THISDAY STYLE MAGAZINE 2ND JULY 2023

EGO BOYO

LIGHTS, CAMERA, EQUALITY

Society

From her captivating performances as Anne Haatrope in the beloved ‘90s soap opera “Checkmate” to her trailblazing endeavours behind the scenes, Ego Boyo has effortlessly navigated the realm of acting, producing, and advocacy, cementing her status as a true pioneer in the industry. She shares more about her progress with this, the legacy she hopes to leave behind and a little bit about family.

The Next Half.

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And just like that, it’s July and half of the year is gone. Now I don’t know if this is just me, but find myself trying not to look at my list of goals for the year because, truth be told, I haven’t near achieved even half of what I initially set out to. I tell you, it is daunting and, frankly, a little bit scary to confront this reality, but amidst the fear, a glimmer of gratitude shines through. You know, it is always so easy to become disheartened and feel the weight of unmet expectations, but I have, over time, come to learn that while self-reflecting, it is equally important to practice gratitude for the journey, the growth, the challenges, and the unforgettable moments that have shaped my life thus far. Looking back at the past six months, I have encountered quite a few obstacles and faced my own limitations. However, in the face of these challenges, have discovered a strength within me that never knew existed. It is through these moments of struggle and perseverance that we truly grow and develop as individuals. We learn to adapt, overcome, and embrace our potential. As I turn the page to the second half of the year, my heart is filled with excitement and anticipation. I am ready to chase new dreams, make more cherished memories, and wholeheartedly embrace the opportunities that lie ahead. Amid my reflections, I couldn’t help but be drawn to the social media frenzy surrounding Davido and his ‘’personal affairs’’. It got me thinking about the mental health of public figures and the way we, as a society, react to their struggles. In this age of social media, it’s all too easy to feel entitled to information about a public figure’s personal life. We consume their stories, opinions, and controversies with an insatiable hunger, forgetting that they, too, are human beings with emotions, vulnerabilities, and the need for privacy. While they may have chosen a public profession, it does not mean they deserve our constant judgment and harsh opinions. We must remember that just like us, they experience highs and lows. They face relationship challenges, heartbreak, and personal difficulties. As a society, we should approach these situations with empathy, recognising that they deserve respect and understanding during difficult times. We are all interconnected, and our words and actions have consequences, even in the digital space. Before passing judgment or airing our opinions publicly, let us take a moment to consider the impact our words may have on others, including those in the public eye. A little empathy can go a long way towards creating a more compassionate and understanding world.

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And so, as we navigate the second half of the year, let us remember to be kind to ourselves and those around us. Let us also be grateful for the lessons we’ve learned, the growth we’ve experienced, and the opportunities that await us. Here’s to chasing dreams, making memories, and supporting one another along the way.

Love,Konye

At the Burial Ceremony of Dame Dorothy Nsonma Ihedioha

Recently, the Ihedioha family, joined by friends, well-wishers, and associates, came together to celebrate the life of their beloved matriarch, Dame Dorothy Nsonma Ihedioha, mother of the immediate past governor of Imo State, Emeka Ihedioha in a series of services and ceremonies held in Abuja and Imo State.

The event, which kicked off at St James’ Anglican Church, Asokoro, Abuja, bore witness to the first Service of Songs held in her honour. The outpouring of love and respect continued flowing as the Ihedioha family gathered in Mbaise, Imo State, for the second Service of Songs at the Ihedioha’s Family Compound. The event eventually culminated with ceremonial proceedings at St. Peters Anglican Church in Mbutu-Mbaise, Imo State, at the Ihedioha Family Compound.

Dame Ihedioha died in Abuja on Thursday, April 20, 2023, at 90.

TITI ABUBAKAR FMR GOV AMINU TAMBUWAL

IGNITE YOUR SECOND HALF: 10 MUSTDO ACTIVITIES TO KICKSTART JULY

As we bid farewell to the first half of the year and embrace the onset of the next half, it’s the perfect time to reflect, recharge, and refocus our energies. To help you make the most of this transitional period, we have curated a list of ten exciting activities that will not only bring you joy but also set the stage for a successful second half. From self-reflection to adventureseeking, let’s dive into these fun and informative endeavours that will leave you well-prepared for the months ahead.

Revisit Your Goals

Take a moment to reassess the goals you set at the beginning of the year. Evaluate your progress, celebrate your achievements, and modify your targets if necessary. This exercise will rekindle your motivation and guide you in setting actionable plans for the coming months.

Declutter and Organise

Clear out the physical and mental clutter that has accumulated over the past months. Tidy up your living and working spaces, donating or discarding items you no longer need. A clutter-free environment promotes productivity and a sense of calm, providing a fresh start for the second half of the year.

Reflect and Journal

Grab a pen and paper and indulge in the therapeutic art of journaling. Reflect on your experiences and emotions from the first half of the year, acknowledging both the highs and lows. Use this opportunity to gain insight into your personal growth, set intentions, and visualise the future you desire.

Create a Bucket List

Compile a bucket list of activities you wish to experience during the upcoming months. From trips with friends to fun-packed adventures, this list will infuse your life with excitement and anticipation.

Learn Something New

Consider embarking on a new learning journey. Sign up for a class or workshop that aligns with your interests or challenges you to step outside your comfort zone. Learning not only expands your knowledge but also fosters personal development and a sense of fulfilment.

