THISDAY STYLE MAGAZINE 11TH FEBRUARY 2024 by THISDAY Newspapers Ltd

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SUNDAY, FEBRUARY 11, 2024

RUTH OSIME 60 AND STILL MAKING WAVES

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CELEBRATING RUTH OSIME

Media Mogul Mo Abudu and Style Icon Nkiru Anumudu recently hosted an all-ladies brunch in honour of Ruth Osime’s 60th birthday. The celebration wasn’t just a party but a gathering of friendship, joy, and timeless style.

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t feels like just yesterday when I first laid eyes on Ruth Osime. She was clad in a striking red dress, commanding the lobby of the Thisday Office in Apapa. I remember being a wide-eyed corper anxiously waiting to be assigned to my desk, unaware of the journey that awaited me. Her presence was magnetic, exuding confidence and authority as she effortlessly strolled past. Until that moment, I had only seen her on the pages of the paper but in person, she instantly left an indelible impression on me. I wasn’t initially posted to the Style desk, but as fate would have it, I ended up there. It was an unexpected turn that shaped my career in ways I could never have imagined, and Ruth Osime was a soft landing in the whirlwind of my uncertainties. With a welcoming smile and warm demeanour, she turned a wide-eyed, inexperienced stranger into a confident journalist. She was a paradox in every sense of the word. Her guidance was gentle yet tough. She had this unique ability to make you feel at ease but still quiver in her presence. Regardless, she never belittled my lack of experience but always encouraged learning and growth. In her, I found not just a boss but a home. The office, with its deadlines and demands, became a place where I thrived, thanks to her stern but nurturing presence. Long days and tight deadlines were our constant companions, yet she led us through them with unwavering determination. She demanded excellence, pushing us beyond our limits. Yes, of course, we groaned and complained in her absence, but in hindsight, her approach was what we needed to excel. Now, as I find myself in her shoes, I understand her methods and aspire to inspire my team similarly. Over the years, our relationship has evolved from mere professional acquaintances to something much more profound. She has become a mentor and a mother figure, always ready with a listening ear and words of encouragement. Her belief in my abilities has propelled me to strive for excellence, and her nurturing leadership style has imparted lessons that are now pillars of my role as an Editor. As she turns 60, I am overwhelmed with gratitude for her presence in my life. The laughter, the light, the invaluable lessons – she has been a cornerstone of my journey. Our conversations these days often end in bouts of laughter so intense that tears would escape her eyes. That’s Ruth To this phenomenal woman who I call “my maama” - as you celebrate this milestone, I wish you all the love, laughter, and joy your heart can hold. May the years ahead bring you happiness and success in abundance. Happy Birthday, Ruthless Ruth. Love,

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Celebrating Ruth Osime

edia Mogul Mo Abudu and Style Icon Nkiru Anumudu recently hosted an all-ladies brunch in honour of Ruth Osime’s 60th birthday. The celebration wasn’t just a party but a gathering of friendship, joy, and timeless style. The event, which was exclusive to close friends and family, was intimate yet brimming with energy - an evening where laughter rang as loudly as the music. FURO HART

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A GUIDE TO ENJOYING VALENTINE’S DAY SOLO By Funke Babs Kufeji

alentine’s Day often brings to mind images of couples exchanging gifts, sharing romantic dinners, and indulging in sweet gestures. But what about those flying solo? Not to worry, because flying solo on Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to mean feeling lonely or left out. It can be an opportunity to celebrate self-love, embrace independence, and indulge in activities that bring joy and fulfilment. So, if you find yourself riding solo this Valentine’s Day, here’s your guide to making the most of it:

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1. TREAT YOURSELF TO SOMETHING SPECIAL Who says you need a partner to shower you with gifts? Take matters into your own hands and treat yourself to something special. Whether it’s a bouquet of your favourite flowers, a decadent box of chocolates, or that book you’ve been eyeing for weeks, indulge in a bit of self-pampering. After all, you deserve it!

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hat an incredible night it was at the Afrozons Pre-Grammy Party, sponsored by Heineken! The atmosphere was electrical, the beats were infectious, and the celebration of Heineken’s 150th anniversary blended seamlessly with the triumph of African music on the global stage. The anticipation leading up to the event was palpable, and the night did not disappoint. The Afrozons PreGrammy Party showcased the best of African talent and paid tribute to legends who have shaped the continent’s musical landscape. One of the highlights of the evening was the moment when the iconic King Sunny Ade stepped onto the stage to receive a well-deserved Legacy award for his immense contribution to African music, being the first Nigerian to be nominated for a Grammy, in 1983. The cheers from the crowd were deafening as the iconic figure graciously accepted the honour. “KSA’s contribution to the world of music is immeasurable, and it was a moment of pure joy to witness him being recognized and celebrated here tonight,” said Rico Love, Chairman, Grammys Black Music Collective, at the party.

