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GRISELDA

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riselda Aldrete says ‘yes’ to opportunity. For the 33-yearold executive director of Professional Hispanics of Greater Milwaukee, it’s a sound career strategy. Aldrete also has a strategy to change the face of the corporate culture in Greater Milwaukee. No small goal, particularly if you are also going to law school at Marquette University on a part-time basis. Aldrete has never let the grass grow under her feet. Her father is from Mexico; her mother from El Salvador. “My parents always stressed education,” she said. Aldrete was born in Milwaukee and lived on the south side of the city until her parents decided to move back to Mexico where she lived for 12 years. Attending Marquette University, Aldrete majored in law studies and Spanish. “I minored in speech pathology, journalism, advertising and marketing.” Aldrete admitted she had no career path. “My mother is a homemaker. My dad is a retired steamfitter. I was a first-generation college graduate. I had to figure it out on my own.” But ultimately it led her to this point in her life. “I always want to challenge myself.” After graduation, Aldrete received a full research scholarship to earn her master’s degree in criminal justice at the University of Nebraska. “I was doing research on Hispanics in the criminal justice system,” she remembered. In 2004, she moved back to Milwaukee and got a job with a public relations firm to manage its Mexico territories. To make sure none of her education was wasted, Aldrete also took a freelance writer’s position with Aqui Milwaukee. “It was a bi-lingual publication that promoted the Hispanic community. I’ve always liked to write and it is a really great way to network.” She eventually became a full-time writer with the publication. But the 4 | WISCONSIN WOMAN November 2014

desire to make a difference in her community continued to tug at Aldrete. So she joined UMOS, a non-profit advocacy organization, as its director of corporate events. Around the same time, Aldrete began teaching criminal justice part time at Concordia University, Milwaukee Area Technical College and Bryant and Stratton. “Eventually, I became a full-time teacher at Bryant and Stratton.” In 2008, Aldrete was asked to join the board of the Cream City Foundation. “Its mission is to serve the community of color and the under-served community in the criminal justice area,” Aldrete said. Within three years, she stepped in to serve as the executive director. “I learned fundraising, management and event planning.” By early 2012, the Professional Hispanics of Greater Milwaukee was looking for an executive director. Aldrete was recruited for the position. “Apparently I wasn’t what the board was looking for, but they created a program manager’s position and offered it to me. I thought about it long and hard,” Aldrete said about taking a position she had not expected. “But I believe in this organization and I love nonprofit leadership.” It was another opportunity. She said ‘yes’. “I thought it would be good to learn about other areas. I thought about the big picture.”

HPGM Board President Jamie Delgadillo with Griselda at the United Way Philanthropic 5 event this past August where five community leaders were honored for their philanthropic contributions to our community. Griselsa was among the five honored that night.

Within six months, the HPGM board recognized Aldrete’s hard work and passion for developing a diverse workplace and promoted her to the executive director’s position. That was October 2012. HPGM started out as social-based, networking organization, Aldrete said. “I asked the board what their mission was for the organization.” As most times in life, the problem is simple; the solution is complex. “They want the organization to help Hispanic professionals in the corporate community to move into senior level leadership positions.” The organization is born out of the MMAC and the Hispanic Chamber of Commerce, Aldrete said. “We want to move the needle. We want to avoid the brain drain in Greater Milwaukee. We want to attract and keep talented and skilled professionals. This really is a city and regional issue.” HPGM works with colleges and universities to educate and place graduates in area companies. Through outreach programs, the organization works

on professional development, mentorships, financial literacy, internship-matching, resume-building, and interview skills. “We are looking to change the perspective and create a diverse pipeline for our region. This generation looks at the culture of companies and asks ‘do my values align, are there opportunity for growth and does the leadership look like me?’” On the other end of the equation are the 47 companies with which HPGM partners. “We need to show them a return on their investment. We take the opportunity to learn about the business world. How they think. How they operate. You need to do this if you want to obtain funding and to work with them.” Aldrete wants people around the table – stakeholders, decision makers, gate keepers – who look like her: women and people of color. But oddly enough, her biggest challenge is her age. “I’ve accomplished a lot, but there is an old guard in the business community. It is so hard to change the paradigm. And we need to foster a paradigm shift, because after all, who will come after us?” Diversity may look different at different companies, Aldrete said. “What does diversity mean? Sometimes it’s a cultural thing. A success track can be different to different people.” To make her point, Aldrete noted that she has learned to play golf. “A lot of networking happens on a golf course. There are practices to making networking more accessible. We need to teach intentional networking. There are professionals who need help navigating corporate America, but still want to remain true to themselves.” Aldrete said young professionals need to put in the work, “but if we don’t change the mindset, progress will not be made.” Surprisingly, Aldrete has time to relax, although some would wonder where she gets the time. She likes to do yoga and run. “I like the solitary activities. It allows me to think about things.” She’s been running half-marathons, which is good training for reaching a goal that may take years. “We are looking to change the conversation in the city and to have a long-term effect, so in 20 years we are not working toward the same goal,” she paused for a moment. “Diverse voices make for a more productive and interesting conversation. Don’t you think so?” l

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A Lifelong Volunteer

Susan Hackl

usan Hackl is celebrating 10 years working with the Community Impact Division at United Way of Greater Milwaukee. A longtime resident of greater Milwaukee, she is a new firsttime grandmother.

