about dangers of liberation theology in a lengthy instruction to Catholics. Two years later, it issued another instruction stressing that liberation theology must have a spiritual base.

"I think that those who are responsible for the church's magisterium have the duty and the right to formulate these observations," Father Gutierrez said. "We ought to pay attention to them."

He said that "a discussion that includes critical observations is fundamentally useful" because it allows theologians to more clearly express themselves. The observations so far have allowed theologians to clarify some points and "correct some expressions, in order to make them more adequately say what is really meant," he said.

Father Gutierrez said the documents have helped those active in liberation theology to "be more attentive to aspects we had not noticed or considered before."

Father Gutierrez wrote" A Theology of Liberation" in 1971, one of the first comprehensive works on what has become a major church movement, particularly in Latin America. Liberation theology began as a theological reflection on the material poverty of people. It emphasizes that social and political action should follow from religious and moral freedom.

Vatican criticism has focused on the use of Marxist or materialist concepts in liberation theology.

Father Gutierrez has said he uses Marxist analysis to explain social conditions but without sharing Marxism's philosophical positions.

Media missions VATICAN CITY (NC) - U.S. Archbishop John P. Foley, the Vatican's top communications official, said the "mission of the laitv" should include careers in ent~rtainment and the press, and education on intelligent use of the media.

There should be special Catholic preparation for such fields, Archbishop Foley said, enabling professionals "not only to do well but to do good, to espouse sound moral principles and to maintain high professional standards."

Archbishop Foley, president of the Pontifical Commission for Social Communications, spoke during the monthlong Synod of Bishops on the role of lay people in the church and in the world.

He said Catholic schools should provide "technical, theological and spiritual formation in communications" as part of lay people's education.

POPE JOHN PAUL II greets actor Charlton Heston at Los Angeles meeting with communications people during the pope's recent U.S. visit. Actor Bob Hope is behind Heston.

Also at the meeting was Bishop Daniel A. Cronin,attending as a member of the U.S. bishops' Communications Committee. (NC photo)

Bishops' input asked on catechism plans VATICAN CITY (NC) - The Vatican will seek comment from the world's bishops in early 1989 on a draft of guidelines for developing local catechisms. which will shun "theological options." said a top Vatican official.

Cardinal Joseph Ratzinger. head of a 12-member commission of Vatican officials and resident bishops overseeing work on the draft. said more work needs to be done on the draft "to avoid theological options" and to incorporate more traditional church terms.

The compendium is not for general use. but is aimed "above all at bishops" and other people directly involved in the preparation of national and diocesan catechisms, he said Oct. I in a speech during the first working session of the world Synod of Bishops.

The purpose of the compendium is to provide an "organic and summarized exposition of essential and fundamental points of Catholic doctrine in the areas of faith and customs." he added. It would also argue for using formats suited to "learning by memory." , Cardinal Ratzinger. head of the Vatican Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith. said work on the compendium should be finished in time to present it at the 1990 Synod of Bishops for formal ap.proval by Pope John.PaullL A lengthy summary of his spe.ech was released by the Vatican press office. Synod rules say delegates and others addressing the 'synod cannot release the full. texts of their talks. but speakers are allowed. to make summaries public.

At the same session Cardinal Bernardin Gantin said a draft document on the theological and juridical status of bishops' conferences will be sent to the world's bishops before the end of this year for their comments.

A short summary of his talk released at the Vatican press office did not say what was in the draft document.

Cardinal Gantin. head of the Vatican Congregation for Bishops. also heads the commission prepar-

ing the study on bishops' conferences. Other members of the commission are officials of the Vatican Congregation for the Evangelization of Peoples and the Vatican Congregation for Eastern Rite Churches.

The Oct. 1session updated synod delegates on issues pending from the 1985 extraordinary synod, held to examine the status of the church 20 years after the Second Vatican Council.

The 1985 synod asked that the compendium and the document on the conferences be drafted.

Regarding the compendium.

Cardinal Ratzinger said it will present reasons for the church's teachings taking into consideration contemporary cultures and the need to present religious themes "in an easy and simple way" through

formulas "apt for learning by memory."

