THISDAY STYLE MAGAZINE 26TH MAY 2024

DR. MAYMUNAH YUSUF KADIRI

BETTY IRABOR

DEYEMI OKANLAWON

JANEMICHAEL EKANEM

GBEMI GIWA-OSAGIE

health illness awareness programmes and campaigns appear to still be an unpopular topic in Nigeria when we compare it to other awareness campaigns carried out in the

try. It is crucial to recognise that mental and physical health should be accorded equal attention, significance, and resources, just like any other health campaign.

Growing up, I was one of those who thought depression was a luxury—a notion instilled in me by a culture where excuses were frowned upon, and pushing through regardless of your state of mind was the norm. If you did feel something that might have been depression, neither you nor your family would recognise it for what it was. It was just a bad mood, fatigue, or something that could be shaken off with a bit of grit and determination. Life had to go on, and so we carried on.

Fast forward to today, and I find myself a witness to the harsh realities of mental health struggles. Suicide attempts, silent cries for help—these are not just stories from afar but experiences that hit close to home. These experiences have profoundly changed my perspective. Mental health issues are real, and they deserve to be treated with the same seriousness as any physical ailment. They should not carry the stigma and shame that society often attaches to them.

May is Mental Health Awareness Month, the perfect time to shine a light on this crucial topic. Our cover story aims to raise awareness and reduce the stigma surrounding behavioural health issues. It’s about time we acknowledge how mental illness can affect all of us— patients, providers, families, and society at large. Most importantly, it’s a call to support everyone battling mental health issues. We are living in unprecedented times, and the pressures we face are immense. It’s almost expected that mental health issues will arise. But if you find yourself struggling, don’t keep it to yourself and hope it will pass. Reach out to someone—whether it’s a friend, a family member, or a professional. Talking about it can make a significant difference.

How are you doing this weekend? hope you’re taking time out for yourself amidst the hustle and bustle of life. While you are at it, be sure to check out the content of this week’s edition.

Have you ever found love on the other side of the planet? Long-distance relationships can be challenging, but our article “Long-Distance Love: Making It Work Across Miles” offers valuable insights and solutions for navigating this unique situation.

Our guest writer, Eniafe Momodu, is back, highlighting trends from the AMVCA. Whether you’re a fashion enthusiast or simply love to be aware of trends, “Breaking Down the Fashion Trends from AMVCA 2024” is a mustread for you.

How’s your weekend shaping up? Remember to take things easy and avoid unnecessary stress. Here’s to a beautiful week ahead, filled with moments of joy and

FITNESS:

BENEFITS TO WORKING SMART NOT HARD

Short on time? Never fear! The latest research suggests that short workouts, which offer excellent health and fitness benefits, have gained significant attention. It’s time to forget about slogging through long exercise routines, as the key to achieving a better body actually lies in doing less. With a few minutes of intense cardiovascular exercises and the inclusion of high-intensity interval training, individuals can witness significant improvements in their physical well-being. So, if you find yourself strapped for time, remember that even a short workout can go a long way in helping you achieve your fitness goals and improving your overall health.

TIME EFFICIENCY

The major holdup to getting the workout in, of course, is time. Between getting to the gym, changing in the locker room, and mentally shifting gears into workout mode, the hour-long workout takes up nearly double the actual time. With a short workout, in contrast, it’s possible to get just the same result in much less time. You can fit one in at home when changing clothes between work and social events, during a lunch break, or in odd minutes found at home or work among chores, errands, and any other waiting time.

IMPROVED CONSISTENCY

Because the workout is so short and effective, it eliminates any reason or excuse not to engage in physical activity. Regardless of the time and your energy levels, convincing yourself to dedicate a few minutes to a swift and efficient workout becomes simple. With a commitment to completing less than 20 minutes of exercise, you open the door to a world of potential and progress. Embracing this newfound consistency can truly revolutionise your fitness journey.

INCREASED MOTIVATION

One of the downsides of working out less is that you have to work out harder in order to have enough intensity to make your heart beat fast. Intense workouts are really uncomfortable, and it can be difficult to find the motivation to hurt that much for that long. Because the workouts are so short, you can dig

in and push yourself hard. When you feel like giving up, you realise that you will be done in a few short minutes, and you carry on.

QUICK RESULTS

One of the most critical components of an effective short workout is that it lets the exerciser benefit from both cardio and strength training. Rather than doing one or the other, exercises combined back-to-back can really push the body to the limit. At the same time, short workouts improve muscle tone, heart health, and general fitness.

PHYSICAL AND MENTAL HEALTH BENEFITS

Recent studies show that short, intense workouts can provide some of the same health benefits as long, leisurely exercises. And the shorter, more vigorous workouts can have other benefits. If done a few times a week, those workouts may help stave off some of the natural declines of ageing and improve mental health.

MOOD ENHANCEMENT

Physical activity has been shown to diminish anger and nervousness. Individuals have reported increased relaxation benefits even when physical activity is a rather mundane part of the daily routine. However, the effects of exercise seem to be less clear-cut when people are doing something more mentally as well as physically challenging.

EXECUTIVE EDITOR

Breaking Down the Fashion Trends from AMVCA 2024

BREAKING DOWN THE FASHION TRENDS FROM AMVCA 2024

Recently, the annual Africa Magic Viewers’ Choice Awards took place at Eko Hotel, the crown jewel of Nollywood’s award season and one of Nigeria’s most coveted entertainment awards. Taking place just days after the Met Gala and coinciding with the start of the Cannes Film Festival, the AMVCAs have become an opportunity for Nigerian celebrities, as well as their stylists, tailors and creative directors, to flex their sartorial muscles and feed the public’s never-ending hunger for delectable fashion.

Albeit a yearly tradition here at ThisDay Style, reviewing AMVCA looks becomes an increasingly arduous task year after year. On the one hand, the outfits get louder, bolder and more inventive with each passing iteration as attendees do their best to outdo one another and their past selves. On the other hand, the sheer volume of looks flooding the social media sphere on the Second Saturday in May continues to increase as the film industry grows and welcomes new faces into the mix. Years ago, take 2018, for example (my first time at the AMVCAs), the

GARDEN OF TIME

The 2024 Met Gala theme, ‘The Garden of Time’, was a major source of inspiration for the #AMVCA10 carpet. While the theme was originally intended to spotlight the Costume Institute’s role in the preservation of fashion, the use of the word ‘Garden’ was confusing enough to turn the Met Gala into a flower cornucopia, with celebrities like Kim Kardashian, Zendaya and Ayo Edebiri all donning garden/ flower-infused attires. In the wake of this, a number of stars pulled out flower-themed ensembles for the AMVCAs later that week. Chioma Good Hair wore two custom dresses by frequent collaborator Weiz Dhurm Franklyn, both drawing direct inspiration from the Met Gala and its theme. Tolani Baj, Omowunmi Dada and Iyabo Ojo also included nods to the garden of time, each with their own unique flairs.

stars would pour their effort into one single, striking ensemble to turn heads with on the special occasion. However, today, it has become something of a norm for the upper echelon of film and TV stars to prepare multiple looks—anywhere from two to four—which they debut in quick succession to millions of adoring social media followers.

These photos, typically shot in professional photography studios days in advance of the actual event, typically receive more media attention and scrutiny than the award show itself and have come to all but define the public’s perception of the AMVCAs, similar, although wildly contrary, to the photos taken on the iconic Met steps. In some cases, fashion critics and enthusiasts will review ‘red carpet looks’, many of which may never actually made it to the AMVCA carpet. Without a guiding theme standing as a lens through which to analyse AMVCA fashion choices, the sky is truly the limit in terms of what viewers can expect to see, but these are the fashion trends that came to define the 10th AMVCA red carpet:

By Eniafe Momodu

SILVER/METALLIC FASHION

Silver/Metallic fashion is always a safe bet on a Lagos red carpet. Toke Makinwa’s couture-inspired statement dress by Veekee James was widely considered a standout look for the night, styled to perfection with jewellery from Meeyas Link Jewels. Meanwhile, Yvonne Godswill gave fans a double dose of metallic fashion with two corseted gowns - one by Amy Aghomi, the other by Becca Needles ‘n’ Stitches.

