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COVER STORY Danae Davis is a Gem

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Down-sizing into Residential Living

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DANAE DAVIS KNOWS THE VALUE OF A GOOD FOUNDATION. SHE ALSO KNOWS NO ONE ACHIEVES AND SUCCEEDS WITHOUT SUPPORT, WHICH IS WHY SHE TOOK THE REINS AS CEO OF PEARLS FOR TEEN GIRLS IN 2009. BY JUDITH BERGER

Davis came to PEARLS as executive director in 2006 in the midst of building a successful career in both the private and public sectors. She was the Diversity Affairs director for Miller Brewing’s strategic diversity initiatives, and has been the director of Diversity Management and Work/Life Programs of Kraft Foods. Davis also served as the director of the Department of Employee Relations for the City of Milwaukee, as well as serving as legal counsel for the governor of Wisconsin.

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It seems her path has led to her exactly where she needs to be. “I have a passion for youth and quality education,” Davis said. “Here at PEARLS, I’m able to combine my values to build a solid foundation for girls.” PEARLS, which is an acronym for Personal Responsibility, Empathy, Awareness, Respect,Leadership and Support, is a nonprofit organization for

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teen girls to improve their quality of life. The organization said. Currently, PEARLS has 35 groups at 25 sites in Milaims to strengthen the community one girl at a time by waukee -- many at Milwaukee Public Schools. No more empowering young women with self-development tools, than 25 girls in a group attend 90-minute to two-hour sesguidance and support. PEARLS was founded by Colleen sions each week. Through programs that are planned and Fitzgerald in 1993. evaluated for results, girls learn to building valuable and Davis, originally from the Chicago area, has lived in positive relationships, to de-escalate potentially volatile Milwaukee since high school. Raised by parents who val- situations and to communicate effectively. Programs help ued both hard work and education, Davis admitted she was to give girls the tools to achieve academic success and to a child of the 1960s. “I was raised in advocacy by my par- build careers. There is a program called ‘Helping Hand’ to ents. They role modeled good behavior.” Davis’ father, who give PEARLS girls a sense of community involvement. “We was the “best cab driver in Chicago,” she said, was not ed- want them to realize their potential; that they can be sucucated past the 7th grade. “But he instilled a cessful and to take personal ownership of their desire in us to be involved in civil rights.” Dalives.” vis’ mother, Daphne Taylor, was a teen mothPEARLS has committed the organization er. “She’s my hero.’ We were in law school at to increase high school graduation and college the same time.” Davis earned her law degree acceptance rates among Milwaukee girls of colat the University of Wisconsin. or; and to work toward the goal set “When I was young, I lacked by the United Way of Greater Milself-esteem like so many girls. I waukee to reduce pregnancy came into my own as I became among 15 to 17-year-old girls by “Girls come into the program adult.” 46 percent by 2015. and stay for various reasons,” An active board member in In 2012, the organization organizations that focused on edumeasured its success by having Davis said. “For some, we are cational issues, Davis felt serving 100 percent of PEARLS active the family they don’t have at on boards wasn’t enough. “I wanthigh school seniors graduate and home. Many stay in the program ed to do deeper, more impactful as well being accepted to at least because it’s fun, they learn work.” She explored the possibilione college; also 99 percent of acty of teaching, but fate found antive girls avoided teen pregnancy. valuable things about other way for her to make a differ“Girls come into the program themselves, they experience ence. and stay for various reasons,” Dasuccesses, learn about healthy “I’ve known Colleen for vis said. “For some, we are the relationships and realize years,” Davis said of PEARLS’s family they don’t have at home. founder. They had advised each Many stay in the program because their potential.” other and worked on projects toit’s fun, they learn valuable things gether; and when Fitzgerald made about themselves, they experithe decision to leave PEARLS, her ence successes, learn about successor seemed obvious. “Colleen felt she had taken healthy relationships and realize their potential.” PEARLS as far as she could and encouraged me to apply for Davis was anxious to conclude the interview. An alumthe position.” na of the PEARLS’ program had returned to reconnect with Davis knows there can be any number of missteps, poor old friends and mentors. “She’s home from college for the choices or life circumstances that set young girls onto paths holidays,” Davis said amidst a background of laughter. The that hinder achievement, self-awareness and empower- young girl is an example of why PEARLS was founded: to ment. “Research shows us that there are fewer resources for give girls the opportunity to discover their bright light. girls than boys to help them succeed. We want them to de- “When they can see a pathway, miracles happen.” velop positive relationships to make positive choices in Davis is a member of the board of directors for several their lives.” civic organizations including Schools That Can Milwaukee The original concept was simple: the earlier you can and Milwaukee Charter School Advocates; and is on the impact the development of a girl, the better. “PEARLS leadership committee of the Greater Milwaukee Foundastarted out focusing on middle school girls and saw positive tion’s Milwaukee Succeeds initiative. Davis is a former results,” Davis said. “But as girls were aging out of the pro- member of the UW System Board of Regents. Most recentgram, they didn’t want to leave, which is why it was ex- ly, she was named a ‘Woman of Influence’ by The Business panded to serve girls 10 to 19.” Journal and recently attended a prestigious program for Through programs, counseling and advocacy, PEARLS nonprofit leaders at Harvard University Business School — provides resources and opportunities to at-risk girls to help Strategic Perspectives on Nonprofit Management. She was them achieve in school, avoid teen pregnancy and empower only one of 143 attendees worldwide. them to achieve their goals. “Our goal for 2014 is to work with 1,350 girls city-wide.” Girls come into the free program from referrals, wordof-mouth or through school initiatives. “The girls learn they have similar experiences. They come to trust each other, resolve conflict and build positive experiences,” Davis

