Confetti Chicks #1 - The Launch Issue - April 2017 by The Free Range

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ISSUE 1 â&#x20AC;¢ April 2017

LAUNCH ISSUE

Editor’s note

A BRIGHT NEW BEGINNING Welcome to the world of Confetti Chicks. We can’t wait to share the jour ney with you.

We like it a lot

The Confetti Chicks have something in common with you: we

COOL CUPS

all love weddings because we’re either planning, celebrating

Sugar & Vice is an amazing

or remembering a wedding. Who doesn’t love the romance and

boutique company that offers

glamour of wedding day fun and excitement? Or marvelling at

charming mugs and ceramics with

‘the dress’, sipping champagne and dancing past midnight. A wedding is a truly beautiful occasion as it signals the start of a wonderful new life full of exciting opportunities and, hopef u l l y, a m u c h - l o v e d n e w f a m i l y.

a great mix of style and wit. Our favourites include the Mr & Mrs paired mugs, as well as t h e s e c u t i e s b e l o w.

In this our launch issue, we bring you inspiration for party planning, dress selection, flowers and wedding cakes, as well as great gift ideas. A wedding marks the beginning of a new j o u r n e y, s o w e i n c l u d e i n s i g h t f u l a r t i c l e s o n t h e e s s e n c e o f being a couple, what to expect at traditional weddings, as well a s s h a r i n g t h e h i g h s a n d l o w s o f c o m m i t m e n t a n d i n t i m a c y.

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MAKEUP by CHANTE LE SUEUR

PHOTO by SAMANTHA CLIFTON PHOTOGRAPHY

W e w a n t t h i s t o b e a s h a r e d j o u r n e y, s o p l e a s e s e n d u s y o u r thoughts, ideas and own insights into the wonders of your wedding and married life.

Coffee mugs set, R300, Sugar & Vice

We like it a lot

MEET THE TEAM What a welcome! Serve your guests a refreshingly smooth

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and delicious Leopard & Lime Cocktail. Tr u s t u s – i t ’s a w i n n e r !

Throwing in the towel is the last thing you want to say when it comes to a wedding… unless, that is, you’re talking about gifts.

COVER PHOTO | JADIE JO PHOTOGRAPHY

K i k o i ’s b e a u t i f u l r o u n d t o w e l s

Editor | Gill Lewis

make a terrific luxury gift that

Design | Simon Lewis

will stand the test of time.

W r i t e r s | U n a t h i N k a n j e n i , Tr a c y B a r t l e t t , Babalwa Florencia Mantyi, Gill Lewis, Simon Lewis Editorial submissions? Send your ideas and suggestions to gill@confettichicks.co.za Getting married? Share your experience and insight with us by emailing weddings@confettichicks.co.za w w w. c o n f e t t i c h i c k s . c o m confettichicks

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When two become one

M a r r i a g e i s a j o u r n e y. A s m a n y l o n g - m a r r i e d c o u p l e s w i l l a t t e s t , y o u s t a r t o f f a t o n e p o i n t , t h e n n a v i g a t e y o u r w a y t h r o u g h l i f e â&#x20AC;&#x2122;s u p s a n d d o w n s , a n d u l t i m a t e l y, h o p e f u l l y e n d u p s t i l l t o g e t h e r a t t h e o t h e r e n d . S T O RY b y G I L L L E W I S

When two people meet and there is that magical long gaze, followed by a physical spark, and one of you makes that first step to ask the other out on a date, the journey of courtship begins. For some, this is a long p e r i o d o f f l i r t i n g a n d g e t t i n g t o k n o w o n e a n o t h e r, e x p l o r i n g s h a r e d i n t e re s t s a n d c o m m o n g r o u n d . Te n d e r e m b r a c e s , c a n d l e l i t d i n n e r s , m o r e l o n g g a z i n g i n t o e a c h o t h e r ’s e y e s , a n d e v e n t u a l l y a m a r r i a g e p r o p o s a l l e a d i n g to a new chapter of commitment.

For others, the transition between meeting and popping the question, is m u c h s w i f t e r. T h e r e a r e m a n y s t o r i e s o f “ l o v e a t f i r s t s i g h t ” , o r “ I k n e w immediately she was the one”. Racing heartbeats and early declarations o f e v e r l a s t i n g l o v e a r e i n f a c t m u c h m o r e c o m m o n t h a n w e t h i n k . Ye s , physical romance can wane, but for the most part, many happily married people over the age of 60 will tell you with a wink, “We knew straight away we had met The One”.

“What is important for young people to realise, and we tell our grandc h i l d r e n t h i s t o o , i s t h a t m a r r i a g e i s w o r k , b u t i t ’s w o r t h i t , ” s a y s F r a n k , a g e d 6 8 . F r o m t h e f i r s t m o m e n t h e a n d M a d d i e m e t a t a c o u s i n ’s w e d d i n g t h e y w a n t e d t o s p e n d e v e r y m o m e n t i n e a c h o t h e r ’s c o m p a n y. T h e e f f e c t s of mutual attraction have enormous benefits to both our emotional and p h y s i c a l w e l l - b e i n g , a n d i t ’s n o s u r p r i s e t h a t a l a r g e a r e a o f p s y c h o l o g y is devoted to the study of relationships. As a species, we are hot-wired to seek out a mate, and form a long-lasting bond.

O n c e w e f i n d t h a t m a t e a n d d e c i d e t o f o r m a l i s e i t w i t h a m a r r i a g e c e r e m o n y,

WHO RULES THE ROOST?

our community (family and friends) are invited to celebrate it with us, wish us

In patriarchal times, boys were raised to be bread-winners, and girls were

well, and help to reinforce that bond.

raised to be home-makers, and this status quo survives as long as the un-

Marriage is very much a community undertaking, and as such, our close circle

ion consists of two consenting adults. It was considered the natural order of

are part of it. Couples are a seen as unified, but separateness and individuality

things, and is still completely acceptable even in moder n times, provided that

should also be encouraged.

the arrangement suits BOTH parties.

As human beings, the importance of following our

I f , h o w e v e r, y o u a r e b o t h c a r e e r

dreams such as separate career paths and self-ac-

driven, or both have to work to-

tualisation should not be underestimated, but having

wards joint financial pursuits, then it

said that, the joy of having a partner to share it with, is

follows that “work” within the home

equally important.

domain is shared. Children especially benefit from relationships with

TWO HEADS ARE BETTER THAN ONE

both parents, and this is evident in

The reason this old saying is true, is because life sel-

their development as people. Happy

dom goes according to plan. Committed couples are

adults raise confident and happy

better at problem solving and decision making, and the

individuals.

most fundamental element is communication. Says Gina, 4 6 , “ W h e n I f o u n d m y s e l f a t a n i m p a s s e i n m y c a r e e r, w e d i s c u s s e d i t o v e r t h e

C H A L L E N G I N G T H E S TAT U S Q U O

c o u r s e o f s e v e r a l w e e k s , a n d u l t i m a t e l y, o u r d e c i s i o n w a s t o s e l l t h e f a m i l y

T h e i d e a t h a t c e r t a i n a r e a s a r e “ w o m e n ’s w o r k ” , o r c l e a n i n g t h e c a r i s “ d a d ’s

home, down-scale, and invest in our own business.”

job”, is perpetuating the stereotypes of patriarchal arrangements, and, one

S u c h a d e c i s i o n c a n n o t b e t a k e n l i g h t l y, n o r c a n i t b e m a d e u n i l a t e r a l l y b y o n l y

can easily see how conflicts arise daily in dual-income families as they grapple

one person in a marriage.

with the “new normal”. Each family should decide how best to share responsi-

Furthermore, achieving the goals set for their new business, requires daily com-

bilities (big and small) and who does what, but when small domestic disputes

m u n i c a t i o n a n d m u t u a l u n d e r s t a n d i n g . U l t i m a t e l y, n o p r o b l e m i n l i f e i s t o o b i g

inevitably arise, the best advice is not to sweat the small stuff. Our children

w h e n c o u p l e s s p e a k o p e n l y, a n d l i s t e n a c t i v e l y t o e a c h o t h e r.

a r e w a t c h i n g a n d l e a r n i n g f r o m u s s u b l i m i n a l l y, e v e r y m i n u t e o f e v e r y d a y. T h e y

lear n conflict management within the dynamics of family relationships, long before they go to school, and certainly way before they meet their own mate. It is widely accepted (even expected) now that both sexes study hard and work hard towards reaching fulfilling careers, t h e r e f o r e b o t h s e x e s s h o u l d b e r e a r e d w i t h d o m e s t i c s k i l l s t o o . Te a c h b o y s a n d g i r l s t o m a k e t h e i r b e d s , s w e e p t h e y a r d , a n d h e l p w i t h g a rd e n i n g . M a k e i t f u n , w h i l e e n g e n d e r i n g a s e n s e o f s e l f - r e s p o n s i b i l i t y. T h e y w i l l t h a n k y o u f o r i t l a t e r, o r t h e i r f u t u r e s p o u s e w i l l .

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a s m a n y a n s w e r s . P e o p l e w i l l t e l l y o u w h a t w o r k s f o r t h e m . T h e o v e rarching theme though, will be one of shared goals, mutual respect, and most important of all, the intention of wanting to ensure their p a r t n e r ’s h a p p i n e s s . I n t h e w o r d s o f D r P h i l , w h o i n m a n y w a y s s a v e d my own marriage many years ago: “Every day I wake up, I ask myself,

If we only remember one thing, which is, we are either contributing t o , o r c o n t a m i n a t i n g o u r r e l a t i o n s h i p e v e r y d a y, t h e n w e c a n s t a r t t o see how we are responsible for not only our own happiness, but also the well-being of our relationship. Every shared joke, every kind word of encouragement ... these are the small daily contributions that keep us together as a team. M a r r i a g e i s a s h a r e d j o u r n e y. E n j o y t h e r i d e .

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5 ways with confetti paper

In its simplest form, shredded lightweight paper provides a traditional and well known type of confetti. Simple discs (known as chads) c a n b e p u n c h e d o u t o f r e c y c l e d p a p e r. T h e s e fluttering discs in colours from plain white, to pastels or brights, are what our childhood memories of weddings are all about.

Confetti Chicks caught up with Elmari Coetzee, the hands-on owner of the Blissfully Bridal boutique in Randburg

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Elmari Coetzee is the owner of the Blissfully Bridal boutique in Randburg,

experience and that was why I kept trying on all those dresses! So, needless

w h i c h o p e n e d i n 2 0 1 4 . T h e b o u t i q u e i s o w n e r- r u n a n d E l m a r i p e r s o n a l l y

t o s a y, s o o n a f t e r r e t u r n i n g f r o m h o n e y m o o n t h e “ g e a r s ” s t a r t i n g t u r n i n g a n d

arranges all appointments and fittings. “I am very hands-on, and my goal

slowly but surely the boutique started taking shape.

is to give every bride a memorable and special experience, while of course, finding her dream-dress.”

What do you enjoy most about the wedding industry? B e i n g p a r t o f t h e B I G D AY s o f s o m a n y g o r g e o u s b r i d e s – i t i s a n i n d u s t r y t h a t is (generally) full of joy and smiles, and I get to share in it!

What have been your greatest lessons that you have lear ned about your trade? I realized this lesson when I was searching for my dress, and it may sound like a cliché, but in the wedding industry we are dealing with realizing the dreams that the majority of brides have had since they were 4 years old. As a service p r o v i d e r I n e e d t o a l w a y s r e m e m b e r t h a t t h i s i s e v e r y b r i d e ’s “ O N E ” d r e s s , h e r “ONE” wedding and it is my responsibility to make my part of her jour ney as special and memorable as possible. Elmari Coetzee Pic: Judith Belle What advice do you have for clients in terms of them choosing or selecting CONFETTI CHICKS: How did you get into the industry?

from the service you offer?

