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By Antoinette Bosco When I heard that Congress had designated Dec. 15-21 as National Drunk and Drugged Driving Aware­ ness Week, I had a negative reaction.

Why should such a chilling note be injected into our Christmas season? This should be a time of hope and peace, joy and beauty. Why focus on this d~vasta­ ting national tragedy instead of on th~ tranquility of the manger scene?

But then I looked at the statistics: 44,000 people died in traffic accidents in 1984 - 23,500 in crashes where alcohol was a factor.

That means that last year more than 60 persons per_ day lost their lives because a drunken person behind the wheel of a car had become a killer.

I also remembered one of the worst wrecks I ever saw, with twisted metal so distorted one could hardly tell it had been a car. The driver had been a teenager who had shot heroin at a party. When she got into her car, an eyewitness reported that it took off like a rocket. It went out of control and the young woman went out of this world.

I thought too of the family of a 15-year-old who drank vodka with a friend on a lark, then got behind the wheel of his friend's car. It crossed a divider and killed two people in another car.

Drunk drivers leave victims on all sides. Today, with drug usage reaching ,such tremendous propor­ tions, drugged drivers have become almost an equal menace.

Fortunately we are witnessing a groundswelling of support for halting the killing. Church groups, b~r­ tenders, high school students, senior citizens and par­ ents are getting involved and results are beginning to come through.

- In 1980, 50 percent of drivers killed in auto­ mobile crashes were legally drunk.

- In 1984 this figure dropped to 43 percent.

Ironically, it is when people _are partying and having fun that the tendency to drink. or take drugs is most evident.

In designating Dec. 15-21 as a time to fOClllS on drunk and drugged driving, Congress stated: "The Christmas and New Year holiday period, with more drivers on the roads and 'an increased number of social functions, is a particularly appropriate time to focus national attention on this critical problem."

It was after reading that clause and mumng over the horrendous statistics on, -victims of drunk and drugged drivers that I changed my mind- about the timing of the week.

There couldn't be a better week to do something on this problem, not only from the practical point of view but also from the spiritual.

For Christmas is about the gift of birth and life.

It reminds us that as Christians we are called to chal­ lenge whatever' diminishes or destroys life.

In this season, I would urge that we do all we can to stop the tragedy of drunk driving. We should care enough to make the good cheer w.e offer at holiday parties include if necessary a "no" to alcohol.

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Fe~hngs. of pam and cama-.~ Formally it offered a keynote_ r~derIe, bltter~ess and relaxa­ address by Father Robert S. Kas­ tlOn counter~omted -last Satur­ zynski on "A Ree<l Bruised but day at the flrst-e~erforum for not Broken" and workshops on se?arated a.nd dIvorced Gath­ such topics as feelings after ohcs. Drawmg 123 attend'ants, divorce annulment and single more. than expected, it had parenti~g. stan~mg room 6nly at chapel 'Informally, it was as if a sessIons. tightly-packed box had been Held at the Family Life Center opened, releasing a medley of in North Dartmouth, the forum emotions.

Between sessions, was coordinated by Father participants from every corner Richard G. Andrade, parochi'al of the diocese shared experi­ vicar at St. Anthony parish, East ences and memories, sure of Falmouth, and Janet Farrell of finding understanding in each St. Francis Xavier parish, Hy­ other. The general feeling seem­ p.nnis, both of the Gape Cod and ed one of gratitude that the op­

portunity for fellowship had been made available and of hope that such meetings would con­ tinue.

Discussing feelings commonly experienced during the first five years after ,a couple separates.

Frederick Chapman, assistant director of the Attleboro office of Catholic Social Services, liken­ ed the process to that often gone through by a terminally ill per­ son.

First, he said, one may experi­ ence shock, varying depending on whether one was "the rejec­ ter or the rejectee" -in the sep­ aration. Then comes deni'al, a Turn to Page Seven

At World Synod of Bishops

Collegiality pivotal VATICAN CITY (NC) - As the Nov. 24-Dec. 8 extraordin­ ary Synod of Bishops moves to­ ward its close, collegiality, the sharing of authority and respon­ sibility in the church between the pope and the world body of bishops, emerged - as a pivotal issue.

Many delegates from the de­ veloped world focused attention on the relationship of col1egial- .

ity to the authority of national bishops' conferences and local bishops. One delegate even sug­ gested formation of a permanent world Synod of Bishops to share legislative powers with the pope.

Asian and African delegates stressed the need for local churches to find their own iden­ tity through inculturation, the adaptation of Catholic teachings and practices to local cultures

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Latin American delegates ask­ ed understanding fro!Jl the Vati­ can as they grapple with the pastoral needs of people living under unjust socioeconomic and political structures.

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In last week's Anthor the name of Mrs. Aileen F. Cabral of Our Lady of Mt. Carmel par­ ish, New Bedford, was inadver-' tently omitted from the list of those to receive the Marian Medal af-Cathedral' ceremonies at 3 p.in. Sunday.

BOSTON (NC) - Sufferers of the disease AIDS must be treat­ ed "in a s'pirit of loving care and non-judgmental charity," al­ though ."appropriate" caution must be exercised to "contain this virus and, find a cure for its lethal effects," said Cardinal Bernard Law of Boston.

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He said treatment of AIDS victims in parishes, schools, so­ cial service agencies and health­ care facilities that is not an imi­ tion of Christ "betrays Christ."

Hysteria and irrational fear "are not moods conducive to establishing such norms," Car­ dinal Law said.

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Ball ushers., committee members listed Mrs. Michael J. McMahon of St. Mary's Cathedral parish, Fall River, has been named to head the hospitality committee for the 31st annual 'Bishop's' Charity Ball, to be held Friday.

Jan. 10 at Lincoln Park BaH-' room" North Dartmouth.

Her 'appointment was an­ nounced today by, Rev. Msgr.

Anthony M. ,Gomes, diocesan director of the Ball. Mrs. Rich­ 'ard M. Paulson, Immaculate Conception parish, Taunton will assist Mrs. McMahon. ,The Charity Ball benefits diocesan 'summer camps for underprivileged and exceptionai children.

Members of' the committee aiding Mrs. McMahon and Mrs. Paulson are:

Fall River Area: Mrs. Raymond "Boulay, Miss Jean Drzal, Mrs. Eugene Gagnon, Mrs. Anthony J. Geary, Mrs. Raymond Lavoie.

Mrs. Manuel Nogueira, Mrs. Roger Dube.

New Bedford Area: Miss Mary Elizabeth LaRoche, Miss Theresa Lewis, Mrs. Rita Rock.

Taunton Area: Mrs. Edward S. Franco, Mrs. Anthony ,Mar­ garido, Mrs. Albert G.. Moitoza, Miss Margaret M. McCarthy, Mrs. Francis Zellner.

Attleboro Area: Mrs. George Bauza, Mrs. Albert Jackson, Mrs. David Sellmayer.

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- Schools and hospitals will adhere to guidelines based upon "sound medical evidence" and issued by the appropriate state agency.

- Christian values of chas­ tity, marital fidelity and p'ersonal integrity must be ~'uncompro­ misingly" taught, preached and "witnessed" by all who claim to be "disciples of Christ."

- Medical and social service . Taunton Area: Horace Costo, . agencies of the archdiocese will Paul OueHette, Richard M. Paul-' collaborate with state and fed­ eral governments as well as the son. medical community ,to address Persons or organizations wish­ ing to be listed in' the Ball to needs of AIDS patients and Booklet are -asked to, contact contribute toa cure. committee members, members - The archdiocese will work of the Conference of the Society with other religious groups to be of St. Vincent de PauloI' mem­ an advocate for the medical, bers of the Diocesan Council of social and financial needs of vic­ Catholic Women. Listing may tims of AIDS. also be sent -to Charity Ball The cardinal noted that the Headquarters, 410 Highland "shock waves" of fear surround­ Avenue, Post Office Box 1470, ing AIDS have not occurred" in Fall River 02722, tel. 676-8943. the United States since the "polio epidemic of more than 30 years ago."

Such fear is "magnified," ihe said, by evidence "that the school premises. Since that time, majority of cases to date has public school programs have de­ been discovered in men and ' veloped, while Nazareth's enroll­ women whose. sexual or drug ment has decreased to its current activities leave them extremely level of 31. vulnerable to this destructive From its founding, the Fall virus."

As a result, a human health River Nazareth has been en­ trusted to the Sisters of Mercy. problem has become "electric­ -ally charged with fear, outrage Sister Bernadetta, current prin­ cipal ·and administrator at-the and suspicion," Cardinal Law "school, obServed, "I consider said. . "AIDS is a, religious, moral myself blessed to have been assodated with Nazareth' and an~ medical challenge to our . with all the special children I society," Cardinal Law said in have met ,through the years. I the statement. "It chalrlenges am especially grateful to the our compassion ,religiously. It challenges our behavior morally. ,.,,staff at Nazareth for their un­ 'tiring dedication and love -for And it challenges our commit­ ,exceptional ,children. I hope that ment tO,pu'rsue a cure medically."

Treating AIDS patients like we wHl be able to move in new "outcasts of society," he added, .directions in caring for special :rieeds students." . , violates basic Christian princi­ - Father Beaulieu, Sister Ber. - pies. .nadetta and Sister Michaelinda .indicated -that the school would Faith 'assist all parents and their chil­ "Faith is believing what we do dren in making a' smooth transi. not see; its reward -is seeing ,tion to other educational set­ what we believed."

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Fall River Nazareth Hall to close cease referring special needs After providing special educa­ tion to mentally handicapped students to the school."

The Fall River Nazareth Hall youth of the greater Fall River area for the past 28 years, Naza­ . was opened in 1958 under the reth Hall School in Fall River direction of Sister Maureen will close at the' end of the curHanley, RSM, and lI'eached its , rent school year. highest enrollment in the early 1970s when it had 96 pupils. In The :announcement was made 1972, however, Chapter 766

by Rev. Richard W. Beaulieu, legislation was passed, 'requiring Director, of Education for the public· school districts to provide Catholic Diocese of Fall River, special education 'on public Sister Michaelinda Plante, RSM, Superintendent of SChools, and Sister Bernadett-a Ryan, RSM, present principal. The ,feasibility of continui!1g. present operations Some confusion has' arisen this at ,the. school has been under year concerning the obligation of . study for two years.' : ... attending Mass on the Feast of ,The aCtion results from an the Imntaculate, Conception. Be­ evaluation of the school's pio- ' cause Dec.S fall,S on Sunday, grams a'ndemollment projections the Mass for the second Sunday for'~the cpniing y'ears. "It is evi­ of Advent takes precedence over dent," said' Father Beaulieu, that of the feast. Masses for the "that '" since the inception of feast 'will be celebrated to­ Chapter .766, the school's enroll­ morrow morning, Dec. 7, and ment has declined and that fur­ will NOT be of .obligation, al­ the~ decline could be antldpated though attendance out' of de­ "as the are'). .cit,ies . ,ancl towns .. votion ,is of ,course encouraged.

