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IN 2015, TEMPO MILWAUKEE WILL CELEBRATE 40 YEARS OF BRINGING TOGETHER WOMEN IN LEADERSHIP POSITIONS, PROVIDING OPPORTUNITIES NOT AVAILABLE TO THEM IN THEIR PROFESSIONAL WORLDS. IN 1975, WOMEN IN PROFESSIONAL LEADERSHIP ROLES WERE SCARCE. “THERE WERE NO OPPORTUNITIES TO NETWORK, GAIN SUPPORT OR SHARE INFORMATION WITH OTHER WOMEN ACROSS BACKGROUNDS OR INDUSTRIES,” SAID PEGGY WILLIAMS-SMITH, PRESIDENT OF THE BOARD OF TEMPO MILWAUKEE. BY JUDITH BERGER
Forty years later, men continue to occupy the lion’s share of leadership roles, but women have made great strides. Locally, TEMPO organizations can take some credit for those advancements. Two women, Peggy Williams-Smith and Peggy Stoops, president of the board of TEMPO Waukesha, have more than their first names in common. They went to school for careers that never happened, were quickly recognized on the job for their talent and intellect and have a strong connection to service. The two women are now in position to carry on and strengthen the legacy entrusted to them as head of their respective boards of TEMPO.
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PEGGY WILLIAMS-SMITH At 43, Williams-Smith is the vice president of food and beverage for Marcus Hotels and Resorts. She joined TEMPO Milwaukee in 2005, recruited to launch the organization’s first leadership event. “I was co-chair with Amy Rislov,” Williams-Smith said. The first year they obtained five sponsors and drew a crowd of 200. It is now TEMPO’s largest event drawing sellout crowds with revenues that have quadrupled in 8 years. For Williams-Smith, planning events is a practiced skill. She worked her way through the University of Wisconsin-Milwaukee by waitressing and tending bar at Muskego Lakes Country Club. She earned a broadcast journalism degree. It wasn’t long before she was director of catering at the country club. “I quit for three months and took a job in human resources. I wanted to try working regular hours,” she recalled. She soon missed the fast pace of the hospitality industry. Williams-Smith received a call from a headhunter who was acting on a reference from her former boss, Nancy Hernandez. It was for a position at the Hilton Hotel directing weddings and catered events. Williams-Smith took the job and again was promoted through the ranks. Around the time Williams-Smith was director of cater-
“I’m constantly amazed at how women make it all work -- careers, families, life,” she said. “Today, with technology, you’re always at work -- connected 24 hours a day; but in some respects it allows us more time at home.” - PEGGY WILLIAMS-SMITH
ing, she and Tim Smith, director of sales for the Hilton, began to date. “We thought one of us should leave the company,” she said. But the company was not so keen on losing valuable employees and moved Williams-Smith to director of catering at the Pfister Hotel. “The Pfister is our crown jewel and the epicenter of hospitality in Milwaukee.” In 2005, Williams-Smith was promoted to assistant general manager of the hotel. “Nancy kept telling me to do something for myself -to do something to grow my career,” Williams-Smith said of Hernandez. “But I kept putting her off.” Williams-Smith’s career was going very well. After the Marcus Corporation acquired Brynwood Country Club, it was put in Williams-Smith’s charge. She was again promoted to corporate director of catering and events for the Marcus Corporation. TEMPO members Hernandez and Christy Garcia-Thomas recognized the potential asset for the organization in Williams-Smith and were persistent. Williams-Smith became a member in 2005. Her term as TEMPO president of the board will end in May 2014. “TEMPO is a great opportunity to meet and network and to develop friendships with women in leadership positions from diverse backgrounds and industries,” Williams-Smith said. With a membership of 300 women, many women are CEO, partners in their companies or have profit and loss responsibilities within their organizations. “I’m constantly amazed at how women make it all work -- careers, families, life,” she said. “Today, with technology, you’re always at work -- connected 24 hours a day; but in some respects it allows us more time at home.” Williams-Smith dedicates about 30 hours a month to TEMPO along with a job that she called “the best job in the world.” She always looks to find balance. “I don’t cook. I’m fortunate to have a very supportive husband.” In her leisure time, she enjoys reading, shopping and social time with her husband and friends.
PEGGY STOOP PRESIDENT TEMPO WAUKESHA
PEGGY STOOP Peggy Stoop is an assistant vice president, Private Banking, First Business Bank in Brookfield, WI. “I was born to customer service. You have to love people to serve customers,” she said. “Our clients are businesses and highnet worth individuals. Although we are niche banking, we are full service.” Stoop has been with First Business Bank for 13 years and has worked in various positions in customer service banking for 27 years. She has been a member of TEMPO Waukesha for 8 years and her 2-year term as president of the board will end in June 2014. Originally from Stephenson, Michigan, Stoop loved growing up in a small town, but admitted she couldn’t wait to leave. She enrolled at Lake Superior College to study nursing. She soon discovered it was not what she wanted. Stoop found a job at McDonald’s and was quickly promoted to manager. “One night, I was dropping off the daily deposit and a woman who was a friend at First Wisconsin Bank suggested I apply for a job there.” Stoop took the advice to heart. Once at First Wisconsin, Stoop quickly became a manager. Talent and brains are assets rarely ignored. One day, Stoop got a call recruiting her to First Business Bank. “They created this role for me in private banking. This was the best decision I’ve ever made,” she said of the job change. When Stoop joined TEMPO, she was put on the membership committee. “This organization has a strong feeling on how to take care of new members. I held coffees and lunches for new members.” TEMPO Waukesha has 75 members. “This is a great way to meet your new best friend,” Stoop said. “Through TEMPO, you meet women in other levels of organizations and professions. We are meant for support, education, mentoring and providing programs for growth and information.” TEMPO Waukesha has monthly luncheons and biannual events with keynote speakers. “We celebrate women’s leadership and hold seminars. We are not just ‘ladies who lunch.’ TEMPO is not meant to just enrich ourselves,” Stoop said, noting community impact in charitable giving and reaching out to nonprofits that may not have resources to connect with professional opportunities. “I’m very passionate about women and their professional growth.” Stoop and her husband, Wayne, live in Waukesha. The couple’s daughter, Kelly, is a news producer for Channel 6 TV in Milwaukee.