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2. PLAN A SOLO ADVENTURE Why wait for someone else to whisk you away on a romantic getaway when you can plan an adventure all on your own? Take this opportunity to explore a new city or wander through your town with no agenda. The freedom to do exactly what you want, when you want, is one of the greatest perks of flying solo. 3. HOST A GALENTINE’S DAY CELEBRATION Who needs a significant other when you have your closest friends by your side? Gather your favourite gal pals for a night of laughter, love, and celebration. Break out the bubbly, indulge in some delicious treats, and revel in the joy of friendship. After all, who says Valentine’s Day has to be all about romantic love?

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4. PRACTICE SELF-CARE Valentine’s Day is the perfect excuse to indulge in a little self-care. Treat yourself to a luxurious spa day, take a long bubble bath, or simply curl up with a good book and a cosy blanket. Taking the time to nurture your mind, body, and soul is one of the best ways to show yourself some love. 5. VOLUNTEER YOUR TIME Spread love and kindness this Valentine’s Day by volunteering your time to those in need. Whether serving meals at a local shelter, visiting residents at a nursing home, or helping out at an animal shelter, there are countless ways to impact your community positively. Not only will you be spreading love to others, but you’ll also be filling your own heart with joy and fulfilment.

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6. GET CREATIVE IN THE KITCHEN Who needs a fancy dinner reservation when you can whip up a delicious meal in the comfort of your own kitchen? Channel your inner chef and experiment with new recipes or recreate your favourite comfort foods. Whether you’re dining solo or hosting a dinner party for friends, there’s something undeniably satisfying about enjoying a homemade meal made with love. 7. HAVE A MOVIE MARATHON Grab your favourite snacks, cosy up on the couch, and indulge in a movie marathon featuring all your favourite romantic comedies, action flicks, or guilty pleasure films. Whether you’re a sucker for a clas-

sic love story or prefer something with a little more action, there’s no shortage of movies to keep you entertained on Valentine’s Day. 8. PRACTICE GRATITUDE Instead of focusing on what you don’t have this Valentine’s Day, take a moment to reflect on all the things you’re grateful for. Whether it’s your health, your friendships, or the simple pleasures in life, there’s always something to be thankful for. Practising gratitude can help shift your perspective and remind you that love comes in many forms. 9. TREAT YOURSELF TO A NIGHT OUT Who says you need a date to enjoy a night out on the town? Put on your favourite outfit, hit the town, and dance the night away at your favourite club or bar. Whether you’re flying solo or surrounded by friends, there’s nothing quite like letting loose and embracing the joy of the moment. 10. EMBRACE THE FREEDOM Above all, remember that being single on Valentine’s Day isn’t a curse – it’s a blessing in disguise. Embrace the freedom to live on your own terms, pursue your passions, and create happiness. Whether you’re single by choice or circumstance, there’s something truly empowering about embracing your independence and making the most of every moment.

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5 MUST-SEE ROMANTIC NOLLYWOOD MOVIES Romance? Nollywood? Yes, Nollywood. It may be hard to wrap your head around, but it’s true. While Nollywood has been excelling in a lot of other genres lately, including drama and action, we’ve also been gifted some gems in the rom-com genre. And yes, these movies weave tales that resonate with viewers on a deep, heartfelt level. This Valentine we are sharing with you five such titles that promise to sweep you off your feet and leave you with a lingering sense of love. By Bukola Amoboye

2. “Phone Swap” (2012)

Kunle Afolayan’s “Phone Swap” is a romantic comedy that takes an unexpected twist. The story revolves around two strangers who inadvertently swap phones at an airport, leading to a series of comedic and romantic escapades. The film combines humour, romance, and a touch of suspense, making it an entertaining watch that keeps viewers guessing until the end.

TIPS TO EXTEND THE LIFE OF YOUR CLOTHES In recent years, there has been a growing movement towards sustainability and conscious consumption, and one key aspect of this movement is extending the life of our clothes. Not only does this practice reduce waste and environmental impact, but it also saves money in the long run. So, how can we ensure that our clothes stand the test of time? Here are some tips to help you master the art of wardrobe sustainability: Invest in Quality Pieces The foundation of a long-lasting wardrobe begins with investing in quality garments. While fast fashion may seem appealing due to its affordability, the reality is that these items often lack durability. Instead, opt for well-made pieces crafted from high-quality materials. Pay attention to details such as stitching, fabric composition, and construction techniques. Follow Care Instructions It may seem obvious, but following care instructions is crucial for preserving the lifespan of your clothes. Take the time to read and adhere to the washing and drying guidelines provided on the garment labels. This simple step can prevent shrinkage, fading, and other forms of damage that occur when clothes are not properly cared for.