ELMARI: Searching for my own wedding dress, I just couldn’t get enough of

The first thing, and probably the most important to me as a bridal boutique

the gorgeous dresses that are available to brides nowadays, and I tried on over

o w n e r, i s f o r t h e B 2 B ( b r i d e - t o - b e ) t o r e m a i n o p e n – m i n d e d . I o f t e n s e e t h a t

THIRTY dresses myself (NOT recommended!). I soon realized that even though

l o o k o f d i s a p p o i n t m e n t o n a B 2 B ’s f a c e w h e n s h e t r i e s o n t h e d r e s s s h e

I h a d a c t u a l l y f o u n d T H E O N E o n D AY O N E o f m y s e a r c h , I j u s t l o v e d t h e w h o l e

thought was the one, but then realizes that in “real-life” it actually isn’t (I too

Enzoani, Beautiful. was devastated when my “dream dress” made me look like a stuffed sausage!). Don’t let that break your spirit – trust your bridal consultant to assist you in finding a dress that suits your body-shape, your personality and your colouring – a dress that will compliment you, and make you look like a dream. Then, stay true to your personal style – Wearing something that is outside y o u r c o m f o r t - z o n e w i l l m o s t l i k e l y m a k e y o u f e e l u n c o m f o r t a b l e t h e e n t i r e d a y. I t ’s v e r y i m p o r t a n t t o k n o w y o u r b u d g e t a n d s t i c k t o i t . D o n o t t r y o n a d r e s s if it falls outside your budget, it will only cause heartache when the dress you won’t is unaffordable. Do your homework and find a bridal boutique that has a reputation for great service, and one that carries dresses that you like, at prices you can afford. I recommend starting close to home, and then venturing further out. Purchasing your dress from a bridal boutique that is conveniently located (i.e. close to h o m e o r w o r k ) i s f i r s t p r i z e , a n d w i l l s a v e y o u a l o t o f t r a v e l i n g t i m e w h e n i t ’s time for your alterations appointments. Start early! Many gowns take 4 to 5 months to arrive after order placement and once it arrives you still have to factor in sufficient time for alterations, accessorising, etc. And, even though most boutiques have the option of rushing y o u r o r d e r, t h i s i s b o u n d t o a d d a d d i t i o n a l s t r e s s t o y o u r a l r e a d y e n d l e s s l i s t of wedding pressures – do yourself a favour and rather place your order with a month or two to spare. In my opinion the ideal lead time is 6 to 7 months. Keep your “dress-search-crew” as small as possible – too many different o p i n i o n s a r e s u r e t o c o n f u s e y o u a n d c r e a t e u n n e c e s s a r y f r i c t i o n . To o o f t e n t h e b r i d e ’s o p i n i o n i s d r o w n e d o u t b y t h o s e o f h e r e n t o u r a g e . D o n ’ t b e a f r a i d t o

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come by yourself – I have many brides who make a “solo” follow up appoint-

t h a t m o m e n t w h e n t h e b r i d e r e a l i z e s s h e ’s f o u n d h e r d r e s s – I g e t g o o s e b u m p s

ment to re-visit their favourites, and it is usually during these, quieter appoint-

e v e r y t i m e , a n d I ’ v e e v e n s h e d s o m e t e a r s w i t h t h e b r i d e s a n d t h e i r m o m s – i t ’s

ments, they’re able to make their decision.

just such a special moment.

Tr u s t y o u r b r i d a l c o n s u l t a n t w h e n s h e s a y s a d r e s s w i l l l o o k b e t t e r “ o n ” t h a n o n t h e h a n g e r, a n d t r y s o m e t h i n g o n e v e n t h o u g h t h e “ s a g g i n g ” d r e s s o n t h e

What has been your greatest wedding memory or experience?

hanger doesn’t really appeal to you.

M y o w n w e d d i n g o f c o u r s e … T h e w h o l e j o u r n e y, f r o m s e a r c h i n g f o r o u r v e n u e ,

Ta k e a b r e a t h e r a n d d o n ’ t f e e l b a d f o r w a l k i n g a w a y i f y o u f e e l p r e s s u r i z e d by a bridal consultant to purchase a certain dress on the spot – purchasing your dress should bring with it a sense of calm, excitement and relief, not doubts and heart-palpitations. M o s t i m p o r t a n t l y, t r u s t y o u r i n s t i n c t s ! I f y o u h a v e t o b e c o n v i n c e d t h a t a certain dress is “the one” then it probably isn’t. If you can’t p i c t u r e y o u r s e l f w a l k i n g d o w n t h e a i s l e i n i t , t h e n r a t h e r w a l k a w a y.

What advice would you like to share with Confetti Chicks brides and grooms to prepare them for their big day? I always tell my brides to “stop” often during the course of their wedding day just to take it all in – it really goes by so quickly and if you don’t stop you’ll miss so much. Always remember that it is YOUR day ... whether it is choosing YOUR dress, the flowers, the seating arrangements – you should have the final s a y. E v e r y o n e e l s e w i l l g e t t h e i r d a y. . . t h e y s h o u l d l e t y o u h a v e y o u r s .

W h at gives you the greate s t e x c i t e m e n t a n d j o y a b o u t w e d d i n g s ? To o m u c h t o m e n t i o n , b u t i f I h a d t o c h o o s e ( a n d I ’ m g o i n g t o b e b i a s e d ) i t i s

t o w a l k i n g d o w n t h e a i s l e t o w a r d s m y h a n d s o m e h u b b y. . . t o o u r f i n a l d a n c e a t t h e e n d o f a w o n d e r f u l d a y. Pic: Judith Belle

What would you do different if you got married again? Wear a veil! That is really the only thing I would change – I chose not to wear a veil (can’t even remember WHY!). I didn’t regret that until I started receiving the p i c s o f “ m y ” b r i d e s , w e a r i n g t h e i r v e i l s . Ve i l s m a k e f o r s u c h g o r g e o u s p i c t u r e s – and there is something very special about your father lifting the veil before he “gives you away”. Pics: Judith Belle W h at uniqu e or unusual th i n g w o u l d y o u l o v e t o s e e a t a w e d d i n g ? I n c o r p o r a t e m o r e t r a d i t i o n a l e l e m e n t s i n t o y o u r w e d d i n g d a y. F o r e x a m p l e , r e c e n t l y a b r i d e o f m i n e i n c o r p o r a t e d h e r h u s b a n d ’s f a m i l y c r e s t i n t o h e r “outfit” and that literally gave me goosebumps.

Te l l u s s o m e t h i n g a b o u t y o u r s e l f t h a t p e o p l e w o u l d n ’ t e x p e c t f r o m s o m e o n e in your line of work. I a l s o w o r k f o r a l a r g e P h a r m a c e u t i c a l c o m p a n y i n t h e I T S t r a t e g y, Architecture and Gover nance environment.

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C O N TA C T D E TA I L S Make an appointment with Elmari on 083-611-6995 i n f o @ b l i s s f u l l y b r i d a l . c o . z a | w w w. b l i s s f u l l y b r i d a l . c o . z a Boutique: 134 Kaybur n Avenue, Randpark Ridge

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5 ways with confetti petals

Rose petals are freeze-dried and a popular natural confetti alternative, especially if your venue prohibits scattering paper confetti. My personal f a v o u r i t e i s t h e s t i l l - s o f t f r e s h v a r i e t y, a l t h o u g h completely dried petals are also fragrant and ethereal. Bonus: petals are biodegradable.

DP Ferreira is a floral designer extraordinaire, as well as the co-owner and creative force behind Ecozest, located in the beautiful Garden Route town of Knysna HOW DID IT ALL BEGIN?

It all started in my parents’ garden on our family farm in the Easter n Free State, my mother picking flowers and arranging them inside the house. In my last years at school I worked in a local florist owned by two wonderful floral artists. I studied fine arts, and a fellow student friend and her mom did flowers for weddings. After I completed my studies I went abroad to gain experience from other florists. I lived in London for four years and worked in a few different flower shops, including with a wonderful florist lady Jude Roberson. W e d i d a m a z i n g j o b s a n d w o r k e d i n w o n d e r f u l l o c a t i o n s l i k e t h e Ta t e G a l l e r y, T h e M u s e u m o f N a t u r a l H i s t o r y a n d S t P a u l ’s C a t h e d r a l . C o v e n t G a r d e n f l o w e r market was part of my weekly routine.

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KING

W H AT I N S P I R E S Y O U R C R E AT I V I T Y ?

I am inspired by the medium I work with and looking at nature and how plants grow and change through the seasons, but mostly inspiration comes from w i t h i n , t a p p i n g i n t o o n e ’s o w n c r e a t i v i t y s h a p e d b y e x p e r i e n c e a n d o b s e r v a tions and interpreting a specific brief with a fresh approach. I love art, design, hand craft, stylish and authentic creatives and the natural world; it all bec o m e s p a r t o f o n e ’s b r o a d e r f i e l d o f v i s i o n t h a t n u r t u r e s o n e ’s i n s p i r a t i o n .

DEFINE YOUR STYLE?

w e l l a n d l o o k g o o d . Tr u s t y o u r f l o r i s t , b e c a u s e i f t h e y a r e

Our signature style is very natural, uncontrived, not forced, playful and uplift-

able to express their creativity then your wedding will

ing. We apply these principles for very contemporary stylised work as well as

b e n e f i t f r o m t h e i r o r i g i n a l i t y a n d f l a i r.

natural floral-abundant work. We always try to honour the beauty and energy of the natural medium we work with.

HOW SOON SHOULD WE PLACE OUR ORDER?

Book your florist early to ensure you get a good end result. I donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t think there W H AT A R E T H E B E S T W I N T E R F L O W E R S ?

i s a s e t r u l e a s t o t h e t i m i n g b e f o r e y o u r b i g d a y, b u t

Proteas, Cymbidium orchids, fynbos, chrysanthemums,

c e r t a i n l y t h e s o o n e r t h e b e t t e r.

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banksias, pincushions. w w w. e c o z e s t . c o . z a W H AT A R E Y O U R B E S T T I P S F O R SELECTING WEDDING FLOWERS?

Brides should decide what flowers they love most and then research when they are most available based on the seasons. One can then plan the wedding to be around that time of the year to make sure those flowers are available. One can have a beautiful late winter/early spring wedding with fynbos and all the proteas and pincushions blooming as they are not so easily available during the hot summer months. Although a large variety of flowers are grown throughout all four seasons, some are very season-specific and will look at their best during that time. Discuss possible alternatives with your florist that will last

Daniel and Hannes creating floral magic

BEAUTY isisinin Beauty the eye of the EYE of the theBOUQUET bouquet

BOLD

FEMININE

Tu r n h e a d s w i t h t h e s e

Shades of pink and

ROMANTIC

deep red and burgundy

lilac are fun and create

Timeless white roses are elegant

arum lilies.

a lovely soft look.

and never go out of style.

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ECLECTIC A striking array of flame coloured buds, held together by eucalyptus fronds. Pic: Jadie Jo Photography

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TO TRULY LOVE YOUR SPOUSE IT'S IMPORTANT TO DO IT FROM A PLACE OF WHOLENESS. THIS IS WHERE YOU HAVE TO LOVE WITHOUT A HOOK IN IT. MANY

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The Xhosa way Unathi Nkanjeni explains why he loves traditional weddings. Photos by Shifting Sands Couture

W ith its many nations and tribes, Africa is very rich in different wedding traditions. Marriage is something that is highly valued in the amaXhosa culture as it is a spiritual and social family affair that involves combining two lives, two families and even two communities. After all, it solidifies relationships but also enriches communities and nations by bring forth new life and new hope. African cultures celebrate the coming of rain and the first harvest of a child, and marriage is a similar cultural process which ushers in new life. In all African communities, the bride plays a very special role and is treated with respect because she is a link between the unbor n and the ancestors. After all, she might eventually bear a very powerful child. These are the steps you can expect when you accept an invitation to a Xhosa wedding.

