By ROD KING Feature Writer
Faith Has Carried Dettmer Through 100 Years
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Nonprofit region’s only independent hearing health care organization
the sliding fee scale, GiveHear serves patients up to 250% of the federal poverty level.
Last year, GiveHear, a nonprofit organization focusing on hearing health care, fitted more than 570 individuals with hearing aids. The four, licensed audiologists conducted hearing tests, performed hearing aid fittings and did cochlear implants.
GiveHear’s primary function is to complement the work being done by other professionals in the area by filling in gaps in access to care. It dispenses new hearing aids at two technology levels and also offers reconditioned hearing aids, which are
The organization accepts Medicare, Medicare Advantage Plans, Indiana Medicaid, TruHearing, Hearing Care Solutions and commercial payers.
According to Sarah Silva, the executive director, GiveHear has taken great care to keep patient cost shares low and feasible for those it serves. In fact, it has not raised its pricing or patient costs in more than four years. She attributes this largely to the support received from community foundations, which support it through grants, individual donors and corporate sponsors.
“This is what makes our overall mission possible,” Silva
audiologist, Nora Stewart, who owns a private clinic with her husband, Ken. They recognized ability to access hearing health
GiveHear started as a very handful of patients a few times a month with an all-volunteer staff. Since then it has growndependent, dedicated nonprofit -
In addition to the Fort Wayne
Like any other audiology practice, GiveHear offers comprehensive services to all ages (newborn to adult), in-house repairs and supplies, including batteries, and follows industry best practices to ensure the highest quality of care.
“My goal for GiveHear is to continue to responsibly meet the needs of the community
Hear in 2018 as program director and assumed the executive directorship in 2023 and has a total of 28 years of experience in audiology administration.
Individuals, who are unable to drop off donations at GiveHear’s Main Street clinic, can request a donation kit be mailed to them by visiting givehear.org or by calling the clinic at (260) 602-3276.
RECONDITIONED AND READY Bins of reconditioned hearing aids are ready for fitting at GiveHear’s Main Street Clinic in Fort Wayne. Photo provided by GiveHear.
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GIVEHEAR STAFF — The GiveHear staff shown from left in the front row are Cindy Fraser, Dr. Sarah Delaney and Dr. Charlotte Thompson. In the back row are Stephanie Webb, Sarah Meeks, Director Sarah Silva and Leslie Cohen. Photo provided by GiveHear.
Key Positions
Civic Theatre alive, well as construction continues
By ROD KING Feature Writer
Despite the fact that the Fort Wayne Civic Theatre lost the use of its normal rehearsal and performance venue last May due to the start extensive renovations, the 2024-2025 season has been on-going at alternate locations. In fact, according to Executive/Artistic Director Phillip Colglazier, “it’s pretty much been business as usual, but feels like running a bus tour company with all the related complications.”
Colglazier said he kicked off the season, which is calling its “on the road season,” last September with a highly-successful presentation of “The Rocky Horror Show” at Foellinger Theater in Franke Park.
That was followed up with a production of “White Christmas” in November at the Embassy Theatre.
The next production, “Waitress,” will be performed this month at the Embassy Theatre at 7:30 p.m. Saturday, Feb. 8, and 2 p.m. Sunday, Feb. 9.
Next they will do nine performances of the R-rated show, “Red” at the Fort Wayne Museum of Art. It starts March 21 and runs through the end of the month with three shows in April. Friday and Saturday performances are scheduled for 7:30 p.m. and Sunday shows are at 6 p.m.
It will close out the on the road season back at the Embassy Theatre for the presentation of “Freaky Friday” with performances at 7:30 p.m. Saturday, May 17, and 2 p.m. Sunday, May 18.
Since last May, the Civic Theatre has been operating out of temporary quarters at Foster Park Plaza.
“If construction stays on schedule,” said Colglazier, “we’ll be doing our first production in the renovated Arts United Center this coming November and
then we will fully move back into the building in December.”
Most of the renovations are for functionality and will not be noticeable to theater-goers. They will, however, notice the new seats and the addition of more women’s toilets. Theater technology will be upgraded to include new audio/visual equipment, new lighting controls and an automated rigging system.
The building, which is now more than 50 years old, was built before the Americans with Disabilities Act. The renovations will make it ADA compliant and much more accessible. A new scene shop will be built next to the existing shop, he added.
Most of the work is being done on the west, north and east portions of the Arts United Center with the goal of increasing accessibility, modernizing theater functionality and enhancing patron experiences for the next generations. The plan for the expansion and modernization of the building actually began in 2015. One of the biggest additions will be the installation of an elevator.
Colglazier, a Fort Wayne native and Snider High School graduate, has a Bachelor of Science degree in speech communication and theater from Ball State University. His career with Civic Theatre began as a choreographer in 1993. Later, he was named education director and choreographer.
In 1990, he took the managing director position at the Edyvean Repertory Theatre in Indianapolis. He returned to the Civic a year later as executive/artistic director, when he has served collectively for more than 30 years.
Enthusiasts of the Fort Wayne Civic Theatre are eagerly waiting the reopening of the Arts United Center and resumption of plays and musical performances featuring local actors and actresses.
Taxing times always around the corner
By CECIL SCAGLIONE Mature Life Features
No matter how early you start preparing for tax time, it always seems like you have to do some last-minute scrambling to look for deductions.
Often overlooked are the fees you pay to have your tax-preparation work done.
You also might not know that gambling losses, whether its bingo or the bang-tails, can be deducted up to the amount of any winnings you report.
The above are cited to make you aware of the range of tax-deductible possibilities.
Any post-retirement work
you do brings home a raft of possible deductions: travel expenses, dues for professional associations, and home-office costs are but a few.
The last is one of the most misunderstood tax-deductible items.
First of all, any space you designate as an office in your home won’t qualify if you don’t use it principally and regularly as your place of business.
But if it does qualify, you can deduct a portion of your mortgage, home insurance, utilities and all other costs associated with your residence. You can also install a tax-deductible phone line and
purchase a tax-deductible computer along with a desk to set it on and a chair to sit in front of it. The cost of office supplies you require is also deductible.
But be wary of what you deduct here.
The Internal Revenue Service perks up when it sees tax returns with business-related expenses deducted from income taxes.
And tax cheats are as old as taxes themselves. After all, the Boston Tea Party was thrown by a bunch of folks who refused to pay their taxes.
In the news was a story about the attempt by a Detroit stripper who sought to claim her breast implants as a medical expense. The tax-court judge tossed out her claim but did allow her to write of the operation as an unreimbursed business expense, which gave her a bigger tax break.
In another case, a scrap yard operator was allowed to deduct the cast of cat food as a business expense. He used the food to attract wild cats to keep snakes out of his scrap yard.
The best way to avoid any tax audit is to avoid any attempt at or illusion of cheating.
A first step is to get yourself a tax preparer. This will give your return a polished and professional look.
Then don’t push your luck. Take any and all legitimate deductions. Have your tax preparer play Devil’s Advocate over the matter. If it stands up under his or her scrutiny, you should be able to justify it to an IRS agent if you’re called on it.
DISPLACED — Fort Wayne Civic Theatre has been operating out of a building at Foster Park Plaza
May when renovations were started at the Arts United Center. Phillip Colglazier, shown, executive/artistic director of Civic Theatre, and his staff are looking forward to returning to the building and presenting its first show in the renovated structure in November. Photo provided.