3. “Isoken” (2017) Rotate Your Wardrobe Avoid wearing the same pieces day in and day out by rotating your wardrobe. This prevents excessive wear and tear on specific items and allows you to utilise all your clothes fully. Repair and Mend Instead of discarding clothing at the first sign of damage, consider repairing and mending them. Whether it’s sewing a loose button, patching a small tear, or darning a hole, simple repairs can significantly extend the life of your clothes. Not only does this practice save money, but it also fosters a deeper connection with your wardrobe. Store with Care Proper storage is essential for preserving the condition of your clothes. Invest in high-quality hangers and garment bags to protect delicate items from dust and damage. Additionally, store seasonal items in airtight containers to protect them from moths and other pests. Avoid Overwashing While washing clothes after every wear is tempting, this can accelerate wear and tear. Instead, practice spot cleaning and airing out clothes to refresh them between washes. Reserve washing for visibly soiled or odorous items, and opt for gentle cycles with cold water to minimize damage.

Directed by Jade Osiberu, “Isoken” is a refreshing take on love, societal expectations, and the journey to self-discovery. The film follows the life of Isoken, a successful career woman facing pressure from her family to get married. With its witty dialogue, relatable characters, and charming love story, “Isoken” explores the complexities of finding love while staying true to oneself.

Invest in Proper Storage Solutions Investing in proper storage solutions such as cedarwood blocks or lavender sachets can help protect your clothes from pests and odours. These natural remedies keep your clothes smelling fresh and deter moths and other insects that can cause damage over time. Learn Basic Sewing Skills Learning basic sewing skills can empower you to make minor repairs and alterations to your clothes. Whether it’s hemming a pair of pants or taking in a loose seam, making these adjustments yourself can prolong the lifespan of your garments and reduce the need for professional alterations.

4. “The Royal Hibiscus Hotel” (2017)

Directed by Ishaya Bako and released in 2017, the movie unfolds as a charming love story with vibrant characters set against the backdrop of a picturesque hotel. The narrative follows Ope, a talented chef played by Zainab Balogun, who navigates the challenges of reviving her parents’ struggling hotel upon her return to Nigeria. A chance encounter with a charming guest sparks a blossoming romance.

Support Sustainable Brands When adding new pieces to your wardrobe, consider supporting sustainable and ethical brands that prioritize durability and longevity. Look for brands that use environmentally friendly materials, ethical production practices, and offer repair services for their products. Pass It On Finally, when ready to part ways with an outfit, consider passing it on to someone else rather than simply discarding it. Whether through donation, resale, or clothing swaps with friends, extending the life of your clothes extends their impact and reduces waste.

5. “A Naija Christmas” (2021)

1. “The Wedding Party” (2016)

Directed by Kemi Adetiba, “The Wedding Party” is a romantic comedy that unfolds against the backdrop of a lavish Nigerian wedding. The film explores the dynamics of love and navigates the

cultural clashes that often accompany the union of two families from different backgrounds. With a stellar cast and a perfect blend of humour and romance, this movie celebrates love in all its chaos.

The second Kunle Afolayan title on this list, ‘A Naija Christmas,’ might seem like an unlikely romantic movie, but it is just that. What starts as a competition between three sons to win their mother’s favour quickly spirals into two unique yet heartwarming love stories. This movie validates the saying, “Love is usually found in unlikely places.”

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N E M I S O RUTH

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ot a stranger to anyone reading this feature, Ruth Osime’s ascent to prominence began long before her editorial leadership here at THISDAY Style. Her insightful contributions to the Sunday publication of the newspaper through her column, “Truth by Ruth,” garnered widespread acclaim at the time, already establishing her as a trusted voice in the media industry. Fast forward to her remarkable 19-year tenure at THISDAY Style, Ruth’s editorial prowess, amongst other wins, will go a long way towards reshaping the Nigerian fashion landscape. Widely regarded as one of the most influential figures in the industry, she not only discovered new talents but also provided a global platform for established ones to shine. Her keen eye for talent and unwavering commitment to excellence elevated the magazine to unparalleled heights. Beyond the pages of THISDAY Style, Ruth’s impact extended far and wide. Her distinctive reporting style inspired the emergence of numerous fashion and lifestyle magazine platforms, each influenced by her visionary work. Under her stewardship, the magazine’s cover became the epitome of prestige, with socialites and celebrities clamouring for the coveted cover spot. To date, her legacy remains undeniable, and in recognition of her immense contributions, she was rightfully named one of the most powerful women in Nigerian journalism in 2020. As she celebrates her 60th birthday, her media journey continues evolving. She currently co-hosts the acclaimed show “Perspectives” on Arise TV, where she brings her trademark insight and wisdom to discussions on societal issues, cementing her status as a thought leader beyond the fashion industry. In this exclusive with our erstwhile editor, we delve into her remarkable journey, exploring the milestones, challenges, and triumphs that have defined her illustrious career while also celebrating the legacy of a true trailblazer and icon at 60. Interview – Konye Nwabogor Photography – Kelechi Amadi-Obi MakeUp – Bimpe Onakoya