Plan a Mid-Year Getaway

Treat yourself to a well-deserved vacation. Whether it’s a weekend retreat or an extended trip, use this time to relax, recharge, and gain a fresh perspective. Exploring new destinations or revisiting old favourites can provide the inspiration and rejuvenation you need for the months ahead.

Review Your Finances

Financial health plays a crucial role in overall well-being. Assess your spending habits, create a budget, and set financial goals for the second half of the year. Seek ways to save, invest, or eliminate debt, ensuring a solid foundation for your future endeavours.

Nurture Relationships

Reach out to family and friends you haven’t connected with recently. Plan gatherings or virtual meetups to strengthen these bonds and create lasting memories. Surrounding yourself with loved ones can provide support, inspiration, and a sense of belonging as you navigate the rest of the year.

Focus on Health and Wellness

Prioritise your physical and mental well-being by adopting healthy habits. Engage in regular exercise, practice mindfulness or meditation, and nourish your body with nutritious foods. Cultivating a healthy lifestyle will boost your energy, enhance productivity, and enable you to face any challenges that lie ahead.

Set Second Half Resolutions

As you welcome July, establish specific, attainable resolutions for the remaining months. Break them down into actionable steps and create a plan to ensure their fulfilment. These resolutions will serve as a compass, guiding you through the year’s second half with purpose and determination.

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DECLUTTER AND ORGANISE

JOUNAL

CHALYA SHAGAYA

MASTERING THE ART OF EFFORTLESS STYLE:

5 WAYS TO LOOK YOUR BEST.

Looking your best is not just about following trends; it’s about embracing individuality and expressing yourself through your style. It’s really all about the little things, and by incorporating these five key strategies into your fashion repertoire, you’ll effortlessly radiate confidence and turn heads wherever you go. Remember, fashion is a form of self-expression, so let your unique style shine through, and always wear your confidence with pride.

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Balance

Proportions and Seek the Perfect Fit

Proportions and fit play a pivotal role in achieving a polished and puttogether look. Balancing voluminous pieces with fitted ones creates a flattering silhouette and prevents your outfit from overpowering your frame. Pay attention to the length and cut of garments to ensure they enhance your body’s natural lines. Remember, a well-tailored outfit, regardless of its price tag, will always make you look like a million dollars.

Create a Capsule Wardrobe

In the age of minimalism, a capsule wardrobe is a secret weapon for looking effortlessly chic. Curate a collection of essential pieces hat are versatile, timeless, and reflect your personal style. By selecting high-quality staples that can be mixed and matched, you’ll effortlessly create numerous stylish outfits for any occasion. A well-organised closet not only saves time but also ensures that you always have the perfect ensemble at your fingertips. stripes, or subtle prints. These touches add personality to your outfits and make you stand out in a sea of monotony.

Embrace the Power of Monochrome

When in doubt, opting for monochrome is a foolproof way to create an instantly polished and sophisticated look.

Dressing in shades of the same colour family, be it all black, all white, or various tones of grey, creates a harmonious and visually elongating effect. Monochrome outfits make a bold statement while emphasising your silhouette, exuding confidence and poise.

By Bukola Amoboye

Experiment with Colours

Colours have a remarkable ability to enhance our mood and express our personality. Don’t shy away from experimenting with hues that complement your complexion and bring out your best features. Whether it’s a vibrant pop of red, a soothing pastel palette, or an unexpected combination of contrasting tones, adding colour to your wardrobe injects a sense of vibrancy and energy into your overall look.

EPIC SHOWDOWNS AND HILARIOUS ESCAPADESBATTLE ON BUKA STREET IS A RIOTOUS

The mov- ie Battle on Buka Street, directed by Funke Akindele and Tobi Makinde, was first released to Nigerian Cin- emas on the 16th of December 2022 and became the highest-grossing Nollywood movie, earning a total of N668,423,056 at the box of- fice. Although it was released in 2022 and has since garnered criti- cal acclaim, this is a fresh take for those who missed it at the cinema and are seeing it for the first time since it was put up on Prime Video a week ago.

Battle on Buka Street is a beautifully executed movie that takes a fresh spin on old Nollywood themes, dramatics, story and cinematography, reminding us why we loved the old Nollywood back then. With its use of narrative storytelling and flashbacks, the movie introduces us to the history of the characters and gives us a safe landing into the present. Set in the fictitious Buka Street, we’re thrown into the world of a divisive polygamous home with two wives constantly at each other’s throats. Their intense rivalry gets handed down to their daughters and grandchildren, which leads to much more conflict than we are prepared for.

At first glance, it looks like a typical Nollywood story of rivals and conflict in a polygamous home, but as you dive deeper into the film, there are layers and layers of deep stories to uncover. The plot is well-executed and offers a perfect blend of comedy and drama. For all the melodramatic moments, we are rewarded with emotional tear-jerkers as the story progresses. We are also swamped with themes of family rivalry, revenge, injustice, japa syndrome, domestic violence, jealousy, anger, regret, love and forgiveness.

With excellent performances by all the actors from Nollywood Icons; Funke Akindele, Mercy Johnson, Nkem Owoh, Sola Sobowale, Tina Mba and Femi Jacobs to newcomers such as Uche Obunse, Moshood Fattah, Judith Ushi, Mike Afolarin, Gbemi Akinlade and Miracle Gabriel, it’s safe to say the movie evoked all the emotions it was looking to evoke in its audience.

