Cocktail Attire for Men

By, Jerome West

What Exactly is “Cocktail Attire?”

Essentially, it’s a semi-formal look or outfit that is designed to bridge the gap between Silcon Valley’s casual day wear and Downton Abbey’s formal evening attire. This “between the hours” dress code applies to any occasion that requires a little more refinement such as cocktail parties (duh), weddings, anniversaries, formal birthday celebrations and timeless sporting events, such as the races.

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Do’s

Do go for something tailored. A tuxedo is too much, but a suit or blazer/trousers combo is required.

Do add personal touches, but consider them carefully. Don’t be the “neon pink jacket guy” at your friend’s wedding.

Do remember that it’s always safer to over-dress (but keep your penguin suit at home).

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Dont’s

Don’t upstage the guest of honor—ever. If you’re attending a birthday or any other occasion in which the spotlight is meant to be on someone specific, leave the bright colors and flashy accessories at home.

Don’t be afraid to ask questions. If you’re unsure about what constitutes appropriate attire for an event, ask the host. They are, after all, the most invested in avoiding confusion and uncomfortable situations.

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Suits & Tailoring

Tailoring means the suit: a two piece, peak or notch lapel number in a slim fit. Black is always

suitable, but try something more contemporary like is navy or gray. Light gray is fresh for a summer

wedding while dark gray is the perfect, sophisticated winter look. If the dress code isn’t super strict,

explore darker colors such as burgundy, olive green or khaki (nothing too flashy). Keep patterns to

a minimal, like small scale windowpane check and thin pinstripes. Not sure about prints? Opt for

texture. This is achieved from suit fabric: mohair for a subtle sheen and herringbone or a slub design

for a grainy finish. It’s also perfectly acceptable to mix and match a jacket and trousers.

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Shirt

Always ensure that your shirt pairs well with your suit or blazer. A solid color in a neutral tone (blue, white or gray) is your safest bet, especially when wearing a checked or striped jacket. Wearing a plain blazer? Look to low-key checks or stripes or even a floral jacquard for a romantic edge.

Beware the collar. Avoid floppy, limp shirt collar types. Make sure it’s made from cotton and crafted from a formal fabric weave. It should feel and look crisp, and sharply pressed on the collar and cuffs. Also, avoid French cuffs for daytime events but feel free to break them out for dapper evening soiées.

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Ties & Pocket Squares

At less formal cocktail events, you can ditch the tie. However, if one is required, get creative. If you opted for a simple shirt and suit, go for a bolder tie. If your shirt or suit has a pattern, it’s best to choose a simple tie in a complementary color. While bow ties can be fun, save them for ultra-formal occasions when you dust off your tux. However, do explore pocket squares. Like the tie, the square should be silk and neutral in color.

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Dress Shoes

When dressing for a cocktail party, you can never go wrong with the classic Oxford shoe. Black and dark brown are superior color options for the streamline shoe, while a brogue punch hole design will give you a step up in the texture department. Alternatively, monk strap shoes are entirely appropriate. Only go with loafers if your event is less formal. If it’s a special event, invest in a new pair of shoes or give your tired, old leather some TLC with a fresh polish.

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Accessories

Saving that embossed, ostrich leather belt for a special occasion? Now’s the time to whip it out. Suede belts are also a nice touch for texture. Logo belt buckles like are becoming increasingly acceptable, just don’t go for anything cowboy.

Finish the look off with calf-length socks (no one wants to see your leg skin when you’re seated). Stick to colors that complement your trousers or another color in your outfit such as tie, shirt or blazer. If you’re feeling brave—like Albert in The Birdcage—colored or patterned socks could be an opportunity to let your personality shine through.