Congratulations on your 60th birthday. What’s the first tention is for just little me, Ruth. I have always said that a thing you’re going to do? Thanksgiving, personal quiet party is always the reflection of the host. Those who turn time, or party all night? up for you. Those who stand by you in public and more I had a Thanksgiving service at Pastor Ituah’s Church, importantly, have your back in private. I also feel that for Trinity House. It was a small service which l thoroughly every human being, it gets to a stage in your life where it’s enjoyed because he and l, go a very long way back. I also not about how much you have or how much you need but took on some charitable ventures. My ‘ride or die sisters’, about the impact that you have made in people’s lives and Nkiru Anumudu and Mo Abudu also had a party for me. It the behaviour around me at this point in time, only makes was a lovely evening of great fun, joy me appreciate this more. and laughter at Ebonylifeplace. Ladies Night with a touch of pink. Amazing There are many milestones in a girl’s evening. Then as you well know, my life from Sweet 16 to 21, 40, the big MET gala - (Metallics), 60th birthday 5-0 and now 60. What’s the one that party is taking place in a few days you will never forget? time. Initially, I wasn’t even going to do There are too many to mention but I I have never paid anything. Then l decided to and the think most of my significant milestones much attention to event has taken on a life of its own, have been in my career. We were the what impact I might leaving me totally overwhelmed and first to take fashion to the global level have had on people. bewildered by the show of love and and had fashion shows worldwide. What people are support! Majority of the older designers today got I have never paid much attention their first big break through our platform. showing me, saying to what impact I might have had on We broke frontiers and pushed the enveto me, writing to me, people. What people are showing me, lope until our narrative was finally heard how they have bent saying to me, writing to me, how they globally. With this, you cannot but feel a over backwards have bent over backwards to make my sense of validation and some sense of to make my day day special...has left me speechless. accomplishment. Personally, I think all special...has left me I almost want to pinch myself and my birthdays have been significant milespeechless. wonder if this wave of love and atstones. My 21st was a milestone; my

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30th, 40th, and 50th were the same, but the most significant milestone will be my 60th, which I would have had by the time this interview is published. I don’t know which one I will most cherish. I would have to compare notes. As a pioneer in Nigerian Style journalism, it couldn’t have been easy making your mark at the beginning. Take us into your thought process at the beginning of that journey. As you know, Konye, if you have worked with Prince Nduka Obaigbena, you know he will take you through the reins. He will push you to your limit and if you cannot swim, you will sink. Simple. You learn the hardknocks, pick up the pieces and rechannel and reboot. There are no short cuts to success. You must put in the blood and sweat until you see the light at the end of the tunnel instead of the train coming the other way. I went through my teething stages, looking for good photographers, planning pages, coming up with ideas, developing concepts, creating waves, and making sure I made my mark in the fashion industry. It hasn’t been a straightforward trajectory, but it’s something that I thank God for. It was a difficult journey, but we sailed through. Yourself, Latasha, Azuka, Ono and Funke went through me, and when I see how successful you all have forged your own paths, I feel validated.

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There are no short cuts to success. You must put in the blood and sweat until you see the light at the end of the tunnel instead of the train coming the other way. I went through my teething stages, looking for good photographers, planning pages, coming up with ideas, developing concepts, creating waves, and making sure I made my mark in the fashion industry.