VOLUNTEER BACKGROUND

A lifelong volunteer, Susan credits her commitment to service to her role-model parents. Her mother volunteered as the community elementary school nurse. “Volunteering,” says Susan, “was how I learned to help the community before it was possible for me to give a monetary donation. Unexpectedly, I developed skills and made contacts that led to part-time work for pay, too.” Over the past 40 years, Susan has been involved with both the Junior League and United Way, taking on a vast range of projects from stuffing envelopes, to supporting victims of domestic abuse, to leading a women’s community education and leadership series.

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DO GOOD, FEEL GREAT. “In the right volunteer projects,

you help others with the bonus of self-satisfaction and pleasure,” a phenomenon Susan has experienced firsthand. “In addition to expanding my mind and enriching my family life, I have worked with fascinating people and made lifelong friends.” IT TAKES A VILLAGE…AND MORE. United Way volunteerism centers on the three building blocks for a great quality of life: Education, Income and Health. Says Susan, “There is so much need, by so many, and it takes a village - with outside help - to affect real change. Volunteering with United Way means you are joining a community collaboration with the means to effect positive, lasting change.” FIND THE RIGHT FIT. Susan says, “You may not think you have a gift, but more than likely you have something that somebody needs. Observing the work of nonprofit agencies can be a great way to help determine the right fit.” For first-time volunteers, Susan suggests a self-inventory: What skills can you offer? What issues interest you? What do you want from your volunteering experience? Then, contact the volunteer team at United Way to schedule a nonprofit agency tour and help you find the perfect-fit project. l

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The Joy of Volunteering

: As a newly retired widow, I had always thought that volunteering was not for me. However, in a recent chat I had with my neighbor, who volunteers every week, she encouraged me to do so. She said when she volunteers it is the highlight of her week because of the benefits she gets in return. I am feeling lonely and not very productive. Should I do it?

: Yes. Experience is always the best teacher. If you do not like it, you can quit. One reader told me volunteering had become her primary source for recreation, socializing and happiness. In her volunteer cashiering position, she said she meets the entire gamut of society. Customers become excited when they find an item they could never afford at retail. She also shops for herself. She buys books, decorative items and clothing for her family and friends. She has discovered she enjoys meeting people, it gives her something to do, and she learned that when she talks with others about their problems, she is better able to cope with her own. Give volunteering a try. It may turn out to be one of your best decisions ever! November 2014 WISCONSIN WOMAN | 7

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hat motivates people to give to charity? That’s the million dollar question for nonprofit organizations. To answer it, the Money for Good study, conducted by Hope Consulting of San Francisco, surveyed 4,000 people who make $80,000 or more a year. Givers broke down into the following categories: Repayers like to give back to organizations or causes that have benefited them or people close to them. Casual givers want giving to be easy, and they prefer to support established and respected organizations. High impact givers support causes that don’t get attention by giving to organizations that do a good job addressing those issues. Faith-based givers count religion as their single most important motivator. See-the-difference givers donate to small local organizations that serve the community because they feel their gift will make more of a difference. Personal ties givers have a close connection to the organization or person who asks them for a gift.

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Hope Neighbor, founder and CEO of Hope Consulting, recommends that nonprofits focus on two to three of the six groups, rather than trying to be all things to all people. “Identify the segments that are most likely to give to you, and shape your marketing and the donor experience around the motivations and needs of the segments you choose,” she says. With that in mind, we gave Neighbor examples of four hypothetical youth-serving nonprofits and asked what advice she would give to each. Her suggestions are laid out as follows: • Small donor groups should target see-the-difference givers with key messages like: “Gifts are used in your community,” “Gifts make a big difference for the people we serve – and here’s how,” and “A donation of $X buys Y.” • A large social service organization that serves two counties should target high impact givers and casual givers. Key messages to high impact givers are “Here’s the issue and why it’s important,” “Here’s the impact we’re having and the way we’re changing things.” Key messages to casual givers include “We’re the best at working on this important issue,” “We’ve been doing this for a long time, and we have a great track record,” “We’re respected in

the community” and “It’s easy to give to us by [giving at work, online, at one of our events].” • Education and job-training program or college-preparation programs should target repayers with key messages like “Stay in touch with us,” “We keep you in touch with your fellow alumni,” and “You can give back by making a donation or volunteering.” • A youth-serving organization with strong religious orientation should target faith-based givers with the key message, “Faith is integral to our work.” The report “Money for Good: The U.S. Market Opportunity for Impact Investments and Charitable Gifts From Individual Donors and Investors” is available at http://www.hopeconsulting.us/money-for-good. Right on the Money is an ongoing series about how to keep the doors of nonprofit organizations open in good times and bad.