70s Flashback —
Better to avoid that room!
In late summer 1974, Stephen King and family rented a house in Boulder, Colo. “I had written ‘Carrie’ and ‘Salem’s Lot.’
By RANDAL C. HILL
They were both set in Maine, because that’s where I’m from,” King explains. “I said to my wife, ‘I think it’s time to set a book somewhere else.’ ”
They chose to go to Colorado, which Stephen described as “a spooky state with mountains and high passes and the wind howling and the wolves.” In other words, a perfect place to generate another horror story — and hopefully hit a third literary home run.
Late in October, he and Tabatha decided to get away for a weekend by themselves. Boulder locals suggested the Stanley Hotel, a funky old lodge in nearby Estes Park. However, nobody told the Kings of the rumor that one
particular room in the Stanley Hotel was haunted.
When Stephen and Tabitha arrived at the rundown inn, they found that it was shutting down for the season. In fact, the Kings were the only paying guests there that night, Oct. 30, one day before Halloween. Assigned the presidential suite — room 217 — they walked to their room down long corridors, passing fire hoses neatly rolled up on the walls.
That night the couple ate dinner (their only option was a meal of beef) at the hotel’s restaurant. Tabatha then retired to bed, but Stephen decided to go to the bar for a drink. Once back in room 217, he drifted off to sleep — for a while: “That night, I dreamed of my 3-year-old son running through the corridors, looking back, eyes wide, screaming. He was being chased by a firehose. I woke up with a tremendous jerk, sweating all over, within an inch of falling out of bed. I got up, lit a cigarette, and by the time the cigarette was done, I had the ‘bones’ of a book firmly set in my mind.”
That book, of course, would
become “The Shining,” with the Stanley now being called the Overlook Hotel. It was only later the Kings learned about the supposed haunting of the room they occupied. One night in 1911, it
Half-dozen short steps can thwart identity thieves
By CECIL SCAGLIONE
Mature Life Features
Check your after-Christmas bills closely not just for proper amounts, but to make sure the charges were made by you.
The festive season is a feasting season for identity-thieves. These are pernicious parasites who obtain valuable information about their victims: Social Security, military identity, driver’s license, credit card, or banks account numbers — any or all of the above.
They use this information to acquire their own credit cards, bank checks and loans as well as products and services in your name.
Identity theft is the major and fastest-growing consumer fraud crime in the country. And no one is safe.
One third of adults have been hit by ID theft, which occurs every 20 seconds somewhere in the nation.
More than one-third of the ID-theft victims said someone obtained their credit-card information, forged a credit card in their names, and used it to make purchases. Of those victims, 16% said the identity thief was a friend, relative, or co-worker.
Travelers are especially vulnerable as they sight-see while carrying passports, credit cards and other documents that contain information vital to these thieves in the country they’re visiting.
So, at home or away, during the holiday or summer sea-
son, here are a few protective measures to take to keep your identity to yourself.
1. Make a list of all your credit card, bank account, and Social Security numbers with the corresponding contact telephone numbers so you can report any problem immediately.
2. Leave your Social Security card at home. And don’t put it or any other important number, such as driver’s license, on your checks.
3. Beware of spying eyes at your automated teller machine. Don’t think you’re safe just because no one is standing nearby. Cases have been reported where the thieves from afar used binoculars to memorize PINs, or personal identification numbers.
4. Don’t let your credit card out of your sight when a cashier or other company personnel takes it to swipe through the electronic machine. If it is taken to another room, for example, it can be swiped several times — and you’ll be charged several times. Or a crooked clerk may write the number down and sell it to an identity thief.
5. When traveling, whether in this country or abroad, don’t carry financial information in your wallet or checked luggage. Take travelers checks instead of personal checks. Have the post office hold your mail.
6. Stay at a hotel that has a safe in your room or behind the front desk.
If you have been victimized
by identity thieves, call the police immediately. And get a copy of the police report so you can show to creditors as you climb back out of the morass these crooks will have created for you.
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was told, the Stanley’s chambermaid, Elizabeth Wilson, was making her rounds and lighting acetylene lanterns throughout the hotel. What she didn’t know was that, on the second floor, a flammable gas leakage had occurred, which had slowly filled the entire wing. As Wilson entered room 217, she lit a match beneath the lamp. The massive explosion that followed rocked the hotel and destroyed the room, including the flooring. Elizabeth dropped into the dining room below but
amazingly suffered only two broken ankles.
Since then, guests in room 217 have reported bizarre events occurring within its four walls. Rumors have described personal items being moved around the room or lights being turned on and off. Some unmarried couples have even reported feeling a cold force between their sleeping bodies — proof, it is claimed, that straight-laced Mrs. Wilson is still there, watching out for any “funny business.”
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WATCH OUT In Stephen King’s 1977 novel “The Shining,” you can never be sure what’s lurking in the eerie halls of the Overlook Hotel.
Cars are his business, helping Palestinian youth is his passion
By ROD KING Feature Writer
whose sole purpose is to raise schol-
arship funds for deserving Palestinian students.
The Palestinian Student Scholarship Fund has been raising funds around the country since 2017 to encourage students to study medicine, engineering and technology. So far, these efforts have been
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able to support 3,000 students at universities and colleges throughout Palestine.
One of the members of The PSSF board is Fort Wayne resident, Amar Masri.
“We all kicked in $10,000 to get it started and are focusing on a goal of raising a total of $10 million in the next five years. We started giving scholarships to students at just a couple of schools and have expanded that to 14 universities and colleges. I’m particularly proud to be able to assist students attending Anajah University, which is located in my hometown, Nablus, Palestine,” Masri said.
Masri has been involved with The PSSF members, most of who reside in the Chicago area, for the past five years.
“We’ve become very close friends. Every May, we all travel to Palestine to meet with our scholarship students to become better acquainted, to learn more about their needs and to screen prospective new applicants,” Masri said.
It takes between $3,500 and $8,000 to support a student for a year, depending on what they are studying.
“We believe that education is the key to the future and is our way to help bring peace to the region,” he added.
who are stranded outside Gaza. The PSSF is the first organization to reach out to these students. A total of 240 students have graduated with our help.”
people with meetings in Texas, California, New Jersey, New York, Missouri and Tennessee. As Masri said, “We’ve only begun to scratch the surface.”
“Being part of The PSSF has brought me more joy and satisfaction than anything in my entire life. They’re wonderful people who are working for a great cause,” he said.
In addition to the scholarship program, the organization has a Gaza Initiative. It helps students in war-torn areas by providing laptop computers so they can study online.
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“Schools in Gaza have been destroyed by constant bombing and online is the only way for them to continue their studies,” said Masri. “We’ve also been assisting students
The PSSF is a not-for-profit organization. One hundred percent of donated funds go to student scholarships. There are no administrative expenses and approximately 20% of the funds come from the members of the board. Persons interested in assisting deserving Palestinian students can learn more at thepssf.com.
What started as a fundraising effort among the Palestinian community in the greater Chicago area has now been expanded to cover the country. Masri has been leading the appeal among Palestinian business and professional
Masri left Palestine at age 17 on his own and landed in Boston before heading west to Fort Wayne. He still has cousins, aunts and extended family residing in Palestine. He’s worked in real estate before getting into the used car business in 1996 when he founded Image Cars on West Coliseum Boulevard. At one time, he developed a successful niche market selling used cars to Middle East customers.
