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IN THIS ISSUE Choosing the Right Wedding Dress Finding Your Dream Venue One Table at a Time What’s for Dinner? Invitation Design For Your Sweet Tooth Top Five Things to Consider When Choosing Wedding Flowers Why We Love Engagement Shoots and You Will Too Wedding Photography: What to Expect on Your Wedding Day Wedding Music What’s Your Honeymoon Style? Creating Your Registry Vendor Directory

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Wedding Planner Vendor Contracts Who Pays For What Budget Breakdown Average Spending

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Planning Checklist Wedding Insurance Marriage License Announcements Changing Your Name

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DO I NEED A WEDDING PLANNER? No matter the size or budget, planning a wedding is a lot of work. Think of it as a part-time job on top of your regular job with much of the planning being tedious work, like reviewing contracts and making sure payments are made. Those are the types of things a wedding planner can help you with. Hiring a wedding planner doesn’t mean outsourcing your entire wedding. A wedding planner only handles what you want them to, so you can focus on the fun parts -- picking out your cake, working with the florist to design your bouquet -- and leave the boring stuff to someone else. Wedding planners have access to, and experience with, the vendors you need. While you can, and should, get recommendations from friends, and do your own research, wedding planners have networks of vendors with whom they have worked before. The planners will be able to match your vision with vendors who can make it happen, and steer you away from those who can’t. The staff provided by your venue to help your day go smoothly are invaluable, and they will have a network of preferred vendors that they can recommend, just don’t expect them to follow up with your florist to ensure they can get the flowers you want, or go with you to your dress alterations appointment. These are things that an independent wedding planner does. Your friends and family are not a substitute for a wedding planner, or even a “day of” coordinator. Their role is to be present to witness your marriage and take part in celebrating your new life together, not to be burdened with the responsibilities of managing your wedding. Most importantly, YOU should be relaxed and enjoying your wedding, not trying to make sure everything is in place and nothing is overlooked. This is your special day and it will happen only once. Investing in a planner will ensure you enjoy your wedding completely. Another benefit of hiring a planner is their ability to help you get centered and stay focused on what is important to you and your fiancé. Your planner will love to talk about your wedding. If your bestie is tired of hearing you talk about your big day, turn to your wedding planner who will be more than happy to listen and share advice based on years of experience.

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Vendor Contracts Before we get into the fun stuff like dresses, cakes and flowers, we want to take a moment to talk a little business. Every time you hire someone to do something for your wedding, get your agreement in writing. Go back and re-read that sentence again. Do not be intimidated by contracts. They are legal agreements put in place to explicitly state the terms and conditions of the work to be done, and protect both you and the vendor. Until you sign a contract and put down a deposit, you have no guarantee that vendors will hold the date of your wedding. After thoroughly reading through the contract the vendor shares with you, do not be afraid to negotiate. If your requests are reasonable, and the vendor won’t agree to them, do not hesitate to look elsewhere. Do not sign the contract unless you are 100 percent comfortable with it, and with the vendor. Then make sure both you and the vendor each have a signed copy for your records. Here are some things we recommend be included in the contract: • Names of all parties involved in the agreement • Date of the wedding • Times of all services - this should include the time the vendor should arrive, and when the vendor is expected to return for pick up if applicable • Detailed description of services • The deposit and final payment amounts, as well as the payment schedule • Contingency plans and substitutions • Cancellation and refund policy that specifies any refund you will receive if you cancel and what penalty the vendor will pay if they cancel Once signed, these contracts are legally binding documents. If your vendors fail to meet the terms of the contract, you could take them to court. But the same is true for the vendor. If you don’t hold up your end of the deal, they could take you to court as well. TEXOMABRIDEGUIDE.COM

WHO PAYS FOR WHAT The days of the bride’s family completely paying for the wedding are behind us, and the line of who pays for what is becoming less defined. More and more we are seeing the couple pay for their own wedding, particularly if they have lived on their own for some time. Here are some general guidelines. Feel free to follow them or stray from them based on what’s best for your financial circumstances.

THE BRIDE AND HER FAMILY

THE GROOM AND HIS FAMILY

Bridal attire and undergarments

Bride’s engagement and wedding rings

Church and reception site rental

Marriage license

Invitations, announcements and stationary

Rehearsal dinner

Cake, catering and reception beverages

Officiant’s fees and expenses

Photography

Bride’s bouquet and going-away corsage

Flowers for the church, reception and bridal party Corsages for the mothers and grandmothers Corsages for special helpers

Boutonnieres for the men of the wedding party

Music

Transportation expense for leaving the reception

Groom’s wedding ring

Wedding night accommodations and honeymoon

BUDGET BREAKDOWN

Once you have an idea of how much you can spend on your wedding, these percentages give you an idea of how most couples distribute those funds among the different aspects of their wedding:

Invitations

Flowers

Photography

Dress & Tux

Rings

10%

Ceremony

Entertainment

Transportation

Reception

10%

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AVERAGE SPENDING IN TEXOMA Once you have an idea of how much you would like to spend, you should consider which aspects of the wedding are most important to you. That will allow you to allocate more money to those while saving on other areas. In 2017, Texoma weddings cost an average of $20,106. To give you an idea of what things cost in Texoma, we gathered the average wedding spending in the counties of Grayson, Cooke, Fannin, Carter, Bryan, Love, Marshall, and Johnston. Keep in mind that not all couples include each of these in their wedding and these are averages.

Reception Venue

Invitations

Catering

Photographer

Transportation

Dress

Hair

Wedding Planner

Groomâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Attire

Favors

Make-Up

Live Band

Cake

Rehearsal Dinner

Reception DJ

His/Her Rings

Floral Design

Officiant

$3,268

$1,526

$64

$208

$378

$423/$727

$226

$4,224

$437

$2,630

$196

$1,581

$51

$516

$1,810

$1,147

$684

$194

Data from The Wedding Report, www.theweddingreport.com

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PLANNING CHECKLIST

There are many things to do, people to talk to, and things to buy when it comes to planning your wedding. We created this general timeline for brides who like the reminders or reassurance that they’re on track. A more extensive planning checklist including lists of everything you need for each micro-event within your wedding festivities is available for download on our website: texomabrideguide.com Sixteen to Nine Months Before

Five to Four Months Before

One Month

Book the rehearsal-dinner venue Check on printing of wedding invitations Order the cake Purchase shoes and start dress fittings Schedule hair and makeup artists Choose songs Plan welcome gifts

Phone invitees who haven’t submitted their RSVPs Get marriage license Mail rehearsal-dinner invitations Have final dress fitting Send out as many final payments as you can Confirm times for hair and makeup and vendors Assign reception seating Purchase parent and wedding party gifts Write vows, if necessary

Start a wedding folder Work out the budget Build your wedding party Settle on a head count Hire a planner, if desired Book the date and venues Book the officiant Research photographers bands, florists, and caterers

Eight Months Before Book the photographer and videographer Book entertainment Register Purchase your wedding dress Start meeting caterers Reserve block of hotel rooms for guests Launch a wedding website Seven to Six Months Before Purchase invitations and hire a calligrapher Plan your honeymoon Shop for bridesmaids’ dresses Meet with the officiant Send Save-the-Date cards Reserve structural and electrical necessities Book the florist Procure transportation Start composing a day-of timeline

Three Months Before Finalize the menu and the flowers Order favors, if desired Create a toast makers’ list Finalize readings Purchase the rings Finalize order of the ceremony and reception Print menu cards and programs Purchase undergarments and visit dressmaker for second fitting Send schedule to vendors Two Months Before Discuss locations and shots with photographer Review playlist with the band or the DJ Send invitations Touch base with vendors

Week of Reconfirm arrival times with all vendors Delegate small wedding-day tasks to friends and family members Send final timeline to bridal party Make arrangements for the dress to be delivered or pick it up yourself Supply photographer with a list of moments you want captured Set aside checks and tip envelope for vendors Send final guest count to caterer and venues Break in shoes Assemble welcome gifts and distribute

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CHOOSING THE RIGHT WEDDING DRESS Your wedding dress will set the tone for your entire wedding. Our best advice: say yes to your dress as early in your wedding planning process as possible. Not only will this relieve bridal stress, it also ensures that the dress will arrive on time and will have plenty of time for any needed alterations. Wedding dresses take time to produce, and most are manufactured overseas which can mean long shipping times and possible delays as it goes through customs. No matter your budget, shape, personal taste, wedding size, or wedding type, there is a perfect dress out there just waiting for you to find it. Be sure to make appointments at any bridal shop you wish to visit. Plan to visit several since they carry different designers and styles. Above all, don’t forget to bring along your mom, your fiancé’s mom and your best gal pals!

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Before you head to your local bridal shop, favorite bridal store chain, or bridal warehouse, take a moment to consider the theme and location of your wedding as well as your own personal, everyday style. This will help you narrow your search. For example, a princess wedding dress with a long train may be beautiful, but not well-suited to a breezy destination wedding on the beach. Strapless wedding dresses may fit the standard idea of what you think a bridal dress should be, but the time of year or location of your venue may make wedding dresses with straps, sleeves, or a jacket more practical. While considering these factors will certainly help you narrow the field, the most important factors in trimming down your search are your personal style and which silhouettes make you feel the most confident. If you hate lace, and curve-hugging dresses make you feel self-conscious, it is probably safe to assume that all lace-covered, form fitting wedding dresses can be crossed off the list. You want to look beautiful and bridal on your wedding day, but you also want to be comfortable and feel like yourself. If you don’t already know what types of dresses highlight your favorite parts and conceal those that you aren’t that fond of – an easy place to start is by determining the best fit for your body type. HOURGLASS

You have a full bust and hips with a smaller waistline. A-line/Princess Mermaid/Trumpet Sheath

TALL AND THIN

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You are proportional through the bust and hips with an undefined waistline.

Your shorter height is proportional to your smaller bust, hips, and waistline.

Ball Gown A-line/Princess Mermaid/Trumpet Empire Waist

Column/Sheath A-line/Princess Empire Waist

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You have a full bust in relation to your small hips.