Hispanic Professionals of Greater Milwaukee At HPGM, we work to showcase talented Hispanics throughout all stages of their career, from student to executive, while providing our members with opportunities to reach greater levels of success. Please visit www.hpgm.org to learn about our innovative new programs and events. SAVE THE DATE: Annual Five Star Gala This celebration supports programming and operations, including HPGM’s post-graduate scholarship program. A dinner and a silent auction will start the night and it will end with dancing to live music. Saturday, May 9, 2015, The Pfister Hotel For more information visit www.hpgm.org

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reast cancer remains a major health concern in our country, with women facing a 1-in-8 lifetime risk for the disease. Fortunately, thanks to increased awareness, early detection and improved treatment, most women survive. When it comes to successfully fighting breast cancer, early detection is and always has been a woman’s best weapon. Early detection is facilitated by women being aware of their breast health, being aware of early warning signs and reporting any such symptoms, such as a lump or nipple discharge, to their physician. An annual physical exam, including a mammogram, by a healthcare professional is also vitally important. The American Cancer Society, American College of Radiology and American Congress of Obstetricians and Gynecologists recommend women begin receiving an annual mammogram at age 40. While mammography is not perfect and can’t detect all breast cancers, it plays a major role in screening and decreasing mortality from breast cancer. The quality of mammography has improved over time through technologic advances such as moving from film screen to digital. Columbia St. Mary’s was the first institution in Wisconsin to have full-field digital mammography at the Van Dyke Haebler Center for Women’s Imaging. While digital mammography was a significant advancement, today there is a new, even better technology: tomosynthesis, or 3D mammography. 3D mammography shows even greater sensitivity and specificity compared to standard 2D digital mammography. A study published in the Journal of American Medical Association (JAMA) looked at 454,850 breast screening examinations and found 3D mammography detects 41 percent more invasive breast cancer and de-

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creases the rate of false positives by up to 40 percent. This means cancer is caught earlier and patients often require less treatment and therefore experience fewer side-effects – to say nothing of the reduction in stress and anxiety for women who were forced to undergo unnecessary follow-up exams after a false positive. These improvements are accomplished because 3D mammography allows the radiologist to view multiple slices through the breasts as thin as 1 mm. This eliminates the overlapping of dense breast tissue that can obscure a significant finding or, in some cases, give the false impression of an abnormality when none is present. From the patient’s perspective, the 3D mammogram is performed similarly to the standard 2D mammogram. The exam requires compression and the exposure is obtained with the patient holding her breath to decrease movement. The X-ray tube moves through a 15-degree arc during a four-second exposure obtaining 15 projection images. The numerous images are then reconstructed and presented to the radiologist for interpretation. Thanks to the foresight and commitment of Columbia St. Mary’s, and with the assistance of the Columbia St. Mary’s Foundation and the generosity of its donors, we’re excited to an-

nounce that this new technology is now available to all Columbia St. Mary’s patients at no extra charge 3D mammography units are available at CSM Hospital Milwaukee, CSM Hospital Ozaukee, River Woods Outpatient Center in Glendale, Gateway Medical Clinic in West Allis, Marsho Family Medical Group – Sheboygan and our unique mobile mammography coach, which serves many of our clinics and underserved patients in rural and inner-city areas. “A Passion For Patient Care” has long been the motto of Columbia St. Mary’s. It’s not just words – it’s a philosophy we all take to heart that is exemplified everyday by the numerous professionals who provide the exceptional level of care our patients deserve. From technologists, physical therapists and nurses to dedicated breast radiologists, pathologists, surgeons, radiation oncologists and medical oncologists, the cancer caretakers at Columbia St. Mary’s work together to provide the best care possible. Columbia St. Mary’s has been a leader in breast care in southeastern Wisconsin for decades, and the introduction of 3D mammography ensures we will continue to be for decades to come.

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Every Woman Deserves 3D Mammography. When a revolutionary technology is discovered, we believe everyone should have access to it. That’s why Columbia St. Mary’s is the only hospital in the area offering 3D Mammography for every mammogram. It’s 41% more effective in the detection of invasive breast cancers, and detection at its earliest stages is when it’s most treatable. It’s a new dimension of care for women. And something women of every generation deserve. To make an appointment, call 414-326-1800, or visit columbia-stmarys.org.

Example of 2D image (left) and 3D image (right), showing increased diagnostic ability.

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LIVING WELL | Sue Ann Says

It’s Time to Turn the Table on

DIABETES in WOMEN!

am sure you have heard the startling facts on the news. The number of adults and adolescents with diabetes is on the rise all across the United States. But you may not have heard how this chronic disease is affecting our Wisconsin women. November is National Diabetes Month therefore I turned to Pam Geis to gather vital information for you. Pam is a contracted health promotion specialist with the Chronic Disease Prevention Unit, for the State of Wisconsin Division of Public Health.

The Facts Don’t Lie

Current statistics from the CDC show that diabetes affects the health of 582,000 of our adults in Wisconsin. Wisconsin has 420,000 adults diagnosed with diabetes and 162,000 adults that are undiagnosed. Over 1,100 Wisconsin citizens die from diabetes making it the seventh leading cause of death. Wisconsin spends a staggering $6.15 billion in health care and loss of productivity due to diabetes. “Given those facts, and that the CDC says 49.2% of the diabetes population are women that translates to approximately 286,334 women in Wisconsin who have diabetes (both diagnosed and undiagnosed). Why so many undiagnosed? An indicator of type 2 diabetes is a decline in ß-cell function, which can begin up to 12 years before a person is diagnosed with diabetes,” noted Pam.

