ADVICE GODDESS
by amy alkon ies!” The play would’ve become a hate story for the ages — after things between them inevitably got kinda meh and Juliet walked in on Romeo in bed with her BFF and her lady-in-waiting.
Tales From The Decrypted
Disappear Pressure
I recently met this guy, and we’ve spent the entire past week together. Unfortunately, he’s moving across the country — tomorrow. He asked whether I’d be open to dating after he moved. I panicked and said no — I’m really not looking for long-distance — but now that he’s leaving, I’m sad, and I’m worried I’ve made a mistake. Help! — Confused Obstacles to love are like situational steroids. We long for what’s out of reach — and all the more romantic if reaching it takes crossing the desert on a camel or $553 with a layover in Boise. The perception that something is in short supply or soon will be (say, because it’s about to move across the country) makes it seem more valuable to us. Psychologist Robert Cialdini calls this the “scarcity principle” and explains that the possibility we could lose access to something (or someone) jacks us into a motivational state: Go! Chase it! Don’t let it get away! The scarcity principle is the psychological scheming behind ads like: “Today only!” and “Only one sofa at this price!” The looming scarcity (or “scarcity”) shuts down your Department of Reasoning, basically turning you into a dog chasing a couch-shaped squirrel. Only after you buy the thing and get it home (P.S. “no returns!”) do you notice an important fact: It will fit perfectly in your living room...if you take a sledgehammer to part of a wall and — “surprise!” — extend one end into your neighbor’s apartment. Recognizing how scarcity primes us to see through loss-prevention-colored glasses, do your best to set aside “Eek! He’s leaving!” and objectively assess what you two have. In short, is he (and how you are together) so extraordinary — so near-impossible to find locally — that the thousands of dollars in travel costs and other trade-offs of long-distance might be worth it? If so, just tell him you’d like to try long-distance and see how it goes. Should you decide your feelings were more about the circumstances than the guy, well, you’re not alone. Impossible love brings out the drama queeny 14-year-old in many of us. Imagine if Romeo and Juliet’s parents, instead of forbidding their love, were all, “Hey, you crazy kids…have fun at the mov-
I really appreciate my boyfriend, except for one thing: his constantly posting photos and videos that include me on his Facebook or Instagram. I’m a pretty private person, and I told him I don’t like having my life and our life together posted online. He grudgingly agreed to stop posting things about me, but he thinks I’m being unreasonable and “paranoid.” — Discreet “Online privacy” is a quaint fiction. The reality: Any info about you, from your sexts to your Social Security number, is probably stealable by any basement nosepicker with an IQ over 125. That said, it’s understandable you’d try to retain whatever shreds of yours you can — like by engaging in the “impression management” sociologist Erving Goffman observed we all do face to face: tailoring the “self” we present and revealing more or fewer “regions” of ourselves, depending on the particular audience. There’s probably no person these days who can’t be “canceled” — out of a job, any ability to keep earning a living, and/or their social world — by some photo, video, or quote from them that’s cast in a bad light by an internet mob. Take the San Diego Gas & Electric worker photographed driving with his hand hanging out of his truck window in what was claimed on social media to be a “white supremacy” hand signal. (The OK sign is said to make the initials