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t’s been said that change is one of the few constants in life. For 25-year-old Krystina Finn, affecting change for a group of women thousands of miles away means life itself. Finn and Lindsey Casagrande started the Kipsongo Project in 2012 with the mission to transform the Kipsongo slum into a viable, self-sustainable village where all residents have access to the tools they need to obtain and maintain a fair level of social and economic well-being. “I went to Kenya in 2012 through Village Volunteers with the purpose of helping with the construction of homes,” Finn said. The young woman from Pewaukee is currently in graduate school at the University of Colorado Denver, studying architecture as she hopes to design sustainable architecture in developing countries. “When we arrived, we were taken on a tour of

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the slum of Kipsongo.” Finn met Casagrande while in East Africa. Casagrande is a graduate of the University of Manchester, UK, where she received her master’s degree in International Economic Development. Throughout her studies and work in East Africa, she has focused on educating and empowering impoverished women and children to help them become healthy and more productive members of society. The Kipsongo neighborhood of Kitale is one of the worst slums in Kenya, Finn said, with houses constructed of plastic bags tied together and stretched over sticks to form huts. As many as 15 people share and sleep on mud floors in these 8-foot-by-8-foot structures. “The women have children as the men move on leaving them to survive on their own.” Most children are malnourished, many so severely that physical and/or mental effects are visible. School enrollment rates and literacy rates are

abysmally low, and adequate healthcare and economic opportunity is severely lacking. The Kipsongo slum arose out of drought and violence in the 1970s when refugees from the northern Kenya region of Turkana were forced to flee their homes and ended up in displaced people’s camps just outside the town of Kitale. The camp later was abruptly closed and, with nowhere to go, no resources and little or no education, residents had no choice but to stay in the camp, which eventually became the slum that it is today. Finn’s experience changed her mission of constructing homes to constructing better lives for the women of Kipsongo. “There were co-ops where women made jewelry, but the men had the control and took a large cut of the sales,” she said. “We wanted to make a place where women were in control.” After three months, Finn returned home to Pewaukee to establish the

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nonprofit organization: The Kipsongo Project. “We want to empower women to build a healthier community.” The organization partners with New Yorkbased designers as the women in Kipsongo create clothing, jewelry and home goods lines that are sourced and manufactured in Kipsongo and distributed globally. The project gives evidence to the talent and creativity of Kipsongo women by allowing them to blend traditional East African fabrics and materials with modern, high-end fashion and design to create a unique and beautiful line of products. “Currently, we have 30 women who participate and others who have come into the project, gain independence and now have other jobs or start their own businesses,” Finn said. One hundred percent of the proceeds from the sale of the products goes directly to a variety of development projects. “The Kipsongo Project takes a bottom-up approach toward community development projects,” Finn said. “All of the funds raised through sales are put directly into projects that are chosen by the Kipsongo community itself. We work with community leaders and hold community-wide meetings to identify where priorities are and put an emphasis on those areas.” The project has ambitious goals. Its aim is to transform Kipsongo slum into Kipsongo Village, to be self-sus-

tainable and free of aid dependence. This village will include a primary school, health clinic, modern Kenyan housing, shops, services and agriculture, livestock and poultry projects. “We aim to ensure that education and proper nutrition and healthcare are available to all the children of Kipsongo,” Finn said. “We believe that every child, regardless of the circumstances they’re born into, should have access to these basic necessities.” Very few Kipsongo children attend primary school and even fewer complete it. There are many factors contributing to the low school enrollment rate, but one of the biggest is that children don’t attend school because they spend their days searching for edible food, often in dumpsters in nearby Kitale. Therefore, expanding the existing nutrition program is one of The Kipsongo Project’s highest priorities, Finn said. “We have started a 3 meals a day program - before school, lunch, and after school meal program for children,” Finn said. “And we have enrolled a number of women in seamstress school and jewelry workshops to learn new skills and design techniques.” With the need for basic health care, the project’s future plans include a clinic that will be staffed by a nurse and a pharmacist to offer basic preventive and curative services, along with

family planning and HIV counseling, testing and treatment. To that end, the project has begun distributing water filters and bed netting as preventative measures against waterborne diseases such as typhoid, and against mosquito-borne diseases such as malaria. It’s a part of the human condition to persevere every day into the unknown. Life can change unexpectedly. This is something Finn knows all too well. For Finn, her life changed in November of 2012 when doctors found a large mass within her lower spinal column. Surgery followed, which revealed a large malignant tumor later diagnosed as a rare form of cancer called Atypical Teratoid Rhabdoid Tumor (ATRT). She is currently undertaking an experimental drug. Once a climber of Mt. Kilimanjaro, traveler of the world, athlete, and hiker of the Appalachian Trail, Finn continues on. “I wear braces and crutches to help me get around. I’m home now for treatment, but hope to return to school.” Finn has not been given a prognosis, but she remains undaunted by the unknown. “It’s good to keep busy with school and focus my efforts on The Kipsongo Project.” l

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LIVING WELL | Sue Ann Says

Oral Health

Your

Provides Clues to Your Overall Health

ue to fluctuating hormonal changes in your life, you may need to monitor your oral health more closely than a man would. Menstruation, pregnancy, and menopause can all have significant impacts on your teeth and mouth. In turn, researchers are studying the effect of poor oral hygiene on other critical diseases such as heart disease, stroke, and diabetes. My focus this month is on several oral health complications that could occur during your lifetime and how you can take precautions to avert them.

Menstruation and Oral Health

Menstruation can cause an oral health problem called menstruation gingivitis. Its symptoms include red and swollen gums a few days before your menstrual cycle happens. You may have bleeding gums that stop bleeding as soon as your period begins. Oral contraceptives can aggravate the mouth as the pills can promote inflammation in the gums.

Pregnancy and Oral Health

Maintaining oral health during your pregnancy is essential to your health and your babyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s. Pregnant women with periodontal disease have a higher risk of having pre-term births. The baby could be born before the 37th week of pregnancy and may have a weight under five pounds. Periodontal disease is an infection to your gums that damages your soft tissues and can destroy the bone that supports your teeth. Gingivitis, one type of periodontal disease, will cause swelling and bleeding to your gums. Periodontitis occurs when plaque grows under the gum line. Your gums may separate from your teeth and leave open areas that be6 | WISCONSIN WOMAN December 2014

come infected. As the disease progresses, bones will be destroyed leaving you with loose teeth. Another oral health problem associated with pregnancy is acid erosion due to vomiting during times of morning sickness. Due to the acidity of the vomit, the enamel on the back of your teeth may be damaged.

Menopause and Oral Health

As you move into the years of menopause, several oral health problems can arise. I want to disclose the facts to you about these problems. Menopausal gingivitis, burning mouth sensation and dry mouth can all be uncomfortable for you. u Burning mouth sensation (BMS) can cause pain and burning of the tongue, lips, and palate. If you have dentures or other dental support, these areas are painful, too. u Dryness of the mouth, another common problem, is due to decreased salivary excretions. Women with dry mouth have an increased rate of root canals (tooth decay), taste issues and periodontal disease. u Menopausal gingivostomatitis could cause you to have bad breath, dry or bleeding gums, a swollen mouth, infection in the gums and lesions that look like canker sores. u You know that osteoporosis due to a decrease in estrogen causes you to have fragile bones that can easily break. Osteoporosis can damage the alveolar bone (jaw bone) which anchors your teeth in place. With a damaged alveolar bone, tooth loss is common. Without a strong alveolar bone, your dentures may not fit correctly causing pain.