“This is a great way to meet your new best friend,” Stoop said. “Through TEMPO, you meet women in other levels of organizations and professions. We are meant for support, education, mentoring and providing programs for growth and information.” - PEGGY STOOP March 2014 WISCONSIN WOMAN | 5
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It’s natural to be nervous about your credit when you see more news about breaches at major retailers in the headlines every day. Now, even some processors for major hotel chains are reporting breaches. In fact, there is an entire universe of very-sophisticated-technology thieves trying to find weak links in our nation’s payment system. Credit card fraud is a huge problem. Javelin Research estimates that about 7.5 million Americans had a credit card compromised in 2012. The monetary loss from this fraud reached $8 billion. Remember, we all pay for credit card fraud, even if our card isn’t misused, in the form of higher prices and higher bank fees. It makes you think twice about entering your debit card to get cash out of a non-bank ATM. In fact, it should make you wary of using the debit card linked to your main checking account for purchases at any retailer. It makes you want to designate just one credit card to make purchases online. It makes you wonder about making a charitable donation via credit card for a radiothon. And it should make you think twice about giving your teenager your credit card or adding him or her as an “authorized user.” All of those situations create an exposure to identity theft. It’s bad enough that major retailers haven’t protected us. Don’t make it worse by creating your own vulnerabilities.
You Already Have Protection You should know that you already have a high degree of protection against fraudulent use of your existing credit cards and even your debit card. Both VISA and MasterCard, as well as American Express and Discover and other major card issuers have a “zero fraud loss” policy, for both credit and debit cards. But they require you to report the fraud immediately. And even so, your use of credit could be disrupted for a while as they send you a new card. Plus, if you have things like cellphone bills automatically charged to your credit card each month, you’ll have to
make a lot of time-consuming changes to contact those billers. You’ll note that the recent spate of losses is not because of fraud at the card-issuing banks. It’s happening at the retailers. And that has the banks angry, pitting them against retailers who have not secured their systems. That’s why you’ll soon be seeing a new generation of more secure credit cards. Bill Hardekopf of LowCards.com says: “Issuers and retailers will move more quickly than they planned toward a more secure credit card using the “chips” combined with a PIN that are already being used in Europe. Also you might see bio-metrics with your fingerprint, or even your eyeball as your ID.” But until that time comes, what can you do to protect your identity? And how much should it cost you?
ID Protection Doesn’t Have to be Costly Despite the proliferation of services offering to protect your identity if you’ll agree to pay a monthly fee that could be as much as $15, there are a number of things you can do, without this cost, to safeguard your credit and your identity. Check your bank and credit card accounts online at least weekly. It may sound like a hassle, but securely logIDENTITY THEFT continued on page 8 March 2014 WISCONSIN WOMAN | 7
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ging into your bank or card issuer’s website lets you check for even small purchases that might be used to “test� the information that has been stolen. Don’t use the debit card that is attached to your checking account for other purchases. If that card information is stolen, it can be used to dig into your overdraft line of credit. While banks are required to make good on amounts stolen in this manner, it could take days — during which you won’t have cash available to pay your everyday bills. Put a fraud alert on your account by contacting the credit bureaus. That will require them to contact you in a predetermined fashion before authorizing instant credit at a merchant. Put a credit freeze on your account if you’re not planning to open new credit, buy insurance or get a new cellphone. A credit freeze is free if you’ve been the victim of identity theft. But it may cost about $10 to set it up and another $10 fee to lift it even temporarily or to end the freeze. (It’s free if you’ve been a victim of identity theft and can produce a police report.) A freeze is done through each of the three major credit bureaus. Check your credit report at no cost throughout the year by going to AnnualCreditReport.com, where you’ll find links to each of the three major bureaus. You get one free report from each, so space them throughout the year. Get your credit SCORE free, by going to Credit.com, which gives you your Experian score, or CreditKarma.com, where you get your free TransUnion credit score. Notice that nowhere in this list did I suggest shelling out a monthly fee for credit protection. That’s up to you.
But if you practice safe credit use and watch your accounts carefully, a monthly fee shouldn’t be necessary. And you might even find that your auto or homeowners insurance policy gives you some coverage for costs of identity theft, if it happens. A final word from credit expert Gerri Detweiler, director of consumer education for Credit.com: “These recent breaches illustrate that it’s up to you to protect yourself. We can’t stop credit or identity fraud. The best thing you can do is hope to catch it quickly and stop any further damage.� I heartily second that advice. You can’t afford to be complacent about your banking and credit card accounts. And that’s The Savage Truth! Terry Savage is a registered investment adviser and is on the board of the Chicago Mercantile Exchange. She appears weekly on WMAQ-Channel 5’s 4:30 p.m. newscast, and can be reached at www.terrysavage.com.