You have a small bust in relation to full hips.

You have a fuller bust, hips, and waist.

Ball Gown Mermaid A-line/Princess Empire Waist

Ball Gown A-line/Princess Empire Waist

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WHAT TO EXPECT AT THE BRIDAL SALON

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Wedding dress shopping can be one of the most exciting times in a bride’s life – but it can also be one of the most overwhelming. There are so many types of wedding dresses to choose from nowadays that all that excitement can quickly turn into anxiety. From classic princess wedding dresses to the modern mermaid wedding dress, romantic lace wedding dresses to flowy wedding dresses in dreamy chiffon – how is a bride to choose? The first step to finding the answer is to arm yourself with information about the different styles of wedding dresses, how they add to the overall look and feel of your wedding day, and, most importantly, how they look and feel on you. GUIDE | WINTER/SPRING 2018

Do some research on the shop before you go for a visit to get an idea of the sizes a shop carries. Wedding dresses are notoriously small fitting, and bridal shops only carry sample sizes. The most popular sample sizes are usually 8-10 (in wedding dress size), so be prepared to ignore the number. Depending on your size and shape, you may have to be clipped into a dress. You may have seen some pictures as you’ve been browsing styles online, but your consultant will take giant butterfly clips and secure the dress to better fit your shape. Or, if the dress is on the smaller side (which is totally normal!), they can clip a piece of fabric, sometimes referred to as a modesty panel, in the back to help cover you up when you leave the dressing room to stand in front of the mirror and your guests. Don't expect to find your dream dress on your first appointment. Initial appointments tend to be about an hour long, during which you can expect to try on a selection of different gowns. Keep an open mind and try different styles, even if you think you might not like them; you’ll be surprised at what suits you and what doesn’t. Boutique consultants will listen to your desires, but are also well versed in finding dresses that compliment your body shape, wedding theme, and most importantly, your personality. We don’t recommend taking too many people with you. Two to three people for your first couple appointments is plenty. Bridal salons tend to be crowded anyway, and you want everyone to be comfortable because they’re going to be sitting and waiting on you. After you arrive, browse the show room to get an idea of the selection. When it is time for your appointment, your consultant will put you in a dressing room and ask you to strip down to your underwear while they go collect dresses for you to try on. When the consultant returns with your first round of dresses, she will help you put them on. Depending on the style, you can step into the dress or the consultant will put it over your head. The consultant will be very discreet, so try not to feel self-conscious about a stranger seeing you in your underwear. Keep in mind that they are used to seeing ladies of all shapes and sizes so focus less on them and more on the dresses you are trying on.

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WHAT TO WEAR TO THE SALON What you wear under the dress can make a huge difference in how the dress fits and looks. Before heading to the bridal salon to find your dress, put some thought behind the type of under-things you’re going to need for your wedding day. BRA Even if you think you want straps on your gown, you'll likely still end up trying on a dress or two without straps, or with a different neckline. We recommend wearing or bringing a strapless bra with you. This will help you see what the dresses look like without your bra straps in the way. It's fine to go out and shop for a new bra after you've found the dress, but avoid bringing or wearing an old one that is falling apart and doesn’t make the girls look their best. You can put it back on when you get home. We understand. UNDERWEAR A marathon of trying on wedding dresses isn't the time to be distracted by panty lines or the peek of hot pink lace. Don’t go completely granny panty on us, but wear a simple pair of underwear. Something close to your skin-tone if you have it. You’ll thank us later.

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SHAPEWEAR If you’re considering using shapewear under your dress, bring that with you to your dress consultations. Not all dress fabrics work well with shapeware, it’s best to learn what works and what doesn’t before you make your decision. SHOES We recommend bringing along a pair of shoes that are a similar height to what you plan on wearing on the big day. Most bridal boutiques have shoes you can borrow when trying on dresses, but we prefer something we own rather than something that doesn't fit, isn’t the correct height, or isn't your style.

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CLEANING & PRESERVATION Most wedding gowns take quite a beating on the day of the wedding. Gowns can acquire numerous types of stains from the floor, sand, water, food, and who knows what else throughout the day that are invisible to the eye! Sugar stains are the most common and don’t pose a problem until later if not properly cleaned. Tequila, Chardonnay, and soda are the most common threats. An educated and seasoned dry cleaner will know the difference between these stains and the appropriate steps to remove them, including the stains we cannot see. There are 2 types of preservation: sealed and unsealed. And they’re pretty much what they sound like. Sealed preservation is the most inexpensive, but you wind up with a dress in a box with a tiny little window you can see through. Opening the box voids the warranty, so you can’t check the dress to make sure it wasn’t damaged in the cleaning process. Or you won’t know if the dress gets damaged over time in the box until it could be too late. That’s why we recommend the unsealed method of preservation. It’s similar to what museums around the world use to store delicate historical artifacts, so we know there has to be something right going on. The dress is placed in a stable polypropylene box that has no window. Light is one of the biggest causes of damage, so it makes sense that you’d want to keep the light out. The gown is layered with special archival tissue paper and wrapped in muslin. The tissue and muslin act as filters to protect the gown from light, humidity, and dust. The tissue will also absorb any acid near or on the gown, preventing it from turning yellow. Keep in mind that you get what you pay for. The sealed method is about half the cost of the unsealed method. If keeping your dress in like-new condition is a priority, it’s worth it to spend the extra money to make sure the preservation is done well. Not all gowns are the same and a good dry cleaner will ask to see the gown first before giving a proper quote. Most gowns will run between $150-$300 to clean properly. Once your gown is cleaned and preserved, it’s up to you to store it safely. Temperature and humidity changes can wreak havoc on the dress, so garage, attic, or basement storage is discouraged. We recommend finding space in a closet, under a bed, or in a guest bedroom somewhere. Don’t have room in your tiny little apartment? Try asking your Mom or your new Mother-in-law if she can help you store the dress. TEXOMABRIDEGUIDE.COM

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TUXEDO OR SUIT? Today’s less formal weddings often seem suited (see what we did there?) to a more casual approach to men’s wear. A black tuxedo with a starched white shirt and cufflinks is always a classic and perfect for a formal event, but don’t forget how good your man looks in a suit. If you know where to look, you can get a nice suit on sale for about the same cost as renting a tuxedo. Tuxedo rental businesses have caught onto this less formal trend and are now offering more casual options for rent. This rental option may be less stressful than coordinating six men to go shopping together to ensure they get the same slacks.

RENT OR BUY? This question comes up repeatedly. Sure, it is more expensive to purchase a tuxedo, but you do end up with a custom fit that may pay for itself over time. To help you decide, think about how often you will have the opportunity to wear a tuxedo. If you’re coordinating with the rest of the wedding party, rent. Don’t be worried about the tuxedos looking cheap or worn out. Reputable locations rent high quality, well-constructed garments made specifically to withstand a lot of use and dry-cleaning without wearing out. Don’t forget to rent shoes!

RENTING A TUXEDO The way tuxedo rentals used to work involved being measured, picking up your tux the day before the wedding, and hoping everything fits and looks nice. For most of us, this involved a trip to the Dallas area to visit the store, and then coordinating who would make the trip after the wedding to return all the rentals. If something didn’t fit or was missing, resolving the issue could be a headache and usually involves another drive to Dallas. Online tuxedo rental companies are part of a growing market of direct-to-consumer, online retailers that are working to improve the experience of shopping for or renting formal clothing and accessories. The process of renting a tux online is still about the same as the in-store experience. About three months before the wedding, the couple getting married will pick out the style they want and inform the wedding party where to send their measurements. The best part- everything happens online and through the mail. To help those of us who don’t take measurements every day, most of the online sites have a tutorial system to help renters measure their own lengths and widths. The online rental companies mail out the tuxedos two weeks before the wedding to give everyone a chance to make sure everything fits and is in tip-top shape. Typically, garments from the online companies have a much shorter rental life, usually less than 20 wears, than the traditional stores. If something doesn’t fit right, send it back for a different size. The return process is just as simple- each renter can drop their tuxedo in the mail using the provided prepaid label. Another great benefit of using an online tuxedo rental company is that they’ll help you get in touch with everyone and make sure they’ve done their part. So that friend who always procrastinates will be reminded that their measurements are due, and you won’t have to lift a finger! TEXOMABRIDEGUIDE.COM

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The groom should be the best dressed of all the men in the wedding party. If the photographer can’t tell the groom from a groomsman, a guest, his father in law, or a waiter, you’re doing it wrong. Outfit your groomsmen so they complement the groom without identically matching.

GROOMING THE GROOM Hair: Right before your wedding is not the time to experiment with a new haircut. Get your hair cut two weeks before your wedding day and then plan for a trim the day before - nobody likes excessive neck hair. Nails: Consider a manicure…. just this once! On your wedding day, people will focus on your hands more than they will during any other moment of your life. Yes, we realize this is weird and rather uncomfortable, but who knows? You may like it. Facial Hair: If you’re going for a more rugged look, trial and error is really the only way to assess beard growth and the right amount of stubble. Several months before your wedding day, shave a few times and take note of how long, on average, it takes for you to get the look you want. Or the look that the bride wants. 24

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FINDING YOUR DREAM VENUE There is an adage that is as true for weddings as it is for real estate: Location, Location, Location. Picking your Texoma area wedding venue is important and should be one of the first items if not the first item - on your wedding planning to-do list. After all, isnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t your wedding just as big of an investment and as important of a life event as purchasing real estate? We think so. TEXOMABRIDEGUIDE.COM

Your wedding venue sets the tone for the entire day, and most importantly, helps you choose and/or secure the date for your big day. It can also influence other important factors on your wedding to-do list, such as theme, style, cost, number of vendors, and the amount of work you, personally, must put into the wedding. This can all create a lot of pressure and stress when you think about venue selection - but not to worry! The Texoma Bride Guide has broken all this information down into with helpful steps and put together plenty of information to assist you with narrowing down your options.