Mix Patterns and Textures for Added Depth

Fashion is an art form, and mixing patterns and textures is the ultimate way to showcase your creativity. Pairing stripes with florals or plaids with polka dots may seem unconventional, but it creates a visually stunning ensemble when done right. Remember to balance bold patterns with subtle textures to avoid overwhelming the eye. The key is to have one dominant pattern while the others serve as complementary accents, resulting in an outfit that truly stands out.

The chemistry of all the actors in their various roles and onscreen relationships was likewise palpable. Special props to the directors, Funke Akindele and Tobi Makinde, because asides from a great execution of the plot, it takes good directors to push the actors in the right direction regarding their cumulative acting choices.

The cinematography was also very well done, and with vibrant colours where needed, the setting of Buka Street looked all too real from the moment it was introduced in the first scene. It looked like a busy street with an array of different kinds of foods being prepared by multiple food vendors. The market fight scene between Yejide (Funke Akindele) and Awele (Mercy Johnson) was also hilarious, and the choreography was well done! Costume and makeup didn’t come to play either, as they helped define each character before they even spoke.

Again, Nollywood is evolving by inculcating more and more the use of indigenous languages in our films. In Battle of Buka Street, Hausa, Igbo, Yoruba, and Pidgin are so naturally and fluently spoken, adding more colour and flavour to the movie.

Unfortunately, as with most movies with multiple layers to the plot, the ending wasn’t as appealing as the rest of the movie. Perhaps the writers/producers/directors felt they had achieved enough at this point and decided to do a quick 20-minute wrap of the ending. It was obviously rushed, and sadly, it wasn’t in the best interest of some of the character arcs they had been building from the beginning, neither was it in the interest of the audience, who by this time have become invested in the secondary stories that filled the second half of the film. Not everything is better left to the imagination of the audience, and the producers failed to see that. However, it’s not enough to dismiss the Nollywood cinematic masterpiece and wild ride that is the Battle on Buka Street. Finally, we would be making a huge mistake if we didn’t give proper nods to this movie’s music coordination and theme songs. They are somewhat subtle but add a lot of flavour to the movie.

DELIGHT!”

EZINNE CHINKATA

EKU EDEWOR

ENIOLA O AND CHRISTINE PHILLIPS

FUNKE AKINDELE

EGO BOYO Lights, Camera, Equality

From her captivating performances as Anne Haatrope in the beloved ‘90s soap opera “Checkmate” to her trailblazing endeavours behind the scenes, Ego Boyo has effortlessly navigated the realm of acting, producing, and advocacy, cementing her status as a true pioneer in the industry.

It was on the small screen that Ego first captured the hearts of millions across Nigeria. Her portrayal of the sophisticated and enigmatic Anne Haatrope resonated deeply with audiences, earning her critical acclaim and a devoted fanbase. Her grace, poise, and impeccable acting skills quickly became a household name and emblem of Nigerian television excellence. However, her journey in the entertainment industry did not stop with her on-screen success. Recognising the need for change and the lack of female representation behind the camera, she made a bold decision to step away from acting and redirect her efforts toward producing and empowering other women in the industry.

In 1996, she founded Temple Productions, a production company committed to telling compelling stories that challenge societal norms and elevate the voices of underrepresented communities. Under her leadership, the platform has become synonymous with quality content and socially conscious narratives that have captivated audiences both in Nigeria and beyond. Not stopping there, in her tireless pursuit of equity and inclusivity, she has also actively challenged the status quo and worked to dismantle the barriers that hinder women’s progress in the industry. She consistently advocates for equal representation, fair treatment, and increased opportunities for women on and off the screen.

The goal, she says, is to ‘’work towards eliminating the objectification and stereotyping of women in our content and the workplace, ensuring that women get opportunities behind the camera in whatever roles they wish.’’

In this exclusive interview with THISDAY Style, she shares more about her progress with this, the legacy she hopes to leave behind and a little bit about family.

Many people remember you from your acting days in the early 90s, particularly in your roles in Violated and Checkmate. Do you still reflect on those days?

Yes, do reflect on them. They were the essential building blocks of my career.

So how did you feel leaving your acting career behind and starting your own production company, Temple Productions? Establishing Temple Productions/Studios and creating the kind of compelling Storytelling and films that interest me make the transition worthwhile, as audiences want to see these stories because they address subjects that resonate with them. So, whether it is on screen or behind the scenes, the satisfaction comes from keeping the audience engaged.

Can you share some insights on being behind the screen as a producer rather than in front of it as an actress? imagine it felt very different.

It’s definitely a different experience. As an actor, you feel and embody the character and become what the role requires of you, but as a producer, you become the curator of the roles and what they need to portray.

How do you see the new Nollywood industry compared to the 90s when you were active as an actress?

The industry has seen improvements in production quality, with higher budgets, better technology, and improved technical skills. Nollywood films now compete in international film festivals and gain recognition globally. Distribution has also expanded, with films being released in cinemas and through online streaming platforms, reaching wider audiences across the globe. I am especially excited about where content is going and the themes we explore with our films. The diversification has been incredible.

Now as a producer, how do you help navigate the challenges and biases women face in the entertainment industry?

