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mission is to provide the finest comprehensive and personalized care for patients and families. We are committed to clinical excellence, while building trusting relationships with our patients in a fun and comfortable environment. Drs. David and Elise Burrus are a husband and wife team. We pursued additional training after dental school to become certified in pediatric dentistry, and we understand that children have unique dental, behavioral, and emotional needs. We have a genuine desire to help kids learn about proper oral health to achieve a cavity-free future!
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parenting magazine
Publisher
Aaron Switzer
Editor
Angela Switzer
Associate Editors
Amanda Klingman
Nicole Vulcan
Contributing Writers
Edie Jones
Mikayla Lewis
Annette Benedetti
Lori S. Brizee
Calendar Editor
Sean Switzer
Design & Layout
Euijin Gray
Photography
Cascade Center of Photography
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Kimberly Morse
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Winter Issue Cover Photography Marina Koslow Models Jenni and Violet Burke Design Euijin Gray
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Editor’s Note
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ould it really be that time of year again? Although it can be daunting heading into the holiday season, I must say, I’m pretty excited this year, having little ones in my life
again. My young nieces (and family) moved to Bend this summer, and boy, do they add a serious amount of fun. So, step back, parents, take a moment to notice the squeals, the hugs, and that sense of wonder we take for granted a time or two during the holidays – children are the gifts that keep on giving! Speaking of gifts, avoid the big box doldrums this year – check out the unique assortment
of wonderful presents, categorized in our gift guide this year– green, locally-made, and gifts that give back. Happy (guilt-free) shopping! Regarding what’s going on at school, you may hear your child talk about SEL.This is an important class that is relatively new to the education scene. Find out more in Mikayla Lewis’s informative article on Social and Emotional Learning in Education. You’ll also enjoy Edie Jones’s piece on values, in Parenting, which outlines thoughtful ways to transfer what’s important at your core to your offspring in your day-to-day life. Always a favorite for parents, Adult Time, by Annette Benedetti explores ways to bring back the fire with your partner après baby. And in Culture, we highlight the Central Oregon Youth Choir with its exciting singing opportunities for all ages. Our calendar is bursting at the seams this issue with holiday festivities, community gatherings, concerts and even some back-to-the-basics like story times and movies. Outdoors takes us on a wild ride to some remote hot springs (who knew?), and finally, get the inside scoop from the real expert, Santa, on parenting in Things I’ve Learned. Thank you for reading! Here at Bend Nest, we wish you a boisterous Holiday season filled with all those bubbly smiles and giggles!
Enjoy!
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Contents Upfront 9 Expert Q & A 10 BY the numbers 12 Parenting 22 Calendar Columns 29 adult Time 37 leaving the Nest 39 Things I’ve Learned
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sections 15 Education Can emotional intelligence boost academic prowess? You betcha! Social and Emotional Learning (SEL) comes to life in our schools.
17 feature Feel-good gift guide featuring Green Gifts, Gifts that Give Back and Locally-Made stocking stuffers.
26 culture Music to our ears! Central Oregon Youth Choir delights and offers children a wonderful opportunity.
31 health Is your child running the show? Check out Lori Brizee’s expert tips on picky eaters with some easy recipes to follow.
34 outdoors Ready for adventure? Join Nicole Vulcan on a wild west hot springs tour with kids in tow.
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Q&A Jennifer B. Schroeder, MD BMC Pediatrician
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When is it no longer appropriate for my child to bathe with the opposite sex parent and when is it no longer appropriate for siblings of the opposite sex to bathe together?
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This is a wonderful and difficult question! There is no set age that we deem to be appropriate and not appropriate for bathing with family members. Often times it varies greatly based on the individual child as well as the parent or sibling with whom they are bathing. I typically recommend that it is time to have separate bathing when the child feels uncomfortable continuing. Most children begin to want privacy around the time of puberty, which can start as early as 9-years-of-age. There is a lot that can be learned in terms of normal body parts, pubertal development, etc. from bathing with an adult. It is also a great way to bring up the crucial conversation regarding body safety.
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My twelve-year-old sleeps in on the weekends and will not get up. I feel like she’s wasting her life, but I don’t want to interfere if she needs the sleep. How do I know when enough is enough?
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Sleep is a critical part of overall health. Adolescents need more sleep than any age group other than infants. However, it is preferable for all children and adolescents to have a consistent bedtime and wake-up time. This helps to establish an appropriate sleep-wake cycle and more restful sleep. A good goal for total hours of sleep in the adolescent age range is 10-11 hours per night. In a world where kids have countless extracurricular activities, it is sometimes difficult for them to get to bed at a reasonable time. However, in this situation, I typically recommend that children move their bedtime ahead by 15-minute increments every week until they begin waking up at a reasonable time feeling well rested. Exceptions would be times such as illness, particularly busy periods of time for the child/family, travel, etc. when anyone would need more sleep. You may also want to inquire whether your child is having trouble falling asleep or staying asleep through the night. Further-
more, I would check on her while she is sleeping to make sure she is not snoring with long pauses in her breathing or gasping/choking. If that is the case then there would be other avenues to explore. Every time I feed my three-month-old baby, he spits up an enormous amount. I’m not talking about a little spit-up, I’m talking about a puddle every time he eats. He has been doing this ever since I began breast-feeding him. Is this normal or is he allergic to my milk?
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Most babies spit up during infancy. It can be as infrequent as once per week or as frequent as after every feeding. The quantity can vary greatly, as well, from a tiny dribble to what appears to be their entire feeding. The lower esophageal sphincter that helps to keep food in our stomach does not function appropriately until close to 6 months of age. In addition, babies spend a lot of time lying on their back at that age, so gravity isn’t helping to keep the food in their stomach either. The majority of babies are not bothered by the spitting up and gain weight appropriately, despite losing calories this way. We refer to these babies as “happy spitters.” However, some babies are bothered by the reflux of acidic gastric contents and it causes them discomfort. Those babies tend to be fussy, scream before or after spitting up, arch their backs as a reflex to the pain, and sometimes start to avoid feeding altogether as they begin to associate eating with pain. These babies are often easily treated with acid reducers. There is a separate condition known as milk protein intolerance. This is where the protein in milk (from dairy in Mom’s diet) causes inflammation in their intestinal tract. We see this most commonly presenting as blood in the stool and not as spitting up. There are some foods that are known to cause gassiness in breastfed babies and that can lead to worsening of their reflux. The common culprits are onions, cucumber, broccoli, and beans. True allergies to food or medication will cause hives and/or facial swelling, and as this is not what is happening for your infant, I do not believe that what you are describing is related to an allergy. Send us your questions angela@bendnest.com
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by the numbers It’s an ongoing debate in many homes: Holiday Activities % who typically did each activity as a child, and % who plan to this year Attend a gathering with extended family or friends on Christmas Eve or Day Childhood
91%
Now
86%
Buy gifts for friends or family Childhood
89%
Now
86%
When’s the right time to put up Holiday Decorations? Thanksgiving Weekend Dec 1 to 15 Dec 16 to 23 Christmas Eve It’s up all year!
46% 37% 13% 3% 1%
(Source: WRAL user poll)
Put up a Christmas tree Childhood
92%
Now
79%
Send Christmas or holiday cards Childhood
81%
Now
65%
Give homemade gifts, such as baked goods or crafts Childhood
Now
66% 58% Attend Religious services on Christmas Eve or Day Childhood
Now
Christmas and the Holidays:
What Do You Most Look Forward To? Time with Family/Friends Religious reflection/Church People are Happy, Joyful
69% 11% 7%
(Source: Pew Research Center)
69% 54% Pretend Santa Claus will visit home on Christmas Eve or Day Childhood
Now
72% 31% Go Caroling
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What Do You Like the Least?