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WHEN TO BOOK YOUR WEDDING VENUE

Honestly, if you’re reading this, the answer is probably now. Both ceremony and reception venues can book up a year or more in advance, so if you want a venue that you like, can actually afford, is in the chosen location, is convenient for your guests, has your preferred date available, and isn’t already booked - securing a venue is your first priority.

CHOOSING YOUR WEDDING DATE

Many couples decide their wedding date based on any number of sentimental reasons: a dating anniversary, when they first met, a romantic holiday, a parent or grandparent’s anniversary. This is a lovely thought, and one you should stick to if it’s really important to you and your partner. However, it may restrict your venue selection. For example, let’s pretend you had your heart set on a September wedding, but you love a venue that is not available until June of the following year. You will either have to compromise on your date or find a different venue. It all depends on your priorities. It is a good idea to discuss and decide your wedding planning priorities with your partner before officially booking any venue. It is also important to remember that your wedding date isn’t officially reserved until you sign the venue contract, and, in most cases, not until you pay the deposit.

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TWO DIFFERENT VENUES, OR ONE VENUE If you want to have a religious ceremony in the church where you grew up, but the church doesn’t have the facilities to support the type of reception you want, you will want to find a separate reception venue. If getting married in a church isn’t a priority, there are plenty of options in Texoma with beautiful ceremony sites and plenty of space for you and your guests to party the night away. If you do choose two venues, map out the logistics of how you and your guests will travel from the ceremony to the reception, and plan to provide transportation for the bridal party at a minimum. Parking is also something to consider as many cars shift from one location to another.

INDOOR OR OUTDOOR

Rustic, outdoor weddings have become a popular trend in the last few years. If you have your heart set on an outdoor wedding, please keep two things in mind: the weather and a backup plan. We know it is obvious, but planning an outdoor wedding in Texoma in the heat of the summer is not something we would recommend. In case of bad weather, make sure your venue has a building or other covered space that could be used or plan to rent a tent. Keep in mind that rented tents do not look like camping tents or the awnings you see over cookouts at the park. They are large structures that can be accessorized with other rental items such as lights, fabric, and floor coverings, and truly rival any indoor space. Other things to keep in mind when planning an outdoor wedding include bugs, a power source, restroom facilities, accessibility. The more rural the location, the more amenities you will have to provide.

THE CEREMONY VENUE

THE RECEPTION VENUE

The ceremony venue is arguably one of the most important aspects of your wedding, as this is the place where you and your fiancé will be married in front of your friends and family. While you want it to be special and reflective of your love for each other, there are some logistical things to consider before booking the ceremony venue.

You’ll want to ensure that your reception venue has enough room to accommodate all your guests comfortably as well as the activities you’ve planned for your wedding reception. As you look around, try to envision the way the space would be used. In addition to places for guests to eat and mingle, consider the space and layout needed for the cake, gifts, dance floor, photo booth, etc.

Think about how you want your ceremony to flow. Is having a center aisle for you to walk down to your fiancé at the beginning of the ceremony important? Where will your attendants stand? Will you be kneeling at any time in your ceremony? Is there space for musical accompaniment? Make sure the ceremony space can accommodate your vision for your ceremony.

Learn about the restrictions and rules associated with the venue. If you absolutely love the venue, knowing these restrictions will help you incorporate them into your vision for your day. For example, if the reception must end at 9 p.m. sharp because of noise restrictions but you want to dance the night away, consider having an after-party elsewhere to keep the festivities going. TEXOMABRIDEGUIDE.COM

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Is there, or can you set-up, a coat room?

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Are there others looking to rent your venue on our date?

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Are candles or open flames allowed?

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What is the facility rental fee, and what is included in that fee?

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Does the site have any noise or music restrictions?

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What is the length of the facility rental? Are there overtime fees if the wedding reception lasts longer?

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For outdoor weddings, what is the alternative plan if it rains?

Will there be another event on the site during, before or after ours? If so, how will this impact our event?

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When can we get into the facility to begin decorating for the wedding?

What on-site staff do you provide for the day of the wedding?

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What type of clean-up is required?

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What is the required deposit and when is it due?

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Is there a fee for security personnel?

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When is the balance on the facility fee due?

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Will there be enough parking for my guests?

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What is the cancellation policy?

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Are there changing rooms for the bridal party?

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Are there picturesque locations for photos, both inside and out?

Is there an in-house caterer or a list of preferred caterers? If so, are they exclusive caterers, or can we bring in our own?

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Do you have an in-house pianist or organist that we could use?

Are there on-site kitchen facilities? What do they include?

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Is there a podium and/or a microphone? Is there a sound system?

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KEEPING TRACK OF YOUR VISITS TO WEDDING VENUES As you tour venues, create a system to keep track of your notes and the different options available at each site. We recommend putting together a spreadsheet that allows you to organize your notes and review them without going crazy. Make note of the capacity, venue type, layout, rates, restrictions, parking, facility extras and catering options.

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TRANSPORTATION When making plans for wedding transportation, you will want to consider all the different places people will be moving between. Will you need to move people from the getting ready location, to the ceremony and then to the reception? Who will you be providing transportation for? You will want to make sure your important guests, such as parents, grandparents and the wedding party, have a way to get around. You don’t necessarily have to rent a limo to for them to ride in, but make sure there is a plan to get them from one place to another. Hiring professional transportation is one way to ease the stress of coordinating rides or worrying about designated drivers. If parking is going to be an issue at your wedding venue, consider renting a party bus to move guests. Most planning checklists recommend booking your transportation at least four months in advance. However, if you’re getting married during prom and graduation season, you will want to book your transportation even earlier due to demand. As with all vendors you’re hiring for your wedding, be sure to get all of the details in writing from your transportation company. You will want to confirm that the company is licensed and insured. This means the drivers have received the proper training and the vehicles meet all the legal requirements for operation.

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What car types, sizes and colors do you have available?

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What does the driver wear?

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What amenities do your vehicles have?

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What does the your insurance policy cover?

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What are you cancellation and refund policies?

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ONE TABLE AT A TIME Remember all of those amazing photos you have seen of your venue? The space did not start out the day looking like that. Most likely, the majority of those items were rented. It takes a keen eye for colors, textures, and lighting to create the look and feel you see in those photos. Weâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ve got a few pointers to help even the most un-stylish have a beautifully styled wedding.

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Don’t make any assumptions that your venue comes with anything. If you’ve booked a raw space, get ready to rent everything down to the bathrooms. Please don’t forget those or you’ll have some unhappy guests. If you’re planning an outdoor event, it goes without saying, you will need to make sure you have a backup plan. Be sure to have a tent or other covering on standby to ensure the comfort and safety of your guests. If you’re lucky, your venue comes with chairs and tables, maybe even cloths for those tables. Those chairs are probably standard folding chairs, and the tablecloths are probably white. Your caterer may provide standard white plates and unremarkable flatware. All of that is fine, but why not glam it up a bit? From a photography point of view, consider the two most photographed spaces of the day: the altar where you say your vows and the head table at the reception where the married couple sit and where the toasts are usually given. Instead of spending your money on tiny details like custom candy or elaborate escort cards, we recommend investing in something that will not only enhance the feel of your wedding but will really enhance your images as well! Couples are often afraid to even dream about rentals because they assume it will be outside their budget, but it’s more affordable than you may think. You can rent crowd-pleasers such as cotton candy makers and popcorn machines for a late night snack. If the weather is going to get cooler when the sun sets, propane space heaters are always a nice thing to have on hand for outdoor spaces.

RENT OR BUY?

DELIVERY & SET UP

Ah, this question again. You did read the section on Groom’s Attire, didn’t you? The idea is the same, but on a much larger scale. One of the main benefits of renting: storage. Sure, you can buy 15 teal tablecloths, but what are you going to do with them after the wedding? You can take the time to sell them online, but at the end of the day, it may end up being cheaper (and less hassle) to rent them.

Delivery and set-up before the event, and pick-up after the event, are just as important as the rental items themselves. When selecting your venue, think about the items you’ll want to rent and where they will go. This will help you determine how difficult it will be to get the items delivered and set up at the venue. It is also important to have an idea of how long set-up and tear-down will take. This may impact your venue rental time.

Rental companies have an amazing collection of goods they’re more than happy to let you use for your event. Companies that specialize in event rentals have high quality items that are in great shape. These items get cleaned after every event, and are replaced once they start looking less than their best. Remember to order 3 or 4 more of pretty much everything than you think you will need. It is always better to have extra chairs than to make a guest stand because you don’t have enough. Talk to your vendors, particularly your caterer, about other types of rentals you might need.

Be sure to find out when rental items need to be removed from the venue after the reception and who is responsible for getting them back to the rental company. Assign someone in the bridal party to oversee this task on your wedding day, even if the rental company is responsible for picking up the items. Follow up with your rental company to finalize your rentals two to three months before your wedding.

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GOBOS

A gobo is a custom-designed template that is placed in front of a light source to control the shape of the emitted light. You can project shapes on walls to reinforce your theme, or even shine your new monogram on the dance floor!

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LIGHTING If you’re using a DJ, they may bring their own lights for the dance floor, but there are other ways to use lights to add color and ambiance to your wedding. String lights and bistro lights add a bit of romance to any space, and “up” lights can be used to add a splash of color along walls and architectural elements. You might even consider putting a spotlight on your cake!

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WEDDING INSURANCE The day has finally arrived. It’s your wedding day! You’ve been planning this event down to the very last detail for over a year and nothing could go wrong. Except when it does. Best case scenario, it rains on your big day and you must rent an expensive tent for your outdoor ceremony and reception at the last minute. Worst case scenario, someone drinks too much at your reception, drives under the influence, gets in a crash, and ends up suing you. Wedding insurance exists to protect your investment in your big day from circumstances beyond your control. We also recommend that you check with each of your vendors to see if they have their own insurance so you don’t pay for overlapping coverage. There are two different types of wedding insurance available, which provide different types of protection for you, your venue, and your wedding. Be sure you understand the differences: Wedding Liability Insurance: Some venues require couples to purchase this for protection in the event of injuries, property damage or alcohol-related accidents. Cancellation/Postponement Insurance: In case of unpredictable illness, inclement weather, no show vendors, damage to gifts or to the bride’s dress, etc. Please note that the above statement is for informational purposes only. All statements are subject to the provisions, exclusions, and conditions of the applicable policy. For an actual description of all coverages, terms, and conditions, please speak with an insurance agent.