Fostering a work environment that promotes diversity, equity, and inclusion has always been important to me. I was among the first few women producers in the country. So I have been challenging gender stereotypes and encouraging the portrayal of women in diverse roles that goes beyond traditional gender roles in my films. The goal is to work towards eliminating the objectification and stereotyping of women in our content and the workplace, ensuring that women get opportunities behind the camera in whatever roles they wish. Mentorship, partnerships with like-minded individuals, and womenled initiatives are ways to facilitate equality and empowerment, and I am keen to pursue these. Also, being more intentional about the way and manner female roles and characters are written in our films.

Your event, “Cocktails and Conversations”, encourages women

in film and media to own their narratives. Can you tell us more about the collaboration with Latasha Ngwube, the inspiration behind this event, and its impact?

I had talked to my team about an event around Women’s Day, conversations similar to some I had had in the past called Reel Women’s Workshop. While we were planning, I happened to chat with Latasha, and she asked me to save a date. We eventually discussed and found we were talking about similar events and decided to merge events, and that’s how this current one came into being. I am convinced that there is great value in conversations to bring about a change in thinking and to make things happen. hope that this will happen with c & c.

You also recently attended the Africa Soft Power Summit in Kigali. Can you tell us what soft power is? And how your work directly or indirectly contributes to it.

Soft power refers to the ability of a country, organization, or individual to influence others and shape opinions through noncoercive means, such as culture, values, ideas, and diplomacy. It is often associated with the ability to shape the narrative, build positive perceptions, and garner support from other nations or communities. This involves leveraging cultural assets, educational exchanges, diplomacy, public diplomacy, and various forms of media and communication to foster positive relationships, enhance credibility, and exert influence on a global scale.

Temple Productions and I have consistently contributed to the creative industries through our collaborations and co-productions, and we intend to deepen our kinks with other creatives across the continent.

Our work is all about Africa, African life, African stories our unique perspective l, presenting the continent’s way of life from a genuine African perspective. We are in the business of exporting African culture, challenging stereotypes and perceptions, and showcasing Africa’s true essence.

I fully embrace the vision of the Africa Soft Power Project because it gives us more room to empower African creatives, amplify African voices, and shape a future where Africa’s cultural, creative, and intellectual contributions are fully recognized and valued on the global stage.

What do you believe are the biggest misconceptions about the entertainment industry, particularly for women?

The biggest misconception is probably that we are presumed limited to specific roles in our participation in the industry. Yet, we have seen that the largest number of film producers working successfully at this time and employing hundreds

I was among the first few women producers in the country. So I have been challenging gender stereotypes and encouraging the portrayal of women in diverse roles that goes beyond traditional gender roles in my films

of film personnel and technicians are women. We also have been and continue to be the most consistent content providers in the industry. To a smaller degree is the misconception that women in the Nigerian industry are only suitable for certain roles and positions and cannot take on more technical responsibilities. We have already proven our competence in writing, producing, and directing and with more opportunities opening up, there will be more women editors, cinematographers, sound technicians, etc.

What are your thoughts on the current state of gender equality and representation in the entertainment industry, and what changes would you like to see in the future?

Like many other industries, the Nigerian entertainment industry still faces challenges in achieving gender equality and representation. While progress has been made in recent years, there are still gaps that need to be addressed. I would like to see the gender pay gap disappear, economic empowerment for women can go a long way, so encourage dialogue around transparent pay policies. I also want financial literacy and economic opportunities to open up for more women in the industry.

The discussions around financing and access to funding still hamper many women from having the ability to fund their work.

There is also a need to take women’s safety in the entertainment industry more seriously and policies implemented by guilds to handle and deal with this issue. Sexual harassment and abuse should not be as commonplace as it is.

You’ve been married for over 30 years. How has your relationship evolved over the years?

It has evolved naturally; from lovers and friends to partners, parents, and now empty nesters, meaning we are discovering each other again and sharing common interests.

I would like to see the gender pay gap disappear, economic empowerment for women can go a long way, so I encourage dialogue around transparent pay policies

How has family life influenced your career choices and decisions throughout the years?

Once you have a family, it does shape the decisions you make around your career, especially when your children are younger. It has been a big influence on my career.

You are a mother-in-law now. How does that feel?

It feels good. I am so blessed to have a lovely daughter, another child to nurture and love.

What are your hobbies or interests outside of your work in the entertainment industry? love to read. Anything and everything. Magazines and books. love gardening as well and watching films and TV series. My interests include interior decoration, photography and music.

Lastly, what legacy do you hope to leave behind as a veteran actress, producer, and advocate for women’s rights in the entertainment industry and beyond?

Empowerment of Women: I aspire to empower women in the entertainment industry and beyond by creating platforms and opportunities for their growth and development. This includes providing mentorship, training and support to help women succeed in their careers and advocating for policies that promote gender diversity and inclusion.

Safe Work Environments: I aim to advocate for safe and inclusive work environments in the entertainment industry where harassment, discrimination, and abuse are not tolerated. will work towards implementing and enforcing policies and practices that promote safety, equality, and inclusivity.

Representation in Storytelling: strive to promote diverse and inclusive Storytelling that reflects women’s realities, experiences, and contributions to society. This includes advocating and driving narratives for more authentic and multidimensional roles for women in film, TV, and other media and challenging gender biases and stereotypes in Storytelling.

Advocacy for Women’s Rights: I will continue to be a vocal advocate for women’s rights in the entertainment industry and society at large. This includes advocating for gender equality, reproductive rights, violence against women prevention, and other important issues that affect women’s lives.