W.P. for “White Power.”) The man — who is Mexican American! — insisted he was doing nothing of the sort, but the utility fired him anyway. “To lose your dream job for playing with your fingers, that’s a hard pill to swallow,” he told NBC 7 San Diego. Your boyfriend might never agree with your approach to online privacy. However, he might understand it — and gain a deeper understanding into who you are — if you evoke his empathy. Instead of simply telling him you “don’t like” to appear in social media posts, go into detail about your fears and discomfort at allowing an unselect audience a window into your life. It’s awful enough when we violate our own privacy — like by accidentally sexting Grandma and then rushing over in hopes of deleting it before she remembers where she left her phone. There’s really no hope of privacy crime scene cleanup when your audience is “everyone on the planet but three Namibian guys whose goats keep chewing through their cable.” (c)2021, Amy Alkon, all rights reserved. Got a problem? Write Amy Alkon, 171 Pier Ave, #280, Santa Monica, CA 90405, or e-mail AdviceAmy@ aol.com. @amyalkon on Twitter. Weekly podcast: blogtalkradio.com/amyalkon Order Amy Alkon’s new book, “Unf*ckology: A Field Guide to Living with Guts and Confidence,” (St. Martin’s Griffin, 2018). September 2, 2021 —
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NOTICE OF PUBLIC SALE To satisfy the owner's storage lien, PS Orange Co. Inc. will sell at public lien sale on September 17, 2021, the personal property in the belowlisted units, which may include but OF arePUBLIC not limited to: NOTICE SALE household and personal To satisfy owner's storContact Ann Turrietta | 805-648-2244 aturrietta@timespublications.com | Deadline is Monday, 11 a.m. forthe Thursday publication items, office otherCo. equipage lien, PS and Orange Inc. ment. public of will sell The at public lien sale sale on these items will begin at September 17, 2021, the per10:00 property AM and continue until sonal in the belowall units are which sold. The NOTICE OF PUBLIC SALE listed units, may lien insale isbut to be the onTo satisfy the owner's storage liclude areheld not at limited to: Lien Sales en, PS Orange Co. 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The lien sale is to Simi Valley, CA 93063, (805) tion to the highest bidder for www.storagetreasures.com, be held at the online auction web285-7018 enforcement of storage lien. site, www.storagetreasures.com, where indicated. For online liSale to bebids heldwill at www.storwhere indicated. For online lien en sales, be accepagetreasures.com. sales, bids will be accepted until 2 AIRPORT SELF STORAGE ted until 2 hours after the hours after the time of the sale B001 Pringle, Nicholas; 3551 W. 5TH ST. time of the sale specified. specified. C189 - Thrailkill, OXNARD, CA 93030 PUBLIC STORAGEJennifer; # 20627, PUBLIC STORAGE # 23411, 740 D059 Lynn; D159 (805) 985-3315 4568 -EHope, Los Angeles Ave,Arcturus Ave, Oxnard, CA 93033, Newborn, (805) 248-7083 Simi Valley,Terrence CA 93063, (805) PUBLIC STORAGE # 24322, Sale to be held at www.storAuction will be held online on 285-7018 2167 toFirst Street, Simi Valagetreasures.com. storagetreasures.com Sale be held at www.storC015 - Cuatra-Cuatra, Oliverio; ley, CA 93065, (805) 285September 10th, 2021 at agetreasures.com. F321 - Marcus, Eric; F380 - Perez, 7073 - Pringle, Nicholas; 9AM. B001 Mary Lou; F428 - salinas, mariam; Sale to- be held at www.storC189 Thrailkill, Jennifer; F443 - Brogan, Kathleen; F445 agetreasures.com. B039 Dominic A. Gonzales Fletcher, Willie; F448 - Busby, D059 - Hope, Lynn; D159 C039 Rodrigues, Danielle Tool Box, Totes, Boxes Newborn, Terrence Dory; E036 - Scutti, Cary;# F031 PUBLIC STORAGE # 23050, H156 