What advice would you give to young professionals, especially women, navigating the balance between personal and professional life? I’ve never been one to put my personal life out there per se. In fact, lm terrible with updating information on my instagram page. I’m not on Facebook. Some people believe that I don’t “brand myself enough”, but I’ve always felt that my professional and personal life, even though they are intertwined, there must be some part of my personal life that remains just so. In today’s times, you see all sorts of characters on social media and you wonder if they will have staying power. The whole world doesn’t need to know you have a headache today or ate toast for breakfast. The whole world doesn’t need to know that you fought with your best friend, sacked your driver or lost your purse in Paris! Back to your journalism career, you have interacted with influential figures and newsmakers for decades. How did you navigate the industry while maintaining editorial integrity? That’s a funny question because I believe in social currency. Social currency you earn over years. I wasn’t just a journalist who interviewed people. I built relationships during the course of my career, and it’s those relationships that have now helped me transcend to the second phase of my career. I’ve always had goodwill, and I hope that continues and transcends till the end of time.I have friends from all walks of life. Editorial integrity is also part of building a relationship. I have never abused the power of the pen. There’s hardly any public event that you can go to without being recognised. How do you handle the pressure of public scrutiny and expectations from being a public figure? One, I don’t really see myself as a public figure. When people come to me and greet me, I keep a smile on my face. Even when l am attacked on the media space, l move on. Part of life. As for public scrutiny, I don’t feel scrutinised in public. Most times lm with my posse and to them I’m just Ruth. Nothing special. People are free to

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make assumptions. At this age, positive impact on people far outweighs opinions, both solicited and otherwise. Being a known face comes with its own pluses and minuses. I embrace the pluses and manage the minuses. How has transitioning from print journalism to TV been for you? What do you enjoy the most about your current role? It has been relatively easy for me to transition. Still learning the ropes though. I like to explore and l love to ask questions. I probe and probe and probe. Even in my role as the anchor of Perspectives, my guests vary from the most conservative to the most controversial. Some might frown at my choices but in life, you have the good, the bad and the ugly. Everybody cannot talk about “boiling water at the right temperature” tone all the time. Sometime you ‘shake the bottle to wake the taste’, you rattle the cage! And when the cage is rattled, some might want to shoot the messenger but regardless, the meat in the message remains. Loud and clear. For me, TV is a just vocal version of what I used to do as Style Editor of THISDAY Style.

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It’s not about what I am wearing, what car I am driving, who I am seen with, or who I cannot not seen with. I do not feel the need to impress and I’ve also owned my shortcomings. My goal is to continue to impact positively in thr lives of those l love and appreciate and vice versa. I’ve come to my comfort zone, and I’m living with it happily. Can you share some life lessons you’ve learned that you wish you knew when you were younger? There were certain things I wish I had done when I was younger. I would tell my younger self now, do not sweat the small stuff, believe in yourself, have confidence, and try to be what you want to be. Go the unconventional path if that will take you to your destination. Focus less on what people say about you and more on what you think of yourself and, most importantly, develop a very strong relationship with God. God is not beyond our reach. You can talk to Him daily. You don’t have to pray for ten hours, fifty hours, fast for thirteen months, no. Access to him is easy. I believe everybody has some spiritual strength. It could be visions, it could be speaking in tongues, it could even be prophesying. What we call gut-instinct is God-given. Harness it because it will help you as you get older. As far as I’m concerned, walking without a spiritual cover is like walking with an open sore. You must be able to protect yourself and your loved ones spiritually no matter what your chosen faith is because there’s much more to life than what our naked eye can see.

Can you share some behind-the-scenes and Everybody cannot talk any stories from your time at Style that we about “boiling water at might find intriguing? the right temperature” Konye, have you forgotten how we sometimes tone all the time. planned pages till 6 am? How we would work 24 hours. How we would show it to Publisher, Sometime you ‘shake the and he would tell us to start all over again? bottle to wake the taste’, Have you forgotten the long international trips you rattle the cage! And accompanied by sleepless nights to attend one when the cage is rattled, event or another? Is it behind the drama behindsome might want to the-scenes of our fashion shows? There are too shoot the messenger but many to mention. regardless, the meat in I remember an incident where we had a Chris the message remains. Aire dress made of diamonds, which was worth People don’t know you’re also passion$52 million! We had to leave Abuja in the middle ate about the arts and tourism. Do you see of the night because the Publisher had gotten yourself contributing to this industry in the us a plane. And this dress was put amongst the luggage departfuture? ment of the bus that took us to the airport! I cannot tell you what level I’ve always loved arts and tourism. I believe that the sector has my panic button was on! We all had our hearts in our mouths till we a lot to offer. Some parastatal heads have just been appointed, in landed in Lagos. that sector and hopefully, their impact would go a long way towards Or is it the times I will break down from having not slept for days improving it. because I have barely slept for days, organising one event or the other? Ups and downs, that took us up the hill and down the valley. What advice would you give to your younger self if you could go It’s been an exciting experience I would not change for anything! back in time and restart your career? If I were to start my career again, I wouldn’t do anything differently What are your thoughts on ageing gracefully, especially as a because I grew organically. Put in the sweat and reap your rewards woman who might feel pressure from being in the limelight? later. Staying power can take you far. Do not be frazzled by overFor my 60th birthday, I was supposed to go on a diet. I was supnight success. Stay on your lane. Focus and do you. Find your inner posed to sculpt my face. I was supposed to be exercising. I was strength and do not underestimate your abilities. going to run a marathon, but guess what? I’m still a size 16. Am I going to look beautiful on my birthday? Yes, I would because In what ways have the benefits of six decades empowered you in beauty is from within. I haven’t done my breasts, no BBL, or Botox, your personal life and career? and I don’t plan to. I am happy to age gracefully. I don’t need any I’m much wiser and calmer, more confident, less focused on augmentations. outside influences and more focused on my inner self. I have built The other day, I was looking at pictures from my 50th birthday. relationships over the years and the show of support as l turn 60 is a Not everyone that celebrated that birthday with me is alive today. living testimony of that. Money can’t buy that. I remain eternally grateAs I get closer to my evening, I try to enjoy the little gifts life offers. ful to Him for His mercy upon my life.