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From plated dinners to food trucks set up outside the reception venue, the options for feeding your wedding guests are growing every day. We recommend tackling this to-do fairly early in your planning process just because the best caterers tend to book up well in advance. Don’t assume that your catering costs as are going to be similar to costs at a restaurant. In most cases, it’s always more expensive because catering is personalized to your tastes. If your venue comes with a caterer or if you’re using an outside caterer, meet with the person who will be providing food for your wedding. Talk with them about your wedding plans, sample some of the dishes they recommend, and get comfortable that this caterer will truly treat your guests well. Most caterers will offer a few selections for you to try to get an idea of what they recommend for your event. This tasting is definitely on our list of our favorite things about planning a wedding. A buffet dinner is most likely going to be the most economic way to serve all your wedding guests a good meal without blowing your budget. Interactive food stations set up around the reception room are a trend with weddings right now. These stations are usually hosted by a chef or member of the catering staff to help your guests customize their selections. Having these stations spread out keeps down the line of guests waiting for food. However, one of the quickest ways your catering bill can add up is for the labor your catering company provides to the event. Take a close look at how many servers, chefs, or other staff they have allocated to your event on the invoice, and ask your caterer if there’s any way to cut down those costs. It can be as simple as opting for stationary instead of tray-passed appetizers.

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SERVING ALCOHOL If you are planning on serving alcohol at your wedding, you will want to bring this up with your reception venue as you are touring to get an understanding of their policies. Some venues require couples to hire their own bartender and an off duty police officer for security. Others will provide one or the other. If your caterer can offer bartending services, then try to work a deal into your catering package. It may be more economical to supply your own alcohol if your venue allows it, even if they charge a corkage fee. If you’ve ever ordered a drink in a restaurant, you know that mark-ups on alcohol are quite steep, so you’re better off stocking the bar yourself, if that’s an option. The cost of providing alcohol to your guests should not be overlooked or underestimated. Purchasing alcohol in bulk from Costco or Sam’s is an economical choice for couples who want to spend be mindful of their alcohol budget. But the costs still add up. One way to minimize alcohol costs is to only serve beer and wine, but if your heart is set on serving liquor, having a signature cocktail or two on your menu is an economical option. This is also an appropriate moment to bring up insurance. Anyone serving alcohol needs to have liability insurance, including a the caterer. If your wedding guests leave your party after taking advantage of the open bar and injure themselves, a third party or damage property, you could be held responsible. Liability insurance will minimize how much you’ll have to pay if something goes wrong.

Be sure that you and your new spouse take the time to eat during the reception! You’ve got a night full of dancing and merriment ahead of you so you’re going to need the food!

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QUESTIONS TO ASK •

Can you provide examples of suggested menus and prices?

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Considering our needs and budget, what suggestions do you have?

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When is the deadline for making menu selections?

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Are you familiar with our wedding site?

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Do you have any kitchen requirements?

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Do you have a minimum? If so, how much?

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Are tax and gratuities extra?

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Does the cost cover set-up before the reception and clean-up following?

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How long will the food be available to guests?

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What happens to any leftover food?

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What are your deposit and cancellation policies?

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Do you provide staff to serve, refresh the buffet, tidy up used dishes, etc.?

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Do you supply and serve beverages? What type, and is there an extra fee for this service? Are you licensed to serve alcohol?

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What is the deadline for the final guest count?

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Do you provide linens, dishes, cutlery, service items? Are there different options for me to select?

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Are you able to handle special requests such as food allergies, special diets, kids menu, etc.?

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Will you cut the cake and supply plates and forks? Is there an extra fee for this?

FEEDING YOUR VENDORS You should plan to feed any wedding professional who will be there with you at the reception. This includes your photographer, videographer, DJ and band at a minimum. Before you sign contract with your vendors, make sure you understand what the vendor is expecting to be fed. Some vendors are okay with not being served the same meal that guests will receive. Talk to your caterer about what they offer for vendor meals. Sometimes it is included in your catering fee, while other times it is at a lower price than food for your guests, depending on what is offered. When you’re confirming your final guest count, be sure to give your caterer the final count for vendor meals, too. Find your caterer at tbgvendors.com/catering TEXOMABRIDEGUIDE.COM

While most aspects of your wedding don’t follow a strict set of rules, your invitations do. However, keep in mind that knowing the rules and proper etiquette will also give you the tools and knowledge to bend them just a little to suit your needs. The presentation of information on your invitations can vary widely based on your style, colors and theme but all the basic pieces still need to be there.

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INVITATION DESIGN Although subtle, your invitation is the first clue that your guests will get as to the formality of your wedding. A traditional letter press printed invitation with simple colors and addressed with calligraphy would be used for a wedding that is more formal in nature, whereas a square invitation with a playful font and bright colors would fit a more casual celebration. Regardless of design, many couples still use formal wording on their invitations. The lifetime commitment you’re making in front of your family and friends is a significant event, and most couples approach the ceremony with decorum. It is also to be mindful of the costs associated with mailing non-standard sized envelopes. Post offices have machines that can only process certain envelope sizes, generally rectangles that are a minimum of 3.5 by 5 inches to a maximum of 6.125 by 11 inches. If your envelopes are a non-standard shape, for example square, you may end up paying a surcharge, usually around 20 cents per envelope, for hand-processing.

Keep in mind that the size of your guest list does not equal the number of invitations you will be sending out. Don’t make the mistake of ordering double, or even triple the number of invitations because you didn’t pay attention.

BUYING POSTAGE

Before purchasing stamps, take an assembled invitation to the post office and have it weighed. Inserts can add additional weight, or unusually shaped envelopes will require extra postage. Skipping this step could result in your invitations being returned for insufficient postage. This would throw your entire timeline off because the invitations would arrive late, plus you’d have to purchase new envelopes, re-address them and purchase the correct postage to send them out again. Take our advice, and get your envelopes weighed. Once you are sure you know how much it will cost in postage to mail your invitations, you can look in to purchasing wedding-themed stamps. It’s certainly not required, regular stamps will work, but adds a special touch to your envelopes! TEXOMABRIDEGUIDE.COM

THE ANATOMY OF A WEDDING INVITATION Most brides and grooms opt for formal wording on their wedding invitations, but if your wedding is more casual, feel free to loosen up the wording. The structure of your invitation will change depending on who is hosting the wedding, but there are a few things that should not be compromised: Include both your and your fiancé’s full names in the invitation. With a more formal invitation, also include the full names of the hosts. Make sure to include the year, month, day, and time of your wedding! The invitation should have the name of the location as well as a specific address. Now that your guests have the essential information, there are a few additional details they might need: Most will appreciate direction on attire, and it is important to include if you want a specific style for your wedding. Directions to the venue, details about accommodations, and the types of activities at your wedding reception are also recommended. Your invitation ensemble can include any extra information, such as a directions card, along with the RSVP card and the invitation itself.

Although there are many ways to create invitations, some things never change. For example, you should not include your gift registry information on your save the dates or invitations. Your family and wedding party can fill in any inquisitive guests, and you can also put in on your personal wedding website if you have one. Speaking of wedding websites, it is perfectly acceptable to put the link on your save the dates, just not your invitations.

“CAN’T I JUST SEND OUT AN E-VITE OR CREATE A FACEBOOK EVENT?” We know putting on a wedding is expensive, and sending invitations via email or another internet platform is basically free. Most etiquette gurus still recommend paper wedding invitations. They tend to set the tone, establish expectations and specifically state who is invited to the wedding. This can be hard to do with electronic invitations. There are also a large number of places you can purchase pre-designed invitations and print them at home to help stretch your budget. 44

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THE IMPORTANCE OF THE RSVP As the RSVP’s start pouring in, you will want to have a system developed to keep track of them! Make sure to note how many guests confirm their attendance because your vendors will want an accurate headcount a few days before the wedding. If serving a plated meal, include food options on your RSVP cards so that guests can make their selection. Tracking the number of guests is especially important if you’re paying for cake or food per person. Before you mail your invitations, count and number your guest list and assign each RSVP card a number accordingly. If a guest forgets to fill out the line for their name before returning it to you, the number on the card will help you know who has RSVP’d and who hasn’t! Be careful not to make the numbering too obvious. If you want to make things easier for your guests, consider pre-addressing and stamping your RSVP cards! If you’re still missing a few response cards at the deadline, go ahead and place some calls. It’s easy to get annoyed and frustrated at the lack of response, but don’t let that show. Politely ask if they’ll be attending, reminding them that the vendors need to know the number of guests by a certain date. Remember that it never fails that you will end up with an unexpected guest or two, so we recommend adding a few additional people to your head count if you can’t get in touch with everyone.

Always include a postage stamp with the reply card of your wedding invitations. Do not expect guests to supply their own stamp.

TIMING Ideally, you should send your wedding invitations eight weeks before your wedding. This gives your guests plenty of time to clear their schedules and make travel arrangements. Request that RSVP’s be returned by two to three weeks before the wedding. This allows you to know how many guests to expect before crunch time! If you’re having a destination wedding, give your guests more time to make arrangements by mailing invitations three months before the wedding. If you’re sending out save the dates, mail them six to eight months before the wedding so that calendars can be marked and there will be no surprises when the actual invitations arrive. Just make sure that everyone who receives a save the date also receives an invitation.