36% 16%
Commercialism/Materialism Money/Too expensive Shopping/Crowds/Crowded stores
(Source: Pew Research Center)
(Source: Pew Research Center)
Childhood
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Christmas and the Holidays:
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33% 22% 10%
43 %
of consumer electronics shoppers have bought products on phones, while they’re looking at the products in a store
(Source: Euromonitor International)
87%
of non-religiously affiliated people say they celebrate Christmas. (Source: Pew Research)
$495
is the average holiday spending per child in 2015 (Source: Rubicon Project)
Almost
50%
of parents began their holiday shopping before Labor Day (Source: Rubicon Project)
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parenting
Raising Thoughtful Children By Edie Jones
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arents often ask how to teach values, especially when they are not associated with a religious belief or an extended family. Most importantly, parents need to know what they value. Talking about what you value and having it reflected through you is primary to teaching it. In other words, lead by example. If honesty is something you value, Always Be Truthful. If kindness is something you value, Demonstrate it at every opportunity. Talk about it with your kids when it happens. Otherwise, they may miss it. If you have religious beliefs and traditions, don’t leave the teaching of them to chance. When beliefs are important to you make them important to your kids. This can only happen by repetition, imitation, discussion and practice. Be diligent about choosing religious services over other events (sporting competitions, outings, etc.) whenever you can. You won’t be able to always achieve this goal as society often leans the other way, however,
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Values! What’s most important to you? The qualities and characteristics we impart to our children are, hopefully, the ones we value as parents. How important it is to recognize that we teach our children values from the minute they are born through everything we do. Making specific things part of our normal interactions with our kids assures we’re on the right track.
send the message to others about your priorities and you may be able to change scheduling to better fit your needs. Our kids were all competitive swimmers and we found there were certain times of the year that going to church on Sunday morning wasn’t possible. When this happened we made extra effort to get there when we could. One year I taught Sunday school and had to consistently miss the worship service. Our oldest two were asked to listen carefully so they could later convey to me important parts of the message. Of course they didn’t get it all. I appreciated what they did share and it made for interesting and educational conversation later at lunch. Watch for opportunities to involve your kids in outreach and giving. When they have outgrown clothes or toys let them decide to which charity or group these items will go. Have them involved in
cleanup or repair, even if it’s just handing Dad a tool to change a tire on the bike that is being passed on. This same idea applies to things that are being passed down from one sibling to another. As our four grew out of things (sweaters, bikes, other toys, etc.) we encouraged these to be given as birthday or Christmas gifts to whoever was going to inherit the item. Making sure all was ready and wrapping it with care added to the excitement both experienced at the time of the gifting. This also helped with parting from cherished items. My in-laws were responsible for another of our family traditions. As my husband’s parents grew older, they would pass on at Christmas time something they had treasured, labeling these “Heritage Gifts.” It was a way of letting everyone know what was important to each, giving an opportunity to share why it was valued. Be aware when opportunities to build values happen. Recently our granddaughters each wrote us handwritten, chatty letters that arrived via “snail” mail. How tempting it was to respond by email. What a missed opportunity if we had. Letter writing is almost a thing of the past and not valued as it was previously. Hopefully, this is the beginning of sharing a tradition that is fast disappearing. What a loss of an important value if that happens. Your values need to direct the things you want to work on immediately. If you don’t know what you want to accomplish, you’ll never get there. The decisions we make as parents are always based on our values and have an impact on our parenting styles, so setting priorities is important. Figuring out what we value and clarifying this in our thoughts helps create both short- and long-term goals. Often it’s easier to accomplish what we want by writing them down. Let’s say three things you highly value are 1) honesty, 2) kindness, and 3) personal growth.
Three long-term parenting goals that will help accomplish these are:
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Always
keep the promises you make to your children. For example When separation is difficult say, “I’m going to the store and will be back after lunch”, and remind them that you said, “I will come back,” when you return.
2. Support and help others when needed and encourage
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your children to do the same. Have your kids bake something for a neighbor and go with them to rake leaves. Have them help you decide which toys are to be given to the Goodwill or Habitat.
Learn as much as you can about managing parenting challenges, to help you learn about yourself and grow as a person.
Three short-term parenting goals that will help accomplish these are:
1. Become aware of your feelings when stressed and
work to send “I” messages instead of “You” messages that blame and shame. Apologize to your children when you make a mistake.
2. Point out and draw your children’s attention to the many positive things in your lives.
3. Know child development and what to expect as appropriate behavior at every “age and stage”.
Edie Jones is the author of Raising Kids With Love Honor and Respect; Recipes for Success. Her book can be purchased at Baby Phases, Dudleys Bookshop Café, Paulina Springs in Sisters and other stores in the area. For more information go to her website at www.recipes4raisingkids.com Winter 2016
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education
Let’s Get in Touch
Emotional learning in our schools through SEL By Mikayla Lewis
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here’s a lot of talk about whether school prepares students for the “real world” and whether our schools’ curriculum falls short when addressing the needs of the whole child. Intelligence is far more complex than just cognitive ability. In fact, it is now widely accepted that emotional intelligence plays a large role in one’s overall ability to adapt and be successful in the world. Interaction with others is a definite constant in life. Although simple addition tables and knowledge of the ABC’s will certainly help us navigate life, they aren’t going to help us understand ourselves, or those around us. If only there were a class to deal with these complex issues, ones that fit into the category of relationships or emotions.
This is, in a nutshell, the purpose of Social and Emotional Learning, known as SEL among public and private schools. SEL programs seek to encourage students to think about, discuss, and understand the things that often prove mystifying well past our school years – emotions, relationships, and choices. It’s imperative that students dig deep to understand this type of intelligence at a young age. The classic SEL approach is to start by teaching the five core competencies: self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, relationship skills, and responsible decision-making. As students work through these competencies, they learn how to handle their own personal feelings, and how to respect others’ as well. When speaking about SEL, Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence, says, “when a child trying to learn is caught up in a distressing emotion, the centers for learning are temporarily hampered. In an ideal learning environment, children are focused, fully attentive, motivated and engaged and enjoy their work.” In short, children who feel emotionally supported by their teacher, as well as by their peers, feel at ease in the classroom and are more apt to pay attention and feel happy about learning. Social and emotional learning facilitates academic learning.
While the concept may seem simple, it hasn’t been a widely taught subject until very recently. William E. Miller Elementary School in Bend has been at the forefront of implementing SEL and has some wonderful ideas about the program. Miller uses Growth Mindset, the idea that good habits and strong abilities are not fixtures to be unlocked and completed, but that they are developed and refined
through tenacity and hard work – that learning and growing never stops. Jenny White, an SEL teacher at the school, explains how they teach their kids that the human brain is a muscle, which anyone can strengthen, “through perseverance, hard work, and mistakes.” This truth encourages a love of learning and a persevering spirit. Social and Emotional Learning is far from just a speaking point or a book topic - it is important for educators to incorporate this type of learning into the day to day environment of the classroom. “We do a lot of activities that support the goal of the lesson, so the students are up and moving around,” White said. Whether that means running “neuron races” to illustrate the strengthening of the brain, or playing tug-of-war to bring to life the topics of struggle and encouragement, it’s a sure thing that SEL isn’t a class where kids find themselves sleeping. After starting the year by discussing and implementing the Growth Mindset, the rest of Miller’s school year cycles through the five competencies, giving special attention to each topic with its own curriculum, activities, and lessons. This next part of the program, according to White, will see the kids through the Relationship Skills portion, and will likely include conflict-resolution and cooperation techniques.