Home is where the heart is
By MICHELLE M. WALTERS, RSSA, PHR, CHRS, CCWS, CSIS Executive Vice President Health Insurance Shop
Many of us have been blessed with the gift of bearing and rearing children. Although life as a parent is rarely a walk in the park, and we have days when we cannot wait to become an empty nester, truth be told, we often find that quiet can be stressful.
Parenting is a learning experience for both parent and child. We spend years teaching our children how to walk, talk, eat, dress, bathe and become productive humans, who will eventually go out into the world and repeat this process for themselves. As we mold and model our children, we also fulfill our own need to be needed. The momentary excitement as our children set out on their
own quickly fades as the quiet settles in.
As my children have grown and started their own families, I look forward to the days when my grandchildren visit. It is a joy to help them eat, dress, walk, talk and learn new things. When they return home, my heart remains filled as I watch the tussle and tumbling of two, domestic cats playing; listen to the commotion as my beagles race out the doggie door to try to get that squirrel before it makes it up the tree; and feel the warmth of George, my Maine Coon, curled up on my lap taking a nap.
The quiet of children moving on is replaced with the heartbeats of little furry creatures. The need to be needed continues to be fulfilled. My home is where hearts are.
As a licensed, certified insurance agent, I can help with all of your health insurance needs.
Feel free to give me a call at (260) 484-7010. I will even share a picture of George.
Myths mask base of Social Security benefits
By CECIL SCAGLIONE Mature Life Features
There are a couple of persistent myths in circulation regarding how your Social Security benefits are based. Introduce the topic and your almost certain to hear that your benefits are based on your income over your last three years in the work force, or on your five highest-earning years. Both are wrong. Social Security analysts review your income for 35 of your working years. And they use the years with your highest income. Mature Life Features Copyright 2025
SUPPORTING STUDENTS Amar Masri is a board member of The Palestinian Student Scholarship Fund. Its goal is to raise $10 million in the next five years to support deserving Palestinian students.
Wallace devoted to two sports to stay fit
By CATHY SHOUSE Feature Writer
Diana Wallace has committed to improving her fitness at this time in her life. For her, that means taking part in two classes to achieve her goal.
She takes classes in the pool and attends chair yoga classes. The YMCA of Greater Fort Wayne offers both and as long as the scheduling works out, Wallace will go. If she needs to miss, she gets right back into it when she’s able.
There are social benefits to the way she’s participating in sports. She praised the environment at the YMCA. She called the chair yoga and its leaders “phenomenal.” Those who go to the classes as well as the instructors will check up on one another. If someone misses, they will try to find out why and offer support.
“It is quite a community of people,” Wallace said. “They’re very caring and they care about you. It’s a very close community and they’re very welcoming to newcomers. There are a lot of people there, both men
and women.”
Wallace retired from teaching at Bishop Dwenger High School about 10 years ago. Around that time, she began her sports activities because her schedule had freed up. But in April of last year, Wallace’s routine was disrupted when she took a bad fall. In addition to breaking her arm, she injured her shoulder and knee. This landed her a stint in a rehab facility.
“My goal was to work to go see my grandchildren,” she said.
She and her husband of 56 years, Richard, have two adult children and their daughter and son-in-law live in Fort Wayne and enjoy hiking. Wallace’s two young grandchildren live in Connecticut and the couple visits that part of their family as much as possible.
“I’d like to keep up with them,” she said.
Currently, she is taking physical therapy twice a week.
“I’m a firm believer in physical therapy,” she said. “You can go to physical therapy for lots of reasons. You can say to your doctor, ‘I’d like go to physical therapy to
work on my balance.’”
When she was a student in school, Wallace played basketball and was in gymnastics. But along the way as a working woman, married with children, she became less active. She later went through two knee replacements at once.
“I got busy and I forgot to take care of myself,” Wallace said. “I’m trying to take better care of myself. It does make a difference. It makes a big difference when you get older.”
When a young person in her life asked her opinion on fitness, she knew what she wanted to say.
“Your health is the most important thing,” she said. “Do whatever you have to do to take care of yourself, to take care of you.”
She’s been a 25-year member of a women’s Bible study, and they encourage one another to stay active. She finds them inspiring.
“It makes you feel better and you do it. You get into a habit,” she said. “Keep moving. Do something.”
I have circular logic
My wife has given me an 11:59 p.m. curfew. Let me explain.
I feel compelled to take a certain number of steps daily. I did a lot of research on the optimum number for a guy my age.
By DICK WOLFSIE
But the chart I was referring to asked: “Born in 1950 or before? Please consult a doctor before making a move.”
I could have made it easy on myself. You know, maybe 1,000 a day, 1,500 at most. But on my smartphone, I clicked 15,000 by mistake. Now, I was stuck. I never go back on my own word, and I wouldn’t have been able to reset the app if I wanted to.
The problem with getting to 15,000 steps is I don’t have time to reach my daily goal. If you watched me jog, more like a lumber, you would realize how time consuming this venture is for me.
I start on the Monon Trail most mornings. I wave to the people in wheelchairs, folks with canes, and women pushing babes in carriages as they zoom past me.
Recently, I started running in my basement at night to get in more steps. I’d dash around the ping pong table, negotiate the couch, creep along the wall where the TV sits, and then circle around the treadmill.
“WAIT,” you say. “You have a treadmill in your basement? Why aren’t you using that to exercise?” The answer is simple: I’m not some kind of exercise nut. Who goes on a treadmill at 11 at night?
The late night dash was not helping me accomplish my goal for several reasons. First, I started to get very bored with my basement routine. True, I did see a few photos and paintings I had never noticed before. I also discovered a half bath in what I thought was an extra closet. Then, I had a great idea. I decided to begin trotting around the neighborhood at precisely midnight. You see, my walking app automatically resets to zero at midnight, so that is my first opportunity to get a jump on the next day’s steps. I won’t make my goal unless I get a head start on my 15,000. Please tell me you understand what I’m saying. I knew Mary Ellen would disapprove. When she heard I was considering this endeavor, she forbade me from doing it. I got away with this a few times by constantly checking to see she was fast asleep before I snuck out.
“Comfort Keepers was an invaluable asset in my toolbox regarding my mother’s home healthcare requirements. I was able to go to work and concentrate on other aspects of my mother’s healthcare needs. It gave me a “peace of mind” feeling on a daily basis knowing that their qualified staff would handle things at mom’s house and keep me updated. Comfort Keepers is a local outstanding healthcare organization; I would recommend them for any in-home healthcare needs” Robert G.R. Son of client, Fort Wayne
Then, after I rounded our neighborhood last week and headed back down the street, I saw a woman in our driveway. It was Mary Ellen in her nightgown, but she also wore a very angry face. She had apparently awakened to find me missing and realized what I was doing. Yes, she had caught me running around on her.
She rightly told me in no uncertain terms how dangerous my behavior was. I wanted to deny I had done this, but not only had I been caught red-footed, but several neighbors had video of me on their Ring doorbells.
I have promised never to do this stupid thing again. First, it’s really dangerous. Second, standing in our driveway every night at 1 a.m. in her nightgown could blemish my wife’s untarnished reputation.