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RAISING YOUR VOICE Most everyone I know wants to have a say in decisions that affect them, yet it seems that fewer and fewer believe their voices are heard. Women, especially, often feel as though they not only have no say, but that in matters big and small, their opinions are not valued; their input not sought.
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Whether this is factual or simply perceived, it creates discouragement and discontent for many. One remedy is to raise your voice. Let’s look at this from two different, but related, perspectives. The first is the idea of raising your voice in the same way you raise and educate a child. You instruct, inform, correct mistakes, encourage new attempts, and the like. To raise your voice, seek information about the business, school, community or specific challenge that concerns you. Take time to understand key issues. Listen to people with knowledge in the areas you seek to understand. Practice formulating an opinion and share it with people you trust. Challenge yourself to intentionally read or listen to people who believe something different than you do. Reflecting on alternative opinions is a good way to expose and confront your biases. Recognizing that other people believe just as firmly in their perspective as you do in yours is a good way to appreciate spirited discussions. Assume that people do not disagree with you because of any animosity toward you, but because their experience has led them to their beliefs. When you adopt this mindset, you can participate in a wide range of challenging conversations without taking things personally or reacting defensively. Keep a journal of your thoughts and the perspectives of others. It will help you listen to other viewpoints, while clarifying and strengthening your own. This is necessary in learning to speak with confidence and credibility. “You don’t know what you’re talking about” is tough to say to someone who has researched an issue effectively, considered various viewpoints, and reached a conclusion based on information and reflection, not personal bias or passive acceptance of a stronger voice. Yes, this takes time. It can be messy and confusing. That’s good. Working through the mess seasons your voice, challenging it to develop depth and authenticity. Such struggle can help you understand how your own thinking evolves over time and prove to yourself that you can offer a different point of view with confidence, compassion and humility. Echoing someone else’s voice does none of these things. The second aspect of raising your voice—actually speaking up—can be a scarier proposition. While the first step can be done privately, away from potential naysayers or judges, speaking out is a public act. Knowing that others do not share your opinion can make it difficult to present your point of view coolly and confidently. But learning to share your informed opinion is a skill that will stand you in very good staid throughout your career and indeed your life. Consider this: At dinner with friends, people select foods they enjoy without checking in with others at the table. No one thinks twice about the fact that someone orders steak while someone else orders sushi. It is normal for one person to order a martini while another orders iced tea. My point is that we acknowledge and accept these differences as normal. Differences in thinking, judgment and opinion are normal, too. As your voice gets stronger, you can begin to appreciate other strong voices as well.
Respecting differences provides a platform on which to build common ground. That said, there are civil and social norms that most of us subscribe to. When these norms are violated, we object. This is important. Again, consider the way you raise a child. There are behaviors you deem acceptable and good and others you consider unacceptable or bad. The maturing process helps clarify those boundaries and strengthen resolve to maintain them. Raising your voice is an important undertaking; one that is essential in building a reputation and a career. Your investment in learning, practice, testing and correction is wise; the outcome will serve us all well. •
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Before you enroll in any program, ask yourself: 1. Why do I want to earn this degree? 2. If I earn this degree, will it help me achieve my career goals? In most cases, undergraduate or masters in business degrees are helpful in achieving higher career goals in a majority of workplaces. You should find this out before you invest the time and money to make sure it will pay off for you. Most of all, before you begin choosing a school, you need to give some serious thought as to what type of online program you would like to pursue. Whether this is your first career, second or even third, this decision is extremely important because you
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should want to enjoy what you are doing every day you go to work. While choosing a school to attend, make sure the school is accredited. Accreditation ensures that your degree program will be recognized and accepted by other schools, should you choose to transfer to another school or pursue further education, and future employers. Choose a school that also provides you with the support you need as a student. For example, you may want a student mentor or have access to career placement services.
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On average, you will spend 24-42 months to complete your degree online, depending on the program and the prerequisites you are required to complete. One piece of advice when applying for a school is to not focus on the total length of the program but rather take it one semester at a time.
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6. Choose gardening tools that have padded handles to protect the joints in your hands and fingers from excess pressure. Keep your tools light weight and use long-handled shovels or spades to reduce back strain. Use spring-action shears or clippers if you have a weaker grasp.
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Eye Candy is a dream come true for me! I’ve been an ABOC (American Board of Opticianry Certified) Certified Optician for over 38 years, always working for someone else. But everyone that I worked for saw it as such serious business and I could not convince them to see the fun and funky side of the industry nor could I convince them to offer high end luxury eyewear. So I realized that in order to follow my passion for beautiful eyewear and be able to present it in a different more exciting and playful way, I would have to do it myself. And so with the support of my amazing husband, I brought my dream to life and opened Eye Candy on December 1, 2007. From the beginning our customers have loved having an alternative to the ‘chain store experience’. We offer high quality, luxury eyewear, from funky
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to classic in a fun, colorful and playful environment. Many of our collections are not seen anywhere else in the area and we do something no one else does - we sell each frame only once. So each customer can be certain that we’ve chosen a look for them that’s as unique as they are. All of our opticians are ABOC Certified, are passionate about eyewear, and are experienced and professional. We want each customer to love their eyewear and enjoy the experience! Each year I travel to New York, Las Vegas and Paris to bring back the latest and greatest in frames and sunglasses. One of our newest lines is Feb 31st, an all luxury wood collection. This is one of the latest trends - frames made from luxury materials such as wood, buffalo horn, and sterling silver. Retro looks continue to be strong and we’ve recently added Matsuda, a beautiful collection
of vintage styles in titanium and sterling with intricate etched detailing. Color is king! Some of our favorite collections, Anne et Valentin, Face a Face and Theo are drenched in delicious color and fabulous color combinations. Watch for the grand opening in April of Eye Candy Kids! We will be bringing our same passion for incredible and unique eyewear to kids from infants to adults. This awesome kids boutique will be located right next to Eye Candy. Kids and their parents will finally have a great selection of glasses, sunglasses and sports eyewear all in one place, designed just for them. With the same knowledgeable opticians to guide them with their selections. I love what I do and am so excited about the future for Eye Candy and Eye Candy Kids! Information provided by Paula Hornbeck owner of Eye Candy.