Miller isn’t the only school in Central Oregon to recognize the importance of SEL. Seven Peaks brings the conversation to their middle school with programs focused on empowerment and social awareness. The school has established a partnership with World Muse, an organization dedicated to inspiring women by equipping them to bring about positive change in the world around them. The partnership has manifested itself as a Muse Club for the middle school girls at Seven Peaks, designed to prepare and support the students as they grow and develop their identities as strong, educated women. The club will also be running an operation focused on the charities and organizations whose ideals are important to the students. Schools throughout the Bend-La Pine District are getting on board by launching their own SEL programs and campaigns, and it’s easy to see why that’s such a good thing. Parents should feel confident that their children are learning in a supportive environment. As these new programs take shape and become commonplace, they encourage a new generation of young people to respect and strengthen others while learning to respect and strengthen themselves. What does the real world need more than just that? Winter 2016
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Green Gifts Gifts that Give Back Locally Made Gifts Content by Amanda Klingman & Angela Moore Art Direction Amanda Klingman Photography by Cascade Center of Photography
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Garbage to Gardens Compost Kit Complete with a decomposition book and activity journal, this fun and interactive gift encourages children to get their hands dirty while fostering STEM learning and being kind to Mother Nature. $24.99
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Manzanita Kids Wood Rattle Non-toxic, organic wood rattle with soothing sounds for babies and toddlers in fun animal shapes. Wood sourced from sustainably managed NW forests. $19
Lark Mountain Modern 831 NW Wall St. Bend 541-797-2099 larkmountainmodern.com
In2green Upcycled Blanket for Babies and Kids Snuggly soft blanket featuring a variety of animal characters made from either organic cotton or recycled cotton-blend yarns sourced from fabric clippings re-fiberized with eco-fibers. Handcrafted in the USA. $85
Lark Mountain Modern 831 NW Wall St. Bend 541-797-2099 larkmountainmodern.com
Wool Baby Booties Keep those tiny tootsies toasty with booties handcrafted in Oregon using reclaimed Pendelton wool fabrics. $35
Lone Crow Bungalow 937 NW Wall St. Bend 541-383-2992 lonecrowbungalow.com
Trash Origami Book Create art not waste with fun paper making projects using easy-to-find recycled materials. $16.95
Wabi Sabi
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Arbor Timeless Bamboo Longboard This skateboard company has introduced alternative, environmentally friendly components into their wheel design and uses sustainably sourced wood and bamboo in their decks. $199.95
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Cate & Levi Hand Puppets and Stuffed Friends These one-of-a kind stuffed animals and puppets make perfect playtime and snuggle-time companions. Each is handmade from 100% reclaimed wool. No two are alike. Color and fabrics will vary. Puppet $29 Stuffed Friends $59
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Littles and parents will feel comfy and cozy on the inside as well as the outside in these beautiful clothes. The Bend-based business employs women in India who have escaped human trafficking, providing hope and opportunity for those looking to start a new life for themselves and their children. Positive messages grace their stylish tees, encouraging and empowering minds. Kids Tees $29 Punjammie PJ Pants $34 Specially Priced Holiday Sets also Available
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What better way to celebrate the holidays than with a gift that truly gives back? The Humane Society of Central Oregon offers pet adoptions of animals in need. Children will gain the opportunity to nurture, learn responsibility and companionship when a shelter animal joins the family. Many adult and younger furry (and some non-furry) friends need a place to call home and a human buddy to love.
Humane Society of Central Oregon 61170 SE 27th St. Bend 541-382-3537 www.hsco.org
Sudara.org 541-647-2459
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Jewelry by Nashelle This Bend-based jeweler creates both beautiful designs and goodwill by donating one plate of food for every piece purchased through its Fashion Feeding Hunger program. Nashelle has donated nearly half a million plates of food to NeighborImpact and to non-profits throughout the United States. Identity Wrap Bracelet with Charm $70
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One Piece Outfits and Hooded Rompers for Baby Although the designers of these delicious Milkbarn outfits do cute and cuddly oh so well, they also donate a portion of proceeds to Exile International, a charity that provides mental support and rehabilitation to ex-child soldiers and orphans in DR Congo and Uganda.
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Locally Made Gifts
Pro-Knot Outdoor Knots Kit
Sara Bella Upcycled Women’s Trifold Wallet $39 Sara Bella Upcycled Billfold $20 Made in Bend sarabella.com
The Philosophical Egg Toy Co. $20 Wabi Sabi Build Your Own Sword Kit Made in Bend philosophicaleggtoyco.com
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Nashelle EXO Bright Helmet Covers
Lucky Heart Studs $43 Lucky Small Open Heart Ring $59 Lucky Mini Open Heart Ring $41 Made in Bend nashelle.com
Lily Lane Stuffed Coy Fish
Soy Wax Holiday Candles from Dani Naturals
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Aidan’s Hardwood Yo-Yos $20 Wabi Sabi Made in Sisters
Holm Made Toffee Co. Oregon Hazelnut Toffee $5.99 Central Oregon Locavore Made in Bend
Steena’s Suds Llama Fiber Felted Soap
Gluten Free Cookies Red Plate Foods Made in Bend Redplatefoods.com
Black Strap Kids Hooded Facemask $24.99 Available at local ski shops Made in Bend bsbrand.com
$8 Central Oregon Locavore Made in Powell Butte and Redmond
Goody’s Assorted Candies Made in Bend Goodychocolates.com
Black Strap Kids Dual Layer Neck Tube $19.99 Available at local ski shops Made in Bend bsbrand.com
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Calendar November - April
November 11
- Recreational skating for all ages and abilities. Open skate sessions are open to all ages; however, children 6 years and under must be supervised by a responsible person 14 years or older.
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Public Skating Sessions SKATE
bussiness.bendchamber.org
November 10
- Una hora de cuentos; Leeremos cuentos, cantaremos canciones y rimas. Tendremos manualidades y todo es en Espanol.
Listos Para El Kinder LEYENDO
READING - An
active early literacy storytime for children 3-5 and their caregivers.
Downtown Public Library | Free
Downtown Public Library | Free Deschuteslibrary.org
November 12 - January 21
Saturday and Sunday Open Swim
November 11
KPOV Radio Immersion
- Curious how radio works? Come find out what happens behind the scenes. Go on air, record in our studio, interview a friend and tell a story. Pieces produced will be broadcasted on 88.9 FM, and you’ll get a copy on CD to take home! CLASSES
KPOV Radio | $50 kpov.org
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Jingle Bell Run/Walk December 23.
Downtown Bend | Free
November 11
Downtown Bend Preschool Parade
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- A parade of veterans, schools, bands, businesses and organizations, “Honoring The Military Order of the Purple Heart”
The Pavilion | $6, Skates Included
thepavilioninbend.com
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Veteran’s Day Parade
Deschuteslibrary.org
SWIM -
Swimming fun for everyone! Features include low and high diving boards, rope swing, water basketball, inner tubes, mats and more! Recreation swims are open to all ages, however, children 6 years and under must be supervised by a responsible person 14 years or older.
November 12
Weekend Workshop: Photography PHOTOGRAPHY -
Learn basic photography principles about angles and light with your own digital camera or one of ours. Be inspired by the work of Ansel Adams before using your new skills around the Museum.
High Desert Museum Members $10 Non-Members $15 (paired pricing for child and adult)
Highdesertmuseum.org
November 12 - January 21
is to help young kids live a healthy lifestyle by showing them fitness is fun!