Oral Health Will Affect Your Overall Health

Various diseases of the body may be linked to poor oral health in women. Bacteria in your mouth can travel to your heart and infect the inner lining, causing endocarditis. Bacterial infections increase the risk of inflammation which might cause cardiovascular disease and stroke. The Harvard Health Letter explains: In people with periodontitis (erosion of tissue and bone that support the teeth), chewing and tooth brushing release bacteria into the bloodstream. Several species of bacteria that cause periodontitis have been found in the atherosclerotic plaque in arteries in the heart and elsewhere. This plaque can lead to heart attacks. (http:// www.health.harvard.edu/press_releases/heart-disease-oralhealth) Women with gum disease will have a more challenging time controlling their blood sugar if they are diabetic. The American Diabetes Association reported: People with diabetes are at an increased risk for serious gum disease because they are generally more susceptible to bacterial infection, and have a decreased ability to fight bacteria that invade the gums. http://www.diabetes.org/living-with-diabetes/treatment-and-care/oral-health-andhygiene/diabetes-and-oral-health.htm)

Various diseases of the body may be linked to poor oral health in women. Let’s Improve Your Oral Hygiene

You can take preventative steps in order to keep your mouth and body healthy. Using the steps listed below, you will not only fight cavities and bad breath but your body will be healthier. u Brush at least 2x a day. u Floss at least once a day. u Get check-ups regularly (every 6 months). u Avoid sugary foods, sodas and energy drinks. u Eat a balanced diet and stay hydrated. u Eat foods or take supplements with vitamin D & calcium. u Choose to have elective treatments only done in the 2nd and 3rd trimesters of pregnancy due to any type of drugs administered for pain or treatment. u Don’t smoke. u Have your doctor screen you for osteoporosis. u Replace your toothbrush every 3 to 4 months. Replace it after being sick so that you are not re-infecting your gums with germs. u Ask your doctor if you have any risks that would require you to be pre-medicated for certain dental procedures such as prosthetic heart valves, certain murmurs or prosthetic joints. Contact your dentist as soon as an oral health problem arises. Remember, taking care of your oral health is an investment in your overall health. l

Because it all begins with a healthy woman…

Sue Ann Thompson is founder and president of the Wisconsin Women’s Health Foundation (WWHF), a statewide non-profit organization whose mission is to help Wisconsin women and their families reach their healthiest potential. WWHF provides programs and conducts forums that focus on education, prevention, and early detection; connects individuals to health resources; produces and distributes the most up-to-date health education and resource materials; and, awards grants and scholarships to women health researchers and related community non-profits. To learn more, visit wwhf.org or call 1-800-448-5148.

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HOW TO CHOOSE A

Primary Care Physician

rying to find a primary care physician that is right for you can be a daunting task. The relationship you have with your physician is no different than any other important relationship in your life – it’s built on trust and communication. The reality is, changes to the medical system in recent years have made it more difficult to stay with the same physician. This is unfortunate, since a good doctor-patient relationship is critical to getting good medical care. So how do you find the right doctor for you? Let me share with you a few important things to keep in mind:

A IS FOR APPLE Don’t just choose the first doctor on the list that your insurance provides you. Dr. A may be good, but ask around with your friends and neighbors to see if they have had any good or bad experiences. In the world of endless advertising, nothing beats word of mouth and getting the opinions of those you trust the most.

DON’T JUDGE A BOOK BY ITS COVER Visit the clinic you are considering, but don’t choose based on carpet and wallpaper alone…they may just have a good interior decorator! Pay attention to the reception area and the staff. Are they pleasant with other patients? Do people seem to move quickly and efficiently through the check-in process? A pleasant office makes for a calm experience and that will be good for you in the long run.

THE PROOF IS IN THE PUDDING Ultimately, you will need to make a decision and choose a physician. Make an appointment to meet your new physician and let him or her get to know you before you have a medical emergency – many CSM doctors offer free, 15-minute “meet and greet” appointments. It’s like speed dating for a doctor. When you meet, pay attention to communication. Do you seem to understand each other? Do you feel comfortable talking or do you feel rushed and get the sense that the doctor is strained for time? Do you understand what your doctor is saying or did you just spend 15 minutes with a person speaking a foreign language? Remember: communication is vital to getting the best medical care. My final word of advice is to vote with your feet. If you currently have a physician but don’t feel like you are getting good care, be vocal about it and be willing to change. On the other hand, if you like your doctor and feel like you’re receiving good care, let your doctor (and the staff) know with a kind word, note or even a shiny red apple – and, of course, tell your friends and family. l Information provided by Columbia St. Mary’s Health System 414-332-DOCS.

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Every Woman Deserves 3D Mammography. When a revolutionary technology is discovered, we believe everyone should have access to it. That’s why Columbia St. Mary’s is the only hospital in the area offering 3D Mammography for every mammogram. It’s 41% more effective in the detection of invasive breast cancers, and detection at its earliest stages is when it’s most treatable. It’s a new dimension of care for women. And something women of every generation deserve. To make an appointment, call 414-326-1800, or visit columbia-stmarys.org.

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VARICOSE VEINS: not just a cosmetic issue Did you know about one-half of the United States’ population suffers from either spider or varicose veins? VARICOSE VEINS

Basically, varicose veins are the swollen, dark blue or purple blood vessels that can be seen and felt beneath the skin, usually on the calves, inside the legs and ankles. They often look like twisted cords and are caused by dysfunctional valves so the blood doesn’t travel through the veins properly resulting in blood pooling in the veins causing the veins to look thick and firm. And while many people think of varicose veins as just a cosmetic issue, Dr. Mike Phillips, a board-certified general and vascular surgeon at Lumiere Vein and Laser Center with 22 years of experience, says that if you have varicose veins, don’t delay getting them treated. “Varicose veins are often associated with other complications such as swelling, fatigue, itching, cramps and pain,” says Dr. Phillips. “In some cases, more significant problems can develop if varicose veins are left untreated, including venous skin ulcers, which develop on the skin after the blood vessels in the leg and the surrounding tissue break down leaving a visible ulcer on the skin.” In the past, the only treatment for varicose veins was vein-stripping surgery, which caused multiple scars on the legs. Today, a vein specialist, like Dr. Phillips, uses endovenous laser therapy, EVLT, in an office setting. The whole

procedure usually takes about a half hour. EVLT is both easy and effective. And according to Dr. Phillips, “These treatments are virtually painless and patients can return to near normal activity the same day or the following day.”

SPIDER VEINS

There is a difference between spider veins and varicose veins. While varicose veins are large and puffy veins, spider veins tend to be flat and typically are squiggly, dark lines that look like legs of a spider. In the past, spider veins were treated by injecting them with a caustic substance that could cause pain and was evasive. Today, laser treatments are available. During the treatment, light energy is pulsed onto the veins, which causes the vein to shrink and disappear. This non-invasive treatment usually takes place in an office setting in less than 20 minutes.

