FEBRUARY 25, 2011 VOLUME IV ISSUE 6 DEXTER HIGH SCHOOL 2200 N. PARKER ROAD DEXTER, MI 48130 illustration by Claire Berger, photos by Charlotte Becker
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Blind Date: entertainment editor
the spread
Friday, February 25, 2011
Joao Victor Brilhante and Lynn Metz
Signs you’re in a bad relationship
• Build forts out of furniture and blankets and wage war with paper airplanes.
• Your partner criticizes you. • He/she ignores you in public. • You have to argue with your partner to get them to spend time with you. • Your friends and family don’t like your partner. • Your partner is possessive and controlling; they might even try to change you. • Your partner hurts you in any way physically or emotionally.
• Throw snowballs off the top of parking structures. • Go to the zoo and make faces at the monkeys. • Rent a movie you’ve never seen before. Set on mute and improvise dialogue. • Bake a monster cookie. • Go somewhere new together and use different names and make up a story for your past. Talk to as many people as you can.
Signs you’re in the right relationship • • • •
Your friends and family like your partner. You can tell your partner anything. Your partner brings out the best in you. You can be anywhere, doing anything with your partner and be perfectly happy. • Each of you can still hang out with your friends. • Your partner encourages you to do something you like to do. Source: Counselor Gerry Holmes for “Signs you’re in a bad relationship”and “Signs you’re in the right relationship”; Lisa Crompton for “Fun Date Ideas”
Friday, February 25, 2011
Long-term couples offer love advice
Nicole Minzey The pair learned that they had something in common when Valentine’s Day may be over, but The Squall felt it was our they discovered that Brilhante is on the swim team and Metz duty to try to bring two people together in the form of a blind used to swim when she was younger. Both considered the date a positive experience date. The subjects of the blind date were Junior Lynn Metz but for Brilhante, the and Senior Joao Victor concept of a blind Brilhante. They met for a date was a lunch date at the Cottage new one. Inn in downtown Dexter “We don’t on a lovely Sunday do that it afternoon. Brazil,” he They had never said. For spoken before, but knew him, that who each other were. was the only “I had never met him awkward part before, but I had heard of because he him,” Metz said. had never “We have the same d o n e lunch, but I never talk to any thing her,” Brilhante said. Photo by Nicole Minzey like that When first walking Chowing down: Senior Joao Victor Brilhante and junior Lynn before. into Cottage Inn, Metz Metz enjoy a meal at Cottage Inn. The two were set up on a F o r was relieved to see her blind date courtesy of The Squall. both, the date. “I thought, ‘Oh good, it’s John Victor. I heard he was a nice kid,” Metz said. best part about the date was meeting During the date Metz learned many things about her date. She someone new. “(The best part) was meeting her because she was very nice,” Brilhante learned he was from Brazil and really likes his host family. Brilhante learned that Metz was on the cross country team said. A second date hasn’t happened, but and had never traveled outside of the United States before. both said it’s a possibility.
