Positive parenting with teenagers

By Jessica Kilpatrick, MA, LPC-S

It seems like only yesterday your child was looking to you for guidance and approval, and now you’re more likely to get an eye roll from your teen than a smile. How did things change so fast, and how can you maintain positive discipline without turning every encounter into a power struggle?

Stay positive. Parenting teenagers is challenging and finding the right type of teen discipline that works for your family is not always easy. Your child is growing and changing, and your parenting techniques must change with them. Building those techniques on positive parenting will help you find a path forward together.

It helps to realize that your teen is naturally wired to seek more independence and find her (or his) own identity, which often leads to questioning parental authority and testing boundaries. Teen discipline is important for teens and par- ents. Even though it can be frustrating, tiring, and even scary to see your child pull away and take risks, it’s important to stay involved and keep the lines of communication open. Open communication is a key positive parenting technique.

Since she was little, your child has been learning what to say and how to say it to get what she wants. As kids become teens they might even think they’re master negotiators. Consistent, calm communication is your greatest tool to maintaining positive and effective discipline.

As your kids grow and become independent, it might feel like you’re replacing fun and togetherness with endless lectures about rules and responsibility. Teens complain that their parents don’t listen to them and parents say the same about their teens. Our lives are so busy that we too often try to fit talks in during car rides or between commercial breaks. It’s hard to set aside time for meaningful conversations, especially when things seem okay and you don’t want to rock the boat. But setting a dedicated time and space to talk to your teen about her life shows that you’re serious about communicating. Step away from other tasks so you can give your full attention to your teen, which should help her be more engaged. Set aside phones, turn off the TV and computer, and focus on listening to each other.

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Jessica Kilpatrick is a licensed professional counselor and the chief program officer at STARRY in Round Rock, Texas. Jessica received her Bachelor of Science in Applied Learning and Development from The University of Texas at Austin and a Master’s in Professional Counseling from Texas State University. She has more than 20 years of experience in working with children in foster home, school, community center, and counseling settings.

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Community Calendar

April 6

Lady Broncos v Claude• 3:00 p.m. • Home

April 6

Broncos v Naz • 4:00 p.m. • Home

April 7 & 8

The Super Mario Bros. Movie • 7:30 p.m. • Mulkey Theater

April 9

The Super Mario Bros. Movie • 2:00 p.m. • Mulkey Theater

April 11

Broncos v Shamrock • 4:30 p.m. • Away

April 11

Lady Broncos v Gruver• 4:00 p.m. • Home

April 12

Broncos & Lady Broncos Track District Meet @ Wellington

April 14 Broncos v Valley • 4:00 p.m. • Home

April 14

Lady Broncos v West Texas• 5:00 p.m. • Away

April 14 & 15

The Super Mario Bros. Movie • 7:30 p.m. • Mulkey Theater

April 16

The Super Mario Bros. Movie • 2:00 p.m. • Mulkey Theater

April 18

Lady Broncos v Booker • 4:00 p.m.

• Home

April 18

Broncos v Wellington • 4:40 p.m. •

Away

CJH competes in District track meet

The Colts and Lady Colts finished their track season with the district track meet in Shamrock. The eighth grade Colts’ sprint relay and 800m relay took the top spot over their competitors. Both relays were run by Markael Anderson, Parker Hanes, Brice Wagner, and Caleb Herbert. Their time in the sprint relay was 50.5 and they finished with a time of 1:48.1 in the 800m relay.

Wagner won first in the 400m run and Herbert won first in the 800m run with a time of 2:34. Wagner also won first in the long jump with a leap of 17’3”.

Carter Luna won first in the discus for the seventh grade Colts with a distance of 87’.

Individual results: 7th grade

100m Kreed Robinson 3rd-13.7, Carter Luna 7th-15.2, Benjamin Frost 10th-15.7; 200m Robinson

7th-31.4, Justus McAnear 10th-41.2; 400m Dakotah Jameson 3rd-1:07.7, Aiden Burnam 5th-1:13.5, Robinson

6th-1:16.4; 1600m Jaxon Robertson

3rd-6:51.4; 2400m Hudson Howard

4th-10:26.2, Robertson 6th-12:18.6;

Menus

April 10 - 14

Donley County Senior Citizens

Mon: Mushroom steak, baked potatoes, green beans, whole wheat roll, chocolate cake, iced tea/2% milk.

