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Ask Gabby Gayle Don’t give up on church

BY GAYLE LAGMAN-CRESWICK

QDear Gabby Gayle: Last month, someone wrote in, questioning whether she needed to go to church or not. She felt she was spiritual and had found the church she belonged to prior had been lled with church rules, etc. I had a similar experience with a church I joined in the past. Now I am in a good Bible-based church, where all are welcome, and they don’t have a bunch of manmade rules. My advice to her would be not to give up on churches, just nd the right one. Church really helps me to grow stronger in faith.

Signed, GB

ADear GB: Thank you for writing. Every so often this topic arises and gets lots of involvement. I will state again that I believe you can be a good person without going to church. I also believe that what you do with what you learn in church is the most important thing. Do you leave the church parking lot yelling at some little old person who cut in front of you? Do you cheat others? Do you help the less fortunate? Got the picture? Just going to church doesn’t ll the bill. You have to live it!

Signed, GG

QDear Gabby Gayle: I belong to a dating site. I am 55 years old and a widow. I would like to nd someone my age to have a serious relationship with. However, I nd that every man my age is looking for a woman 20 years younger than they are! What is wrong with these men? Do they really want to raise kids again? Or have more babies? Have you found this to be true also, or is it just me? I am ready to give up.

Signed, BR

ADear BR: I have had an opposite experience. I hear from men 20 years younger than I. They claim to like older women, which I do not believe. My rule is I will go as much as ve years younger, and older depends on what shape they are in. My divorced son is on a dating site, and he tends to want younger women, too. I was 10 years younger than my rst husband, and when he remarried, he married an even younger woman! I think these men think marrying younger will keep them feeling young or some equally silly thing! I would love to hear from men as to why they want younger women! Keep looking, BR. Remember, you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you nd your prince!

Signed, GG

QDear Gabby Gayle: I have been friends with this person for 20 years. I will still remain friends with her, but she is so tiring! I need to vent. I hear from her three or four times a week. She tells me every little chore she has done. She made the bed, she cleaned out a drawer, she cleaned the oor, had her co ee, and then she says goodbye. She has never once asked me how I am or what I am doing. Sometimes I just want to shout, “Don’t you ever wonder about me? What do you do with a friend like that?

Signed, Fed Up

ADear Fed Up: I am surprised that you are still friends! Evidently, you are the bright spot in her week. It appears that she leads a pretty boring life if all she has to share is the mundane daily chores. I might be inclined to say one day before she says goodbye, “My friend, aren’t you a little curious about what I have been up to or how I am feeling?” She is probably totally unaware that she is self-centered!

I would like to commend you for being such a loyal friend. Usually in a friendship, both derive some pleasure. No one would blame you if you moved on from her. Life is short! Thanks for writing.

Signed, GG

Con dentially to AG: Yes, Ask the Old Bag column in Colorado is the same column as Ask Gabby Gayle in Arizona. Colorado prefers the Old Bag. Smile!