The commission has already reviewed two drafts of the compendium. he said. and has decided more refinement is needed.

A redrafting provides "the opportunity to avoid theological options," he said.

Drafters also have been asked to make "more frequent use of traditional church terminology," he added.

The cardinal said the drafting of the compendium is being done by seven resident bishops from Latin America, the United States and Western Europe chosen by his commission. The U.S. drafter is Archbishop William J. Levada of Portland. Ore. The cOJnmission plans to review the redrafted compendium next May. Cardinal Ratzinger said.

Felt chest pains before death ROME(NC)- PopeJohn Paul I complained of chest pains the evening before he suffered a fatal heart attack, one of the late pope's personal secretaries has revealed.

heart attack on the way,' But l'am not a doctor." Father Lorenzi said.

Pope John Paul I died only 34 days after his election as pope.

Father Diego Lorenzi said he and another papal secretary, Msgr.

John Magee, immediately suggested that a doctor be consulted. but the pope said not to bother. He was found dead in bed the next morning. Sept. 29, 1978.

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Fa'ther Lorenzi spoke on an Italian state televisi'on program aired Oct. 3. The program's participants included British author David Yallop. who had suggested in a book in 1984 that the pope was murdered. The book's allegations were dismissed at the time as "absurd" by Vatican officials.

Father Lorenzi recalled the late pope as saying to his secretaries hours before his death: "It's strange ... I feel aches and pains here in the chest, and a feeling of weight and oppression." "lfa doctor had been present. he would have said: 'There's a bad

NEW YORK (NC) - Cardinal JozefTomko, head of the Vatican agency with primary responsibility for missionary work, said in a recent interview that the travels of Pope John Paul II have had a deeply moving influence in mission countries.

"I was told by some missionaries that the visit of the Holy Father to Japan [in 1981] had an impact equivalent to 40 years of missionary activity," he said.

The cardinal, prefect ofthe Vatican Congregation for Evangelization of Peoples. said he accompanied the pope to India in 1986 and witnessed the reaction of its people. including many non-Christians.

"He was received as a holy man bringing a message of God. We don't have this concept ofthe holy man in our vocabulary. Millions of people were listening to him in Madras. Many of them were of our allegiance, but others were looking on who were not Christian but had a deep religiosity," In 1986, Cardinal Tomko appealed for each U.S. diocese to adopt a parish in some mission diocese and provide priests for it.

Asked about the response, he said the National Conference ofCatho-. lie Bishops had reacted positively.

He said the Archdiocese of New York was looking for priests to serve in a mission area, and he had been in contact with some other U.S. bishops who were' willing.

"There is good hope for that," he said. "It comes slowly but surely," Cardinal Tomko also said he had spoken with several African bishops who are looking for help and had given their names to the NCCB. He said he considered Africa the neediest region because many tribes there were now open to the Gospel and "asking for baptism."

Cardinal Tomko said discussions under way about reform of the Vatican Curia, the church's central administration, could affect responsibility for groups such as the Maryknoll missioners. But he said suggestions that they should be transferred from their present relationship with his congregation and placed under the Vatican Congregation for Religious and Secular Institutes were so far only "hypotheticaL" The Second Vatican Council gave primary responsibility for missionary work to his congregation, he said, adding that he expected the missionary aspect of Maryknoll would remain related to it as at present.

Cardinal Tomko said a number of countries in areas generally considered among the missions were now sending missionaries. These include, he said, Colombia, Mexico,'Nigeria, Tanzania, Korea and the Philippines. ,.

VATICAN CITY (NC) - Historical tensions and leadership rivalries between Moslem groups probably helped cause the clashes that took more than 400 lives in the Moslem pilgrimage city of Mecca, Saudi Arabia,. a Vatican路 officiai said. Father Michael Fitzgerald, 'secretary of the Vatican's . Be Holy Secretariat for Non-Christian Re"Be holy in all that you do, just ligions, said the clashes illustrated as God who called you is holy. The differing tendencies within Islam, but did not mean that the religion scripture says, "Be holy because I am holy." .. - I Pet. 1:15-16 was experiencing a crisis. He spoke recently in an interview with Vatican Radio. The priest, who guides dialogue with Moslem groups in his position with the secretariat, noted that Iran is the only country controlled by a Shiite Moslem majority. About 90 percent of the world's 825 million Moslems belong to the Sunni branch.