“Comfort Keepers is an outstanding healthcare organization in Fort Wayne and surrounding areas. Their professional staff worked with my son to set up a well-balanced healthcare plan that allowed me to stay at my own home and enjoy my later years. Thus, I was able to do everyday activities on my terms. They helped me with personal hygiene needs, light housework, meal preparation, and medication reminders. They treated me like family.”
Early detection allowed us to take control of the situation and make a plan together.”
K. Ellen L. Client,
Fort Wayne
WORKING WITH BANDS Diana Wallace of Fort Wayne, works with bands as part of her physical therapy exercises she does at home. She also takes classes at the YMCA. Photo provided by Diana Wallace.
NUTSHELL
And the beach goes on in Tortola
By FYLLIS HOCKMAN Mature Life Features
My husband and I are travel writers. Which means when we get to a destination, we explore every aspect, constantly seeking out stories.
Until we got to Tortola in the British Virgin Islands. That didn’t happen. And it was almost like — dare I say the word? — a vacation.
Let’s back up a bit.
We are a lot older than our last visit 30 years ago when my husband had the temerity to actually hazard driving. To put the roads in context, they’re dangerous and death-defying. We weren’t trying that again.
But to give them their due, as you drive around the harrowing roads (with someone else driving), sometimes the fear subsides sufficiently to ooh and ahh around every turn at yet another spectacular view. And more so on Tortola than other Caribbean islands. It’s not unusual to hear someone say, “Don’t bother craning your neck — it’s just another magnificent view.”
But we were greatly limited this time in our usual practice of exploring every nook and cranny of a destination. Our program listed a guided island tour, a ferry to Jost Van Dyke island and a lobster fest on Anegada. And we still had 10 days left to enjoy the hotel beach and pool, something we’ve never had time for before.
The beach is pristine, the azure sea inviting, the cano-
py trees enveloping, and the chaise unimaginably relaxing. The reggae music in the background is toe-tapping enticing. And I hadn’t even had my first painkiller yet (more on that later).
Sitting on my hotel balcony, another rum drink in hand and listening to the cacophony of coqui tree frogs singing their nightly repertoire, I couldn’t be further away from the ambiance of my usual city life. I was very okay with that.
While swimming is discouraged certain times of the year because of unusually powerful undertows, beaches still reign supreme on the island. There are beaches for snorkeling, some for diving, others for surfing, secluded spots for quiet reflection, while others attract the partying crowd. The BVI, comprised of 60 islands and cays with six inhabited, is also the “Sailing Capital of the World.”
One getaway we allowed ourselves was a short ferry ride to Jost Van Dyke, BVI’s smallest inhabited island. White Bay, home of the infamous Soggy Dollar Bar, lives up to its name. So does the Soggy Dollar. Rumor has it that coming off the boats — the only mode of transportation — sailors’ money would get wet on the approach. The bar, home to the original painkiller (we’re still getting to that), was willing to accept their soggy dollars.
People come for the express purpose of having a good time painkillers help. These mag-
ical drinks — Pusser’s rum (and only Pusser’s rum) with coconut cream and fruit juice — were created at the bar in the 1970s and has since become the signature drink throughout the BVI.
Because of high tides, swimming on Tortola is sometimes discouraged but the water on Jost Van Dyke is calm and inviting. So I took my dip to save my trip. I had been afraid I was going to go home and have to admit I had spent two weeks in Tortola without going into the ocean.
Then I checked out the second-most famous bar on the island. Foxy’s is part of a whole commercial open-air market. It makes Soggy Dollar look like a laid-back neighborhood hangout.
Most of my unknown comrades were there for the atmosphere, loud music and a bar covered with pennants, hats, assorted license plates and dollar bills hanging precariously.
Foxy Callwood, who opened the bar in 1968, is a man of many stories, which he is more than happy to share and share and share.
The city center of Road Town, Tortola’s capital, offers the J.R. O’Neill botanical gardens, a hidden oasis that justifies a trip to town. A labyrinth of
interlocking paths engulfed in greenery that is small, large, low, high and enormous, with leaves the size of surfboards. The plants are light, dark, thin, thick, mottled, marbled — a mini-rainforest in the middle of a city.
Did I mention the roosters? They’re everywhere, either strutting about in their feathered finery or repeating their very-early morning greetings several times throughout the day. There’s no stopping them.
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A pizza poem
By LELAND P. GAMSON Guest Writer
When you sit at my table, With the ones you adore.
Please remember your neighbors, Who were here long before.
When I was a freight station, For the Railroad Express. In the days of your great-grandparents, And your great, great Aunt Bess.
Inside me packages arrived,
Greeted with cheers, Holding cap guns and dolls and prefab house parts, To be assembled from Sears.
There are also sad memories,
When there arrived on my floor.
The remains of brave soldiers.
Who died with valor in far-off war.
Now the days are long gone,
When I was a freight station,
And packages arrived,
From all over our nation.
But I am so delighted, That I have not been torn down,
But am now serving pizza,
In the center of town.
When the Good Shepard returns,
To make everything new, May I still be in Huntington,
With my patrons and crew.
WELCOMING WAVES Jost Van Dyke beach, a sunny shoreside in the British Virgin Islands.
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When should I tell my
family about my estate plan?
A. Many people struggle with this question, and there is no one-size-fits-all answer. Each family dynamic is unique, and feelings about privacy and disclosure vary from person to person. Some individuals choose to keep their affairs confidential to avoid potential disagreements or unsolicited advice. Others believe transparency can prevent future conflict by clarifying roles and intentions.
Troy C. Kiefer Attorney at Law tkiefer@beersmallers.com
However, even if you prefer not to share every detail, it is often helpful to let loved ones know at least the location of your critical documents. Knowing where to find your Will, Powers of Attorney, Appointment of Health Care Representative, and other estate planning records, can ease stress during unexpected events. This knowledge can also streamline the process of carrying out your wishes if something happens to you.
Ultimately, the decision about when and how much to tell your family depends on your personal comfort level and the nature of your relationships. Whether you opt for full disclosure or a more reserved approach, the most important goal is to ensure that your wishes are known and respected.
information you send to this newsletter shall not be deemed secure or confidential. Please visit our office to ensure complete confidentiality.
Medicare Insurance
Q. Why do I need prior authorization to fill my prescription?
A. Prior Authorization is one of several cost-containment methods that health insurance plans will use to minimize the expense of high-cost prescription drug utilization. But “prior authorization” isn’t a matter of getting permission to be able to receive a specific type of treatment. Rather, it is a means of determining if a patient meets the clinical criteria necessary to authorize the use of certain medications. This generally means that the patient will have to be diagnosed with a relevant health condition and have unsuccessful or inadequate response to other forms of treatment.
What it all boils down to is your healthcare provider painting a picture
Senior Relocation
Q. What are “Senior Relocation” services?
A. Several years ago, some friends whom had moved from their home to a local retirement community had an interesting conversation with me regarding their experiences in making their transition. One of the things that stood out in my mind was the fact that very little of the things they needed done was completed on a schedule that fit their needs. Also, coordinating all of the things that they needed to do was a bit overwhelming. And then it struck me that nearly everything that they needed accomplished were exactly what I was doing or had training in.
Having many years of experience in moving furniture in my younger years, a successful career in real estate, and a successful career in auctioneering and appraising, it didn’t take me long to see that all of my abilities were just what the doctor ordered for my friends. Hence the term “Senior Relocation” was born.