Juniper Swim & Fitness see website
bendparkandrec.org
November 12
STEAM Team - Crime Scene Analysis HANDS ON -
How do you analyze evidence? Try hands-on fingerprint identification, chromatography, and more. Ages 12-17 years.
Redmond Public Library | Free Deschuteslibrary.org
Saturday Fit Kids Yoga
YOGA - Active yoga poses and fitness games promote a creative mind, healthy body and open heart. The goal
Juniper Swim & Fitness Youth $6 Adult $8
Bendparksandrec.org
Vienna Boy’s Choir comes to the Tower November 17.
November 12
“Heart of a Forest” with DJ Spooky MUSIC -
The boundaries between music, art and ecology collide as the Oregon State University Wind Ensemble and DJ Spooky perform “Heart of the Forest.” Explore a soundscape in which Miller draws from his immersive experience of visiting the forest during each of the four seasons of the year.
Tower Theater | $13
Towertheater.org
Tower Theater | $27 - $57 towertheatre.org
November 18
Teen Writing Group @ Dudley’s
November 24
Deschuteslibrary.org
RUN -
Dudley’s Bookshop Café | Free
ACTIVITIES - Summer might be over, but the adventures are not! Join us for a morning full of adventure exploring all that Central Oregon has to offer.
November 18
Harmon Park | $35
bendparksandrec.org
November 15
Bend Ecstatic Dance
- Celebrate the global dance network. Dance your own dance in your own way in a supportive community of kindred spirits. Come explore free form movement, connection, and self expression, guided by rich, diverse soundscapes.
DANCE
The Masonic Center | $10
Bendecstaticdance.com
November 16 - January 17
Tuesday Tween Dance
- Come join us and bring your friends for an hour of yoga and dance, while we let go and let flow! Class will begin with flowing yoga moves that will lead us into our dance movements and we will then circle back to end with slow gentle yoga and savasana!
DANCE
Juniper Swim & Fitness see website
bendparksandrec.org
November 17
Vienna Boy’s Choir
- No group of child musicians is more renown than the incomparable Wiener Sangerknaben, founded by Emperor Maximilian I in 1498. Six centuries later, the
SINGING
Holiday Craft & Gift Bazaar
- Over 11,000 square feet of holiday shopping! Local crafters, gift sellers and artisans with unique one-of-akind wares for sale.
SHOPPING
Bend Senior Center | Free Entry bendparksandrec.org
November 19
Mining Day
- Stake a claim, pan for “gold” and have your earnings authenticated in our indoor placer mine and boomtown. ACTIVITY
High Desert Museum Admission plus $2 per “miner” Highdesertmuseum.org
November 19
Grand Illumination
- Craft projects, entertainment from Mr. Magic, pony rides, petting zoo. Live entertainment from 4-8 pm. Parade and resort lighting fireworks and Santa!
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Sunriver Resort
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November 19
Pie and Turnover Baking
- Learn how to make and roll out pie dough and shape it into pies and turnovers with a variety of fillings that are sure to make your mouth water! Yum, delicious! (ages 10 - 14) COOKING
Cascade Middle School Foods Room | $30
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WRITING - Teens develop skills through writing exercises and workshopping; some dates will include local authors as guests.
November 12, December 10
Kids Adventure Days
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famed Vienna Boys Choir continue to delight musiclovers across the globe with their purity of tone, distinctive charm and a diverse, crowd pleasing repertoire.
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I Like Pie Run
Let us gather, run, eat pie and rally some $$ and food for Neighbor Impact. I Like Pie is an untimed fun run/walk to get you outdoors for some exercise before you strap on the feedbag and revel in the holiday!
Crow’s Feet Commons Donation of $5 or canned foods
November 25
Turkey Trot Fun Run/5k Walk
- Don’t worry about that second helping of pumpkin pie on Thanksgiving! You can work it off at the annual 5K Turkey Trot Fun Run and Walk supporting NeighborImpact. Pre-registration is required.
RUN
Sunriver | $35 per walker/ runner, late registration $40
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November 25
Warren Miller Movie
FILM - Warren Miller Films are known for featuring skiers and snowboarders worldwide in places such as the Alaskan Tordrillos, Japan, France, Chile, Italy, Canada and the expansive Big Sky country of Montana as they perform incredible feats that amaze and inspire. 7:30 pm
Cost: $5 for Resort Guests, $10 for General Public Sunriver-Resort.com
November 25 - December 18
It’s a Wonderful Life
RADIO - Enhance your Christmas Season of 1946 by joining us for a live radio broadcast, as WBFR’s “Playhouse of the Air” presents the holiday classic, IT’S A WONDERFUL LIFE.
WBFR | Free
Sunriver-Resort.com
cascadestheatrical.org
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November 25-December 23
HOLIDAY
- This season give a gift to someone in need. Names may be selected and gifts delivered from November 25-December 13 from 11am-5pm.
HOLIDAY
Old MIll District | Donation
Old Mill District | Free
theoldmill.com
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November 25
November 26-27
Tree of Joy
Santa arrives by Helicopter HOLIDAY -
Santa will arrive in an AirLink helicopter in the Les Schwab Amphitheater between 10-10:15am. Santa will greet all the kids before being whisked off to SantaLand.
Les Schwab Amphitheater | Free
SantaLand
- Take a photo with the holiday’s biggest celebrity. Located at the north end of the Old Mill District across from Chico’s. Open on select days.
Carriage Rides
- Complimentary carriage rides with Cowboy Carriage. Located between Ben & Jerry’s and Francesca’s from 1-4pm
FUN
Old Mill District | Free theoldmill.com
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Magic Lights at the Old Mill December 12.
November 26, December 23, December 30, January 14
Black Light Blast! TUBING -
Come join the fun at SHARC’s tubing hill. 6:00 8:00pm
Sunriver | $15 includes tube and unlimited runs sunriversharc.com
November 26 -December 26
SANTA’S WORKSHOP
- Step into the magical world of Santa’s Workshop and create your own hand-crafted holiday keepsake. Choose from a variety of crafts perfect for any holiday gift. Santa’s Workshop is located in The Outpost between Fort Funnigan and the Bike Barn. Once you’ve completed your creations, head over to Fort Funnigan for a complimentary Hot Cocoa Bar. (For the adults-peppermint schnapps!)
HOLIDAY
Sunriver | $10-$40
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November 28 - December 14
Springboard Diving
- Learn the basics of how to dive from the 1-meter board. An instructor will lead you through the specifics of how to do an approach and hurdle as well as many other skills to help you become a confident and successful diver.
SWIM
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Youth Hockey League
- Let’s play hockey! It’s the first BPRD-organized youth hockey league! We’re talking hockey skill development and game action for both boys and girls.
SPORTS
The Pavilion | $135
bendparksandrec.org
December 1 - 18
BEAT presents Elf
- Based on the beloved holiday film, this hilarious fish-out-of-water comedy follows Buddy the Elf in his quest to find his true identity. 4:00 and 7:00 check website for schedule.
THEATER
2nd St Theater | 18 & Under $12 Seniors & Adults $18
December 3 - January 1
Gingerbread Junction
- Spectacular gingerbread houses on display in Abbottt Room benefitting Newberry Habitat for Humanity Sunriver.
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your whole family for this festive ballet performance.
December 8
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STORIES - For 3-5 years. Movement and stories to encourage fun with music.