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ST. MARK, ATTLEBORO FALLS Women's Guild meeting 7 p.m.

Monday, church crying room; Living Rosary and Benediction follow at 7:30 p.m., church.

K of C LIVING ROSARY Knights of Columbus of Msgr.

John E. Boyd Council, Fall River; McMahon and Stang councils, New Bedford; and Damien Council, Mattapoisett, 'will participate in a living rosary service at 7:30 p.m. Oct. 20 at Notre Dame Church, Fall River. All welcome.

ST. JEAN BAPTISTE, FR Marian devotions 7 p.m. Monday with recitation of the rosary, commentary by Daryl Gonyon and music

by Laura Nobrega and Raymond Vallee; all welcome; information: 672-4822.

NOTRE DAME, FR Parish School students in grades one, three and five are participating in a Fall River Fire Department fire safety program. The parish thanks Joseph Sirois and George Caruso for their volunteer gardening. Boy Scouts' meeting 6:30 p.m. Wednesdays, school; new members welcome; information: Scoutmaster Joseph Primo, 673-0025. Confirmation candidates will make a retreat Nov. 6 to 8. Meeting for prospective altar servers 6:30 tonight, church; information: Father Marc Tremblay, parochial vicar, 679-1991.

ST. JOSEPH, FAIRHAVEN Mr. and Mrs. John Iddon are celebrating their 50th wedding anniversary. Vincentians meet each second Sunday after 9:30 a.m. Mass.

New Jerusalem prayer meeting 7:30 p.m. Fridays, rectory; all welcome.

A parish pastoral council has replaced the advisory council with Harry Young as chairperson, Barbara Wright as vice-chairperson and Helen Burke as secretary. The council has established Catholic education, social ministry, spiritual life and worship, administrative service, evangelization and community life and worship committees.

ST. LOUIS de FRANCE, SWANSEA Ladies of St. Anne Sodality 10th annual joint meeting with St. John of God parish, Somerset, Women's Guild, 7:30 p.m. Oct. 21, parish hall; program chaired by Muriel Patenaude and Anita Boulanger; refreshments; entertainment; all Somerset and Swansea parish guild members welcome. Vincentians' meetingTuesday.

DCCW, TAUNTON/ATTLEBORO Taunton/ Attleboro district councils of Catholic Women Bishop's Night program Oct. 29, St. Mary's School hall, Taunton; dinner and entertainment will follow 6:45 p.m.

Mass; information: guild presidents . before Oct. 20.

ST. ANNE, FR Cub Scouts Den I meeting 2:30 p.m. today. Exposition of Blessed Sacrament after II :30 a.m. Mass today; hour of adoration begins 2 p.m., shrine. Little Rock Bible study course 7: 15 p.m. Wednesdays through Dec. 16, shrine; register by Oct. 21; information: parochial vicar Father Herbert Nichols, 674-5651. Confirmation preparation program for adults begins 7: IS p.m. Oct. 22; information: Father Nichols.

ST. STANISLAUS, FR Father Andre A. Patenaude, MS, director of LaSalette Shrine, Attleboro, will celebrate a Marian year service at the parish at 4:30 p.m.

Nov. 1. Faculty day of recollection today, Columban Fathers' Mission House, Bristol, R.I.; conference master: Father Robert S. Kaszynski, pastor. Autumn Bible study (Book of Psalms) 6:30 to 8 p.m. Nov. 8, 15, 22 and 29, led by Father Kaszynski.

ST. ELIZABETH SETON, N. FALMOUTH Charismatic prayer group meets 7:30 p.m. Thursdays, church. Women's Guild-sponsored Food for the Needy drive Nov. 7 and 8; guild members will be in the church hall after all Masses to receive donations of canned, jarred or non-perishable packaged food items. Respite trainingprogram 10a.m. Monday, church hall; information: 540-7232.