Tim McCulloch, Owner
Our systems include professional and courteous moving services, real estate brokerage, real estate and antique appraisals, auctioneering services, floor planning assistance and climate controlled storage. These services are all geared to assist the mature adult market in helping make the transition to retirement living much easier.
Whether you need all of our services or just a few, you can feel free to call us for a free analysis. We can show you how to sell your home in 30 days for your price, coordinate a professional and courteous move, along with any other services you may need to help your transition be as simple and as worry free as possible. Call (260) 441-8636 for a free consultation.
Tim McCulloch, Owner
HEART HEALTH
Q. How can I reduce stress and live a healthier life?
Stress is a normal and healthy part of life in the short term. But prolonged stress can result in several risk factors for heart disease, such as poor diet and alcohol consumption.
Everyone deals with stress in their own way. Here are a few healthy ways of processing stress that may work for you.
• Organize – This can mean cleaning your home or work space. It can also mean creating a schedule to help you manage your commitments.
• Eat healthy foods – Make sure you are taking care of yourself and not overeating. Stick to three meals a day and two snacks. No more, no less.
• Exercise – From a 30-minute jazzercise session to a 10-minute walk around your neighborhood, channel your stress into physical activity.
Ultimately, how you deal with stress depends on you and the source of your stress.
By identifying the root cause of your stress, you will be one step closer to mitigating its effect on your health.
One common cause of long-term stress is caring for an aging friend or family member. If you find yourself in this situation, Just Call Us! Our Family Caregiver Program offers several programs with the goal of reducing caregiver burnout.
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On Sunday, Feb. 2, The History Center will present the next lecture of the 2024-2025 George R. Mather Sunday Lecture Series. In this lecture, “His-Story, Our Story and Fort Wayne,”
Roberta F. Ridley will provide a brief summary of the African American experiences within the history of Fort Wayne. This will include some brief family or individual histories. The lecture begins at 2 p.m. Admission is free. The History Center is located at 302 E. Berry St., Fort Wayne.
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Settlers, Inc. will present “All Things Hearts,” a historic, hands-on arts class on 9-11:30 a.m. Thursday, Feb. 13, at the Historic Swinney Homestead, 1424 W. Jefferson Blvd., Fort Wayne, and the $20 fee includes
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refreshments and materials to craft a reproduction of an antique cut-paper woven Valentine. Registration due by Feb. 6. Call (260) 432-7314 or visit settlersinc.org.
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The 11th annual Kiwanis Chocolate Fest will be at Ceruti’s Diamond Room, 6601 Innovation Blvd, Fort Wayne. It will be from 6-9 p.m. Friday, Feb. 14, with doors opening at 5:30 p.m. Tickets are $60 each. For more information, to reserve tickets or donate silent auction items, contact the John Chapman Kiwanis Foundation at (260) 749-4901. There will be no tickets available for purchase at the door. Tickets are also available at givebutter. com/c/KiwanisChocolateFest.
A silent auction will be held in conjunction with the event and 100% of the profits will go to Riley’s Hospital for Children and other area under-served and under-privileged children’s charities, programs, and projects.
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The Annual Allen County 4-H Fling Fundraiser dinner and silent auction will be Saturday, Feb. 22, at the Allen County Fairgrounds. A pulled pork dinner with sides will be served beginning at 5 p.m., followed by a silent auction.
Pre-sale tickets are sold at the Purdue Allen County Extension office, 4001 Crescent Ave., Fort Wayne, for $7. Tickets will also be available at the door the day of the event for $10. All proceeds will benefit the Allen County 4-H clubs.
It is looking for new donated items or services. Call (260) 481-6826 or stop by the office for more information or to drop off donations.
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Headwaters Ice Rink is open from 4-9 p.m. Monday to Friday and noon to 9 p.m. Saturday and Sunday. Admission is $6 for skaters ages 3 and above; free for age 2 and below. Skate rental will be $3. An array of special programming is planned with fresh themes in February, skating demonstrations and a meet and greet with a very special guest character. Reduced admission skating and skate rental opportunities are available in February.
Ten-punch skating passes will be available to purchase at the rink, 333 S. Clinton St., Fort Wayne, during normal operation hours.
The rink is closed Monday and Tuesday. Additional or extended hours will be announced throughout the season. Stay up
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to date on its Facebook page at @HeadwatersParkFW and @ FortWayneParks.
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Woodlands Senior Activity Center
For more information, call (260) 248-8944 or visit whitleycountycouncilonaging.org. The center is located at 710 Opportunity Drive, Columbia City.
9 a.m. Wednesday, pixie bingo. 9-10 a.m. Monday, Wednesday and Friday, line dancing.
9 a.m. Tuesday and Friday, 12:30 p.m. Thursday, euchre.
9 a.m. Tuesday, Bible study with Cheryl.
9 a.m. Thursday, craft and chat
10-11 a.m. Monday, Wednesday and Friday, chair exercise. Noon Tuesday, dominoes. 12:30 p.m. Wednesday, hand and foot card game.
1 p.m. Tuesday, Bible study with Bob.
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McMillen Park Community Center
For information, visit fortwayneparks.org or call (260) 427-6000. The center is located at 3901 Abbott St., Fort Wayne. Pickleball, 9 a.m. to 2 p.m. Monday to Friday.
Adult yoga, 6-7 p.m. Tuesday and noon to 1 p.m. Wednesday. CardioFit, 6:30-7:30 p.m. Monday and Thursday.
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Adult/open gym/volleyball, 6-8 p.m. Monday through Wednesday.
Essential steps, 5:30-6:30 p.m. Monday and 6-8 p.m. Wednesday.
Yoga for seniors, noon to 1 p.m. Wednesday.
Yoga for Adults, 6-7 p.m. Tuesday.
235 E. Clingerman, Churubusco,
Posthumous art exhibition to honor Whitley County artist
An exhibition honoring Sarah Creason, featuring her last available oil and acrylic paintings available for purchase, will be held Saturday, Feb. 1, to Wednesday, Feb. 26, at The Orchard Gallery of Fine Art, 6312-A Covington Road, Fort Wayne.
Proceeds will benefit Cancer Services of Northeast Indiana.
The gallery is open, with free admission, from 10 a.m. to 6 p.m. on weekdays, and 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. Saturday.
The reception honoring
Creason’s legacy will be held from 11 a.m. to 2 p.m. Feb. 1. In the window, there will be glass and Valentine’s Day gifts by several artists, plus full jewelry cases.
For more information, visit theorchardgallery.com.
Foellinger-Freimann Botanical Conservatory announces 2025 showcase exhibits
The Foellinger-Freimann Botanical Conservatory has unveiled its lineup of 2025 showcase exhibits, offering visitors a year of immersive, family-friendly experiences. Each exhibit blends nature, art and interactivity to create unforgettable memories for guests of all ages.
Below is a preview of what’s to come.
“Floor is Lava!” runs through April 6. Get ready for an adventure as the conservatory transforms into the hottest garden around. Inspired by the childhood game, “Floor is Lava!” challenges visitors to navigate an obstacle course set amidst fiery hues, tropical plants and a roaring volcano centerpiece. Perfect for all ages, this exhibit combines fun, botanical beauty and even a bit of education on volcanic science.