Ukutwala T h e w e d d i n g s t a r t s w i t h t h e U k u t w a l a ( t h e t a k i n g ) , w h i c h m e a n s t h e g r o o m ’s family have made a bridal-choice for him and have taken the bride to his family house, where she will wake up the next mor ning. The warm, friendly

Lobola A f t e r t h e U k u t w a l a , t h e g r o o m ’s f a m i l y w i l l b e g i n n e g o t i a t i n g t h e m a r r i a g e a n d L o b o l a w i t h t h e b r i d e ’s f a m i l y. L o b o l a i s n o t a ‘ b r i d e - p r i c e ’ b u t , r a t h e r, a means of establishing a link between the two families. The size of lobola

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Ukutwala ritual is the beginning of the betrothal process.

varies considerably depending on the relative wealth and status of the families, the advantage to gain from the marriage link, as well as the desirability of the bride. Tr a d i t i o n a l l y, L o b o l a u s u a l l y a m o u n t e d t o e i g h t h e a d s o f c a t t l e , b u t t o d a y the value of each head of cattle forms part of the overall negotiation. H o w e v e r, t h e r e i s a X h o s a s a y i n g t h a t g o e s ‘ o n e n e v e r s t o p s p a y i n g Lobola’. This means that the family link is the important part of Lobola, as it i s a u n i o n t h a t m u s t c o n s t a n t l y b e r e n e w e d b y v i s i t i n g o n e ’s i n - l a w s , i n v i t i n g them round and, in general, maintaining very good familial relationships.

The Wedding Most couples prefer to perform both the traditional wedding and the moder n c i v i l c e r e m o n y, o f t e n w i t h a c h u r c h s e r v i c e a n d r e c e p t i o n . To d a y t h e b r i d e and groom are usually far more familiar with each other before the marriage process begins. The Ukutwala has become uncommon and, when it does happen, the bride knows of it beforehand, even though the actual event may still be a surprise. M o r e c o m m o n l y, t h e g r o o m m a k e s a f o r m a l m a r r i a g e p r o p o s a l a n d , i f i t

Lobola. The large communal wedding is still very much the preferred way to celebrate, but it is either preceded by (or followed by) the civil act of signing t h e r e g i s t e r. T h i s t y p i c a l l y h a p p e n s o n a d i f f e r e n t d a y t o t h e m a i n c e r e m o n y. A church wedding can also take place in which the bride either wears white or dresses in the more colourful East African style. Following a church

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i s a c c e p t e d , h e w i l l s e n d a d e l e g a t i o n t o t h e b r i d e ’s f a m i l y t o n e g o t i a t e

wedding the families sometimes host a formal reception separate to the t r a d i t i o n a l c e r e m o n y, w h i c h m a y e i t h e r b e r e s t r i c t e d t o g u e s t s o r o p e n t o a l l . Once the Lobola is finalised then the marriage can take place. On an a p p o i n t e d d a y t h e b r i d e ’s f a m i l y w i l l b r i n g h e r t o t h e g r o o m ’s h o u s e , a m i d s t celebrations in which animals are slaughtered as a sacrifice to the ancestors. In so doing they are inviting them to bless the occasion as well as introducing the bride to the ancestors. There are no formal invitations for this event but, instead, whoever wishes to can participate in the celebrations – and this often leads to very large crowds. The whole event is joyous and very communal in spirit, and the celebrations go on for at least two to three days at the b r i d e ’s h o m e a n d t h e g r o o m ’s – b u t e s p e c i a l l y a t t h e g r o o m ’s . I n t h e f i r s t c e r e m o n y t h e g r o o m ’s e n t i r e f a m i l y w e l c o m e s t h e b r i d e – a s well as her entire family – as a formal extension of familial relations. At this point both families are now formally related. The bride is given a knife and she has to stick it into the ground. The knife in the ground symbolises the sharing of wedding rings and the accepta n c e o f t h e g r o o m ’s p r o p o s a l , a s w e l l a s s h o w i n g r e s p e c t t o h e r h u s b a n d . The bride and groom are kept apart on the day of the ceremony in order to

c e r e m o n y i s a l l o v e r. T h e n i t i s t h e i r t i m e a s a c o u p l e … a n d t h e y a r e e x p e c t ed to immediately go and make babies. The second ceremony is Ukwamkelwa kukaMakoti (welcome of the Xhosa bride), during which the bride is dressed in dark clothes. The period is called ‘ukudliswa amasi’. This signifies that the bride is welcomed as a daughter

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build the excitement of finally being together as husband and wife once the

i n t o t h e g r o o m ’s f a m i l y a n d s h e w i l l b e d r e s s e d i n a s e c o n d s e t o f c l o t h i n g . T h i s

and aunts. The bride and groom are then given a new bedroom set, the signifi-

w i l l i n c l u d e a s m a l l b l a n k e t ( t o c o v e r a l l t h e b a d o f t h e f a m i l y, a s t h e n e w f a m i l y

c a n c e o f w h i c h i s t h a t t h e y w i l l b e c r e a t i n g a n e w l i f e t o g e t h e r. O t h e r w e l c o m e

would confide the family secrets to her), and a towel that is wor n close to the

gifts from friends and family members include kitchen supplies and things to

b r i d e ’s c h e s t t o k e e p h e r h o u s e s e c r e t s t o h e r s e l f a n d s o a s n o t t o e m b a r r a s s

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her husband and make him or their home a subject of gossip. Looking down in amaXhosa culture is a display of respect to elders, as looking them straight in the eyes means you are challenging them. The final stage of the marriage occurs when the bride and groom show themselves to the community by walking along the m a i n r o a d t o g e t h e r. T h i s i s k n o w n a s u k u c a n d a i b a l a .

Wedding food T h e f o o d a n d d r i n k s a r e h o m e - b r e w e d t r a d i t i o n a l b e e r, t r i p e (sometimes also chicken, to cater to those who don’t eat tripe or red meat), served with samp, veggies and ginger ale. This embodies the family and communal celebration, including breaking bread and sharing stories.

Wedding gifts In the amaXhosa culture, gifts (Ukusokwa) are either not prohibited or are s t r i c t l y k e p t t o p a r t i c u l a r i t e m s a s t h e b r i d e ’s f a m i l y i s a l l o w e d t o g i f t t h e i r in-laws with anything. At the same time, this signifies an appreciation for being welcomed and the two families are now formally related – from t h e e l d e r s a n d t h e r e p r e s e n t a t i v e s o f t h e f a m i l y, r i g h t d o w n t o a l l t h e u n c l e s

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The bachelorette

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The bachelorette party is about more than just a n i g h t o n t h e t o w n . I t ’s o f t e n a r a r e o p p o r t u nity for many of the girls to get together and spend time with friends they seldom get to s e e a n d i t ’s a l s o t h e b r i d e - t o - b e ’s l a s t n i g h t o u t w i t h h e r f r i e n d s a s a s i n g l e l a d y.

A w o m a n ’s w e d d i n g i s s o m u c h m o r e t h a n j u s t one special day as a princess in the dress o f h e r d r e a m s – i t ’s a t i m e i n h e r l i f e t h a t i s filled with many special events, occasions and activities.

A s s u c h , i t ’s a s m u c h o f r e s p o n s i b i l i t y a s a n h o n o u r t o b e n o m i n a t e d a s bridesmaid. In the excitement of your best friend getting engaged, with thoughts of frothy white dresses looming large in your mind, the last thing you’re thinking about is the actual logistics of what you have taken on.

A n d w h i l s t i t ’s a n h o n o u r t o b e t h e c h o s e n o n e , i t c a n b e d a u n t i n g , e s p e c i a l l y if you haven’t been involved in wedding preparations before so remember t h a t a l i t t l e p r e p a r a t i o n a n d p l a n n i n g a h e a d o f t i m e w i l l g o a l o n g w a y.

KEEP THE BRIDE IN MIND

P L A N A H E A D B E F O R E Y O U H AV E T O C AT C H U P

This may seem like the most obvious tip of them all, but you’d be surprised at

Planning ahead is one of the essential rules when throwing any event. Allow

h o w o f t e n p e o p l e f o r g e t t o t a k e t h e b r i d e ’s l i k e s a n d d i s l i k e s i n t o a c c o u n t .

yourself enough time to plan for snags and make sure you have a back-up plan

J u s t b e c a u s e i t ’s a b a c h e l o r e t t e d o e s n ’ t a u t o m a t i c a l l y m e a n i t s h o u l d b e a

in case something serious happens – especially if your venue is outdoors.

wild party including loads of alcohol and a very late night. In f a c t , i t m a y n o t e v e n r e m o t e l y b e t h e b r i d e ’s i d e a o f a g o o d time. Think about what type of person she is: laid-back, bohem i a n , o u t g o i n g , a d v e n t u r o u s , c l a s s y, o r t r e n d y ? Whether you like the same things or not, the party is about t h e b r i d e s o i t m u s t b e w h a t s h e w i l l e n j o y. T h i s a l s o n a r r o w s your options considerably – which alleviates a lot of stress from the get-go.

E S TA B L I S H A B U D G E T Ye s , i t ’s b o r i n g b u t c o s t a n d m o n e y c a n b e t h e m o s t s t r e s s ful parts of planning a bachelorette because once you start to add up all the items on your list, including transport, gifts, entertainment and catering, things can start to look pretty expensive. I t ’s t r a d i t i o n a l f o r t h e b r i d a l p a r t y a n d b a c h e l o r e t t e g u e s t s to host the event for the bride, so make sure everyone invited can actually afford what you’ve got planned. Be gracious w h e n p l a n n i n g t h e f i n a n c i a l a s p e c t s o f t h e p a r t y, a n d s t i c k t o y o u r b u d g e t . I t

This also goes a long way to ensure that you don’t forget anything crucial

will also save you from the additional stress of having to hound people for pay-

a n d i t g i v e s y o u t i m e t o s o u r c e t h e b e s t o p t i o n s i n s t e a d o f t a k i n g w h a t ’s a v a i l -

ments in the future.

able because you have left everything until the last minute.

C R E AT E A C H E C K L I S T

D E L E G AT E

It will help you create an initial timeline of everything that needs to get done

Ye s , a s m a i d o f h o n o u r, t h e b a c helorette remains your responsibility but delegat-

b e f o r e t h e p a r t y. P r i n t o u t t h e c h e c k l i s t a n d t h e n p u t t h e v a r i o u s t a s k s i n t o y o u r

i n g n o t o n l y h e l p s y o u a c c o m p l i s h everything in time, it also helps everyone to feel

calendar so that you can keep tabs on all your plans, guest payments and other

i n v o l v e d f ro m t h e g e t - g o a n d b r i ngs about a sense of team accomplishment which

party developments. Start a Facebook group to keep all the information in one

c a r r i e s f o r t h i n t o t h e w e d d i n g d ay.

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place. This also allows the guests to get to know each other a little better before the event and also creates a fun memory page to look back on.

M O S T O F U S E Q U AT E T H E W O R D S “ B A C H E L O R E T T E PA RT Y ” W I T H loud music and excessive alcohol, tacky penis straws and a LOT of cash spent. But a bachelorette party doesn’t have to fit that stereotypical image, and many brides-to-be would actually prefer not to get fall-down drunk on this very special occasion. The era of the alternative bachelorette party has arrived and many of the ideas are very easy on the pocket.

GO CAMPING Instead of going to a dark and smoky night club, enjoy an awesome bonding session while you commune with nature. Just make sure you include at least one person with camping experience to ensure you set u p a c a m p t h a t w o n ’ t d i s i n t e g r a t e h a l f w a y t h r o u g h t h e n i g h t . H o w e v e r, i f y o u ’ r e n o t k e e n t o p i t c h t e n t s o r d o n ’ t e v e n h a v e a n y, t h e n t h e r e a r e a couple of great places that have really cool pre-pitched tents like Injisuthi Camp in the uKhahlamba-Drakensberg Park and in Tietiesbaai, j u s t n o r t h o f P a t e r n o s t e r, t h e e c o - f r i e n d l y B e a c h C a m p w h i c h h a s p r e - p i t c h e d c o m f o r t a b l e b e d d e d Tw i n Te n t s a n d A - f r a m e t e n t s k i t t e d

out with all the necessary camping gear would tempt even those who don’t

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enjoy camping.