Tues: Soft tacos, Spanish rice, ranch style beans, garden salad, baked apples, iced tea/2% milk.

Wed: Chicken & dumplings, peas & carrots, garden salad, gelatin fruit, iced tea/2% milk.

Thurs: Meatloaf, pinto beans side salad, cherry cobbler, iced tea/2% milk.

Fri: Salmon patties, smothered potatoes, broccoli, whole wheat roll, apple cobbler, iced tea/2% milk.

Hedley Senior Citizens

Mon: Beef stroganoff, homemade mashed potatoes, broccoli & carrots, spice cake w/cream cheese icing, whole wheat roll, iced tea/2% milk.

Tue: Oven fried fish, lemon pepper rice, breaded okra, apricots, cornbread, margarine, iced tea/2% milk.

Wed: Cranberry glazed pork roast, baked macaroni & cheese, mixed greens, banana pudding, whole wheat roll, iced tea/2% milk.

Thurs: Buttermilk ranch chicken, herb roasted potatoes, parmesan, yellow squash, caramel apple dump cake, buttermilk whole wheat biscuit, iced tea/2% milk.

Fri: Cheeseburger, whole wheat bun, steamed vegetables, tater tots, lemon layer dessert, iced tea/2% milk.

Clarendon CISD

Breakfast Mon: No School

Tues: Breakfast burrito, hash browns, fruit juice, fruit, milk.

Wed: Waffles, sausage, fruit juice, fruit, milk.

Thu: Breakfast sandwich, fruit juice, fruit, milk.

Fri: Donut, sausage, fruit juice, fruit, milk.

Lunch Mon: No School

Tues: Frito pie, beans, veggie cup, fruit, cookie, milk.

Wed: Cheesy breadsticks, broccoli, marinara sauce, cinnamon applesauce, fruit, milk.

Thu: Fiesta bowl, celery, carrots, mixed fruit, sherbet, fruit, milk.

Fri: Steak fingers, gravy, roll, fruit, milk.

Hedley ISD

Breakfast Mon: No School

Tues: Cheese omelet, fruit juice, fruit, milk.

Wed: Power breakfast, fruit juice, fruit, milk.

Thu: Breakfast pizza, fruit juice, fruit, milk.

Fri: French toast, sausage, fruit juice, fruit, milk.

Lunch Mon: No School

Tues: Chili cheese totchos, breadstick, veggie cup, potatoes, strawberries & bananas, milk.

Wed: Chicken nuggets, mac & cheese, carrots, squash, grapes, milk.

Thu: Hamburger, tomato cup, garden salad, pears, chips, milk.

Fri: Texas basket, corn, cucumbers, rosy applesauce, cookie, milk.

110 hurdles Burnam 4th-21.5, Jameson 7th-24.3; 300m hurdles Jameson 3rd-55.4; 400m relay 5th-1:03 Frost, Madden Emerson, Kelel Morrow, Max Caudle; 800m relay 6th 2:15.6 (same as 400m); mile relay 6th-

6:14.9 Burnam, McAnear, Morrow, Emerson; shot put Luna 2nd- 29’9

¼”, Caudle 7th-25’4 ½”; discus Luna 1st-87’; high jump Robinson

5th-4’4”; long jump Robinson 5th14’4”, Frost 13th-12’3 ½”.

8th grade: 100m Anderson

3rd-12.4; 200m Braylon Rice 5th-

29.2, Parker Hanes 7th-29.5; 400m Wagner 1st-57.6; 800m Herbert

1st- 2;34; 1600m Aiden Morris 5th-

7:11.2; 2400m Morris 3rd-10:10;

110m hurdles: Ronan Howard 5th23.5; 300m hurdles Howard 6th58.8; 400m relay 1st-50.5 Anderson, Hanes, Wagner, Herbert; 800m relay 1st-1:48.1 (same as 400m); mile relay 6th-5:27.8 Hunter Caison, Morris, Rice, and Howard; high jump Howard 3rd 4’10”, Hanes 6th4’8” Herbert 7th-4’6”; long jump Wagner 1st-17’3”, Anderson 4th15’7 ¾”, Herbert 5th-15’4”.

