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1 Dried meat snacks 9 Whitewater craft 15 Son of Abraham 20 Got emotional 21 Greek island named for a storied flier 22 Rousey who was the first American woman to win an Olympic judo medal 23 *Discerning 24 *Building manager 26 “Little Red Book” writer 27 Author Tolstoy 29 Land between hills 30 Mensa prereq 31 Big __: Red Sox nickname 34 Truckers’ loads 36 Call, old-style 37 *Performer’s period on the job 43 “A Hymn to __”:

“My Fair Lady” song 46 Not attentive 47 Bauxite, to aluminum 48 Conquer a hero? 50 Chaplin accessory 51 Decked out 52 Victoria’s Secret purchase 53 *Electricity 57 Is down with 58 Smelting by-product 60 Corp. alternatives 61 Unwitting test taker 62 Longtime U.K. record label 63 Greek fabulist 65 Bilbao bear 66 Locks in a barn 67 *Apportion 72 Point after deuce 73 Sticking point? 74 Jefferson

Memorial column type 75 Catch a few winks 78 Handles clumsily 81 Give up 82 “__ la France!” 83 “The History of the Standard Oil

Company” author

Tarbell 84 *Follow 86 Neighbor of Ill. 87 Obstacles to good teamwork 88 Picnic crashers 89 Play it by __ 90 Many Ph.D. students 91 Reminder 93 Make out 94 *Work a side hustle 99 __ old age 103 Poppycock 104 Votes in favor 105 Rod user 107 Teeny, tiny bit 108 Kind of PC port 110 Place for a mask 113 *Infatuated with, with “on” 116 Place for Amtrak passengers to unwind ... and a hint to how to interpret eight puzzle answers 120 Fiji neighbor 121 Tenant 122 Paragon of prestige 123 Mork’s leader 124 Hider’s revelation 125 Fish with the largest brain

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1 Originate (from) 2 Mother of Castor 3 “Aladdin” parrot 4 GI chow 5 Yom Kippur observer 6 Despot Amin 7 Fabric from Iraq 8 Graf __: WWII ship 9 Opposite of trans 10 Contact lens giant 11 Morning smell in “Apocalypse

Now” 12 Vague threat 13 Emerald Isle 14 Egg container 15 Baghdad native 16 In a way, informally 17 Thin 77-Down 18 Fruity thirstquenchers 19 Horse preceder, when things are amiss? 25 Laid low 28 “Gone With the

Wind” family name 31 Blotchy 32 Team’s #1 pitcher 33 Get-up-and-go 35 Sit in casks, say 37 Secret supply 38 Faith with

Sunni and Shia branches 39 Pickle brand with a stork mascot 40 Medusa, for one 41 Neighbors of the

Knicks 42 Latvian chess champ Mikhail __ 44 Atahualpa subject 45 Track competition 49 Mideast port on the

Mediterranean 50 Like chicken-fried steak 52 Washroom fixture 53 Police record 54 “Frozen” sister 55 Cause for a romaine recall 56 Muppet who plays lead guitar in the Electric

Mayhem 58 Flip-flop 59 The Beatles’ last studio album 64 Rosie of “Do the

Right Thing” 66 Tiny Oreos 68 Place of refuge 69 Manet’s

“Olympia,” e.g. 70 Anti-war 71 “The Imitation

Game” encryption machine 76 Rescue from a shelter 77 17-Down, e.g. 78 K-12 fundraising gps. 79 “Rule, Britannia” composer

Thomas 80 Pool party arsenal 81 Italian “dear” 85 Run for it 86 Sought-after

Japanese beef 87 Ages and ages 90 Dressy accessory 91 “Gangnam Style” rapper 92 Sushi topping 95 “Pick me! Pick me!” 96 A jiffy 97 Repair shop offer 98 __ rasa: blank slate 100 Volunteer’s offer 101 Type of pie popular in

Southern cuisine 102 Mess up 105 In the matter of 106 American-born

Jordanian queen 107 Airs now 109 Area meas. about the size of a pinkie toenail 110 Part of the navel is one 111 Guinea pig lookalike 112 Affectedly cultured 114 New England sch. 115 Future Ph.D.’s test 117 McKellen who played Gandalf 118 February Va. hours 119 Flight safety org.

SORRY, WRONG NUM-NUM

I love my boyfriend. We’ve been together two years. Recently, however, we’ve been experiencing conflict over the issue of children. He wants kids; I don’t. I’ve always felt strongly about this, and he said he was fine with this when we started dating. But he’s been bringing up the subject of kids a lot lately (I suspect because he’s thinking about popping the question). The discussions have grown fraught -- to the point where he was in tears at the end of an argument. I eventually said I could be open to kids because I love him and don’t want to lose him. But can this be healthy for us long-term? — Conflicted

Though many things in life come with the opportunity to push the “back” button, once you have a kid, you have a kid. You can’t just drop ‘em off at the fire station if they turn out to be precociously criminal – already hot-wiring cars at age seven.