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LIVING WELL | Cancer

Giving New Hope to

YOUNG CANCER

PATIENTS

BY DANA MCCULLOUGH

A cancer diagnosis can be devastating news. It raises lots of questions and uncertainty. Simply put, it’s life changing. Dr. Nicole Longo, internist and onco-fertility point person at the Cancer Treatment Centers of America (CTCA) in Philadelphia, says throughout her career she has started to see a new trend; her patients are getting younger. “The patient average age is getting younger and the kinds of cancers they have are more aggressive,” she says. “For females, we’re starting to see more 25-year-olds and 35-yearolds more consistently.” In fact, each year more than 100,000 people under the age of 45 are diagnosed with cancer in the United States. The National Cancer Institute estimates that there are nearly a half-million cancer survivors of reproductive-age. As the cancer patients Longo and other doctors treat become younger, there is a growing concern about what a cancer diagnosis means for the patients’ future ability to have a family and a normal life after cancer, since cancer treatments can affect sperm production in men and egg production in women, as well as cause mutations. Until now, when young women and men of childbearing age were diagnosed with cancer, the focus early on generally was to discover the extent of the cancer and implement a treatment plan immediately. If a patient didn’t ask about how treatment would affect their future fertility prior to treatment, it may not be discussed or addressed. Unfortunately, this often leaves patients frustrated several

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years later when having a family becomes an important desire and fertility issues surface. The CTCA is working to change the typical conversations young cancer patients have with their doctors by launching its new fertility preservation program. The program is a proactive, formal process for doctors to help patients think beyond the cancer diagnosis and treatment. “As a doctor … we should be anticipating the potential side effects of treatment we give. For cancer patients, what we do can be life altering,” says Longo, who leads CTCA’s fertility preservation program. The program puts in place comprehensive guidelines for doctors to use to evaluate patients and determine if a consultation about fertility preservation should occur prior to undergoing cancer treatment. Following a set protocol, CTCA physicians actively engage patients who meet the criteria for fertility preservation counseling.

The idea for the program was generated, in part, after a conversation Longo had with a surgical nurse. The nurse expressed frustration after seeing a 19-year-old female cancer patient who had a pelvic exenteration (a surgery where most of the pelvic organs are removed) at a different institution. The woman came to CTCA for a second opinion, but she had never been offered any type of fertility preservation prior to her cancer treatment and she was upset that the chance for fertility preservation had passed. The fertility preservation program recognizes that every patient experience is different. One patient may move forward with preserving sperm, eggs or embryos, while another may decide it’s not for them. Giving the patients the opportunity to make a choice about their future is what is important. “They are some tough conversations, but the patients appreciate the opportunity to have an honest discussion about if it’s appropriate to move forward in that direction. It gives them a clear conscience to move forward knowing they’ve done everything they need to do,” Longo adds. If a patient does decide to explore fertility preservation, CTCA connects him or her with select local fertility centers. For some women, fertility preservation can be a threeor four-week process, which can postpone cancer treatment. The preapproved fertility centers collaborate with CTCA doctors and their staff to balance the desire to preserve fertility and hope for the future with addressing the cancer diagnosis as quickly as possible. At the fertility centers, patients receive education and counseling, and are examined to determine their eligibility for fertility preservation procedures. For a male cancer patient of Longo’s, his choice was to have his sperm preserved to help his wife fulfill their family plan. “He unfortunately passed away. His wife took what he left and had two beautiful children as part of their family plan. She was still able to fulfill their family plan because he preserved his sperm. Every patient deserves to have that conversation. It’s the patient’s choice,” she says. Choices for preservation aren’t reserved only for married couples. Since October 2012, the American Society for Reproductive Medicine removed the “experimental” label from the process of egg freezing. Allowing egg freezing means single women can have eggs stored by themselves and do not require a sperm donor or freezing as an embryo. There’s no guarantee with preservation, but Longo says doing preservation beforehand gives patients the best chance to have a viable pregnancy themselves or through a surrogate in the future. “Not everyone can have a family, but we are preserving the opportunity for hope,” Longo says. “Patients are surviving. Treatments are getting better and patients are living longer. They have an opportunity to live as normal a life as possible after cancer, and having a family is part of that.” The CTCA’s fertility preservation program is currently operating at its Chicago, Philadelphia and Tulsa locations. It will be introduced to its Phoenix and Atlanta locations by Spring.