Cardinal Law outlined the fol­ lowing policy:

THE ANCHOR-Diocese of Fall River-Fri., Dec. 6, 1985

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The Sunday before Thanks­ giving a special Mass was cele­ brated at St. Vincent's Home for the staff and the 72 children and adolescents who reside there.

"What are we thankful for?" asked the celebrant.

"For our counselors," "For our homes," "For trust."

"For the Sisters."

"For Jesus," These were just some of the responses given: indeed reasons to be thankful for children and adolescents traumatized by abuse and neglect who have found at St. Vincent's a place of refuge where order might once again be restored to their lives.

In pain and confusion, the youngsters at St. Vincent's have cried out for help.· More often than not, their plea has been recognized because of disfunc­ tionaI behavior they have dis­ played 'at home, in school or in the community. In the case of many, efforts to salvage their home ·and school life have failed, as have attempts at foster home placement. Now they find them­ selves at St. Vincent's, hoping that here they will be helped.

St. Vincent's is a residential treatment 'center and special education facility. It has as its goal the return of its youngsters to a much less restricted en­ vironment tha.n they need while in treatment. Through a care­ fully structured program, their needs are addressed with the aim of freeing them from dis­ functional behavior and enabling them to return to family and, community, Treatment includes use of a structured living environment, a special education school setting and individual, counseling. Uni­ fying these elements is a be­

havior management program thai . reinforces positive and minimizes negative behavior.

Ultimately the youngsters are led to self control. not so much by accomplishing tasks, achiev­ ing academicaHy or addressing painful issues as by learningap­ propriate behavior with peers and adults, It is within the con­ text of such rela'tionships with peers and especially with the staff at St. Vincent's, that they begin once again to trust and to hope.

For 100 years St. Vincent's Home' has provided for the needs of children, originally orphans and today troubled youngsters.

This apostolate continues to make a clear statement by the Church in Fa.1l River of the im­ portance of these children and their families in 'a society too often preoccupied with .itself.

A cohesive staff of clergy. reli­ gious and laity, professionals and paraprofessionals, volun­ teers ..and students serves the needs of these youngsters.

Sponsored by the Diocese of Fall River and funded by the Depart­ ments of Education and Social 8ervices of Massachusetts, St. Vincent's maintains a program of quality care.

As a treatment' facility spon­ sored by the Church, St. Vin­ cent's seeks to go beyond the . minimal standaTds required for such a program. In addition to the professional quality of its care, the Home attempts to be more than an institution. It is for this' reason that each year at Christmas St. Vincent's asks generous people throughout Bristol and Barnstable counties to help provide the "extras" that make it a special place where youngsters 'are not institution­ alized but rather enabled for life.

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The immediate rieeds are many: recreational, equipment, items used to reinforce positive behavior, amenities for the living units such as curtains and bed­ ,spreads; ,long-range needs in­ clude seed money to research and pilot programs for family therapy, foster home placement and transition to independent Hving for older adolescents.

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A Rank and File Challenge The Roman Synod now in session is deaiing with important questions that will affect the future life of the Church. How­ ever,if history is to be considered a valid guide.• most ofits discussions will be theoretical and will take some time to influence the pragmatic day-to-day living of Catholics.

In fact, some of the subjects under consideration may never hllVe any effect on the proverbial people in the pews. For those who worship in our parishes, not too much has really changed.

To be sure, externals might be different but the day to day challenges faced by Christians are the true stuff of life.

Great documents'and directions may be produced. They will , have little influence on the vast majority of Catholics unlesS' , they dare to help share ,the burdens of everyday life.

A perfectexample'of this is the effort,of our 'Own epi$copal ; conference to produce a pastoral on the economy. For more' than two years this under~~king has, been caught up in ,an ongoing in-house revision,. , .

Although it has received extensive' media coverage,'litde attention has beelt'paid to it by men and women who work the' third shift. In fact, even to those in white-collar jobs it remains a largely unknown quantity~ This fact leads one to think that one of the basic needs in ' today's church is to meet the challenges of the time, not with erudite pOSition papers and pronouncement's but with nuts and bolt~ approach to funda,mental needs. ~ There is a hunger among the people of God that ,is not fed by past pretenses or present presumptions. The American Church, for example, has nourished and developed an'education sys­ tem that is one of fier mosi distinguished halfmarks and that offers opportunity to any hardworking and spirited student.

Given this fact alone, it should be evident that our people will NC/Wide World phoio 'not and should not become victims'of the trite and tedious. The FRANCISCAN SISTER ZOFIA DOBROWOLSKA HELPS LAY BRICKS FOR

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'from the sluggish and stagnant.

Religious education, Sunday liturgies, parish organizations 'Unless'the'tord build the house,they'labor in vain that build it.'Ps.126:1 and prayer experiences are the basic areas of life that concern most Catholics. It is in these essential areas that efforts should be made to solidify and strengthen church life; For example, 'no longer is it sufficient merely to make sure that each CCD class has a teacher; we must examine the caliber of that teacher. So often we are satisfied merely to fill our slots. It's easy to say that education is the prime responsibility of the have either given up o'n prayer, or

By Father Kevin J. Harrington Prayer at its best instills in us a parent, but it becomes a copout if children's formal religious at best, are unsure about what role sense of faith and trust in God's education comes from unqualified, uncertifiedand uneducated No topic has been the subject oj it shou~d 'play in their lives. care for us. It reminds us that it is more definitions and descriptions teachers.

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Adult education is another. area in need of a practical approach. Our response to this all-important challenge often has been halfhearted and 'listless. Indeed, knowledge is to be shared. All members of the faith community are responsible for its growth and for making it a special signrn today's marketplace.

It is on this grassroots level that evangelization should be of prime concern. To bring back the stray, to enlighten the hesit­ ant, to instruct the searching, to lift up the downhearted is a parochial mission that can be met only with the help of caring pastoral programs. ' ' The litany of nee'd is endless. It must be chanted; it must have response. Failure to meet these challenges will hinder our ability to share our faith with future generations. It will also 'mean that we as a church have settled for less wisdom, less freedom and less responsibility for ourselves and our world.

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than prayer. It is indeed much eas­ ier to define than to understand how it works in our lives.

Two of the more popular defini­ tions of prayer are "the raising of our minds and hearts to God" and "talking to God." There seems less formal prayer now in the lives of most Catholics than there was in the past. The days of families praying the rosary after a meal or of going to church during the week for a cherished novena seem gone forever. It is useless to lament the passing of these practic:es and naive to assume that spontaneous and informal prayer has supplanted such formal prayer in the typical Catholic fam­ ily. ' One thing that is certain is that it is our ~ature to pray, whether or not we realize this. Christian prayer simply means that we consciously admit our dependence on God to bring about what is best for us.

How we pray may change but our longings are always the same. Dur­ ing the past 20 years we have wit­ nessed an abundance of changes in the way Catholics pray and it would be a mistake to condemn all of them.

Fonnal prayer may not appeal to everyone, Qut many, instead of seeking a more satisfactory method,

painful, filled with both dangers what is beyond ourselves. We may and opportunities. The period fol­ . not use the same words as our forefathers but prayerful people lowing the Second Vatican Coun­ cil is clearly one of these periods. are evident in our day.

If we bear in ourselves the image Spontaneity and joy have become a real part of many people's prayer . of Jesus, we must each become experience. Prayer is no longer prayerful in our own right. While seen as something for the select it may be true that our mode of few. Christians, gradually revising prayer has changed to better accom­ their thinki,:\g, have gained some modate our times, we cannot claim confidence in their own ability to to be follow~rs of Jesus if we cease praying altogether or relegate its pray: Familiarity with Sacred Scrip­ ture has deepened understanding practice to a secondary place in and appreciation of mental prayer~ our lives.

Contemplation is no longer seen I feel that St. Teresa of Avila, as reserved for those in monaster­ the 16th-century Carmelite and ies or convents. Again, whl\t has Doctor of the Church had an insight become clear during this transi­ into prayer worth sharing. AI- -, tion is that the need for prayer is so though som' of the·sisters in her deeply rooted in human nature convent considered her so prayer­ that no matter how its'style may ful she was no longer human, her change, it will always remain part definition of cQntemplation as a ,of our lives. ' long and loving look at the real is renowned.

The Gospel writers constantly For Teresa that love extended

emphasized that Jesus was Ii pray­ to all that was'real, inclUding food.

erful person, Their accounts are replete with examples of him pray­ On one occasion the nuns were

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Testament strongly influenced his claiming, "At prayer time, pray!

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His mother's prayer, especially Our growing confidence in our

recalled in this Advent season, is a innate ability to pray is one of the

prayer for all generations: "My soul magnifies the Lord ... the many good things that have hap­

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A quiet Christm"as This is the season we anti­ cipate, those of us with loved ones .who are coming home to visit. Whether in college, with children of their own, or our par­ ents, we eagerly await their arrival with special plans and food.

But what happens? They come home to crash. They arrive ex­ hausted and cranky because of a week of pulling all-nighters for papers and tests, chaotic flights, bad weather, and/or hours in the car with small children.

Their resources and energy are minimal and if we expect them to leap eage.rly into a round of Christ­ mas festivites, there's bound to be tension. We feel frustrated and unappreciated. All they seem to • want is us and round-the-clock sleep.

I recall the first time our eldest came home from college. Unaware of her exhausting week of finals and ignoring predictable plane frus­ trations, I had planned several activi­ ties, in' which she showed little interest. It was a trying time for both of us. I cou'ldn't understand why she didn't want to plunge into the carolling and parties which are a traditional part of our holidays. ' How easily I forgot my own experience as a young teacher vis­ iting my parents for the holidays.

The week before Christmas vaca­ tion is a trying time for teachers.

Then there was an 18' hour over-, night train trip - over~crowded, noisy, smokey - foilowed by a : two-hour car trip home.

If I were a teen-ager again, I wonder if I could withstand the psychological pressures of our present society. Several recent T. V. programs, for instance, must have given young people second thoughts about their life' here on earth.

On three consecutive evenings I viewed documentaries which de­ picted every type of nuclear mis­ sile. Graphs vividly spelled out the details on warheads and rockets and the most efficient weapons for combating a surprise attack.

Like advertisements that picture a guilt-ridden person without in­ surance standing before a burned­ out home, the message was clear.

We need all the protection possi­ ?Ie to ensure peace.

To make the message even strong­ er, the looming mushroom from a detonated atom bomb began and ended some of the programs I watched.

Adding to the nuclear paranoia of our youths there has been much discussion lately on nuclear waste.

People are constatnly reminded of how much nliclear waste has been dumped without really knowing the extent of the damage it could produce on water supplies, soil· and the environment.

Then there was the program on the animals in the United States which became extinct during this century. To make youths' depres­ sion complete, all they had to do was watch that program.