DOMINICAN ACADEMY, FR The school recently continued celebration of the 200th anniversary of the U.S. Constitution with a balloon liftoff. 75 students have begun computer classes taught by Sister Mary Agnes Shannon, OP. HOLY NAME, FR New Confirmation II retreat days: Oct. 24 (last names L through W) and 31 (A through K).

ST. MARY, SEEKONK Prayer group meets 7.:30 p.m.

Thursdays, parish center. Alcoholics Anonymous meets 7 p.m. Wednesdays, church hall. Children's Mass of presentation (grade 2) II :30 a.m.

Nov. I. Youth ministry trivia winners: Ken Kokoszka, Aug.; Reaghan Lockwood, Sept. CYO basketball junior coach: Kevin Leonard; midget coach: Jim Carney. Mary Day celebration 2 p.m. Oct. 25. Cursillo retreat information night 7:30 p.m.

Wednesday, CCD Center. Fellowship after Mass and rosary Oct. 22.

ST. DOMINIC, SWANSEA Mary, Queen of Peace prayer group meets 7 p.m. Wednesdays, church; new members welcome.

ST. PATRICK, WAREHAM CYO general meeting Oct. 20, hall.

ST. JOHN THE EVANGELIST, POCASSET 55-and-over-family season begins Oct. 20.

LaSALETTE SHRINE, ATTLEBORO "A Tribute to Vietnam Vets: A Time to Remember, A Time to Rebuild" 2 to 5 p.m. Sunday, shrine festival grounds (cafeteria in case of rain); tribute features family picnic, 60s music and small "rap groups" on issues of interest to vets, including Agent Orange, post-traumatic stress syndrome; POWs/MIAs; VA benefits; family life issues; grieving and women veteran's issues; vets invited to bring photos and other memorabilia; all welcome. "I Have A Friend Who Talks About Changing Religion" session, led by Father Roger Chauvette, MS, 7 p.m. Wednesday, shrine monastery; all welcome.

"Healing the Child Within," a workshop for the adult children of alcoholics, codependents, people in healing ministries and anyone whose life has been affected by alcohol or substance abuse, 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. Oct. 24, shrine; workshop leader: Jacqueline M. Sitte, RN, a substance abuse nurse and certified counselor at Brockton Alcoholism Intervention Center and a member of the Association of Christian Therapists and coordinator of a Brockton prayer community's healing ministry; information for all events: shrine programs office, 222-5410; preregistration necessary for some events.

ST. JULIE, N. DARTMOUTH ~rayer meetings 7 p.m. Mondays, pansh hall. Choir rehearses 6:30 p.m. Thursdays, church; new members welcome.

CATHEDRAL, FR Reconciliation II :30 a.m. to noon and 3:30 to 4 p.m. Saturdays. Fourth grade religious education students are collecting food for needy parish families; donations may be left in the basket at the back of the church; third graders are learning how to recite the rosary. Parish council meeting 7:30 p.m. Oct. 25, rectory.

O.L. ASSUMPTION, OSTERVILLE The adult choir will sing at the 10:30 a.m. Mass Sunday.

ST. STEPHEN, ATTLEBORO Seniors' meeting I p.m. Tuesday, church hall; all welcome. Parish council meeting 7:30 p.m. Monday.

SERRA CLUB, ATTLEBORO Information on Attleboro district meetings, held twice monthly: Michael J. Duggan, president, 699-7100.

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Coffee hour / birthday celebration 3 p.m. today, auditorium; entertainment: musician Dave Nadian.

Haunted House Oct. 29, activity room; tour of house 10 to II a.m.; parade of goblins (children from Fall River's SS. Peter and Paul School) I to 3 p.m. Fit-As-A-Fiddle exercise and music program 1:30 p.m. Oct. 30. The home welcomes new residents Maria Benevides, Mathias Gagne, Mary O'Hearn, Helen Johnston and Amy Boretti.

September employee of the month was main kitchen worker Benjamin Garcia. '

ST. THOMAS MORE, SOMERSET . A vocation display may be found 10 the church lobby.