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LIVING WELL | Heart Health

“ My breast cancer diagnosis was the heaviest weight I’ve ever had to bear.” Karyn Marshall, DC Breast Cancer Patient Doctor of Chiropractic World Champion Weightlifter

As a world-record-setting weight lifter, I was determined to bring the tenacity that had served me so well in the gym to my fight against breast cancer. And as a chiropractor, I was especially impressed with the approach at Cancer Treatment Centers of America® (CTCA). It is called Patient Empowered Care®, and it means I had a dedicated team of cancer experts who collaborated on my treatment and worked with me to develop a detailed plan based on my specific needs. My team combined advanced cancer treatments with supportive therapies like acupuncture, nutritional counseling, and chiropractic care to help ease the side effects of my treatment. I know it made me a much better fighter. Today, I’m busy training for fitness competitions again. And I’m more certain than ever that CTCA® was the right choice for me. If you or a loved one has been diagnosed with advancedstage or complex cancer, call 800-950-2822 or visit us at cancercenter.com. Appointments available now. No case is typical. You should not expect to experience these results.

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Understanding the Opportunities in EDUCATION Today

BY MO MCLOONE

Education is always a hot-button issue, and this is especially true in the current political climate of Wisconsin. And while much is debated in terms of education, it does seem that there is an agreed upon goal: success and opportunity. Success is certainly not a new goal, but opportunity has taken on a new meaning in education. School choice, virtual schools, blended-learning, charter schools, and project-based education are all terms we hear in discussion of today’s educational system and practices. But what do they really mean? And, perhaps, more importantly, what are the purposes of all these new practices? School choice is a term given to the programs allowing students to attend a school other than the publicly provided school in their district. School choice programs commonly include voucher programs for private school tuition. Other school choice options include open enrollment to other public schools, charter schools or homeschooling. Charter schools are alternative education systems or structures that are publicly funded, and open to all students. These schools receive public funding, but operate largely independently. Virtual schools, or cyber-schools, are institutions that teach courses entirely through online methods. Most often, there is no face-to-face requirement. Blended-learning is a formal education program in which a student learns at least in part through online delivery of content and instruction with some element of student control over time, place, path or pace. While still attending a “traditional” school structure, face-to-face classroom methods are combined with online content. Project-based learning emphasizes learning activities that are long-term, interdisciplinary and student-centered. Unlike traditional, teacher-led classroom activities, students often must organize their own work and manage their own time in a project-based class. Project-based instruction differs from traditional inquiry because students are responsible to produce evidence demonstrating their mastery of the material or learning targets/goals. While there are numerous delivery methods and there is much debate about the best practices, it is clear that there seems to be one agreed upon goal in education today: opportunity. These new educational formats create more opportunities than ever before. Kids vary and so do the ways they learn. Understanding the terminology and the different options allows parents to investigate the best options for their children.

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These days, everywhere parents turn they are hearing about a “new” style of education. And while new can be exciting, it can also be somewhat concerning and confusing. Many parents ask, “What is wrong with the old way?”

And that is a valid question. The answer is that nothing is “wrong” with a traditional classroom. It is simply that there are now new opportunities to educate each student through an individual approach. All kids are different, so it makes sense that they would not all learn in the exact same way. An individualized approach to learning opens up a world of opportunities that would be very difficult to come by in a classroom of 35 students. EDUCATION continued on page 13

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Living Heart Healthy at

ANY AGE

Heart disease is the No. 1 killer of women age 20 and over, killing approximately 1 woman every minute. 1 in 3 American women die of heart disease, compared to 1 in 30 women that die of breast cancer. 90% of women have one or more risk factors for developing heart disease. 80% of cardiac events in women may be prevented if they make the right choices for their hearts, involving diet, exercise and abstinence from smoking.