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member of the Family Caregiver Support Network Advisory Committee once said that as a caregiver ‘people always ask how your mother or father, husband or wife is but rarely ask how you are doing. So, how are you doing? You are the I in caregiver and only you can answer that question. Caregiving, even for the most independent individual, can be and most often is lonely. It is lonely at times even when we have help because it is such

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an individual thing. Let’s take the two sisters both willing to assist mom with her groceries. One believes in getting her out and into the store as “an outing” while the other cannot handle the amount of time it takes to read the new product labels so she prefers to shop for her mother. Sound familiar? Lonely is not a bad thing as long as the feeling of being alone does not create the stress associated with feeling isolated.

Caregiving brings change into our lives. Change brings on stress and impacts our lives in ways we may not even realize. The type of stress we live with depends on whether we have selected a role as victim, survivor or navigator. Which role do you think you are? Navigator is where you need to strive to be most often. A critical thing to understand about “caregiver stress” is that it is not for sissies. (Wow? A double whammy of ‘i’s.) Stress cannot be taken lightly if we want to remain healthy, and our body actually responds in predictable ways: l All of our senses are heightened. l Our hearing can be more acute and our eyes can dart from side to side. l Our blood pressure and pulse increase and our heart can race. l We breathe more quickly, but with more shallow breaths. l Constant stress lowers our immune system. l Our thyroid speeds up and we can feel jittery. l Because we are jittery we can lose weight or because we do not take time to prepare meals, we gain weight from eating out more and/or not exercising. l We do not produce as many sex hormones so our sex drive decreases. l We put out more insulin and no longer metabolize sugar well so we have an increased tendency towards diabetes. l Our cholesterol increases, which can lead to an increased chances of stroke and heart disease. We need to listen to what our bodies are saying to us. The following suggestions will go a long way to help maintain physical, emotional and spiritual well-being. Exercise is the easiest and most beneficial thing we can do to help our bodies. A regular exercise routine of even 20 minutes a day helps us feel better physically and mentally. It allows us to be alone with our thoughts and we can concentrate on our bodies so we stay well. We get busy as caregivers and we may not take the time to think about our nutrition, what we are putting into our own bodies, even though we watch very carefully what our loved ones eat.We may eat out more, eat more fast food or snack more. We may be upset, lose our appetite and eat less. We feel tired and need energy so we eat more sugar and caffeine. We often forget that it is as easy to cut up an apple as it is to dig into the ice cream, and that a glass of water will go a long way toward keeping us hydrated. In addition, it is important to consume enough vitamins, especially from fruits and vegetables. Taking care of our mental health lets us blow off steam. There is no road map to caregiving; at times it is constant change. Most caregivers say that only other caregivers get it. So how do we hold our emotions in check? How and to whom do we express our anxieties and still feel safe? Who will listen? For some caregivers the answer is to join a caregiver support group. For others it is seeing a therapist. (Our office has lists of both.) We once asked a large group of caregivers at a conference what helps them through their days. 85 percent said their “faith.” Most believe they do not walk their journey alone and without spirituality they would not make it through most days. Prayer can be a form of meditation. It causes mental relaxation. People also find their strength through worship, song and fellowship. Prayer and

meditation help to counteract many of the negative symptoms of stress. Lastly, reclaim you life to include “caregiver” but not to be only a caregiver. You are the daughter or son, wife or husband who is now also a caregiver. Write down all the roles that you now have and remember you should have no more than seven, including that of caregiver. Once you have done that, can you …Take a class? Plant a garden? Walk your dog? Go fishing? Get a job? …and somehow remember there is no ‘i’ in stress….only in ‘caregiver’. l Interfaith Older Adult Programs Caregiver Support - 414.220.8600 – www.living-options.org www.interfaithmilw.org www.caregiversupportnetwork.org

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new facility or being admitted to a hospital for an elective procedure. There are many risk factors for delirium, but far and away the most common is dementia, caused by strokes, Parkinson’s disease and most commonly Alzheimer’s. Delirium is more frequent in those with sensory deficits such as hearing loss or blindness, immobilization because of catheterization and frequently by the use of restraints. For reasons that are ill understood, delirium is more common in males and those with chronic renal or liver disease. The greater the number of chronic medical conditions, the greater the risk of delirium. Dehydration is frequently present in patients with delirium and is the most common underlying cause of an acute state of confusion in the elderly. Compared to young people, older persons have a markedly reduced thirst drive. When they become ill, water loss is increased. Frequently the fluid loss is not replaced, and this in turn leads to increasing confusion and continuing worsening of symptoms. When hospitalized, patients with delirium frequently become more agitated, pull out intravenous lines and may remove urinary catheters kept in place by an expanded balloon. This leads to injury and even worse, agitation. Often, patients are restrained and prescribed psychotropic medications that may cause some but insufficient improvement. The combination of restraints to prevent injury and medications to reduce agitation frequently cause more harm than good. Hospital stays are increased, complications are high, and death is frequent. There is much that can be done to prevent and manage delirium in ways that minimize complications. The impor-

The earlier a diagnosis is made and the medical condition appropriately treated, the better. Admission to hospital must be avoided as much as possible. Sadly, many families wait too long after symptoms develop to consult their doctor. tance of assuring adequate fluid intake is critical if an older individual develops an illness or shows signs of confusion. The earlier a diagnosis is made and the medical condition appropriately treated, the better. Admission to a hospital must be avoided as much as possible. Sadly, many families wait too long after symptoms develop to consult their doctor. Even over the phone, the physician can often help identify and treat the problem. Hospitals are now more aware of the problems of delirium in sick older individuals. New guidelines have been developed to minimize the risk of confusion both before and after surgery. Appropriate anesthesia can do much as well. And today many hospitals have specialized delirium units. These often have four beds and are monitored continuously by one or more nurses. The goal is to avoid the use of restraints, assure hands-on nursing care to reduce risks of removing tubes and minimizing drugs that can aggravate the problem. Wherever possible, family members are encouraged to spend as much time as possible at the bedside. A familiar face and voice can do much to help disorientation and reduce agitation.

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Often patients remain confused throughout any hospital stay. For this reason, the patient is better off at home, provided the family has the resources to assure recovery. These days, the push to shorten hospital stays paradoxically leads to discharge too early that in turn increases complications and results in multiple readmissions to hospital. The solution to confusion in sick older patients is to assure a team of health care providers who participate in care prior to and during an illness. Providing appropriate care after hospitalization can do much to improve chances of recovery and assure a better quality of life. l Dr. David Lipschitz is the director of the Dr. David Health and Wellness Center in Little Rock. To find out more about Dr. David Lipschitz and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit www.creators.com.