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ENVELOPES It may seem strange, but you’ll need two envelopes for your invitations. The outer envelope is for mailing purposes, and the inner envelope holds your invitation ensemble. The outer envelope is formally addressed only to those who are invited to attend the wedding, but the inner envelope is a bit less formal and includes just the first names of invited guests. Just like for every other part of your wedding, there are some recommendations when dealing with the outer envelope: •

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Spell out all house numbers that are less than 20

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The return address should go on the back flap of the envelope, and can be handwritten, embossed or stamped

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RSVPs and gifts will be sent to the return address on the invitation envelope, so if you’d rather use different address, write it below the RSVP line on the invitation

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Self-address the return envelope for the RSPV, don’t rely on your guests to do this for you

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FOR YOUR SWEET TOOTH As you browse Pinterest and wedding sites looking at cake designs, start to gather inspiration. Take a close look at the cake designs that resonate the most with you. Are you in love with the idea of a rustic buttercream cake decorated with fresh flowers, or does an ornate cake covered in fondant make you sigh? To help you decide which bakeries to visit, look at their websites and social media to see what aligns the most with what you are looking for. When you meet with the bakers, bring along pictures of the designs you like, and even pictures of those you don’t. Designers aren’t mind readers and this will help them get a clear understanding of the look you’re going for. Don’t expect them to copy the design outright. Allow them artistic license to incorporate your personalities and their creativity into the final product.

WHAT TO SERVE Not really a cake person? Serve pie. Love ice cream? Set up a make-your-own sundae bar. Cake is the traditional wedding dessert, with everyone waiting with baited breath to see if the groom is going to smash the cake all over his new wife’s face, but there is no rule anywhere that says you must serve cake. Many couples who want to serve a wedding cake alternative, yet still want the traditional cake cutting, will order a small cutting cake for the reception. Remember, this is your special day, everything about it should reflect you and your fiancé. TEXOMABRIDEGUIDE.COM

CUTTING THE CAKE Cake cutting is one of the highlights of the wedding reception. It usually is the first act performed as a married couple, and the beginning of your new life together. Along with the symbolism, the cutting of the cake traditionally serves as a segue from dining to dancing. Older guests will usually wait until after the toasts and cake cutting before saying their goodbyes. When it comes time to cut the cake, the bride stands closest to the cake with the groom behind her. With both of your hands on the cake knife, cut a small wedge out of the bottom tier of the cake and place it onto a plate. Remember to cut the bottom tier because the top tier is too unstable for a good first cut and you may topple the cake! Speaking of the top tier, it’s a long-standing tradition for the bride and groom to save the top tier of their wedding cake for their first anniversary. Let your baker and caterer know of your plans in advance so it doesn’t get served. Most couples opt to slice the groom’s cake immediately after cutting the wedding cake, and serving slices alongside pieces of the wedding cake so guests have a choice of flavors. If both cakes are large enough, you could offer a plate with slices of each cake, or place one flavor on each plate and let your guests choose what they’d prefer. A detail that is often overlooked is what happens to the cake after you and your new spouse cut it. Make sure you know who is going to be responsible for cutting and serving the wedding cake after it is cut. It could be your catering staff or wedding coordinator and it’s usually complimentary, but not always. Don’t forget to make sure there are additional plates and silverware for serving your guests.

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QUESTIONS TO ASK •

How much experience do you have making wedding cakes, and will you be the one creating our cake?

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Can we schedule a tasting?

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Do you lend, rent, or sell cake knives, cake plates, flatware, etc.?

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What is your policy on returning any rentals or extras? What if something gets damaged?

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Are we required to provide the cake stand/pillars?

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Will you deliver and set-up? Is there an extra charge for this?

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What is the cost per serving?

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How far ahead do we need to order our cake?

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What is your deposit policy?

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When is the balance due?

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Can you make a groom's cake?

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Will you provide a written contract for us to sign outlining the costs and details of the cake?

GROOMS CAKE Did you know that the groom’s cake is mostly a Southern tradition? That’s right…go to a wedding up north and you may not see a groom’s cake. That can be a bummer, because often the groom’s cake is chocolate! Here’s a fun bit of useless trivia: In the mid-1800’s, cake was sent home with guests as their wedding favor. Female guests would put their piece of cake under their pillow and dream of their future hubby. That’s the reason this is called a groom’s cake. In our modern times, the groom’s cake is usually a gift from the bride to the groom and designed to represent the groom’s personality and interests.

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HOW MUCH CAKE DO I NEED? Wedding cake serving sizes are typically 1” x 2” in size. Work with your baker to determine what you’ll need, but these numbers will give you an idea of what to expect based on the number of people on your guest list. SQUARE CAKES

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6”: 18 servings 8”: 32 servings 10”: 40 servings 12”: 72 servings

6”: 10 servings 8”: 28 servings 10”: 42 servings 12”: 56 servings

PICKING YOUR CAKE FLAVORS Arguably, one of the the most fun parts of planning a wedding is cake testing. When you meet with prospective bakers, taste lots of flavors and filling combinations. The most important thing about your cake is that it tastes good. If you can’t decide (or agree!) on just one flavor, know that you can include different flavor layers in your confection. You don’t want to pair things that are too wildly different, but talk with the baker about your preferences There’s no possible way you’ll please everyone at your wedding, so focus on cake flavors that make your mouth water, and don’t let others’ preferences drive you insane.

FROSTING

Bakers can do amazing things when it comes to decorating cakes. From a simple and elegant white frosted cake with white details to an elaborately carved cake covered in fondant with jewel embellishments made from sugar and gumpaste flowers that look real. As you browse the cakes online, take note of some of the different styles that you like. Simple cake designs are the least expensive. The more time consuming and complicated the cake design, the more you should be prepared to pay the decorator. Here are some of the more popular types of frostings and how they can be used: BUTTERCREAM

Buttercream frosting can be made in a variety of flavors and is usually piped onto cakes using different sized and shaped tips. A layer of buttercream is applied as the base, and then decorations are added on top. It does not do well in the heat, and works best on cakes that are a simple shape. ROYAL ICING

Typically used on elaborately decorated cookies, royal icing can be used to create accent decorations on a cake. Royal icing dries to a hard finish.

FONDANT

Fondant is a very smooth, matte icing that gives cakes a flawless, porcelain finish. It is also used for ribbons and swags, and can be cut into different shapes to be used as appliqués or textured using a variety of different tools. It is usually more expensive than buttercream and not as tasty.

GANACHE

Remember that chocolate cake you saw at the bakery that had that shiny chocolate icing on it? That was most likely ganache. Made from heavy whipping cream and chocolate, it is used as a filling or a frosting.

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GUMPASTE

Similar to fondant, gum paste is an edible sugar dough that is typically used to create flowers and figurines. Similar to royal icing, gum paste dries brittle and hard, which makes it ideal for delicate decorations.

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TOP FIVE THINGS TO CONSIDER WHEN CHOOSING WEDDING FLOWERS Choosing your wedding flowers may seem simple at first; but, much like wedding planning in general, things can get stressful and out of hand fast. So, also much like wedding planning in general, remember to keep your priorities in order. If you keep the following top five things in mind when planning your flowers, the rest should fall more easily into place. TEXOMABRIDEGUIDE.COM

BUDGET Flowers can get expensive quickly, so make sure to establish a budget with your florist right off the bat. Your budget will be the biggest influence not just on how many arrangements you will have, but also the types of flowers you can afford to put in them. Keep in mind that certain flowers are only available during certain seasons, and can be quite pricey at any other time. Additionally, there are some flowers that just are expensive by nature - such as flowers that must be imported. You should also consider the number of arrangements you’ll need. Remember to consider who will be receiving and/or carrying flowers, as well as floral arrangements for both the ceremony and the reception. These can be numerous and include things like altar flowers, aisle arrangements, sweetheart or head table decorations, and centerpieces. Get a guest count to your florist so you can work out a good number together.

Money-Maximizing Tips - If you’re having a smaller wedding, it might be acceptable to spend a little more on floral centerpieces when compared to a couple with a larger guest count. If you’re expecting a lot of guests, consider using lower-priced flowers with only minimal accents to reduce overall arrangement costs. Larger blooms can be a good way to inexpensively fill out floral arrangements as well. You can also reuse bouquets from the ceremony as centerpieces by placing them in vases.

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LOCATION The location of your wedding can impact your wedding flowers in many ways, including things like cost, style, and the size and number of arrangements. Some ceremony venues, such as churches, have specific restrictions and parameters you must. Other venues, like gardens, are highly floral or decorative on their own and don’t need many additions. Likewise - reception venues can be overly stark and require a lot of flowers, while others may be ornamental or themed and only require accents. If you have your ceremony and reception in the same space, that can require an entirely different strategy altogether.

STYLE The style of your wedding has a great deal of influence on your floral arrangements because you want your ceremony and reception to look cohesive. For a sophisticated affair, consider elegant rose bouquets and dramatic centerpieces. If it’s a rustic, outdoor venue, your floral arrangements can be more free-flowing and less structured. Additionally, make sure that the vessels and embellishments you’re using match the feel of your wedding. Huge rhinestones and peacock feathers don’t usually go with rustic or bohemian blossoms - unless, of course, you’re going for a more unique or artistic wedding style.

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COLOR If you want your wedding flower arrangements to match your colors exactly, consider bringing paint or fabric swatches for your florist to see. Describe other key decor items like your table linens and china so that the florist can understand the style you’re going for. Keep in mind that pastel and brightly-colored flowers will be more available in the spring and summer, while deeper, jewel-toned blossoms will be available in the fall and winter. If you want to have a light, colorful wedding with lots of bright flowers, having it in the spring would increase the accessibility of your desired flowers while keeping costs down.

SEASON In order to create the best aesthetic possible, you’ll want to match your wedding flowers to the season. In addition to keeping costs down, you can avoid any (unintentionally) strange combinations that might raise some eyebrows. While you shouldn’t sacrifice your dream wedding, some flowers just make more sense than others. For instance, you probably don’t want to have pinecones and poinsettias at a summer garden wedding, and you might not want bright wildflowers at an elegant winter wedding. Additionally, seasonal availability is an important consideration. Some flowers are seasonal, but some are available year-round, including calla lilies, lisianthus, hydrangeas, orchids, amaryllis, roses, dahlias, gerbera daisies, scabiosa, lilies, baby’s breath, and bells of Ireland. Greenery is also always available, and it looks great with or without flowers. These, of course, are not the only five things to consider when planning your wedding flowers, but they are definitely some of the most important. Remember these considerations when moving through the more detailed aspects of your wedding flower planning process to help simplify and prioritize your floral goals.