ST. ANTHONY OF PADUA, FR - Council of Catholic Women meeting 7:30 p.m. Tuesday; all welcome.

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ST. JAMES, NB Vincentians' meeting 7 p.m. Oct. 28, parish center. Ladies' Guild meeting 7:30 p.m. Wednesday, parish hall; refreshments; Leonard Pierce will present "Hetty Green: Fact/ Legend."

HOLY GHOST, ATTLEBORO All Saints' liturgy for parish children 6:30 p.m. Oct. 31, church; wear Halloween costumes to Mass; party for youngsters kindergarten through grade eight follows in church hall.

The parish wishes to form a liturgy planning committee; interested persons may contact Sister Theresa Bisson, OP, 222-6756, for information.

Lectors and eucharistic ministers' meeting 7 p.m. Sunday, parish center.

O.L. VICTORY, CENTERVILLE Mr. and Mrs. Daniel Harkins are celebrating their 40th wedding anniversary. New CYO officers: ·Suzy duMont, president; Patrick Clark, vice-president; Christine Fournier, secretary; Craig Colebourn, treasurer; Christine Stanley and Mary Lorrie, representatives to parish council. Organizational meetingfor men's social club 7:30 p.m. Monday, parish center. CYO meeting follows high school religious education class 6 p.m. Sunday, parish center. Blood pressure screening first and third Thursdays of each month, parish center; all welcome. Guild meeting Monday begins with noon luncheon, parish center.

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THE ANCHOR-Diocese of Fall River-Fri., Oct. 16,'f~87

What's on your mind?

Q. How do you tell a person you really care for that he is making a mistake by not letting go of someone that he lost a long time ago - without really upsetting him? (California) A. Half a century ago a popular love song proclaimed, "An old flame never dies!" That may be something of an overstatement, but it contains a kernel of truth.

Sometimes a love relationship isn't over when it's over. The memory bank usually contains all sorts of sweet and bittersweet pictures from the past, and one can't shut down the memory bank with the flick of a switch.

A more r~cent love song told us, "Breaking up is hard to do." One might add that in the aftermath letting go is even harder to do.

Some people become afflicted with obsessive feelings about past loves. A few find that "heartsick" becomes an almost physical sickness and they can't seem to function well from day to day.

Very often obsessive feelings cannot be wiped out by cool, logical reasoning. You might talk to your boyfriend for hours about his attachment to this past love and get absolutely nowhere.

Telling him he is making a mistake probably will do no good at all and might eVen anger him.

Most of us don't like to be told

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we're making a mistake; such a remark implies we're stupid.

Probably he simply can't see now that he is making a mistake.

His feelings of love are still much too strong. They blind him.

While being sympathetic about the pain he feels, gently suggest when the time seems right that he might ease the pain by looking to the future more often. ,Try to help him make plans for having some kind offun next Saturday night and next week and next month. Gently emphasize the importance of taking part in some worthwhile activities. Very very gently steer him away from indulging himself in self-pity.

My guess is that by now the two of you have talked to death the subject of his breakup with the other girl. While he may want to talk about it endlessly. what's the point?

Instead, try unobtrusively to steer the conversation in other more cheerful directions. Have a supply of other topics to bring up, even if it means now and then talking about yourself.

In your strategies, actions and words, try to be positive at all times. Your boyfriend. in a real sense, is sick right now, and what he needs most of all is the sunshine of another happy spirit.

About 25 children preparing for their first communions at SS. Peter and Paul parish, Fall River, recently visited Catholic Memorial Home in the same city as part of their Prayer Pal program.

Student participants were parish school children and youngsters enrolled in SS. Peter and Paul's religious education program.

Prayer pals link up with Memorial Home residents, who remember them in prayer as they prepare for first communion, scheduled this year for Oct. 25.

The program, in its second year, has been labeled by CMH activities coordinator Kate Garland as "the year's most successful community involvement activity."

Some CMH residents, she said, are participating for the second time.

The theme of this year's meeting was "You Are the Apple of My Eye." Prayer pals exchanged names and pictures mounted on paper apples.