Pam shared additional statistics from the CDC. Minority populations are adversely affected by diabetes compared to whites. The racial and ethnic differences for diagnosed diabetes in adults by race/ethnicity: Whites – 7.6% Asian Americans – 9% Hispanic/Latino Americans – 12.8% African Americans – 13.2% American Indians/Alaskan Natives – 15.9%

Diabetes Complications for Women

Type 2 diabetes occurs when the body does not make a sufficient amount of insulin or the body is not able to use insulin normally. If the insulin is not regulated in the body, high levels of glucose in blood cause dangerous complications. Pam explained that the incidence of diabetes in women and men is a relatively even split. However, women seem to be disproportionately affected by some complications. According to the CDC, women with diabetes have a greater risk of losing their vision than men with diabetes. And, after suffering a heart attack, women with diabetes are also more likely to die or have a lower quality of life than men with diabetes. Women who already have diabetes when they get pregnant are at increased risk of preeclampsia, miscarriage, preterm labor/birth, stillbirth and C-section.

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Risks of Developing Type 2 Diabetes

Pam pointed out the risks of developing diabetes type 2. While there are many risk factors for developing type 2 diabetes (age, weight, family history of diabetes, sedentary lifestyle, race/ethnicity, and impaired glucose metabolism), there is one risk factor that is specific to women: gestational diabetes. Gestational diabetes generally happens during a pregnancy’s second or third trimester. Gestational diabetes can cause the baby to grow large very quickly during the final stages of pregnancy. While most women’s blood sugar returns to normal after delivery, 5%-10% of women experience continued high blood sugar levels and are diagnosed with type 2 diabetes immediately after delivery. “More startling is the data that suggests gestational diabetes can increase a woman’s risk of developing type 2 diabetes within 5-16 years of delivery by 17%63%. Women with a prior history of gestational diabetes are also at a 25%-45% increased risk for developing gestational diabetes in pregnancies that follow,” said Pam (http://www.cdc.gov/diabetes/ pubs/pdf/women.pdf).

Prevention is Key in the Battle Against Diabetes

An emphasis on dietary changes, daily exercise, and glucose monitoring can help you stay healthy after a diagnosis of diabetes. Remember to follow your physician’s guidelines and always seek clarification when you have questions or problems.

Change Your Diet

l Your doctor may have you consult a nutritionist to set up

healthy meal planning to maintain your blood sugar.

l Portion control, whole grains, fruit and vegetables are good

choices to include in your daily meal planning.

l Weight loss programs, nutrition education and support

spent in front of the TV was linked to higher body weight and a greater risk for diabetes. (Jama Internal Medicine, May 19, 2014)

Monitor Your Blood Sugar

l Use a glucose meter to monitor your blood sugar each

day.

l Take your insulin or medication as prescribed by your

doctor. Keep track of your other health problems and report any changes to your health provider. l

November Calls for Action!

This month I want you to become an advocate for your own well-being and an advocate for diabetes prevention. Talk to your health care professional about your risk of diabetes, talk to your family about planning healthy meals and move your feet. If you know a woman who has diabetes, reach out to her and give her support. A small act of kindness, a walk together, or a phone call can give that woman the boost she needs. l Because it all begins with a healthy woman…

Sue Ann Thompson is founder and president of the Wisconsin Women’s Health Foundation (WWHF), a statewide non-profit organization whose mission is to help Wisconsin women and their families reach their healthiest potential. WWHF provides programs and conducts forums that focus on education, prevention, and early detection; connects individuals to health resources; produces and distributes the most up-to-date health education and resource materials; and, awards grants and scholarships to women health researchers and related community non-profits. To learn more, visit wwhf.org or call 1-800-448-5148.

groups can help you set goals and be successful.

Get Daily Exercise

l Physical activity can include walking, riding bikes, dancing,

yoga or swimming. Move each day!

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l Find a friend or group to exercise with for motivation. l In a study of 4,554 women with prior gestational diabetes,

every 100 minutes per week of moderate intensity exercise (including walking) translated to a 9 percent lower risk for developing type 2 diabetes. On the other hand, more time

Given those facts, and that the CDC says 49.2% of the diabetes population is women that translates to approximately 286,334 women in Wisconsin who have diabetes (both diagnosed and undiagnosed). Why so many undiagnosed? An indicator of type 2 diabetes is a decline in ß-cell function, which can begin up to 12 years before a person is diagnosed with diabetes — PAM GEIS November 2014 WISCONSIN WOMAN | 15

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Every day, doctors and holistic health-care practitioners are discovering the importance of a healthy mouth in achieving better health. The philosophy of Dr. Mahn and Dr. Shetty at Integrative Dental Solutions (IDS) in Pewaukee is to give you a smile that is both healthy and beautiful! Their main focus is to make sure they understand all of your concerns. After a thorough initial examination (which includes all digital x-rays, as well as a low dose 3-D CT scan), you will have the opportunity to get all of your questions answered during a 30-minute private consultation. “Patients love the fact that we provide them with a comprehensive treatment plan that spells out exactly what will be done, how long it will take and how much it will cost,” says Sarah Damato, long time office manager. “Because we are so efficient, patients are often surprised at just how affordable this type of care can be – we even use technology to help our patients maximize insurance coverage for these services.” The best part is that IDS offers a $39 “Gift of Health” special that makes it affordable to discover what high-tech, holistic dentistry can do for you. Ingo Mahn | ingo@drmahn.com Are you a Facebook user? Sign up as a fan of MyNaturalDentist.com