Collaborative Approach: believe in the power of collaboration and cooperation, and I hope to foster partnerships and alliances with like-minded individuals, organizations and stakeholders to collectively work towards advancing gender equality, empowerment of women, and positive change in the entertainment industry and beyond. Overall, my goal is to leave behind a legacy that contributes towards a more inclusive, diverse, and equitable entertainment industry and society, where women are empowered, respected, and valued for their talent, skills, and contributions.

PRICE OF FAME:

CELEBRITIES AND THE RIGHT TO PRIVACY THE

By Konye Chelsea Nwabogor

In today’s celebrity-obsessed culture, fame is often seen as the ultimate achievement. With millions of fans, adoring followers, and luxurious lifestyles, celebrities appear to have it all. But behind the glitz and glamour lies a harsh reality that many celebrities face—the loss of their privacy.

For celebrities like Tiwa Savage, David, and Banky W, the line between their personal and professional lives is increasingly blurred. They live under a constant microscope, with media and fans eager to capture their every move. From the moment they step out of their homes to their most private moments, nothing seems off-limits. Privacy becomes a luxury they can rarely afford. Living their day-to-day lives in the public eye, they must contend with exposed truths, fabrications, and distortions perpetuated by gossip columnists. This invasion of privacy is a constant companion, lurking in the shadows, waiting to pounce on the slightest misstep or vulnerability. In today’s social media era, where everyone has a voice and access to a global audience, the invasion of privacy has reached new heights. When a person becomes famous, their life is no longer their own. Every aspect of their existence becomes fodder for public consumption. Nothing is off-limits, from their relationships and family affairs to their fashion choices and even their most intimate moments. Gossip blogs and obsessed fans hound them relentlessly, invading their personal space and capturing candid moments without consent. “Not everyone loves Jesus Christ, so who am I to talk about people saying things about me? You can’t make everyone happy. I don’t try to waste time on people that don’t love me, so I just spend time with people that love me so I don’t disappoint them.”, says Tiwa Savage, who has had more than her fair share of scandals.

My life, your entertainment

You watch it while live it walk, they follow I talk, they holler Just here for your amusement

- My Life Your Entertainment, Lyrics by T.I.

they are not immune to the consequences of this loss of privacy which includes a range of negative emotions like anxiety, depression, and a loss of self, driving even the most resilient individuals to the brink of despair. Sometimes the loss of privacy extends beyond the individual celebrity. Their loved ones, including partners, children, and close friends, also become targets of invasive media attention. Children of famous parents, in particular, often grow up in the spotlight, their every move documented and judged. This constant exposure can impact their emotional wellbeing and development, robbing them of a normal childhood and the chance to make mistakes and learn from them in private.

Privacy is a fundamental human right enshrined in various international declarations and constitutions. However, for them, this right is often eroded by the public’s insatiable appetite for gossip, scandal-driven tabloids and gossip websites that publish sensationalised stories, often with little regard for accuracy or the impact it may have on the individuals involved. The line between public interest and invasion of privacy becomes blurred, leaving celebrities vulnerable to the incessant scrutiny of the media.

But why should we care about the privacy of celebrities? After all, they signed up for a life in the public eye, didn’t they? While it’s true that fame comes with its perks and benefits, it’s important to remember that celebrities are not commodities. They are individuals with a right to personal space and dignity. The fact that they have chosen a career in the spotlight does not negate their right to privacy. Like everyone else,

Of course, it would be naive to suggest that celebrities should be completely shielded from public scrutiny. Accountability and transparency are important in any democratic society, and public figures should be held responsible for their actions. However, there is a fine line between responsible journalism and the relentless invasion of privacy. Sensationalism and the pursuit of profit should not override the basic principles of decency and respect. We must consider the impact of our insatiable appetite for celebrity gossip as it is this demand for information that fuels the invasion of privacy, creating a vicious cycle that perpetuates the loss of personal boundaries. As long as there is a market for intrusive scandalous news, celebrities will continue to suffer the consequences. At this point, it is a collective responsibility for us all to question our own voyeuristic tendencies and recognise the human cost behind the headlines. It is also important to remember that celebrities are human beings with emotions, vulnerabilities, and a right to privacy. The argument that they willingly signed up for a life in the public eye when they chose their career is flawed. While they may have chosen fame, they did not choose to sacrifice their fundamental rights. The public’s fascination with celebrity culture should not come at the expense of an individual’s well-being and right to live a private life. Efforts have been made to protect celebrities’ privacy rights. Lawsuits have been filed against tabloids and overzealous journalists for invasion of privacy, and some countries have enacted legislation to curb the excesses of the media. However, the battle is far from won. The demand for celebrity gossip remains high, and as long as there is a market for it, the intrusion into their lives will persist.

Recently, musician turned politician Banky W was in the news for allegedly cheating on his wife Adesuwa. A rumour which he has since refuted.

From a very public and messy divorce, to a public fight with fellow singer Seyi Shay and a the release of a sex tape , Tiwa Savage has had more than her own fair share of scandals.

Details of David Adeleke’s personal affairs and baby mama dramas are constantly being circulated on social media and blogs

SURVIV RS

By Dr. Kemi DaSilva-Ibru

Dear Reader,

Welcome to the WARIF Survivor Stories Series, a monthly feature, where stories of survivors of rape and sexual violence are shared to motivate and encourage survivors to speak their truth without the fear of judgment or stigmatization and to educate the public on the sheer magnitude of this problem in our society. The Women at Risk International Foundation (WARIF) is a non-profit organization set up in response to the extremely high incidence of rape, sexual violence, and human trafficking of young girls and women in our society. WARIF is tackling this issue through a holistic approach that covers health, education, and community service initiatives.