TECHNICOLORED SUITS

While predictably, most men opted for suits or tuxedos in line with the event’s black-tie dress code, this year’s AMVCAs saw an absolute explosion of colour, perhaps even more so than in years past. Chimezie Imo’s ata rodo suit by Jimoh’s Empire was a great choice for the ‘Trailblazer Of The Year’ award winner, easily allowing him to stand out amidst the wave of friends and supporters who joined him onstage to accept the surprise award. Emeka Nwagbaraocha and Sunky O kept it classy in neutraltoned suits by Izu Udokwu and T.I Nathan, respectively, while Chike stepped out in not one, but two coloured suits by acclaimed designer Emmy Kasbit, a fitting arrangement for one of the night’s star performances.

3-D DESIGNS

As AMVCA looks get bigger and bolder, starlets have turned towards multi-dimensional silhouettes as a way to stand out from the crowd. This year, Nana Akua Addo’s white 3-D printed bodycon dress caused a major stir on social media, first for its ingenious aestheticism that quickly landed her at the top of most best dressed lists, and secondly for quickly-refuted allegations that the popular actress had failed to credit the dress’s designer appropriately. Meanwhile, amidst the ensuing chaos, Tacha Akide took the term ‘corset dress’ to its (un) natural extreme, even throwing in a corset-shaped handbag in what can only assume is a homage to the AMVCA carpet’s oft-ridiculed corset obsession.

NUDE-COLOURED/ SHEER DRESSES

Viewer favourites Osas

Ighodaro and Uche Montana made a splash in nudecoloured bodycon dresses that call to mind recent fashion headline moments like Rihanna’s 2014 CFDA Awards dress by Adam Selman and Beyoncé’s 2015 Met Gala dress by Givenchy. Meanwhile, Genovea Umeh showed up before taking home the gold for Best Supporting Actress in a shimmery, sheer dress by Sóró Asó that proved you don’t necessarily need a corset to catch the camera’s attention.

CHIOMA IKOKWU

IYABO OJO OMOWUNMI DADA

UCHE MONTANA OSAS IGHODARO

GENOVEVA UMEH

TACHA AKIDE

NANA AKUA ADDO

BEAUTY TUKURA

THE LADYMAKER’S WASTE TO WONDER

By Ayo Lawal

Sustainability, sustainability, sustainability—this word has become a buzzword in fashion, but for one renowned designer, it’s more than just a trend.

In her latest collection, The Ladymaker is transforming waste materials into wearable art.

Unveiled during the fashion house’s 5th anniversary in 2020, The Ladymaker’s groundbreaking collection, “Waste to Wonder,” is not just another sustainable fashion line. It’s a testament to the brand’s innovative approach, showcasing garments that are not just clothes, but wearable art. Crafted entirely from recycled and upcycled materials, this unique collection breathes new life into discarded fabrics and trims, offering a stunning array of dresses, tops, pantsuits, skirts, jackets, and kimonos that redefine sustainable fashion.

Each collection begins with an inspiration, and the “Waste to Wonder” collection is no different as it started off with a single, standout piece: “The Bargello Dress.” Crafted with over 400 hand-cut squares, it’s a beautiful fusion of textures and colors. This dress embodies the brand’s passion for creativity and conscious fashion, serving as the cornerstone for the entire collection.

The garments in this collection are crafted using intricate patchwork techniques and a fusion of off-cut fabrics and trims. Each piece is unique, celebrating imperfection and individuality while challenging society’s obsession with the “new.” They demonstrate the value of waste, reminding us of the potential in the overlooked and discarded.

This campaign further cements The Ladymaker’s dedication to minimising waste by transforming leftover fabrics into limited-edition, one-of-a-kind garments. To raise awareness about the environmental impact of textile waste and promote sustainable fashion practices, The Ladymaker partnered with Energy and Sustainability expert Ifunanya Dozie. They hope this collection will inspire consumers to think critically about textile waste and adopt more sustainable consumption habits.

Leading by example, The Ladymaker is not just hoping but actively encouraging other fashion brands to follow suit by incorporating upcycled materials into their designs. With a growing demand for sustainable fashion options, upcycling offers a unique opportunity for brands to innovate while reducing waste. If widely adopted across the industry, upcycling could play a significant role in not just reducing, but mitigating the massive amounts of textile waste generated by fast fashion, offering a brighter, more sustainable future for the industry.

HORSESHOE JEANS: YAY

OR NAY?

Most of us would agree we have too many pairs of jeans, however just when we think we have gathered every possible kind of jeans in our arsenal, another style/silhouette emerges making the other look dated. The newest jeans style on the scene is more daring than the ones we’ve been seeing lately. The dramatic horseshoe cut is redefining denim as a genuine fashion hero, with a voluminous design that rivals even flared jeans in volume. Horseshoe jeans are rapidly becoming one of the most well-sought after looks available because we’ve been seeing them on influencers, celebrities, and fashion enthusiasts lately.

HOW TO WEAR

The horseshoe jeans should always be the focal point of your ensemble whenever you wear it.

The horseshoe jeans are so trendy that older women might want to avoid wearing them, but don’t be put off by their trendiness make them look polished by pairing them with a blazer and if they are too long, roll them up to your ankle and wear them with a pair of pointy heels.

How One Gen Z Visionary is Redefining Outdoor Entertainment in Lagos

In the heart of Lagos’s vibrant cultural scene, a fresh breeze of innovation is sweeping through our city’s parks, and Ihechi Opara, a young visionary who breathes new life into outdoor entertainment, is at the centre of this movement. Ihechi and his team have transformed ordinary green spaces into captivating cinemas under the stars, captivating audiences and redefining how we - Gen Z experience communal leisure. Through their passion and ingenuity, the “MIP” (Movie in the Park )experience team embodies the spirit of a generation unafraid to challenge the status quo and create magic where others see only potential. Join me as i explore Ihechi’s journey, motivations, and aspirations for the future.

What inspired you to start hosting Movie in the Park events? am a big movie lover, and what I love most is watching movies with my friends or family. The idea to organise an outdoor movie screening came to me while was having lunch one afternoon with a friend, Usman Sanusi, and that was how it was really born.

How do you choose which movies to feature at your events?  Firstly, we always screen Nollywood films. especially love Nigerian movies. was a fan of the culture; now, I’m a part of it. The Movie in the Park Experience was born out of a passion for Nigerian cinema and as a contribution to the communal movie viewing culture in Nigeria, promoting our local stories and artistry. We select the particular Nollywood movie to show based on the theme or the headlining actor. For the Halloween edition, we showed a horror movie, for the Vintage edition we showed a Nollywood classic, for the Sports edition, we screened a sportthemed movie.

What challenges have you faced in organising these events, especially as a young entrepreneur?

The issue is securing partnerships. The country’s economy feels like it’s getting harder by the day. Marketing budgets are getting slimmer and we largely depend on support from businesses to keep this going. It has been a challenge but we are pushing and doing good. Many times, my age is not a limiting factor because most of the meetings are done virtually. We hardly meet physically until contracts have been signed. Shout out to Covid for that one! LMAO

How do you promote and attract attendees to your Movie in the Park Experience?

My network, really. Friends, my media partners - TV, radio, websites, other media houses, SOCIAL MEDIA. However, above all these, I believe word of mouth does most of the work. We have a lot of repeat attendees coming again and again with even more friends.