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LIVING OPTIONS

FOR OLDER ADULTS Housing and Care Options to Think About When Relocation is Being Considered BY INTERFAITH OLDER ADULT PROGRAMS

ERVICES AT HOME offer the option to get needed

support and remain in a current living arrangement as long as it is safe and healthy. There are programs and services, public and private, designed to assist adults with disabilities and older adults. These services can range from meal delivery, home cleaning and transportation, assistance with medications, safety checks and bathing. There are also home physician and nursing services

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that may be covered by Medicare and Medicaid. Volunteer community services may help with shopping, drive older adults to medical appointments, do friendly home visits and make a daily phone call. ADULT DAY CENTERS provide the older adult and some adults with disabilities with supervision in daily activities, socialization for those feeling isolated at home, a break for the family caregivers (helps to relieve stress) and provide support and nursing care for individuals with special needs. Adult day services may be an option so two older adults can stay in their home, allowing a spouse, for example, to have her/his days free while the other is at the day center. Also, an adult child can more easily take an older adult parent into his/her home and the parent may go a day center while the adult child works. The older adult can participate in social activities and may receive personal care such as a bath. Most local centers are state licensed.

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INDEPENDENT SENIOR LIVING UNITS are designed with the independent older adult in mind. They may be apartments for rent or one of the growing numbers of townhomes and condominiums available for purchase. The services and amenities may be provided by the facility and/or brought in from the community. Residents may age in place until needing more assisted or skilled care. Based on income, some financial subsidy may be available. The age requirements vary. 18 | WISCONSIN WOMAN December 2014

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FEDERALLY SUBSIDIZED APARTMENTS (HUD) offer affordable rents to qualified lower income older adults and mobility impaired persons. In most communities, residents pay approximately 30% of an adjusted (after medical bills) income for rent. “Senior Citizen” apartments require residents to be a minimum age 62. “Nearly elderly” are for minimum age 50. Persons with a mobility impairment including sight and hearing may be younger.

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RETIREMENT COMMUNITIES AND CONTINUING CARE RETIREMENT COMMUNITIES (CCRC) Independent living retirement communities provide housing with a variety of styles, amenities and services. Some address the needs of independent mature lifestyles while others look beyond this time to when more cares and services could be needed. Some retirement communities offer a contract that guarantees long-term, multiple levels of living options with care, ranging from independent apartments/units and assisted/supportive forms of living to skilled nursing care. Needs are met in a familiar setting as one grows older. Some offer a “Life Care Contract” which means that more extensive care will be provided as needed. There is a significant difference between what various retirement and continuing care communities offer. Some contracts do not allow residents to bring in care providers from outside the community. It is extremely important to read and understand every detail of the contracts before signing for anything. Many have miscellaneous fees related to transportation, parking, food, recreation, care and activities. Almost all area CCRCs require entrance fees to offset costs and allow for lower monthly fees. They may be refundable in full or in part, or amortized over a specified period of years. Some may offer a higher monthly fee in place of an entrance fee. This option may or may not guarantee a continuum of care. Research and compare. CCRCs are regulated and monitored by the Office of the Commissioner of Insurance in Wisconsin.

RESIDENTIAL CARE APARTMENT COMPLEX (RCACs or “Assisted Living Apartments”) provide a private apartment with access to social activities and up to four hours per day or 28 hrs. per week of skilled and or supportive care. RCACs are not for those who are incompetent or who have an Alzheimer’s type of dementia. RCACs are registered with the state and only those that are ‘certified’ to receive funding for individuals in assistance programs like Family Care are inspected annually or have complaint investigations.

COMMUNITY BASED RESIDENTIAL FACILITIES (CBRF) are state licensed (6 license levels) and provide supervision and supportive services to HOUSING CONT. ON PAGE 20

BY: DOUG MAYBERRY

: We only have a 16-year-old granddaughter and love her very much. However, we are becoming concerned about her relationship with her parents. We spoil her, which is causing her to come to us instead of her parents for decisions. At home, she is obstinate, uncooperative and comes running to us for what she considers her freedom. What are we to do?

: Remember teenagers? It is time to lessen your influence. Tell her how much both you and her parents love her, but that she needs to look to her parents for advice and dealing with her peers and parents is the way life is. At her age, she takes the easy way out and needs time to understand what parents are for. Remind her that her parents brought her into this world and are her major caretakers. Tell her someday she will probably have her own children and become responsible for them and their well-being. This process takes time, but teaches children that parents are human and do make mistakes while raising their families. Explain to her that her parents are providing room and board, along with an education and clothing. Your backing off from making decisions for her will be helpful. Assure her that in growing up, all of us have experienced making decisions. Sometimes the path we choose is the wrong one, but the best way to learn is to actually experience life. Discuss your granddaughter’s issue with her parents. Agree on an approach that will create a more positive attitude for her unhappiness at home. Your granddaughter may be feeling her parents’ expectations are too high. There are cases in which children become angry because of abandonment, abuse or medical reasons, and they find life difficult. Hopefully, over time, she will mature and get the message how much they love her and the time and energy they put into her life in order to make her happy. l December 2014 WISCONSIN WOMAN | 19

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people unable to live independently but do not require nursing home services. Individuals may receive up to three hours of skilled nursing services per week. Most group homes specialize in a type of care like advanced age, Alzheimer’s, or physical disabilities and offer the opportunity to socialize.

ADULT FAMILY HOMES are state licensed and provide a home like atmosphere for 1 to 4 adults 18 years or older that because of age, mental or physical disability cannot live alone. Residents may receive care and treatment that may include up to 7 hours per week of nursing care per resident.

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the needs of persons convalescing from illness or surgery, or to provide long-term care which is not appropriate for a hospital or otherwise available. Skilled care facilities are licensed by the state and follow federal and state guidelines.

HOSPICE CARE is not a place but a philosophical approach to care provided when a person has an illness that is terminal with a prognosis of less than 6 months to live (may be renewable). Hospice care, provided by a team, may take place within a skilled care facility (nursing home), residential hospice, hospital or through care at home. l Interfaith Older Adult Programs Caregiver Support - 414.220.8600 – www.living-options.org www.interfaithmilw.org www.caregiversupportnetwork.org

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hat to give your grandchildren for the holiday season is an annual dilemma. Once you get past the popular holiday toys (think "Frozen" anything!) or clothes (not very exciting), there are some real opportunities to make your gift a rewarding money experience for the young people in your life. So here's my annual holiday gift list for kids, with some terrific old favorites and some new, high-tech apps that are guaranteed to give both enjoyment and money lessons.

THE MONEY-SAVVY PIGGY BANK ( WWW.MSGEN.COM, $18.99) This four-chambered, see-through plastic piggy bank is designed to teach even very young children that they should set aside money for different reasons: saving, spending, donating and investing. They are empowered to make decisions about where their allowance or gift money should go. The bank also comes in a chambered soccer ball, football or cow. And for an additional $2.95 there's a family activity and coloring book to help teach the lessons.

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SHAREBUILDER.COM If you're wondering about how to give shares of stock to get a child started early on an investing career, ShareBuilder (now a unit of CapitalOne) is the place to open an account. There is no minimum to invest, and you can open a custodial account in the child's name. In the meantime, your child or grandchild can track his or her "portfolio" of as little as one share of most listed companies.