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The days of a closet full of formulaic matching 2-piece suits are long gone. But, what to wear instead? In my business, we dress a lot of powerful women. They understand that while they know how to run a company or a department, they don’t have the knowledge (and/or time) to dress themselves! What they do understand is that they owe it to their clients and to those they mentor to look their very best each and every day. Career dressing varies by industry. Bankers, financial advisers, and healthcare employees are in a conservative environment. Women in advertising, interior design, and real estate have more latitude in the way they dress. There is no doubt that things have become more casual in all work environments. I’d say “dress like your boss,” but I’ve seen some really powerful women dressed in power suits from the ‘80s! I subscribe to the axiom, “When in doubt, overdress.” (There’s nothing wrong and a whole lot right with being the best dressed woman in the room.)
While there are no rules, there are pragmatically stylish guidelines: An updated matching 2-piece suit can still be the core of a working wardrobe. Big client meeting on Monday? Wear your suit but with a colorful or creative blouse (animal print?). On Tuesday, wear the suit jacket with a
more casual pair of pants (or dressy jeans, if your dress code allows). Wednesday, pair your suit trousers with a crisp white shirt, cardigan, and a beautiful necklace. The aforementioned crisp white shirt is a wardrobe staple. Replace it at least once a year -- no matter how great a laundress you are, it gets dull and dingy. Sending it to the cleaners is the fastest way to turn it from white to gray. Oh, and this white shirt ALWAYS NEEDS TO BE IRONED! • A sweater set is easy and pretty. • A cardigan is the new jacket. • A lightweight leather jacket is the new cardigan. • A pencil skirt is flattering on every body type and is always sophisticated. • A smart tote that serves as your briefcase keeps you fashionably organized.
It’s important to own a few good pieces. Inexpensive (or even cheap) is okay for costume jewelry and underpinnings, but when it comes to that pair of black trousers you’re going to wear a couple of times a week, don’t scrimp. Amortize the price over the number of times you’ll wear them, and you’re down to pennies. In business, there’s a lot of talk about being accountable. And that includes being accountable for our wardrobes. It is our responsibility to look our best - whether we’re the Intern or the CEO. The bottom line is that there is no excuse for lazy dressing. Dress for the job you want, not the job you have. •••• Yours in (career) fashion, Faye www.fayes123.com Faye Wetzel Founder / Owner
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On the fine art side, artists Michelle Haley and Sherry Russo own the business Two Artistic Friends. The company epitomizes the changes that home studios and the Web have brought. Based in northern Virginia, the two friends met as young mothers on the soccer field. Several years later, art as a business came up.
“I had been playing around with the idea (of Two Artistic Friends) for about a year myself,” Russo says. “I thought, ‘Why can’t I create an at-home party business where I would sell art, something with the business model of a home jewelry show or a home clothing show?’” She proposed the idea to Haley, and they launched.
The two work in separate home studios in their basements but try to paint together at least once a week. “Luckily, our basements are aboveground so the light is sufficient,” Haley says. Like many artists, they have day jobs. Russo is an administrative assistant, and Haley is a business development officer at a bank. The prices on their original work (see http://www.twoartisticfriends.com) range from $50 to $2,000. “We also offer note cards, fine art prints and seasonal items at shows that would range from $5 to $40,” Russo says. “To have a business in art, you must be focused, driven and extremely organized,” Haley advises. “You must also network and connect with larger audiences to attract new clients. I recommend keeping your full-time job until your business takes off,” she adds.
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Do you recall the number of weddings you have attended? If you are like me and my wife, you went to a few when you were dating, then you got married and then it seems like we had a wedding every month for almost two years, sometimes more. Early on, the weddings were mostly for friends and co-workers, with the sprinkling of family weddings, like cousins, siblings, aunts, uncles, etc. The number of weddings we attend seems to coincide with the same place we are at in our relationship. By that I mean more around your marriage and less and less as you get older, until your kids or grandkids end up getting married. A game we used to play was betting how long the couple getting married would stay married. You know you played it, too. Admit it. This harmless fun turns into harsh reality at the time when those weddings you attended start turning into divorces. Wow. And you are always surprised at a few that don’t make it, despite betting otherwise. Then there are the types of weddings we attended. Most pretty common, but some way out there. Luckily, I have never seen either party stood up at the altar. Weddings are on my mind because my brother-in-law is getting married. It’s the second time for him and the first time for her. We have not been to a wedding in quite some time, plus my wife, my son and I are in the wedding party.