Can you share a memorable moment or experience from one of your events?

I would say when someone proposed to his partner at one of the MIP Experiences. This happened very early on. believe the second edition, April 2022. Another one that comes to mind is at the 10th edition when Funke Akindele — speaking to the attendees — said she was really proud of the work we had been doing.

Have you noticed any trends or changes in attendee preferences since you started hosting these events?

Yes. I’ve noticed attendees love the edition where the theme allows them to play dress up. They literally all came in their jerseys and sporty fits for the sports edition. They also totally enjoyed going back in time with their fits for the vintage edition.

How do you handle logistics such as securing venues, obtaining screening rights, and setting up equipment?

have an entire team of very talented, intelligent, and hands-on people! Everyone has a part to play in ensuring the production is done right. I personally handle movie licensing. I speak to the movie owners myself and get their permission, or sometimes, we go through the movie distributors.

What are your goals or aspirations for the future of Movie in the Park Experience?

I want this to be a staple in the country. I want this to be a thing families are eager to be a part of in any state we have an activation. want Movie In The Park to go beyond the country, exporting the culture, screening Nollywood movies outdoors around the world.

How do you envision the role of outdoor community events like yours in shaping social interactions and community cohesion, especially among younger generations?

Movie In The Park offers the most relaxed ambience. It helps people interact without any fear of social class differences. Networking and making a new acquaintance is easy — sitting on the ground, under the stars, screaming, laughing together or making conversation while watching a movie. These end with social handles being exchanged, and right there could be the beginning of something.

As a young entrepreneur in the entertainment industry, what advice would you give to others who aspire to start their own ventures?

Honestly, Nike said it best—just do it! am so thankful started MIP as soon as it came to me. Really and truly, just do it. It will only get better, but you have to start.

Have you encountered any age-related biases or obstacles in the industry, and if so, how have you navigated them?

I haven›t really encountered any. There are a lot of young people getting to the bag.

How do you balance the creative aspects of organising these events with the business side of running a successful venture?

At the end of the day, generating revenue is key.

We lost some money in the first two editions, and since then, we’ve had to make calculated business decisions to make sure it does not happen again while still retaining the MIP look and feel, of course. The MIP team is made up of creatives — Usman Sanusi, Ayorinde Olabamiji, Bisola Bello, Clinton Oladokun, Feyisetan Ajayi and Boluwatife Ajayi. They are very quick to remind me when it seems like we are doing something wrong or something that compromises our core.

In what ways do you think your perspective as a young person influences the programming and atmosphere of your Movie in the Park events?  believe it just shines through the entire production of MIP that it is young people behind this. From the conceptualisation of each edition to the execution. From the cool themes that resonate with our demography to the copies we use during promotion, the brands we decide to work with, the talents we work with, and the decoration of the park, everything is influenced by our young perspectives. honestly believe the older people come to MIP and have no choice but to feel young!

Have you found it challenging to establish credibility and gain the trust of partners, sponsors, or stakeholders in the industry as a young entrepreneur?  It 100 per cent didn’t start easy. started Movie in the

Park immediately after graduated from Law. Financial support was not very easy to get. I was speaking to many of these brands for the first time ever. However, the story is different now. We have had 13 MIP Experiences in total. I believe we have gained trust and credibility. Sponsorships are way easier to get now than when we initially started. The brands are only a call away; our media partners are like family to us. To paint a better picture, I literally started a new event - Music Booze and Groove this year and getting brand partners was the most seamless thing. I would say because of the trust they now have in me based on the work we have done with Movie In The Park.

What’s next for MIP and Ihechi Opara?  started a marketing agency, Commingle, with Usman Sanusi, who is also on the MIP team. am excited for what that is already doing. want to help brands with influencer marketing, activations, storytelling – all the shenanigans! believe I know my demography and I know what speaks to them. I want to help brands tap into this. For MIP, expect us in more states. We’ve been in Lagos, Ibadan and Abuja, we are definitely coming to more states and hopefully out of the country in a bit. We want to do more with the program scheduling, have an interactive session with the movie makers and cast. Allowing the attendees — who are obviously movie lovers — have a deeper understanding of what the movie making process is like.

FUNKE AKINDELE AND IHECHI OPARA

HEALING MENTAL HEALTH, PROMOTING AWARENESS

Mental health illness awareness programmes and campaigns appear to still be an unpopular topic in Nigeria when we compare it to other awareness campaigns carried out in the country. It is crucial to recognise that mental and physical health should be accorded equal attention, significance, and resources, just like any other health campaign. By establishing a robust framework for mental health initiatives, Nigeria can truly address the existing gaps, create transformative campaigns, and embark on a journey towards a more prosperous and inclusive society. Prioritising mental health awareness will not only contribute to fostering a more empathetic and supportive environment but will also enable individuals to lead fulfilling lives while contributing to the broader development and growth of the nation.

In Nigeria and many countries around the world, the month of May is recognised as Mental Health Awareness Month, and the aim is to recognise the importance of and promote awareness of the mental health issues that people suffer from. It is indeed a right move for any government to recognise the need to educate the members of its nation, particularly the young, who are the future leaders, to eradicate patterns of nonchalant disregard towards mental health struggles. This invaluable moment in time unequivocally presents an unparalleled opportunity for nations around the world to highlight and showcase stigmatised mental health conditions. By fostering open analysis and thoughtful discussions surrounding these conditions, it becomes possible to effectively educate and empower those who have long been neglected and underserved by society. The impact and potential for positive change during this month of mental health awareness are immeasurable.

Mental health illness is widespread in Nigeria. The health sector has it on record that, in the course of a lifetime, one in four Nigerians is most certainly to suffer from mental health issues. Furthermore, investigation has exposed the link between mental health illnesses and social factors, which include financial situation, spiritual state, and medical core dysfunctions.

Mental health issues cannot be properly discussed without mentioning the stigma that surrounds mental illness. The stigma of mental illness is a recognised stumbling block of society, deeply embedded in cultural, social, and religious beliefs that isolate the ill from the general populace, support networks, and potential partners. Thus, it is imperative that society take active steps to challenge and dismantle the stigma surrounding mental illness, fostering an inclusive society where individuals with mental health conditions are embraced, supported, and empowered to live full and meaningful lives. This week we speak to mental health practioners, patient and other stakeholders who bare it all about mental health in this mental health month of May.

GBEMI GIWA-OSAGIE - PSYCHOLOGIST

Gbemi Giwa-Osagie is a dedicated and compassionate psychologist with a proven track record of providing expert psychological assessment and interventions to children, families, and individuals facing emotional challenges.

With a degree in psychology (BA) from Mount Saint Vincent University Halifax Nova Scotia, Canada, and a Masters in counselling psychology from Bowle State University Maryland, USA, Gbemi has a strong focus on supporting women and victims of domestic abuse, offering empathetic counselling and advocacy to empower individuals through difficult life transitions.

Her passion for women’s mental health was sparked during her internship at Pregnancy Aid Services in America, and then she moved back home and continued the good work at the Lagos State Family Court, where she made an impactful difference with her dedication and passion to help families navigate through difficult issues and times. She now works at Grey Insights creating awareness and responding to emotional and mental health crisis suffered by individuals in the workplace.

How would you define mental health?

When we talk about mental health, we are referring to the mental well-being of an individual with regards to their emotional, psychological, social, physical, and spiritual health. Similar to physical health, but rather related to cerebral or intellectual health.

It is very important that every individual take adequate steps to maintain good and balanced mental health. What does the month of May, mental awareness month, mean to you?

I, for one, am excited that a whole month has now been dedicated to raising awareness of the importance of mental health. Since the COVID pandemic, mental health issues have been thrust into the spotlight. People have now come to better understand the issues surrounding mental health.