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t’s never too early to plan your holiday wardrobe. Waiting until the last minute adds stress in the Season Of Stress. Know Your Closet! Maybe you need to buy something new…maybe you don’t? We don’t wear our “special occasion” pieces that often, so we can forget what we have. Every Girl Needs Sequins And Lace! It’s not overkill to own sequin pants and/or skirt; sequin tank; and a sequin jacket . No, you are not wearing them all at once but, combining a sequin (or lace) piece with something from your “everyday closet” (jeans, black pants, sweater, or a simple black pencil skirt) expands your wardrobe exponentially! Does your holiday wardrobe include a comfortable ensemble for cooking and entertaining? That’s where your favorite black pants, sequin tank, and a pretty pair of earrings come in. Oh, and don’t forget the ballet flats or evening slippers. Comfortable shoes are a must for the hostess.

There’s that classic line from Steel Magnolias: “The only difference between us and the animals is our ability to accessorize.” A pair of chandelier earrings, evening clutch, and a great pair of heels transform your work ensemble into Party Pretty. If you decide you need something new for your holiday social calendar, make sure it has a life BEYOND the holidays. Think ahead to the rest of the year, and how you will “re-purpose” your new acquisition. I have a rule to only buy something if I can think of 3 ways (and/or places) to wear it. l HAPPY HOLIDAYS. PEACE ON EARTH. Yours in fashion, Faye Wetzel Founder/Owner Faye’s in Mequon and Brookfield www.fayes123.com BE LOYAL. SHOP LOCAL. December 2014 WISCONSIN WOMAN | 29

CAREERS | Building Stronger Women

A Leadership Class Won’t Make You a Leader

n addition to the age-old question: “Are leaders born or made?” comes a relatively new inquiry. How much training is necessary for someone to become a leader?” Interesting question. It got me thinking about the many years I have been privileged to work with leaders and emerging leaders, teaching workshops, speaking at conferences and seminars and holding innumerable private oneon-one coaching conversations. Training and leadership effectiveness do not go hand-inhand. In fact, I’ll go so far as to say you don’t need any leadership training, not one class, in order to be a leader. Consider tribal leaders across the globe who have never set foot in any organized training, yet lead their communities with confidence and strength. Or individuals within organizations who are not recognized as leaders yet guide their colleagues toward innovation or efficiency. Or kids in grade school who lead academic or sports teams without any formal leadership training. Conversely, consider the people who are seminar junkies, steeped in the language and theory of leadership, but who are unable to apply the knowledge to everyday situations. HERE IS WHAT I HAVE COME TO BELIEVE ABOUT LEADERS.

1. They see things others don’t. Whether it is opportunity, a different route forward, or the quirks of others, leaders pay attention. 2. They care about others. While they are typically excited about their work, leaders know that without followers, they are irrelevant. 3. They enjoy being proficient. Leaders take pride in the things they do well and strive to improve. Work done well brings satisfaction.

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4. They appreciate feedback and coaching. Truly. The people who isolate themselves at the top with positional power are not leaders. 5. They love intelligent argument. Leaders know others have different experiences and knowledge and they are curious to learn from others—the more experienced, the better. 6. They are willing to risk discomfort or embarrassment to grow. 7. They learn by doing, not ruminating. 8. They do not fixate on specific outcomes. Leaders appreciate that the vision they have is subject to adaptation as they continue to learn and the world continues to evolve. This gives them a flexibility that is purposeful, not weak. 9. They do not need to have the first or last word. They know there will be time to express their views; they are keen to hear the viewpoints of others. 10. They are patient. Leaders know progress does not come quickly, nor does it necessarily follow a flawlessly upward or outward trajectory. Leadership training can provide tips and techniques for working with others. It can offer reminders regarding the necessity of patience, inclusion, vision, and courage. It can force practice of key concepts, giving emerging leaders a stronger possibility of success. But without a mindset of service, dedication to learning, and determination and purposeful effort to gain wisdom, experience, knowledge and strength, leadership training will inevitably be a waste of time and perhaps a source of frustration or irritation. It is easy to predict which participants in leadership development classes will have the most success afterwards. They engage wholeheartedly in the work, understanding that the more proficient they become in class, the better they will apply their learning back on the job. They welcome correction as they practice, knowing that as good as they already are, they have room to grow. This desire for growth fuels them, while helping them accept that bad days sometimes follow good days. If you want to be a leader, first strengthen yourself. Learn to see what needs to be done. Assess the resources available. Practice speaking truthfully and respectfully, no matter how uncomfortable it might be. Listen keenly to others. Manage your emotions. Keep a perspective that is bigger than your role. Finally, recognize that the people you seek to lead have ideas, aspirations and knowledge of their own. Helping them understand how best to contribute their expertise to the mission at hand is one of a leader’s greatest tasks and finest gifts. A leadership class won’t make you a leader. What you do with the knowledge you gain, may. l •••• Susan Marshall is an author and speaker whose book, “How to Grow a Backbone: 10 Strategies for Gaining Power and Influence at Work,” has been translated into multiple languages and is especially popular in Asia. Her work is dedicated to building strong leaders who create successful organizations, transform school systems, and develop leaders at all levels. You can reach her at (262) 567-5983 or susan@backboneinstitute.com

BBB Offers Tips for Safe Online Shopping

More than Half of Consumers Intend to Shop on the Internet during the Holiday Season

onsumers can benefit from some of the lessons learned from retail data breaches over the past 12 months. If computers from large corporations can be accessed by cyber criminals, so can computers from smaller businesses. The repeated theft of consumer data from sellers proves that tighter security needs to be implemented to restore consumer trust in the way their data is handled. One of the take-home messages from the data breaches is that using a credit card provides the most protection for consumers in the event of fraud. Unfortunately, if a debit card number is used, all transactions draw money directly and almost immediately from a checking or savings account, even though debit cards may bear a credit card company logo. The National Retail Federation (NRF) reports consumer confidence in the economy is gradually improving, and the data breaches that have occurred does not appear to have put a damper on internet commerce. The NRF forecasts a 16 percent increase in overall consumer spending on gifts, decorations and food for the holidays, and that more than half of them - about 56 percent - intend to go online for at least some of their purchases for holiday shopping. BBB OFFERS THESE TIPS FOR SAFE ONLINE SHOPPING: Take fees into account - There can be substantial price differences for the same merchandise from one website to another. Before completing a transaction, also take into account shipping and handling fees, which may boost the total cost beyond what other sellers are offering. Choose online sellers carefully – Online classified-type ads sometimes offer low prices for some goods. However, there is no protection for transactions between two individuals. Research websites at bbb.org - This can help avoid many product and delivery problems. If you are buying from an online auction site, verify the seller’s ratings to gauge other consumers’ satisfaction. Use a safe payment method - Scammers set up phony sites at this time of year. Avoid sellers who only accept payment by wire transfer or pre-loaded cards. Use either a credit card or established online payment systems to pay for your items. Watch out for knockoffs - The internet is replete with the selling of high-end brands. The price of new items tends to be similar from one vendor to another. If a seller posts a stock image of the item, ask for photos of the item itself, and visit the manufacturer’s website to determine that the merchandise is genuine. Counterfeit goods tend to have different stitching, materials and labels on and inside the knockoffs.