Rent a limo or chose a designated driver and head for the winelands. Plan a route of several estates and enjoy a leisurely lunch in a tranquil setting at the

BOOK A COOKING CLASS

l a s t s t o p . M a k e s u r e t o b u y a b o t t l e o f t h e b r i d e ’s f a v o u r i t e w i n e a t e a c h s t o p

Another great option for the bachelorette who isn’t much of a party animal,

f o r h e r t o s h a r e w i t h h e r p a r t n e r.

cooking classes are great fun and a source of very useful new skills and are a g r e a t w a y f o r t h e g i r l s t o r e l a x a n d h a v e a w h o l e l o f f u n . Yo u a r e a l l o w e d t o

O L D FA S H I O N E D S L U M B E R PA R T Y

cook and drink wine, after all. Several schools also offer great theme classes

Blow up air mattresses, grab your sleeping bags, order pizza and then stay up

so you can try your hand at anything from French cuisine to home-made pasta

all night watching your guilty pleasure movies, giving each other facials and

or even sushi. Mmmmm…

g e t t i n g g o o f y i n y o u r P J ’s .

TA K E A R O A D T R I P

O P T F O R A H E A LT H - T H E M E D PA R T Y

There are few things quite as exhilarating as hitting the open road to explore

I n s t e a d a c q u i r i n g a c r i p p l i n g h a n g o v e r a n d e a t i n g t e r r i b l y, w h y n o t m a k e i t a

new places, sharing an adventure with friends and creating memories to last

day or weekend of replenishment? Book a yoga class, plan a hiking trip with a

a lifetime. The Wester n Cape offers myriad great destinations, all within easy

delicious picnic in a beautiful setting (champagne is not unhealthy), book a day

driving distance. From lush green vineyards, to rugged terrain and pristine

at a health spa or hire bikes and cycle through the winelands ending with lunch

beaches, you quite literally have the world on your doorstep.

at a wine farm.

TA K E I N A C O M E D Y C L U B

F i n a l l y, y e s , j u s t a b o u t e v e r y m o m e n t a t t h e b a c h e l o r e t t e i s a g r e a t p h o t o o p -

Comedy clubs are the new hot thing in South Africa and all major cities and

p o r t u n i t y, b u t t o m a k e t h e m e v e n m o r e m e m o r a b l e , w o r k i n s o m e c l e v e r d e c o r.

towns have great comedy venues where diverse comedians shake things up and

props or fun activities that either inspire drunken hilarity or serve as great

keep you in stitches up with scathing satire, colourful impersonations, improvi-

b a c k d r o p s f o r f u n , g r o u p s h o t s . H o w e v e r, d o n o t p o s t t h e r e s u l t s i n d i s c r i m i -

sation routines and open mic sessions. All in all a great, uplifting night out and

n a t e l y o n s o c i a l m e d i a w i t h o u t c h e c k i n g w i t h a l l t h e g i r l s i n s h o t f i r s t . I t ’s a l i t -

if you sit near the front in their firing line, the bride-to-be will certainly be the

tle gesture that could spoil your perfect event that took so many hours to plan

centre of attention.

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ALWAYS

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NEVER

turn the page in the middle of a sentence. Ask the average person what inspires them their biggest stress.

When printing out your speech, be sure you NEVER have to tur n

Even the most confident people are filled with dread when asked

the page in the middle of a sentence. Insert a page break instead.

to deliver a speech. Great orators seem to carry it off with such

Far better to print out four extra pages rather than to be fumbling with

consummate ease, and they in turn put their audience at ease.

turning a page in the middle of a hilarious or deeply emotional sentence.

W h e n i t â&#x20AC;&#x2122;s y o u r t u r n t o t a k e t h e m i c r o p h o n e , k e e p i n m i n d y o u r i n t e n t i o n ,

Tu r n i n g t o t h e p a g e r e s u l t s i n a m o m e n t a r y p a u s e , a n d i t t a k e s j u s t t h o s e

come well prepared, speak from the heart and by all means use notes,

two seconds to lose the impact of your words. Keep it punchy by having

steady your breathing, keep a chilled glass of water at hand, and follow

bullet point reminders on cards or read from a tablet, ensuring that the

this one golden rule:

t e x t r u n s c o n t i n u o u s l y, a n d t h u s y o u r s p e e c h m a i n t a i n s m o m e n t u m .

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Belgian bliss

A fairytale beginning for Pieter and Nicole

An inter national work project abroad brought Capetonian Nicole and Belg i u m - b o r n P i e t e r t o g e t h e r, a n d i t w a s l o v e a t f i r s t s i g h t . “ W e j u s t c l i c k e d , a n d t a l k e d f o r h o u r s a n d h o u r s u n t i l s u n r i s e . H e ’s s w e e t a n d g e n t l e , a n d so romantic.” says Nicole of her new husband. Pieter agrees, “I knew there was something very special about Nicole. She is warm, affectionate and of course, she is really beautiful!” Nicole shares a quiTw o s e t s o f f a m i l i e s o n t w o d i f f e r e n t c o n t i n e n t s m e a n t t w o d e s t i n a t i o n weddings. Merwida Country Lodge in Rawsonville, Worcester set the scene for a timelessly classic and elegant wedding in the Cape Winelands, and P i e t e r ’s f a m i l y a n d c l o s e f r i e n d s f l e w i n t o s h a r e t h e c o u p l e ’s j o y. A w e e k l a t e r N i c o l e ’s f a m i l y j e t t e d o v e r t o L i e r f o r t h e B e l g i a n l e g o f f e s t i v i t i e s . Tw o w e d d i n g s , t w o g o w n s , t w o c o u n t r i e s , o n e v e r y b e s o t t e d p a i r. Congratulations!

et moment with her four bridesmaids before the c e r e m o n y. The sparkling pool and elegant exterior of the Merwida Country Lodge

N i c o l e ’s m u m , S h a r o n , w a l k e d h e r d a u g h t e r d o w n t h e p e t a l - s t r e w n a i s l e on a blistering Cape winelands after noon. The intimate ceremony took place under a cool canopy of trees, and when Nicole and Pieter exchanged their very personal and heartfelt vows, there was hardly a dry eye among their guests.

L a t e r, g u e s t s e n j o y e d g a m e s o f l a w n c h e s s a n d c r o q u e t o n t h e l a w n s while sipping aperitifs.

A s c r u m p t i o u s 3 - c o u r s e b a n q u e t w a s f o l l o w e d b y m u c h f r i v o l i t y, d a n c i n g , and even swimming!

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N i c o l e ’s r e d e v e n i n g d r e s s b y P h e n o m e n a @ Y D E

PIETER & NICOLE Ve n u e : M e r w i d a C o u n t r y L o d g e Dress: Crystals and CrĂ¨me Boutique Photographer: Tiana Smith, Beloved Photography

intimacy emotions

3 | C O M M U N I C AT E T H E B E H AV I O U R O R AT T I T U D E f r o m y o u r s p o u s e t h a t r e s u l t s i n your need being met. Just like you don’t know what he or she wants from you, your spouse doesn’t either read your mind. Let them know!

4 | C O M M I T T O M E E T I N G y o u r s p o u s e ’s n e e d s

Th e dangers of unmet nee ds in a marriage

1 | FIGURE OUT what your needs are in the context of your marriage.

beyond your own. “One of the causes of affairs is perceived scarcity

“ Ta k e o w n e r s h i p o f a n y e x t r e m e s c a u s e d b y u n m e t

o f r e s o u r c e s i n o n e ’s m a r r i a g e . Yo u r m a r r i a g e

One of the greatest dangers to the health of a

needs in your past,” writes Nyamuda, adding an

s h o u l d b e a s a f e p l a c e w h e r e y o u r s p o u s e ’s n e e d s

marriage are unmet needs, writes organisational

i m p o r t a n t r e m i n d e r t o h u s b a n d s : “ Yo u r w i f e a i n ’ t

a r e s a t i s f i e d f u l l y. W h e n t h i s i s t h e c l i m a t e o f y o u r

psychologist Paul Nyamuda in his book Conversing:

your Mama!”

marriage the resuit is that your spouse becomes the

Building a Healthy Marriage One Conversation at a Time.

best version of themselves,” writes Nyamuda. 2 | C L E A R LY A N D G E N T LY a r t i c u l a t e your needs to your spouse.

“Many people go into marriage with expectations of

“Don’t suppress your needs. Whatever you

c e r t a i n n e e d s b e i n g m e t b y t h e i r s p o u s e b u t i t ’s n o t

resist will persist,” says Nyamuda. “If you suppress

very long before their dreams are shattered,” writes

it, it will come out in other ways. Usually the result

Nyamuda. For every problem there is a solution, and

is that we create counterfeits that ultimately destory

Nyamuda believes there are four things couples can

our marriage or coping mechanisms that are funda-

do that will bring immediate results.

mentally manipulative.“

Conversing: Building a Healthy Marriage One Conversation a t a Ti m e by Paul Nyamuda is published by Wa r r i o r R e s o u r c e s

5 ways with confetti bubbles

Due the ‘messy’ nature of bits of paper and other forms of confetti, soap bubbles are a firm favourite with moder n couples (and venues!) – and don’t they look “oh-soglam” on wedding photos? All your guests blowing at the same time creates a wonderful, glowy aura and, of course, it also appeals to the child inside all of us!

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tintswalo atlantic C h a p m a n s P e a k D r i v e , H o u t B a y, C a p e To w n

WHY WE LOVE IT Because of its incredible location, T intswalo Atlantic is w i d e l y k n o w n a s C a p e To w n ’s h i d d e n g e m , a n d r i g h t l y so. This boutique lodge is nestled at the base of the Ta b l e M o u n t a i n N a t i o n a l P a r k a n d i s p e r c h e d o n a p e b b l e d b e a c h a t t h e f o o t o f C h a p m a n ’s P e a k . W e l o v e t h e p a n o r a m i c v i e w s o f H o u t B a y h a r b o u r, t h e d r a m a t i c S e n tinel mountain peak, and the glistening Atlantic Ocean

beyond. The professional team at T intswalo will make sure you have a one-of-a kind wedding, seeing to all the finer details as y o u s o a k u p t h e s u n s h i n e a n d w a r m o c e a n a i r.

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the oyster box Lighthouse Road, Umhlanga, Durban WHY WE LOVE IT

The beautiful Victorian Gazebo and small amphithe-

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atre in the garden, with seating for 100 people, is

overlooking the Indian Ocean and the iconic light-

a m e m o r a b l e p l a c e t o s t a r t y o u r s p e c i a l d a y. W h i l e

house, The Oyster Box is the ultimate in charm and

t h e s t u n n i n g P e a r l R o o m , w i t h h a n d - b l o w n Ve n e -

tian crystal chandeliers, echoes the opulence of a bygone era and can comfortably seat up to 120 guests including a main table.

style. The hotel offers a range of venues for both private ceremonies and bigger reception functions.