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FLOWER PRESERVATION Flowers are a classic, beautiful form of decoration - and, let’s face it you will put in a lot of time and effort into making sure your wedding flowers are perfect for you and your partner’s big day. Whether you’re a sentimental bride who wants to keep the memory alive, or a practical bride who wants to get the most bang for your buck out of your bridal floral investment, you should think about preserving your wedding flowers. DECIDE NOW Don’t wait until the week before the wedding - or worse, while you’re at the reception - to make up your mind on whether or not you want to preserve your wedding bouquet and/or other wedding flowers. Decide now so that you can budget money and time to the process so that it’s done properly. DECIDE ON A DISPLAY There are many, many ways to display your wedding flowers, and what kinds of displays you like will often determine the type of preservation you can perform. Do you want to frame your flowers and hang them on a wall, or do you want them to act as a sort of centerpiece or type of table decoration? If you’re having trouble deciding on a type of display for your wedding flowers, think instead about where you have space to display them. MAKE A PLAN This is perhaps the most important part of wedding flower preservation. If you are going to preserve your flowers but still want to do a bouquet toss, then you will need to plan on having a separate toss bouquet. If you are leaving for your honeymoon immediately after the wedding or will simply just be too busy to deal with them, you need to assign the task of obtaining and keeping safe your wedding flowers to a trusted friend or family member. Keep in mind they may even have to begin the preservation process for you. Hiring flower preservation professionals? You need to make sure the flowers make it to them in as good of a condition as possible, ASAP.

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WEDDING RINGS When browsing the jewelry stores in search for your wedding band, keep your lifestyle in mind. Do you or your fiancé have jobs that require you to get your hands dirty, or do you enjoy weight lifting in your free time? Maybe your jewelry tastes are simple and you don’t want to wear your engagement ring everyday. You don’t have to get your wedding and engagement bands soldered together, there is nothing wrong with wearing your engagement ring for special occasions (or when you want to feel fancy!). The metal you choose for your wedding ring can be picked for fashion reasons or can be based on lifestyle and desired durability. Spend a little time getting to know your metals, but feel free to mix and match metals, settings and decorations. Gold in any of it’s variations, such as yellow gold, rose gold, or white gold, is the most popular choice of metal for wedding rings, and has a very classic look to it. However, it is a softer metal and will bend or scratch more easily than some of the other metals. Platinum bands are the most expensive of the commonly used metals. The hardness of the metal makes them durable, and they are naturally hypoallergenic which makes them a great choice for people with skin sensitivities. Alternative metals such as titanium look trendy and are at a nice price point. Tungsten is also a popular option for men’s rings since its hardness makes it resistant to scratching. That same level of hardness also means that it won’t bend, but it will break or crack if enough force is applied to it, kind of like a diamond. However, most jewelers aren’t able to work with alternative metals like titanium, so your ring cannot be repaired or resized as easily. Keep that in mind when making your selections.

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WHY WE LOVE ENGAGEMENT SHOOTS,

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You’re engaged! This is a time filled with anticipation, joy and love. With everything that is going on in your lives, capturing and celebrating this special moment in your lives often gets overlooked. Some couples may feel it’s a waste of time or isn’t necessary, but there are many valuable reasons why you should have engagement photos taken. Despite the naysayers, we’re pro-engagement shoot. We’re champions of preserving this chapter of your life forever. These photos aren’t for today, but for the rest of your lives and beyond. Imagine being able to open up an album many years down the road, and have those memories and feelings come rushing back. And to be able to say to generations to come, “This is us at the beginning of our love.” Beyond capturing the memories of engagement, your engagement shoot is an opportunity for you to get to know your wedding photographer before your big day. Most of us don’t take professional photos on a regular basis. Your engagement session can be a time for you to build a relationship with the photographer and learn more about what to expect when it comes to photography on your big day.

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AND YOU WILL TOO

During the session, your photographer will have an opportunity to learn more about you -- how you and your fiancé met, your proposal story, more about you as individuals. You and your fiancé will get to learn more about your photographer and their style. You’ll also get an idea of poses you’ll be doing on your wedding day, and most importantly, how to be comfortable in front of the camera. Plus, you’ll get some amazing photos of you and your fiancé! You can use these photos for Save-the-Dates if you’re sending them, or for your engagement announcement in a local newspaper. You can even have them printed and hang them on the wall in your house. And this doesn’t just apply to engagement shoots. Bridal portraits and even boudoir shoots serve a similar purpose. They capture a moment in time that will be gone before you know it. Except we don’t recommend using your boudoir photos for your Save-the-Dates. Some photographers include an engagement shoot as part of their wedding packages. If your photographer doesn’t, consider the long term benefits of ask about adding one. TEXOMABRIDEGUIDE.COM

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WEDDING PHOTOGRAPHY: WHAT TO EXPECT ON YOUR WEDDING DAY

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DETAIL SHOTS Your photographer will show up a few hours before your ceremony to capture shots of you and your bridesmaids getting ready, and to get detail shots of all the elements that go into your day. It is worth making time for the photographer to take these pictures because these detail shots are an important part of your story. GETTING READY After the detail shots, itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s time for the bride to get dressed. Everyone assisting will want to be fully dressed at this point so the bride can be the center of attention. Once the dress is zipped, buttoned, or laced, the rest of the details, such as jewelry, veil, and shoes, will be photographed as you put them on. If time allows, you can squeeze in a few bridal portraits. THE FIRST LOOK Most couples are doing first look shoots these days, and we love them. It is such a lovely, private moment when the couple get to see each other before the ceremony, and we love seeing the reaction shots of the grooms when they first see their brides! If you can afford it, this is a great opportunity for two photographers - one trained on each of you. The first look also provides the opportunity for romantic and less formal portraits of the bride and groom. RECEPTION DETAILS Thirty minutes before the ceremony begins, the bridal party disappears so guests donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t sneak a peek and the ushers can begin escorting guests to their seats. If the reception is at the same location as the ceremony, this is a great opportunity for the photographer to get detail shots of the reception space. If the reception is at a different venue, most photographers recommend having a cocktail hour outside of the reception area so the photographer can take photos of the untouched reception space before guests start arriving. 66

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THE CEREMONY When it’s time for the ceremony to start, your photographer will be there to capture all the details, with the most important being the first kiss as a married couple! Following the ceremony is a great chance to take family portraits. It is best to save the majority of these until after the ceremony because all family members will be present at that time.

THE RECEPTION Based on the wedding package selected, the photographer will offer you a set number of hours. When planning your reception’s timeline, consider how much of the photographer’s time will be left to capture the highlights of the reception. In addition to the cake-cutting and first dance, some couples plan a faux exit with just the bridal party and a few select guests to capture that moment before the photographer’s time is up.

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WAYS TO WOW YOUR GUESTS PHOTO BOOTH

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Photo booths are becoming popular at weddings because of their simplicity and appeal to all age groups. They’re also a great alternative to a traditional guest book. You can rent a photo booth or make it yourself, but just make sure that it reflects your style!

One way to wow your guests is with fireworks -- and it doesn’t have to be at the end of the reception. Fireworks choreographed with your first kiss as a married couple, or with your pronouncement as husband and wife, are a great way to celebrate your marriage.

Most photo booth rentals come with props, custom designed photo strips, and an attendant. If you’re doing it yourself, incorporate your wedding colors and themes into the booth to bring it all together! Use a chalkboard to write out the instructions in different fonts for a fun carnival wedding, or set up a wall and decorate it with delicate flowers and chairs for a garden wedding. In order to ensure that people take advantage of the photo booth, lead by example. Hop in there with your new spouse and take some pictures! Your guests will love interacting with you and will make some memories of their own.

FOR THE KIDS

A simple sparkler send-off, or a full show at the end of the evening, will be something that your guests will always remember, and it’s a great finale to your wedding. Be sure to check with your venue and local by-laws to make sure fireworks are something you can do! Hiring a professional can make it easier to obtain the proper permits and insurance that are required.

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Many couples can’t imagine planning a wedding without all the little ones in their lives there. Here are a few ways to make sure the little kids at your wedding have just as much fun as the big kids: • • • • • • •

Ask the DJ to play a few kid friendly songs that everyone can enjoy Provide kid friendly snacks Kid’s table with crayons and wedding themed activity booklet Create a kid friendly centerpiece using things that can be played with such as blocks Kid’s only tent with books and games Consider hiring someone to help watch the kids so their parents can enjoy the festivities Kid friendly wedding favors such as bubbles, glow sticks, or chalk

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WEDDING MUSIC

There are quite a few options when it comes to the music youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ll be playing at your wedding. When touring venues, itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s a good idea to talk with the venue manager about what type of music typically works best for the space. Things like electricity for a DJ or space for a band or musicians will be important when it comes time for the event. Choose one or more music options based on what will fit your budget, wedding style, and desired wedding vibe.

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Strings: This is a popular option for ceremonies, and can also be used for music at the cocktail hour or dinner. Soloists: A soloist at your wedding ceremony will make it feel intimate and memorable. Hire a singer, or ask a talented friend or family member to sing a song that’s special to you. DJ: If your reception venue has limited space, you should use a DJ. They don’t use up as much space as a band and usually cost less, making them a good way to save money while still providing a great wedding experience. Band: Bands provide a unique experience, and the energy of a live performance is hard to beat. If you’re willing to spend a little more money and have the extra space, a band is the way to go. Playlist: If a band or DJ is outside of your budget, and you want to truly personalize your wedding, make your own playlist. You can rent a sound system and ask a friend to supervise. Just make sure the music appeals to everyone!