Bend High Auditorium | $20 for adults and $10 for children
December 3, 10, and 17
Gingerbread Cookie Decorating HOLIDAY -
The holidays aren’t complete without a batch of freshly baked gingerbread cookies. Our pastry chef provides the cookies and the icing...the kids are in charge of the scrumptious decorations! Located in the Abbot Room at the Main Lodge 3:30-5:00 pm
Sunriver | $5 for two cookies Sunriver-Resort.com
December 3
Bend Christmas Parade HOLIDAY -
Celebrate the season with the Downtown Bend Christmas Parade! Check out the numerous floats and community holiday cheer.
Downtown Bend | Free
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Habitat for Humanity | Free
December 5 - 15
December 3 & 4
MARTIAL ARTS
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The Nutcracker
- The Central Oregon School of Ballet Nutcracker is a holiday tradition that is fun for all ages. Bring
THEATER
Lil Dragons
- Beginning with the very basics of Tang Soo Do Karate, this class helps children learn discipline, self control, confidence and teamwork as well as develop motor skills.
Odyssey Martial Arts | $59 odysseymma.com
Music Movement and Stories
Downtown Bend Public Library | Free
bendpubliclibrary.org
December 9
Kid’s Holiday Movie Night
- Join us as we enjoy an evening eating popcorn, while watching a holiday movie. (Time subject to change based on movie times). Ages 6 -13, 6:30 - 8:30
MOVIES
Harmon Park | $15
bendparksandrec.org
December 10, 17
Holiday Cookie Decorating
- Learn to make beautiful holiday cookies and decorate them with your own creative touch. Bring home a special plate of goodies to share and impress your family and friends!
BAKING
Cascade Middle School Foods Room | $30
bendparksandrec.org
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December 23
- Bundle up and come photograph the twinkling lights and buildings along the Deschutes River as we focus on long exposures, intentional subject movement/panning, white balance issues after dark, abstract imaging and more!
RUN
Magic Lights at the Old Mill PHOTOGRAPHY
Old Mill | $20
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December 13
Tween Creative Writing Camp
WRITING - A month of workshops for budding writers!
Downtown Bend Public Library | Free
Bendpubliclibrary.org
Jingle Bell Run/Walk for Arthritis
- This annual fun run is the kickoff for the downtown Bend Christmas parade every year. Dress warm or dress up or both. Proceeds benefit the Arthritis Foundation. There is a 5k and 1 mile option (great for kids). This walk/run is a great activity for the whole family!
Downtown Bend | see website jbr.org
December 31
New Year’s Eve Family Night
- The family that plays together stays together and gets to bed at a reasonable time! Enjoy our favorite selection of interactive board, arcade and Wii games. Win prizes throughout the night and enjoy ice cream sundaes! We will count down to the New Year’s with the East Coast at 9:00 pm with a sparkling
FAMILY
cider or champagne toast. A no-host bar will be available for select beers and wines. Adult participation and reservations are required. 7:30-10:00 pm
Sunriver | $30 for adults, $20 for children 12 and under Sunriver-Resort.com
January 1 - February 12
Start Smart Basketball
- Get involved with your child in this fantastic introductory basketball program! Move through stations and activities with your child using soft equipment to learn the basics of dribbling, passing, shooting and defense. Equipment is provided for players to keep. Parent/ guardian must participate with child.
SPORTS
Location to be determined | $49 bendparksandrec.org
kids can’t learn about the natural environment. Venture down to Sunriver and come check out the many wonderful exhibits with hands-on learning for all ages.
Sunriver | $6 Adults, $4 Children, under 2 Free
sunrivernaturecenter.org
January 11
(registration opens)
Exciting Earth
LEARN - In this class, students will grow crystals and investigate aspects of the surface of the earth including rocks, minerals, fossils, soil, water and the sea floor. Class runs from 02/01/2017 – 03/22/2017) 12:30 to 2:00 pm or 2:30 to 4:00 pm, Wednesdays.
Bend Science Station | $180
bendsciencestation.com
January 5 - 7
Sunriver Nature Center
LEARN - Just because it’s cold outside doesn’t mean
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Youth Choir of Central Oregon The Voice of the Next Generation
By Annette Benedetti
S
ong is one of the most important and widely used parenting tools. The lullaby can help a restless infant drift off to sleep, while a sweet melody can stop tears or elicit laughter in an instant. It’s no wonder that so many children love to sing. Fortunately for Central Oregon families, the Youth Choir of Central Oregon (YCCO) offers local children a place to find, explore, and grow their passion for singing from the age of six all of the way through the end of their high school years. Founded by Beth Basham in 1990, the YCCO is a non-profit organization that provides an extra-curricular choral program with three separate choirs designed
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for children attending first through twelfth grades. The choirs are appropriately named Singers School, Debut Choir, and Premiere Choir— and they each give young participants the opportunity to evolve as vocalists over the years. Singers School is an audition-free choir for children attending first through fourth grade. It is designed as a 10-week program that allows its students to explore singing and discover their level of interest. It culminates in a community performance that takes place on stage along with the organization’s other two choirs.
The Debut Choir welcomes fifth through eighth grade children. Students interested in joining must audition, but this shouldn’t dissuade singers from trying. According to Founder and Artistic Director Beth Basham, eighty to ninety percent of the children who audition are accepted into the choir. “When parents enroll their child in this organization they’re doing something really wonderful for them,” says Basham. “They are giving their kids the gift of self confidence as well, and so much more.” As part of the Debut Choir curriculum, students learn note reading and receive both vocal and performance skill training. Over the course of their time in this choir, young vocalists grow their musicianship and gradually prepare for the Premier Choir. The Premier Choir is where talented singers hone and perfect their skills and focus on performance. Members of this choir are also offered the opportunity to be part of the Touring Choir and perform in musical festivals both nationally and internationally. According to Basham, the Touring Choir used to travel internationally every three years and domestically on a yearly basis, however recently there have been several international opportunities that she couldn’t pass up. “How often can you take between 25 and 35 kids to another country in a safe environment and make beautiful music with other people from all over the world,” says Basham. Last year the Traveling Choir went to Austria, and this year it is preparing to go to Japan where the children will join and perform with anywhere from 350 to 1000 young people from around the world. When asked how she chooses which music festival the choir will attend, Basham says she
only chooses festivals where she both knows and respects the Master Conductor in charge. “The first thing I focus on is whether the musical experience will be something that enhances [the students] lives while helping them become better singers and people,” says Basham. Prior to traveling, Basham prepares the choir at home and then takes them to the festival where the Master Conductor takes over and puts the whole performance together. Students from the Premier Choir are not required to participate in the Traveling Choir due to the associated expenses. While parents of children participating in the Traveling Choir are responsible for the expenses, Basham is proud of the fact that the YCCO has never turned down a singer because of finances. She says, “We have never said ‘you are talented but you can’t sing with us because you can’t afford it,’ we always find a way to make it happen.” According to Basham the YCCO has generous donors who help the organization provide scholarships to those in need, so that everyone can participate. Auditions for the YCCO are held in June and performances take place in February and May. Families interested in finding out more about the YCCO are encouraged to attend the concerts with their children and bring them to one of the rehearsals, which are always open to the public.