Psychologists feel th.at a contri­ buting cause iri the epidemic of suicides among youths lies in their lack of hope for the future.

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I arrived home to a mother who wanted to talk. She was visibly DOLORES hurt at my lack of enthusiasm and it wasn't a good way to start a CURRAN holiday reunion.

But although I may be a good forgetter, I am also' a fast learner.

I've found that returning children and parents alike just want to be with us for awhile. They want to be home in the same way they were home before they left.

There comes a time when tradi­ What t'hey don't want is activi­ tions need to be examined. "What ties, appointments, and other peo­ do we really want to do?" is a fine ple. They want us, good food, time . question. We may discover, as we away from the hordes, and a bath- did, that we just want to relax and room all to themselves. . be together.

We have become sensitive to Our best Christmas came when what they want and need; although a 36-inch blizzard on Dec. 24 shut , belatedly so. College students espe­ down our town for five days. The cially need time to decompress. boys skied to the market and got They're tired of deadlines, people our turkey. and travel. So now we 'plan as little as possible .the first week they're That, with card games, a make­ home.

A friend told me how she learned shift para-liturgy, music, television, this lesson. It seems her family and each other was all we needed. traditionally celebrated Christmas We laughed ourselves silly watch­ ing old family movies.

Eve with aunts, uncles and cou­ sins. Lots ofthem. As her children I am well aware that families came' home from college, they with little children went crazy that became more reluctant to be part same year but for those with older of that mob scene. children and overly-busy schedules, Then one year her daughter said, it was heaven.

"You know, we have never spent We can't count on weather to Christmas Eve at home, just our family. If I get married, I won't give us ourselves ,every year, but know how to have a Christmas we can understand that there is a deep longing within us to spend Eve at home." quiet time together and we can My perceptive Trierid realized focus preparations on that instead what her children were asking. of the frenzied activity which steal.s . They weren't reseriting relatives. us from each other.

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Except for the history books and the occasional wisdom of older persons, youths have no personal, past experience with which to com­ pare present society. Most of.them are new to the struggles of life and death.

The way young people are guided through the initial realization that the real world is imperfect often determines their strength to change it or be overwhelmed by it.

But where will youths receive that good guidance? I believe there is one rich resource that they often overlook.

Many young people are fortu­ nate enough to have grandparents who can inspire them. If so, I think a special 'effort should be made to promote some' serious discussions between the two age groups. , I have beautiful memories ofthe strength 'I received from my own grandparents and my friends' grand­ parents. They were so easy to talk with and were able to bring peace to many a turbulent situation.

The grandmas and grandpa'S I knew had 'weathered history well.

They carried within themselves the experience of the great depression,

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world wars and the,deaths of dear ones. They were open about their personal fears.

Good friends had come and gone. Their married life had not been exempt from all problems.

Some had tasted the alienation of their own flesh and blood. All had wondered at least once about who God is.

At times they confided that their journey through life seemed like a Camelot. More often than they desired, however; they felt it re­ flected confusion and a measure of torment.

But though old age and disap­ pointments' may have weakened the hearts of those grandparents, their hearts were not hardened.

The world, despite its shortcom­ ings, still looked good to them.

They had a certain oneness with self and with life.

I believe youths need the steadi­ ness that can only come from a relationship with a generation twice removed. Within the fiber of grand­ parents is the seasoned spirit needed to face our nuclear age.

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Q. After I married in the Catholic church 19 years ago, I slowly fell away from going to Mass. Approxi­ mately a year ago I decided to start going to clJurch again, not only for myself but for my husband and two children.

I was heartsick to see the changes that have been made. I felt I didn't belong even after going quite a few' Sundays.

I finally found a church that has Massjust the way it used to be -in Latin and with none ofthe changes that are so uncomfortable. I think you should tell people they do not have to put up with all of these changes if they don't want to.

(Indiana) A. I understand your feelings entirely. I also feel you are being grossly unfair if not seriously unjust to yourself as well as to your children.

If you ever had any real under­ standing of the ~atholic Church at all, you should remember that it is the living Body of Christ on earth.

It is not a museum.

During the past generation 01' two, Christian people, including Catholics, have had to deal in pro­ found and radical ways with chal­ lenges of a scope they have never faced before in all of Christian history.

The chang¢s which you encoun­ ter reflect ways in which the church has attempted to meet those respon­ sibilities, especially in preparing members of our church for the obligations and crises the world will face in the next generations.

You would not expect to walk into anyone's home afte'r 20 years, even under the calmest circum­ stances, and expect that home to be just the way it was the last time you were there. In your own home, I'm sure, people grow and change.

While essentials remain, a relative who has not seen your home for a generation would need some humil­ ity and common sense to accept differences they might find.

What I am trying to say, I sup­ pose, is that these changes you experience were not taken lightly.

Not all the changes are perfect; not everything is nicely balanced.

But the V;lst majority of Catholic people who have made a sincere effort to study and understand what is going on know that the movements in the church are not only understandable, they are abso­ lutely unnecessary to be faithful to what we believe.

As I said, I think you are being particularly unjust to your child­ ren. To encourage them in a belief that the Catholic Church is some sort of security blanket where t.hey will always be snuggly and warm is simply a lie. If they are not helped to grow in their faith now, they will find horrible conflicts increas­ ing in their adult life and they will never be able to really live their Catholic faith.

If .you read the Bible carefully, you discover that neither Jesus nor the prophets ever encouraged peo­ ple to lie down and enjoy what they have. They were always chal­ lenging those who wanted to be

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faithful to God to be on the move, to respond to the demands of the world and daily life with fullest faithfulness to the Gospel but with a heart open to the unique need for healing and strength in each mo­ ment of human history.

Finally, if you are accurately reflecting the liturgy in the church you presently attend, the priest is in serious violation of basic Catho­ lic regulations and practices on the Mass. If you pursue some of the reading I suggested you will dis­ cover that what the priest is doing is not even truly "traditional."

This is not the first time in his­ tory that the church has facedtbis kind of unfaithfulness. It has learned, however, that in the long run such hardness of position and refusal to move with the church has done little or nothing to really build up the Body of Christ.

Q. My daughter is married to a Moslem. He refuses to get married in the Catholic Church. They now have a baby and my daughter wants him baptiz4!d.

Is there a way that my daughter can receive the sacraments and baptize the baby without his con­ sent? Someone told me it can be done. (Texas)

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be done to help your daughter in this circumstance, and that the child might receive the sacrament of baptism.

Exactly how this migh~ happen must be worked out between her and the priest in her parish, or perhaps with the advice of another priest in her area with whom she may be acquainted.

Please urge her to talk with her priest as soon as possible and fo!­ low his counsel.

A free brochure "Infant Bap­ tism: Catholic Practice Today" is available by sending a stamped, self-addressed envelope to Father Dietzen, Holy Trinity Parish, 704 N. Main St., Bloo~ington, III. 61701. Questions (or this column should be sent to Father Dietzen at the same address.

(necroloqij) December 7 Rev. Ambr.ose Bowen, Retired Pastor, 1977, St. Joseph, Taunton Rev. Thomas F. Daly, Retired Pastor, 1976, St. James, New Bed­ ford December 8 Rev. Johri F. Broderick, Pastor, 1940, 5t. Mary, South Dartmouth December 9 Rev. Rene Patenaude, O.P., Retired Associate Pastor, 1983, St. Anne, Fall River, Director of Youth Activities December II Rev. Edward L. KiIIigrew, Pas­ tor, 1959, St. Kilian, New Bedford December 13 Rev. Reginald Theriault, O. P., 1972, 51. Anne's, Dominican Priory, Fall River

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The summary also called for ways of fostering greater' church unity whi.\e not hindering the legitimate diversities among local churches.

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In today's shrinking world, it is a must for Americans to be able to communicate in at least one foreign language.

To aid the small-group dis­ cussions which followed the re­ ports that opened' the synod, Ca~dinal Godfried Danneels· of MaInes-Brussels, Belgium, synod recording secretary, prepared a' summary of the lI"eports.

The summary warned of "an increase in, secularism" in a mod­ ern world ,which "casts aside and denies spiritual values." _A pastoral consequence' 'of th'is ·is the growth of sects as people seek to recapture a spiritual dim­ ension to their lives, it added.

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the The cornerstone of church's relationship with the world should be "a theology of the cross" which emphasizes the relationship between human his-' tory and salvation history., said the summary.

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Continued' from page one form of "negative defense," fol­ lowed by anger. This may be 'an asset, said Chapman, motivating one to work, ·parent -and social­ ize better.

Depression is 'frequent, he noted, mingling feelings of sor­ -row, anger and looking on one­ self as a failure.

The final stage, he said, is acceptance of the situation, "freeing you to make the most of the rest of your life." In this co'nnection, he added, the offi-' cial closure of a marriage by means of divorce and annulment is psychologically most signifi­ cant. .

Chapman -also offered a time­ table of -reactions that may be expected after separation: - The first 14 months: child­ renand adults can initially be relieved that strife is over, but this can be succeeded for the adult by guilt feelings if child­ ren are not adjusting to loss of a parent. Anxiety can be pres­ ent, often generated by money problems and stress of added responsibilities.

- 18 months to two years: life normalizes for most people, especially if children are getting consistent parenting from -both mother and father.

Discussing typical behaviors following divorce, Chapman said both parents and chHdren tend to regress, with adults possibly returning to -activities they en­ joyed before marriage and child­ Ten slipping to an earlier level of development, possibly per­ ceived by them as' -a happier time.

Older children, he said, have a harder time adjusting to divorce than do younger siblings. Teen~ , ·and young adults are in a stress­ ful period at best, he pointed out, and divorce -adds to their turmoil.

He warned against parents using children ·as weapons against each other, noting that a "Christian mustn't J:enect on or J.abel the other spouse" and that pa-rents should support each other.

The dilemma of even adult children and divorce was encap­ sulated by a questioner who said "What do you do when -a 28­ year-Old asks, 'I love you both but how do I choose with whom j'm going to spend the holidays?'"

Annulments Annulment procedures were expl-ained to a ,large and atten­ tiveaudience by Father Mad­ dock, secretary of the diocesan marriage tribunal.

He pointed out that the tri­ bunal does not go beyond an initial interview with a person seeking an annulment until the couple has a civil decree of div­ orce. "Otherwise," he said, "the Church could be sued for aliena­ tion of affections."

The secretary stressed that each case is different, but that 'all should start 'with a visit to one's parish priest, who will provide a preliminary question­ naire ,to be filled out -and re­ turned to him. It is then forward­ ed to the tribunal, which sets . up a preliminary interview with the plaintiff, usually within three months.

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Life of Mother Teresa filmed UNITED NATIONS (NC) Nobel Peace Prize laureate Mother Teresa told a film premi­ ere audience at the United Na­ tions'that abortion is the "great­ est destroyer of peace." .