Look for the “S” - This cannot be emphasized enough. Before entering your credit card number, make sure your browser address window says “HTTPS” and displays a padlock graphic, which ensures the site is taking the necessary precautions to protect your private information. Terms and conditions - Nobody likes reading the fine print but you should know whether your information will be shared with a third party, how it will be used and what sort of information they use. There also should be an opportunity to opt out for information sharing. Carefully read the information on how returns and exchanges are handled. Go right to the source - Don’t click through to links on sites from emails or social media posts. These can lead to lookalike sites that phish for personal information or download malicious software. It is best to navigate to a large retailer by entering the address yourself into your browser. The BBB Serving Wisconsin wishes everyone a safe and happy holiday season. For more consumer tips you can trust go to bbb.org. l Facebook “f ” Logo

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FINANCE | with Carrie Schwab-Pomerantz

SOCIAL SECURITY AND DIVORCE: Can You Collect Benefits on Your Ex’s Earnings Record? BY CARRIE SCHWAB-POMERANTZ

DEAR CARRIE: I am divorced and have heard that I might be entitled to a Social Security benefit from my ex. Is that right? — A READER DEAR READER: Yes, this is probably one of the least known Social Security benefits, but what you heard is correct. Even though you’re divorced, it’s still possible to collect Social Security benefits on your ex-spouse’s work record. The basic qualifications are pretty straightforward, but read on for a few permutations. THE BASIC QUALIFICATIONS The first requirement is that your marriage must have lasted for at least 10 years. Interestingly, it doesn’t matter if your ex has since remarried; you’re still in the picture, benefits wise. Remarriage is an issue for you, however. In order to collect a divorced-spouse benefit, you must currently be single. If you did remarry, that marriage must have ended, as well (and you could then choose to collect on either spouse, whichever benefit is higher — but you couldn’t collect on both). Third, you must be at least 62 years old. And finally, the benefit you would receive based on your own work record must be less than the benefit you would receive based on your ex’s record. It’s also interesting to note that the amount you collect on your ex-spouse’s earnings record won’t have any effect on what your ex or his or her current spouse can collect. That may all sound simple enough. But there’s still more to think about. TIMING CONSIDERATIONS If you meet the basic qualifications, it can make sense to file based on your ex’s record. Even if he or she hasn’t yet applied for Social Security but is eligible for it, you can still take benefits, as long as you’ve been divorced for at least two years. 32 | WISCONSIN WOMAN December 2014

However, in terms of determining the best time for you to take this benefit, there are a couple of things to consider. A spousal benefit — whether you’re married or divorced — is at most 50 percent of the spouse’s benefit. Realize, though, that if you decide to take it before you reach your full retirement age, or FRA, which is 66 for those born between 1943 and 1954, your 50 percent benefit will be permanently reduced even more — between 7 and 8 percent for each year leading up to your FRA. Depending on your current financial situation, it might make more economic sense to wait. There’s yet another reason to consider waiting. At your FRA, if you’re eligible for benefits on your own record, as well as that of your ex. You can choose to initially take only the divorced-spouse benefit and delay taking your own benefit until a later date. Because benefits go up by about 8 percent a year between the ages of 66 and 70, waiting to collect your own benefit could mean a significantly higher payout down the road. Just for the record, the spousal benefit doesn’t go up after you reach your FRA, so there’s no advantage to waiting beyond that date. THE DIFFERENCE IN SURVIVOR BENEFITS The rules change a bit if your ex-spouse passes away. If you’re 60 years old and you were married for 10 years or longer, you’re entitled to 100 percent of your deceased ex-spouse’s Social Security payout, the same as a widow or widower. And once again, the fact that you collect benefits won’t impact what anyone else can collect. The rules regarding marital status are different in this case, as well. You can be married and still collect survivor benefits, as long as you didn’t remarry until age 60 (for example, you could be married to one person and still collect benefits from another!). An Exception to the Length-of-Marriage Rule There’s one more exception to the rules governing survivor benefits. If you’re caring for a child who is younger than 16 (or disabled) and who is getting benefits on the record of your former spouse, you don’t have to meet the length-of-marriage rule, as long as the child is your ex-spouse’s natural or legally adopted child. However, in this situation, the benefit you receive will have an impact on the amount of benefits others might collect. If this is your situation, it’s best to contact the Social Security Administration. WHAT’S RIGHT FOR YOU If you’re divorced and juggling expenses, being able to boost your income with a spousal benefit can be a real plus. But no matter what your marital status, it pays to do some serious thinking about the best time for you to file. Your health, family longevity and overall retirement plan are all factors to consider. If you can wait a few years to collect a larger benefit, that’s probably the smartest choice for the long term. But before you decide, take some time to consider all of your options and do some calculations. Social Security is quite complicated, so don’t hesitate to seek some personal advice from a trusted adviser before you file. l Carrie Schwab-Pomerantz, Certified Financial Planner, is president of the Charles Schwab Foundation and author of “The Charles Schwab Guide to Finances After Fifty,” available in bookstores nationwide.

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LIFESTYLE | A Man’s Perspective

It’s the Most Wonderful

Time of the Year

hree big Holidays happen back-to-back-to-back at year’s end: Halloween, Thanksgiving and Christmas. While I enjoy each, I have to say, Christmas time is my favorite to surprise friends and family. I really do love giving gifts and making a lasting impression on the ones I love and cherish. We have a few favorite family things like attending Christmas Mass, visiting relatives, going to Candy Cane Lane and seeing the lights all adorned, watching It’s a Wonderful Life as a family and reflecting on the past year and talking about the next year with excitement. We also try and volunteer as a family and give back as much as we can. We typically go to a shelter and help serve a meal to those less fortunate, bring gently used winter clothes and donate in whatever ways we can to try and help others out. We truly get so much out of this experience it is hard to quantify. My whole family feels good about helping, but also sees the needs that are present right in our own community. How many have so little and are not lucky enough to be surrounded by others during this joyous season? It made us proud when one of my kids said she wanted

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to become rich so she could open up more homeless shelters and help feed and shelter all in need. I recall searching at one meal for an extra plastic bag so a man could take some food with him for later. They were out of bags and I searched high and low. I finally located one and gave it to him. You would have thought that I just gave him $500 cash. No exaggeration, that’s how happy he was. If that doesn’t make you pause and think, I don’t know what will. While Christmas has become so commercialized, we try to instill the reasons to be thankful and focus on the Christian aspects of the holiday. We try and concentrate on giving, not receiving. On the home front, our celebration does, of course, include food. We typically enjoy prime rib or steak, mashed potatoes and Polish sausage as we feast. Of course, desserts are big so

we enjoy home made pies, pretzel tort, homemade breads, cream puffs, cake and whatever else someone makes or brings to the dinner table. And yes, we try and share as much as possible. However, I most look forward to waking my family up and watching them open their gifts Christmas morning. I am sure you have favorite foods, traditions and even a favorite holiday story. I hope you are as blessed as we are to be able to spend these holidays with great family and friends alike. l •••• Grant A. Johnson is the founder and CEO of Brookfield-based Johnson Direct, a full service, measurable marketing firm. He has four children from 14 to 21 and has been married to his wife, Maria, for over 23 years.