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ourage is a big word. It represents strength and goodness and action in the face of fear. Courage looks like a firefighter running toward a burning building, intent on rescuing people inside. Courage sounds like a friend breathing deeply through a painful chemotherapy session. Courage feels like determination to bring healing to a hurtful situation. Courage builds a steadfast future on the circumstances of everyday bravery. Are you courageous? Most people answer with a kinda, sorta acknowledgment that sometimes they are and sometimes they are not. Thinking a little longer, it is not unusual for people to shrug a little bit and admit, mostly not. What causes so many of us to be mostly not courageous? The short answer is bad past experience. The longer answer is we have learned not to cross certain boundaries set forth by people who threaten harm of one sort or another. This unwillingness or inability to live in a courageous manner poisons our future as it chips away at the trust we so fervently want to plant in the present. Your courage is sorely needed today! Courage to tell the truth when you are pressured to stay silent. Courage to set high standards for yourself and invite others to meet you there in the face of social pressure to be ordinary. Courage to say no to behavior that leads to disappointment, heartbreak and broken trust. Living with courage is a daily challenge and, frankly, we are not always encouraged to do so. Rather, we are of-

ten encouraged to follow the crowd. To find a safe place sanctioned by a majority of peers, associates, friends and family members. When we stay silent after hearing gossip about a friend, we unwittingly strengthen the lie being told. When we don’t ask for what we want for fear of alienating or disappointing someone else, we live a private lie. When we acquiesce to an order given by someone more powerful even though we know it is the wrong thing to do, we pretend we are victims of a power structure. These lies eat away at our confidence. Accepted long enough, they help us believe there is nothing different we can do. This, too, is a lie. Everyday courage, though sometimes invisible, has a huge impact on life—yours and others’. Here are some little ways to practice everyday courage. Practice telling the truth. “I overheard what you said about me. Although it hurt me, I have decided to let it go.” Practice saying what you want. When a colleague asks where you want to have lunch, instead of saying, “I don’t care, you pick,” think about the food you would enjoy and suggest a restaurant that serves it. When your boss asks you for an opinion, consider what you think and why, then share it. If she rebukes you or belittles your point of view, recognize that the defect is with your boss, not with your opinion. Do not engage in battle; simply remind her that she asked for your opinion, not researched fact.

When your friends turn to you to settle a dispute that does not involve you, decline the invitation to mediate. Tell them they are smart enough and strong enough to work through it. In a million little ways each day, you have the opportunity to model quiet courage. Always consider what kind of action will make you proud of yourself. Notice the instances in which you display courage and give yourself credit. Pay attention to the times when you don’t act; notice the stories you tell yourself about why. When you begin to live your life in a confident, courageous way—not charging into burning buildings or taking on a raging beast of an enemy but going about your business with purpose—you give people around you permission to do the same. If enough people could learn to share what they see, tell us why they believe what they believe, and open themselves to learning from the experiences and beliefs of others, we stand a far greater chance of solving problems that trouble us all. We need your courage to help. l •••• Susan Marshall is an author and speaker whose book, “How to Grow a Backbone: 10 Strategies for Gaining Power and Influence at Work,” has been translated into multiple languages and is especially popular in Asia. Her work is dedicated to building strong leaders who create successful organizations, transform school systems, and develop leaders at all levels. You can reach her at (262) 567-5983 or susan@backboneinstitute.com November 2014 WISCONSIN WOMAN | 17

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he holiday season brings forth goodwill and, this is when many Americans think about donating to a charity. Unfortunately, at this time, many fraudulent charities come forward to capture this emotional connection. The average American will donate up to 4.7% of their income to charitable organizations. With charities becoming more involved in awareness and marketing campaigns, donating to the most effective charity can require some research. The Better Business Bureau (BBB) has a division known as the BBB Wise Giving Alliance which offers free reviews of thousands of charities. BBB Wise Giving Alliance applies 20 “accountability” standards to each charity in order to evaluate its validity. Any charity can also apply to become a BBB Accredited Charity. The charity is then thoroughly researched by BBB and, it meets all 20 benchmarks, it can then be designated as a BBB Accredited Charity.

If you decide to make charitable contributions, you should follow a set of guidelines that can tell you if your donation will be spent on a charity’s mission and not on other activities.

Donate to recognized charities with a history. Charities that spring up overnight in connection with a recent natural disaster, news story or during the holidays may disappear just as quickly with your donation. Even if the charity is well-meaning, it may lack the foundation to provide much assistance.

Be wary of charities with names that are similar to the names of well-known organizations. Phony charities use names that sound or look like those of respected, legitimate organizations to gain your trust. Verify the charity’s name, website and phone number to make sure you’re donating to a reputable organization. Give directly to the charity. Some charities hire professional fund-raisers to collect money on their behalf, keeping a portion of that money. When solicited over the phone, ask whether the person is a paid fund-raiser and, if so, what percentage of your donation will go to the charity. If you’re not comfortable with the amount, you may consider donating to a different organization or sending your gift directly to the charity.