“Floor is Lava!” is sponsored by English Bonter Mitchell Foundation, Magee-O’Connor Foundation, Fort Wayne Park Foundation, PNC Charitable Trusts and 103.9 Wayne FM.
The “Color in Motion: Butterfly Exhibit” runs from April 15 to June 22. Spring takes flight with “Color in Motion,” where exotic, live butterflies bring vibrant colors and natural wonder to life. Watch butterflies emerge from their chrysalides and explore the lush landscape of multicolored blooms. This sensory-rich experience highlights the beauty of these delicate pollinators, while em-
phasizing their crucial role in ecosystems.
The butterfly exhibit is sponsored by: English Bonter Mitchell Foundation, Fort Wayne Park Foundation, in memory of Jo Ann and William Wyatt, 21Alive and 97.3 WMEE.
“... Something Blue” is from June 28 to Nov. 16. Celebrate the romance of summer and autumn with “... Something Blue,” a wedding-inspired garden exhibit. Featuring dramatic plantings, a grand fountain and enchanting bluethemed landscapes, this exhibit offers a fairytale setting perfect for couples, photographers and nature lovers alike. Enjoy elegant touches, like a ceremonial archway, floral chandeliers and interactive elements for all visitors.
“…Something Blue” is sponsored by: English Bonter Mitchell Foundation, Fort Wayne Park Foundation and Majic 95.1.
“Fern’s Fairylight Express” is Nov. 22, 2025 to April 12, 2026.
Step aboard “Fern’s Fairylight Express” for a whimsical journey through Fairy Glen. This enchanting winter exhibit, created in collaboration with local author and illustra-
tor, Talitha Shipman, features magical model trains, charming fairy characters and collaborative challenges to “get the train back on track.” Perfect for visitors of all ages, it’s an unforgettable adventure where imagination grows.
“Fern’s Fairylight Express” is sponsored by: English Bonter Mitchell Foundation, Fort Wayne Park Foundation, PBS Fort Wayne and Majic 95.1.
The botanical conservatory’s showcase exhibits promise something for everyone, from playful adventures to romantic escapes and immersive storytelling.
Don’t miss these one-of-akind exhibits— where nature and creativity come together to inspire and delight.
The Foellinger-Freimann Botanical Conservatory offers year-round gardens, seasonal displays and educational programming in the heart of Fort Wayne. Dedicated to connecting visitors with the wonders of nature, the conservatory serves as a vibrant community resource and tranquil retreat.
For more information, hours and admission details, visit botanicalconservatory.org or call (260) 427-6440.
REMEMBERING SARAH The work of late oil and acrylic painter, Sarah Creason, will be on display and available for purchase Saturday, Feb. 1, to Wednesday, Feb. 26, at The Orchard Gallery of Fine Art, Fort Wayne.
Faith has carried him through 100 years
By CATHY SHOUSE Feature Writer
Gene Dettmer celebrated his 100th birthday in January and credits his faith with carrying him through. One of his most difficult and memorable times was serving in the United States Army in World War II. Starting in 1943, he was in the military for almost two years. The details were written in a book that included him among many other servicemen. It was released in 2018 and entitled, “We fought to Win: American World War II Veterans Share Their Stories,” by Kayleen Reusser.
An excerpt from the book is:
“He credits religious faith for his safety. God placed me with an anti-aircraft regiment to protect me.”
Dettmer, who came out of the service as a corporal in the Army, recently shared more on a telephone call from his home in an independent living apartment in Fort Wayne. He described his living area as filled with maps of Europe and England on the walls, as well as other photos from his life. His tone was upbeat as he shared his thoughts. Memories of his experience at the Battle of the Bulge are still fresh in
his mind and he shared his faith with fellow soldiers at that time.
“I always let those guys know I was godly, that God was with me or his angels were,” he said. “I don’t know that I saved anybody.”
Dettmer’s wife of 69 years, Jackie, passed away in 2015, and they were childhood sweethearts at Ossian High School. He continues to miss her.
“She was a beautiful woman,” he said.
Their children, Michael, Debbie (Vaughn), and Tim are his support as he keeps up the most active lifestyle he is able to. Staff at the facility also care for his needs. He has help keeping medicines straight and in other ways.
“God gave me legs,” Dettmer said. “I can still walk. My mind is still good. I certainly enjoy life. I have lots of friends here.”
And walking is what Dettmer does to a great extent. He walks to the chapel in the facility to worship on Sunday. When the weather allows, he will walk outdoors on the sidewalk, taking many steps.
“I’m on my third walker,” he said. “I’ve worn out the wheels.”
He’s got a motorized wheelchair he chooses not to use,
unless he must.
But at his advanced age, there are challenges and struggles he must face. At times, the situation does wear on him.
“I talk to God about it all the time. I’d sure like to go home to heaven,” he said.
Yet, he still thinks of others.
“I want to be an encouragement to other people,” Dettmer said. “I call it amazing grace. God takes care of me and puts me in the right place. He keeps me walking.”
ARMY VETERAN Gene
Dettmer, who is turning 100 soon, said his faith goes back as far as when he served in World War II. Dettmer, an Army veteran, poses with plates given to him from friends he made in Germany while serving in the war. Photo provided by Gene Dettmer.
Important documents should be copied and stored safely
By CECIL SCAGLIONE Mature Life Features
Everyone should know that you must keep copies of your income tax returns. The length of time varies from four to seven years. But, since you’re keeping copies anyhow, why not keep them for seven to 10 years to work for you in case questions arise in the corridors of the federal, state, or city income tax agencies that may be affected.
The copies you keep can spare you a lot of grief by documenting your tax trail over the years you
retain your records.
Put into a safety deposit box or safe along with these tax returns should be copies of your home mortgage. And add a list of any renovations, addition, or improvements made to your residence.
You also should add copies or a list of all insurance policies. Included in this pile should be copies of your Social Security card, birth and marriage certificates, divorce papers, military identity and discharge documents, and any other personal papers.
You might also make a list in your computer of all these documents and their numbers with relevant phone numbers. Mature Life Features Copyright 2025
Thumbing a ride
By JIM CARPENTER Guest Writer
I thought of a time many years ago, when I was just a young man.
I would often travel hundreds of miles by using the thumb on my
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Selecting a long-term care facility can be one of the most important decisions you make for yourself or a loved one. As you evaluate different options, it’s crucial to consider factors, such as the quality of care, environment, staff expertise and personalized services. You want a place that feels like home, where residents maintain a sense of independence and community while receiving the support they need.
At Golden Years, our mission is to create an atmosphere which promotes comfort, well being and dignity. With our private rooms arranged in welcoming neighborhood settings, we encourage social engagement while preserving personal space.
Each neighborhood has dining areas, giving residents the freedom to enjoy meals with friends.
The centrally-located Arbor Cafe is also available to all residents, staff and guests for a snack or treat. In addition, cozy
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Navigating grief and sadness
Navigating the journey of grief, which can also be viewed as a journey of love, often involves experiencing sadness that can appear unexpectedly and sometimes linger longer than anticipated. Sadness is typically defined as a feeling of unhappiness, particularly in response to adverse events and it encompasses emotional pain linked to loss, despair, helplessness, disappointment and sorrow. According to the APA Dictionary of Psychology, sadness is an emotional state
ranging from mild to severe, generally triggered by the loss of something deeply valued. It’s important to note that persistent sadness is a key symptom of major depressive disorders.