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Tips for Saving Your Sex Life after Becoming a Parent By Annette Benedetti
Great sex— it’s what got you into this whole
parenting situation in the first place and now it’s gone and abandoned you. Immediately after your children arrived, you and your partner transformed into bleary-eyed zombies moving through your days handing off the kids, heading to work, making meals, and trying desperately to keep the house from falling into complete disarray. You could barely muster enough energy to brush your teeth at the end of the day much less go for a roll in the hay. Now, time has passed and you’ve gotten your groove down, your energy has returned—heck, even the urge to get it on has come back— but the fire is nowhere to be found. Since realizing bringing sexy back isn’t going to be as easy as Justin Timberlake makes it sound you’ve done your due diligence and read hundreds of online articles regurgitating the same “romance-saving tips”: make date night a priority, keep communication open, make small gestures. While all of these things are helpful, they aren’t heating up your time in the sack together and frankly, you’re beginning to understand how Fifty Shades of Grey became a hit. According to Andrea Aragon MS, QMHP, LPC Intern and therapist for LifeWorks NW, couples cite a variety of reasons for sex becoming “not-hot” after kids. Some of the most common reasons include stress, fatigue, and body changes after birth. “Women who feel empowered by motherhood tend to have fewer problems…” says Aragon. “Positive self-esteem, genuine self-love and individual happiness are truly anGet exercise, have a passion the swers to hot sex outside of your partner in any and children and make time stage of life.”
for it, says Aragon.
While Aragon acknowledges that accepting body changes and recovering from depression aren’t simple tasks, she does believe that basic self-care and self esteem work are the best steps anyone can take towards improving their sex life. “Get exercise, have a passion outside of your partner and children and make time for it,” says Aragon. “Do one thing everyday that makes you feel good about yourself.”
Some additional relationship tips that could help your sex life move in the direction of recovery include:
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e supportive and understanding of your co-parent: B It’s ok to have separate interests and hobbies that take you away from each other; it only gives you more to talk about when you are together. Really give each other space, support your partner in their personal endeavors, and make the more limited time you have all about appreciating the other. et go of specific outcomes: If you say, “let’s have hot L sex” and it doesn’t happen, that’s ok. Hot sex happens naturally under all the right conditions and after kids, all the right conditions come together less often. Accept that instead of putting pressure on the situation. ommit to judgment-free communication: Everyone C has fantasies and they can be hard to share for fear of being judged, even when sharing them with your lifetime partner. Create space and time for judgment-free communication. Commit to listening to each other’s fantasies and interests without judgment. You might be surprised to find that you and your partner have more in common than you thought. If you do find that you have similar curiosities and interests, then you can explore with each other. If, on the other hand, your interests are not the same, your conversations will still give you an opportunity to understand your partner better and connect on a deeper level.
4. Consider getting kinky: Sex games can be sensual,
take the focus off the act of sex, and create an environment of extended foreplay, which can put everyone involved in a heightened erotic state. This kind of sex play looks different for different couples depending on what works best for their unique needs and interests.
There is no quick fix for your sex life. It takes time, a lot of personal work, and a whole lot of experimentation. There will be ups and downs and plenty of awkward moments along the way, but one thing is sure—in the end the pay-off is big and you might find that it’s better than it ever was before. Winter 2016
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here are few kids in this world who do not go through a phase of picky eating. Kids who ate everything you offered them when they were infants often start refusing many foods somewhere between one and two years of age. This is normal! Kids are gaining weight and growing more slowly than in infancy so appetites decrease. By addressing picky eating early, we help our kids to develop a broad palate that meets their nutritional needs as they grow. Help kids to understand hunger and fullness cues: Offer three meals and one to three snacks per day and space meals and snacks out by two to four hours, with nothing other than water between eating times. If your child is too busy playing to have a snack, fine; she will probably be ready to eat at the next mealtime. Kids who come to the table hungry are far more apt to try new foods than those who have been grazing since the last meal. Allow kids to eat as much or as little as they are hungry for at meals and snacks. Once they tell you they are full, ask them if they are sure and then, wipe hands and face, have them clear their place if able, and allow them to get down and go play; the meal or snack is over. If we are forcing or cajoling our kids to eat more, or restricting how much they eat at a meal or snack, we are overriding their natural appetite cues. Make eating ‘its own activity’: Aim for all Meals and Snacks to be eaten sitting down, without TV, books, toys, computer, riding in the car or other distractions. This needs to be a goal for parents and children. We are far more likely to eat just what we are hungry for if we are not doing anything else while eating. Family meals: Kids are far more apt to eat a variety of foods if they are eating with other people, especially if those people include a parent (they do want to spend time with you). Make meals enjoyable; talk about your and your kids’ day, something exciting that is coming up, ANYTHING other than whether your child is eating his meal or not.
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How to Deal with Your Picky Eater
Don’t be a short order cook! Offer your child whatever you are making for the family at a meal, but include at least one thing in the meal that you know your child will eat. Put very small amounts of other foods on your child’s plate. Do not force her to eat it, but it needs to stay on her plate. It often takes many exposures to a new food before a child actually eats it. She needs to see it, see you eat it, touch it, smell it and maybe taste it and spit it out in order to eventually eat it and like it. If a child willingly takes a bite and swallows it, there is a very good chance that he will continue to eat that food as time goes on. Forcing or cajoling a child to eat a food, or withholding dessert if they don’t eat something is going to backfire. Do you ever remember liking a food after you were forced to sit in front of it until you ate it? When pickiness affects your child’s health: Some kids’ pickiness is severe and may result in poor growth and/or actual nutrient deficiencies. This is often due to aversions to textures and/or tastes. Undetected problems with chewing or swallowing may also result in picky eating. In these cases it can be helpful to work with a pediatric dietitian-nutritionist. For kids with chewing/swallowing issues, evaluation and treatment by a pediatric speech therapist who works with feeding issues is essential. For kids have sensory issues, work with a pediatric occupational therapist can help in reducing sensitivities to tastes and textures. If this sounds like your child, check out the book: Food Chaining: The Proven 6-Step Plan to Stop Picky Eating, Solve Feeding Problems, and Expand Your Child’s Diet by Cheryl Fraker, Marc Fishbein, Sibyl Cox and Laura Walbert. This book explains they “why’s” behind severe picky eating and gives a very practical plan for gradually expanding a child’s eating.
Other references Healthy Choices, Healthy Children, A Guide to Raising Fit, Happy Kids by Lori Brizee with Sue Schumann Warner is a basic primer on healthy eating for kids. Chapter 6, “Help for Picky Eaters” is focused on helping your child to expand his eating choices. How to Get Your Kid to Eat, But Not Too Much by Ellyn Satter, and the website: http://ellynsatterinstitute. org/index.php. Both this book and website have many great ideas on helping improve kids’ eating. Winter 2016
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Easy, Guilt Free Dinners By Lori S Brizee MS, RDN, LD, CDE
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ace it, we’ve all been there—long day, lots of running around and nothing planned for dinner. We know our kids need healthy balanced meals, but how do we do that on the fly? Here are a few ideas for quick meals that satisfy.
French bread/English muffin Pizza
Even those less than healthy entrees can be made into balanced meals:
Toppings: cheese, meat, veggies
Frozen pizza, canned soup, frozen burrito, packaged mac n cheese
Add raw veggies and sliced oranges and milk or water to drink.
Fast Food Order your entree with salads or veggies on the side, and milk or water to drink. Get one order of fries to share with the whole family.
Healthier “fast food” Deli sandwiches with lettuce or spinach and tomatoes on whole grain bread, or a main-dish salad. Check out options at grocery store deli counters. Quick meals that you can make at home in less than 30 minutes: Sandwiches (e.g., peanut or almond butter and jam, turkey, tuna salad) apple and carrot slices and a glass of milk.