Every single person has some mental health issue or another, whether it is just worrying too much or something much deeper. The awareness created in May mental health month has encouraged more people to talk more openly about and pay more attention to their mental health. This is helping a great deal to reduce the stigmatisation that surrounds people with mental health issues.

Many people are not aware that mental health is just as easily treatable as other physical health issues, and having a Mental Health Month is encouraging more individuals to now seek help when they find themselves struggling with their mental well-being. Creating this awareness is also helping to reduce the stigma put on people seeking medical help. The goal to educate more people about their mental health well-being is slowly being achieved, but we still need to create even more awareness around this.

uting to mental health illness. Some of these factors include chronic illness, low income, particularly in poor communities, bullying at work or school, childhood trauma, and genetics, to name a few. All these can affect individuals’ mental health. This list of causes is by no means exhaustive, and we always say to people that if you or anyone you know is struggling with mental health issues, please reach out for professional help and support.

Nigerians need to work together to break down the stigma surrounding mental health. I am happy to see that more insurance companies now support mental health treatment as part of their health insurance packages.

At your practice, what are you doing to celebrate this month and bring awareness to mental health in Nigeria?

We have had a road walk to create awareness about mental health. We have also collaborated with corporate organisations and other bodies and institutions to educate their employees and colleagues on the topic of their mental health. And we are also utilising social media channels to further raise awareness and educate the general public. Finally, we are also organising an upcoming event to create even more awareness about mental health.

Who is most susceptible to mental health illness?

Mental health illness can affect anyone, regardless of age, race, gender, or background. Many factors have been identified as contrib-

An individual’s mental health influences how that individual thinks, feels, and behaves. It affects our relationships, our work, and our daily lives, and this, in turn, can affect our physical well-being.

Dr. Maymunah Yusuf Kadiri is the Medical Director and Psychiatrist-in-Chief at Pinnacle Medical Services (PMS), a leading psychology and mental health facility in Nigeria that is prominent in the application of innovative clinical approaches in the management of psychological, emotional, and behavioural-related disorders.

Dr. Kadiri is also the founder of Pinnacle Medicals SPEAKOUT Initiative, which is geared towards creating mental health literacy in Africa. As a forerunner in the practice of mental health, neurofeedback, biofeedback therapy, and other novel therapy techniques in Nigeria, she is one of the most sought-after psychiatrists and psychotherapists in Nigeria and beyond who continues to lend their hand and voice when it comes to mental health.

How would you define mental health?

will define Mental health as a state of well-being in which an individual realises his or her own abilities, can

So, what are the next steps to take once a person has identified those symptoms? When does the person need to seek help?

You are correct in saying Nigerians don’t take their mental health seriously. This might be due to our cultural beliefs, social and cultural stigmatisation, and the feeling that “what happens in a family should stay within the family.” The vast majority of Nigerians associate mental health with mental illness. The image that pops into the minds of most Nigerians when you mention mental health is that of an individual walking on the road naked, talking to themselves. It is important to remember that mental health is just as important as physical health. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness.

Signs of mental health vary. Some of the signs we look out for include changes in an individual’s mood, such as sadness, anxiety, mood swings, withdrawal from social interactions, secluding oneself from friends and families, changes in daily routines, self-harming activities, sleep disturbances, and expressing hopelessness. It is important to note that these signs don’t necessarily mean an individual has mental health issues, but they can be indicators to start talking to the person. Like mentioned earlier, it is important to seek help if you feel you or someone you love needs help.

I am glad to say that more and more mental health facilities are being established in Nigeria. We now have both private and public facilities catering to mental health wellness.

Nigerians need to work together to break down the stigma surrounding mental health. I am happy to see that more insurance companies now support mental health treatment as part of their health insurance packages.

Anyone struggling should please reach out to a professional for help.

cope with the normal stresses of life, can work productively and fruitfully, and is able to make a contribution to his or her community. It includes our emotional, psychological, and social well-being. Mental health affects how we think, feel, and act. It also helps determine how we handle stress, relate to others, and make healthy choices. It is important at every stage of life, from childhood and adolescence through adulthood. Mental health is more than just the absence of mental disorders or disabilities.

What does the month of May Mental Awareness Month, mean to you personally?

Personally, as a mental health physician, advocate, and coach, the month of May is of great importance because my mantra is normalising mental health

DR. MAYMUNAH YUSUF KADIRI - PSYCHIATRIST

conversations by building a culture of compassion. So, this month, my team and I are involved in several projects to intensify awareness about mental health.

Likewise, it is a time dedicated to raising awareness about mental health issues, reducing the stigma associated with mental illness, and promoting mental well-being. During this month, various organisations, advocates, and communities engage in activities to educate the public, support those with mental health conditions, and advocate for policies that improve mental health care. It aims to foster a better understanding of mental health, encourage open conversations, and provide resources for those in need.

At Pinnacle Medical Services, what are you doing to bring awareness to mental illness in Nigeria?

At Pinnacle Medical Services, which is a mental health service delivery wellness centre, we are committed to raising awareness about mental illness and breaking the stigma associated with mental health issues in Nigeria. We have several initiatives and activities to celebrate and bring awareness to mental illness in Nigeria. We have community outreach programmes aimed at educating the public about mental health. These programmes include seminars, workshops, and free mental health check-up camps in various communities. Our telemedicine platform, HOWBODI, which has a mobile counselling booth, is taken to hard-to-reach communities so they can assess mental health care. The goal is to demystify mental health conditions and encourage people to seek help without fear of stigma. We collaborate with educational institutions to integrate mental health education into curriculums. Through social media, radio, television, and print media campaigns, we disseminate information about mental health. Our campaigns feature testimonials from individuals who have successfully managed their mental health conditions, thereby humanising the issue and reducing stigma. Each year, we actively convene the mental health conference, TMHC. We host events such as mental health fairs and panel discussions with mental health experts, policymakers, and advocates. These events are designed to foster a deeper understanding of mental health issues, promote the importance of mental wellness, and more. Our holistic approach ensures that we address the mental health ecosystem comprehensively, providing end-to-end care and facilitating safe spaces for individuals to achieve healthier, wealthier, and happier lives.

You are not alone in your struggles, and many others have faced similar challenges. It’s okay to seek help because Seeking help for mental health concerns is a sign of strength, not weakness. It takes courage to reach out for support, and doing so is an important step towards healing and recovery.

access to healthcare, can significantly increase the risk of mental health problems. Understanding these risk factors can help identify those who may need more support and resources to maintain their mental well-being.

We know that not every case of mental health illness needs professional intervention, so how can we support ourselves or others if we notice signs of mental illness?

Absolutely, not every case of mental health condition requires professional intervention, but support from friends, family, and the community can be incredibly valuable. Be understanding and nonjudgmental. Approach the situation with empathy and without judgement. Let the person know that you care about them and are there to support them. Listen actively, encourage open communication, and actively listen to the person’s thoughts and feelings. Sometimes, simply having someone to talk to can provide relief. Finally, educate yourself and learn more about mental health conditions and the specific symptoms the person may be experiencing. Understanding their struggles can help you provide better support.

You will be shocked to know that a lot of people don’t know where to seek help. Can you tell us where to go to seek help?

This isn’t shocking to me as a practitioner because of the stigma and discrimination attached to mental health and people living with mental illnesses. The truth is, it’s important to know where to seek help when dealing with mental health concerns. Start by talking to your primary care doctor, like the family physician; they can assess your symptoms, provide guidance, and refer you to a mental health specialist if needed. You can also speak to a psychiatrist specialising in the diagnosis, treatment, and management of mental health disorders. They can prescribe medication and provide therapy. Also, a psychologist trained in psychotherapy and psychological assessment can help, but they cannot prescribe medication but can provide therapy and counselling.