My wife is helping in planning the bridal shower and I am conflicted as to whether or not we should have a stag party for my brother-in-law. I have to say, I am really looking forward to my whole family being together and celebrating together. I can’t wait to dance with my wife and daughters, and I hope I can get my son to dance, let loose and have some fun. Getting married takes real commitment. It is sad when you are surprised how many people stay married 20, 25, 30 years or more. What used to be the norm is now the exception. Weddings are special and they should be treated as such. It’s no small commitment to vow to stay with someone else through thick and thin. Marriages take work, lots of hard work. That being said, let the ceremony begin. Today I cherish weddings far more than I did on my own wedding day. •••• Grant A. Johnson is the founder and CEO of Brookfield-based Johnson Direct, a full service, measurable marketing firm. He has four children from 14 to 21 and has been married to his wife, Maria, for over 23 years.
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If I had my magic wand back -- I was carrying it in the Halloween parade and it vanished -- I would wave it and shazaam! all processed foods would disappear. It’s harsh, I know. I love my Sour Cream and Onion Ruffles as much as the next person. But the truth is processed foods -- the ones that come in colorful packages or cans with a long list of perfectly legal ingredients stacked under the label -- aren’t good for you. In fact, they’re bad for you. You can discover just how bad in books, videos and all over the Internet. Go there and be educated. It’s no secret that processed foods contain chemicals, additives, preservatives, artificial dyes, flavors, colors and other suspect ingredients that are linked to a variety of health problems. And not in a good way. It’s not restful to dwell on the known negatives: the weight gain, the strokes, the fatigue, the diabetes, heart disease, cancers, and annoying digestive upsets that then must be addressed with little purple pills. Instead, I’m going to share a positively intriguing resource for weaning yourself off processed foods, a 14-week plan that should be a required course in schools everywhere. This step-by-step approach, created by the crusading Lisa Leake for eatLocalGrown.com, consists of mini-pledges that you take week by week, alone or with friends or, best of all, with your entire family. Each week is another way to experience more real food and less junk. By the time 14 weeks are over, you’ll be closer than ever to eating clean. I’m not saying it’s easy -- “the perfect is the enemy of the good” -- but the cumulative rewards are remarkable. When you eat clean, you feel lighter and more energetic. Chances are you’ll lose weight. Aches, pains and other symptoms that sent you to the doctor will lessen and might disappear because, food is medicine. When you eat the real stuff, your body can thrive and heal itself. For more along these
lines, go to Leake’s website 100DaysofRealFood.com and feast on her informative blogs.
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They taught you to ride your bike, explained the value of saying “thank you” and supported your every decision, good or bad. Through the years, your parents laughed with you, cried with and loved you. So, how do you say goodbye? “Be mindful that no matter how old the adult child is or how old the parent might have been at the time of death, it is a deep and fundamental loss,” says psychotherapist Silvia M. Dutchevici, who is also president and founder of the Critical Therapy Center. Dealing with the death of a parent is never easy, and it’s often more complicated than it may seem on the surface. “In essence, a death changes lives, and the living will be challenged in many ways as a result of the loss,” says Cynthia McKay, a psychotherapist specializing in grief counseling. “There is no simplistic way of dealing with the loss, since the parent provided many things: emotion-
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*Challenges
Grieving the loss of a parent is different for everyone. Some mourn the loss and move on, while others can’t get past the death so quickly. Experts say there’s no “appropriate” length of time to grieve and no singular way to know how to handle it. “When it happens, we are walking on completely new ground,” says psychologist Dr. Paul Hokemeyer. “We’ve never lost a mother or father before. And we never will again, so we have one opportunity to make it meaningful and rich. “To do that, we should be clear about what we want our parents to know about us and how we feel about them. We also want to be clear about what we want to know from them -- what they value most in their lives, what they are most proud of and what they would have done differently.”
it’s OK to share your grief, sadness and even anger with them,” says Dr. Hokemeyer.
*Tips for Dealing With a Parent’s Death
--Allow yourself to express emotions. “Don’t be brave,” says McKay. “Cry. Scream. Mourn. Expose your pain so that you can deal with it.” --Honor the deceased parent by doing “something that commemorates your parent’s life and reminds you of the good times you’ve spent together,” says Dutchevici.
*Processing the Grief
Whether you had a close or estranged relationship with a parent, you’ll still mourn the loss. “Grief is a process, not an event,” says Anna L. Peterson, a clinical social worker experienced in grief counseling. “Just like our fingerprints, people grieve in unique ways. There are five general phases to the process: shock/ denial, sadness, anger, bargaining and acceptance. “People grieving the death of a parent can move in and out of some of these stages repeatedly. It is important that we give each other permission to grieve and move in and out of the stages of grief.” Dr. Hokemeyer suggests journaling your feelings, talking to family members, joining a support group such as GriefShare and reading books like Elisabeth Kubler’s “On Death and Dying.” “The best way to adjust to the loss of a parent is to give time and allow yourself to feel and process the wild roller coaster ride of your emotions,” he says. “The best way to process these emotions is in a relationship with other people. Sadness, anger and depression can cause us to isolate.” You may benefit from individual counseling, too. “Seeking grief counseling for a period of time is always helpful, not only to process the death of the parent, but to also understand the relationship further and to give oneself a space and time to mourn,” says Dutchevici.