30s

In your 30s your priorities may be

•Your family & young kids • Success and your career • Taking care of other people Make it Your Mission to Balance your life Try to develop healthy habits now that will keep you healthy later on and set a good example for those around you. Focus on preparation: •Schedule time to exercise •Keep healthy snacks with you •Whether you eat out or cook at home, plan meals ahead of time •Make an annual appointment with your doctor to check your heart health numbers

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•Unless your doctor tells you otherwise, keep taking your medication -- even if you’re feeling better.

What are you doing now to be healthy into your 40s?

40s

In your 40s your priorities may be •New career •Family changes •Life’s milestones

Your Mission Your choices now impact your health later in life Feel like you are too set in your ways to make a change? It’s never too late—even small choices can improve your health. Focus on listening to your body: •Eat nutrient-full foods •Balance calories in and calories out •Be active to improve your mood, metabolism, cholesterol and control weight. •Ask your healthcare professional about your risk for Type 2 diabetes which usually develops after age 45 What are you doing now to be healthy into your 50s?

50s

In your 50s your priorities may be

•Sending kids to college •Successful career Make it Your Mission to Staying healthy and fit goes a long way! Life is moving quickly whether you have dramatic family changes or adjustments in your professional life. Focus on being healthy and fit: •Track your heart health numbers •Choose foods with the lowest sodium content •Be active—it can help balance the body changes that come with menopause and age

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What are you doing now to be healthy into your 60s?

60s

In your 60s and beyond your priorities may be:

•Spending time with family •Reconnecting with old friends

Make This Your Mission to A healthy heart can help you live life to the fullest! Focus on your plan: •Listen to your body and talk to your doctor. •Think nutrition! Stay away from pre-packaged or frozen meals. •Make sure you get enough calcium •Find an exercise you enjoy that provide the right level of activity for your body. •Quality of life can be impacted by your weight. •Learn the warning signs!

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On February 22nd, we are launching our Southeast Wisconsin Go Red For Women Girl Scout Patch Program at WCTC. (This is in partnership with ProHelath Care, or Greater Milwaukee Goes Red sponsor. This is open to Girl Scouts and their families)

LIFESTYLE | A Man’s Perspective

PARENTING THROUGH BY GRANT JOHNSON

CONFLICTS

All families have to deal with conflict - whether it’s within the primary family unit, or involving other relatives, including in-laws – and how you handle things is as unique as your family itself. My beautiful wife, Maria, and I were just having this conversation, and the conclusion we came to, at least within our family, is that our parental style has varied with each child, simply because it has evolved. We learned how to parent in better ways as we added to our family and we aged. Yes, our youngest seems to get by with more than our eldest, but that’s because as a parent, you learn things along the way and discover how to “choose your battles.” While our core beliefs do not vary, we seem to let more things slide with each child we had. I bet most of you did too? Another life lesson we have, and will continue to deal with, is how you handle not only different conflicts, but how you deal with them as your children age. Do we expect more from our 21-year-old than we do out of our 14-year old? Yes, because we know that with age come maturity and wisdom. We also have to factor in that each child is different and have to consider their personalities and the best way to deal with each conflict based on who they are as human beings.

EDUCATION continued from page 9

KM Global is the definition of opportunity in education. The school is a highly unique learning environment built around project/inquiry-based learning through a blended-learning platform. KM Global is a charter school authorized by the Kettle Moraine School District in Wales, Wisconsin. The focus and purpose of KM Global is to prepare students to be responsible, flexible, critical thinkers who make an impact on their local, national, and global communities. Students demonstrate knowledge through the attainment of specific learning outcomes as they work one-on-one with a learning coach, and they become engaged in their learning as they have great choice in their path and pace. Since KM Global is a blended school, a variety of learning tools are utilized. Students have a flexible schedule including small group and face to face instruction, as well as various online methods. The school is housed within Kettle Moraine High School, and students have the option to take a course or two in the traditional classroom, in addition to

Growing up, our most common approach to dealing with conflicts was “time outs.” Today, it’s more about not letting them go to friends’ houses, trying to deal with issues like adults and talk through them, or the dreaded taking away of their lifeline, err, cell phone. As parents we all deal with minor in-fighting and hope that we do not have to deal with too many significant or tragic things. We preach family first, and that does not always win the approval of the children – especially when they are teenagers. Yes, forgiveness is sometimes hard, but in the grand scheme of things, we have to sit back and evaluate each fight, nasty word, act and outburst, and frame it within our limited life span. Is that easy to say and hard to do sometimes? You bet it is. In the end, we hope that our family unit is strong enough that our kids learn they can rely on each other in whatever life may throw their way. We hope our children will be there for one another in good and bad times. If that happens, as parents, we can say we have done a good job. •••• Grant A. Johnson is the founder and CEO of Brookfield-based Johnson Direct, a full service, measurable marketing firm. He has four children from 14 to 21 and has been married to his wife, Maria, for over 23 years.