Robert Carrier Tools, PUBLIC STORAGE 24322,4400 McGrath St, Ventura, CA Obcamp, James Recreational Equipment 2167 First Street, Simi Val93003, (805) 324-6011 PUBLIC # 26607, L300 David Terry Musical ley, CA STORAGE 93065, (805) 285Sale to be held at www.stor120 West Easy Street, Simi Instruments, Boxes 7073 agetreasures.com. Valley, 285L493 Rick Cohen Spa Tub, B068 - Varela, Patricia; B321 Sale to CA be 93065, held at (805) www.stor7067 Ricketts, Tyler; G094 - Thomaier, Surfboard agetreasures.com. Sale to be held at www.storChristopher; L024 - Shortz, April L517 Marco Maldonado Car C039 - Rodrigues, Dory; PUBLIC STORAGE # 26812, agetreasures.com. Parts E036 - Scutti, Cary; F031 6435 Ventura Blvd, Ventura, CA 157 - Haynes, L520 Juan Anaya Mattress, Obcamp, JamesChris; 201 93003, (805) 329-5384 Schimmel, Michelle; 213 Boxes, Clothes PUBLIC STORAGE # 26607, Sale to be held at www.storGale, Victoria; 269 - ConM712 David Stuart Fans agetreasures.com. 120 West Easy Street, Simi stante, Beverly C123 - Jauregui, Norma; C152 M838 Cassandra Willis Fan, Valley, CA 93065, (805) 285PUBLIC STORAGE # 25753, Callahan, Elisa; C154 - Sylvia, Selfie Lamp 7067 Duchess; C252 - Richards, Kellie; 875 to W be Los Angeles Ave, Sale held at www.storC290 - Fisher, Tanisha; D002 Moorpark, CA 93021, (805) Airport Self Storage reserves agetreasures.com. Fishwick, Victoria; D087 - Beas298-1384 the right to refuse any bid. All 157 - Haynes, Chris; 201 ley, Kevin; D176 - Blunt, Ron; Sale to be held at www.storsales are subject to prior canD181 - Lugo, Melissa; D189 Schimmel, Michelle; 213 agetreasures.com. Fields, Jazmin; D208 Estrada, cellation. Terms, rules and Gale, Victoria; 269 - Con015 - Virgen, Brenda; 1027 Veronica; D215 - Moreno, David; regulations are available at stante, Beverly D300 - Vasquez, Robert; D317 Villa, Tanika; 127 - #Chattersale. PUBLIC STORAGE 25753, Tovar, Veronica ton, Steve 875 W Los Angeles Ave, PUBLIC STORAGE # 24110, Public sale terms, rules, and PUBLISHED: Ventura Moorpark, CA 93021, (805) 5515 Walker Street, Ventura, CA regulations will be made County Reporter 09/2/21, 93003, (805) 312-9304 298-1384 available sale. All Sale to be held at www.stor09/09/21 Sale to beprior heldtoatthe www.storsales are subject to cancellaagetreasures.com. agetreasures.com. D324 - Greco, Glen; E418 tion. -We reserve the right ONE FACILITY – 015 Virgen, Brenda; 1027toGasca, Gabriela; E466 - MORrefuse any bid. MULTIPLE UNITS Villa, Tanika; 127 -Payment ChatterAGA, CORRINA must be in cash or credit ton, Steve PUBLIC STORAGE # 25779, 161 card-nosale checks. Buyers Extra Space Storage will hold E Ventura Blvd, Oxnard, CA Public terms, rules,must and secure the units their a public auction to sell per93036, (805) 456-6430 regulations will with be made own personal locks. To claim sonal property described beSale to be held at www.storavailable prior to the sale. All agetreasures.com. tax-exempt status, original low belonging to those indisales are subject to cancellaB673 - Catalan, Mario; B675 RESALE certificates each viduals listed below at the tion. We reserve thefor right to Gaines, Al; R274 - Wimberly, Iya space purchased is required. location indicated: 375 S. refuse any bid. Payment PUBLIC STORAGE # 29277, By PS Orangeco, Inc., 701 Laurel St. Ventura, CA 93001 2451 Townsgate Rd, Westlake Vilmust be in cash or credit Western Avenue, Glendale, September 21st 2021 at lage, CA 91361, (818) 616-7399 card-no checks. Buyers must CA 91201. 