According to SS. Peter and Paul school principal and parish religious education coordinator Kathleen A. Burt, the interaction between'young and old provides both with "positive images of other generations."

Parish school third grader Christine Pelletier, 8, said she liked meeting her prayer pal, Elizabeth Melvin.

"Ilike it because you have a special person to pray for," she said.

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"Older people like to be with a lot of younger people and care for them," Christine said, adding that

In association with the Diocesan Department of Education and the city of Fall River's Drug and Alcohol Program, Derek Sanderson, a recovering alcohol and drug abuser and a former Boston Bruins star, will speak Oct. 28 to Connolly students on the dangers of substance abuse.

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The school is hos,ting a luncheon Oct. 24 for area wucators to acquaint them'with Connolly and its

recent improvements, including new physical education facilities.

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Mr. Thomas Massaro, SJ, who recently joined the faculty as a sodal studies instructor, has inaugurated a school .speech and debate program which will soon enter competition.

• • * Father Robert Power, SJ, is moderator of Connolly's new Comic Book Club, formed at the request of freshmen students.

He made the ·grade..

WASHINGTON (NC) - Pope John Paul II earned all" A's" from U.S. Catholic educators after meeting with them in New Orleans Sept. 12.

At the end of his meeting with the teachers and admnistrators of Catholic schools he remarked that he had come "first as a student."

"I am anxious about what kind of notes [ grades] I shall receive," the pope added. ''I'm hoping. I'm hopeful."

The executive. committee of the.

National Catholic Educational Association Department of elementary Schools met later and issued the pope's report card.

His grades?

According to Sister Catherine McNamee, president of the Washington-based NCEA, the pope received "A" for public speaking, "A" for effort and" A+" for extemporaneous speaking.

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spending time with an older friend is "just like being with your grandmother and grandfather."

Coyle and Cassidy High School Members of the Student Council at Coyle and Cassidy High School, Taunton are planning three rallies for this month and next and are preparing Spirit Week activities to precede the school's traditional Thanksgiving football game versus rival Bishop Feehan High School.

The council is moderated by faculty member James Rusconi, who is assisted by fellow teacher Brian Dickinson.

The council's most recent major

BACK IN THE HIGH LIFE AGAIN

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FIRST communion students, from left, Adam Iveson, Michael Boissoneault and Jared Gagne visit prayer pal Donat Mailloux.

It used to seem to me that my life ran out too fast And I have to take it slowly To make the good. part last But when you are born to run It's so hard to just slow down So don't be surprised to see me Back in the bright part of town.

111 be back in the high life again All the doors that closed one time will open up again 111 be back in the high life again All the eyes that watched us once Will smile and. take us in.

You used to be the best to make life be life to me And I'mhoping you're still out there And you're like you used to be Well have ourselves a time And well dance till the morning sun And we'll let the good times come in And we won't stop until we're done.

We'll drink and dance And have the world so easily And tbough well be a sight to see We'll be back in the high life again Sung by Steve Winwood Written by Steve Winwood and Will Jennings (c) 1986 by Island Records Inc. STEVE WINWOOD wants to back in the bright part of town." be "back in the high life again."

Winwood's description of the For him, this seems to be a life of high life seems a bit shallow. partying and letting "the good While it is important to enjoy times come in." He tells his friends life's good times, living sucessnot to be "surprised to see me fully means more than find in:;

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event was a pep rally to kick off CC's fall athletic schedule. Members of the school's football team were introduced to the student body at the event by athletic director Steve Winslow. .

CC is two-time defending Southeastern Massachusetts Conference Western Division Champion.

David Simas is the council's president. Joe Paulo serves as vicepresident, Jeff Cleary as secretary, Tony Amaral as treasurer.

the right place to party. However, the song does offer two suggestions worth considering.

Winwood is right when he states that our lives can go on "too fast, and I have to take it slowly to make the good part last." He is also correct in noting how difficult it can be to slow down when one has become accustomed to life on the run.

Some people seem to make "doing" the whole focus of life.