Deciding whether to have kids is a very recent state of affairs, coinciding with the development and availability of reliable birth control (starting in the late 1950s with the Lippes Loop IUD). For most of human history, unless a woman spent her fertile years all alone on one of those New Yorker cartoon desert islands, there was a good chance she’d have not just a child but the beginnings of a litter. There’s a widespread (and mistaken!) assumption that a woman who gives birth will immediately and unconditionally bond with her baby, explains anthropologist and primatologist Sarah Hrdy. Probably because of this, many people seem to believe the only thing stopping any woman from wanting a child is having yet to bring one into existence. In fact, neither humans nor other mammals “automatically nurture each baby born,” Hrdy observes. Clinical psychologist Idun Roseth and her colleagues, reviewing research on mother-infant bonding issues, report: “Most mothers find that feelings of affection come within a week from birth. However, some mothers are still struggling with this after many months. ... A small percentage may even have hostile feelings towards their infant.” In other words, the public has an overly rosy, sentimental – and scientifically incorrect – view of what’s often referred to as the “maternal instinct.” There is no such thing – and the term “instinct” is the problem. The actual scientific definition of an instinct is an innate behavior (“factory-installed” – present at birth rather than learned afterward) that members of a species perform automatically. An example is a baby’s crying – alerting everybody in earshot, “YO! I HAVE UNMET NEEDS!” (Nobody has to send their baby to crying school. It automatically wails its little head off when it’s wet, scared, cold, or wants a sip o’ nippy.) In contrast with automatic instinctual behavior, there’s behavior that’s learned as well as behavior that is only sometimes triggered in some members of a species. Accordingly, the misnamed “maternal instinct” would be better termed a maternal impulse or motivation. The impulse to nurture one’s infant is just one motivation that may arise in a woman. Hrdy has long emphasized that ambivalence and even rejection of an infant are other impulses a new mother may feel. (Unfortunately, the myth of instantly falling in love with one’s infant is so pervasive and strong that women who don’t experience this tend to feel there’s something wrong with them.) In reality, “maternal commitment” tends to emerge “piecemeal,” Hrdy explains, and is “chronically sensitive to external cues.” By “external cues,” she means a woman’s current context – such as whether she’s unable to adequately feed and protect her infant. War, famine, postpartum depression or even a new partner who doesn’t want another man’s child are contexts that may even trigger infanticide: a horrifying maternal impulse but a maternal impulse just the same. Thankfully, this impulse is relatively rare in our society, and many women (and men!) report “falling in love” with a child they never planned to have. Maybe...possibly...you’d become one of those “in-love” women and be wildly happy you’d had children. However, in your email, you repeatedly made it clear that you don’t want kids. You are only considering it because you love this man and don’t want to lose him – which is quite different from wanting children. You might ask friends who are parents to an infant and other young kids to let you spend a long weekend with them. Admittedly, this isn’t the same as parenting your own kids, but it might give you a sense of whether you’re actually up for the job – or whether you’re like me. Personally, though I have great respect for devoted, loving parents, if I were in charge of a thing that screams like it’s being eaten alive by a zombie, it would take about 20 minutes before there was grain alcohol in my coffee – and in someone’s sippy cup.

■ CALIFORNIA AREA RESIDENTS CASH IN: Pictured above are protected Priority Packages containing the unsearched Vault Bags that everyone will be trying to get. It’s hard to tell how much these unsearched bags loaded with rarely seen Gov’t issued coins could be worth someday. That’s because each Vault Bag is known to contain nearly 3 pounds of Gov’t issued coins some dating back to the 1800’s including all those shown in today’s publication. In addition, after each bag is loaded with over 200 rarely seen coins, each verified to meet a minimum collector grade of very good or above, the dates and mint marks are never searched to determine collector values. So you better believe at just $980 these unsearched Vault Bags are a real steal.