A licensed mental health therapist or counsellor can also provide therapy and counselling services. These groups of people can be accessed at different facilities, like psychiatric hospitals, mental health centres that offer a range of mental health services, support groups, counselling centres, and more. Just remember that it’s okay to reach out for help, and you don’t have to go through mental health challenges alone. If you’re unsure where to start, consider talking to a trusted friend or family member who can offer support and guidance.

Who would you say is most susceptible to mental health illness?

Mental health illnesses can affect anyone, but certain people may be more susceptible due to a variety of factors. Which include individuals with a family history of mental illness, people experiencing chronic stress from work, relationships, or financial difficulties, individuals with traumatic experiences, those with chronic medical conditions, individuals with substance abuse issues, children and adolescents particularly vulnerable due to developmental changes, peer pressure, and academic stress, and elderly individuals facing isolation, physical health decline, and grief, all of which can contribute to mental health issues. Also, members of marginalised communities experiencing discrimination, social inequality, or minority stress, as well as individuals living in poverty, instability, and lack of

What is your advice to those who have mental health illness but are too embarrassed to seek help?

For those who are too embarrassed to seek help for their mental health illness, here is some gentle advice: You’re not alone. Remember that mental health issues are common and affect people from all walks of life. You are not alone in your struggles, and many others have faced similar challenges. It’s okay to seek help because Seeking help for mental health concerns is a sign of strength, not weakness. It takes courage to reach out for support, and doing so is an important step towards healing and recovery. While seeking professional help is important, take note that there are many self-care practices that can support your mental health, such as exercise, mindfulness, relaxation techniques, and creative expression.

DEYEMI OKANLAWON

Deyemi Okanlawon is one of the leading actors in the Nigerian film industry, with commendable appearances in blockbuster movies. The actor, who also has a degree in chemical engineering from the University of Lagos, is known for his versatility and ability to deliver stellar performances in the different roles he takes on in movies. Deyemi dealt with mental health illness for about 3 years and overcame it, but the actor continues to advocate for the importance of men speaking up about their mental health.

When did you first notice that your mental health was an issue and what kind of experiences and symptoms were you having? first began to notice that might be having mental health issues sometime in 2018. was increasingly experiencing constant feelings of anxiety, centred mostly around my career. wasn’t earning enough, nor was getting opportunities to work on high-level production, and this left me constantly worried about my ability to sustain a successful career in entertainment. I feared that I would be unable to meet the needs of my young but growing family and other loved ones who depend on me financially. The pressures from

work and personal life seemed insurmountable, and I found it difficult to sleep. I lost interest in activities that I once enjoyed, especially acting.

Up until the pandemic, mental health illness wasn’t openly talked about in Nigeria. What did you do when you realised your mental well-being was deteriorating? Did you have anyone to openly confide in back then?

Initially, most certainly kept my thoughts and feelings to myself. I did not want to burden anyone with my issues, least of all my wife, who was already doing so much raising our kids alongside her high-pressure career while was mostly out working. I remember once trying to speak to one or two elderly family members but came out of those conversations feeling even more disenfranchised. By 2019, I started noticing that I had been using some pretty harmful coping mechanisms to distract me from my thoughts, and that was when finally realised how bad things had gotten. I eventually quit acting and went back to an office job, thinking this would help, but while I did feel a level of peace, the anxiety was still there, and I couldn’t see a way out.

light at the end of my dark tunnel. With the pandemic, I was also able to find time to pray and meditate, while I also went back to practicing mindfulness and regular physical activity, which helped improve my mental state.

How do you feel now, and what are the intentional steps you take so you don’t find yourself back where you had mental health illness?

Now, I feel much more balanced and in control of my mental health. I’ve learned to recognise the signs that might be overextending myself or heading towards a burnout. To maintain my mental well-being, I prioritise self-care by ensuring have a healthy work-life balance, regularly exercising, and eating well. I now also make it a point to talk openly about my feelings with my most trusted friends and family.

At your lowest, how did you feel? What did you do? And how did you get the help you needed?

In 2020, Jimmy Odukoya and started spending a considerable amount of time together, and I’m sure he has no idea how he played a significant role in my recovery. Other people spent time with are Lanre Olusola and Yetunde Bankole Bernard, who I believe have a unique view of handling men-related issues. Also, conversions with some of my closest mentors, RMD, Mo Abudu, Bolanle Austin Peters, and Alibaba, who have faced similar challenges, did a lot in helping me see that the issues I was anxious about were not perculiar to me, and, as with them, there would be

From my experience, I found that when I spent more time speaking about my issues, they seemed to get more insurmountable, and that I got a lot more results from being spoken to, reassured, encouraged, and reminded of the strengths, talents, and boundless opportunities open to me.

A lot of people never want to admit or speak about their mental health struggles because there is a stigma associated with mental health. What is your advice to anyone who is too embarrassed to speak about their mental health, especially men?

Quite interestingly, I find that the available forms of therapy seem to align more with the needs of women, who seem to relieve stress by simply speaking and being listened to. From my experience, I found that when I spent more time speaking about my issues, they seemed to get more insurmountable, and that I got a lot more results from being spoken to, reassured, encouraged, and reminded of the strengths, talents, and boundless opportunities open to me. My advice to anyone, especially men, who feel too embarrassed about their mental health struggles is to remember that seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness. Mental health is just as important as physical health, and ignoring it can lead to more serious problems down the line. Talking to someone you trust or the right professional can make a huge difference. We all need support at some point in our lives, and it’s perfectly okay to seek it out.

JANEMICHAEL EKANEM

Janemichael Ekanem is a multiple award-winning celebrity stylist, designer, fashion entrepreneur, author, creative visionary, and mental health and wellness advocate. She uses her platform as a celebrity stylist to engage and advocate for people suffering from mental illness-related issues. She continues to lend her voice to the destigmatization of mental health in Nigeria.

When did you first notice that your mental health was an issue, and what kind of experiences and symptoms were you having? Ironically, I didn’t realise that my mental health was an issue. It was my close friends who noticed and did everything possible to reach my family. It was quite tough for them as all my family members were or are private people and, till date, have no business with social media. The experience I had was that I was beginning to feel alone because anyone who opposed my decisions or actions was automatically an enemy to me without any form or room for inclusion. My opinion was my opinion, and that was it.

Up until the pandemic, mental health illness wasn’t openly discussed in Nigeria. What did you do when you realised your

mental well-being was deteriorating? Did you have anyone to openly confide in back then?

I didn’t even realise that my mental health was deteriorating, but my call out on social media was me in a way being open and real that things weren’t working out because I felt I had done everything positively and humanly possible to be successful. couldn’t take it anymore, and unfortunately, the schools never teach us about lifestyles and living in the present. Also, I had no one to confide in because I was battling with anxiety at the time, which led to me having trust issues with basically everyone.

At your lowest, how did you feel? What did you do? And how did you get the help you needed?

At my lowest, I felt suicidal. As a matter of fact, I just tossed the snipper I bought in 2020 last year in March 2023. I kept the snipper like a treasure because was certain would need it someday, as there seemed to be no way out at that time. I got the help needed through a good friend. would say he was and is God-sent, as he voluntarily reached out to me multiple times, and the first thing he did was lead me back to Christ, and then things started falling back into place gradually, one step at a time. To the point that I reconciled

with family, and that has been my major backbone and solid foundation for my healing journey.

How do you feel now, and what are the intentional steps you take so you don’t find yourself back where you had a mental health illness?