their inquiry work. Additionally, all students attend a weekly seminar including local, national and international guest speakers, as well as group activities. Students enrolled in KM Global earn the majority of their credit through a semester inquiry. Inquiries are semester long projects that allow students to learn the required core content through a topic that is interesting and relevant to them, allowing them to make further connections across disciplines. This process requires students to continue to develop the skills they will need to be successful in any post-high school experience. KM Global graduates report being highly prepared for success in college due to a learning environment that fostered responsibility, time management, and critical thinking through an individualized approach. KM Global is a school for any students who want ownership and choice in their education. For more information about KM Global, please visit kmglobalcharter.com or call 262-968-6273 x4700. February 2014 WISCONSIN WOMAN | 13

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GENERATIONS | Parent Care

Many older adults are choosing to down-size into residential living,

sooner than later BY KIM SEIDEL

It’s a comment Patty Murdock often hears from older adults residing at VMP (formerly known as Village at Manor Park): “I should have done it sooner.” While change isn’t always easy, the variety of benefits offered to those who make the move can vastly improve their lifestyles.

VMP is the largest, not-for-profit, private provider of senior healthcare services in Wisconsin, serving older adults since 1925. The organization offers two locations – VMP Trinity in Milwaukee and VMP Manor Park in West Allis. Each campus offers independent and assisted living facilities, as well as skilled nursing. “What would be the urgency to move in now, rather than later, is that people can make their own decisions and enjoy their golden years before they need to make changes DOWN-SIZING continued on page 16

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DOWN-SIZING continued from page 15

under pressure,” says Murdock, director of sales and marketing. “Many people wait too long – after they have an accident shoveling snow or become exhausted after cleaning their home.” Moving before a situation turns into an emergency helps entire families. Children don’t need to suddenly put their own lives on hold, and they gain a peace of mind knowing mom or dad resides in a comfortable, enjoyable and safe place. After someone loses their spouse, doors open for a good time to move to help prevent depression and isolation. VMP extends numerous social opportunities for a resident to make new friends and delight in an array of activities. This is reflected in VMP’s motto, “You’re Never Too Old to Play.” Murdock also often hears, “I’m not ready to move yet.” She understands the overwhelming nature of downsizing and selling a home. “We can bring in real estate professionals to help people with that process; so why not make the decision to move now, when you can make these choices on your own?” Murdock asks.

Healthcare Services

Another advantage of living at VMP is its full continuum of healthcare services for residents, patients and the community. “People never need to worry about where they are going at the next stage of their lives,” Murdock says. Life Care for residents guarantees future access to services, no matter the state of their health or financial situation. The popular independent living apartments supply active seniors with a wide range of amenities including fitness rooms, meal plans and off-site events and trips. When moving in, residents can choose Life Care or a monthly rental program. In another setting, the assisted living residential units furnish seniors with help during some of their daily activities. Experts assist older adults to overcome common physical challenges. Assisted living programs are individually-tailored to fit one’s needs. Trinity offers apartment-style living, and each unit comes with its own full kitchen and private bath. For those residents who need continual care, skilled nursing offers services around the clock, including rehabilitation. In addition, VMP is one of two facilities in Wisconsin that provides ventilator care. The staff partners with the area’s top pulmonary physicians. VMP’s quality healthcare services don’t end there. Available for caregivers, respite care is arranged for those who need a short break or a vacation from their care giving role.

VMP serves Mind, Body and Spirit

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For those living in independent housing, an extra peace of mind comes from having wellness nurses on staff. They check glucose levels, blood pressure and take care of other needs. The dynamic VMP Senior Community Club is an extremely busy hub of activity, serving hundreds of active members in the community, as well as residents, Murdock says. Obviously, it’s much more than basic Bingo, with seniors taking Super Noggin Classes to enhance their brain fitness and attending Brewers’ games, dinner theater at the Fireside, the Milwaukee Symphony and more. An upcoming, well-attended event is the heart healthy luncheon at Manor Park on Friday, Feb. 7. Everyone is en-

couraged to wear red to support heart health, as they dine on red-colored fare, from a red glass of wine to red pepper roasted chicken and buttered red potatoes. “This is a great place to live, and people shouldn’t wait too long to move,” Murdock says. “They will have all they need under one roof. We even throw Harley motorcycle parties, and play pumpkin bull’s-eye bingo!” For tours and more information, contact VMP Manor Park at 414-607-4100, or VMP Trinity at 414-371-7300. Kim Seidel is a Wisconsin-based writer and copyeditor. For more information, visit www.seidelink.com.