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AT HOME | Recipes

elicious food, fine wine, friends and family. These are a few of everyone’s favorite things during the holiday season. Luckily, there are a few ways to help you host the ultimate party with family and friends this season without breaking the bank.

n Choose a Theme: Introduce a conversation-starter and create excitement amongst guests by choosing a party theme. Host a “Winter White” party that asks guests to wear only white and offer white and sparkling wines and light-colored foods like shrimp, cheeses and shortbread cookies for dessert.

cheese, like goat, pairs well with crackers and semi-hard cheese, like manchego, can stand up to the flavors of tangy jams or jellies. Serve smoked cheeses with nuts, such as walnuts, and aged cheeses, like Parmesan, with fresh, crisp vegetables such as celery or cucumber to highlight the flavors that develop during the aging process.

n Set the Mood: Decorate to create an ambiance that goes with your theme. Bring a winter wonderland indoors with artificial snow sprinkled on tabletops and evergreen branches painted gold and silver placed throughout to create an experience for guests that goes beyond a typical dinner party.

n Infuse European Charm: Create your own unique version of European mulled wine, a classic combination of red wine and spices that warm together to make a festive drink. Add a bit of French flair by serving savory crepes as an appetizer or sweet crepes for dessert.

n Dress Up Your Cheese Tray: Put together a simple but spectacular cheese platter by providing a selection of 3–5 cheeses that have different textures and tastes. Soft

n DIY Dessert: Create a candy buffet in lieu of serving dessert. Use clear glass containers to hold a variety of chocolates, sweets and hard candies, mixing and matching

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SHRIMP DEJONGHE BITES

different shapes and sizes for an eye-catching display. Provide small bags and twist ties so guests can customize their dessert and even take some home for later. These simple tips and affordable, easy-to-make recipes will help you get ready for the holidays. Visit www. aldi.us for more entertaining ideas. *Based upon a price comparison of comparable products sold at leading national retail grocery stores.

SHRIMP DEJONGHE BITES

Recipe Courtesy of Chef Alyssa, ALDI Test Kitchen Cook Time: 30 minutes Servings: 8

1 1/2 cups San Zenone Bianco wine 1 cup Unsalted Butter, divided 1 head garlic, minced 1 teaspoon Iodized Salt 1 teaspoon Ground Black Pepper 12 ounces Jumbo Easy Peel Raw Shrimp, thawed and peeled 2 cups Italian Breadcrumbs 750 milliliter Brut Sparkling bottle 1 package (5.3 ounces) Rosemary Flatbread Crackers

Preheat oven to 350째F. In small saucepan, combine wine, 1/2 cup butter, garlic, salt and pepper; simmer 5 minutes. In 9-by-13-inch pan, lay shrimp in single layer. Pour wine sauce over top. Melt remaining butter and mix together with breadcrumbs. Press over shrimp and bake for 15 minutes or until shrimp is pink and breadcrumbs are lightly browned. Pour glasses of Brut Sparkling. Carefully place shrimp atop bitesize cracker and balance on top of champagne flute. Serve.

CREPE CREATIONS

For an appetizer, dessert or even a midnight delight, offer your guests a crepe creations station, allowing them to try their hand at creating new, interesting and fun flavors on a classic European dish. n Offer different types of crepes by adding flavors to the crepe batter such as chocolate, toffee, lemon or even beer. n Get creative with unique fillings like almond butter, fruit preserves or roasted pumpkin. n Provide toppings like hazelnut spread, whipped ricotta or applesauce for the adventurous guests, but make sure to have more common toppings like powdered sugar, chocolate sauce or whipped cream available as well.

FRESCO CHEESE CROSTINI WITH PUMPKIN MOJO Recipe Courtesy of Chef Michelle, ALDI Test Kitchen Cook Time: 20 minutes Servings: 25 crostini

1/2 French Baguette, sliced into 1/4-inch slices 1 cup Extra Virgin Olive Oil, divided 1 teaspoon Chili Powder 2 teaspoons Pumpkin Pie Spice 1 tablespoon Brown Sugar 1/2 teaspoon Iodized Salt 1/2 teaspoon Ground Black Pepper 3/4 cup 100% Pure Canned Pumpkin 1 orange, zested 1/3 cup fresh orange juice (about 2 oranges) 1 lime, zested 1/4 cup fresh lime juice (about 3 limes) 5 ounces Fresco Cheese, sliced into 10 rectangles 2 1/2 cups Organic Baby Arugula

Preheat oven to 400째F. In large bowl, combine baguette slices and 1/4 cup oil, toss until coated. Place in single layer on baking sheet. Bake for 6 minutes. Reserve. In medium bowl, combine chili powder, pumpkin pie spice, brown sugar, salt, pepper, pumpkin, orange zest, orange juice, lime zest and lime juice. Gradually whisk in remaining oil. Reserve. Heat non-stick skillet over medium-high heat. Sear fresco cheese on each side until golden brown. Remove from pan and cool. Slice each rectangle on diagonal. Arrange baguette slices on serving platter. Top each with few pieces of arugula followed by slice of fresco cheese. Drizzle with pumpkin mojo.

Fresco Cheese Crostini with Pumpkin Mojo

APPLE AND BERRY TARTLETS Recipe Courtesy of Chef Jonathan, ALDI Test Kitchen Cook Time: 25 minutes Servings: 24 tartlets

CRUST: 2/3 cup Old Fashioned Oats 1 cup All Purpose Flour, plus extra for rolling 1/4 teaspoon Baking Soda 1/4 teaspoon Iodized Salt 1/2 cup Unsalted Butter, chilled and cut into cubes 1 teaspoon White Vinegar 3 tablespoons ice water FILLING: 1 orange, zested 1/2 teaspoon Pumpkin Pie Spice 3 tablespoons Brown Sugar 3 tablespoons Corn Starch 2 tablespoons Raspberry Preserves 3 cups peeled and diced gala apples, (about 3 small apples) 1 cup cranberries, frozen Preheat oven to 375째F. In food processor, process oats, flour, baking soda and salt. Add chilled butter; pulse until butter resembles the size of peas. Add vinegar and water slowly. Mix to form firm dough. Chill pastry dough in refrigerator for 30 minutes. In medium bowl, combine all filling ingredients. Place oatmeal dough on lightly floured surface and roll to 1/4-inch thickness. Cut out 24 three-inch rounds. If dough becomes too warm to work with, roll into ball and refrigerate until chilled. Place dough rounds into muffin cups. Prick each dough round with fork and bake for 10 minutes; allow to cool. Place 2 tablespoons of filling in each tartlet and bake for 15 minutes, or until crust is golden and filling is bubbly. Serve with vanilla ice cream.

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PETS | Dog Talk

Homewreckin’

DOGS I

t’s one thing to battle over who gets the dog once divorce is imminent. It’s another to argue about the dog until divorce is imminent. This is a real problem: poorly behaved dogs can destroy marriages and deflate budding romance. What to do about these homewreckin’ dogs?