Bean, Veggie and Cheese Quesadillas Ingredients: 1-2 corn tortillas or ½ to 1 whole wheat tortillas per person ½ to 1 cup per tortilla: Canned refried beans or whole beans, mashed with potato masher Optional: ½ to 1 cup finely diced veggies per tortilla, onion, green, red or yellow bell pepper and/or chopped fresh or frozen spinach 2-4 tablespoons per tortilla grated cheddar or jack cheese Directions: Spread ½ to 1 cup beans on tortillas, top that with veggies heat in 400 degree oven for 4-5 minutes; sprinkle with cheese and put back in oven for another 1-2 minutes, until cheese is melted, If your kids won’t eat quesadillas with veggies on them; have raw veggies or salad on the side.
Ingredients: 1 whole wheat English muffin or 1 -2 slices French bread per person Sauce: tomato paste + water to desired consistency + onion powder, garlic powder and Italian herbs Directions: Spread sauce on English muffins or French bread. Add toppings and heat under broiler until cheese is bubbling. Have some sliced fruit on the side for a complete, healthy meal.
Tacos
Ingredients: 1 pound ground chicken, turkey, or beef. 2 cans kidney, pinto or black beans 1-2 tbsp cooking oil (any kind) Seasonings: onion powder, garlic powder, ground cumin and mild chili powder to taste Toppings: chopped lettuce and tomato and grated cheddar or Monterey jack cheese, salsa (any kind) Optional toppings: sour cream or plain Greek yogurt, chopped avocado or guacamole. Directions: Heat heavy frying pan, add oil, brown meat with spices. Add beans and cook until hot. Chop lettuce and tomatoes and grate cheese while meat and bean mixture is cooking. Heat tortillas in the microwave. Fill tortillas with the meat and bean mixture and add toppings and you have a complete meal. Freeze leftover meat and bean filling for another dinner!
Super Simple spaghetti or pasta:
Ingredients: 1 lb ground beef, chicken, turkey, or Italian sausage 1 large can tomato puree
Directions: Start water for pasta, and then start making sauce. As soon as water is boiling, add pasta. Sauce: Brown meat; then add tomato puree, wine, if using and seasonings. Bring to a boil and then cover and simmer until pasta is finished cooking. Once pasta is done, dinner is ready!
Quick, Creamy Macaroni and Cheese 4 adult size servings Ingredients: 2 cups milk 2 Tbsp corn starch 2 cups grated cheddar cheese Salt and pepper to taste. 3 cups whole grain macaroni—cooked per package instructions Directions: Measure macaroni and start heating water to cook it in. You will add macaroni to the water as soon it water boils. Sauce: Pour milk into a sauce pan and add corn starch, stir until corn starch is dissolved, then heat on medium-high heat and cook, stirring constantly until it boils (about 5 minutes). Add grated cheese and stir until melted into the sauce. When macaroni is done, drain and pour cheese sauce over it and you have a tasty entre. For variety add frozen chopped broccoli, or peas to the sauce. Heat frozen veggies in microwave and you have a complete meal.
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Add a salad made from pre-washed greens and cherry tomatoes or raw carrots, cucumber, tomatoes, cauliflower, to complete these meals.
Optional: ½ cup red wine (alcohol will cook off) Seasonings: Italian herbs, garlic powder and onion powder to taste Salt and pepper to taste 1-2 ounces per person, dry pasta, preferably whole grain but any kind will work: macaroni (rotini, penne and macaroni are easier for young kids to eat than spaghetti) Winter 2016
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Three Nights, Three Kids, Three Hot Springs By Nicole Vulcan | Photos by Rebecca Price
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he kids wanted a fall vacation that included splashing and swimming. We, two station wagon-driving, thrift-minded moms, knew that Disneyland, indoor water parks or warm environs were too far out of
our budgets. Still, a late 90’s station wagon is just about the right size for packing up three kids for a foray into the numerous hot springs of southern and eastern Oregon. It was too cold for outdoor swimming, but hot springs, with their bathwater-warm temperatures, sounded just right.
Our mission: locate springs that were large enough to allow the kids space to splash and
swim, while, at the same time, finding serenity, scenery and amenities. With those three criteria in mind, we embarked on a tour of three hot springs, with three kids in tow.
Stop One
Crystal Crane Hot Springs; Crane, Oregon Located along Highway 78 about three hours southeast of Prineville, Crystal Crane Hot Springs pops up from the sageheavy prairie, truly an oasis in this parched part of the state. The most notable sight upon arriving: the skeletons of the resort’s tipis, 34
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one with a large metal trough that serves as a private. At $65 a night, the tipis offer a unique way to sleep and soak at Crystal Crane. We opted to set up our own sturdy tent in the windwhipped camping area, but were also tempted by the small cabins that encircled the soaking pond. But for the steam rising from the soaking pond–and the heads bobbing in it–you might mistake it for any other pond reserved for
local cattle. With a mud bottom and a gravelly beach at its approach, Crystal Crane’s pond is the most rustic of the three we visited. Still, the pond’s size and temperature make it perfect for meeting the kids’ requirement of plenty of room to play. While horseplay is not usually welcome at any hot springs, the pond’s size makes it possible for more mellow adults to give the kids their own portion of the pond.
Outside the pool, winds were so everpresent that they mimicked a person we’d gossip about around the campfire. “Did you see what she did today? Unbelievable!” With that to contend with, the resort’s common area with a big flat screen TV, fireplace and the community kitchen mode camping in a tent a lot easier to bear. Heated bathrooms and private soaking tubs adjacent to the pond also make getting in and out of the pond in the cold weather more comfortable. What the adults liked: The large, comfortable pond that gave the kids something to do all day. What the kids liked: The temperature of the pond. What we didn’t like: The Ever-Blowing Wind made making s’mores over the fire difficult. What we’d do differently: Come when the tipis are open (they’re only open seasonally) and then rent the one with the big private tub.
Next Stop
Hunter’s Hot Springs; Lakeville, Oregon
Southeastern Oregon’s vistas go on forever, with nearly nothing but sage, sand and the occasional mountain view. Still, surprisingly, the area offers plenty to do. After cruising through Diamond Craters, an area of strange lava squishes dotted among the sage, we found it hard to keep a steady pace on the road. On Highway 395, leading into Lakeville, the shouts of “Let’s stop here!” were evenly distributed among the adults and kids. First rolling sand dunes, then fields of climbable boulders conspired to keep us from checking into our next destination before dark. After enduring the sand
and wind in the tent, we were ready to sleep in beds. Satisfying that need was Hunter’s Hot Springs, a historic hotel in Lakeville, originally built as a sanitarium taking advantage of the healing waters. Before that, the Paiute people used the area as a center for birthing and healing. Today, its owner is slowly fixing it up, adding more rooms and a lounge and restaurant. We checked into a basic room with king and queen beds and cable TV -- a dose of luxury compared to the air mattress in the tent. Hunter’s also boasts Oregon’s only geyser, Old Perpetual, which blows on schedule every 50 seconds or so (the kids counted). The hotel’s concrete hot spring pool is surrounded by walls on three sides, and a viewing wall on the fourth.While the wind still manages to enter that sanctum, it’s certainly tempered a bit -- perhaps aiding in making Hunter’s the hottest of the three hot springs we visited. Its adjacent changing rooms make it simple to get in and out, and also give day visitors somewhere to stash their stuff or take a shower. Hunter’s Hot Springs offered basic, clean accommodations when we needed them. As an up-and-coming hotel, we recommend it as a respite from camping. What the adults liked: Breaks from the wind and proximity to town – by this time we were in acute need of food not cooked on sticks or scrabbled together in a single pot. What the kids liked: Warm beds. What we didn’t like: The kids thought the pool was too hot, but it’s easy to alter the temperature. The owner did so the next morning, making it possible for us to soak for a longer period than the night before. What we’d do differently: Get up earlier so we could have more time for soaking before checkout.