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VALENTINE’S DAY EDITION Whether spending Valentine’s Day with a significant other or friends or embracing self-love, it’s a perfect excuse to pamper yourself and turn out looking absolutely stunning. From your outfit to the makeup, every detail should count in creating that captivating Valentine’s Day look that will leave everyone in awe. After all, isn’t loving yourself part of this celebration? Radiant Skin The key to any stunning look starts with healthy, radiant skin. Begin your Valentine’s Day beauty routine by exfoliating your skin to remove any dead cells and reveal a fresh, glowing complexion. Follow up with a hydrating moisturiser to plump up your skin and create a smooth canvas for makeup application. Don’t forget to incorporate a brightening eye cream to minimise dark circles and puffiness, giving your eyes that extra sparkle. Flawless Makeup When it comes to makeup for Valentine’s Day, think soft, romantic, and timeless. Opt for a natural makeup look with rosy cheeks, fluttery lashes, and a bold lip to make a statement. Consider using long-lasting products to ensure your makeup stays put throughout the Day and night. And remember, less is often more—focus on enhancing your natural features rather than masking them. Hair Care Your hair can truly make or break your overall look, so giving it some extra TLC before Valentine’s Day is essential. If you are au natural, treat yourself to a deep conditioning treatment or a hydrating hair mask to restore moisture and shine to your locks. Experiment with different hairstyles, whether it’s loose curls, a sleek updo, or romantic braids, to complement your outfit and personal style.

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Statement Outfit Choosing the perfect outfit for Valentine’s Day can be a fun and exciting part of the celebration. Whether you prefer a classic little black dress, a bold red ensemble, or something more whimsical like a floral print, pick an outfit that makes you feel confident and beautiful. Don’t be afraid to accessorise with statement jewellery or a stylish clutch to elevate your look even further. Fragrance Scent plays a powerful role in creating a memorable impression, so don’t overlook the importance of choosing the right fragrance for Valentine’s Day. Select a perfume that makes you feel irresistible and confident, whether it’s a floral, fruity, or sultry scent. Apply it lightly to pulse points such as your wrists, neck, and behind the ears for a subtle yet alluring fragrance that will captivate everyone around you. Spread Love and Kindness Lastly, don’t forget the true essence of Valentine’s Day, which is all about love and kindness. Whether you’re celebrating with a romantic partner, friends, or family, take the time to show appreciation and spread love to those around you. A genuine smile, a heartfelt compliment, or a thoughtful gesture can make a world of difference and enhance your beauty in ways that no makeup or outfit ever could.

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the previous night last week. It was the alcohol, of course, but AI won me that girl. Another situationship unlocked. Tosin: Technology has always been here to make or mar your relationships. It is you who will decide not to allow it to finish you. With the improvement of technology, human effort might reduce as people start to rely heavily on these technologies, which might deter their relationships.

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Ayo: What are some misconceptions about love that you’ve encountered while hosting your podcast, and how do you debunk them? Itty: One millennial guest once told us that there are only two kinds of people in the world: men and women. And that every woman is the same and every man the same as well. But then again, this is the box thing I always talk about. People can be anything, not just trapped within your definitions of how you think men should behave and how you believe women should behave. People can be anything - get used to that. Tosin: Hahahah. This question should be for Itty. I am not sure I remember any.