The 75-year-old nun, noted for her work among the world's poorest people, recently spoke to 1,000 diplomats, church dig­ nitaries 'arid show business celeb­ rities gathered at the blue-and­ gold hall of the U.N. General Assembly,for the world Premiere of a movie about her life.

The movie, titled "Mother Teresa," came during celebra­ tions of the 40th anniver~ary of the United Nations. It was the fdist motion picture to make its debut in the General Assembly hall.

Mother Teresa's ·audience in­ cluded Cardinal John O'Connor of New York; movie stars Mia­ Farrow, Michael Douglas and Bill Murray; wI:iters Kurt Von­ negut and Elie Wiesel; and a large complement of U.N. en­ voys from around the world.

The movie shows Mother Teresa working in her Mission-

aries of Cha,rity headquarters in Calcutta, India, and traveling around the world trying to es­ tablish similar homes for those whom she called the "poorest of the poor."

Sir Richard Attenborough, the Academy Award-winning direc­ tor of the film "Gandhi," nar­ rated part of her film. Some of the most dramatic scenes of the film showed the Albanian-born nun using a cease-fire during the 1982 Israeli siege of Beirut to take spastic lichildren from a hospital which had been hit by artillery fire.

The film was coproduced and directed by sisters Jeanette and Ann Petrie, who first met Mother Teresa - in 1976 through their brother, Sacred Hearts Father WilHam Petrie, who has fre­ quently lectured in the Fall River diocese and during the 1970s was stationed at Our Lady of the Assumption parish, New Bedford. For the past 10 years he has worked in India at a home for lepers staffed by Mother Teresa's Missionaries of Charity.

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h:mented .Father Maddock, it cussing spiritual growth for the usually takes from 0I1e and' -a: divorced, and basing his re­ half to two years from initial marks on the parable of the contact to the' time of decision much-married woman -at the on an annulment. He said, how- well, noted that "everyone's a ever, that two priests are pres- . snowflake - we're all differ­ ently doing graduate study in ent." He explained the concept canon law at the Catholic Uni- of centering prayer as a means versity of America and that once of quieting the spirit and stress­ their training is completed it is ed the need for patience in life. anticipated that they will help "You must allow things to in expediting cases. happen," he -counseled.

A workshop directed by Rosa In his keynote address, Father Lopes, director of New Bedford Kaszynski pointed out that "God Catholic Soci-al Services, dealt allows sorrow to happen so he with problems involved in single can work through it to shape parenting. Some '95 percent of me." He also reminded his single parent homes are headed hearers of the possibility and by women, said Ms. Lopes, who rewards of an intense spiritual stressed that "you can't be me and the need of perseverance Supermom or Superqad. Some in "walking on our journey:' Possibly the day was best things you have to 'let go and summed up by a woman who iet be.'''

She also advised that "respon- said to loud applause that she sible selfishness is ok" and that was grateful that "for the first parents must take time for them- time ever the Church is doing selves. something for separated and Deacon Robert LeMay, dis- divorced people:'

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Department, the response I get is the U.S bishops writing' pastoral that I must be anti-Catholic, anti­ letters on subjects such as the Jewish or anti-labor." economy and war and peace'. It's Not so, he said, it's just that he OK, he said, for churches or other opposes an issue that they might institutions to be critical of politi­ be rallying behind. cal policy. He dislikes it when reli­ While Sanders, who studied gious institutions spend money lob­ bibilical theology for two years at bying for or against certain policies. a Methodist seminarYA said he cur­ Dissent, Sanders said, is essen­ rently has no religious affiliation, tial to his trade and to the "flower­ he occasionally attends Unitarian ing of democracy." services.

He likens the political cartoon- _ The cartoonist said he feels that ist to "the little kid that says the an individual's religip~s belief emperor has no clothes on." should influence ;how he orr she "We get about I0 seconds of our ,acts in everyday life, yet he ,has readers' time to bring an issue to "It'salways a problem. 1£.1 do a "!lever been particularly enamore~" their attention and cause them to cartoon critical Qf beli~fs of a cer­

with any, religion imp..,osing doc­ ,think about it," be said. "That's tain group, whether itbe, Jewish, trial beliefs on society at large. about the most we can hope for Catholic, a union, or the State

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And Sanders was commissioned by the U.S. Catholic conference to design the cartoon which was used to promote the 1985 nationwide Campaign for Human Develop­ ment - an annual appeal that funds projects that attempt to help the poor, are run by the poor and try to change social structures that deny the poor power over their own lives. , Last year C H D collected m~re than $11 million.

In a recent interview with the Catholic Herald, Milwaukee'sdioce­ san newspaper, Sanders said that he agrees with the concept of the _ CH D and was happy to do thejob.

"I am not anti-Catholic," he said. "I am a critic with a certain philosophical gr<;lUnding. I tend to do philosophical battle with'those people who oppose issues I support.

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NEWYORK(NC)-Anatural family planning and population specialist, commenting on a New York Times-CBS News poll of Catholic attitudes, said the figures seem to reflect a shift toward greater' Catholic acceptance of church teaching on birth control.

The birth control figures were part of a Times poll reporting that a majority of U.S. Catholics dis­ agree with church prohibitions 'against women priests, married priests, .remarriage after divorce, and abortion in any circumstances.

The survey was taken on the eve of the extraordinary world Synod of Bishops.

Although nearly identical percent­ ages of Catholics and non-Catholics surveyed favored a complete ban on abortion, Catholics were con-. siderably more opposed than nonCatholics to abortion on demand.

Most Catholics opposed legalabor­ tion except in very limited cases.

Both groups favored use of artifi­ ciaI birth control, with 71 percent , ,of non-Catholics and 68 percent of Catholics taking that position. " Msgr. James McHugh, a natu­ ral, family planning and popula-. tion specialist, said if the poll's bi,rth 'control figures were accu­ rate, they appeared to reflect.a sig-. nificant change from earlier stu­ dies. An in-depth 1977 study reported that 76 percent of U:S. Catholics used forms of birth con- . trol considered wrong by official· church teaching, he said, and more recently sociol.Qgist fl!~h~I>'\!ldr~w.,

out of 10 Catholics reject church figures added up to less than 100 teaching on th~t point. percent because of respondents American social trends of sexual who said they had no opinion or permissiveness since 1977 would were undecided. lead one to expect even greater The poll, reported in The New rejection of church teaching now York Times Nov. 25, was con­ than eight years ago, Msgr. ducted by telephone interviews of McHugh said, but The Times poll 927 people Nov. 18-19 in the 48 results suggest the opposite has contiguous states. ha'ppened. .On abortion, often popularly He said he was, at a loss_to identified as a "Catholic" issue, the explain such a shift unless it was poll found that only 15 percent of dueto Pope John Paul II's frequent Catholics and 16 percent of non­ and forcefUl efforts to affirm the Catholics favored making all aboI': teaching. tions illegal. The majority of Catho­ Msgr. McHugh directs a national' lics in the poll, however - 55 project to develop natural family percent - said abortion should be planning programs in U.S,dioceses, permitted only in cases of rape or but he said the relatively small incest or to save a woman's life, percentage of couples reached by and only 26 percent said all abor­ those programs so far would not tion should be legal. Among non­ be enough to account for such a Catholics, 44 percent said it should shift. be permitted for rape or incest or Among other issues covered in to save a woman's life, and 36 per­ the poll: non-Catholics surveyed cent favored complete legalization. were evenly divided on whether Questions about attitudes to­ clergy should be allowed to hold wards papal actions turned up one public office,. but Catholics 01'­ of. the few areas in which Catholic posed it by nearly a 2-1 mar.gin. _ ·Fifty-two percent of Catho­ . men and women' showed a wide difference of views. Among Catho­ lics favored women as priests, 35 percent were opposed. Among non­ - lic men, 85 percent said tht;y ap- .

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Christmas as it· should ·be.

By James Breig

opens a door and we always say a small prayer." .

You are almost sorry you asked Another custom derives from when you hear the responses. Think Eastern Europe and involves the back .a year to last Christmas. family in a Eucharist-like celebra­ What is your memory of .what tion at home. "Our family gets happened? together on Christmas Eve," one An Illinois woman: '~I felt har­ woman explains. "A thin wafer is ried, tired, in a state of 'perpetual passed to all. Aft~r the blessing motion." and in order of age, we wish ev­ . A Maryland man: "Overwhelm­ eryone health, wealth, and happi­ ing commercialization and an air· ness and a specific wish for the new of compulsion or peer pressure to year. " conform to the commercial aspect."

This focus on the family does A Connecticut. mother: "A fi­ not mean these people maintain asco." the meaning of Christmas by shun­ A New York woman: "All I ning everyone else. In fact, reach­ could say was, 'Thank God it's ing out, especially to those in need, over.' " is a major part of many families' It's enough to make you want to observance of the holy day. skip Christmas this year and move One New York couple, for exam­ on to Lincoln's Birthday. The hus­ ple, decided to give as gifts to their tle and bustle of yuletide, the com­ relatives "shares" in an overseas mercialization of Christmas, the foster child. Along with a picture frenzy of the season must have of the child from Bangladesh, they reached a peak when the slogan gave a letter explaining 'their desire "Put Christ back into Christmas" .to spend their Christmas money was created - and then slapped "not on something that would end up on billboards by outdoor adver­ up in a dresser drawer or broken in tising companies. Even the anti­ January, but on someone whose commercial movement had been happiness would be the direct result commercialized. of our effort."

That's been the Christmas curse "At Christmastime," notes a Cali- . in America for decades now, each fornia man, "we 'give twofold by year emphasizing the secular holi­ giving to more missions for the day over the religious holy day. needy, sick, and helpless people The desecration of Christmas­ and the poor on Indian reser­ perhaps best represented by the vations." cross-over figure of Santa, born in To a West Coast woman, Christ­ religious myth and coopted by ad ma's Day includes inviting "some writers - compounds annually. poor or lonely per~on for dinner."

And each year we all lament it, What motivates all this - the wonder when it will end, and wish initial decision to do something to for a deeper spiritual meaning to fight back against commercializa­ the season - all the while buying tion, the effort to plan family gifts, singing "Jingle Bell Rock," events, t~e reaching out to others and telling the kids their chances - is the deep-felt belief that the of having Santa pay a visit dimin­ reason for celebrating Christmas ish with each display of sass. Or so it seems on the surface.

Despite all the public grousing about the commercialization of Christmas, there is an underground movement going on. There are sub­ versives afoot who manage to bal­ ance it all out. They shrug off the department stores, take over the songs, hold onto traditions, and wind up with a Christmas worth remembering. Better yet, they cele­ brate a Christmas worth repeating.

How do they do it? Their methods are not secret nor difficult to imi­ tate. The basis for all their activity seems to be the ability to ignore all the ·tinsel and decorations strung . on telephone poles and plastic crib displays in hardware store win­ dows, and to look toward their own families.· Rather than let the season overwhelm them, they cut it down to size: the size of their families.

At first this inversion may seem antithetical to Christmas, allegedly the feast ofjoy and good cheer and wassailing and merry gentlemen.