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Telling close family should be done in person. “A private, comfortable atmosphere is usually best,” says Peterson. Be honest and then allow the family members to express their feelings. While kids under three don’t understand “the finality of death,” says Dr. Hokemeyer, kids older than 5 “understand death is an irreversible concept.” He suggests talking to kids in terms they understand and preparing for lots of questions. “For children who are older, it’s best to tell them directly, keeping in mind that
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Obese pregnant women have an increased chance of having a stillborn child. There are 2x the odds for a pregnant obese woman having a miscarriage. A baby born to an obese woman has a greater risk of birth defects. Here are some alarming rates of birth defects of babies born to obese mothers: Odds are increased 3 times for a neurotube defect (example: spinal bifida) Odds are increased 1.5 times for a cardiac anomaly Odds are increased 1.5 times for a gastrointestinal anomaly Odds are increased 1.4 times for a limb reduction (arms and legs are not formed properly)
Prenatal Visits for an Obese Woman
“Expecting obese women should attend more prenatal visits so the doctor can monitor both the mother and baby for complications. At one of the first prenatal visits, the doctor will complete baseline testing to screen for kidney problems, hypertension and type 2 diabetes. A sleep study may be necessary to rule out sleep apnea. If the woman is not receiving sufficient oxygen while sleeping, a CPAP machine may be required. The CPAP machine helps to reduce the risk of pulmonary hypertension. Due to excessive fat tissue, it is often difficult for the doctor to determine how the baby is growing. The doctor will schedule ultrasounds each month to keep a watchful eye on the baby,” noted Dr. Anderson.
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Prenatal visits can occur as frequently as two times a week so that the mother’s blood pressure is checked and a test is done for gestational diabetes. A crucial appointment is scheduled with an anesthesiologist in case a cesarean section needs to be performed. “It can be hard for an anesthesiologist to find the correct landmarks for an epidural block on an obese woman. During a cesarean, an obese woman can have pulmonary problems due to the pressure from excess weight on her chest, so it’s important for obese women to attend all prenatal appointments,” explained Dr. Anderson. Weight will be carefully watched by the doctor. A pregnant woman with a normal BMI could possibly gain from 20 to 35 pounds while pregnant. An obese pregnant woman can healthily gain very little with a maximum weight gain of 11 to 20 pounds. The less weight the obese woman gains, the lower the rates of gestational diabetes, preeclampsia and incidence of cesarean section decreases.
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Sue Ann Thompson is founder and president of the Wisconsin Women’s Health Foundation (WWHF), a statewide non-profit organization whose mission is to help Wisconsin women and their families reach their healthiest potential. WWHF provides programs and conducts forums that focus on education, prevention, and early detection; connects individuals to health resources; produces and distributes the most up-to-date health education and resource materials; and, awards grants and scholarships to women health researchers and related community non-profits. To learn more, visit wwhf.org or call 1-800-448-5148.
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AT HOME | Crafters’ Corner
of the month
MAKE
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FIRST, GATHER YOUR MATERIALS. YOU WILL NEED: 4 – 4 x 4 inch pieces of paper 4 – 4.25 x 4.25 inch tiles Mod Podge Gloss Rustoleum Crystal Clear Enamel 3″ foam brush 3/8 inch self adhesive felt pads
1. Using your foam brush, apply a light layer of Mod Podge to your tiles. 2. Place your paper in the center of the tiles, and run your finger over top to get out any bubbles. Wait fifteen minutes to allow to dry.
3. Apply 3 coats of Mod Podge to over top of the paper – allowing 15 minutes dry time in between each coat.
4. Wait at least an hour after you applied the third coat to apply the Rustoleum Crystal Clear Enamel spray. In a well ventilated area (preferably outside) apply 2 or more light coats (within minutes of each other) of the enamel spray – spraying in a steady back and forth motion, slightly overlapping each coat. Wait at least 30 minutes to fully dry. 5. Final step – add a felt pad to the four corners of the bottom of the tile. And you’re done!
MARCH 27–30 Delight in breathtaking floral arrangements throughout the Milwaukee Art Museum, created by top regional designers to complement the art in the Collection. Details at mam.org/bloom. Additional support proudly provided by International Autos Group, the Milwaukee Art Museum’s Garden Club, Milaeger’s, Kanavas Landscape Management, Inc., LandWorks, Inc., and Barbara C. Strecker Memorial Fund
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AT HOME | Recipes
Fan Favorite Recipes for
GAME DAY Score extra points with super snacks for your gathering
The recipe for a successful sports party calls for three main ingredients – cheering friends, delicious snacks and fun activities for all. When the weekend rolls around, who doesn’t love an excuse to round up friends and family to watch a major sporting event? This season, have the party at your place and score big points with your friends and family:
FAST FINGER FOODS
When the game is on, guests don’t want to sit at a table – people tend to watch standing up so they can cheer at exciting moments, or mingle if they’re not that into it. That’s why finger foods and appetizers are must-have menu items at game day parties, allowing guests to grab a quick handful without ever missing a play or a shot.
SPICE IT UP
Kick up your party a notch and make sure your snacking spread boasts a variety of different flavor profiles. Hungry fans will be sure to grab extra handfuls of Chex Mix, a spicy assortment of cereal, Parmesan crackers, pretzels and the sizzling touch of hot sauce.
SHARE THE SPREAD
Don’t be shy about asking friends to bring something to the party. People like to help the host by bringing a drink or an appetizer. As the host, make sure there is a good assortment of options, so that two people don’t end up bringing the same dish. As a rule of thumb, offer fruits and veggies, a meat or veggie dish and a dessert. When friends ask what they can bring, feel free to tell them.
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KIDS CORNER
While the adults are munching on snacks and watching the commercials, kids can get a little bored. Be sure to have kid friendly games, snacks and beverages to ensure they are as excited as the winning team. Try making a bean bag toss in your basement or backyard, or set up a simple obstacle course for guests of all ages to try.
SATISFY EVERY TASTE BUD
Many people are dealing with dietary restrictions, so it’s important to prepare something for everyone. Provide a gluten free snack option and at least one vegetarian option for your guests. With a little bit of preparation and some team spirit, your party will be a real winner. For additional recipe ideas for your game day bash, visit www.chexpartymix.com.