I feel great now, and to be honest, I wouldn’t change my story for anything because it’s a beautiful one to me. The intentional steps I have taken to not find myself back where had a mental breakdown again are quite many, but here are a few basic things to do, as everyone has or should have a pattern that suits them. I eat well and right. I also eat lots of fruits, multivitamins, medication, and lots of water. I workout, even if it’s just a 30-minute walk. I sleep well and right. live in the present and forget about the past. I stay grateful. This helps me have a better connection with my Creator and not dwell on disappointments. ⁠Lastly, I journal. I write a lot and put my plans and aspirations into writing.

A lot of people never want to admit or speak about their mental health struggles because there is a stigma associated with mental health. What is your advice to anyone who is too embarrassed to speak about their mental health, especially men?

I tell people who are embarrassed to speak about their mental health that being embarrassed about mental illness is like being embarrassed about malaria, cancer, or HIV/AIDS. The earlier we start

I tell people who are embarrassed to speak about their mental health that being embarrassed about mental illness is like being embarrassed about malaria, cancer, or HIV/AIDS. The earlier we start creating awareness about mental health and wellness, the more we create a better environment for more people.

creating awareness about mental health and wellness, the more we create a better environment for more people. made a friend in the psychiatric hospital who eventually kicked the bucket because her husband didn’t understand it, and so he couldn’t manage her or the situation properly. This led to them having a misunderstanding, which led to her being thrown out of her marital home without having access to her children, which led to her becoming depressed, and then she eventually passed away. am so grateful for this opportunity because we don’t talk about mental illness enough, and it’s beginning to meet us right at our doorsteps. Prioritise your mental health!

BETTY IRABOR

Betty Irabor is a founder, author, and executive leader with extensive experience and accomplishments in lifestyle publishing, entrepreneurship, speaking, and advocating for mental health and wellness. Using her story of battling depression for 7 years and almost committing suicide, Betty strives to uplift others who have challenges with their mental health using her network, “The Beautiful Mind Network’’ to speak up about the need to destigmatize mental health related illness and encourages individuals to speak up about their mental health.

When did you first notice that your mental health was an issue and what kind of experiences and symptoms were you having?

captivating cinemas under the stars, captivating audiences redefining how we Gen Z - experience communal leisure. their passion and ingenuity, the “MIP” (Movie in the Park ) team embodies the spirit of a generation unafraid to the status quo and create magic where others see only

i explore Ihechi’s journey, motivations, and aspirations future.

I was about 52 years old when first realised was always feeling out of sorts and suffering terrible mood swings. would cry for no reason and feel persistently sad, and I didn’t understand why. also suffered from chronic insomnia, which aggravated my anxiety, and felt an all-encompassing sense of despair that couldn’t shake off. began to withdraw from social activities to preserve what was left of my self-esteem; it was my way of avoiding people’s judgment. Self-isolation is very common for people with mental health illnesses. This withdrawal wasn’t just a preference for solitude but a desperate need to protect myself from further emotional distress.

Up until the pandemic, mental health illnesses weren’t openly talked about in Nigeria. What did you do when you realised your mental well-being was deteriorating? Did you have anyone to openly confide in back then?

Mental health wasn’t a topic of discussion at that time, and really didn’t know what I was

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going through. I just tried to deal with it on my own, thinking it was something I could just push through. Fortunately, had my family, and that was all I needed to get well. We all tried to figure it out together, especially when we didn’t have a proper diagnosis of what was wrong. It was a challenging time.

social handles being exchanged, and right there could be the beginning of something.

As a young entrepreneur in the entertainment industry, what advice would you give to others who aspire to start their own ventures?  Honestly, Nike said it best—just do it! I am so thankful started MIP as soon as it came to me. Really and truly, just do it. It will only get better, but you have to start.

The COVID-19 pandemic put a lot of pressure on everyone’s mental health because of the sudden disruption of the normal! People were isolated from friends and families, and loneliness set in. It induced anxiety and fear and triggered panic attacks and depression. People just didn’t know how to cope with what had become everyone’s current reality. I received a lot of messages from families and individuals asking for help. Luckily, unlike during my own episodes with depression, I knew many therapists and quickly referred them to psychiatrists and therapists for evaluation and care. Mental illness has always been a thing; it has always existed, though we don’t have statistics to support the exact figure. In Nigeria, mental health discussions are often shrouded in stigma. This avoidance of mental health conversations was deeply rooted in cultural beliefs and the fear of being ostracised. Thankfully, I didn’t relapse during COVID. My experience became my superpower. I knew exactly how not to succumb to any negative thoughts. I practiced mindfulness and took my self-care routine more seriously. I lived in the moment without overthinking or overanalyzing how things would pan out.

The COVID-19 pandemic put a lot of pressure on everyone’s mental health because of the sudden disruption of the normal! People were isolated from friends and families, and loneliness set in. It induced anxiety and fear and triggered panic attacks and depression. People just didn’t know how to cope with what had become everyone’s current reality.

sense of helplessness and despair. I felt completely numb and disconnected from everything around me. It was like living in a fog where nothing seemed real or meaningful. It felt like being trapped in a dark room with no way out. However, these experiences forced me to confront my innermost fears and insecurities. What I went through helped me unpack my thoughts and emotions to get clarity.

I sought help and leaned on the support of my loved ones. It was a challenging process—finding the right therapist and opening up about my struggles—but it was worth it. Therapy, along with medication provided by a therapist, helped me start to regain control over my life.

I had many low moments trying to figure things out and wondering “why me,” but when you begin to reflect on everything, you understand that this was also a process of refinement, purification, and healing from too many carry-over baggages.

How do you feel now, and what are the intentional steps you take so you don’t find yourself back where you had mental health illness?

I am phenomenal; I am fantastic and blessed. I changed my lifestyle, and I have learned to live intentionally, to recognise triggers, and to take proactive steps when notice them. I make lessdemands of myself and stay away from negative energy. Self-care isn’t just a buzzword for me; it’s a necessity. I take my self-care, which includes fitness, meditation, healthy nutrition, more outdoor activities, and walking with God, very seriously. am gentle and kind to myself and

Have you encountered any age-related biases or obstacles in the industry, and if so, how have you navigated them?

I haven›t really encountered any. There are a lot of young people getting to the bag.

How do you balance the creative aspects of organising these events with the business side of running a successful venture?

At the end of the day, generating revenue is key. We lost some money in the first two editions, and since then, we’ve had to make calculated business decisions to make sure it does not happen again while still retaining the MIP look and feel, of course.

The MIP team is made up of creatives — Usman Sanusi, Ayorinde Olabamiji, Bisola Bello, Clinton Oladokun, Feyisetan Ajayi and Boluwatife Ajayi. They are very quick to remind me when it seems like we are doing something wrong or something that compromises our core.

At your lowest, how did you feel? What did you do? And how did you get the help you needed?

My lowest points were marked by a deep

In what ways do you think your perspective as a young person influences the programming and atmosphere of your Movie in the Park events?  believe it just shines through the entire production of MIP that it is young people behind this. From the conceptualisation of each edition to the execution. From the cool themes that resonate with our demography to the copies we use during promotion, the brands we decide to work with, the talents we work with, and the decoration of the park, everything is influenced by our young perspectives. I honestly believe the older people come to MIP and have no choice but to feel young!

my mind.

First and foremost, it’s very important for us to stop being unnecessarily anxious about things that may or may not happen in our lifetime. It is important to know that we are human and fallible. We fall, we get up, we fail, and we try again till we succeed. We should address our fears before they become a mountain waiting to crush us.

A lot of people never want to admit or speak about their mental health struggles because there is a stigma associated with mental health. What is your advice to anyone who is too embarrassed to speak about their mental health?