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l a w a L o y A What do GEN Z’s even know about Love? In today’s dating scene, where swipes have replaced sweet nothings, hashtags accompany heartfelt confessions, emojis speak louder than words, and ghosting is a rite of passage, understanding the intricacies of relationships has never been more fascinating. Enter two Gen Z powerhouses who are redefining this love thing, one podcast episode at a time. Itty Okim and Oluwatosin Omolale, together as hosts of the top relationship podcast in the country — “Bae Gist” — are experts in dissecting the nuances of modern-day courtship and masters of meme-worthy banter. With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, our curiosity about love, relationships, and all things romance is at an all-time high. Join us as we dive into a conversation that’s equal parts insightful, entertaining, and oh-so-relatable. Ayo: What inspired you to start a relationship podcast, and how does it resonate with your generation? Itty: Tosin and I knew we had to start something together. We have had too much energy since the inception of our friendship in 2017, and we have a thing for the media. So, when VerseFive reached out with the idea for a podcast, we jumped right in on it. To save all these children from the wicked hands of love. Tosin: Most GenZ grow up doing ‘test and run’ with their relationships, so Itty and I decided to step in to save lives. Sometimes, my generation goes through really hard stuff, and we find it strange to talk about it because people have a wrong perception of us. “Gen Zs don’t give effort in relationships” and “Gen Zs don’t know how to love and receive love”, so Itty, the cool team at Baegist, and I said, you know what? Instead of leaving these kids clueless, let’s create a platform where they can listen to us, give us feedback, and share their one million ways to do a relationship with us!

Ayo: How do you navigate the fine line between giving modern dating advice while still respecting timeless romantic values? Itty: Romance is romance, Ayo. Love is love. View it from the context of the rules being the same but the people being different. So, love with Romeo and Juliet of classical times is similar to what Tosin and her man share. We understand this, and that’s why we keep recycling the same advice for all of you who don’t want to hear word and stay away from love. Tosin: First, Itty and I create a balance with these things. We understand the need for vibrant and youthful energy, and we also understand the place for these timeless values. For dating to work, you have to be open to embracing the values that were before our existence. Again, Balance is the answer!

OLUWATOSIN OMOLALE Ayo: In a generation known for ghosting and sliding into DMs, how would you define love in the digital age?

Itty: Many people feel things that are not love, but because they often lack the right words to express their feelings, they misinterpret it to be love. This is very common in the digital age,

ITTY OKIM and that’s why many think love is a sham. To understand what love really is, we all have to experience it for ourselves because descriptions wouldn’t justify how beautiful yet exhausting and demanding it could be. Tosin: Love is something that starts in weird places. For love to really work in this generation, it takes so much intentionality and effort. There’s social media which makes people feel like they can do better in their choice of partners. You can literally think about how annoying your partner is, and then you open Instagram, and the first thing you see is, “If he annoys you, leave him for the one who doesn’t”. It will take so much “I know this is my person” to really ignore. Love in the digital age is more work, more intentionality, and more effort.

mind was putting a ring on her finger. Of course, it has spoilt now, but I’m a Gen Zer, too, so my opening statement is a hasty generalisation. People know what they want from relationships, while others don’t. It’s not fair to tag that certainty/uncertainty to any generation. Tosin: I tell people I am GenZ by age but millennial at heart. My personal experiences are pretty eye-opening, and they have opened my heart to the beauty that is love. My understanding of love and commitment comes from a very strong level of self-awareness. I know that love requires two people to put in 100, so I can’t say because our Gen Z manual says, “Don’t do 100 with someone, do 30”, or my past experiences showed me there; I will now give very little. Nah. I don’t move that way. It is either all or nothing!

Ayo: Do you believe in the concept of a “soulmate,” or do you think love is more about timing and effort? Itty: I literally had this conversation with my friend, Sharon, some weeks ago. You see, I believe anyone can end up with anyone. The best niche one can have is a “spec”. Not narrowed down to one person. However, I also think it is simply more interesting to believe in the concept of a soulmate out there waiting for us. It makes the search intriguing. And what are we without these stories and beliefs, eh? Tosin: Love is definitely more about timing and effort. I don’t believe that there is “one” person for anybody. That concept is faulty. I say it often that whatever you feed grows. That is just how love is. If you put effort into it, it’d grow.

Ayo: What’s your take on the traditional idea of “happily ever after” in today’s diverse and

Ayo: As Gen Zers, how do you think your personal experiences have influenced your understanding of love and commitment? Itty: I remember saying on national television last year that Gen Z people barely ever go into relationships for the long run. I thought I was right until I met this girl, and all that was on my

fast-paced world? Itty: Omo, that one na for film o! Don’t get me wrong; people do end up happy with the “right” partners, but it’s not always highs. There will certainly be some lows and difficulties, even while married. “Happily ever after” is the ideal and what we wish for, but a relationship is work, and we shouldn’t forget that. Tosin: ‘Happily ever after’ still exists if you want it. The world is moving really fast, and with the advancement of the internet, we see different motives being pushed about how draining love is. That is why I said something about filtering what we take in from the world /internet. I am a huge fan of the traditional ‘happily ever after’, surrounded by people currently in the ‘happily ever after’ season, and I don’t expect less for myself. Ayo: What role do you see technology playing in the future of dating and relationships? Itty: I literally asked ChatBox to cook up a pickup line for me to use on a girl I met at a club

