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Self-love the key to success
Real self love and self respect
Iam Aminah and the eldest of seven siblings. I travelled the traditional route, went to school, college and university. I enjoyed the carefree nature of education and did just enough to get by and stay out of trouble. One of my biggest issues back then was people-pleasing,
I didn’t realise it at the time but that low self esteem trait led me to making very poor decisions and ultimately emphasised the lack of love I had for myself. I now love me and love others better because I love me. I assumed pressure from my mother and grandmother, in particular, because I did not want to disappoint them. This people-pleasing nature followed throughout my life and led me to stages and decisions that left me empty and unhappy.
The turning point for me was motherhood, something I had no desire for and limited interest in. It was the lowest point of my life and also my light at the end of a very dark tunnel. My failing marriage, and the reality I was living a very single life, had brought me to a deep depression and lying on my bedroom floor, sick and unable to move, with my then 3 year old and 6 month old daughters, all I wanted to do was die. At that moment, I heard a voice ask me: “If you go, who will make sure your girls do not experience what you have?”
I knew that was the truth and in that thought it became my truth; if I do not get through this, I cannot guarantee an example for my girls. It was at that moment I decided to take one day at a time to wake up and live. My girls were always looked after but, as for myself, that was an uphill battle. Amongst the criticism for my parenting and self care I had to find a way to find a message that gave me a future. I started a business and was introduced to self development. I was not familiar with this concept and indulged in it with the belief it was for everybody else.
I had amazing mentors and supporters in the early days of my journey, Jodee Peevor was my first experience of someone believing and achieving their visualisations and affirmations, but still I only believed it was for her. I had an amazing support in Denise Raynor who spoke life into me and introduced me to a book called “What to Say When You Talk to Yourself” by Shad Helmstetter. She knew why she gave it to me and my belief system left it on the shelf for years.
I am extremely grateful for that ‘taste and see’ moment and this started my journey to becoming Aminah Michelle. Michelle is my middle name given to me by my maternal grandfather and since my journey into real self love and self respect, I decided to make this the name I would reintroduce myself and also this would be the name of the successful person I was becoming.
The most recent mentors that have left that unapologetic persona are my millionaire mentor, Michelle Stonhill, and my current millionaire mentor Nikki Sutherland aka Nikki KnowsNow. These women have left and continue to leave a lasting impression on my life.
Lockdown was an experience that changed my direction and the choices I had to make. I was attempting self employment as seeking employment was increasingly difficult being a single mother. I was trying my hand at working around the needs of my children, the needs were including and not limited to; school run, activities, homework, cooking, cleaning and all the emotional challenges, with them as growing children and with me constantly on the verge of depression. March 2020 was the month that my world stopped and we were essen-
tially grounded. Money was tight already and now I had to occupy and feed my children at least seven times a day, this was very stressful. I joined a community and became a co-founder of The Wealthier World Investment Group.
I found the support I needed to uplevel my mind and financial education. I have been a part of the Wealthier World Family since December 2019 and I am a changed woman for it. No longer a pleaser now I am real to my true self, empower others to discover their power and have a network of clients globally.
My ultimate goal is generational wealth. I want legacy throughout my lineage. I will leave something on this earth that will never die. I am on my way to this goal through financial education including Digital Entrepreneurship, Innovation and Technology. This is the way I am acquiring my time and financial liberation and this will be what I teach and pass down to my children. n