Their constant cycle of activity steals time away from life's other important aspects, like time for JUSt being quiet, some moments for prayer or even time just to have fun. What happens to these busy people is that instead oftaking charge of their lives, life runs them.

Teens, or just about any of us, get more out of life by balancing activity with periods of quiet and relaxation. If you feel like you are always running out of time, or if you can never find the time to do what you want to do, then you are living life at too fast a pace.

Second, the song reminds us that we need to take time to be with close friends. Real friends have a way of bringing out the best in us. They also help us find more meaning and zest in life. . All of us want to live our lives as fully as we can. To do so is truly to discover the "high life."

Making space and time for a variety of life's opportunities, espe.cially those mentioned in this article, is to build a life full of satisfaction.

Your comments are always welcome. Address Charlie Martin, 1218 S. Rotherwood Ave., 'Svansvi!le, Ind. 47714.

Hong Kong laity shy about evangelizing

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HONG KONG (NC) - Most showed nearly one-third of responHong Kong lay Catholics answer- dents never heard of Vatican II. ing a pre-laity synod survey believe But changes such as liturgical Symbols following film reviews they are obliged to evangelize, but renewal, deepening relationships indicate both general and Catholic the poll shows they are generally between priests and laity, increas- Films Office ratings. which do not shy about it. ing concern ofthe church for society always coincide.

The survey, published late last and the laity's active participation General ratings: G-suitable for month, found 64 percent of respon- in church work were noticed by general viewing; PG-13-parental guidance strongly suggested for children dents aware of their duty to evan- many of those surveyed. under 13; PG-parental guidance suggelize and bear witness to the faith, The survey was taken in response gested; R-restricted. unsuitable for and 27 percent who felt encouraged to cooperate and communi- to a worldwide call by the Vatican children or young teens.

Catholic ratings: AI-approved for synod secretariat for such input cate with priests on such tasks. children and adults; A2-approved for for the synod on the laity being "But in practice, the pace is adults and adolescents; A3-approved held in Rome Oct. 1-30. rather slow and less than active," for adults only; 4-separate classifiOf 48,000 questionnaires disthe report said, adding that most cation (given films not morally offensive which, however. require some methods adopted by the laity are . tributed, 11,289 were returned accounting for about four percent analysis and explanation); a-morally "introverted."

The survey, commissioned by of Hong Kong's 270,000 Catholics. offensive.

Catholic ratings for television The findings showed most reBishop John Baptist Wu of Hong movies are those of the movie house spondents try to evangelize by setKong, was conducted by the Hong versions of the films.

Kong Central Council of Catholic ting good examples or by encourand relatives to take aging friends Laity. religious instruction.

The report said the diocese The report suggested more trainshould provide means for the laity ing programs to reinforce lay Please check dates and to understand the spirit of the awareness of the church and the times of television and radio Second Vatican Council. It also mission of evangelization. programs against local listings, which may differ from the New York network schedules supplied to The Anchor.

Samuel Barry, Christopher NimHarold "looks, acts and lives" iroskiand William Murphy,seniors like Edgar Allan Poe during the at Bishop Feehan High School, production. which features readNew Film Attleboro, are 1988 National Merit ings. Information: Chris Servant.

Scholarship Program commended 226-6223.

"Matewan"(Cinecom) - Chris students.

Cooper stars as a union organizer They placed among the top who comes to the West Virginia * * * 50,000 of over one million proAdmissions representatives from coal fields after World War 1 to gram participants.

21 colleges participated in Fee- .help workers win a bitter strike.

Barry is vice-president. of Fee- han's first mini-college fair, organhan's National Honor Society . ized by Sister Regina Coughlin, chapter and a Spanish Honor SoRS M, guidance director. A second ciety member. He is on the school fair was held Wednesday; others yearbook staff and is listed in are scheduled for Oct. 28, Nov. 4 LOS ANGELES (NC) - "DiWho's Who Among High School and 18 and Dec. 2. vine Mercy: No Escape," the film· Students. He plans a career in story of a Polish nun who preached business. a message of divine mercy, pre* * * All are welcome at HomecomNimiroski, a member of Holy miered Sept. 15 at Graumann's Ghost parish, Attleboro, plays ing Day tomorrow, highlighted by Chinese Theatre in Los Angeles basketball and golf and plans to a 1:30 p.m. football game against before an audience which included Fall River's BMC Durfee High study management in college.