Ayo: How do you think Gen Z’s experiences with family dynamics and upbringing have shaped their beliefs about love and commitment? Itty: Again, this isn’t limited to Gen Zers. Almost everyone initially approaches love affairs based on information they have previously gathered from probably their parents or guardians or something. Many times, it’s wrong information, so we must be willing to learn and unlearn healthier habits. Tosin: If anything, I am so sure it has shaped us for good. Gen Zs are healing past traumas; they are seeking therapy, identifying their parent’s shortcomings and looking for ways to treat their own family better. Ayo: What’s your take on the concept of selflove and its importance in building healthy relationships? Itty: You cannot give what you do not have. You can’t love others until you fully and wholly love yourself. It’s that simple. Otherwise, you’ll get lost in the relationship, trying to be your partner’s partner and losing the core of yourself in the process. The only way to avoid this is to know yourself properly first. Tosin: Self-love is highly important in building healthy relationships. It helps one create boundaries and makes it easier to move on when the other party is moving strangely. Ayo: Finally, as we approach Valentine’s Day, what’s your message to Gen Z about embracing love in all its forms, whether romantic or otherwise? Itty: I’ll say humans are vessels of love, and trying to stay away from it is trying to be inhumane. And that’s not the point of why you exist. Conform to love. Caveat: you won’t hear me preach love again after this sha. Tosin: Love is sweet; you should try it! Not a bad conversion for a bunch of twentysomething-year- olds. One thing is abundantly clear: love knows no generational bounds. Whether you’re swiping right, sliding into DMs, or old-fashioned hand-holding, the essence of romance remains unchanged. So, as Valentine’s Day beckons us to celebrate love in all its forms, I wish you laughter and someone to share that laughter with. Before I forget, STREAM BAE GIST TODAY.

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VALENTINE’S DAY GIFT GUIDE FOR HER By Bukola Amoboye

alentine’s Day is right around the corner, and it’s the perfect time to show some extra love and appreciation for that special woman in your life. Whether she’s your significant other, a close friend, or someone you’re just starting to get to know, finding the right gift can truly make her day memorable. To help you, we’ve put together a fabulous Valentine’s Gift Guide with ideas that go beyond the usual and speak from the heart.

Personalised Jewelry

Jewelry is a classic choice, but why not add a unique twist? Gift her a beautiful piece of jewellery with a personalized touch. Engrave it with a meaningful date, a sweet message, or even your name. Whether it’s a sleek necklace, an elegant bracelet, or chic earrings, this personal touch transforms it into a cherished keepsake.

Spa Day Extravaganza

Who doesn’t love a day of relaxation and pampering? Treat her to a luxurious spa day where she can indulge in massages, facials, and various blissful treatments. If a spa visit isn’t feasible, create a spa-like atmosphere at home with aromatic candles, lavish bath products, and a plush robe for her to lounge in.

Bouquet of Eternal Roses

Flowers are a Valentine’s staple, but take it up a notch with a bouquet of eternal roses. These preserved beauties last much longer, symbolising your enduring love. Pick her favourite colour or a vibrant mix for a stunning display that lasts.

Exquisite Perfumes

A good fragrance is always a hit. Opt for a luxury perfume brand she loves or a collection of scents, including oils, mists, and more.

Weekend Getaway Adventure

Surprise her with a weekend trip to a cosy retreat or an exciting city. Whether a beachside stay or exploring a new city, the experience will be unforgettable and a beautiful way to strengthen your bond.

For the Book Lover

If she loves to get lost in books, gift her a special edition of her favourite novel or one she’s been wanting to read. Pair it with a soft blanket and scented candles to create the perfect reading nook.

Gourmet Dining Delight

Treat her to an extraordinary dining experience at a renowned restaurant. Whether it’s her favourite cuisine or a new culinary adventure, a night of fine dining in a beautiful setting is sure to be a hit.

A Handbag

A fashionable purse or bag can be a wonderful gift. You don’t need to go over the top; look for something chic that matches her taste, or consider enlisting the help of a personal shopper to find that perfect accessory.

Skincare Heaven

Skincare is all the rage; a carefully curated skincare box can be a thoughtful gift. Look for sets that cater to her skin type and preferences, and she’ll be sure to appreciate the extra care you’ve put into choosing it.

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