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When my friend forgets her car keys, she jokingly says, “Old age!” and laughs it off. But where do the lines between forgetfulness and dementia cross? Back in October, our WWHF Annual Dialogue event brought together Wisconsin doctors and health professionals in the field of dementia to share the complex issues related to dementia. Let’s look at the startling statistics of dementia. Alzheimer’s disease is the 6th leading cause of death in the United States overall and the 5th leading cause of death for those aged 65 and older. It is the only cause of death among the top 10 in America without a way to prevent it, cure it or even slow its progression. Deaths from Alzheimer’s increased 68 percent between 2000 and 2010, while deaths from other major diseases decreased. Alzheimer’s disease accounts for 60% to 80% of all cases of dementia. In 2013, there were 42 million people with dementia in the United States. It is projected there will be 72 million people in 2029 with dementia, roughly 20% of our population. The cost of Alzheimer ’s disease is 203 billion dollars a year with a projected cost of 1.2 trillion in 2050. Dementia is not just “an old person’s” disease. Pat Wilson, Family Support Coordinator from the Alzheimer’s & Dementia Alliance of Wisconsin reports, “There are 200,000 people in the U.S. with young-onSUE ANN SAYS continued on page 20

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What Are Your Chances of Developing Dementia?

Kari Paterson, the Executive Director of the Alzheimer’s Association South Central Chapter, reported, “The risk of being diagnosed with dementia is 1 out of 2 if you are over the age of 85. Half of the people in the United States with the disease do not know they have it so they do not have support services.”

Gina Green-Harris, Director of Milwaukee Outreach Program & Services Alzheimer’s Institute in Madison, WI, shared information from the Alzheimer’s Association, “Alzheimer’s Disease is more prevalent with estimates varying from 14%-100% more cases among African-Americans than Caucasian-Americans.” Other factors at play in the development of dementia include your genetic background, major surgeries and previous head injuries. SUE ANN SAYS continued on page 20

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The Effects on the Caregiver

Dr. Elizabeth Chapman from the Geriatrics Division at the UW Department of Medicine, explains, “A vast amount of care-giving costs are not documented because the care-giving is often given by family members. The financial impact on the caregiver may be reflected in loss of a job or a loss of job hours. Other impacts on the caregiver are physical stress, guilt, emotional stress, an increase in depression and poor physical health.” Several professionals expanded upon this important aspect of dementia. Dr. Kurt Hansen from the Geriatrics Division of UW Madison indicated, “Our medical treatments don’t do much right now. We must support the family and help them cope with the disease.”

Gina Green-Harris shared, “It is a family issue and we need to look at the people who are overburdened. Caregivers can’t clean and give care to a loved one at the same time. It must be a group effort.” Pat Wilson stated, “Find support in the community so that the caregiver has time to rest. Let’s get rid of the word “No” and help someone out who needs our support. “

What Can You Do Right Now to Prevent Dementia?

Kari Paterson, the executive director of the Alzheimer’s Association South Central Chapter, emphasized that “Heart Health=Brain Health.” “The triggers of Alzheimer’s disease begin to damage the brain years before symptoms appear.” Here are her suggestions for a healthy heart and brain.

1. EXERCISE

Exercise increases the number of neurotransmitters in your brain. You don’t have to work out for hours on end. Walk 5 times a week. Set goals and monitor your blood pressure.

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3. INCREASE MENTAL STIMULATION

Exercise your mind. Develop a system of reminders and cues. Take time to remember things. Learn relaxation techniques. Keep a positive attitude.

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In order to keep your brain healthy it is important that you keep socially and mentally active. It could mean delaying retirement.

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PROMISE YOURSELF

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As you settle into the New Year, make a promise to yourself. Promise yourself success in some endeavor, however great or small. Promise yourself that you will stick to your goal, track your successes, forgive mistakes and stay focused on the ultimate outcome you want to achieve. If you’re like me (and a lot of other people), you can probably remember starting off a New Year filled with energy, determination and a fantastically energizing vision of a new you. Whether it was fitness, career success, or a relationship improvement you sought, you could absolutely see how things would be better after you did certain things. Say you resolved to improve your diet by adding fresh food and eliminating processed food. One of my daughters went on strike a year ago against anything in a box. Nice idea, but her kids rebelled when they learned that their favorite macaroni and cheese was no longer permissible. It wasn’t long before my daughter relaxed this standard for the kids, but she also insisted that they eat fruits and a variety of vegetables that were new. It took a while—read this again, it took a while—but the entire family is now eating better and feeling proud of themselves as a result. (They are also after me to reconsider a few of my favorite vices.) I spoke recently with a woman who had vowed to improve her physical conditioning. She was in relatively good shape to begin with, so the effort she expected to exert was minimal. Because of that, she approached her physical fitness in a hit or miss fashion. Some weeks were strong; others lacked any activity whatsoever. You can imagine what INTRO TO