WARIF aids survivors of rape and sexual violence through the WARIF Centre - a haven where trained professionals are present full time, 6 days a week including public holidays to offer immediate medical care, forensic medical examinations, psycho-social counseling, and welfare services which include shelter, legal aid, and vocational skills training. These services are provided FREE of charge to any survivor who walks into the Centre.

My Husband’s Best Friend Rape

Me….

I am Edeki, a 23-year-old lady, and this is my story.

I come from the South-South region of Nigerian and from a family of five with three siblings.

My mother was diagnosed with cancer, and she died after draining our family’s entire savings leaving us indebted. After my mom’s death, the second year my father enrolled me in training to learn how to make industrial shoes, met Raymond, he was the younger brother of my boss and he owned a retail store where he sells hand-made shoes, foreign shoes both ladies and male. He behaved nicely toward me, and we became fast friends. In my third year as an apprentice, he asked me to be his girlfriend and accepted. After 6 months he proposed marriage and we got engaged and began preparing for our wedding.

Raymond invited me over for his cousin’s introduction ceremony, accepted since it will afford me the opportunity to meet with other members of his extended family and I was to stay until the weekend when the traditional rites will be carried out. After we returned from the function, Omoniyi, my fiancé’s family friend came around that he was having issues with his wife, and he needed to stay over for some time until he could resolve things with his wife. My fiancé thought to ask my permission and accepted, after all, what are friends for?

We agreed that he sleeps in the second bedroom because my fiancé lived in a two-bedroom flat with his younger sister, but she was recently admitted to the university, and she only comes around during the holidays. My fiancé always leaves the house for his office by 7:00 am and he woke very early as his custom was, got

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he just saw it on the sofa. My fiancé asked him to excuse us and took me inside and as I tried to speak, words were not coming out because I had cried all day. It took my fiancé several hours to calm me down and finally, I told him everything. He was mad and he ran and gave him several slaps and I had to kneel and beg him not to take the law into his hands. He felt totally betrayed and he finally called the police and Omoniyi was arrested. At the police station, we were referred to WARIF Centre and that was indeed a lifesaver.

ready, and told me not to bother about breakfast because he was having a breakfast meeting that morning and since I was on malaria medication, I just turned around and slept off because I was still feeling drowsy from the medication.

can’t remember how long it was had slept off only to feel a weight on me and it turned out that it was Omoniyi my fiancé’s family friend had forced himself on me and was raping me. I tried to scream for help, but he used his other hand to block my mouth and he continued thrusting in and out of me until he reached climax and released sperm into my body.

Immediately after he was done, he began begging me that it was the devil’s handiwork and that he didn’t know what came over him, and he just felt the urge to have sex and when my friend bided him goodbye, he came into the room to check up on me and he couldn’t resist himself and then he pounced on me in my sleeping state.

He pleaded with me to keep it a secret between us, and I just kept crying and unable to contain my anger. I felt like hitting him with

an object in his kneeling position, but I did not want to have the blood of anyone on my hands, so just got up and walked into the bathroom, and locked myself in. felt dirty and used especially since I was a virgin and my fiancé upon discovery of my chastity had sworn not to touch me until after our wedding ceremony which is coming up in 6months time.

Omoniyi kept knocking on the door and pleading with me not to disgrace him before his friend, but I did not answer him a word and after about 2 hours he left the room. took my bath, came out and I couldn’t find my phone, then, I realized that Omoniyi had taken it. I did not bother going to him, as waited in the room for my fiancé to return.

Unfortunately, he did not return early due to several meetings he had, and I was angry and hungry and Omoniyi brought me Tea and bread when he realized I was not coming out of the bedroom. My fiancé finally came back, and he immediately knew something was wrong. He explained that he was worried that was not picking up my calls, but Omoniyi quickly said misplaced my phone and

Dear survivor, please know that you are not alone and it is not your fault. Help is available.

At WARIF, we received medical assessment, treatment, and psycho-social counselling for free and the counsellor commended me for telling my fiancé the truth promptly and explained that my fiancé would have found out in the end, or the perpetrator could have also reported to blackmailing me for sex, money and otherwise. was counselled appropriately and taught coping mechanisms for dealing with trauma, especially insomnia, anger, and loss of appetite. Omoniyi was charged to court and sentenced for crimes committed against me. It’s been over a year since the incident happened, and the counselling received has helped me to overcome anger, worry, anxiety, mood swings, insomnia, loss of concentration, and sleeplessness via my therapy sessions. Also, I was privileged to attend group counselling in WARIF which did me good than medicine. Indeed, my fiancé now my husband is an angel in human form, we got married as scheduled, his business is doing well as he has expanded to other states, and we are expecting a baby. Many thanks to the WARIF Team!

*Real name of the survivor changed for confidentiality

If you have been raped or you know someone who has, please visit us at The WARIF Centre - 6, Turton Street, off Thorburn Avenue, Sabo, Yaba or call our 24-hour confidential helpline on 08092100009.

For questions or more information please contact: info@warifng.org

Upcycled clothing has emerged as a true fashion revolution in a world where sustainability has taken centre stage. These unique garments are crafted from repurposed materials, giving new life to discarded fabrics and reducing waste. Embrace this trend and let your fashion choices positively impact the planet.