Don’t give out personal information or cash contributions. Never give out your Social Security number and don’t give out bank account information or cash to anyone who solicits a contribution from you at your door or over the phone. Scam artists can use this information to commit fraud against you. For security and tax record purposes, when contributing by check or credit card, write the official name of the charity on your check. You can contribute safely online through many official charity websites. Look for signs that the site is secure — such as a closed padlock on the browser’s status bar — before you enter any personal information. When you are asked to provide payment information, the website URL should change from http to shttp or https, which indicates that the transaction is encrypted or secure. Ask for identification and written information when you’re approached in person. Ask the person for his/her name and ID from that charity. Written materials should include the name, address, and telephone number of the organization, and information about the charity’s mission, how your donation will be used, and proof that your contribution is tax deductible. Remember, when in doubt about a charity, go online to research the charity, make a phone call to confirm and if approached for a donation, contact the charity to find out if it is aware of someone soliciting contributions on their behalf. If you don’t feel comfortable giving to a charity or are unable to give a donation, consider volunteering for a favorite charity. Most charitable organizations will welcome your assistance.

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LIFESTYLE | A Man’s Perspective

The FUN of the FALL Season

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GENERATIONS | parent care

The Caregiving Experience WHY IS THE CAREGIVING EXPERIENCE DIFFERENT FOR EVERYONE?

id you ever notice that your caregiving experience is different than that of even a very close sibling or friend? Have you wondered why your father will not let anyone in to help with mom? Information from www.extension.org tells us that caregiving experiences are just as unique as the people involved. Each caregiver has different needs, feelings, challenges and rewards. And each family memberâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s relationship with the care receiver is unique, influencing expectations and the overall caregiver experience. Much has been learned about the differences in these experiences as the result of a growing body of research. For example: l Men tend to think about and approach caregiving differently than women. l Husbands and wives differ from adult children or other relatives in what they do, how they do it, how long they do it, and when they consider letting others help. Each of us forms personal expectations of ourselves as caregivers. These expectations are shaped by past experiences and observations, societal rules, our cultural heritage and our own family rules. Caregiving can affect us in multiple ways. It can cause changes in physical and emotional health, finances, and time available to participate in other family, social, work, leisure or community activities. Caregiving can be stressful at times. Yet, people who perform the same task may have very different experiences. One person might feel very uncomfortable emptying a commode, while someone else may not give it a second thought. Caregivers also experience different types and levels of stress over time. Rhonda Montgomery, PhD, has been studying family caregiving experiences for more than 20 years with her col-

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hat little things do you do to pinch pennies and avoid unnecessary spending? Perhaps you take the bus instead of a cab. Or perhaps you walk instead of taking the bus! Do you bring your lunch to work instead of buying it? Do you avoid pricey coffee shops and the lattes they offer in favor of the maybe free, or certainly less expensive, cup at the office? Everyone has a penny-pinching pet peeve, and you’re invited to add some comments at the end of this column. But whether you’re a millionaire who insists on flying coach instead of first class, or whether you cut the end off the toothpaste tube to get the last drop of product, you probably have your own ways of saving money. One of the most obvious everyday money hacks is your use of the ATM and your checking account. If you pay attention to the costs, you can save a small fortune in fees and charges — money that could go into savings or pay down your debt. So you get a double benefit from your actions, not only saving money but using those savings to improve your finances.

ATM FEES Would you walk around the block to get to your own bank’s ATM — even if it is raining? If you’re willing to take a few extra steps or drive a few blocks out of the way, you could save a small fortune on a regular basis. The combination of fees charged by both your own bank and the ATM owner really add up. A new survey by Bankrate Inc. says the average fee for using an out-of-network ATM is now $4.35 per transaction! That charge has increased every year, growing 5 percent over the past year, and up 23 percent over the past five years! If you live in Phoenix, you’re paying the nation’s highest average fee — $4.96 per out-of-network transaction — followed closely by Denver, San Diego, Houston and Milwaukee, which each average more than $4.65. But every institution in the Bankrate survey charges non-customers for usage, with the most common fee being $3.00. 26 | WISCONSIN WOMAN November 2014

This kind of fee is money down the drain. And you can easily avoid it. If you find yourself making too many out-ofnetwork transactions, you might even consider switching your checking account to an institution that has more ATM’s in more convenient locations. And never make a cash withdrawal for just a few dollars if you have to pay a fee. Remember, this is a “flat fee” — not a percentage of your withdrawal. So, if you simply must get cash, make it a significant amount. It still costs you money out of pocket, but it’s a far smaller percentage of the withdrawal!

OVERDRAFT FEES The second easily avoidable fee is the overdraft fee — something that banks count on for their profits! The Bankrate survey reports that the average overdraft fee set a new record high for the 16th consecutive year: It is now $32.74 for each overdraft! Not being able to subtract your balances is no longer an excuse for overdrafting — as you can easily go online to check your balance before paying a bill, or ask for a balance at the ATM before making a withdrawal. If you have automatic bill payment, you need to keep enough money in your balance to avoid those fees. Having an “overdraft” line of credit at the bank is not really the answer. Yes, they’ll extend that privilege — but at a cost. There is likely to be a fee of at least $15 per transaction for dipping into the overdraft, which is then put on a credit card account that charges very high interest rates if you don’t pay it off immediately.

CHECKING ACCOUNT FEES The third category of unnecessary fees is the monthly fee for your checking account. Most are easily avoided if you PARENT CARE CONT. FROM PAGE 25

volves a change in the way the person giving care views him or herself in relation to the person being cared for. This new role grows out of the earlier relationship between the two care partners.