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A recent survey reported that on average a woman keeps her beauty regimen for more than a decade. I found this believable but disconcerting. Being open to change is a major factor in keeping us current – not just in fashion but in every area of our lives. I believe in the adage “change your lipstick, change your life.” YIKES! If we‘re only changing our lipstick color once a decade, well…you get the picture. Admittedly, change is hard. And, when it comes to fashion, it can be overwhelming. Spring 2013 fashion is all about color and PRINTS PRINTS PRINTS! Two things that can be more than a little scary to those of us with a closet full of black and grey. But, our “eye” can evolve and along with it our personal style.

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You walk into your favorite boutique, and a mannequin with a print dress is the first thing you see. Your reaction? “Oh, that’s very pretty. But, it’s certainly not for me.” The next day you think back to your store visit, “You know I really liked the length of that print dress—not so darn short. And, the background was basic black – the print was only in the center and on the sleeves.” Day 3, and you’re still thinking about the dress, “Hmmmmm…I’ve got that May wedding. I wonder how that dress would look on me? No! Too much print.” Day 4, you can’t stop thinking about That Dress! “OK, what the heck – I’m gonna try it on.”

You go to the store… duck into the dressing room…and surprise yourself with how much you like it. But, you’re still not sure. So, you venture out of the dressing room, and ask your sales associate, “Whaddya think?” Thumbs up all around – not just from sales staff, but other shoppers, too. My point is NO ONE’S eye evolves overnight. But, it can evolve and your style right along with it. When you like what someone is wearing, DECONSTRUCT THE LOOK. Specifically why do you like it? Not attracted to what another woman is wearing? DECONSTRUCT THE LOOK. Specifically why don’t you like it. Learn to articulate what your eyes see. Do the work, and your style will evolve, and your entire life will be better for it.

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AT HOME | Crafters’ Corner

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WITH THESE SIMPLE WREATHS Looking for a simple way to pay homage to Valentine’s Day without going over the top? A lovely home-made wreath on your front door welcomes guests and loved ones, or hang it on a wall inside to add a pop of color, texture and rustic charm to your home. Valentine’s decorations don’t have to be expensive; gather materials you have around your house or pick up after Christmas sale items and get creative.

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Nothing says “I love you” on Valentine’s Day more than heart-shaped, homemade treats. This year, try individual treats to make each gift recipient feel extra special. You’ll love the fact that they are simple to create. “Though small in size, mini-treats deliver a big message to all of the Valentines on your list,” said Nancy Siler, vice president of consumer affairs at Wilton. “Decorating these treats is quick and easy thanks to Candy Melts Candy - a pantry staple for any decorating project.” With a little help from Wilton, you can bake to your heart’s desire this Valentine’s Day. We Heart Valentine’s Day - Hearts are by far the top shape of the season. From giant heart-shaped cookie pans to cookie cutters to Heart Pop pans, Wilton has a variety of bakeware options. A Sweet Heart for Your Sweetheart - Create mini cakes, brownies or cookies with the Bite Sized Heart Dessert Shell pan. Once cooled, drizzle with red, pink and white colored Candy Melts candy for the perfect personalized heartshaped treat.

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Tips TO SAY GOODBYE TO WINTER BLAHS

Bare branches and gray skies can leave individuals feeling glum during the winter months. Homeowners who are susceptible to minor blahs during this season can use simple home design strategies to keep their moods high and improve their spaces. Members of the Milwaukee/NARI Home Improvement Council, Inc., the area’s leading home improvement and remodeling industry resource for more than 52 years, offer home tips to cure the winter blues.

BRING THE OUTDOORS IN

Indoor garden – It’s dreary outside, so create an indoor garden to bring some life into the home. Many plants purify stale air and add humidity to a dry winter space. If you don’t know what to grow, try herbs such as basil or mint.

Patio enclosures and sunrooms – Patio enclosures and sunrooms let natural light into the home, which can help battle the winter blues. Outdoor retreat – It may be cool outside, but there are plenty of ways to enjoy outdoor spaces. Consider having a gas fireplace or installing an overhead heater, so people can enjoy the patio or porch year-round. Add fleece blankets and hot cocoa to further warm up outdoor areas.