Boubou Gowns: Bohemian Glamour Unleashed

Unlock the rich Nigerian aunty in you through a wide selection of Bubu gowns. With their loose and flowing silhouette, vibrant prints, and intricate embellishments, these African-inspired dresses are a breath of fresh air in a sea of predictable fashion. Perfect for casual outings, these gowns exude confidence and individuality.

Jumpsuits: OnePiece Wonders

Versatility and comfort collide in the form of jumpsuits. These one-piece wonders have become a staple in every fashionista’s wardrobe and for a good reason. Whether you opt for a tailored, wide-legged jumpsuit or a playful, printed romper, jumpsuits effortlessly transition from day to night. Pair a denim jumpsuit with a chunky belt and sneakers for a casual daytime look. Throw on a statement blazer and some killer heels to transform it into an evening ensemble.

Metallics: Shine and Dazzle

Metallics are the way to go for those who crave a touch of extravagance. No longer reserved for special occasions, metallic garments are now a coveted choice for everyday wear. Think silver skirts, bronze bomber jackets, or gold sequined tops. Metallics add an unexpected pop to any outfit, instantly turning heads and exuding confidence. Keep the rest of your ensemble understated to let the metallic piece stand out or mix and match metallics for a truly avant-garde look.

Deconstructed

Denims: Rugged

Meets Chic

Whether it’s in the form of a trouser or a jacket, denim screams casual. However, you can step up your style game by giving traditional denim a twist. This twist could be informed by deconstructed and reconstructed pieces. For example, ripped jeans with asymmetrical hems or denim jackets with unexpected cut-outs add a touch of edginess to your look, making them perfect for casual outings.

RUTH OBIH

Joining the ranks of the MTV Staying Alive Foundation in 2017 as the marketing and partnerships manager, Anita Adesiyan, a skilled PR consultant, swiftly ascended to the position of Country Manager by 2020. In her current capacity, she is laserfocused on securing strategic partnerships to disseminate knowledge about sexual reproductive health and HIV prevention among young people. MTV Shuga, an influential television series that fearlessly tackles the intricate challenges faced by the youth, stands as a prominent platform in this pursuit. From matters of the heart to overall well-being, the show fearlessly navigates the multifaceted realities of young individuals. With the recent launch of its fifth season, featuring a diverse ensemble of both established and emerging actors, Vanessa Obioha engages Adesiyan in an insightful conversation, delving into the foundation’s innovative methods of leveraging storytelling, music, and pop culture to achieve their mission

MTV Staying Alive Foundation is big on partnership, particularly with each season of MTV Shuga. What factors are considered when making these partnerships and their overall impact on the programme?

We call our content a gold standard model, where we use storytelling to educate young people about their sexual reproductive health and provide a pathway where they can get counselling and treatment. To do that, we have to collaborate with partners whose objectives align with the objectives of MTV Shuga, such as educating young people about sexual reproductive health, mental health, gender-based violence, and gender equity. We achieve this by using MTV Shuga as an opportunity to tell stories and educate young people while using music and pop culture to entertain them and pull them in. This season, the objectives for the campaign with Unitaid, Global Innovation Fund and Paramount were centred around HIV self-testing, gender equity and gender-based violence, and COVID-19, respectively. We are working with the Nigerian government and Unitaid to raise awareness about HIV self-testing kits and connect individuals to appropriate counselling and treatment services.

Additionally, we launched the Talent Accelerator Programme (TAP) in partnership with Global Innovation Fund, empowering young women and fostering inclusivity in the creative industry in Nigeria. Through TAP and our collaboration with 1Pod Pictures, a female-led production company, we prioritise mentorship and workshops to guide aspiring female creatives towards success. At the end of the day, the percentage of female workers in the season was about 80%. Our commitment to empowering women extends both on and off the show.

With your use of music and pop culture to engage young audiences, how do you now measure and evaluate the social impacts of these initiatives?

We have a good relationship with MTV Base, a leading music and pop culture channel that young people love. We use the platform to push our content. That way, we can also connect with different talents and influencers who can use music and pop culture to reach out to young people. For this new season, we worked with Chocolate City to put together this season’s title soundtrack and young talents like Blaqbones, who relate with our audience, were also featured and, of course, an industry giant like MI. We are very intentional with our content by exploring the best ways to reach and educate our audience.

In terms of evaluations, we always commission inde-

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pendent organisations to carry out evaluations for the foundation. We usually break down these evaluation processes into three milestones: the baseline, the midline and the endline. At the baseline, we ask questions about the sexual health issues we tend to address in the show to get their initial thoughts. It could be just getting their views on family planning or gender-based violence. In the middle of the campaign, we do another evaluation where we ask for lessons learnt after the content is out there. And then, at the endline, when they have seen the content and probably reached out to seek help, we do a final round of questions where we now ask them about the campaign’s impact from the beginning so far. How has your life changed? Have you learned more things? What has the show taught you to do? Has it allowed you to stand up for yourself and seek support or counselling regarding your sexual reproductive health? What has it done for you?

So far, we have gotten very positive and impressive results working with different organisations. For example, the World Bank team that did the evaluations for seasons one and two had a randomised control trial for about 5000 people, and some of the results that they found were that people who had tested for HIV had doubled since the time we reached out and got them to see the content. Also, the rates of chlamydia infections were halved. For the other evaluation done by Tulane University for the last two seasons, we realised that more young women are more open, confident and comfortable with using different types of modern contraception. They are now open to talking to a guardian, a parent, or a loved one about their experiences, even experiences of sexual or physical violence from their partners, and seeking help. These kinds of evaluations help prove to us and the general public that our campaign is a behaviour change model for young people.