THE CAREGIVING JOURNEY CHANGES YOU The caregiving role unfolds over time as the caregiver takes on greater responsibility, helping with everyday household affairs, personal care and decisions. Caregiving involves an identity change process. At some point, the person providing care begins to identify himself or herself as a caregiver in addition to being a wife, a son or other kind of relationship. The journey is different for each person in terms of when and how we begin to identify ourselves as caregivers. Caregivers who are providing assistance for a short period of time may never see themselves as a caregiver, while those providing care for years may see themselves and act more like a caregiver than spouse or adult child. This is reflected in a statement repeated by many adult children: “I feel as if I’m the parent now and not the child.” They have assumed a caregiving identity and lost their identity as an adult child to their parent. Personal rules and expectations play an important part in how we each feel about what we are doing in the caregiving role. Montgomery and Kosloski find caregivers experience increased levels of stress when a mismatch occurs between what they are doing and what they think they should

opt for direct deposit of your paycheck or keep a minimum balance required by the terms of the account, or if you have other accounts with the bank, such as an IRA CD. There are two types of checking accounts, with different fee structures. Those that don’t pay interest on the balances have an average monthly service fee of $5.26, according to Bankrate.com. But interest-bearing accounts have average monthly service fees of $14.76. Since interest paid on balances is so low, you might want to switch to a non-interest checking account. (The average minimum balance required to avoid fees on an interest-bearing account is $6,211 in the Bankrate survey.) But many financial institutions still offer free checking — and the competition is getting so crowded now that WalMart plans to offer this type of product. So it pays to check around for the best checking deal.

BETTER TO PAY ATTENTION, THAN TO PAY FEES Paying a lot of small fees adds up. Or better yet, it is all money down the drain. Those fees and charges make your money disappear as quickly as a grande non-fat latte. And you don’t even get a moment’s pleasure from the money spent! To search for the lowest-cost bank products, the most ATM’s and the best credit cards, just go to Bankrate.com and compare with the fees you’ve paid over the past few months. Changing money habits can help — but changing financial institutions is empowering. They think you’ll keep paying without paying attention. We can prove them wrong. That’s the Savage Truth. Terry Savage is a registered investment adviser and is on the board of the Chicago Mercantile Exchange. She appears weekly on WMAQ-Channel 5’s 4:30 p.m. newscast and can be reached at www.terrysavage.com.

be doing on behalf of the individual receiving care. Often, the source of distress is not the activity itself, but how the caregiver feels about it. The first step to lowering caregiver distress is to identify its source. Once this happens, caregivers can work toward reaching a new comfort level. A number of strategies have been shown to help reduce caregiver distress: l Adjusting or modifying the expectations we have of ourselves. l Changing what we are currently doing--perhaps by making room to let others help or by letting go of some current responsibilities. l Changing the way we view or judge our own actions.

SHARE YOUR CAREGIVING JOURNEY WITH OTHERS THROUGH RESEARCH Montgomery and Kosloski’s research on the differences in caregiving experiences continues to move forward with the help of a national caregiver registry called the League of Experienced Family Caregivers. The purpose of the League is to help create better services and resources to support family caregivers. Caregivers share their knowledge and insights by completing brief questionnaires in one of three ways--telephone interviews, mail-in surveys or online. More than 1,000 caregivers are currently enrolled. If you would like to join log on at: www.familycaregivers.uwm.edu or call toll free 800410-2586. November 2014 WISCONSIN WOMAN | 27

AT HOME | Recipes

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With its sweet simplicity and vibrant color, a garnish featuring California grapes can make your meal presentation even more enticing. Keep those mealtime traditions intact by serving favorites like Brussels sprouts, but pair them with sweet California grapes in a salad for the perfect balance of flavor and crunchy texture.

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A beloved side dish, such as cornbread dressing, will exceed all expectations with ingredients like red and green grapes, butternut squash, walnuts and pancetta. Complete the meal with a new twist on a trifle that results in a rich dessert worthy of any gathering for the holidays and beyond. For more ways to increase the freshness and flavor of your holiday meals, visit GrapesfromCalifornia.com, Facebook.com/GrapesfromCalifornia and Pinterest.com/GrapesfromCA. l

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PEANUT BUTTER AND GRAPE TRIFLE Servings: 14 1 (16-ounce) container nonfat vanilla Greek yogurt

8 tablespoons creamy peanut butter 2 tablespoons honey 1 (8-ounce) container lite whipped topping, divided 1 (16-ounce) store-bought pound cake, sliced into 1-inch cubes 3 cups red seedless California grapes, plus more for garnish 3 cups green seedless California grapes, plus more for garnish 1/4 cup honey-roasted peanuts, chopped (optional garnish) In medium bowl, stir together yogurt, peanut butter and honey until well combined. Gently fold in half of whipped topping. Set aside. In clear glass trifle dish or bowl, layer half each of pound cake cubes, peanut butter mixture, red grapes and green grapes. Repeat layers a second time and top with remaining whipped topping. Garnish with additional grapes (sliced in half) if desired, and chopped peanuts, if desired. Nutrition information per serving (with peanuts): 313 calories; 15 g fat (5 g saturated fat); 42% calories from fat; 8 g protein; 38 g carbohydrate; 1 g fiber; 73 mg cholesterol; 197 mg sodium; 206 mg potassium.