CEREMONY MUSIC

Ceremony music has a reputation for being boring and slow, but that doesn’t have to be true for your wedding! Choose musicians that will express the feeling of your wedding through their sound and music selections. Most wedding ceremony musicians are strings and soloists, typically performing traditional music. If you and your fiancé want something unique and that will show your personality as a couple, consider asking your ceremony performers to do an acoustic cover of a song you like. Wedding guests will begin arriving about 30 minutes before the ceremony starts, but the wait will seem a lot longer if they have to wait around in silence. Schedule your ceremony musicians to start playing no later than 20 minutes before the ceremony is set begin. Keep in mind that some churches have restrictions on secular music, so if your ceremony is being held in a church, ask your officiant about the types of songs that can be acceptable. There are several parts of the ceremony that traditionally have their own music: •

The prelude is the music played while people are gathering a half hour or so before the ceremony.

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The ceremony begins with the seating of special guests and grandparents, followed by the seating of the mothers.

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The processional starts when the pastor and the groom and groomsmen proceed to the front and the bridesmaids make their way down the aisle.

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It’s time for the recessional and your grand exit!

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RECEPTION MUSIC The reception is usually two parts: eating and dancing. Background music is typically played during dinner so your guests can visit and enjoy their meal. The background music will continue during the toasts and cake cutting, if these are part of your timeline. You may also have special songs played during the traditional dances you have planned. As the evening progresses, the music will transition from background to main event. Your DJ or band will play popular songs, both fast and slow, to encourage your guests to get up and dance. If you are working with a DJ, you will be able to wait until about a month before your wedding day to make your music selections. This will ensure that the DJ has enough time to make sure the songs are downloaded. However, working with a live band will require a bit more planning. If the songs you’re wanting played at your wedding aren’t already part of their regular rotation, the band will have to learn and rehearse them so they will be perfect for your big day.

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Most couples seem to have a special song, one that has significance in their lives. That song is what should be played for your first dance as husband and wife. That or another song that is special and unique to you as a couple, not just a random song from a list you found on the internet. If you don’t want to dance by yourselves for the entire length of the song, work out a cue with your DJ so they know when to invite other guests to join you on the dance floor, or to move on to the next activity of the evening. FIRST DANCE SONGS “Thinking Out Loud” - Ed Sheeran “I Can’t Wait (Be My Wife)” - Runner Runner “You Are The Best Thing” - Ray LaMontagne “A Thousand Years” - Christina Perry Remember that the parent dances are the one part of the reception that is not about the bride and groom. While some couples might not want to include parent dances in their big day, we encourage you to let your parents decide as it is their moment. FATHER/DAUGHTER DANCE SONGS “I Loved Her First” - Heartland “My Girl” - Temptations “My Little Girl” - Tim McGraw “Cinderella” - Steven Curtis Chapman MOTHER/SON DANCE SONGS “A Mother’s Song” - T Carter Music “What A Wonderful World” - Louis Armstrong “I Hope You Dance” - Lee Ann Womack “Simple Man” - Lynrd Skynyrd or Shinedown TEXOMABRIDEGUIDE.COM

WHAT’S YOUR HONEYMOON STYLE? No matter what you and your fiancé like to do, the honeymoon of your dreams will be the perfect way to celebrate your new life together.

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Are you and your fiancé the type of people who love spend your vacation relaxing on the beach and soaking up the sun? Or do you love exploring new locations and cultures? Regardless of your vacation style, there is a honeymoon destination just for you! We have many amazing places worth exploring here in the United States, so you don’t have to travel far to find what you’re looking for. However, honeymoons are a great opportunity to explore the wider world around us. Don’t feel like you have to leave for your honeymoon trip immediately following the wedding. Many couples choose to spend the day after their wedding with their friends and family who have travelled to witness their marriage. A simple brunch at the hotel where most guests are staying or at a local restaurant is a great way to visit with wedding guests you may not have been able to spend time with at the reception. Some couples even choose to wait a couple of months before leaving on their honeymoon. Traditionally, the groom plans and pays for the honeymoon. This is an opportunity for the groom to surprise his new bride, or you two can have fun planning the trip together. When you sit down to plan, be sure to have an idea of when you’d like to travel, how long you’d like to stay and an idea of the types of things you’d like to do on your trip. If you don’t have a specific destination in mind, contacting a travel agent and sharing your wishlist is a great way to get started. Travel agents tend to have extensive knowledge and experience with honeymoon travel. They work directly with resorts and cruise companies which usually means you will get a better deal and maybe even a few perks added in. Your travel agent will monitor your reservations as your trip approaches and alert you of any changes. This will save you time and money, and give you peace of mind as you travel because you know if something goes wrong, the answer is a quick phone call or email away. TEXOMABRIDEGUIDE.COM

City Honeymoon A city honeymoon has endless possibilities: museums, culture, history, restaurants, shopping, and top notch entertainment. Find a great city that you both have never explored and plan your city honeymoon. Keep in mind that big cities can be pricey and include busy streets, crowded sidewalks, and large city blocks. If you’re the type of person who wants to see and do it all, a city honeymoon is a great idea for the couple on the go. Beach Honeymoon Probably the most stereotyped honeymoon is a sunny beach getaway. Most honeymooners stick to typical beach resort destinations such as Hawaii, Mexico, and the Caribbean. With plenty of beaches, a relaxed atmosphere, and outdoor activities for those who are so inclined, it’s no wonder the beach is such a popular destination. Most people look for all-inclusive resorts because you pay one price up front and you don’t have to worry about carry around your wallet while on the property. Just be sure to double check what is included in the ‘all-inclusive.’ Cruises Cruise honeymoons are great for couples that like different degrees of activity. With an endless selection of gourmet food, exciting entertainment, world-class accommodations, casinos, full service bars and unique itineraries, cruises are a great option because there are so many different ways to spend each day.

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Adventure Vacations If laying on a beach all week is not how you want to spend your honeymoon, consider an adventurous, bucket list worthy trip. Popular activities include trekking across the Gobi Desert in Mongolia, going on Safari in Africa, Ziplining in the rain forest of Costa Rica, or swimming with the sharks in Australia. Adventure honeymoons can provide spectacular photo memories and stories that will last a lifetime. Road Trip For the spontaneous couple that enjoy the wind in their hair and the horizon in the review mirror, a road trip honeymoon is a great way to spend time on the open road together. You could plan to camp at some of America’s National Parks, or you could travel from one big city to another and try out the best hotel in each! To ensure you are able to relax on your vacation, be prepared to do a bit of planning in advance. Ski Trip If a day together on the ski slopes followed by a night by the fire at your condo is more your style, a ski honeymoon is the way to go. There are great ski areas in the United States, and even as close as Canada, but you could be adventurous and head to the Swiss Alps. If you’re not adverse to the cold or the prices of ski gear and lift tickets, a winter wonderland honeymoon could be perfect!

TRAVEL DOCUMENTS

We know it’s a bummer, but if you and your new spouse are jet-setting on your honeymoon right after the wedding, you’re going to want to use your maiden name when making your travel reservations. It takes time to process and issue the marriage certificate which is required for changing your name on official documents. Then you have to wait to receive your updated identification such as a drivers license or passport in your new married name. Traveling under your maiden name will cut down on the stress of receiving these documents on time. Once you get back from your amazing trip you can apply for a name change on your passport. You will have to mail in your old passport, but it will be returned to you along with your brand new passport with your new last name. As long as you file the name change form for your passport (called a 5504 form) within 12 months of your wedding, you will not have to pay an additional fee for the change.

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CREATING YOUR REGISTRY Registry shopping must be one of the most fun parts of wedding planning. Who doesn’t love new towels and sheets? However, if you were looking forward to going up and down the aisles with one of those scanner guns, you might be disappointed. Most retailers have moved away from this process, and most wedding registries are created online. The days of the traditional registry with its formal dinnerware, crystal stemware, and silver that requires polishing, are behind us. Today’s bride and groom are registering for items that fit their lifestyle. That’s not to say you shouldn’t register for porcelain and crystal if that’s your entertaining style, but don’t feel like it’s a requirement. Before you and your fiancé rush into creating your registries, either online or in person, take inventory of the pieces you have, and what you wish you had. Be sure to note down anything that is starting to look worn, or maybe doesn’t work anymore. Those are great items to add to your registry. Don’t hesitate to do a bit of research on some of the larger ticket items, either. Guests appreciate plenty of options, so be sure to register for a wide range of items across many different price points. To the right is a list of traditional and modern items often found on registries.

WHERE TO REGISTER Where you register can be just as important as what you register for. Keep in mind that some of your guests prefer to go to a physical store and browse your registry items in person, while other guests will want the ease of ordering online. With that said, almost anything can be added to a registry these days. Retailers like Best Buy and Domino’s Pizza have even jumped on the wedding registry bandwagon. Yes, you can create a pizza wedding registry. Stores like Target, Bed Bath & Beyond, and Kohl’s are popular locations for registries, and are easily accessible within the Texoma area. For those wanting to create an online registry, Amazon, Zola, and Blueprint Registry are popular. Some retailers offer a completion discount which allows you to purchase unfulfilled items on your registry at a discounted rate for a short period of time after your wedding. Keep in mind that you don’t have to pick just one place to register; two or three gift registries are completely acceptable and even expected. Remember that your guests like to have options on where to shop and what to get you. 80

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FORMAL DINNERWARE Dinner, salad and dessert plates Pasta and soup bowls Bread and butter plates Teacups and saucers Fruit bowls Teapot, creamer and sugar bowl Gravy boat Serving bowls Covered casserole dish Platters CASUAL DINNERWARE Dinner plates Soup and cereal bowls Bread and butter plates Salt and pepper set Covered butter dish Mugs Canister set FINE CRYSTAL Water goblets Wine glasses (red/white) Champagne flutes Iced beverage glasses Martini glasses Brandy snifters Decanters and pitchers Candlesticks BAR-WARE Tumblers Highballs/Pilsners/Beer glasses Ice bucket and tongs Wine cooler or wine rack Cocktail shaker and pitcher Bar utensils KITCHENWARE Cutlery and stake knives Cutting boards Timer Mixing bowls and spoons Dish towels and hot pads Paring, chef and bread knife Carving knife Colander Spatulas and whisks Pizza cutter Spoon rest Baster Rolling pin Cheese grater