From your evaluation so far, have you noticed any significant shifts in your target audience?

Our key audience is centred around 16 to 24-year-olds. When conducting evaluations, we specifically focus on communicating with this demographic. Compared to the previous season in 2018, we have observed growth within our existing audience, allowing us to connect with a fresh wave of young people. And this is very evident in the storyline we had this season and in the calibre of the cast. Notably, there was a significant presence of young actors, including two individuals who rose to stardom after being discovered through public auditions. Their contributions have played a pivotal role in boosting our viewership.

Yes, we still have our existing audience, now older adults but still lovers of MTV Shuga. With this new season, we have successfully attracted a new cohort of audience members who are captivated by the content. They are discovering MTV Shuga for the first time and actively engaging with it.

Are there personal experiences from your encounters with these young people that tugged at your heart?

We have heard a number of heartbreaking stories from young people. And we’ve also tried to document the experiences. Aside from MTV Shuga, the TV drama, other elements form the entire campaign. From peer education, radio drama, complimentary content, documentaries, music, and partnerships. In season four, we

So far, we have gotten very positive and impressive results working with different organisations. For example, the World Bank team that did the evaluations for seasons one and two had a randomised control trial for about 5000 people, and some of the results that they found were that people who had tested for HIV had doubled since the time we reached out and got them to see the content.

had a complimentary content, a documentary called MTV Shuga Young Moms, where we followed the lives of three young ladies who were 16-year-olds and pregnant. So what we did was we followed their journeys from when they notified their families up to their birth and also provided support till they had their babies. We collaborated with Hello Lagos under the Lagos State Ministry of Health. We walked with these girls throughout the pregnancy and spoke with their families so that they understand that it’s not the end of the world and they can continue their education after childbirth. We’ve seen and heard some really sad stories, but with the support that we are able to provide for them, they end up in a good place. We are able to bring the families closer so that there aren’t a lot of judgments, and they are well-informed on how to manage situations like this.

What are your takeaways from working with young people on such sensitive topics?

I have a background in PR, so coming into MTV Staying Alive Foundation was a completely new experience because I had never worked in the nonprofit industry before. It is still an experience for me. But what it has done for me is that I’m more empathetic to the issues young people face nowadays. Sometimes you don’t have this information. It’s not easy to get access to this type of information. learn new things every day. I’m not a doctor, but I now understand topics surrounding gender-based violence, HIV and AIDS and gender equity. It is advisable to have an HIV test regularly, especially if you have multiple sex partners, and also know it is not a death sentence. I have also acquired lifelong friendships and partnerships through liaising with different departments within the government and private organisations.

When creating harmonious and captivating interiors, there is an oftenunderestimated secret weapon that can transform any space into a sanctuary of style and emotion: art. Art has the power to transform a space, evoke emotions and spark conversations. But with an overwhelming array of options available, how can one navigate the art world to select the perfect piece for their space? Keep reading to find out.

CHOOSING THE PERFECT ART FOR YOUR SPACE

Reflect on Your Space

Before diving into the vast sea of artistic expressions, take a step back and assess your space. Consider the size, lighting, colour palette, and overall ambience. A spacious room may benefit from a bold and commanding artwork, while a smaller space might call for a more delicate and intricate piece. Understanding the characteristics of your space will provide a solid foundation for your art selection process.

Define Your Style and Theme

Art is a form of personal expression, and selecting a piece that resonates with your style and theme is crucial. Ask yourself: What story do I want my space to tell? Do you lean towards abstract, minimalist, or vibrant and expressive works? Are you drawn to landscapes, portraits, or contemporary art? Define your preferences and let them guide your search.

Consider the Emotional Connection

Art has the remarkable ability to stir emotions within us. When choosing art, explore the pieces that evoke feelings and ignite your imagination. Perhaps it’s a serene landscape that transports you to a tranquil sanctuary or a thought-provoking abstract piece that ignites your curiosity. Embrace the art that resonates with you and allows you to forge a personal connection.

Research Artists and Galleries

Immerse yourself in the art world by researching various artists and galleries. Attend exhibitions, visit galleries, and explore online platforms to discover emerging

talents and established masters. Engaging with the art community will expand your knowledge and offer diverse perspectives. Don’t be afraid to reach out to artists and galleries to gain insights and ask questions about their creations.

Set a Budget

Art can range from affordable prints to high-end originals, so it’s essential to set a budget before embarking on your art quest. Fortunately, there’s art available to suit every budget, and you can find hidden gems at various price points. Remember, investing in art is not just a financial decision but also an investment in the emotions and inspiration it brings to your space.

Test It Out

Don’t underestimate the power of visualisation! Use technology to your advantage by digitally placing the art piece in your space before making a final decision. Many online platforms and apps offer augmented reality features that allow you to see how the artwork will complement your walls. This method can help you envision the overall aesthetic and ensure a harmonious integration with your existing decor.

Trust Your Instincts

At the end of the day, selecting art is a deeply personal journey. Trust your instincts and follow your heart. The art you choose should not only enhance your space but also reflect your personality and values. If a particular piece resonates with you, sparks joy, and brings a smile to your face, it’s likely the perfect fit.