JUST ADD COLOR

Paint color – Paint can add warmth to a home during the winter months. Use earth tones – greens, browns, and yellows – to brighten the different rooms in a home. Accessories – Accessories can help brighten a room. Consider hanging a mirror opposite a window to open up the space. Use blinds or curtains instead of heavy draperies to allow light to filter into the room. Add some color to the space with pillows, tablecloths, bedding, or area rugs.

LET THE LIGHT IN

Lighting – Adding lamps or installing track lighting can bring more light into a room. It’s also important to consider the color of the bulbs. Warm whites give the room an amber glow, while cooler lights give the room a blue tone. Skylights – Skylights allow natural light to saturate spaces lacking windows, such as hallways, stairways, laundry rooms, or bathrooms. Solar tubes – At a lower cost than skylights, solar tubes provide warm light to a room. It is a 10- to 14-inch diameter sheet metal tube with an interior that acts like a mirror. It captures daylight at the roof and distributes light to a home’s interior. For more information, call 414-771-4071 or visit www. milwaukeenari.org

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ter chance of making your dog hand-shy, fearful or even aggressive than it does of curing him of any “problem behaviors.” “Turn your back on the dog.” So he can nip that booty? If anybody has a clue about this one, please be in touch. And one of my all-time favorites: “Ask him: ‘Why are you biting your mother?’” Did she give birth to this pup? Is something going on that I’m not aware of? And is someone out there waiting for their dog to respond to this question? Besides the senselessness, the cluelessness, the dangerousness and the flat-out lunacy of some of this stuff, the real problem with all of this advice is that it’s based on a fallacy. A puppy’s nipping isn’t a behavioral problem; it’s a physical problem. Just like babies, puppies teethe. They nip because the pressure provides relief from the pain. So the objective isn’t to punish the dog or to deter the undeterrable. Your job as the pup’s guardian and as someone who loves this little creature is to provide him with something that will offer even more relief than your fingers or the leg of that dining chair. Ice chips and frozen treats help. But one of the most effective tools costs little to nothing and works beautifully: the frozen washcloth. If you have a teething puppy in the house, wet a handful of washcloths and put them in the freezer. When your pup starts nipping - and he will because it’s perfectly natural give him a frozen washcloth to chew on. The cold will feel good against his sore gums as it works as a numbing agent. If only there were something equally effective at silencing the passers-on of bad advice.

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WHERE TO GO

F bruary ACTIVITIES FOR ALL

Where to go to get a gift certificate for a great spa adventure?

Enjoy a Valentine’s retreat at the Sundara Spa in Wisconsin Dells. For information visit sundaraspa.com or call 888-735-8181 for different spa packages and overnight accommodations.

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Where to go for a special night out?

Tim Rice and Andrew Lloyd Webber’s Tony Award®-winning musical, Evita, which shouldn’t be missed! At Uhlehin Hall, the Marcus Center for the Performing Arts from February 4 – 9. Visit marcuscenter.org or call for tickets at 414-273-7206.

What’s playing for the kids in February ?

Visit Faye’s at the Galleria West, Brookfield, 262-432-0070, or East Towne Square, Mequon, 262-241-8386. Website at www. fayes123.com.

First Stage Theater’s production of Anotole will be playing at the The Todd Wehr Theater, Marcus Center for the Performing Arts from February 21 – March 16. Visit marcuscenter. org or call 414-273-7206 for tickets.

Where to go for a special night with music?

Where to get wine for a special Valentine’s dinner at home?

The Domes, 524 S. Layton Blvd., Milwaukee 414-257-5611. Valentine Sweethearts’ Night at the Domes featuring Vivo & Warren Wiegratz, talented contemporary jazz, pop and samba ensemble that will create a magical evening of lively music for you.

Celebrate with wine from Cedar Creek Winery, N70 W6340 Bridge Road, Cedarburg. Visit cedarcreekwinery.com or call 800-827-8020 for more information on events happening there such as The Cedar Creek Winery/Settlement Open House on March 15 & 16. This is your opportunity to learn about and barrel-taste the latest vintages with winemaker, Philippe Coquard, along with other events.

Where’s a great place to take your kids for Valentine’s Day? Little Sweetheart Dance, February 7, at Betty Brinn Children’s Muesum, 929 E. Wisconsin Ave., Milwaukee. Themed crafts, silent auction, music and dancing, visits by Smokey Bear, Woodsy Owl characters and much more. Visit bbcmkids.org or call 414-390-5437 for tickets.

Interested in Wines and Beers of the world? Wines and Beers of the World, February 6, Milwaukee County Zoo, 7 – 10 p.m. Visit zoosociety.org or call 414-258-2333 for more information.

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