BUFFALO CHEX® MIX
Prep time: 15 minutes Start to finish: 15 minutes Yield: 24 (1/2-cup) servings
4 4 2 2 6 2 1/2 1 2
cups rice cereal cups wheat cereal cups Parmesan-flavored crackers cups pretzel twists tablespoons butter tablespoons hot sauce packet ranch dressing mix teaspoons celery seed
In large microwavable bowl, mix cereals, crackers and pretzels; set aside. In small microwavable bowl, microwave butter uncovered on high about 40 seconds or until melted. Stir in hot sauce and seasonings. Pour over cereal mixture; stir until evenly coated. Microwave uncovered on high 4 to 5 minutes, thoroughly stirring every 2 minutes. Spread on paper towels to cool. Store in airtight container.
AT HOME | Decor
Tips & Trends for “STAYCATION” ready homes
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With many families tightening their budgets, opting for “staycations” instead of tropical vacations have become common tradeoffs. A staycation is a vacation from work for relaxation and leisure activities at home. At any price point, a wide range of upgrades, additions, and remodeling projects can be done to create the ideal atmosphere for vacationing at home. Members of the Milwaukee/NARI Home Improvement Council, Inc., offer different ways to turn a home into the ultimate staycation destination.
IN ALL WEATHER
SUNROOMS
Sunroom owners enjoy the beauty of the outdoors inside the comfort of their own home. Even during storms, buggy nights, and bad temperatures, sunrooms provide a space to enjoy the ambiance of the seasons, no matter the weather. Many people choose to build sunrooms to enjoy their hobbies and favorite recreational activities inside, and are surprised when it quickly becomes the most used room in the house. There are many options to choose from when considering adding a sunroom to the house. Screen rooms allow homeowners to enjoy the crisp fall air, breezy spring winds, and warm summer nights, all while eluding insects in a comfortable atmosphere. All season rooms enable the warmth of the sun to shine through fully insulated walls and winter-ready windows, creating a connection with the outdoors even in the dead of winter. Three-season rooms are also an excellent choice for those looking to use the room only during prime staycation weather, as they’re built with the same quality durable materials and same potential for bringing the best of the outdoors and indoors together.
Home Technology and Lower Levels
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Convenient access to technology CAPES IN FRANKSVILLE IN THE LANDSCAPE DEhas become a crucial aspect of what SIGN OVER $60,000 CATEGORY. homeowners find entertaining and fun, and can be a necessary part of a IN GOOD WEATHER successful staycation. Having a plethora of entertainment in the home’s lower level can keep everyone occupied no matter the weather. Many Pergolas and arbors are easy, less homeowners are opting to incorporate multiple activities and sections into costly additions that can add to a backyard’s sophistication and ambiance. their lower level. Many homeowners have multiple Pergolas can be featured over a seating game consoles, golf simulators, and area or patio, or stand on their own to other games to keep kids and their add shade and a unique design feature company busy, as well as large televi- to a landscape. A pergola allows you to sions with surround sound systems control the amount of sun screening and access to online movie libraries, by means of vegetation or fabric. This fully stocked bar areas with applianc- is the Goldilocks of outdoor struces, areas where things like ping pong or tures. They are a great fit for a limited pool tables can be put in, and plenty of budget, simple to build, and can be of almost any size. With its more open comfy chairs to crash in. Incorporating music that’s pump- nature, it is easier to transition being out of quality sound systems, in tween covered and uncovered spaces. any room of the house, is more of a re- It also can be larger and closer to, or ality than ever. Placing music speak- even attached to, the house for coverers in every imaginable space—from age right outside your door. Arbors are perfect for highlighting the garage to the shower, and all throughout outdoor living spaces—is areas of your lawn and adding some extremely popular. With universal character to the space you have. They controls equipped to queue up most of act as great entry and exit ways to patia home’s technology, it’s easy for os, gardens, and walking paths. Addhomeowners to enjoy their music li- ing a bench beneath the arch creates an brary anywhere inside the house or outdoor reading nook or unwinding spot. even the backyard. Gazebos can contribute numerous benefits to a staycation. Their design Spa Quality Bathrooms and beauty alone give a lawn added inVacations are all about relaxing trigue and appeal, and their shade and and letting stress melt away. Spas are interior options offer a fun place to a great place to forget troubles and truhang out and relax. Gazebos typically ly indulge, so creating a spa-like atmohave solid roofs and open or screened sphere in a master bathroom is another sides with an octagon shape that creway to upgrade for staycationing. The ates a very defined space. They are spa experience is all about relaxation great for a dining space or small sitting and pampering, so having plenty of area. room for a lounge chair or chaise would also be ideal.