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The Clarendon Lions Club held its regular Tuesday noon meeting April 4, 2023, with Boss Lion Landon Lambert in charge.

We had 18 members in person, one attending virtually, Sweetheart Laney Gates, and one guest this week. We were glad to have Hedley Boss Lion Michael Metcalf with us.

The Boss Lion touted the successful 5K and egg hunt last weekend. Laney competed in the district Lions Outstanding Youth / Queen’s contest Sunday and did a great job representing our club. The Boss Lion announced that Laney will be organizing a new fundraising event with the Lions providing the volunteer work under her direction.

DG Roger Estlack updated the club on plans for the District Convention here April 22 with service projects including building ramps and planting trees. Lion Chuck Robertson reported on the successful fundraising efforts of the Clarendon Volunteer Fire Department and Associate Ambulance Authority EMS last Saturday.

The club voted to buy an ad in this year’s state convention program celebrating our 100th anniversary and as the home club of our district governor.

McClellan wins first in 1600M

Kinley McClelland placed first in the 1600M run with a time of

5:18.72 when Hedley Junior High runners participated in the District 2-1A Junior High District Meet in White Deer last Thursday, March 30. McClelland also placed fourth in the 100M hurdles at 23.46. She was also on the 4x100 relay team with Kali Curry, Lillie McCleskey, and Kaitin Ehlert, which finished fifth with a time of 1:04.88.

Other individual results for the

HJH Lady Owls were: 100M – 5th McCleskey 15.21, 8th Curry 16.09, Kelli Love 16.72; 200M – 9th Curry

35.65, 10th McCleskey 36.93, 16th

Sadie Trent 42.89; 400M Kylynne Shelley 1:46.81; and 300M hurdles Ehlert 1:13.18.

Individual results for the junior high Owls were: 100M – 3rd Payton Inman 13.21, 14th Brandon Moore

15.89; 200M – 3rd Inman 28.42; Takota Edwards; 400M – Inman

1:05.58; 1600M – 3rd Edwards

4:52.87, Brandon Moore; 2400M –3rd Brandon Moore 11:41.11; Long Jump – 13th Inman 13’4½”, 14th Edwards 12’4”, Sebastian Garcia; Shot Put – 13th Moore 17’7¼”, 14th Edwards 17’4½; and High Jump –5th Inman 4’4” and Garcia.

Addy Havens ran the 400m in a time of 1:12.2 for the seventh grade Lady Colts for first place and the mile relay placed second with a time of 5:14 and was run by Havens, Sequoia Weatherton, Eli Rodriguez, and Landry King.

Individual results: 7th grade 100m Weatherton 5th-15.4, Makynna Williams 9th-16.1, Rodriguez 11th- 16.2; 200m Weatherton 4th32.8; 400m Havens 1st-1:12.2, King 2nd-124.7; 2400m Rodriguez 2nd12:10.3; 300m hurdles Williams 4th1:13.8; shot put Williams 7th-23’5”; discus Williams 2nd-57’2”; long jump Havens 7th-11’6”, Weatherton 8th-11’.

8th grade: 100m Kortni Davis 10th-15.2, Kinslee Hatley 13th15.9, Jayla Woodard 17th-21.0; 200m Davis 5th-32.0, Woodard and Hatley 9th-33.6; 400m Davis 4th1:20.9, Hatley 5th-1:23.5; 100m hurdles Woodard 4th-19.7; shot put Zane Cruse 8th-23’8”; discus Cruse 3rd-59’3”; long jump Woodard 3rd 13’3”.

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Obituaries

Knowles

William Bryan Knowles, 89, of Clarendon went to be with the Lord on Saturday, April 1, 2023, in Clarendon. Graveside services were held Wednesday, April 5, 2023, in Citizens Cemetery in Clarendon with Rev.

Anthony Knowles and Randy Srader, officiating.