In prior discussions surrounding grief, the loneliness that often accompanies it was highlighted. Sadness is an integral component of that loneliness, often surfacing in ways that can feel overwhelming. Symptoms may include sleep disturbances, loss of appetite
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BY TOM ROSE Coping with Grief
and disinterest in activities that previously brought joy.
Acknowledging sadness is a crucial first step in managing it. It’s essential to accept these feelings and strive to control them, as they are a natural part of the love journey and can be likened to the concept of a
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“Balloon in a Box.” Engaging with others for support can be beneficial, connecting with friends and loved ones can help improve your emotional state. Additionally, investing time in self-care activities such as walking, pursuing hobbies, reading, cooking and enjoying sports can be effective. Many find solace in music; for example, jazz or artists like Frank Sinatra can evoke powerful emotions tied to the experience of sadness.
It’s vital to remember that sadness is a common experience during grief, and even years later, some days may still feel particularly difficult. Accepting that not every day will be positive is part of the healing process. As someone once wisely advised, “it is what it is; put on your big boy pants and deal with it.”
Moreover, seeking to shield oneself from sadness can inadvertently lead to a denial
of happiness. The balance of emotions is essential; as it’s been stated, “happiness would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness.” Viewing sadness as a gift can be transformative embracing it rather than rushing through it allows for personal growth and an enriched appreciation of joy. For those finding sadness overwhelming or grappling with depression, it’s important to seek professional help.
Editors Note: Tom Rose is the author of “Balloon in a Box: Coping with Grief,” available on Amazon, at Fables Books in Goshen, and on his website, thomaslrose.com. He offers speaking engagements and facilitates grief groups. Feedback can be directed to rosenadrose@comcast. net or (574) 596-6256. Additionally, Tom hosts the weekly podcast “Senior Talk Michiana,” accessible on Spotify and through his website at thomaslrose.com/ senior-talk.
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Blast To The Past —
‘Laughter in the Rain’ resurrected Sedaka’s fame
Neil
Sedaka
A Boomer Blast To The Past
By RANDAL C. HILL
When you’re a celebrated recording star whose career suddenly goes south, there’s little chance that you’ll ever regain your place of prominence on the hit charts. But sometimes the good winds of fate blow your way, and, unexpectedly, you find a whole new — and adoring — audience.
Neil Sedaka, born in Brooklyn in 1939, was a piano prodigy who played the classics but who was also drawn to the rock ‘n’ roll that blasted from his bedroom radio. When
Sedaka was 13, an apartment neighbor introduced Sedaka to 16-year-old Howie Greenfield, an aspiring poet/lyric writer from the same building. They hit it off immediately, and with Greenfield providing the words, Sedaka sold 25 million teen-oriented singles before the Beatles swept him from radio playlists in 1964.
Six years later, Sedaka kept his properties here but moved his family to England, where he recorded three hit albums. In 1972, he met longtime fan Elton John, who invited Sedaka to join John’s newly created Rocket Records label.
Sedaka and Greenfield had ended their partnership; Sedaka thus hooked up with another New York lyricist, Phil Cody.
Later, Cody recalled helping with the former hitmaker’s mid-1970s comeback: “Neil had a house in the Catskills. We got
together one morning, and he played the melody to ‘Laughter in the Rain.’ I just sat there with a blank stare on my face. I had nothing. I had totally nothing.
“I excused myself and went out. We were up in the country, so I just took a walk and sat down in a field, smoked a joint, and nodded off under a tree. I got myself up a couple of hours later and walked back. Neil was still there. I sat down, picked up a yellow pad of paper, and in five minutes I had most of the song done.”
Cody’s lyrics recalled moments of an earlier, more innocent time, when the thrill of new love defined a wondrous and meaningful relationship:
“Strolling along country roads with my baby
“It starts to rain, it begins to pour
“Without an umbrella we’re
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GOLDEN OLDIES Neil Sedaka is a veteran singer-songwriter, known for his hits in the 60s and 70s such as “Oh! Carol” and “Laughter in the Rain.” Photo from Wikipedia.
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Ark Encounter has world’s largest timber-frame structure
There’s no denying the fact that the Ark Encounter near Williamstown, Ky., is extremely impressive.
world’s biggest timber-frame structure. Once inside, see how the enormous posts and massive beams go together to support this amazing boat.
By ROD KING
At 510 feet long, 85 feet wide and 51 feet tall, it dominates the property and at first glance from the shuttle bus arriving from the parking lot, it’s truly breathtaking. It looks pretty much as pictured in Sunday school, and as you approach, it blocks out the horizon. Bushes in animal shapes line the path, which is great for photo ops. It is made of 3.3 million board feet of timber from all over the world, making it the
FAMILY QUARTERS Diorama shows how Noah and his family lived during their year on the ark before the waters receded. Everything on the Ark Encounter is based on Genesis verses 6-9 and God’s instructions to Noah to build the ark and save the animals. It took Noah, his sons and some hired hands 50 years to construct it.
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Enter on the ground level and queue up for a clever, humorous video presentation featuring a skeptical journalist and her crew interviewing Noah as the ark takes shape in the background. Keep their faces in mind because the same crew shows up again to interview the spokesperson for the modern Ark Encounter on deck No. 3.
A long ramp takes you up to deck No. 1 where you learn about the coming flood, see animal exhibits and find out what types of creatures Noah brought on board.
Deck No. 2 details how Noah
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soaked to the skin
“I feel a shiver run up my spine
“I feel the warmth of her hand in mine” And then came that oft-repeated chorus:
“Ooh, I hear laughter in the rain
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“Walking hand in hand with the one I love
“Ooh, how I love the rainy days
“And the happy way I feel inside”
There’s a good chance that Sedaka’s tune conjured up memories from a decade earli-
familiar environment.
Beyond medical attention, we prioritize meaningful activities which nurture emotional and mental well being. Regularly scheduled events, worship, and educational programs cater to
er, when the Ronettes described a similar moment:
“Walking in the rain
“And wishing on the stars up above
“And being so in love”
Neil recorded “Laughter in the Rain” in Los Angeles in 1974. It quickly became a UK
a variety of interests, fostering connections between residents and staff members alike.
By blending quality care with privacy, social opportunities, and personalized support, Golden Years meets the needs
hit that same year. In 1975, he joyfully rode his new Rocket Records single to number one on the Billboard Hot 100 chart here in the states.
Ironically, while four Liverpool lads had trashed Sedaka’s early career, it was a Brit who resurrected it a decade later.
of today’s seniors and their families. When you choose us, you choose a trusted partner committed to enhancing each resident’s quality of life and providing peace of mind for loved ones.
— This $101 million, Christian theme park near Williamstown, Ky., was in the planning stages for eight years and another eight under construction. All displays and exhibits expound the literal interpretation of the Biblical story of Noah and the ark.
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MASSIVE STRUCTURE At 510-feet long and 51-feet tall, the ark blocks out the horizon and dominates the surrounding property. It is the largest timber-frame structure in the world. The path from the bus station to the ark is lined with animal sculptures.
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and his family maintained the ark, cared for and fed thousands of animals, and disposed of their waste during the year they were on board together. The top deck, deck No. 3, is where the family quarters are located. Dioramas show what the family did. It also focuses on the impact of the flood on the world.