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LIFESTYLE | In Fashion

LIVING MY LIFE 10 MINUTES AT A TIME

don’t believe attending to your closet is a seasonal activity. I find it’s much easier (and enjoyable) to do a little something each day. We’re in our closets at least twice a day – we get dressed; we get undressed. Try taking an additional few minutes during these times to “curate” your wardrobe.

For instance – each of these tasks can be done in 10 minutes or less: z Make a quick pass to cull the things you haven’t worn in a season (or a year!). This is a no-brainer, right? Off to the consignment shop or Goodwill. z The holidays are upon us. Review your dressier things – do you have what you need for upcoming parties and entertaining? z At a glance, what aren’t you sure still fits and/or needs repair? Move those pieces to your bathroom and vow to try one piece on every morning as you are getting dressed. Once you have your alterations pile assembled, off to the seamstress! z Buy some padded hangers and switch out those garments that require a “soft shoulder.” z Roll your scarves – they take less room, don’t crease and you see them at a glance. Stack like colors together. z Organize by silhouette. But, again, don’t make it a big project. One day, gather all your jackets and put them together; the next day, blouses; the third day pants; the fourth day, skirts…you get the picture. z Then, organize by color. All black jackets together; all white blouses together. (This may point out that you never need to buy another black turtleneck for the rest of your life!) z Make sure you remove any not-in-season items from your main closet. (For instance, no tank tops in November). This gives you more room, and it’s easier to see “outfits” at a glance. z Invest in shoe trees. Or, keep shoes in shoe boxes and stuff with tissue to keep their shape. z Practice Zero-Population-Growth. You bought something new today? Decide which item in your closet will be donated or consigned. One in…one out! Be patient! It takes time to get organized, and it takes time to stay organized. But, an organized and curated closet can take an enormous amount of stress out of your life. I would go so far as to say your closet can be a source of joy. Start the journey…today…10 minutes at a time. l 30 | WISCONSIN WOMAN November 2014

Yours in (organized) fashion, Faye Wetzel Faye’s Women’s Boutiques in Brookfield and Mequon fayew@fayes123.com www.fayes123.com BE LOYAL.SHOP LOCAL

LIFESTYLE | Entertainment

November ACTIVITIES FOR ALL

RUNS & WALKS

November 27-Thanksgiving Day 2014 3RD ANNUAL Drumstick Dash-5K Miller Park – 8:30 a.m. Move your feet so others can eat! Use code: TURKEY when registering at DrumstickDashMilwaukee.com. CRAFT FAIRS

November 8 Summit Woods, 2501 Summit Ave. Waukesha, 10 a.m. – 2 p.m.

November 9 Brookfield East Holiday Art Fair Brookfield

November 22 Holiday Home Show & Craft Fair Wilson Common, 1400 & 1500 W. Sonata Dr., Milwaukee, from 9 a.m. – 2 p.m.

December 2 Holiday Craft Fair The Landmark, 1441 S. 68th St, West Allis

VOLUNTEERING

Wisconsin Humane Society Milwaukee, Ozaukee and Racine Looking for volunteers to foster baby and injured animals! Apply at wihumane.org.

Interfaith Milwaukee Have some free time to volunteer, visit interfaithmilw.org and see what fits your schedule.

Interfaith Waukesha RSVP program is looking for seniors to help tutor elementary and middle school students with reading and math once a week or more. Visit interfaithwaukesha. org for other programs that might fit your schedule. NON-PROFIT EVENTS

November 21 Milwaukee Birthright, Inc. annual meeting and auction WG’s Banquet Hall, 3200 S. 103rd St., Greenfield. Reservations are necessary, call 414-540-4837 for tickets ($50 per person).

November 28 Annual World’s Greatest Cookie Sale Country Springs Hotel – The Grand Ballroom Homemade holiday cookies and baked goods from over 25 participating non-profit organizations. All proceeds benefit the specific non-profit groups you purchase from. From 12 – 4 p.m.

HOLIDAY EVENTS

November 8 Veterans’ Day Parade Downtown Milwaukee, 11 a.m.

November 21 – 23 Holiday Folk Fair Wisconsin Exposition Center, State Fair Park, West Allis. Featuring the All Nations Theater with traditional music, dance performed by more than 25 cultural groups, opening and closing ceremonies, World Café and much more. www.folkfair.org

November 22 Milwaukee Holiday Parade Downtown Milwaukee Featuring marching bands, floats helium balloons and much more. Support the local Hunger Task Force and bring food for families and drop in the Roundy’s carts during the parade

November 27 – 30, Dec 5 – 31 Country Christmas Light Show Country Springs Hotel, Waukesha – visit the website at thecountrychristmas.com. HOLIDAY SHOPPING

Design Exchange Locations in Pewaukee and Hartland. Start looking for that gift that the stores no longer carry or are out of stock. Visit one of the locations and you just might find the gift you need or something much better!

Sundara Inn & Spa Wisconsin Dells Get that gift certificate of a spa treatment for the holiday season to give as a gift of pure relaxation.

Faye’s 1 & Faye’s 2 Get the look for the holiday season at one of the boutiques in Mequon or Brookfield.

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