10:30 AM Sale to be held at www.storsecure the (818) units 244-8080. with their agetreasures.com. Bond No. own personal locks. To claim A36 - Singer, Samantha; H06 9/2, 9/9/21 status, original Crystal D' Angelo-unit aptax-exempt PLUMMER, WILLIAM CNS-3505462# pears to contain RESALE certificates for each PUBLIC STORAGE # 24529, boxes,totes,furniture,bags, 30921 Agoura Rd, Westlake Vilspace purchased is required. etc. lage, CA 91361, (818) 332-3029 By PS Orangeco, Inc., 701 Dustin Allen-unit appears to Sale to be held at www.storWestern Avenue, Glendale, agetreasures.com. have boxes,personal CA 91201. (818) 244-8080. 2046 - Harris, Robert items,art decor,bags,totes, Bond No. PUBLIC STORAGE # 20154, clothing, etc. 9/2, 9/9/21 23811 Ventura Blvd, Calabasas, Frances Lopez-unit appears CA 91302, (818) 226-2864 CNS-3505462# to contain clothing,suit Sale to be held at www.storNOTICE OF cases,totes, boxes, etc. agetreasures.com. PUBLIC AUCTION F092 - Griffin, Verna; F116 - Knox, Sherrie Urner-Unit appears to Extra Space Storage will hold a Michael; G107 - goff, thomas; contain boxes,crates,furpublic auction to sell personal G207 - Davis, Douglas; G321 niture,home decor,etc. property described below belongSilva, Destiny Romero Norma Angulo-Unit appears ing to those individuals listed bePublic sale terms, rules, and reguto contain boxes,totes,china low at the location indicated: lations will be made available pricabinet,home decor, etc. or to the sale. All sales are sub3101 Grande Vista Dr, Newbury ject to cancellation. We reserve Gianna Cagliano-unit apPark CA 91320 September 21st, the right to refuse any bid. Paypears to contain boxes old 2021 at 1:30 PM ment must be in cash or credit electronics, home decore, card-no checks. Buyers must seetc. Cindy Flores - Household item cure the units with their own per-
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The auction will be listed and advertised on www.storagetreasures.com. Purchases must be made with cash only and paid at the above referenced facility in order to complete the transaction. Extra Space Storage may refuse any bid and may rescind any purchase up until the winning bidder takes possession of the personal property. PUBLISHED: Ventura County Reporter 09/02/21, 09/09/21
sonal locks. To claim tax-exempt status, original RESALE certificates for each space purchased is required. By PS Orangeco, Inc., 701 Western Avenue, Glendale, CA 91201. (818) 244-8080. Bond No. ALL SALES ARE SUBJECT TO PRIOR CANCELLATION. TERMS, rules and regulations available at sale. Dated this 26th of August & 2nd of September 2021 by PS Orangeco, Inc., 701 Western Ave., Glendale, CA 91201, (818) 244-8080, Bond No. 6052683. 8/26, 9/2/21 CNS-3503975#
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The auction will be listed and advertised on www.storagetreasures.com. Purchases must be made with cash only and paid at the above referenced facility in order to complete the transaction. Extra Space Storage may refuse any bid and may rescind any purchase up until the winning bidder takes possession of the personal property. PUBLISHED: Ventura County Reporter 09/2/21, 09/9/21
NOTICE OF PUBLIC SALE NOTICE OF To satisfy the owner's storPUBLIC AUCTION age lien, PS Orange Co. Inc. Extra Space Storage will hold will sell at public lien sale on a public auction to sell perSeptember 17, 2021, the personal property described besonal property in the belowlow belonging to those indiSeptember 2, 2021 listed units, which may inviduals listed—below — at 23 the clude but are not limited to: location indicated: 3700 Marhousehold and personal ket St. Ventura, CA 93003 items, office and other equipSeptember 14, 2021 at 11:30 ment. The public sale of AM. these items will begin at Cristina Nowling-Furniture, 10:00 AM and continue until tools, toys, totes, appliances, all units are sold. The lien mattress sale is to be held at the onJames Brown-Totes, fishing line auction website, gear, coolers, tools, file cab8/31/21 3:35 PM www.storagetreasures.com, inet, sports equipment