Fun Date Ideas
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Illustration by Marne Little and Claire Berger
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Taylor Garcia
Two years and eight months ago seniors Paige Garwood and Two thousand and nine graduate Logan Powell and senior Kenzie Goffee met at the Max Waldrup went to see the movie “What Happens in Vegas” for high school auditions for the musical “Anything Goes.” their first date. About a month later they began dating. “There was this one girl who didn’t have a dance partner and (choir director Julie) Basset “He told me he wanted to wait so long because he wanted to be asked me to fill in,” Powell said. They began dating on June 25, 2008, while Goffee was friends first,” Garwood said. entering her sophomore year and Powell his senior. The two-year gap never posed any issue Before they began officially dating, they got to know each other until graduation when college came into the picture. better by hanging out and texting. “Being at U of M, I’m a little farther away, but we still see each other every weekend and And Burdick said being friends first is a good way to start. “People talk every day,” Powell said. define friendship in different ways. I would say genuine interest, According to relationship therapist Glenn Burdick, “Almost anything is possible in this respect, empathy for each other, and a shared idea of who they are to day and age. Mostly it depends on the shared vision a couple has of their life together, now each other and how they want their time together to be is what’s most and in the future.” important,” he said. Next year Goffee will be attend Hope College, and the couple will be further apart than Garwood and Waldrup see each other every day at school and on ever before. “The fact that we have progressively gotten further away from each other helps the weekends they do homework together. “I try to balance my time to keep us together,” Powell said. so I’m never only hanging out with max or only hanging out with my According to Burdick, “Somehow a couple needs to establish emotional intimacy, a strong friends,” Garwood said. sense of connection and trust that even when apart they can trust their emotional safety to “Were really comfortable with each other so we can talk about each other.” anything, and that’s why I think we work so well,” Garwood said. Goffee and Powell say they have successfully been able to establish this within their Looking ahead to next year Garwood and Waldrup said they are relationship through fluent and constant conversation. not necessarily trying to go to the same college. “Being someone’s friend before their boyfriend or girlfriend is really important,” “We both want what’s best Powell said. “We really do know each for each other,” Garwood said. other better than anyone else does.” “He wants me to go to the Goffee and Powell said they college I want to, and I want the plan to continue their relationship same for him.” despite the miles that will separate them in the upcoming year. “She’s always said she thinks thing happen for a reason, and so, here Sophomore Carolyn we are,” Powell said. Whitaker and junior Mitch When one or the other is feeling frustrated, Rayer recently celebrated their one-year anniversary on Feb. 1. ignored, unimportant to the other, without They began talking for the blaming or getting too defensive with each first time on Facebook. others, they talk it out. “I’ve never had any classes “It’s not like if were mad at each other we • Powell and Goffee • Waldrup and Garwood with her so without Facebook it stop talking because not talking can’t solve would’ve been harder to meet,” your problems,” Powell said. Rayer said. “From the very beginning one of the things I noticed was our sense of humor Seniors Becca Pape and Anthony together. You become attracted someone when you can just Chisolm met in English teacher Andrew have fun together and laugh at Parker’s class and began dating about each other’s jokes.” a month after. “I’m pretty sure I threw Relationship therapist something at the back of her head in class, Burdick agrees and said it is probably paper,” Chisolm said. This was the important to support one anstart of a nine-month relationship. other throughout a relationship, “I actually met his whole entire family in both humorous and serious • Rayer and Whitaker • Chisolm and Pape the day he asked me out. We went out on his situations in order to feel secure boat,” Pape said. Having been friends before and comfortable together. they began their relationship has allowed “We need to know our partner has our back no matter what and that what we need from them them to feel completely comfortable with each other even though they often head-butt and how we feel is of the utmost importance,” he said. when they kiss And not only do they have a supportive relationship, both said pa“We were about to kiss and she head-butt me; it’s happened multiple times,” said rental approval is not an issue for them. Chisolm. “We know how to be goofy together and have fun.” They say that both of their parents enjoy and support their relaHowever, according to Pape, the story is slightly altered. “He head-butts me all the time; tionship. “She’s really talkative, so my parents think she’s really easy he’ll probably say that I do it, but it’s him. He lies about it all the time.” to carry a conversation with,” Rayer said. This kind of joking is important in a relationship Burdick said as is being able to relax Whitaker confirmed this statement. “I’m actually pretty close around one another and be yourself. “So is high-energy fun times that aren’t heavy and are with his parents. Both of our parents have nicknames for us, C and times of play or mutual enjoyment, a sense of being great friends or companions, is super Mitchy,” Whitaker said. Even though graduation is a year away for Rayer, it is something important,” he said. they both recognize and discuss together. Whitaker said, “I know this “We get along really well with each other; we always have fun, and we don’t fight at all,” is kind of early, but he’s looking to go to college in-state and maybe Pape said. Good for them according to Burdick. He said, “I think having their hearts open we’ll go on college visits together.” to each other, which allows for the deep feeling of connection, is very important.”