PERGOLAS, ARBORS, AND GAZEBOS
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PETS | Dog Talk
MEET THE Frenchie Olympians aren’t the only ones setting and breaking records. Let’s hear it for the Lab. The American Kennel Club recently announced that for the 23rd year in a row, the Labrador retriever has been elected “most popular dog breed” in the United States, shattering the old record. OK, maybe shattering isn’t the word. Once upon a time, the poodle held court over the American public, a love affair that lasted 22 years. Admirable runs, both. If only our elected humans could retain such popularity. What’s to love about the Lab? Olympians aren’t the only ones setting and breaking records. Let’s hear it for the Lab. Smart, congenial, playful, the Lab wears many hats: searcher, rescuer, faithful companion, loving nanny, K-9 cop, intuitive hunter of game and fastidious player of fetch. The better question, clearly, is what’s not to love. But what about the competition? Bulldogs, Beagles, Goldens and Germans complete the Fab 5. Boxers, Poodles, Yorkies, Rotties and Dachsies round out the Top 10. A diverse group, to be sure -- big, small, low, tall, fluffy, sleek, docile, rambunctious -- further proof that while there may be a “most popular” dog, there is no one “perfect” dog. While the Big 10 hasn’t changed much from last year, there is a new kid on the block, and he’s rising fast in the ranks. Meet the Frenchie. Ranked 58th in popularity in 2002, the French bulldog held the number 14 spot last year, and now, at number 11, is sniffing at the door of the Top 10. According to the AKC, “the French Bulldog originated as, and continues to be used as, a companion dog. The breed is small and muscular with heavy bone structure, a smooth coat, a short face and trademark ‘bat’ ears. Prized for their affectionate natures and even dispositions, they are generally active and alert, but not unduly boisterous.” Inspiring photo blogs titled “Frenchie Fever” and descriptions like “a clown in the cloak of a philosopher,” the French bulldog is that character actor we all love to love but can’t necessarily name. Unless his name is Manny. Manny the Frenchie is the world’s most famous French bulldog, snapped up for modeling gigs by major brands like American Apparel, Converse and Martha Stewart’s PetSmart and bringing inspiration and smiles to both White Sox fans (Manny’s from Chicago) and his quarter-million Instagram followers. But Manny’s humans, Jon Huang, 35, and Amber Chavez, 30, say Manny’s good fortune wasn’t a given. “He was actually the unwanted one in his litter,” Huang told the Huffington Post. “The breeder was like, ‘we’ll give you a discount if you take him.’ He’s the bootleg special dog.” Once an overlooked underdog, today Manny’s giving as good as he gets. 30 | WISCONSIN WOMAN March 2014
His famous mug is also being used in fundraising efforts by the ASPCA and the French Bulldog Rescue Network. With great fame comes great responsibility -- and even greater demand. Popular breeds tend to be bred. And bred. And bred. Inevitably, when demand ebbs, supply stagnates. Remember the Taco bell dog? Between Taco Bell, Paris Hilton and “Legally Blonde,” it was only a matter of time before the Chihuahua dominated the popularity charts. Today, the toy breed reigns at the nation’s shelters. So while we’re cheering on the Frenchie, congratulating the Lab and consoling the poodle, let’s keep in mind the fickle nature of popularity and, in choosing our own dogs, elect the breed that best represents our individual interests -- not the whims of a nation.
Woof! Dog trainer Matthew “Uncle Matty” Margolis is co-author of 18 books about dogs, a behaviorist, a popular radio and television guest, and host of the PBS series “WOOF!
LIFESTYLE | Entertainment
March
ACTIVITIES FOR ALL
WHERE TO GO
Where to take kids for a play?
Anatole Through March 16
Todd Wehr Theater, Marcus Center for the Performing Arts Based on the Caldecott medal winning books, Anatole is the story of France’s bravest and most honorable mouse who promises to delight every member of the family. 414-273-7206 or marcuscenter.org
Where to get out of the cold?
Uncommon Folk Traditions in American Art Through May 4
Milwaukee Art Museum 700 N. Art Museum Dr. Featuring an unprecedented selection of American paintings, drawings, sculptures, photographs, textiles, furniture, and decorative arts from the Milwaukee Art Museum’s world-class collection of folk and selftaught art. Visit mam.org or call 414-224-3200.
What to see this month at the PAC?
Flashdance - The Musical March 4 - 9
Marcus Center for the Performing Arts Featuring the biggest hit songs and electrifying dances at its core along with an inspiring and unforgettable story. Not to be missed! 414-273-7206 or marcuscenter.org
Where to wear green?
Where to walk for a good cause?
Enjoy this 48th Annual Shamrock Club of Wisconsin’s parade starting at noon from 3rd and Wisconsin and finishing at Water and Highland.
O’Donnell Park, 931 E. Wisconsin Ave., Milwaukee
St. Patrick’s Day Parade March 15
March for Babies April 26
Where to start your walk/run for spring?
Blarney Run/Walk March 15
Friends of Hoyt Pool and Park Grand Hall 1800 N. Swan Blvd., Wauwatosa The course includes a 3.1mile (5K) run or 2-mile walk and starts at 10 a.m. 414-7748672
Where to get Wisconsin wine?
Cedar Creek Winery Open House March 15 & 16
N70W6340 Bridge Dr., Cedarburg Opportunity to learn about and barrel-taste the latest vintages with winemaker, Philippe Coquard. Visit cedarcreekwine.com.
What will kids enjoy at the end of the month?
Crash March 28 – April 13
Todd Wehr Theater, Marcus Center for the Performing Arts Crash Coogan seems to have it all until his grandfather suffers a stroke and he realizes what is important. Enjoy this play presented by First Stage. marcuscenter.org or 414-273-7206
“The Smash Hit Theatrical Comedy!” based on the Best-Selling book by JOHN GRAY
When Mars and Venus collide, the adventures are earth-shatteringly hysterical! This show will have couples elbowing each other all evening as they see themselves on stage. Sexy and fast paced, this show is definitely for adults, but will leave audiences laughing and giggling like little kids! Join our favorite Martian and discover how to get a little “piece” on earth!
Back By Popular Demand for a Limited Engagement!
MARCH 14-15 Use Code: ENCORE for a special discount!
VOGEL HALL • MARCUS CENTER
414.273.7206
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