My advice to anyone who feels embarrassed to speak about their mental health, is to understand that acknowledging your struggles is a sign of strength, not weakness. Mental health issues are real and can affect anyone, regardless of gender. Speaking up is the first step towards healing and can make a significant difference in your life. It’s important to remember that you’re not alone—many people are going through similar experiences. Reach out to someone you trust, whether it’s a friend, family member, or professional. Breaking the silence is crucial, and seeking help is a courageous act that can lead to recovery and a better quality of life. If focused more on the stigma, would not have displayed such full disclosure of my mental health struggles in my book “Dust to Dew.” Of course, the stigma will continue to be a thing, but getting help is more important. I find that the stigma is based on ignorance and the wrong narrative about mental illness, and with more people speaking up and sharing their stories of overcoming, more awareness will be created.

GIVE YOUR SMILE AN ILLUSION OF WHITER TEETH

GIVE YOUR TEETH AN ILLUSION OF WHITER TEETH WITH THESE LIPSTICK SHADES

s we go through our daily routines of eating and drinking, we subject our teeth to a daily dose of chromogen (colour agents) and is coloration. This gradual process often goes unnoticed until we suddenly realise that our smiles can looked much better. These days, when tooth appearance is discussed, whiteness becomes the most characteristic subject that comes to mind. White smiles now symbolise youthfulness and are seen as the ultimate representation of health and

As we go through our daily routines of eating and drinking, we subject our teeth to a daily dose of chromogen (colour agents) and is coloration. This gradual process often goes unnoticed until we suddenly realise that our smiles can looked much better. These days, when tooth appearance is discussed, whiteness becomes the most characteristic subject that comes to mind. White smiles now symbolise youthfulness and are seen as the ultimate representation of health and beauty, so it comes as no surprise that teeth whitening is now a sought-after trend that will definitely set you back thousands of naira. Whiteness is associated with brightness, attractiveness, success, and reliability, making it highly sought-after. For those who don’t want to go down the line of artificial teeth whitening, it is crucial to be mindful of our habits and take proactive measures to prevent or minimise discoloration. By doing so, we can continue to maintain the radiance and aesthetic appeal of our smiles, and if you are a woman like me, lipstick can also come to your rescue. How might you ask? Well, use these shades, and your teeth will sparkle all day and night.

WINE OR PLUM

The colour plum, which is a subdued purple, contrasts with yellow on the colour wheel, making it an ideal colour of lipstick to wear to create the illusion of whiter teeth. Plum is a

“MOMIWA” IS BIODUN STEPHEN’S LATEST EMOTIONAL DRAMA

Following her widely acclaimed movie, Sista, Biodun Stephen returns with another emotionally gripping drama, Momiwa, which is based on true events, adding a layer of intrigue to the narrative.

Starring Uzor Arukwe, Blessing Jessica Obasi, Iyabo Ojo, and others, ‘Momiwa’ was released to Prime Video on May 10th and has received positive reviews from many movie lovers so far. One thing about Biodun Stephen is that she is going to play it close to heart. ‘Momiwa is also based on true events, and it really had us wondering how much of it was true.

By Bukola Amoboye

Following her widely acclaimed movie, Sista, Biodun Stephen returns with another emotionally gripping drama, Momiwa, which is based on true events, adding a layer of intrigue to the narrative.

Starring Uzor Arukwe, Blessing Jessica Obasi, Iyabo Ojo, and others, ‘Momiwa’ was released to Prime Video on May 10th and has received positive reviews from many movie lovers so far. One thing about Biodun Stephen is that she is going to play it close to heart. ‘Momiwa is also based on true events, and it really had us wondering how much of it was true.

SPOILER-FREE SUMMARY

‘Momiwa’ tells the story of a family and their beloved happygo-lucky housekeeper. However, things go awry when the missing wife comes back into the picture and begins to complicate things, causing tensions that threaten to tear the once-peaceful family apart.

In some ways, the story shares similarities with her previous movie, ‘Sista’, as both portray the struggles of single parenting, whether as a mother or a father. Both movies also strongly play with themes of family and betrayal by a spouse.

WHY WE LOVE IT

The Plot!

Now, this was a plot.

This story deserves to be told and watched, especially as it is based on actual events. From the opening scene, we knew we were in for a treat!

Blessing Obasi’s performance as Momiwa completely blew us away with her accent and impeccable acting. She really did sell the lovable persona of her character, leaving us mostly understanding of the family’s initially weird attachment to her. Her chemistry with Uzor Arukwe was also palpable, and we rooted for them the whole time.

At some point, the story played on our consciences, causing us some confusion over who to support, and we quite enjoyed it for the time it lasted.

The use of flashbacks was also quite effective in taking us on a journey into the stories behind the story, carefully explaining things that initially seemed uncertain.

The makeup, especially that of Uzor Arukwe in the flashbacks, was laudable. He was almost unrecognisable, and it definitely helped his portrayal of his ‘grass to grace’ story.

Another theme that was portrayed albeit sparingly was ‘Post-natal depression.’ This is hardly talked about in our society; truthfully, we would love to see more movies doing justice to this topic.

ON THE OTHER HAND

The cinematography was pretty bland, to say the least. In many ways, it looked more like a YouTube movie than primeworthy.

Although we also understand that more focus was spent on the storytelling, we wouldn’t have minded a bit more aesthetics, picture-wise.

Secondly, we were deprived of certain emotions. The story had the opportunity to delve deeper and take us on a thorough emotional journey, but little attention was paid to certain scenes that could have done that. This also resulted in a lack of chemistry between Arukwe and Ojo. Even though they were meeting again for the first time in 10 years, if they were really each others’ one true love as they both claimed, we should have seen that on display when they reconciled.

The movie also missed the opportunity to become nearly as memorable as Tyler Perry’s critically acclaimed Acrimony.

We all remember how that movie almost ‘tore nations apart,’ with everyone arguing who was in the wrong between the lead characters. Momiwa could likewise have left us in that state, but Instead, it dissolved into a predictable resolution where one of the women was obviously the villain.

OUR TAKE

While the plot had multiple chances to give even more, we can’t say we weren’t entirely pleased with the storytelling. We also love that the movie shows us that being a family isn’t only about blood; it’s about who is there when you need them the most, and that, in this case, it is MOMIWA.

FOR FOODIES ONLY: YOU SHOULD CHECK OUT ONE OF THESE SHARWARMA SPOTS TODAY

Up for some over-the-top, beyond the norm Shawarma in Lagos? We’ve got you! Here are five must-visit shawarma spots in Lagos that promise to nearly blow you away:

1. Zzone Foods: This spot, located in Lekki phase 1, is the newest kid on our block. Zzone offers not only the most titillating shawarmas but also club sandwiches, pasta, noodles, grills, smoothies, juice, etc.

But let’s focus on their Shawarma, shall we? Turkey Shawarma? Now that’s what we’re here for! With pocketfriendly options ranging from 4000 naira to 8500 and the flexibility to dine in, takeout, or order online, this is definitely an inviting spot for a delightful shawarma experience that won’t break the bank.

2. The Burger Place: Yes, it’s a burger place, but their second staple is Shawarma! Not just any regular shawarma, for that matter, but Suya Shawarma! Now, think how much you love Suya, think of that delicious spicy taste and merge it with the taste of your favourite Shawarma…yes, that’s what you get here. Whether you’re dining in or ordering online, you don’t even have to spend up to 5000 naira to get a taste of your favourite snack! With branches in Idimu, Lekki, Yaba and Ikeja, there’s simply no escaping this goodness.

3. Stir Shawarma: This is a paradise for shawarma enthusiasts. Nestled in Lekki, this spot offers a unique chicken shawarma that will leave a lasting impression. Craving for Shawarma that’s succulent, rich in flavor, and perfectly grilled? Then, this is the place to be.

4. Shawarma Bistro: Ajao Estate, Isolo, has a hidden gem known as Shawarma Bistro. With Shawarma that has proven to be consistently delicious and low prices ranging from 2700 to 6000 naira, it is no wonder this one made it to our list!