In fact, their methods are in per­ fect harmony with the season. These. people recognize that joy is not in a bottle of Scotch; that good cheer is not pinching the girl from ac­ counting; that wassailing I}eed not go on until 3 A.M.; and that merry gentlemen and ladies are made so not by running up t~e Master Charge, but by realizing what Christmas is all about and express­ ing it in simple ways.

Some people prepare homemade Advent wreaths and Jesse trees, not only to remind them of Christ­ mas, but also to spur family prayer.

A West Chicago mother and her te~;-year-old daughter focus on an .. Advent calendar. "Every' day she

is not custom or habit or the urge to hop on the holiday bandwagon, but the desire to recall the miracu­ lous moment when God became human.

These people are saying they can overcome the frenzy and frus­ trations of Christmas. They can beat the system; they can give children memories as fond as their own. They can conquer commer­ cialization, not by frontai assault, . but simply by turning their backs to it.

The method, as a California man puts it, is to "keep it simple even .though society wants it the other way." That could include reviving ethnic traditions (or steal­ ing them - you don't have to ~e Slovak to use their breaking-of­ the-bread ceremony), or praying at an Advent wreath or calendar or Jesse tree,. or including the needy in your activities, or reach­ ing out to the lonely.

The motivation is the realiza­ tion that Christmas celebrates the birth of Christ and therefore our observance, a West Coast mother notes, should be like the Incarna­ tion: Always happening, always new, always wonderful, always mem­ orable. '~ The reward will be memories not of rushing around or disap­ pointments, but of Christmas as it should be. Like one mother, you will be able to say when it's all over, "I'm looking forward to next Christmas when I'll have the joy of doing it all over again, only better."

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Why haven't I beenhealed?

By Dr. James and Mary Kenny

Dear Dr. Kenny: I suffer from severe, cyclic, manic-~epressi.ve ill­ ness. I am a rapid-mood cycler. I take lithium, anti-depressants, anti­ · psychotic medication and a tran­ quilizer that helps with severe anx­ iety attacks.

Durfee ~ I cannot exercise because of a AttIeboro~ National degenerated· lumbar disk and pinched sciatic nerve. I take vitamin B-6, L-tryptophan and L-phenyla­ Members Federal Deposit Insurance Corporation. lanine. Nothing helps. I can't sleep well when I'm depressed, and when manic, sleep two to four hours or not at all. It's a living hell. .

EARLY BIRDS- ALL DAY However, I have a deep faith in SUNDAY · the Lord and try to make it to early morning Mass during the week CLOSED MONDAYS when I feel up ·to it. I talk to my OPEN TUES. - FRI. priest too. His love and concern LUNCH --,. 12:00 - 2:30 help me. .DINNER - 5:00 - 9:00 I haven't worked more than two days in six years. I feel worthless.

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"productive." I offer my sufferings Rte. 28, East Falmouth every day for some 75 people and - A L S'O ­ , all my manic-depressive support­ Hosts ,. Paul & Ellen Goulet Catering to Weddings group members. It gives my pain Tel. 548-4266 meaning. I even offer up the elec- . and Banquets troshock treatment and remember ~~~~. when Jesus had a crown of thorns pressed into his head ..

Please be kind enough to reply and tell' me why I haven't been healed. I love the Lord. (Ohio)

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Your letter is very sad. I got depressed reading it. You certainly seem to be preoccupied~ with the circumstances of your depression.

Depression comes in many forms. Reactive depression refers to feelings that come from prob­ lem situations and unpleasant life· circumstances. Usually time alle­ viates this.

In neurotic .depression the inci- . dent or cause is neither obvious nor external. Psychotherapy and medication are usually helpful.

Psychotic depression is more serious and usually involves some break with reality. Medication is often important, and sometimes hospitalization is needed.

Cyclic depression refers to mood swings from 'high energy to low immobilizing periods and may be present in both neurotic and psy­ chotic depressions.

Finally, there is the habit of depression, sometimes called a de­ pressive' personality. Your letter sounds as if you are suffering now mainly from this last problem.

Unfortunately, habits can be hard to shake.

There are six major treatments for depression: medication, diet,' exercise, prayer, psychotherapy and activity. You seem to have tried the first four with little relief.

From the medication it sounds as if you are already seeing a psy­ chiatrist. You might broaden the psychiatrist's medication ap­ proach by consulting a psycholo­ gist, one who specializes in behav­ ioral treatment. Behavior modifica­ tion is the best way to break a long-standing destructive habit.

You need professional help.

Search for positives, especially in the area of activities. No matter how confined ·you may be, there are always ways to be productive.

Stay with your support group.

Join a Bible study group. Make rosaries for the missions. Answer the phone for a local charitable organization or bake cookies for the children in your neighborhood.

Most important, you need to change your viewpoint. Nowhere in your long report do I see any abiding focus on other persons or on constructive activities. You must get that black- spotlight off your­ self. This can be difficult.

Don't be a martyr. Martyrs may be all right after they are gone, but they are hard to .live with and hardest of an fofthe martyr herself.

Search for positives and keep an optimistic attitude. Exercise is a great activity for depression. There are many forms. Look for one that you can do. Even bedridden per­ sons can perform some exercises such aspull-ups and muscle tt:nsion.

Renew your prayer efforts. Re­ member, Jesus on the cross still thought of others more than him­ self. Pray that you may learn and grow in this sensitivity. Because of . your own sufferings, you may be better than most at understanding and respoQding to the pain of others.

Reader questions on family liv­ ing and child care to be answered in print are invited; Address the Kennys, Box 872, St. Joseph's College, Rensselaer, Ind. 47978.

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Like many women, I have con­ sidered myself not so much a fem­ inist as an .,:qual-righter.

Of course, women should receive equal pay for equal work. Who · can question women's rights to equa,l access to education, credit, the professions? Naturally a woman should ride in space and run for any public office in the country.

Still, our family has kept pretty well to traditional roles. We have survived on a husband-generated income and I have stayed at home as th.e children have grown froqt pampers through. kindergarten.

Sure, there have been times when the highlight of my day was dis-' covering my' long-missing measur­ ing cup in the toilet tank.

And I admit fantasizing about sending each member of the family a telegram telli'ng them I had taken . ajob as the weird lady in the circus. and would not return home until they sent me a notarized statement verifying each had learned to re­ cognize a dirty tennis shoe lying in . the middle of the floor and how to pick it up. .Yet those so-called traditional roles have served us fairly well. At least I thought so until about six months ago when I announced at . dinner: "I am going to take a class.

Not to teach but to learn," I ex" plaine·d. "A dance class."

"All right, mom!" said 13-year­ old dilUghter.

"What kind of music?" asked 6-year-old.

"I thought ·you knew how to dance," said 8-year old.

I laughed. Then IO-year-old asked, "Did daddy say it was OK?"

That was bad enough, but spouse made it wor"se by wrinkling his forehead and saying, "Well, actu­ ally your mother and I haven't had a chance to really visit about this yet."

And before I had a chance to call him on not correcting his 10­ year-old's notion that I needed his permission to take a class, the per­ son to whom I am married made it worse.

"When and'where is this class?" he asked.

"Tuesday afternoons and Thurs­ day evenings at the community college," I said without even fin­ ishing my mouthful of lasagna.

"But Tuesday you drive me to soccer practice," frowned myerst­ while feminist daughter.

"An.d what about dinner?" said 8-and IO-year olds in duet. ·"Can't you take it Tuesday morn-. ing while the kids are in school?" asked spouse. "And who will watch· the kids Thursday evening? That's poker."/·

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Suddenly I felt like I only mat­ tered for what service's I prov- . vided, not for the person I am.

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And spouse has found that liv­ ing with someone who does some­ thing for herself (and is h.appier and. healthier) is not a bad trade for having poker night in his own garage.

Move over, Gloria Steinem.

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By Antoinette Bosco

What is loneliness?

Loneliness doesn't always feel the same. It may be a vague feeling of unhappiness; again it may be a feeling that one is agonizingly alone.

I see loneliness mainly in terms of being disconnected from other people. In this sense, it hits people who do not experience their own real value as they should because they have no way of seeing them­ selves reflected favorably through the eyes of others.

Who in our society is lonely today? ' I. The loneliest people are those who think they should not be lonely. Some married people fit this category and so do some par­ ents and children. On the surface, a person who is married or living in a family situation ~hould be in the kind of relationship where lone­ liness is not a problem.

Unfortunately, what happens some­ times in both ~es is that there is' only an appearance of being con­ nected to another person, while in reality, individuals are feeling amaz­ inglyalone.

2. Old 'people can feel bitterly lonely. Their loneliness may arise because they have nothing to hope for, nothing' to look forward to down the road. In this case, the older person ml\Y feel lonely even when involved in a fairly satisfying relationship with another person.

Some statistics I recently saw gave me added fuel for thought.

The second highest rate of suicide today, the report said, is among aging men. The reason I find this figure for aging men interesting is' because it apparently undermines' a common stereotype about men and women.

It is often said that women have a greater need for emotional rela­ tionships than do men. Yet the suicide rate among men seems to indicate that loneliness takes a toll among them sooner than among women.

3. People who feel they no longer are in control. This sometimes happens when people become ill and face a long-term stretch with an. uncertain outcome. In addi­ tion, people forced into the ranks of the unemployed often find their level of loneliness increasing.

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Often family or friends are more than willing to help. The parish is another place where 'people may be able to contact others through groups or organized parish ac­ tivities.

On occasion, a person may re­ cognize he or she needs professional help, that J'oneliness is deepening ilJto depression. In this case, peo­ ple should seek professional help from a qualified doctor or counsel­ or.

Finally, I am convinced that . loneliness is God's way of encou­ raging us to look for our roots in him.

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"1 shall come to ask for the consecration of Russia to my Immaculate Heart and the Communion of reparation on the first Saturdays. If people listen to my requests, Russia will be converted and there will be peace."

Then again, on December 10, 1925, Our Lady appeared to Sister Lucid, one of the children of Fatima, and told her the following: "Announce in my name that I promise to assist at the hour of death with the graces necessary for 'salvation, all those who on the first Saturday of five con­ secutive months, shall

1. Go to confession and receive Holy Communion, 2. Recite the Rosary, 3. And keep me company for a quarter of an hour while meditating on the mysteries of the Rosary , 4. With the intention of making reparation to me."

To practice this devotion, you must fulfill the requests of Our ladyt. doing so in reparation for the offenses committed against the Immaculate Heart of Mary. Confession may be made during eight days before or after the Communion.

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ages six and eight. Your ex-spouse, however, is very unhappy about , the prospect of quiet weekend morn­ ings and never learning the new math. To avoid the custody' decree, your ex snatches the children through a little deception and a lot of chocolate ice cream.

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The children are taken to another state, for example, California. After meeting residency requirements by living there for a few' months, your ex-spouse goes to court and seeks a modification of..the original cus­ tody award on the grounds that change of Circumstances has ren­ odered the old decree inappropriate.