W H AT â&#x20AC;&#x2122; S O N O F F E R Complimentary one night stay for your wedding night in a luxury sea-facing room, plus a romantic rose petal tur ndown. Complimentary first anniversary dinner in The Grill Room is a lovely thoughtful touch. Te l ( 0 3 1 ) 5 1 4 5 0 0 0 | w w w. o y s t e r b o x h o t e l . c o m

Twelve Apostles Hotel & Spa V i c t o r i a R o a d , C a m p s B a y, C a p e To w n WHY WE LOVE IT The award-winning hotel and its exceptionally sublime spa is situated on C a p e To w n â&#x20AC;&#x2122;s m o s t s c e n i c r o u t e . P o i s e d a b o v e t h e A t l a n t i c O c e a n , t h e 5 s t a r b o u t i q u e h o t e l i s f l a n k e d b y t h e Tw e l v e A p o s t l e s m o u n t a i n r a n g e . T h i s remarkable setting is what makes for a truly memorable wedding experience. From flowers to entertainment and customised menus, the dedicated wedding co-ordinator will assist the bride with planning even the smallest detail as a complimentary service.

Yo u r c h o i c e s a r e e n d l e s s w h e n i t c o m e s t o p l a n n i n g y o u r s p e c i a l d a y a t this venue, and the dedicated team is passionate about the service they

p r o v i d e . W h e t h e r i t â&#x20AC;&#x2122;s a b i g a f f a i r o r a s m a l l , i n t i m a t e d e s t i n a t i o n w e d d i n g , Tw e l v e A p o s t l e s w i l l d o w h a t e v e r i t t a k e s t o t r e a t y o u l i k e r o y a l t y a n d o f f e r t h e most romantic and exclusive wedding that you could possibly dream of.

W H AT â&#x20AC;&#x2122; S O N O F F E R An intimate bespoke wedding ceremony in the Fynbos garden with the ocean as your backdrop, and various reception areas provide endless possibilities. A s t a y i n t h e H o n e y m o o n S u i t e i s y o u r s c o m p l i m e n t a r y, a n d y o u g e t t r e a t e d to a complimentary 3-course dinner in the Azure Restaurant on your first wedding anniversary! Te l ( 0 2 1 ) 4 3 7 9 0 0 0 | w w w. 1 2 a p o s t l e s h o t e l . c o m

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WHY WE LOVE IT

W H AT â&#x20AC;&#x2122; S O N O F F E R

Make your honeymoon dreams come true at one of the Conrad Pezula Hotel

Lagoon-view outdoor pool, an 18-hole golf course and multiple dining

a n d S p a â&#x20AC;&#x2122;s P r i v a t e C a s t l e s o v e r l o o k i n g t h e s e c l u d e d N o e t z i e B e a c h o n t h e

options. Enjoy unmatched nature trails, beaches, birdwatching, canoeing,

G a r d e n R o u t e - a s p e c t a c u l a r d e s t i n a t i o n w e d d i n g l i k e n o n e o t h e r. I n t i m a t e

hiking, horseback riding, helicopter rides, and a private gym to keep

and luxurious, with an executive butler and gourmet meals prepared by your

i n s h a p e t o g e t h e r.

own private chef.

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What to pack for your beach honeymoon D O N â&#x20AC;&#x2122; T L E AV E H O M E WITHOUT THESE 2 Bikinis 2 Swimming trunks Lingerie Sunscreen Sun hat Lip balm Sunglasses Beach bag Sarong Sandals Wa l k i n g s h o e s

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Tw i s t P a d d e d bikini top, Woolworths

C r o c h e t w e a v e Tr i l b y,

Stretch Band

Woolworths

Underwire bikini top, Woolworths

Aviator Sunglasses, RayBan

Bikini bottoms, Woolworths

Labello lip balm SPF30

Lipidol SPF20 Sunscreen Oil

Large beach

Mens’ Swimming trunks, Woolworths

bag, Lou Harvey

Walking shoes, C l a r k ’s

DATE NIGHT Wondering how to keep the Ooh-la-la of romance bur ning long after the wedding candles have burned down? Read onâ&#x20AC;Ś

Compliment him. Men are the same as us. They like to feel good about

Look for his intentions, instead of merely his actions.

t h e m s e l v e s p h y s i c a l l y. A l s o , t h e y l i k e t o h e a r f r o m y o u t h a t t h e y a r e

– Joanna, married 10 years

a c c o m p l i s h i n g e n o u g h t o m a k e y o u h a p p y. – Gill, married 22 years

If you want to be treated like a Princess, you got to treat him like a Prince. – Steph, married 5 years

the MARRIED lady the

Don’t sweat the small stuff. So what if he misses the l a u n d r y h a m p e r, o r b o u g h t f u l l c r e a m i n s t e a d l o w f a t a g a i n ? N o b o d y ’s p e r f e c t ! – Sam, married 11 years After an argument, I have three simple rules and it applies I read years ago, that we should occasionally do the seducing

to both of us: Acknowledge what happened. Forgive the person.

in the bedroom, and not wait for him to make the first move.

Then move on. Life is too short to hold grudges!

It works for me!

– Candice, married 8 years

– Anonymous, married 14 years My hubby seems to be more in love than ever before, but sometimes If you have children and a full time job, it is normal to forget to prioritise

I shy away from intimacy because I don’t feel so young anymore. It takes

your relationship with your husband. I try to make a point of remembering

a s p e c i a l g u y t o l o v e y o u m o r e a s t h e y e a r s g o b y, s o I l e t h i m k n o w t h a t

to put him first sometimes. I know he really appreciates this!

I do appreciate this and what he does for me and our sons.

– Geena, married 17 years

– Sheryl, married 20 years

Ta k e h e r t o t h e p l a c e w h e r e y o u h a d y o u r f i r s t d a t e .

Never forget why you fell in love with her in the first place.

E v e n i f i t ’s n o l o n g e r t h e r e , t a k e h e r t o t h e s p o t , t h e n s a y

And never forget your anniversary!

some romantic stuff. I promise it works!

– Brent, married 7 years

– Sheldon, married 8 years

W e d o a w e e k l y m o v i e n i g h t . I f w e c a n ’ t g e t a b a b y s i t t e r, w e j u s t p u t t h e k i d s t o b e d e a r l y, a n d w a t c h m o v i e s t o g e t h e r u n t i l l a t e l i k e t e e n a g e r s . – Thando, married 8 years

the MARRIED man the

Just be an open book. Women appreciate if you are present a n d i n t h e m o m e n t . A l s o , d o n ’ t b e l a z y. T h e y h a t e t h a t . – Sean, married 15 years Respect and loyalty is a two-way street. I know It may seem unnecessary to us blokes but the occasional candlelight

too many guys who still think the double-standard

d i n n e r, o r b o x o f h e r f a v o u r i t e c h o c c i e s w o r k s w o n d e r s f o r m y M r s ’ m o o d .

works for them but in the end you lose out.

– A n t h o n y, m a r r i e d 1 0 y e a r s

I t ’s o u r j o b t o n u r t u r e a n d c h e r i s h o u r p a r t n e r. – William, married 5 years

Date night! I’ve discovered that my wife really loves this. – Chris, married 22 years

Give her some regular down-time, away from the kids, chores and responsibilities. She will

T h r e e w o r d s : C o u p l e s S p a Tr e a t m e n t s . Yo u ’ r e w e l c o m e . – A n d r e w, m a r r i e d 9 y e a r s

bounce back feeling energetic (and sexy)! – Dale, married 12 years

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5 ways with confetti rice

The original confetti dating back to Roman times, rice and grains were strewn over the couple as t h e y e m e rg e d f r o m t h e c h a p e l , a s i t s y m b o l i s e d f e r t i l i t y a n d a b u n d a n c e . T h e u s e o f r i c e h a s l a rg e ly lost its appeal, some traditionalists will still e n j o y t h i s o rg a n i c t h r o w b a c k t o v i n t a g e t i m e s .

Sweet temptations

W e d i g d e e p w i t h c a k e s u p r e m o Ly n d s a y M c E w a n o f L u l u b e l l e â&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Bakes to find out what drives her and for her best advice for the

P h o t o s b y Ly n d s a y M c E w a n

b e s t s l i c e o f y o u r w e d d i n g d a y.

and Cheryl McEwan

Ruffles Cake I n t h e t h r e e y e a r s s i n c e Ly n d s a y M c E w a n s t a r t e d h e r b a k i n g b u s i n e s s , s h e has baked hundreds of wedding cakes! Meticulous and detail-oriented, Ly n d s a y w i l l m a k e y o u r w e d d i n g d a y c a k e d r e a m s c o m e t o l i f e ! C o n f e t t i Chicks enjoyed the chance to sit down for a cup of tea (and some delicious c a k e ! ) L u l u b e l l e ’s B a k e s o w n e r a n d i n d u s t r y e x p e r t Ly n d s a y M c E w a n .

C O N F E T T I C H I C K S : Yo u r w o r k i s a s t o u n d i n g , y e t y o u s t a r t e d L u l u b e l l e ’s B a k e s j u s t t h r e e y e a r s a g o . Te l l u s a b o u t t h i s l e a r n i n g c u r v e a n d w h a t i t h a s m e a n t f o r y o u a n d y o u r f a m i l y. LY N D S AY: Ye s ! T h r e e y e a r s a g o o n t h e 2 2 n d J a n u a r y 2 0 1 4 m y l i f e s t a r t e d t o c h a n g e f o r e v e r. I ’ d b e e n a c o n v e y a n c i n g s e c r e t a r y f o r o v e r 2 0 y e a r s a n d t h e n h a d w o r k e d a s a PA t o a d e v e l o p e r f o r 6 y e a r s a n d t h e l a s t 7 y e a r s I had worked as a property manager and managed property all around South Africa. It was in December 2013 when my son (who is an amazing animator) suggested we make the Christmas decorations for the one and only cake I b a k e d a n n u a l l y a n d t h a t w a s t h e f a m i l y ’s C h r i s t m a s c a k e . So off I went to buy some “plastic” icing as I knew it then. I had no clue what I was doing or what tools or ingredients I should be using and my figurines didn’t work out at all. This then inspired me to want to lear n all about cakes and decorating, so I started my first cake decorating lesson the 22nd J a n u a r y 2 0 1 4 . I t t o t a l l y t o o k m e , a n d m y f a m i l y, b y s u r p r i s e – e s p e c i a l l y m y husband who couldn’t understand why I’d work all day and then come home at night and work till the early hours of the morning on a cake! I loved all six lessons and from that moment on all I wanted to do was decorate cakes!

Naked Cake By my third lesson, my daughter started up a Facebook page for “ L u l u b e l l e ’s B a k e s ” – t h a t f i r s t n i g h t I h i t 1 0 0 l i k e s . I w a s o v e r t h e m o o n ! Three years later I have over 34,500 Facebook followers, and also have foll o w e r s o n I n s t a g r a m a n d Tw i t t e r – i t ’s n o t a b o u t t h e “ l i k e s ” o r t h e “ f o l l o w e r s ” o n t h e s e p a g e s – i t ’s a l l a b o u t t h e l o v e l y p e o p l e o u t t h e r e w h o e n j o y seeing my creations and their words of encouragement. W ithout them and m y f a m i l y ’s s u p p o r t , I w o u l d n e v e r, E V E R , h a v e d r e a m t t h a t o n e d a y I w o u l d be running my own business. In June 2014 I was retrenched, and I took this as a sign and turned those lemons into lemonade! I took the first huge step t o w a r d s r u n n i n g m y o w n b a k e r y. My husband even renovated my kitchen to accommodate a full-on bakery; my daughter is a wedding photographer and we often work together on wedd i n g s ; m y s o n , t h e a n i m a t o r, h a s b e e n m y r i g h t h a n d m a n w h e n i t c o m e s t o making cake toppers and my youngest daughter is always there to encourage me on my cakes. They have all been so supportive to a wife and mum who had a professional office job for over 30 years and who now is a baker and works from home all day!

