Looking for Uncle Daniel BY HANNAH ONOGUWE
Uncle Daniel never came to my mother's funeral.
however, my fiancé and I have to find Uncle Daniel
She died in 1994, long before the mobile phone made
first.
its appearance in Nigeria, so word took longer to
My maternal grandfather, a proper Edo man, had
travel. We had to wait ten days to bury her, as I had
married more than one wife and my grandmother
to make my way down from Jos, where I was in
was the first. My mother and Uncle Daniel were the
boarding school. You would think, after being absent
only children she had. But I don't have any
at his sister's funeral, he would make an effort to
grandparents left, maternally or paternally. That loss
come and see his niece later. But no.
aside, today I'm wondering who's left on my
Over the years, I imagined different scenarios of
maternal side and can provide information. The
our eventual meeting. There is a particular favourite:
purpose of this trip is to find a contact address, so I
like a celebrity I would appear, hair blowing in the
can locate Uncle Daniel who, the last I heard, lived in
breeze, glamorous, loaded, with my successful
Benin. He worked with Guinness once, ages ago.
husband beside me, with or without a couple of
Since then, I don't think he's held down a steady job.
beautiful kids. I would be gracious and polite as I
He and his family apparently move pretty often.
give answers as to what has been happening to me over the years, even though deep inside I questioned
his right to ask. There will be no accusations, but somehow Uncle Daniel will get the underlying
Today I'm dressed in jeans, a T-shirt and flat shoes,
message: See, I made it without you! I turned out just
almost identical to what my fiancé is wearing.
fine, despite your inattention. But my reality is quite
Glancing over, I meet his eye and summon a small
different from my fantasy: I am not loaded, not quite
smile. He returns it without a word; I sense some
married, no kids but I still want that message to
reassurance in it. The conversation has dried up, as
bevery clear. Before this scenario can play out,
if in deference to the weightier matters on my heart
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