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Murphy is involved with Fee- School at Hayward Field. The The film. with actress Helen 18th annual celebration also inhan's Debate Club, Junior ClasHayes as on-screen narrator, resics League, yearbook and news- cludes 11 :30 a.m. opening cerecounts Sister Faustina Kowalska's paper. He participates in swimming monies outside the school, a homemessage of divine mercy. The beatcoming parade at 12: IO p.m. and a and track. ification process for the nun is in 4:30 p.m. Mass in remembrance of its early stages. * * * Original plans called for the film Feehan vocal director Elaine deceased faculty and students.

The Feehan Folk Group will to premiere in Detroit Sept. 18 in Saulnier recently conducted liturprovide music at the Mass, to be conjunction with Pope John Paul gies using her original compositions at a "Women in the Church" celebrated in the school's religious . II's visit to the city. However, that education center. idea was scrapped at the request of workshop in New Windsor, NY. Homecoming was preceded by a the Detroit Archdiocese. said the She has performed her original week of activities, including a rally Detroit-based producer, Hermann work during Feehan chorus perand a college bowl at which fresh- Tauchert, in an interview with The formances. men competed against sophomores Michigan Catholic, Detroit arch* * * and junior~against"Seniors.Survi- diocesan newspaper.

Noted character actor Mel Harold will perform "In Search of vors squared off against each other, "Because of security or whatever Poe" at 9:45 a.m. Oct. 27 for Fee- the winners taking on a faculty it wa·s, the archdiocese asked us" team. han's sophomore class. not to open the movie in Detroit while the pope was in town, said Tauchert, who shot many of its scenes in Detroit churches.

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Basilian Father George Kosicki, director of the Marian Fathers' Department of Divine Mercy, the apostolate for the nun's message and devotions headquartered in Stockbridge, said that attendance of so many bishops at the los Angeles premiere was a last-minute development.

"It turned out they didn't have anything planned the night before they were supposed to meet" with

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Admirable in its idealistic picture of the workers' solidarity united against the company's reliance upon force. Some graphic violence, description of a sexual assault. A3, PGI3 Film on TV Thursday, Oct. 29, 9-11 p.m.

EST (ABC) - "Tightrope" (1984) - Clint Eastwood plays a New Orleans police detective searching for a sadistic killer whose aberrant sexual proclivities he fears he might share. Has an interesting theme, but falls short, even though Eastwood's performance is one of his best. Sex and violence loom much too large. 0, R Religious TV Sunday, Oct. 18 (CBS) - "For Our Times" - CBS producer John Santos presents a report on the ways the churchjs creating a new ministry to give Hispanics greater voice in shaping the religious life of their communities. Among the guests are Archbishop Patrick F. Flores of San Antonio, Texas, and Father Virgil Elizondo of the Mexican American Cultural Center.

Religious Radio Sunday, Oct. 18 (NBC) "Guideline" - Kenneth Ring, author of "Heading Toward Omega," discusses the phenomenon of near-death experiences.

Sister Kowalska film premieres

Tauchert wanted the premiere in Detroit while the pope was there because the pontiff and nun shared a common nationality and because Pope John Paul had focused on mercy in his second encyclical, "Dives in Misericordia" (Rich in Mercy)..

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the pope, he said. Once papal trip officials gave the go-ahead, the bishops were sent invitations. To help fill the theater, Los Angeles members of the Marian Associates, the order's lay apostolate, were also invited.

Father Kosicki said plans call for showing the film in several other cities. The showing in Detroit will probably be in November, he said.

Sister Kowalska, who was named Helen before she became a nun, was born in 1905 in a country area outside of Lodz, in central Poland.

In 1925 she entered the Congregation of Our Lady of Mercy, an order devoted to the care of troubled girls. She did housework in the order based in Warsaw and died in 1938.

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