What do you enjoy most about the wedding industry… and what gives you the greatest excitement and joy? W e d d i n g s a r e s u c h a j o y f u l t i m e i n o n e ’s l i f e a n d I a b s o l u t e l y L O V E d o i n g w e d d i n g c a k e s . I l o v e m e e t i n g t h e c o u p l e s – w h e t h e r i t ’s j u s t f o r a c o n s u l tation or a wedding tasting session. I love going to the venues, seeing all t h e s t u n n i n g d é c o r, a n d s e t t i n g u p m y c a k e s w h i c h u s u a l l y a r e t h e c e n t r e o f

Elegant, tiered cake attention – this is such an honour for me too! I always take photos of my cakes at the venues and the last photo I take is the one just before I walk out of the room. I love to glance back at the beautifully decorated room and see my cake there waiting in anticipation for the bridal couple. Always a proud moment for me.

What have been your greatest lessons that you have lear ned about your trade? Probably one of the greatest lessons I’ve lear nt from the cake industry is to be confident in myself and to trust myself to be able to do what my clients w a n t m e t o d o . G o i n g i n t o t h i s t r a d e f r o m s c r a t c h l i t e r a l l y t o o k m e b y s u rprise and I very quickly had to find that inner confidence within myself.

What advice do you have for clients in terms of them choosing their wedding cake? I always ask my clients whether they want a slice for each guest, whether t h e y w a n t t h e c a k e m o r e f o r t h e l o o k , o r w h e t h e r i t ’s p a r t o f a s w e e t t a b l e . Many couples want a 3 or 4 tier cake but they don’t want all the left overs. What I like to suggest to them is to still go for the look but instead of each tier being cake, we add a “fake” cake tier in between which is decorated exactly like the cake and you really can’t tell the difference. So many people don’t know about this option and it such a good idea – not always a cheaper idea as there is still the same amount of work being done on the fake tier as a normal tier but it is a bit more cost effective.

What has been your greatest wedding memory? O h , t h e r e a r e a f e w, b u t p r o b a b l y o n e o f m y g r e a t e s t w e d d i n g s w a s o n e I did for a stunning couple who worked for an international airline and live in Dubai. Their venue was quite a drive from my home so my husband and I stayed at a nearby hotel that night, but the cake was one of my first intricate c a k e s . A s t h e y w e r e b o t h a i r c r e w, t h e y h a d t r a v e l l e d t h e w o r l d a n d I h a d t o p u t t h e w o r l d m a p o n t h e m i d d l e t i e r. T h e r e w a s a b a k e r i n A u s t r a l i a w h o had made a very similar cake so I wrote to her for advice. She got back to me very quickly and gave me some tips on how to do the cake and I so appreciated this advice from a world renowned cake artist! The cake was a huge success and the toppers were made by my son who did a great job. This lovely couple have ordered cakes from me on several o c c a s i o n s w h e n t h e y v i s i t t h e i r f a m i l y h e r e i n C a p e To w n . I t ’s s o n i c e t o keep in touch with my clients and now that I’ve been around for 3 years plus I am seeing them all quite regularly now!

What would you do differently if you got married again or renewed your vows? Definitely won’t be getting married again as I’ve been happily married for 32 years this month! But ... if we were to renew our vows (which secretly is something I’d love to do), I’d pay more attention to my cake!! I can’t even remember the flavour or design of my wedding cake – how sad is that! So much attention to detail goes into wedding cakes now and I would love to have a 5 tier cake (with some fake tiers in between to minimize left overs!)

Floral Mr & Mrs Cake

Engagement with lots of detail on it! Oh, and I’d also have a stunning dress and would h a v e a R E A L LY S T U N N I N G w e d d i n g v e n u e . B a c k i n t h e d a y w h e n w e g o t married, there was so little attention to detail that went into a wedding and looking back, we had a lovely wedding but would love to have all the glamour and glitz that there is on offer nowadays!

What different or unusual elements would you love to see a couple incorporate into their wedding? I like to suggest to couples that their cakes should be cut at the beginning o f t h e i r e v e n i n g r a t h e r t h a n a t t h e e n d . D o i n g i t t h i s w a y, w i l l m e a n t h a t a l l their guests are there to see the couple cut their cake and take photos of them. Doing it at the end, some people may have left, some people are outside having a smoke and some people are maybe a little bit tipsy to r e m e m b e r t h e e v e n t . I t ’s j u s t t h a t t h e y g o t o s o m u c h t r o u b l e a n d e x p e n s e with their wedding cake that everyone should see it and see their cake c u t t i n g c e r e m o n y.

Te l l u s s o m e t h i n g a b o u t y o u r s e l f t h a t p e o p l e d o n ’ t k n o w. I never baked – ever – except for our annual Christmas cake. My poor children used to get supermarket cakes for their birthdays. I wasn’t c r e a t i v e a n d c o u l d n ’ t e v e n d r a w s t i c k m e n . R e c e n t l y, I h a d a n o r d e r f o r 250 Engagement cookies, each with a stick man proposing to a stick lady – t h a t ’s o v e r 5 0 0 s t i c k p e o p l e ! ) I g u e s s I c a n c o n f i d e n t l y s a y t h a t I c a n now bake, decorate cakes and I can draw stick men!

themed cookies

Te l l u s s o m e t h i n g a b o u t y o u r s e l f t h a t p e o p l e wouldn’t expect from someone in your line of work. My forté was administration when I used to work in an office, and I always kept my filing and correspondence meticulously up to date. I still do this now in my business, because cake decorating is not just about cakes. I keep a spreadsheet of every invoice I have sent out, from my first one to the most recent ones. I have a filing cabinet full of receipts, invoices and info. If my office is in a mess, then my head space is in a mess so I always try and keep things tidy and up to date. I also employ my niece to help with my admin when things get a bit hectic in the kitchen. I am a wife to an amazing husband, a mother to three lovely children and a granny to the two most adorable grandchildren ever!

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Ly n d s a y t a k i n g a b r e a k i n her beautiful kitchen

Say 'thank you' with a unique find The inter nationally award-winning, proudly South African, B a i n ’s C a p e M o u n t a i n W h i s k y w o n ’ t f a i l t o i m p r e s s a s y o u r first choice to say thank you.

I t ’s t h e o n l y s i n g l e g r a i n i n t h e w o r l d m a d e f r o m 100% South African grain and was named the

mouth-feel and long, smooth finish. B a i n ’s C a p e M o u n t a i n W h i s k y i s d i s t i l l e d a n d

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matured at The James Sedgwick Distillery in

Awards held in London.

W e l l i n g t o n n e a r t h e f o o t o f t h e B a i n ’s K l o o f P a s s ,

The whisky is a delicious combination of floral, b a n a n a , h o n e y, t o a s t e d h a z e l n u t s a n d t o f f e e a r o m a s

o n e o f S o u t h A f r i c a ’s m o s t i m p r e s s i v e p a s s e s . The whisky pays tribute to Andrew Geddes Bain,

and by adding a splash of water the whisky opens

t h e p i o n e e r r o a d b u i l d e r w h o b u i l t B a i n ’s K l o o f P a s s

up to include wood, vanilla and spice.

i n 1 8 5 3 t o c o n n e c t W e l l i n g t o n t o t h e i n t e r i o r.

Beautifully balanced vanilla, cocoa butter and light spices from the oak casks lead to a warm

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Katelyn Williams

Baker… and blogger extraordinaire! Katelyn is the genius behind The Kate Tin, and has also scooped Best Food and Wine Blog in South Africa – South African Blogger Awards 2015 & 2016.

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Rose Champagne Chiffon Cake

Hummingbird Salted Caramel

Cake with Cream

Coma Malt Cake

Cheese Frosting

Caramel Peppermint Crisp

Berry White

Mousse Cake

Chocolate Drizzle Cake

P H O T O S B Y K AT E LY N W I L L I A M S

Leopard & Lime Cocktail A G R E AT W E L C O M E DRINK FOR YOUR GUESTS Tr y t h i s r e f r e s h i n g c o c k t a i l w h i c h p a y s

Method

tribute to the Cape Mountain Leopard which

Chill a glass with ice.

r o a m s t h e m a g n i f i c e n t B a i n ’s K l o o f P a s s

Fill a shaker with cubed ice and add 1.5

c l o s e t o t h e J a m e s S e d g w i c k D i s t i l l e r y,

s h o t s o f B a i n ’s C a p e M o u n t a i n W h i s k y, t h e

h o m e o f B a i n ’s C a p e M o u n t a i n W h i s k y, a n d

juice of 1.5 freshly squeezed limes and a

the inspiration behind this internationally

b a r s p o o n o f v a n i l l a s u g a r.

a w a r d - w i n n i n g w h i s k y.

S h a k e v i g o r o u s l y, d i s c a r d t h e i c e f r o m t h e glass and fine strain the ingredients into the g l a s s u s i n g a t e a s t r a i n e r.

INGREDIENTS 37.5ml Bain’s Cape Mountain Whisky 20ml Triple Sec Juice of 1.5 Limes Barspoon Vanilla Sugar Soda water

To p u p w i t h s o d a w a t e r a n d g a r n i s h w i t h fresh mint. Cheers!

Zola Nene

When chef Zola Nene is not whipping up delicious dishes on Expresso Mor ning Show on SABC 3, she has her hands full as a food stylist, and now also a celebrated cookbook author!

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INGREDIENTS

NUT CRUNCH CHOCOLATE FUDGE!

2 cups chopped dark chocolate 1 tin (385g) condensed Milk 1 Tbs butter 2 cups roughly broken shortbread biscuits 1 cup coarsely chopped roasted nuts\

METHOD Line a 22cm square baking tin. In a large thick bottomed pot, combine the chocolate, c o n d e n s e d m i l k a n d b u t t e r. Stir over medium heat until mixture is evenly melted and smooth. Cook, while stirring, over medium heat. Remove from the heat then stir in broken biscuits and nuts. Spread into prepared baking tin. Refrigerate until firm before slicing into blocks. Makes about 24.

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“Our cocoa beans never leave the continent,” says chocolatier Antonino Allegra.

with premium full cream milk powder and just the right TRY EACH

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guava roll and dried pear with a lightly toasted hazelnut finish.

TRUFFLE TIP! Double the amount of cream in the recipe to create a silky chocolate sauce that is delicious poured over ice cream, brownies or simply eaten with a spoon!

Chocolate Makes 12

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125g fresh cream 250g AFRIKOA 70 PERCENT dark chocolate, chopped C o c o a p o w d e r, f o r r o l l i n g

Heat the cream in a small saucepan until just below boiling point. Immediately pour the cream over the chopped chocolate and allow to stand for 5 minutes before stirring until smooth and g l o s s y. C o v e r w i t h c l i n g w r a p a n d r e f r i g e r a t e u n t i l s e t . Roll the ganache into balls, then roll in cocoa powder to coat. Refrigerate until ready to serve.

intimacy listening The importance of going deeper “The great thing about empathic listening is that it takes away the pressure to have all the answers,” writes Paul Nyamuda in Conversing: Building a Healthy Marriage One Conversation at a Time.

“ S o m e t i m e s , w h e n w e a r e t o o q u i c k t o g i v e o u r s p o u s e a n a n s w e r, w h a t w e are really communicating is ‘I have no time to listen to you, so the quicker I get you off my back by giving you a solution then the better for me’. This lack of emotional intelligence can be sensed very easily by your spouse a n d , u n f o r t u n a t e l y, h e o r s h e c l o s e s u p e v e n m o r e . C o n v e r s e l y, w h e n y o u listen with empathy it has the power to open up a closed spirit.”

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T h e c o n c e p t i s s o m e w h a t u n i q u e – i t ’s a s p a c e w h e r e y o u c a n h a v e a s a n d wich lunch and a haircut – with top-notch products all round. SW1 is a rather fabulous swish London postal code area comprising The House of Commons, Buckingham Palace and Sloan Square – so the theme runs throughout.

A n d w h a t o f i t s c r e a t o r ? W e l l , t h e m a s t e r s t y l i s t , S h a l l i n a K u r m a l y, t r a i n e d and graduated at the prestigious Vidal Sassoon academy in London and was motivated to use the high-end Chelsea and Westminster postal address for the name of the salon – SW1.

