OBITUARIES

Susan E.

MARRELLO

Susan E. Marrello, 70, of Township of Washington, formerly of Ridgefield, passed away on Saturday, Dec. 24, 2022. Susan is survived by her beloved husband, Raymond Sr.; her children Raymond Jr. and his wife Nicole, Jennifer and her husband Dean, Daniel, Michael and his wife Daniela, Eric and his wife Tiffany and youngest daughter Tiffany; her grandchildren Olivia, Alexa, Giovanni, Jazzlyne, Zayn, Isabella and Luca. She is predeceased by her father and mother, Joseph and Dolores Shockey, and her sister Dale Powasnick.

Susan forever left her mark by raising six children into kind, loving and successful adults, especially for each other. Her selfless approach to life, kindness to people and passion for animals will be her legacy.

The family will receive guests at Becker Funeral Home on Thursday, Dec. 29 from 3 to 8 p.m. A Mass celebrating Susanʼs life and faith will be held at St. John The Baptist R.C. Church in Hillsdale on Friday, Dec. 30 at 10 a.m. An interment at George Washington Memorial Park in Paramus to follow. Memorial contributions can be made in Susanʼs name to the ALS Foundation at ALS.org/donate.

Doris M. MARTELLI

Doris M. Martelli (née Di Chiara), 88, of Washington Township passed away peacefully on Tuesday, Dec. 13, 2022. Beloved wife of the late Homer A. Martelli for 57 years. Devoted mother of Wayne Martelli, Lenore Oregero, and Leslie Hines. Cherished grandmother of Joseph Martelli, Joseph Oregero, and Max, Jack, and Quincy Hines.

Predeceased by her beloved sister Claire.

Doris graduated from Hunter College, New York City (Bronx campus), with a bachelorʼs degree in psychology.

She was office manager of the Village of Ridgewood Building Department until her retirement in 1996. Homer and Doris were active members of the Disabled American Verterans (DAV) for many years, with Homer serving as chaplain and Doris as commander of the ladies auxiliary.

Visitation at 8:30 a.m. and funeral service at 9:45 a.m. at Robert Spearing Funeral Home, Inc., 155 Kinderkamack Road, Park Ridge (rsfhi.com), followed by interment in Brig. Gen. William C. Doyle Veterans Memorial Cemetery, Wrightstown at 1 p.m., all on Wednesday, Dec. 21, 2022.

Mary PERINI

Mary Perini, 86, of Hillsdale, passed away on Friday, Dec. 23, 2022. Mary was predeceased by her husband, Robert, and is survived by her children Robert and his wife, Jennifer; Stephen and his wife, Samantha; David and his wife, Rosanna; and Gregory and his wife, Rachele; and her grandchildren Carly, Tiana, Jillian, Luciano, Nikko, Dominique, Serena, Stephen, Jake, and Emma.

The family will receive guests at Becker Funeral Home, 219 Kinderkamack Road, Westwood on Wednesday, Jan. 4 from 4 to 8 p.m. AMass celebrating Maryʼs life and faith will be held at Saint John the Baptist R.C. Church in Hillsdale on Thursday, Jan. 5 at 10 a.m.

Memorial contributions can be made in Maryʼs name to St. Jude Childrenʼs Research Hospital, stjude.org/donate. Becker-funeralhome.com.

Jean C. DEER

Jean Calvin Deer, surrounded by his wife and daughters, peacefully took his last breath on Dec. 26, 2022 in his Westwood home. He was born on Jan. 8, 1941 in Teaneck to Charles and Jean (née Culligan) and raised in Englewood.

He was an affectionate husband, a loving father of three daughters, and an adoring Grandpa to his four grandchildren.

Jean served in the United States Army, 1960–1962, followed by an additional four years in the Army Reserves.

Jeanʼs passion for the arts put him on a path to become a professional portrait photographer, spending a majority of his 30-year career at his successful studio in downtown Westwood.

On May 31, 1997, Jean survived a massive stroke resulting in global aphasia and right side paralysis. He may not have taken a photograph in over 25 years but his photography continues to be cherished to this day by families everywhere.

His art did not stop there, however:He taught himself to use his left hand and spent his days drawing. At last count he had created almost 18,000 works of art. Jean loved to share his artwork. To see some of it, visit jeandeer.com.

Jean was predeceased by his parents, along with his brothers, Clark and Ronald. He is survived by his wife of 49 years, Ellen, who has been his devoted caregiver for over 25 years; his daughters Trine and her husband Pete Wagner, Erika and her husband Chris Kelley, and Kristine; his grandchildren Shane, Colleen, Bryn, and Axel; and countless in-laws, nieces, and nephews.

Visitation is Friday, Dec. 30, 2022, from 4 to 8 p.m. at Becker Funeral Home, Westwood. Funeral services are Saturday, Dec. 31, 2022, at 10 a.m. at Zion Lutheran Church, Westwood. Interment at the Garden of Memories, 300 Soldier Hill Road, Washington Township.

In lieu of flowers, the family requests donations in Jeanʼs name to the Adler Aphasia Center. Donations can be mailed to 60 West Hunter Avenue, Maywood, NJ 07607, or submitted via adleraphasiacenter.org/donate-now.

Sharon M. FALLON

Sharon M. Fallon (née Foley) passed away peacefully at home in Park Ridge on Saturday, Dec. 24, 2022. Beloved wife of Robert M. Fallon for 34 years. Dear sister of Michael Foley and his wife, Liz; Kathy Foley; Daniel Foley and his wife, Joan; and the late James Foley. Devoted mother of Kristen Kerber and her husband, Rich, and Ryan Fallon. She raised her children with love and devotion. Sharon always made time for and provided support in caring for her family.

Also survived by many wonderful nieces and nephews, other relatives and friends. Sharon, like her mother, Therese, never liked to use the words “in law.” She thought of Bobʼs sisters and brothers as sisters and brothers who loved her dearly; Patricia and Thomas Lamantia, Elizabeth Fallon, Timothy Fallon, Michael and Grace Fallon, James “Jimbo” and Debbie Fallon, Joseph and Donna Fallon, Patrick Fallon and Katie Harrop. All fondly remember Sharon for her laughter, love, and compassion She will be missed by all who knew her.

Sharon had been a sales executive for Campbell Soup Co. for 15 years and retired as an account executive for World Insurance Company, PIA, where she taught public safety to local police departments.

Funeral Mass 11 a.m. on Friday, Dec. 30, 2022 at Our Lady of Mercy R. C. Church, Park Ridge. Interment in Maryrest Cemetery, Mahwah. Visitation 6:30 to 8:30 p.m. on Thursday, Dec. 29, 2022 at Robert Spearing Funeral Home Inc.

Harry J.

HOUSE JR.

Harry J. House Jr., 99, passed away peacefully, surrounded by his loving family, on Sunday, Dec. 18, 2022. Beloved husband of the late Mamye F. House for 71 years. Devoted father of Robert, Linda, and the late John. Cherished grandfather of Blaine, Ariana and Sienna. Great grandfather of Maisie, Nora, Sophie and Avalyn. Harry was a veteran of WWII and co-owner of Miller Northern Corp., a printing and engraving company, for 45 years. He

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Tips to help cope with the loss of a loved one

The loss of a loved one can be difficult to confront. That difficulty might have been heightened in recent years, when a global pandemic has caused the death of millions, including many people who were otherwise healthy prior to contracting the COVID-19 virus.

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