Rarely seen United States coins up for grabs in California -zip codes determine who gets them

Unsearched Vault Bags loaded with rarely seen U.S. Gov’t issued coins some dating back to the 1800’s and worth up to 50 times their face value are actually being handed over to residents who find their zip code below and beat the 48 hour order deadline

CA RESIDENTS: IF YOU FIND YOUR ZIP CODE BELOW. CALL: 1-800-869-3164 UV31427

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“The vaults at Federated Mint are going empty,” said Laura A. Lynne, U.S. Coin and Currency Director for Federated Mint. That’s because a decision by Federated Mint to release rarely seen U.S. Gov’t issued coins, some worth up to 50 times their face value, means unsearched Vault Bags loaded with U. S. Gov’t issued coins dating back to the 1800’s are now being handed over to U.S. residents who find their zip code listed in today’s publication. “But don’t thank the Government. As U.S. Coin and Currency Director for Federated Mint, I get paid to inform and educate the general public regarding U.S. coins. Ever since the decision by Federated Mint to release rarely seen U.S. Gov’t issued coins to the general public — I’m being asked how much are the unsearched Vault Bags worth? The answer is, there’s no way to tell. Coin values always fluctuate and there are never any guarantees, but we do know this. Each unsearched bag weighs nearly 3 pounds and is known to contain rarely seen Morgan Silver Dollars and these coins alone could be worth $40 - $325 in collector value each according to The Official Red Book, a Guide Book of United States Coins. So there’s no telling what you’ll find until you search through all the coins. But you better believe at just $980 these unsearched Vault Bags are a steal, “said Lynne. “These are not ordinary coins you find in your pocket change. These are rarely seen silver, scarce, collectible and noncirculating U.S. coins dating back to the 1800’s so we won’t be surprised if thousands of U.S. residents claim as many

Silver Morgan Dollar 1878-1921

Silver Liberty Head Silver Liberty Head 1892-1915

Silver Walking Liberty Silver Walking Liberty 1916-1947

Silver Peace Dollar 1921-1935 ■ UNSEARCHED: Pictured above are the unsearched Vault Bags being handed over to California residents who call the National Toll-Free Hotline before the 48-hour deadline ends. And here’s the best part. Each Vault Bag is loaded with over 200 U.S. Gov’t issued coins, including all the coins pictured in today’s publication, some dating back to the 1800’s and worth up to 50 times their face value. Each coin is verified to meet a minimum collector grade of very good or above before the bags are securely sealed and the dates and mint marks are never searched by Federated Mint to determine collector value. If you find your zip code listed, call 1-800-869-3164 EXT.UV31427 immediately.

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as they can get their hands on. That’s because after the bags were loaded with nearly 3 pounds of U.S. Gov’t issued coins, each verified to meet a minimum collector grade quality of very good or above, the dates and mint marks were never searched to determine collector values and the bags were securely sealed. That means there’s no telling what you’ll find until you search all the coins,” said Lynne.

The only thing U.S. residents who find their zip code printed in today’s publication need to do is call the National TollFree Hotline before the 48-hour deadline ends. This is very important. After the Vault Bags were loaded with over 200 of U.S. Gov’t issued coins, each verified to meet a minimum collector grade quality of very good or above, the dates and mint marks were never searched to determine collector values. The Vault Bag fee has been set for $1,500 for residents who miss the 48hour deadline, but for those U.S. residents who beat the 48hour deadline the Vault Bag fee is just $980 as long as they call the National Toll-Free Hotline before the deadline ends.

“Remember this, we cannot stop collectors from buying up all the unsearched bags of coins they can get in this special advertising announcement. And you better believe with each bag being loaded with nearly 3 pounds of U.S. Gov’t issued coins we’re guessing they’re going to go quick,” said Lynne. The phone lines will be ringing off the hook beginning at precisely 8:30 a.m. this morning. That’s because each unsearched Vault Bag is loaded with the rarely seen coins pictured left and highly sought after collector coins dating clear back to the 1800’s including iconic Morgan Silver Dollars, a historic Peace Silver Dollar, stunning Silver Walking Liberty Half Dollars, the collectible Silver Eisenhower Dollars, spectacular Silver Liberty Head Half and Quarter Dollars, rarely seen Silver Franklin Half Dollars, high demand President Kennedy Silver Half Dollars, beautiful Silver Standing Liberty Quarter Dollars, American Bicentennial Quarters, rare Liberty V Nickels, one cent Historic Wheat Coins including 1943 “Steel Cents”, one of the beautiful Winged Liberty Head Dimes, scarce Indian Head one cent U.S. coins and the last ever minted Buffalo Nickels.

“With all these collectible U.S. Gov’t Issued coins up for grabs we’re going to do our best to answer all the calls,” said Lynne.

Thousands of U.S. residents stand to miss the deadline to claim the U.S. Gov’t issued coins. That means U.S. residents who find their zip code listed in today’s publication can claim the unsearched bags of money for themselves and keep all the U.S. Gov’t issued coins found inside.

If you find your zip code listed, call 1-800-869-3164 EXT. UV31427 immediately. Just be sure to call before the deadline ends 48 hours from today’s publication date. ■

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