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Fake rednecks: an epidemic There are many mysteries in life. From the Lochness Monster to English teacher Andrew Parker finding a woman who would marry him, there are just certain things in this universe that leave the world scratching it’s head, searching for answers. While there are millions of these mysteries around the world,
I feel like there’s a ball of sunshine ready to burst out of me.
Do you have any relation to Professor McGonigle? Yes, she is my mother. What’s your patronus?
staff writer
How many hours a week do you play video games?
Vince Polumbo (11)
Ninkeyrate; it’s a monkey ninja dressed as a pirate. Its only weakness is love.
Sequoyah Burke-Combs
Mason Camilleri(10)
That’s great. Let’s get down to business. Ninja, monkey or pirate. Which one would you rather be and why?
they are, and I accept that. But I do have a problem with the kid who has never stepped a foot on farm land who tries explaining to me how NASCAR is developing a brand new engine that runs on nothing but beer and confederate flags. It puzzles me. I don’t understand why anyone would strive to become a kid whose I.Q. appears to be equivalent to the inches his truck is lifted. So please, redneck imposters, stop. Take advantage of what you were blessed with. An upper to middle class life in Dexter. You are not fooling anyone. We still remember you freshman year, wearing polos and playing sports, before you decided that Alan Jackson was the equivalent of God and the idea of developing lip cancer was appealing.
Will this be in the newspaper?
Ten. Give or take 50.
(12)
Hi Michael. How are you today?
Marshall Kellenberger
there is one mystery that stands above all the rest in my mind: fake rednecks. The fake redneck is the kid who lives in a large, wealthy subdivision, but since his mom and dad bought him a pick-up truck, now walks the halls in his Carhart and camo, talking about his favorite kind of chewing tobacco, thinking about how he’s beginning to find his sister more attractive. This is a phenomenon I have never been able to find an explanation for. It baffles me why one would purposefully transform themselves to blend in with the rednecks of Dexter. Now there are plenty of legitimate homegrown rednecks, and I have no problem with them or their attempts to talk to me about tractors and the south’s inevitable rise. I realize that’s just who
Justin Gross
with junior Michael McGonigle
Friday, February 25, 2011
Brandon Bednarz (9)
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Around 30.
I honestly don’t know. It’s so much.
You know what? I don’t have to answer to you ... Know what I sayin’? ...
A Ninkeyrate. “Never Say Never”: Movie of the century? Movie of a generation. How do you stay so unbelievably classy? It’s actually quite difficult. I’m classy 100 percent of the time, with subcategories being business classy 28 percent, super-classy 13 percent, sexy-classy 18 percent, and seductive-classy 9 percent. Basically it’s a 24-hour job to be classy. What would you say to the hundreds of freshmen who aspire to be exactly like Michael McGonigle? Well, first off, let me make it clear that no one will ever reach my levels of greatness. That being said, I would tell freshmen not to get discouraged when they discover it’s literally impossible to keep up Michael McGonigle’s amazing physique while still being so incredibly witty and well-liked by everyone. If you were a cheerleader, who would you want your basketball buddy to be? Head coach Randy Swoverland. Easily. No one grades my math tests with such mezmorizing grace.
5X5
What do you say to people who say World of Warcraft or Call of Duty suck?
You’re really grinding my gears.
P--- off.
They need to get good.
F--- off.
Girlfriends or video games and why?
They go half and half.
Depends on how hot the girl is.
LAN parties?
Melissa is my only love.
Do you see yourself ever playing video games professionally?
I’m a pro. Just watch me drop those tacticals.
No.
No doubt.
I already am.
I’m going to.
What’s your opinion on the video game club?
Didn’t know about that. I’m interested though.
I don’t need a club to be good. I was born like this.
Love it.
They are a group of brave men fighting for a good cause.
No, you know what? It’s a personal choice, and I don’t think it’s weird at all.
How many pots have you smoken?
You know what? I respect women! I love women! I respect them so much that I completely stay away from them!