Shallina has 30 years experience, working in the fashion hub of London and attending to celebrities and models as well as mere mortals- her credentials are staggering and her consultations stretch from hair care for all types of hair to styling. Fabulous.

Lunchwise, the menu draws inspiration from wholes o m e , s e a s o n a l i n g r e d i e n t s , o f f e r i n g a r a n g e o f g o u rmet rye bread sandwiches with delectable salmon, chicken, ham, cheese and veggie fillings, or for the leaf-lovers, some truly gorgeous salad offerings with clever names like Kensington- Norwegian Salmon, Piccadilly- roasted chicken, and Hyde Park – a vege t a r i a n ’s d r e a m .

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Flavoured coffees, like Double Caramel Latte, as well as teas, Chais and

ingredients, but they are also highly effective due to the cutting-edge cosmetic

hot chocolates are also available.

technology used in their creation.

So in line with fresh ingredients for your sustenance, the salon products are

The authenticity of the products is reflected in the charming décor of the salon,

natural and organic, free of parabens, improving not only your “look” but the

with its teal and bronze accents and natural wood fittings. The work station

world at large. The significant brand is Davines, a family-owned, international

at the back provides inter net and a calm ambiance to get your work done e f f i c i e n t l y.

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THE BIG FIVE The Big Five

Dreaming of a luxury bush lodge break, filled with romance and packed with adventure? Make your honeymoon unforgettable with our top 5 picks.

Earth Lodge at Sabi Sabi

Dreaming of a luxury bush lodge

break, filled with romance and packed

with adventure? Make your honeymoon unforgettable with our top 5 picks.

SABI SABI GAME RESERVE Embarking on a luxurious South African honeymoon safari with your new spouse

Set in the heart of the Sabi Sabi bushveld overlooking a waterhole and an Af-

will be one of the most memorable experiences you will share as you start your

rican plain, Bush Lodge is the ultimate in luxurious South African safari honey-

n e w l i f e t o g e t h e r. A s a f a r i h o n e y m o o n a t o n e o f S a b i S a b i ’s l u x u r y g a m e l o d g e s

moon escapes. Between exciting safaris and delicious meals, you will also have

allows you to revel in the awesome beauty of the African bushveld, experi-

the opportunity of indulging yourself with wonderful spa treatments with an

encing the wonders of nature together and enjoying some of the finest luxury

African flavour at the Amani Spa at Bush Lodge.

accommodation available. Early morning open safari vehicles game drives, Big Five encounters, excellent African cuisine and gorgeous landscapes are only a few of the reasons why honeymoons at Sabi Sabi are so highly revered. Offering thrilling open vehicle safaris, luxurious safari accommodation and delectable A f r i c a n c u i s i n e , S a b i S a b i ’s l u x u r y g a m e l o d g e s a r e t h e n u m b e r one choice for safari travellers to South Africa.

Sabi Sabi Private Game Reserve, situated in the world-renowned 65000 hectare Sabi Sand W ildtuin in the South-Western section of the Kruger National Park, is a wildlife oasis, is where you can observe at close quarters the age-old natural r e l a t i o n s h i p b e t w e e n p r e d a t o r a n d p r e y. T h e r e a r e f o u r d i f f e r e n t lodges to choose from:

The romantic Selati Camp, with its eight opulent thatched suites, each with full bathroom en-suite and private alfresco s h o w e r, b l e n d s p e r f e c t l y i n t o t h e s u r r o u n d i n g b u s h a n d i s a favourite amongst honeymooners to South Africa.

Hidden on the banks of the Msuthlu Riverbed, shaded by riverine trees, Little Bush Camp is an ideal honeymoon retreat. W ith just six suites, the lodge is intimate and secluded – the perfect backdrop to relax and enjoy the African bush.

Earth Lodge was sculpted into the Earth to create a unique escape that transports its guests to entirely different world â&#x20AC;&#x201C; perfect for a South African honeymoon escape. The Amani Spa at Earth Lodge features a double treatment suite where couples can relax and be pampered together for an extra honeymoon treat ensuring it is a time that will never be forgotten. Honeymooners will receive a complimentary bottle of sparkling wine, romantic tur n-downs, and more depending on your lodge choice.

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The safari experience of a lifetime!

The luxury Amani Spa at Earth Lodge

TALA PRIVATE GAME RESERVE Experience the thrill of the African bush at this secluded wildlife conservancy

Te n c o m f o r t a b l e f u r n i s h e d r o o m s w i t h b a t h r o o m e n - s u i t e a r e p o s i t i o n e d a r o u n d

i n t h e h i l l s o f a q u i e t f a r m i n g c o m m u n i t y. Ta l a ’s m i x o f a c a c i a t h o r n v e l d , o p e n

t h e l o d g e ’s n a t u r a l g a r d e n s w h i c h a r e k e p t t r i m b y t h e r e s i d e n t f a m i l y o f w a r t h -

grassland and sensitive wetland provides exceptional game watching and bird-

ogs.

ing, setting the stage for a truly memorable honeymoon. Paperbark Lodges boasts 12 deluxe rooms and a rock pool, and surrounds an A l o e L o d g e i s t h e m a i n h u b o f Ta l a , w i t h 1 0 c o m f o r t a b l e b e d r o o m s a n d a l l t h e

open grass area with spectacular views to the west of the open plains of the

a c t i v i t i e s o n y o u r d o o r s t e p . T h e Ta l a R e s t a u r a n t , b o m a , a n d c u r i o s h o p a r e a l l

reserve. The rock pool is within easy walking distance for a refreshing dip on

located here. Aloe Lodge also enjoys an elevated view of the reserve that spans

a h o t s u m m e r ’s d a y. T h e M a h o g a n y S p a , n e x t t o t h e r o c k p o o l , i s a l s o c o n v e n -

out over the grasslands, a favourite grazing area of the reserves antelope, gi-

iently located. The sumptuous premier suite features a spacious bathroom with

raffe and hippo.

ball-and-claw tub and four poster bed.

Mahogany House comprises 6 en-suite bedrooms. A communal lounge area opens up to a typical farmhouse veranda which looks onto the surrounding garden, and the Rock Pool is just a s t e p a w a y.

I f a m o r e r u s t i c e x p e r i e n c e i s w h a t y o u a r e a f t e r, e n q u i r e a b o u t their self-catering accommodation options at the Rondavels, and F i s h e r m a n ’s C o t t a g e s .

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Book a romantic hot air balloon ride with your new husband

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LONDOLOZI GAME RESERVE Situated on the Sand River within the Greater Kruger National Park, Londolozi

T h e s e l o d g e s a c c e p t c h i l d r e n o f s i x y e a r s a n d o l d e r. F a m i l i e s c a n r e q u e s t i n -

i s o n e o f S o u t h A f r i c a ’s o r i g i n a l p r i v a t e g a m e r e s e r v e s . A p i l l a r o f g l o b a l e c o -

terlinked ‘skywalk’ rooms so parents and children can visit each other without

tourism, we are also a proudly family-run business. The word londolozi comes

venturing out into the bush.

from the Zulu word meaning ‘protector of all living things’. C O N TA C T D E TA I L S Emphasis is placed on conservation and a village ethos, which stand alongside

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a commitment to luxurious accommodation, fine cuisine and exceptional

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service. Each of the five exquisite lodges offers luxury accommodations, stunning views, and exceptional cuisine.

All lodges offer the same access to 34,000 acres of the best Big Five game viewing in A f r i c a , l e d b y s o m e o f t h e c o n t i n e n t ’s f i n e s t rangers and trackers.

The lodges vary in price according to the quality of the accommodation, with the Private Granite Suites being the crème de la crème of the Londolozi portfolio, followed closely b y P i o n e e r C a m p a n d Tr e e C a m p . Va r t y C a m p and Founders Camp are slightly larger and perfect for families and small groups.

Londolozi Game Reserve

Our name reflects the ambitious conservation ethic in our relationship with the natural world.

VUYANI SAFARI LODGE T h e Vu y a n i S a f a r i L o d g e p r o v i d e s a t o p b e s p o k e s a f a r i h o l i d a y e x p e r i e n c e i n

tent of the richness and complexity of the African bush. Each safari drive

the Greater Kruger Park area in South Africa. During this safari, you will stay at

will typically last about 3 to 3.5 hours. These two game drives will be divided

T h e Vu y a n i S a f a r i L o d g e . W i t h o n l y 1 0 s u i t e s , t h e a t t e n t i o n t o g u e s t s â&#x20AC;&#x2122; r e q u e s t s

into morning and afternoon safari drives. The morning drive will start at

and personal wishes takes on a very unique meaning.

approximately 06:00 oâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;clock, to capture the most beautiful moments of African wilderness.

A 12-meter eternity pool, lounge chairs on the deck, an observation upper deck, a boma with an open fire for traditional South African braais, and individ-

The early evenings are prime time to view lions and leopards going out on their

ual decks (for both honeymoon suite chalets), will guarantee perfect relaxation

n o c t u r n a l h u n t s . A f t e r t a k i n g i n a b r e a t h t a k i n g A f r i c a n s u n s e t , a m o u t h - w a t e r-

when not on safari. The lodge also offers free W i-Fi inter net connection, good

ing dinner awaits you back at the safari lodge. Optional extras include: hot air

m o b i l e p h o n e r e c e p t i o n , a n d i n t e r n a t i o n a l s a t e l l i t e T V, s o y o u w i l l n e v e r b e o u t

ballooning, elephant-back safari experience, a visit to a local cheetah rescue

of touch with the world.

c e n t e r, B l y d e R i v e r C a n y o n c r u i s i n g a n d s p a t r e a t m e n t s .

During this safari honeymoon, you will go on two daily game drives in an open

C O N TA C T D E TA I L S

4x4 safari vehicle. Highly experienced and knowledgeable rangers who know

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the huge estate of 36,000 acres inside out, will help you discover the true ex-

p r e d a t o r a n d p r e y. T h e r e a r e f o u r d i f f e r e n t l o d g e s t o c h o o s e f r o m :

The romantic Selati Camp, with its eight opulent thatched suites, e a c h w i t h f u l l b a t h r o o m e n - s u i t e a n d p r i v a t e a l f r e s c o s h o w e r, b l e n d s perfectly into the surrounding bush and is a favourite amongst honeymooners to South Africa.

Observe hippos and

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intimacy for the men

Filling

HER needs A troubled sex life can be a major contributor to conflict within a marriageâ&#x20AC;Ś and particularly in the early years, writes Simon Lewis.

I t ’s b e c o m i n g i n c r e a s i n g l y c o m m o n f o r c o u p l e s t o

Women have traditionally been taught that their

Langley wrote that young men are expected – and

have shared a sexual life together before they tied

sexual needs are not as important and that they

even openly encouraged – to sow their ‘wild oats’

the knot and, for those couples, the early excite-

should have a more subservient role when it comes

w h e n t h e y a r e y o u n g . I t ’s w i d e l y s p o k e n o f a s a r i t e

ment of revealing themselves physically and emo-

to sex. A prime example of this is an observation

of passage. Go out and be a man!

tionally to their partner is exhilarating. For the

f r o m s e x u a l h e a l t h w r i t e r M i c h e l l e L a n g l e y, w h o

w o m a n i n p a r t i c u l a r, t h e p u r e p h y s i c a l t h r i l l o f t h i s

observed an incongruity between the sexual

But what of the women? A ‘good girl’ will either

n e w c o n t a c t i s q u i t e p o s s i b l y p u r e e c s t a c y, w h e t h e r

experiences of young men and young women.

remain ‘virtuous’ or will have had perhaps one or

or not she is able to enjoy an orgasm during each sexual engagement.