5. Chimax Shawarma : With pop-up shops scattered across Festac and Amuwo environs, Chimax is particularly popular with residents in those areas. Prices range from 3500 to 5000. This unassuming spot focuses on delivering top-notch flavours with every bite, and its signature sauce is one of our favourite things about it.

LONG-DISTANCE LOVE: MAKING IT WORK ACROSS MILES

From online dating apps to social media connections, finding your soulmate across borders is not just possible but increasingly prevalent.

Yet, while the idea of long-distance love sounds romantic, making it work is a whole different ballgame. With every step, you and your partner balance the weight of longing and the strain of separation against the hopeful vision of a shared future. It’s not an easy journey, but with the right mindset and strategies, it’s one that many couples successfully navigate. Ready to make your longdistance love not just survive but thrive? Here’s the ultimate guide to keep the sparks flying, no matter the miles!

Communication

Think of communication as your relationship’s superpower. It’s the invisible bridge that connects your hearts across any distance. Sure, you need those daily updates, but it’s the juicy details like the funny thing that happened at work or the goofy stories about your pet that make you feel like you’re in the same room. Mix it up with video calls where you can laugh at each other’s silly faces and voice messages that carry your laughter. But remember, it’s not a texting marathon –keep it fresh and balanced to avoid message overload!

Trust and Transparency

Be open about everything – your little worries, the giant missing-your-face moments, and all your dreams. This clarity builds trust faster than you can say, “I miss you!” Set the rules of your love game together – like who’s tagging whom on Instagram and when you’re having your next marathon chat. Knowing where you stand with each other creates a comfy love nest, even if it’s virtual, and fosters a sense of security and confidence in your relationship.

Get Creative

through synchronised streaming services like Netflix Party, play online games such as Words with Friends, or even cook the same recipe while on a video call. And who doesn’t love surprises? Send a quirky care package or a love note that pops up when least expected. These little things make your heart skip a beat and remind you why you’re playing the long-distance game.

Plan Visits and the Future Together

Having a visit to look forward to can be a huge motivator and morale booster for long-distance couples. It gives you something tangible to hold onto during the tough times and a shared experience to cherish when you’re apart. Plan your visits in advance and make the most out of your time together. Whether it’s a weekend getaway or just spending quality time at home, these moments are precious. They allow you to create memories, deepen your bond, and remind each other why you’re in this relationship.

It’s also important to discuss your future together. What are your long-term goals as a couple? When and how do you plan to close the distance? A shared vision for the future gives the relationship a sense of direction and purpose. It reassures both partners that the temporary separation is just a phase, leading to a permanent togetherness, and fills the air with optimism and hope.

Self-Care and Independence

Beyond the usual video calls and messages, numerous creative ways exist to keep the spark alive. For instance, you could watch a movie together

While staying connected is crucial, maintaining independence is equally important. Pursuing your hobbies, spending time with friends and family, and focusing on personal growth can make you a more

interesting and fulfilled person and bring a fresh perspective to your relationship.

Facing Doubts with a Smile

It’s natural to have doubts and fears in a long-distance relationship. What if you grow apart? What if the distance becomes unbearable? These concerns are valid, but it’s essential to address them constructively. Talk to your partner about your fears and work together to find solutions. Remember, facing doubts with a smile doesn’t mean ignoring or suppressing your feelings. It means acknowledging them, discussing them with your partner, and finding ways to overcome them together. This positive approach can help you maintain a healthy and strong relationship, even in the face of challenges. Remember, every relationship faces challenges, whether long-distance or not.

The Power of Positivity

Staying positive and optimistic is crucial. Celebrate the little victories, like scheduling a surprise visit or finding a new way to stay connected. Keep reminding yourself why you’re in the relationship and the love that keeps you going.

OLDY BUT

GOODY

By Funke Babs-Kufeji

Is there anything better than finding a skincare product that truly works? One that delivers results, and with such great results, you start to see why women before you have loved the beauty product just as much. Whether it’s a face cleanser, toning lotion, moisturiser, or all of the above, if you’re fed up with spending money on products that just don’t deliver, then you need this list of old but good beauty products that have stood the test of time and for a good reason. You’ve heard about them, seen them in your mom’s dresser and friends’ bathrooms, they are beauty classics for a reason. It’s time to see if they will become part of your beauty must-haves too.

ELIZABETH ARDEN 8 HOUR CREAM

The enduring popularity of Elizabeth Arden 8 Hour Cream is one of life’s little mysteries. Elizabeth Arden 8 Hour Cream, created in 1930, is a multi-purpose beauty balm that has been a favourite among celebrities and beauty industry experts for over 87 years. Known as a “skin protectant,” it soothes dry skin, adds shine to eyelids and lips, promotes youthful texture, smooths rough spots on feet and hands, and softens cuticles. It also makes an excellent lip balm with naturally-derived acids and hydrating ingredients like corn oil. The cream provides antioxidant benefits for the pout, leaving it hydrated and supple. It is perfect for all skin types and helps replenish, calm, and protect dry, rough, or irritated skin. Elizabeth Arden took nearly fourteen years to create 8 Hour Cream using a combination of skin-protecting ingredients, including petrolatum, beta-hydroxy acid, and vitamin E. It soothes and protects skin for up to 8 hours, making it a favourite among beauty industry experts, influencers, international celebrities, and leaders seeking long-lasting moisture and protection today.

MAC RUBY WOO

With the number of lipstick shades available today, consumers are naturally spoiled for choice. However, MAC’s Ruby Woo lipstick continues to maintain its status as a wardrobe staple, with women worldwide snapping one pack of the classic red lipstick every minute. Ruby Woo lipstick, a relative newcomer, is a cult product from the luxury makeup brand MAC, frequently favoured by celebrities and fashion designers. The high-gloss lipstick was created in 1999 and named after the classic micro-red as a sign of admiration for the people who first dared to use the unapologetic colour on camera, the actors and actresses from the golden age of Hollywood. Inspired by the era, Ruby Woo became popular among different types of audiences due to its versatility, meaning that anyone could wear the saturated red

CETAPHIL GENTLE SKIN CLEANSER

This cleanser is literally iconic in the beauty industry. Seventy years later, the Cetaphil Gentle Skin Cleanser still stands for a

traditional, comprehensive, and gentle way to take care of all the different skin types. With a cult following of millions, the product is used by women of all ages and colour and has been recommended over the years by dermatologists. A version aimed at eczema-prone skin is also offered by the brand. Cetaphil Gentle Skin Cleanser’s soap-free formula works by gently cleansing and hydrating the skin, preventing it from drying out. Its skin-friendly formula does not strip the skin after washing, and leaves the skin calm, soft, and nourished after use.

MAYBELLINE

GREAT LASH

As all true Maybelline fans know well, Great Lash in its famous pink and green tube is the drugstore favourite, widely sold, and widely used mascara among professionals. It is the reliable little black dress of the beauty box and a tub. Is sold every 5 seconds. Over its 45-year reign, it has proven time and time again that it works. The mascara doesn’t just come in one shade; it is also waterproof and has a classic lash lengthening, vent volume, and shaping formula. With its beautiful shade range of blackest black, very black, soft black, brownish black, and more recently, royal blue, Great Lash has endured beauty-regime evolutions of many generations.

ESTÉE LAUDER ADVANCED NIGHT REPAIR

In 1982, Estée Lauder developed and started marketing the product that would make her company one of the most respected names in the skincare world today, Advanced Night Repair. Her company, Estée Lauder, may have been relatively new with its products at the time, but both Estée Lauder as a person and her products were already considered elite. The product was and still is a beauty industry icon, and it deserves recognition. It hydrates to diminish fine lines and wrinkles and ultimately leave skin looking radiant. The product boasts a unique history and, to this day, a cult-like following of loyal users who swear by it.