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RICHARD MURPHY'

Until recently, the law provided a favorable environment for such incidences of child-snatching. Un­ der a long-standing ruling of the U.S. Supreme Court, one state In these days' of sophisti­ cated medical technology, a need not honor a judicial decision childhood epidemic is sweep­ ,from another state if that decision ing the nation. An estimated _ was not a final order. The court 100,000 children will fall victim to decree awarding you custody of it this year. No vaccinl: can prevent your children, however, has not it. And it's caused by the parents of generally been, treated as a final these children. order, ,Therefore, when your ex-spouse This epidemic ·is called child­ snatching and its symptoms are all shows up in a Los Angeles court" too familiar: After 10 or so ~ears 'house clail11ing he should have of marriage, you an~ your spouse _custody, the California court would get divorced: The court awards not be bound by the original decree you custody of your twq children, from Massachusetts. It would be

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free to consider such changed cir­ cumstances as that the kids have many friends i~ L.A., have grown used to the school system and have forsaken the Red Sox for the Dod­ gers.

In 1968, the Uniform Child Cus­ tody Jurisdiction Act was proposed as a means to combat the growing child-snatching problem. States that adopted this Act agreed to recognize and enforce the custody decrees of other states. Under this Act, as long as the Massachusetts court had proper power to hear the case (generally known as juris­ diction), the California court could not alter the original decision.

The 1.968 Act ,also covered the situation where your ex-spouse snatches the children before the court actually awards you custody.

In such a case, Massachusetts retains jurisdiction ,to determine custody for six months or more afteI: your ex-spouse departs with the children. . ' Basic' problems, however, ham­ pered the effectiveness of the Act. , It was adopted by only 80 percent of the states. Thus, many states' courts were free to substitute their own decisions for the original decree. Critics 'contended that it was still easy to defy a court order. in one'state"and institute a new

child custody action in another. It appeared that federal .legislation was the only solution.

In an effort to stem the growing tide of child-snatchings, Congress enacted the Parental Kidnapping Prevention Act in 1980. The Act requires the courts of every state to recognize and enforce a custody decree ,of the courts of any other . state, Under this federal Act, Califor­ nia courts could modify your orig­ , inal decree in only two situations: First, if Massachusetts had lost jurisdiction, such as where you, your ex-spouse' and the children have all moved out of the Com­ monwealth. And second, if Mas-' sachusetts courts have son:iehow , refused toexerdse their power to I hear the. case. . ' '. .

Before ariything meaningfu.1 can be done, yo'u must fi,nd your ex­ spouse and the' children. To assist you in this search, the A'Ct allows you to use the Parent Locater Service.

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To decrease the time that cus­ tody determination proceedings take, the Act advises courts to give priority to such cases, In addition, courts are authorized ,to award you costs and expenses incurred in seeking enforcement of the origi­ nal decree. Such costs would be paid by your ex-spouse. ,Finally; the Act declares Con­ gress',intent to have the Federal Fugitive Felon Act apply to inter­ state and international child-snatch- ' ing. Before this Act' may be trig­ ge.red, a state must classify kidnap­ ping of children by their parents as ' a felony. In most states, however, this crime is merely a misdemeanor.

Under Massachusetts law, child­ snatching of a child under the age of 18 by a relative is punishable by up to a year in jail. If ,such an attempt endangers the child's safe­ ty, a five-year stay in prison is authorized. ' 'Though not a cure to the prob­ lem of child-snatching, the Paren­ tal Kidnapping Prevention -Act means that the legal environment' is no longer hospitable t6 its con­ tinu,ed spread.

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Size, humor contribute to negotiator's success

By ,Robert NpweU

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like.to tell you that since we started this service, ,there's been a coup;, Sales and. Se'rvice ~" ' LONDON (NC) ~'Not many~ You've; ,been replac~<.\..at C~!1ter~,: for Domestic =' and Industrial , . ' ::::.::, ,people noticed in february 1980 bury by Colin Buchanan." when Anglican Archbishop Robert, 'Buchanan is a well-known theolo­ 995·1631 Runcie of Canterbury appointed a gian, recently apPol~ted suffragan'

2283 ACU5,HNET AVENUE tall, bearded layman a~' his as­ bishop of Aston in Birmingham,

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, But a year later, people began Waite "has enormous courage

ilOticingTerry Waite',s diplomatic,: and a tremendous ability to get

gifts when he successfully nego­ through to people of all kinds,"

tiated the release of thre'e British said his wife, Frances. The two

Anglican missionaries and four have four children -:... twin daugh­

Iranian ,Anglicans detained in Iran, Hirs age 20; another daughter, 19;

In 1984 he helped gain the free­ and a son, 14. '

dom of four Britons held as hos­ GENERAL CON1RACTORS, Waite's "manner is very warm. tages by Libyan leader Col. Moam­ 55 Highland Avenue and human," said an, American mar Khadafy.'Last September, he Fall 'River, MA, 02720 helped negotiate the release of the , journalist. He has "si:lf-confidence without being overbearing."

678-5201 Rev. Benjamin Weir,a U,S. Presby­ The son of a village policeman,

terian minister.

Waite grew up in northwestern

The 46-year-old Waite currently is trying to secure the release of . England.

four American hostages in Leb­ He became a Grenadier Guard,

anon, including Servite Father Law­ a member 'of one of the British

rence Martin Jenco, Catholic Ri:lief army's crllck regiments, but had to

Services' director in Beirut. leave because he was allergic to the

"If that marl had ,not gone into dye in the khaki uniforms.

Sales And Service church, we could have used his then joined the Church Army,

Fall Rive'r's Largest talents,~' said a seilior British diplo­ theHeChurch of England's version of"

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RCA· ZENITH. SYLVANIA success as a,negotiator to J:1i,s size officer worked Jrom 1961 ~64 with

and manner. At 6-foot-7 an'd'224 the Church of Englan'd's board of

1196 BE'DFORD STREET pounds, he is called a "mountain education. From 1964-68 he was '

673-9721 oof a milD, ".but he is also referred to director oflay training in the Angli­ can Dioc~se of Brist.ol England.

- as the "g«;ntle giant." ,-------------, Others attribute his success to In 1968 he went to Africa as a . his sense of humor. ' ' training and development aide in t I~~~~~~~~~~~~=: I "Get Terry Waite into a full the Anglican province of Uganda, ,Rwandaand Burundi. While there, ro.omof people, whether it is in ,he aiso coordinated a 'relief project .IIl;,I' Africa, Asia or the Caribbean, and in the southern Sudan..

I guarantee he will have them all On one dccasion during the cri­ chuckling and relaxing within five 102 Shawomel! Avenu,e 'minutes," said a fellow church sis'that followed former Ugandan Somerset, Mass.

President Idi Amin's expulsion of worker. ' ' Ugandan Asians in 1972; Waite Archbishop Runcie also has Tel. 674~4881 '

and his wife - then eight- months, noted' Waite's sense of humor.

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o'land's synod in mid-November, From 1972-79 he worked as a

Includes heat, hot w~iter; stove reo .. the archbishop told of how Waite consultant for the Cathlic Church

frigeratorand maintenance, service. had whispered into his ear during in Africa. The archbishop of Can­

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William Norgren, ecumenical offi­ 'cer for the U.S, EpiscoPlll Church ,in 'New York, ,said Waite also served as a consultant for renewal'

of religious orders in light of teach­ ings of the Second Vatican Council.

In; 1,97~ he return«;d t~ Englapd, and next year was made an aide to Archbishop Runcie. .

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LIGONIER, Pa. .(NC) ~ De-' spite some .terrifying myths (A Separate Classification is given to certain films which while not about organ donating, Elizabeth morally offensive, require some analysis and explanation as a pro­ and Richard Mickinak, have tection against wrong interpretations and false' conclusions.) formed an organization promo-. ting the practice. The couple, After Hours Joshua Then and Now Prizzi's Honor .. members of Holy Trini,ty Church Agnes of God little Treasure The Shooting Party Camila Mask Witness in Ligonier, see organ donation The Emerald Forest Plenty as a pro-life issue. ,"U's . a Jife-sav,ing method.

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Perfect Warning Sign Fright Night "-I wouldn't be involved as a The Protector Weird Science Gotcha donor if any of i-t were ,true," Rambo: 1st Blood, Part II Year of the Dragon Grace Quigley said Mrs. Mickinak, who along (Rec.) after a title indicates that the film is recommended by the U.S. with her husband has founded Catholic Conference reviewer for the category of viewers under CODE, the Committee for Do­ . which it is' listed. These listings are presented monthly; please clip nor Education. and save for reference. Further information on recent fUms is avail­ Mrs. Mickinak's interest in able from The Anchor office, 675-7151. raising public awareness on or­ gan· donation stems from her 6­ year-old son Ryan, who needs a kidney transplant. Since a de­ generative kidney disease began when he was 2Y2 years old, Ry­ given a pet; this' changed her

By Cecilia Belanger an has. had both kidneys re­ me. A child was saved from Once in a while we ar~ for­ moved. A transplant performed tunate enough to meet someone being hit by a car. in 1983 was rejected, so he has who truly believes in the revela­ All these positive things help been on dialysis. tion of God's will in Jesus Christ. . to balance the scale of the many "I'm not doing this only to I recently met a man whose tragedies in the ~orld. find Ryan a kidney," she said, life exemplified all he believed.

We still have searchers and but added, "Realistically,· an in­ He went about proving it. He those who are angry with God. crease in the number of donors was a modest person, shunning Those are their words: "I'm means we could find one publicity. angry with Godl" But our prayer sooner."

He was not satisfied with a group hea·rd one such person The Catholic Church is not superficial religion, but was in­ say she is no longer ,angry with opposed to organ donation, said terested in a deep, living, all­ Him, and no longer blames Him Benedictine Father Joel 'Lieb, pervading sense of God's pres­ for her husband's death. We director of pro-life programs for ence 'and an intimate union of pray the others come to the the diocese of Greensburg, Pa. same conclusions. the mind wit!l its Creator.

"What the church is against are Nice to' have met you, R.L. We must continu'e to believe living wills and euthanasia," he I'll say no more lest people that the spirits of those good said. guess who you are. people who have gone to our According ,to the 1985 Cath­ I've heard good things the Maker are not lost. We are con-, olic Almanac, organ transplants past week, news of those who stantly talking about the de­ are permissible "provided it is remembering them, done with the consent of the left the fold but later were ceased, welcomed upon their return, learning from the wisdom they concerned parties and does not news of those for whom others left behind. They are not lost result in the death or·mutilation of the donor." prayed. A lonely person was souls. They are with God.

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What's on 'your mind? , iQ. Is there something wrong with you if you have never had a special friend of the opposite sex? (Kansas) A. Helen Morgan, a popular singer some years buck, is re­ membered especially for !the wistful way she sang:' "Some~' -day he'll come a'long, the man I love, and he~ll be bifpmd' strong, the man I love."