During the early courtship days, on honeymoon and even during the first year or two of a marriage, if a wife does not enjoy regular orgasms during lovemaking it might possibly not affect her emotionally or sexually as the bliss of being newly married might provide an overall feeling of euphoria for husband and wife that could override any shortcomings in t h e u n i o n . H o w e v e r, a s a m a r r i a g e m o v e s i n t o t h e daily grind a lack of sexual satisfaction can take its toll on the happiness of husband and wife. Financial troubles in particular can stress or distract young people in the early years of their marriage. If that is the case, it is possible that the husband or wife might start noticing areas of their marriage which are not fulfilling.

the same desire for sex and sexual fulfillment as men do.

W h e n y o u ’ r e w i t h y o u r w i f e ( r o m a n t i c a l l y o r o t h e rwise), you are in a private, intimate relationship that should be the most important relationship of your l i f e . Yo u n e e d t o u n d e r s t a n d e a c h o t h e r a n d g i v e each other what you want. And vice versa. That applies to finances, protection, emotions and sex.

The biggest mistake we can make is taking our wife for granted or not understanding that her sexual d e s i r e s a r e a s s t r o n g a s o u r o w n . T h e y a r e d i f f e rent, of course, and governed by hormones during her childbearing years and afterwards. Lower levels t w o l o v e r s b e f o r e s h e g e t s m a r r i e d . H o w e v e r, i f i t i s

fact that we are all human ‘animals’ with human

in fact instinctual for a man to sow his seed, then

i n s t i n c t s . I f y o u a c c e p t L a n g l e y ’s c o m m e n t a b o u t

s u r e l y i t ’s e q u a l l y i n s t i n c t u a l f o r a w o m a n t o w a n t

w o m e n i n s t i n c t i v e l y w a n t i n g t o g a t h e r a m a n ’s s e e d ,

t o g a t h e r h i s s e e d . T h a t ’s t h e s t r o n g p o i n t L a n g l e y

then it stands to reason that women possibly have

makes in her writing, and husbands should think c a r e f u l l y a b o u t h e r t h e o r y. F o r g e t y o u r e m o t i o n s a n d c u l t u r e – t h i n k a b o u t i t l o g i c a l l y.

Regardless of your religious, social, cultural or sexual beliefs, one thing you cannot deny is the

of testosterone mean that they naturally don’t want sex the same way – or as often – as you do.

H o w e v e r, i f y o u k n o w h o w t o u n l o c k h e r p a s s i o n s then you’ll see that, at her core, your wife is as

If you know how to unlock her passions you’ll s� your wife is as sexual as you are.

sexual as you are.

I t ’s n o t e a s y t o t a p i n t o h e r d e s i r e s , a n d t h o s e c a n c h a n g e f r o m d a y t o d a y, b u t w h a t y o u c a n k n o w f o r sure is that if she said yes to wanting to spend the

rest of her life with you, then she will most likely be w i l l i n g s h e s h a r e h e r b e d ( o r t h e k i t c h e n c o u n t e r, o r the rickety patio table) with you whenever you succeed in reminding her how sexy you really are.

What is the problem? Men generally are able to experience an orgasm during lovemaking, so most husbands probably enjoy a satisfactory sexual relationship for the first f e w y e a r s o f t h e i r m a r r i a g e . H o w e v e r, i f t h e h u s b a n d becomes lazy – or if he is an inexperienced (or selfish) lover – then the chances are that his own happy sexual life will cause him to relax in terms of how he romances and woos his wife, compared to when they were courting.

I t ’s t h e c o m m o n h e a r t b r e a k i n g t a l e : “ W h e n w e w e r e dating he always stared into my eyes, we talked for hours and he always had his hand on me. He loved touching me.”

A lack of interest in sex from your wife is a key �at you n�d to up your game!

easy to lift yourself out of it – sometimes even after years of a bad relationship.

For the wife, this lack of sexual fulfilment can become a major obstacle and cause for unhappiness. Dr Phil always reminds his guests that “when m o m m a a i n ’ t h a p p y, a i n ’ t n o b o d y h a p p y ” . D r P h i l

How often have you heard a friend say those words? O r, “ S h e c o u l d n ’ t g e t e n o u g h o f m e . S h e w o u l d laugh at all my jokes and her eyes were always smiling at me when we were courting.”

Such tales seem sadly far too prevalent when a

probably isn’t focussing on orgasms when he shares

c o u p l e h a s f a l l e n i n t o t h e t y p i c a l m a r i t a l t r a p . I t ’s s o

this advice with his audience, but it is – nonetheless

e a s y t o s l i p i n t o t h a t t r a p b u t , t h a n k f u l l y, i t ’s a l s o

– appropriately accurate.

Communication is key here but, once again, with

of interest in sex from your wife is a key that you

If a wife is not experiencing regular orgasms during

sex often being a sensitive topic, this is when

n e e d t o u p y o u r g a m e . E v e n i f i t ’s n o t t h e r e a s o n ,

lovemaking it can become a problem, of course,

t h i n g s u n s p o k e n t e n d t o f e s t e r.

it doesn’t hurt for you to keep raising your love-

because a wife who is sexually unfulfilled can

m a k i n g b a r.

mentally switch off and tune into homemaker and

I t ’s t r u e t h a t i t t a k e s t w o t o t a n -

mother mode.

go – and two to bring a woman to orgasm – so for husband and

If this happens it can easily create a

wife the best sex advice is to

sexual chasm between husband and

be aware that a woman has very

wife, forming a rift that widens by

definite and strong sexual needs

t h e d a y. F a s t f o r w a r d d a y s , w e e k s

and desires.

or months and either party could become a candidate to be charmed

I f s h e ’s a c t i n g a s i f s h e i s n o t

into a light flirtation that feeds their

interested in sex then there is

need for affirmation and affection,

a chance it might be because

a n d t h a t ’s n o t a g o o d r o a d f o r a

y o u ’ r e n o t s a t i s f y i n g h e r. D o n ’ t

husband or wife to travel down.

let this thought dent your male e g o . I f y o u w a n t a h e a l t h y, happy marriage there should be no ego, just caring, love and respect – and a bur ning desire to make

Don' t bribe your bride for sex… ever!

y o u r p a r t n e r h a p p y a n d f u l f i l l e d i n e v e r y w a y.

How do you solve the unsolvable? Countless movies have been written around this t o p i c , a n d i t ’s f a r f r o m s i m p l e . Ye t , a t the same time, it actually is pretty simple.

Soccer star Leo Messi keeps practising and training

H u s b a n d s , f i r s t l y, y o u s h o u l d n e v e r t a k e s e x f o r

There could be numerous physical and emotional

to get better every day – and so should you in every

granted or as a right in your marriage.

r e a s o n s f o r y o u r w i f e ’s w a n i n g l i b i d o , o f c o u r s e , b u t

aspect of your life… including being a great lover

And when things take a dip in the duvet

for husbands it never hurts to presume that a lack

for your wife.

d e p a r t m e n t , s t a n d u p s t r a i g h t e r, l o o k h e r i n t h e e y e

more often, bur n her brighter with your dazzling smile, engage her with jokes and touch her often – and at all times of the day (not just at night!).

When you’re out in public, be daring and slip your hand under her t-shirt and gently stroke her lower b a c k d o w n t o h e r h i p s . Yo u p r o b a b l y u s e d t o d o t h i s w h i l e d a t i n g h e r, a n d i f t h e f l a m e o f p a s s i o n h a s a n y chance of burning bright again then the soft, gentle feel of your hand on her skin in public is a good way to start stoking the fire of her desires.

Ve r y i m p o r t a n t i s t h a t , w h e n y o u ’ r e t r y i n g t o r e k i n dle the passion in your marriage, don’t rush things. Don’t let her think that sex is your goal – allow her t o l a n g u i s h i n t h e b e l i e f t h a t y o u d e s i r e h e r, t h a t

t e r f u l l y s e d u c i n g h e r. D o n ’ t t r y t o b e C a s a n o v a o r

remind you of your girl as the sexy being that first

you’re longing for her… but the key to this is actu-

Don Juan – just take a mental trip back to when

d r e w y o u t o h e r. I t ’s a n a t t i t u d e t h a t i s e q u a l l y

ally believing it and living that belief.

you were first courting to remember and feel again

likely to draw her back to you.

t h a t s p i r i t o f e x c i t e m e n t f o r h e r. T h a t a l o n e s h o u l d Don’t sulk for sex, don’t beg for sex and definitely don’t bribe your bride for sex. These tactics might work sometimes (well, especially if the bribe ticks a l l t h e b o x e s o f t h e 5 C ’s o f c h o o s i n g a d i a m o n d ) , but the one way you can be sure to always have your wicked way with her is if you succeed in mas-

Allow her to languish in �e belief �at you desire her, �at you’re longing for her…

Having a great sex life is about having a shared sex l i f e . Yo u e a c h h a v e y o u r o w n n e e d s , w a n t s a n d desires but, in a long-term, committed partnership, if you place both of your needs on an equal pedest a l t h e n y o u w i l l h a v e f o u n d t h e f o r m u l a f o r a h a p p y, healthy sex life.

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Champagne tastes

Champagne is the essential drink for any celebratory moment.

T H E C H A M PA G N E T R A D I T I O N AT W E D D I N G S The tradition of toasting with champagne at weddings is derived from the religious ritual where the couple would drink from the same cup of wine to celebrate their union. In French culture, champagne became widely accepted as the drink of choice to celebrate unions, achievements and joyful occasions as well as previously-religious celebrations such as the christening of a ship.

C H A M PA G N E T O D AY Champagne is currently traditionally consumed as part of the wedding t o a s t s g i v e n b y f a m i l y a n d f r i e n d s o f t h e b r i d e a n d g r o o m . T h e c h a m p a g n e â&#x20AC;&#x2122;s

delicate yet abundant golden bubbles bor n from the years spent dormant in the cellars of the champagne house, are a perfect symbol of the exaltation of j o y, c e l e b r a t i n g t h e c r a f t i n g o f a p e r f e c t u n i o n .

The traditional method of serving champagne at weddings is typically via the pouring of a champagne tower or waterfall. The champagne glasses (preferably coupes) are stacked in a pyramidal structure and the champagne is poured into the top glass, letting the champagne trickle down to the glasses below filling them all.

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Finding the perfect match for YOUR perfect match G.H. Mumm Champagne is the No1 champagne in France… and now it is making waves in South Africa

G.H. MUMM Rosé is a delicious champagne particularly appreciable served chilled as an aperitif. Although traditionalists would serve G.H.MUMM Rosé with summer berry desserts and biscuits roses de Reims (pink sponge f i n g e r s ) , i t i s a l s o a d e l i c i o u s m a t c h f o r s e a f o o d ( g r i l l e d l o b s t e r, marinated salmon) and ethnic dishes (tajines). Perfect for red fruit desserts and soft cakes.

G.H. MUMM Cordon Rouge is a brut champagne that is ideal served as an aperitif. Its aromatic richness is also a perfect match for white meat such as veal chops and fish such as monkfish or red mullet and is a perfect accompaniment to a mixed salad or plate of fine charcuterie (Italian ham, smoked magret de canard). The icon of celebration. Cordon Rouge is the perfect champagne for a wedding toast.

A hedonistic wine, G.H. MUMM Demi-Sec is a wonderful match for desserts. Fruit salad, yellow fruit and c h a m p a g n e z a b a g l i o n e , Ta r t e Ta t i n , c a r a m e l i z e d p e a c h or apricot crumble, etc. Its roundness and fruitiness also make it a fine accompaniment for sweet and savoury combinations such as foie gras with figs, as well as b l u e c h e e s e s . P e r f e c t f o r s u g a r- c o a t e d , g l a z e d w e d d i n g cakes and pastries.

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on who is paying for your maids’

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Meet with your officiant and plan

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Choose your bridesmaids and your m a i d o f h o n o u r.

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decision and order your gown.

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cards, menus and the

officiant, whether it is your church

seating plan.

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Finalise deposit payments with all vendors and ensure they know their

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Consider and plan transport logistics for the bridal party and out of town

and all accessories chosen.

Bachelorette party planning.

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