Heed the following letter from a reader:

“My dog will not let my boyfriend kiss me without growling or barking the whole time, and it is impossible to be intimate without my dog wanting to be on the bed with us. I have tried removing him from the room, but the barking only gets worse. It has become very awkward and uncomfortable. Please help.” It’s clear who’s wearing the pants in this relationship -and that someone else would prefer to be wearing less of them. But the dog’s running the show, and he’s determined to drown out the competition. Since we can’t sit our pups down in front of an after-school special on the birds and the bees, we’re left with only one solution: training. Basic obedience training is an education all dogs should receive. It’s like sending your child to school: nonnegotiable. Simple commands like “come,” “down” and “stay” are powerful tools in thwarting a canine homewrecker. And the appropriate supplies are essential. Provide your pup with a crate or doggie bed, and teach him to retreat to it on command. Adorn it with soft blankets and favorite chew toys to make it a desirable place to visit. If he resists, stand firm. You want your dog to love his resting place -- never banish him to his bed as punishment -- but he doesn’t get a say in when and whether to retire. Your “bedtime” is his bedtime. But your bed is not his. No pup should have the run of the house before the age of 2. 38 | WISCONSIN WOMAN December 2014

When you are home, confine the dog in an area of the house where you can at all times see him and quickly reach him to correct problem behaviors. Baby gates work great. When you are not home, leave your dog in a comfortable crate with good visibility or confine him in a small area of the house. This is a necessary element of training and will help to establish you as the head of household, to keep him safe, and to give him time to learn the house rules and prove himself trustworthy. Finally, if it’s all that incessant barking that’s coming between you and true love: --Keep a shake can nearby -- a tin can with a few coins inside will do. When your pup barks, give the can a firm shake. The sudden loud noise will immediately divert his attention and eventually deter his barking. --Another approach is to use a squirt bottle instead of a shake can. The sudden spray of water to the face will startle and distract him. --There are also safe and effective anti-barking products on the market -- not recommended in lieu of training, but in tandem with training. Citronella collars release a nontoxic yet irritating spritz of citronella around your pup’s face whenever he barks. Sonar collars work by emitting a high-pitched sound that is annoying to the dog and inaudible to the dog owner. A belligerent dog should not mean the end of an otherwise sound romance. In cases such as these, don’t get rid of the dog or the relationship -- get rid of the problem. l

Woof!

Dog trainer Matthew “Uncle Matty” Margolis is co-author of 18 books about dogs, a behaviorist, a popular radio and television guest, and host of the PBS series “WOOF!

LIFESTYLE | Entertainment

December ACTIVITIES FOR ALL

Design Xchange 175 Main St., Pewaukee 262-746-9477 or 600 Hartbrook Dr., Hartbrook Mall, Hartland 262-367-1010 Check out designxchange.biz for a look at the selections! Better yet, visit us at one of the stores to find that special item.

Faye’s 1 & Faye’s Located at Galleria West, 18900 W. Bluemound Rd, Brookfield 262-432-0070, or East Towne Square, 1505 W. Mequon Rd., Mequon, 262-241-8386 or visit fayes123.com.

Lieblang Leather 607 Main St., Delafield. 262-646-8917 or lieblangleather.com

INDOOR FUN

OUTDOOR ACTIVITIES

“It’s A Wonderful Life” December 18- 21.

Milwaukee Holiday Lights Through December 28

Vogel Hall, Marcus Center for the Performing Arts, 929 N. Water St., Milwaukee. Enjoy this radio version, It’s A Wonderful Life Live from WVL Radio Theatre at the Wilson Theater in Vogel Hall, Call for tickets at 414-273-7206 or online at MarcusCenter.org.

Cathedral Square Park, Pere Marquette Park and Zeidler Union Square. Many more events planned, visit milwaukeedowntown.com for listing.

N89 W16398 Main St., Menomonee Falls Great place to pick up Vera Bradley, Pandora and that special outfit for Christmas. Visit shoppingthevillage. com or call 262-255-2330.

The Sundara Inn & Spa

“A Christmas Carol” December 2 – 24

MillerCoors Holiday Lites December 5-6, 12-13 and 19-20 Miller Valley at the Miller Brewery located at 4251 W. State St., Milwaukee. The show runs every 20 minutes from 4:40 – 9 p.m. Visit www.themillerbrewerytour.com for details.

Milwaukee Repertory Theater 108 E. Wells St., Milwaukee. ticket office: 414-224-9490 or visit www.MilwaukeeRep.com.

Milwaukee Art Museum December 4

December 7 The CP Holiday Train

Free first Thursdays, 10 a.m. – 8 p.m. (sponsored by Target). Great place to purchase a membership as a gift for the art lovers in the family. Feature exhibition, Of Heaven and Earth: 500 Years of Italian Painting from Glasgow Museums, through January 4, 2015.

Visits Milwaukee around 6:50 p.m. at 433 West St. Paul Ave., Amtrak Depot, with a show 7:15 p.m., Hartland, parking lot adjacent to Cottonwood Ave. and Pawling Ave., arrives 8:45 with show also. Bring a donation for your local food bank. All contributions stay in your community. The concert is free! Visit cpr.ca/en/ community/holiday-train for other stops!

Visit the Mitchell Park Domes Through January 4

FINISH YOUR SHOPPING FOR THE HOLIDAY AT ANY OF THESE PLACES!

‘Mele Kalikimaka Holiday Show’ Hours Monday – Friday, 9 a.m. – 5 p.m. and Saturday, Sunday and major holidays, 9 a.m. – 4 p.m. or call 414-257-5611.

A. J. Ugent Furs

Artist & Display Classes 9015 W Burleigh St., Milwaukee Adult and children’s classes ongoing through the season. Visit artistanddisplayonline.com for more information.

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8333 W. Capitol Dr., Milwaukee 414-463-7777, 800-544-3877 or ugentfurs.com.

Bayshore Town Center 5800 N. Bayshore Dr., Glendale Having all the stores you may need to finish up your holiday shopping!

Robin’s Nest

920 Canyon Road, Wisconsin Dells. Great idea for a gift certificate! Call 1-888-735-8181 or visit www. sundaraspa.com to learn all about the specials they are having.

The Wooden Hanger Look for that special outfit at our consignment store; check out the store at 169 Main St., Pewaukee, 262-746-9009 or woodenhanger.biz

The Giving Tree Not to be missed, finding that special inspirational gift one stop shopping here. Visit us at 200 N. Janacek Rd., Brookfield. Visit thegivingtreegifts.com or call 800-784-6868 or 262-784-6800 Ext 113.

The Golden Mast Looking for a great gift to give? A gift card to this beautiful restaurant is always a great way to say thanks to a special friend or family member. Visit weissgerbers. com/goldenmast. Located at W349N5253 Lacys Ln., Okauchee, 262-567-7047. CHECK OUT WHAT THE PARKS HAVE TO OFFER!

Milwaukee County Parks Take the kids to one of our parks for ice skating, sledding, and much more. Visit county.milwaukee.gov/ Parks for all the parks in your area and what they offer!

Retzer Nature Center S14 W28167 Madison St., Waukesha Call for program registration at 262-970-6680 or visit waukeshacountyparks.com. In Waukesha visit www.waukeshacounty.gov/parks and get the kids outdoors.

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