In the spirit of that once' popu· ·lar ballad, you might say to yourself something iike this: .'

"Someday a person of the op­ posite sex will come along, and that person will be a YfI?!I"Y special friend to me, so special perhaps that I'll remember this friend for the rest' of my life." .

But it hasn't happen.ed to you .

School work and family actIvI­ ties ·also 'kept him busy;' as did his social -life, which included parties. But there was no steady dating. · Much can be said favor of growing up slowly, as Terry has. Your life expectancy is now somewhere in the 70s. Lots of time still remains for you to have a rich, full life. without any. rushing.

Your -teen years should be a time for· slowly exploring the wonderful world you -live in, for learning, about the many g~od things 'life offers. . Try to have a variety of acti­ · vities and acquaintances. This variety will help you grow, into a better, more interesting per­ son, orie who will be much more self-assured when that· special friend of the opposite sex finally crosses your path.

So ... ~ot to. worry. There's not "something wrong with you" simply' because you've never had that special friend. Give' if time.

"Someday he'll come along .. ," . Send comments' and ql,lestions to Tom Lennon, 1312 Mass Ave. N.W., Washington, D.C.- 20005.

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yet,and the most probable rea­ son it hasn't is that you are still very young. Ms. or Mr. Right has simply not crossed your path yet. . I've checked with some of my high school informants and they tell me they know a number of young people who ,have not yet had Ii boyfriend or girlfriend.

They say these young people do not have "something "wrong" with them. They have only the normal flaws we are all afflicted with one way or another.

Their sP.ecial frierld' simpiy . hasn't crossed their path y,et.

Terry is one of those people; he has grown up ~lqvtly;'at '14 he was interested mainly in sports, . rather' . th~~' dating.

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Members of the C-C student government for the current school year were recenUy in­ ducted into office . during a special ceremony. and Mass.

Student Council officers: Greg­ ory Baacke, president; Wendy Mather, vice-president; Kimber· ly Gomes, secretary; Mary Rogers, treasurer. Council mod­ erator is James Rusconi.

Class presidents: Eric Ross, seniors; Mark Bettencourt, jun­ iors; Joseph Paulo, sophomores;.

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Bishop Connolly High School, Fall .River, was the only Cath­ olic school am.ong the recipients.

It was cited for its Community Service Progmm, .a seni~ elec­ tive course in which students work a designated number of hours weekly at various agen­ cies in ·the Fall River area, then meet ,to reflect on their experi­ ences of Christian service. 130 Connolly seniors are taking part in the. program; ,by June they will have given over 8000 hours of service at such places, as Nazareth Hall, ,Charlton· Mem­ orial Hospital 'and ,the Associa­ ,tion for Retarded Citizens.

Father John W. Howard, SJ, program director, received the award for the school.

Hats off to the following stu­ dents from Coyle and' Cassidy High School,' Taunton: Andy Smallover, recently awarded the rank of Eagle Scout ata cere­ mony at the County Courthouse Observance of the 25tll anni­ in Attleboro; Tracie Kelley, who versary of Bishop Feehan 'High qualified for the All-State Cross­ School, Attleboro, wi1l take Country Track Meet with a fine place during the 1986-87 acad­ finish in a recent competition; emic year. Its theme will be Jim' Murphy, Mike Galuski and Brian Roster, who finished in "Bishop Feehan High School: A Commitment to Excellence, Yes­ first through third place re­ t.erday, Today, Tomorrow." spectively in' Raynham's l'ecent A celebration planning meet­ Five Mile Road Race.

Jodi Bissonette, selected for ..ing was recently held at the the Junior Oiympic basketball school; James Brennan, the father of four graduates and a 'team; Christine Coutu,re, recent­ ly named to the Mass. Educators current sophomore,. was named Association District Band; and general chairman of the obser­ vance..

Sheila 'Murphy, first place fin­ isher in her division at the re­ cent Lion's Horse Show at Stone Feehan has awarded its Croft Farm, West Bridg~water.

Daughters of the American Revo­ elution' Good Citizen Award to senior Michael Hoag' of Attle­ boro. The selection makes him Governor Michael Dukakis and eligible to apply for ,the Edith the Joint Education Committee Scott Magna Scholarship and of the Mass. Legislature recently other D.A.R. awards. held a special observance of American Education Week.· At the State House in Boston, 19 engraved citations were pre­ Class ring ceremony: 2 p.m. sented to high schools across the Dec. 14,.St. Julie BiJliart Church, Commonwealth, honoring the No. Dartmouth. AH juniors and school's excellence,achievement their families are invited to at­ and programs. tend.

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LI V E! EVERY MOMENT Live every moment Love every day 'Cause be~ore you know it .

Your precious time slips away 'Cause if you don't You mighfl just throw your love away.

I walked for seven miles this morning Footprints in the sand Washed away without a warnIng When the water hit the land But I will walk on 'Til I can no longer stand I'll take you by the 'hand There's water in the wind tonight There's a chill in the air 'It's cooling down my skin tonight Soaking through' your hair '.I11ere's warmth enough withiri tonight .. For both of uS to ,sliare ..' 'We can tak~ it anywhere .-.- .,SomeUmes I :wisbwe could take a trip far away.' ." '. "Leave all ihis·trouble and ..... . ' .. :~II~ehe ancl,~PainfOi' another day :. . :iwill sear<!h fortbatplaee'-' . '...:' But 'til I filIld it iiuIt:an say' ;-, ' .. :~:You might fu~thrOw your love ~way .'.:Don't throw, yOUr loVe away ..... .. . '.

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REO Speedwagon encourages people "to live every moment and love every day." While few' would disagree with that advice, how to carry it out is unclear.

Life sometimes springs down times, and sometimes we doh't feel so alive.

How ,can we maintain the positive attitude that the song describes? There are many an­ swers to this question but I would suggest the following: 1. Be self-forgiving. When one continues to worry ab~ut past mistakes, full energy cannot be put in the present. An individual can feel embarrassed or foolish about a mistake. Be gentle on yourself, acknowledging what went wrong but also forgiving yourself.

How you act in the future is much more important than what happen~d in the past.

2. Be willing ,to take on chal­ lenges. A common saying in the exercise world is, "No pain, no gain," Loosely translated, this means that we have to extend ... oilr pJiysical limits to improve · our physical condition.

The. same ,is true in :life. Ex· '. citing .new possibilities exist if we are wi1lirig to accept the chal­ lenge of doing' something new.

For example, you might be surprised ab~ut what you can learn ,by taking that difficult '. class in school or what you can. ·accomplish, by accepting the . 'leadership of ':1' project. .

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. COYLE.~SSID.X Jll#io~:Ma'rk'Bettencourt and Jody BoudreauIt rec~lltly ~p,reseiited,th'eir scb~l at Ii weeklong seminar in W ~shipgtori·, ,PC;·:sponsored by the Congressional Youth Leadership .cou,ndt· :Both'are honor students and active in school orgahizatforts.

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portsWQtch Teams from Bishop Connolly, Bishop Stang and Coyle-Cassidy high schools will participate in the Greater FaH River Basket­ ball Jamboree Dec. 13 at Durfee High School, Fall River.

The schedule sees Westport vs. Case, 5:30 p.m.; Dartmouth vs. Somerset, 6:15; Coyle-Cassidy vs. Connolly, 6:45; Durfee vs.

Stang, 7:30; New Bedford High vs. New Bedford Voke, 8:15.

Each pairing will play two 8· minute quarters.

Tom (Skip) Karam, jamboree director and 'longtime head basketball coach at Durfee, will be roasted Jan. 19 at Venus de Milo restaurant, with proceeds benefiting 'a scholarship fund.

Mayflower League The all-star Mayflower League volleyball . team for larger schools includes Paula SantoChristo, Kim Lord, Tracy DeMel·lo, Westport; and Chris Perreault, Lynn Carvalho, BristolPlymouth.

Tracy Camastra and Michelle Furtado of Bristol Aggie were named to ,the small schools aUstars. ' Late in the '84-'85 season the

Fall River area CYO started a girls' basketball IT'ague with four teams. The program has blos­ somed into 'a 12-team, two-div­ ision league, with Notre Dame, St. Stan and St. George having

a team in each division and St. Jean Baptiste two teams in Class B. Holy Name, SS. Peter & Paul and St. William are in Class A and St. Mary in Class B.

tv, movie news Symbols following film reviews indicate both general and Catholic Film Office ratings, which do not always coincide.

General ratings: G-suitable for gen· eral viewing; PG-13-parenlal guidance strongly suggested for children under 13; PG-parental guidance suggested; R-restricted, unsuitable for children or younger teens.

Catholic ratings: AI-approved fOI children and adults; A2-approved for adults and adolescents; A3-approved for adults only; A4-separate classification (given to films not morally offensive which, however, require some analysis and explanation); O-morally offensive.

NOTE Please check dates and times of television and radio programs 'against local list· ings, which may differ from the New York network sched· ules supplied to The Anchor.

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Films on TV Saturday, Dec. , 9·11:30 p.m.

EST (CBS) - "Victor.Victoria" (1982) - Julie Andrews plays an unemployed singer in the depths of the Depression who dresses herself as a man in order to get hired as a female imper­ sonator and is soon the toast of Paris. The humor is fitful, more slapstick than witty; slow stretches abound. Although the film takes a, benign attitude to· ward homosexuality, it is not likely, given the farcia;l context, to blur the emotional outlook of mature viewers. A4, PG Religious TV Sunday, Dec. 8 (CBS) "For Our Times" - CBS profiles reli· gious writer-painter Amy Free­ man Lee who recently was elect­ ed to the Texas Hall of Fame.

ReliBious Radio

Sunday, Dec. 8 (NBC) "Guide· line" - Marist Father Leo Foley is interviewed about ·therapy for the alcoholic.

"King Solomon's Mines" (Can· non) ·Extemely silly action-ad­ venture spoof of the search for King Solomon's fabled diamond

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Super Bowl Games Despite foul weather, most League games ·Iast Sunday Som­ , 0, PG-13.