FLATWARE Knives, forks and salad forms Soup spoons and teaspoons Serving spoons and forks Butter serving knife Cake and pie server Gravy ladle Serving set

TABLE LINENS Table cloth/table runner Place mats Napkins and rings

COOKWARE Sauce pans, sautĂŠ and frying pans Stock pot/Dutch oven Steamer/Double boiler Wok/Stir Fry pan Roaster Grill/griddle BAKE-WARE Cookie sheets Muffin pans Cake and pie pans Baking pans Bread pans ELECTRIC APPLIANCES Hand mixer Waffle iron Bread maker Rice cooker/vegetable steamer Toaster/Toaster Oven Food Processor Blender Electric indoor grill Coffee and tea makers Can opener Slow cooker KITCHEN LINENS Dish towels Cloths Kitchen mats and rugs

HOME ELECTRONICS Television Bluetooth Speaker Radio/Clock radio Camera and digital camcorder Home stereo components DVD/Blu-Ray player DECORATIVE ACCESSORIES Picture frames Lamps Vases BEDROOM LINENS Flat and fitted sheets Pillow cases and shams Comforters and bed skirts Blankets Mattress pads BATH LINENS Bath sheets and towels Hand towels and wash cloths Bath mat and rug Shower curtain and rings Bath accessories Hamper HOME CARE/PERSONAL Vacuum (upright and hand-held) Rug cleaner Iron and ironing board Portable steamer Broom, dust pan and mop LUGGAGE Upright suitcases Garment bags Duffel bags/Tote bags Accessory bag

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Marriage licenses must be obtained from the county clerk’s office and presented to your officiant prior to the beginning of your wedding ceremony. Following the ceremony, the officiant fills out the license, and asks the witnesses, usually the maid of honor and best man, to sign it. Some officiants will file the license for you at the courthouse, or you will have to do it yourself. Once the license is filed and processed, you will receive your marriage certificate. The cost, requirements, and validity varies between Oklahoma and Texas, but you don’t have to be a resident of either state to get married there. Be sure to research the state’s marriage license requirements where you will be getting married so that you understand the time-lines and associated costs. GRAYSON COUNTY, TEXAS 100 W Houston, Suite 17 | Sherman | (903) 813-4283

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LAMAR COUNTY, TEXAS 119 North Main | Paris | (903) 737-2420

LOVE COUNTY, OKLAHOMA 405 West Main, #203 | Marietta | (580) 276-3059

WICHITA COUNTY, TEXAS 900 7th St, Room 250 | Wichita Falls | (940) 766-8100

MARSHALL COUNTY, OKLAHOMA 219 Plaza | Madill | (580) 795-3220

ANNOUNCEMENTS

A newspaper engagement announcement is one of the first opportunities for a couple to announce their engagement to the public using their local and city press. With different requirements for each newspaper and issues of etiquette to consider, writing newspaper engagement announcements can be tricky, especially if you’re writing your own.

costs. Be sure to ask about length requirements and whether or not they accept photos. Some newspapers have a form for you to fill out, which they then use to compile your wedding details into their own newspaper format. Others will allow you to write the announcement.

Typically written in the past tense (since the engagement has already occurred), the announcement is from the point-of-view of the party hosting the wedding, traditionally the parents of the bride-to-be. The first step is to contact the news source in which you plan on placing the announcement to find out their guidelines and any associated 82

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CHANGING YOUR NAME Following the wedding, you will need to take your signed marriage license to the county clerkâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s office to obtain your marriage certificate. The marriage certificate is a piece of paper that proves that you are legally married. It does not mean your last name has legally changed. When you are getting your license before the wedding, be sure to find out the timeline for filing it after the wedding. You will be required to present a copy of your marriage certificate to complete the process of changing your name at government agencies as well as non-government institutions. We recommend ordering three certified copies of your marriage certificate because you may have to surrender a copy as you go about changing your name at different places. The first place to change your name is at the Social Security Office. Then you may begin to use your new name. We recommend going to the Department of Motor Vehicles next. Donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t forget to change your name at these places as well: Banks Medical Care Provider(s) Insurance Mortgage Lender or Landlord Professional License County Tax Assessor Credit Card Companies

State Tax Commission Employer (fill out new W-2) Dept. of Revenue Retirement Documents U.S. Passport Postal Service Investment Companies

Utility Company Voter Registration Legal Documents Wills

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vendor directory APPAREL

FLORAL DESIGN

A-1 Wedding & Party Rentals (pg. 36) 3031 S. Woodlawn Blvd. Denison, Texas 75020 (903) 463-7709 www.a1wedding.com

A-1 Wedding & Party Rentals (pg. 36) (903) 463-7709 www.a1wedding.com

Generation Tux (pg. 24) (844) 726-4889 www.generationtux.com

CAKES & SWEETS Bon Appetit Y’All (pg. 40) 2120 N FM 1417 Sherman, Texas 75092 (903) 868-2100 www.bonappetityall.net Caked Up! (pg. 51) 201 W. Main St. Durant, Oklahoma 74701 (580) 380-7777 www.cakedupdurant.com The Cookie Cafe (pg. 50) (903) 771-9274 thecookiecafetx.weebly.com

CATERING Bon Appetit Y’All (pg. 40) 2120 N FM 1417 Sherman, Texas 75092 (903) 868-2100 www.bonappetityall.net Knife & Whisk (pg. 39) (903) 744-0310 www.knife-and-whisk.com Lucky 2 BBQ (pg. 41) (903) 203-9337 www.lucky2bbq.com

ENTERTAINMENT Pyrotex (pg. 71) (903) 587-8000 www.pyrotex.com 84

Bon Appetit Y’All (pg. 40) 2120 N FM 1417 Sherman, Texas 75092 (903) 868-2100 www.bonappetityall.net Country Florist (pg. 59) 1520 Texoma Pkwy Sherman, Texas 75090 (903) 892-0114 www.countryfloristshermantx.com Something Bloomed (pg. 59) (903) 814-2822 www.somethingbloomedtx.com

HONEYMOONS & TRAVEL The Travel Maid (pg. 78) (940) 902-1091 thetravelmaid.com

INVITATIONS & CALLIGRAPHY A-1 Wedding & Party Rentals (pg. 36) (903) 463-7709 www.a1wedding.com Ellie and Ace Calligraphy (pg.47) (903) 815-6247 www.ellieandace.com Roots Design Co (903) 821-9069 www.rootsdesign.co

JEWELRY Help Buying a Diamond (pg. 61) (214) 440-2232 www.helpbuyingadiamond.com

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Ray-Ward Fine Jewelers 104 West Main Ardmore, Oklahoma 73401 (580) 223-0533 www.ray-ward.com

MUSICIANS & DJS Four Strings (903) 364-5185 www.fourstrings.com Cadence Studios (pg. 74) (903) 891-4104 cadencestudiostx.com Platinum Vibrations (pg 75) (903) 647-9739 www.platinumvibrations.com

PHOTO BOOTHS Cadence Studios (pg. 74) (903) 891-4104 www.cadencestudiostx.com

PHOTOGRAPHY Cadence Studios (pg. 68) (903) 891-4104 cadencestudiostx.com Christy Hamilton Photography (pg. 70) (580) 916-2465 christyhamiltonphotography.com Gingersnap Studios (pg. 70) (903) 271-4936 (903) 815-5558 www.gsnapstudios.com Hix Images (pg. 67) (580) 380-3403 www.hiximages.com Lauren Hummert Photography (pg. 68) (682) 558-1503 laurenhummertphotography.com

vendor directory PLANNERS Events by Emerson (903) 814-9849 www.eventsbyemerson.com

RENTALS A-1 Wedding & Party Rentals (pg. 36) 3031 S. Woodlawn Blvd. Denison, Texas 75020 (903) 463-7709 www.a1wedding.com

TRANSPORTATION The White Rose Limo (pg. 33) (903) 821-4763 fb.me/thewhiteroselimo

VENUES Enchanted Creek Weddings & Events (pg.31) 336 Sheryl Denison, Texas 75021 (903) 816-0590 enchantedcreekweddingsandevents.com

Green Gables House (pg. 27) 202 South Pearl Trenton, Texas 75490 (214) 499-5290 www.greengablestrenton.com Hilton Garden Inn (pg. 2-3) Sherman/Denison Texoma Event Center 5015 South US 75 Denison, Texas 75020 (903) 463-3331 www.hilton.com Katy Depot (pg. 31) 101 E Main Street Denison, Texas 75021 (903) 463-7729 www.katydepot.info

Knotty Barn (pg. 31) 810 Frisco Road Sherman, Texas 75090 www.knottybarn.com (903) 868-1938

ACCOMMODATIONS

Old Church Restored - The Pearl (pg. 28) 204 E. Main Street Whitesboro, Texas 76273 (214) 403-0909 www.oldchurchrestored.org Old Quail Run Farm (pg. 32) 233 Old Quail Run Road Sherman, Texas 75092 (903) 868-2100 www.oldquailrunfarm.com

Hilton Garden Inn (pg. 2-3) Sherman/Denison Texoma Event Center 5015 South US 75 Denison, Texas 75020 (903) 463-3331 www.hilton.com

PREFERRED PARTNERS Diamond Insurance Group (pg. 37) (903) 891-4646 www.diamondinsgroup.com Mary Kay Rennie Brigman (903) 368-2688 marykay.com/Renniebrigman

Rockinâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; R Ranch (pg. 27) 6196 N3860 Road Bokchito, Oklahoma 74726 (580) 295-3154 www.rockinrranchok.com

Minted Designs Co. (pg. 5) (469) 585-2024 facebook.com/minteddesignsco

Willowood Ranch (pg. 28) 3803 Ward Neal Road Bells, Texas 75414 (903) 891-0070 www.willowoodranch.com

The Moose and Owl (pg. 5) (972) 900-9509 themooseandowl.etsy.com

VIDEOGRAPHY Cadence Studios (pg. 68) (903) 891-4104 cadencestudiostx.com Christy Hamilton Photography (pg. 70) (580) 916-2465 christyhamiltonphotography.com

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