The $101 million, Christian theme park was in the planning stage for eight years and under construction for another eight. It’s the brain child of Australian evangelist/creationist, Ken Ham, president of Answers in Genesis. All of the displays and exhibits expound the literal interpretation of the Biblical story of Noah and the ark with the express intent of demonstrating that the Bible is correct.
Everything is based on Genesis verses 6-9, which states: “God came to Noah, a man who was blameless in a time of extreme wickedness, and told him to build an ark because the world was going to be flooded.”
Noah was given the dimensions (300 cubits long by 50 cubits wide by 30 cubits high) and instructed that he and his family and two of every kind of animal should get on board when completed. They would be the future of the new world.
Noah, who was already over 500 years old, his wife and their three sons and their wives and some hired hands spent 50 years constructing the ark. Noah sup-
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posedly never slept during the year of the flood because all his time was spent caring for 6,000 animals. He lived to be 950.
Ark Encounter also includes Screaming Eagle Zip Lines and Aerial Adventure; Ararat Ridge Zoo, featuring camel and donkey rides and a petting area; Emzara’s Kitchen Restaurant; a pottery store; and an ice cream shop.
Hours through March 8 are from 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. Wednesday to Friday; 9 a.m. to 6 p.m. Saturday; and closed Sunday to Tuesday. Check all dates and hours before coming by visiting arkencounter.com.
Ticket prices are: adults, $64.99; seniors, $54.99; youth, $31.99; and children 10 and under, free. Ark Encounter is located off Kentucky Highway 36 and I-75 (exit 154) in Williamstown, Ky.
NOAH’S LIST OF ANIMALS Noah’s list of animal types included 1,398 and a total of 6,744 animals in all. It’s said he did not sleep the entire year on the ark during the flood because he so was busy feeding and caring for the animals.
CAGED CREATURE Pareiasaur is one of the animal types said to have been taken on the ark.
Social Security can help you start or return to work
By MONA HARTER District Manager, South Bend Social Security Office
If you receive Supplemental Security Income or Social Security Disability Insurance benefits and want to start or return to work, we can help. Ticket to Work is a program that supports career development for SSDI beneficiaries and SSI recipients who want to work and achieve financial independence. The Ticket program is free and voluntary. Learn more about the Ticket program at ssa.gov/work or call the Ticket to Work Help Line at (866)-968-7842 or (866)-8332967 (TTY) 8 a.m. to 8 p.m. Monday through Friday. Our blog article “Celebrate the ADA and Ticket to Work During Disability Pride Month” at blog. ssa.gov/celebrate-the-ada-andticket-to-work-during-disability-pride-month, also provides
additional information on the Ticket program.
The Plan for Achieving Self-Support program also helps people with disabilities start or return to work. A PASS allows you to set aside resources and income other than your SSI for a specified period. With a PASS you can pursue a work goal that will reduce or eliminate your need for SSI or SSDI benefits. We can refer you to a vocational rehabilitation counselor who can help you figure out your work goal. You can also set up a plan to cover the costs of vocational services (including testing and business planning).
The PASS must be in writing, and we must approve the plan. You can access the application at ssa.gov/forms/ ssa-545.html. Or contact your local PASS Cadre or local Social Security office for the Form SSA-545-BK. You can get help
writing your plan from Ticket service providers, vocational counselors, relatives, and representatives.
For more information about the PASS program, read “Working While Disabled— A Guide to Plan to Achieve Self-Support” at ssa.gov/pubs/EN-0511017.pdf or “The Red Book —A Guide to Work Incentives” at ssa.gov/redbook.
A job isn’t just a source of income — it can be a vehicle to independence or a step to fulfilling your dreams. Let our Ticket to Work or PASS programs help you achieve your goals.
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With the free Ticket to Work and Plan for Achieving Self Support programs, SSI and SSDI members can achieve financial independence. Photo provided by Social Security Administration.
Who is going to help you relocate?
By KURT NESS Broker, Co-Owner Ness Bros. Realtors and Auctioneers
Many people get stuck in the same situation where their family members and relatives don’t live near them and they are stuck wondering, “who is going to help me move?”
This is where we come in. We recommend companies that do business with us often as well as oversee the moving process. We guarantee that someone from our Ness Bros. team, who you know and trust, will be at the home to ensure that the moving process goes smoothly. We are here to help make downsizing easy and help you when your loved ones are too far away to help.
Our Company’s Role
Our company’s first and foremost job is to listen. Listen to everyone’s needs and concerns, because everyone is different. First, we meet and do a free consultation and assess your situation. What are your challenges? Where do you want to move? What do you want for your new home?
Second, after our first meeting, we created a document stating all the options that are available to you moving forward. From there, we answer any questions you have about the options we make available for you.
Now, does this mean that you must move out of your home? Certainly not; however, it does mean that we need to evaluate the circumstances you are in now and see if we can find solutions because
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your current situation might not be working anymore. For example, what if stairs is not an option for you any longer; however, your washer and dryer are in the basement. So, would moving the laundry room to the main level be an option? It very well could be, but you also would need to understand that you wouldn’t be using half of your
home any longer as well. Would it be easier to make a move to a one-story home?
These are questions you will need to face. We are here to help you with these questions and concerns every step of the way.
Contact our Senior Relocation team to get help and answers to your questions on right-sizing. We’re here to
help you sort through every chapter of your life.
Reach out to our relocation specialists at (260) 459-3911 in Fort Wayne or (260) 3563911 in Huntington. You can also contact us through our website, NessBros.com, or stop in one of our offices, located at 3344 Mallard Cove Lane, Fort Wayne, or 519 N. Jefferson St., Huntington.
Nip migraines in the bud
By JAMES GAFFNEY Mature Life Features
Migraine sufferers take note: don’t try to stave off that encroaching headache through sheer willpower.
Most people who treat their migraines with triptans —
among the most popular and effective medications — will find they work best if taken early in the attack, before skin sensitivity develops, according to research.
As their headaches progress, nearly four out of five migraine sufferers develop skin hypersensitivity (merely touching their hair, scalp, or skin around the eyes becomes painful). A Harvard Medical School study shows that once this hypersensitivity takes root, it’s too late to abort the painful attack with one of the several triptan medications available on the market.
However, if a triptan is taken before sensitivity develops, it is likely to completely relieve the pain.
Other research suggests two-thirds of people with migraines are pain-free within four hours if they take sumatriptan early enough in the attack.
Some 39 million Americans get migraine headaches.
People who suffer from
migraines often are reluctant to take medication at the first sign of the attack for various reasons. The medications are expensive and insurance companies may limit the monthly allowance.
In a recent study, 691 people who get migraines were included in a test. A placebo was given to 236 when they go a migraine; 233 were given 50mg. of sumatriptan, and 222 were given 100 mg. of sumatriptan. All were required to take the medication within two hours of the start of the migraine.
After four hours, 71 (30%) of the placebo group were pain free, compared to 142 (61%) of the 50 mg. group and 151 (68%) of the 100 mg. group.
The incidence of side effects, such as dizziness and sleepiness, was about the same with the higher dosage of sumatriptan as with the lower. If the medication was taken earlier, the side effects were less than if it was taken later.
A similar study focusing on zolmitriptan supported those findings. Of 250 patients studied, 60% of those who took the medication within 15 minutes of onset of symptoms were pain-free two hours later. Mature