(NC) - The ecumenical Chris­ Thanksgiving high school foot· erset scored two goals in the last "One Magic Christmas'" (Dis. tian '8nti~hunger organization baH games were played. Atten­ period for a 4-2 victory, its first ney) Confusing theological val­ Bread for the World has'issued tion now turns to the Super, of the season, over Fall River ues predominate in this medi­ 10 holiday steps an individual Bowl games tomorrow at Sulli­ North, while Mansfield defeated ocre story of Christmas in a can take to fight hunger. ' smaH town. A2, G van (formerly &haefer) Stadium, New Bedford 6 - 3 . ' Bread for the World said the in Foxboro. New, Bedford and The standings have Fall River "Shoah" (New York Films) holiday season allows Ameri­ Bridgewater-Raynham are among South 6-0-2 (won, ·lost, tied); teams to play, with New Bed- Mansfield 5-3-0; New Bedford Death camp 'survivors, former cans "to reflect upon and active­ ,ford competing in Division Two. 4-3-1; Fall. River North 2-6; Nazi officials 'and Poles living in ly show their concern for hun­ the vicinity of the extermination gry people" by taking one or In Bristol County CYO Hockey Somerset 1-1-6., sites are interviewed in this more of these actions: become better informed about hunger; French documentary on the Holo­ discuss hunger with family and caust. Although it does not show friends; interest others in the any photographs of Hitler's mass murder of European Jewry, issue; contribute to a church program or a relief agency; help LOS ANGELES (NC) - In the The PG-13 rating cautions the. survivors' oral history of form a -local or c1:lUrch hunger events is powerful and often minds of many movie-goers, R- parents to give special guidance group; simplify your lifestyle; be· rated movies today contain sub- for attendance of children under shocking, all the more so be­ come a citizen advocate; pray; cause it personalizes the horror ject matter that used to be con- 13. begin now; and don't be dis­ of the camps.

Subtitled and more sidered soft core pornography, An R rating restricts attencouraged. said Conventual Franciscan dance of children under 17 un- than nine hours in 'length, ,the

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Father Bruce Ritter. less they are accompanied by an Father Ritter, founder of the 'adult. A movie rated X means resource on the Holocaust. A2,

New York-based Covenant no one under 17 can be admitted. no Motion Picture A'ssociation of America ratings.

House for runaway and exploited Ratin~s have changed because ST. LOUIS ,(NC) Father children, commented on the the movie industry "can't have "Starchaser" (Atlantic) Young Lucas McGrath, 'a priest from movie ratings during a hearing sterner standaNts" than those Orin uses a magic sword to free the Diocese of Rockville Centre, in Los A'ngeles by the U.S. At· which guide "other delivery sys­ his people from enslavement by N.Y., who work~ with abandon­ torney General's Commission on terns," said Valenti. a wicked despot. This animated ed children in Honduras, has Te­ Pornography.

What the public sees on tele- 3-D movie is juvenile fun ex­ ceived the Bishop Forbin-Janson The priest is one of 11 mem- v'ision and finds on bookshelves cept for :its abundance of car­ Award from the Holy Childhood bers of the commission, named "we didn't see 15 years ago," toon violence. A3, PG Association. Father McGrath, in May to study the effects of Valenti said. born in B.rooklyn, 'N.Y., and "White Nights" (Columbia) raised' on' Long Island, opened pornography and to recommend Father Ritter said the film in­ Excellent dance sequences high­ St. Dismas Center for street measures to control its pro- dustry seems "to resist estab­ duction and distribution. lishing any criteria at aU" for light this film about a dissident children in Honduras along with Vietnam veteran 'ana a Russian two other American priests. The .

Among those testifying before what a rating system should' in­ defector's flight to freedom from award is given 'annually' to a the commission at the Tecent clude. behind the Iron' Curtain. A2, person or group that does out· "In five years will we see ex­ hearing was Jack Valenti, presi. standing work with children. dent of the lYIotion Picture Asso- plicit behavior in aI,l R-rated PG-13 ciation of America. film?" the priest said: Father, Ritter said that "th¢ According to Valenti, language sensuality,g;:tp.l, between movies helps define the line between, rated PG-t3, movies rated R an~ ratings. Any four-fetter, sexual hard core films has "narr.owed words push a film into the R perceptibly.'~ . ,'~ • category, he said. ' , inc~ .. .

Valenti called "correct" tile " "We d.o not allow explicit sex X-RAY QUALITY PIPE FABRICATION perception that movies rated 'you would see.:in a soft core or , "R" 10 years ago might now be hard cor~. (pornograph,ic) film," ' , .SPRINI'\LERS G PROCESS PIPING rated PG~13. .

Valenti said. "We draw the line PLUMBING. GAS FITTING. HEATING', "We· can look' back to 1963' with violence and do not allow 32 Mill Street (Route 19~ and a, picture like 'Midnight that murky world of sadomaso­ , ~net. MA 02102 CowboY'that was rated X cl,lism and hyphenatec,l aberra­ I'd probably" 'give' it a PG-13 tion's in iHilms. The difficulty is . 644-2221 now," he said. how you define it on paper." '

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mormngs Morning Prayer Will be Christmas party 7:30 p.m. Dec. 9, bread) IS available at the pansh offered before 9 o'clock Mass; and St. Kilian rectory basement. All wel­ school. . come. penance services will. be held in all Statues of Infant Jesus for home ST. JAMES, NB religious education classes the week nativity set use will be blessed Dec. of Dec. 16. On display in the church Installation of altar boys: II a.m.

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are a Jesse Tree designed by 5th anp Mass Dec. 8. .

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6th graders and an Advent wreath CYO members will carol and dis­ NO DARTMOUTH

made by Steven Cuttle. tribute gifts at nursing homes, assemb­ New Year's Eve party open to all ST. PATRICK, SOMERSET ling the gifts at 2 p."m. Dec. 8. widowed persons in diocese: includes Mass, buffet dinner, party. Over­ Volunteers for a Christmas choir are needed~ CCD students wil.1 par­ ST. LOUIS de FRANCE, ni.ght accommodations and contin­ SWANSEA ticipate in 4 p.m. and 9 a.m. Mass Purple banners will signify the ental breakfast available. Informa­ tion: George and Imelda Vezina, during Advent.

Sundays of Advent within the church, with Advent wreaths suggested for 998-3269. Registration deadline: Dec. HOLY NAME, NB . The parish choir will entertain at home observance.

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CHRISTIAN LIVING, Youth Group members will visit ATTLEBORO 1;30 p.m. Dec. 9. at 3 p.m.

Sunday.

LaSalette Shrine SACRED HEART , FR "Every~hing you've ever wanted ST. PATRICK, FALMOUTH to know about religious life but Gifts for nursing home patients Saints and Singers will offer a never had the chance to ask," an may be left under the Jesse Tree in the-church.

Christmas musicale at 4 p.m. Dec. . informal evening with men and the Cathedral Choir will present 15.

women religious from several com­ munities active in the Fall Riverdio­ an Advent concert at Sacred Heart .HOLY ROSARY, TAUNTON

at 3 p.m. Dec: 15. All welcome.

Healing Mass: 2 p.m. Sunday. All cese, will be held from 7 to 9 p.m.

Sunday. All people 18 or older are Mass will be offered at noon tomor­ welceme. welcome. Information and pre-regis­ row in honor of the 40th anniversary of the appointment ofretired Bishop ~ CATHOLIC WOMAN'S CLUB, NB tration: Sister Annette Desmarais, James L. Connolly' as pastor of Christmas meeting: 7:30 p.m. Dec. 669-5433.

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DEAF APOSTOLATE Entertainment: "Eileen and Gayle."

ESPIRITO SANTO, FR Members asked to bring a meatless

Members and friends will cele­ A videotape by Father Chuck brate the International Year of Youth food item for a Christmas basket.

Gallagher, SJ, is being used by Cou­ at 2 p.m. Sunday at St. John of God Information: Rita C. Rock, 995-2108.. pIes' Group members in a marriage Church, Somerset, instead of at Crys­ ST. ANNE, FR enrichment program.

Appreciation lunch for senior citi­ ST. PATRICK, FALMOUTH . tal Springs School, Assonet, as pre­ viously announced. All welcome. zens (65 or older) sponsored by par­ Through a "giving tree," ST. GEORGE, WESTPORT' parishioners will provide Christmas ish school students: II a.m. to I:30 presents for needy children. Gifts Christian Coffee House with St. p. m.' Dec. 19, school auditorium. will be left at the parish hall for . George Folk Gr-'oup: 7:30 p.m. Dec. Reservations (by Dec. 13): 678-2152.

ST. MARY, NO. ATTLEBORO delivery by "Santa's elves."

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DOMINICAN LAlTY, FR St. Rose of Lime chapter meeting: 7:30 p.m. Dec. 13, Park St. Members asked to bring gifts for sisters in convent infirmary.

CAMP FIRE Among recipients of the Marian Youth Medal at the recent annual diocesan Youth Award ceremony were Camp Fire members Nicolette Collard, Ann-Marie Mello, Pauline Viveiros and Erin Hickey.

NOTRE DAME, FR The' parish bids goodbye to the Jesus-Mary Convent on Easter'n Ave­ nue. Sisters will continue to serve the parish school but will reside on Highland Avenue.

ST. JOSEPH, FAIRHAVEN Families or indiViduals are invited to participate in Sunday Advent ser­ vices by lighting the Advent wreath candles.

Assistance at the New Bedford soup kitchen is requested today.

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ST. PATRICK, FR POCASSET' A Giving Tree has been placed at St. Francis ofCapefraternity recep­ . the altar bearing requests for gifts tion of novices, including Mass, hom­ for nursing home residents. Pari­ ily and Christmas pageant: 2 p.m. shioners are asked to take .a request Dec. 15, St. John's.Church. and return a wrapped and labeled ST. FRANCIS XA VIEl!{, gift for distribution by Women's HYANNIS .

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Advent prayer calendars available The late Sarah Spellman has left - at entrances to church and chapel. the parish $2,700 which will be used for chapel renovations.

ST. JOAN OF ARC, ORLEANS The Youth Group will visit La­ Visitation Guild thanks parishion­

Salette Shrine Dec. 9. ers who donated food and funds for needy persons on Outer Cape.

CORPUS CHRISTI, SANDWICH A liturgy of the Holy Spirit at 8 ST. JOHN EVANGELIST, . tonight will mark the first anniver­ POCASSET sary of the Friday Night Prayer Babysitting available 9: 15 a.m.

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Wednesday. Information: 428-9456.

The new Couples and Singles Saints and Singers will offer a group will sponsor a trip to LaSalette . Christmas musicale at 8 p.m. Dec. Shrine. at 4 p.m. Dec. 17.

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Bishop's Ball Jan. 10. Reservations

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ST. THOMASMORE,SOMERSET Women's Guild trip to Renoir Families in religious education exhibit in Boston Dec. 12. program are participating in an Ad­

ST. ANTHONY, MATTAPOISETT Families are asked to share Christ­ mas orna'ments for the parish tree.

Advent pen'ance service: 7 p.m.

Dec. 13; family program 4:30 p.m.

Dec. 15.

Healing Mass: 2 p.m. Sunday. All welcome.

. SS. PETER & PAUL, FR A Jesse Tree is being decorated by parish families. r A reception will follow first pen­ ance ceremonies for ·second graders at 4 p.m. Dec. 15.

ST. ANTHONY, E. FALMOUTH Family Ministry Commission mem­ ST. STANISLAUS, FR bers and confirmation candidates Confirmation Advent retreat dir­ are providing Christmas trees and, ected by youth minister Tony Medeir­ gifts for needy area families. os: all day .Dec. 14.

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