Last Stop
Summer Lake Hot Springs; Paisley, Oregon
There’s a reason that the phrase “the clouds parted” is used so often. When we pulled into Summer Lake Hot Springs along Highway 31 just outside of Paisley, the clouds did indeed part, and the sun and welcoming atmosphere made for an excellent final stop. Summer Lake Hot Springs has a little of everything. There’s a large, bathwater-hot indoor pool, complete with changing rooms. Outside, rock-lined tubs offer a dose of tranquility among the high clouds, with views of the Summer Lake salt flat in the distance. The resort’s cabins sleep between two and six people, each featuring unique woodwork, vintage and antique decorations, and floors heated by geothermal energy. Camping is also welcome. Little details such as well-placed Buddha statues and rustic art underline the care the owners have taken with the siteʼs aesthetics. If the theme here wasn’t three kids, three nights, we could have stayed for 13 nights. What the adults liked: Indoor as well as outdoor pools. (Read: space to let the kids be kids, while we got some peace.) Lots of open space so the kids could play frisbee or just run around. Well-decorated spaces. What the kids liked: Cool cabins, nice to soak out of the wind. What we didn’t like: A little pricey for camping with kids, advertised at $20 a head. Still, the managers gave us a discount for the kiddos. What we’d do differently: Bring more (adult) friends and take over all the cabins at once.
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How parenting style affects substance abuse in teens By Angela Switzer
ith its natural beauty and sparse population, Oregon may seem the perfect place to raise a family. In fact, many families wishing for a healthier environment have left the frenetic energy of city life to settle in a peaceful place and call Oregon home. When it comes to a healthy environment for teens, however, parents may be surprised to learn that illicit drug use in Oregon exceeds the national average. For tweens and teens, exposure to alcohol and substance abuse is a very real part of adolescence. The good news is that parents still have an impact on their children even during the later stages of high school. Parenting practices are paramount to teen success during this time. In the 1960’s, psychologist, Diana Baumrind identified three parenting styles found in modern society: Authoritarian, Authoritative, and Indulgent. Later, a fourth style, Neglectful, was added to this model by Maccoby and Martin. These four parenting styles shape a child’s social makeup and can have a direct impact on teens’ propensity for delinquent behavior. Let’s look at the different styles and what they mean:
Authoritarian Parenting Parents with an authoritarian style have very high expectations of their children, yet provide very little in the way of discussion and nurturing. There is little give and take, since the parent is always right and never questioned. Authoritarian parenting is very restrictive and always involves punishment. (Think 1950’s patriarchal). Because the parent generally tells the children what to do at all times, very little independent thinking is done on the children’s part and no discussion of feelings takes place. It is not surprising that children raised under this model may have deficient social skills.
Authoritative Parenting Authoritative is a parenting style that is child-centered, in that parents closely interact with their children, while still maintaining high expectations for behavior. This parenting style is a sort of middle ground, where parents respect
their children’s opinions, but still maintain influence in their lives. Parents are often open to discussing their way of thinking and feeling with their children. Natural consequences, instead of rigid punishment are often the mode of discipline for this type of family. Children are usually socially adept and may exhibit an independent spirit.
Indulgent Parenting Also called permissive, this type of parenting is characterized as having few behavioral expectations for the child. Parents are very involved, are nurturing and accepting while honoring their children’s needs and wishes. Permissive parents generally see themselves as friends to their children, rather than parents, offering
found that teens the least prone to heavy drinking had parents who were authoritative. Indulgent parents nearly tripled the risk of teens participating in heavy drinking, while authoritarian parents more than doubled the risk. A more recent study from the University of New Hampshire (2002) found the lowest prevalence of substance abuse in teens that reported their parents as being authoritative. Regarding substance abuse in teens with indulgent parents, abuse was more prevalent. These studies show that for the best outcome, parents today should strive for an authoritative style of parenting. This method balances structure and discipline with respect
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advice, but not discipline. Baumrind found children raised by these types of parents to be immature, having little impulse control.
Neglectful Parenting This fourth parenting style expresses parents who are uninvolved, to the point of being neglectful. Parents make few demands on their children and are unresponsive to their children’s needs. They are often indifferent, dismissive or even completely absent. Parents in this category are often self-absorbed, having no time for understanding the feelings of their children, or for enforcing rules. In 1983, a study done by Maccoby and Martin analyzed teens aged 14 – 18. They looked at parenting style as related to alcohol use. They
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and communication. According the National Institute on Drug (NIDA), home life plays a very big role in the prevention of teen drug and alcohol abuse. Strong family bonding, open communication and support with clear boundaries are all factors involved when a teen is faced with the decision to use drugs or alcohol. It all boils down to respect. If a teen truly respects their parents, they are more likely to abstain from heavy substance abuse. Children are not likely to respect parents who are overly strict and lacking in understanding or who are lax and overindulgent in their children’s emotions. It’s never too late to adjust by adopting a parenting style that best supports your teen and your family by making sure there is mutual respect at the forefront. Winter 2016
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or Hal Reitmeier
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anta (or Hal Reitmeier) is a professional Santa Claus living in Central Oregon (when not at the North Pole). As Santa Claus, he does a variety of special events during the holiday season but enjoys home visits the most. Santa has been married for 43 years and has three children and four grandchildren. When not at the North Pole, he enjoys camping, hiking, long arm quilting and playing cards. Santa always has a smile on his face and a twinkle in his eye.
What Superhero power do you wish you had?
What is the single best thing you have learned from being with children?
How are kids today different than when you were a kid?
I have learned to revel in the excitement and joy of anticipation. I loved that as a parent when my kids were young, and I love it now as a father, grandfather, and Santa Claus. I love to see the joy in the eyes of children as they anticipate the Christmas season. What did you learn from your parents about children? Honestly, from my own parents I learned that children are better seen than heard. But I don’t subscribe to that notion at all. Children are incredibly clever, earnest, and honest. At a certain age, children use the opportunity to sit on Santa’s lap to determine if Santa Claus is really the man he says he is. I once had a little girl sit on my lap and say, “If you’re really Santa, what’s the name of my cousin?” These types of questions are so great because this is really what we want children to do in order to learn about the world around them - ask bold questions and gather information from multiple sources. Fortunately for me, this little girl’s mother was listening in on our conversation and all I had to do was look up at her mouthing the name of the cousin. You should have seen the look on this little girl’s face when I told her the name of her cousin. The magic lasted a little longer for her on that day.
I wish I had the power to right all wrongs, for my own kids and for the kids I know as Santa. I wish I had the power to bring true comfort and joy to everyone - not just the temporary comfort and joy that comes from gifts under the tree. Santa is a superhero when it comes to making and delivering toys, but falls totally short in answering serious requests.
I do not believe children have changed. Toy requests have changed, certainly. But the basic needs of children are the same. They desire love, care, and forgiveness. What can parents do to help you as Santa? Please wash the stockings before hanging them on the fireplace. Nothing is worse than sticking my hand in a dirty sock. Also, regarding the placement of the Santa treats, please put them in a location where your pets do not get to them first. The golden rule in parenting and in being Santa is . . .? … always talk to children at eye-level. As I have aged, it has become harder to kneel down and talk to them at eye level. But I still do it. Meeting them at their level conveys to children that I care about them and that I take them seriously. Santa wants to wish you an exciting and safe holiday season, and a very Merry Christmas. If you want to reach him you can write the North Pole or visit here: www.ToSantaOregon.com Winter 2016
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