Arrangements are under the direction of Robertson Funeral Directors of Clarendon.

Bryan was born July 20, 1933, in Beaver County, Oklahoma to Francis Earnest and Deborah Ann Alexander Knowles. He married Patricia Aldeen Starr on February 13, 1957, at Bryan’s sister’s home in Darrouzett, Texas. He had been a resident of Clarendon for 54 years. He had worked for Pantex for 32 years, Donley County State Bank, and wrote prepaid funerals through Mission Plan prior to his retirement.

Bryan was a true man of God and had pastored churches at Martin, Brice, Howardwick, Hedley, and was the charter pastor of the Community Fellowship Church in Clarendon where he was still a member. In his 54 years of ministry, he performed over 900 funerals, 600 baptisms, and 400 weddings.

He was preceded in death by his parents; a brother, Frank Knowles; his sisters, Eula Collingsworth and Ruth Mehnert; and two grandchildren, Amber and Jacob Knowles.

He is survived by his wife of 66 years, Patricia Knowles of Clarendon; his sons, Anthony Knowles and wife Vicki of Memphis, Brent Knowles of Clarendon, and Dennis Kirk Knowles of Dallas; his grandchildren, Dustin Knowles and wife Krista and Shawn Putman and wife Melanie; six great grandchildren, Michael, Katelyn, Leighanna, Zaiyn, Bayleigh, and Averie; and several nieces and nephews.

The family request memorials be sent to the Senior Citizens / PO Drawer B / Clarendon, TX 79226.

Chunn

Ira Jean Chunn of Amarillo, passed away on Sunday, April 2, 2023, at the age of 91.

Graveside services will be Thursday, April 6, at 2 p.m. in Citizens Cemetery in Clarendon with Gary Beauchamp officiating.

Viewing was held Wednesday, April 5, from 8 a.m. - 6 p.m. and the family received friends from 4:00 - 6:00 p.m.

Arrangements are under the direction of Robertson Funeral Directors of Clarendon.

Jean was born on January 28, 1932, at home to parents Alfred and Allene Estlack of Clarendon.

Jean attended public schools in Clarendon. She then attended Clarendon College and obtained an associate’s degree. She married Bill Chilton and had four sons: Charles Patrick Chilton of Helena, Okla., Michael Chilton of Purcell, Okla., Steven Chilton of Pampa, Texas, and James Lynn Chilton of Lubbock, Texas. Jean later married Winfred Chunn of Amarillo who proceeded her in death on January 28, 2003.

Winfred had three children; Bruce Chunn of Colorado, Mark Chunn of Arkansas, and Cynthia Boles of Amarillo. Jean was a resident of Amarillo for 51 years. She loved all seven children as her own. There are 14 grandchildren and numerous great grandchildren and great-great grandchildren.

Jean worked for the state of Texas welfare department for more than 25 years as a supervisor. She also volunteered as a supervisor for the volunteers at Northwest Texas Hospital in Amarillo. She attended Lifeway Fellowship Church in Amarillo.

Memorials can be made to Citizens Cemetery Association, PO Box 983, Clarendon, TX 79226.

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Donate at Coffee Memorial Blood Center or any mobile drive by April 30th and receive a limitededition “Happy” T-shirt in your color choice, one entry to the Oklahoma City Zoo, one AMP’D jump pass and a coupon for one free tea at Water Still.

Water Still and AMP’D are Amarillo firms that have partnered with CMBC for several years offering incentives for donors to take the plunge and donate.

The Oklahoma City Zoo is Oklahoma’s largest and most popular attraction.

“Give blood and walk away with a smile,” said Dr. John Armitage, president and CEO of Coffee Memorial Blood Center. “Your blood donation is essential to keeping up the blood supply in your local hospitals so lives can continue to be saved every day. We are extremely thankful for our partnerships with the Oklahoma City Zoo, Water Still and AMP’D for recognizing the importance of blood donations in our community.”

Our Blood Institute relies on 1,200 blood donors a day to meet the needs of patients. Remember, just one blood donation can save up to three people’s lives!

Appointments to donate can be made online at obi.org or by calling 877-340-8777.