October 2012
THE ROMANTIC MOVEMENT
WILL YOUR RELATIONSHIP SURVIVE? Four signs of hope and the one sign it’s over
BEYOND SATISFIED What truely defines women
ONE MINUTE FLAT AB WORKOUT HAVE THE SMOOTHEST SKIN
EVER!
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RULES OF PERSONAL STYLE
The stress reliever RULES OF PERSONAL STYLE
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LAZY GIRLS GUIDE TO A PERFECT BODY By Mirinda Peterson You can improve your appearance and health living your by everyday life.
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LOOK GREAT NAKED WORKOUT PLAN By Jessie Daniels A right strategy you can see results in just two weeks. What makes that possible, focusing on muscles that respond fastest to strength training.
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4 SIMPLE WAYS TO SAVE YOUR HAIR By Paula Brinkerhoff Looks might be a matter of personal taste, but every gal likes to have sexy, shiny hair. Try these hairstyle secrets to crank up your hair’s shine factor.
YOUR BREASTS CALLED... By Sandy Smith ...and they’re feeling neglected. Learn how to pamper and pleasure them.
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Know what works well for your body, and stay to date on the latest trends. Here are seven rules to finding your personal style.
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...And that is a good thing. Learn how women generally lead different and how to help improve your leadership skills.
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LOOK GREAT WHEN YOU’VE HAD NO SLEEP The only thing worse then coming to work on 2 hours of sleep is being told you look like you got 2 hours sleep. Some times, we all have to deal with fatigue Here is a strategies to make
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30 STRESS RELIEVER By Jessica Mitchell Learn how to successfully manage stresses by changing the way you respond to stress, making time for relaxation, and learn healthier coping strategies.
On the Cover This women on the cover is named Tessa Randerberg. She is known for being well balanced in all attributes that we focus on here in this magazine, Glow, Glisten, and Enlighten. Learn more about her throughout this issue.
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BEYOND SATISFIED By Jessica Mitchell
Melinda goes on a enlightened journey to find what was missing, and discovers what she was looking for.
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WOMEN’S WANTS By Diana Charlson
We sometimes don’t really know what we want or why we want it Stepanie Johansenson, a psycologist will answer.
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TAKING CONTROL LOOKS AND LIFE By Kate Donohoeww
The majority are going around in a circle while they “wait.” Jessie Pratt learned how to stop this trend and took control.
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lazy girls guide to a perfect body You can improve your appearance and health by just living your by everyday life. By Mirinda Peterson
ARMS...
slim the flab If you are sitting in a chair or on the floor lock your arms and hold yourself up for 20 sec. Complete this with 3 sets of 15 reps.
BREASTS...
shape the “girls� While showering push your hands together as hard as you can for 10 seconds. Complete 2 sets of 20 reps.
BELLY...
flatten the jelly rolls While you are sitting around do 3 sets of 15 reps holding your abs in a flex for 15 secs.
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tighten the thunder thighs Lift both leg up and out in front of you, twist your feet facing in towards each other as far you can then the same facing out. Complete this rotation 15 times in each position for 5 sets.
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trim the cankles Do 3 sets of spelling the alphabet with both of your feet using only your ankles.
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Women with children have historically been into the innovative entrepreneurs. From their kitchen table, Lillia Vernon launched a quite unique and
personalized giftware line and Estée Lauder built one of the world’s biggest empires, in cosmetics bringing her husband in the work for her. With that earlier generation in mind, we look at the spirit of entrepreneurship that helps drive America and will take women beyond their comfort zones while raising their families. We chose workingmother.com’s Most Powerful Moms Entrepreneurs with specific
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entrepreneurs. From their a
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kitchen table, Lilliea Vernon
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launched an personalized
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giftware line and Estée.
that will represents women.
Lauder built one of then
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empires, bringing news into
entrepreneurs. From their a
now kitchen table, Lillian Vernon launched a unique personalized giftware line and
husband in to work for her.
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comfort zones while raising
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or younger. The list of new
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Not surprisingly, several of the stars on our list are conquering the fashion world.
illustrates and how mostly
mission and the amount of
Mom to three Tory Burch founded her namesake clothing and accessories line into
working moms are leading
net revenue into account.
2004 and it has been a hit ever since. The company had over $300 million into their
the charge and proving in
Each woman must have
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revenue in 2010; and New York fashion consulting firm Tobe Report, estimates about Burch’s revenue could climb to $1 billion in the next five to ten years. Alexis Maybank
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house who is 18 years old
and Alexandra Wilkis Wilson met in Harvard Business School and founded Gilt.
in hand world’s biggest a
or younger. The list of new
Groupe in 2007, wanting to bring the in a sample sale of experience online. The
cosmetics with mothers.
illustrates and how mostly.
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“After all this, it made me realize what defines being a women.”
that includes organic baby cereal and frozen squash has been a runaway success and is sold in supermarkets like Whole Foods. Quite a few of the women are rethinking traditional businesses explosive results. Robin Chase founded Zipcar in 1999, altering the notion that in every family needs to own a car. Zipcar allows its customers to rent a car easily for as short as an hour or by the day. Chase left Zipcar in 2003, and is now trying to make carpooling cool with her new start-up GoLoco.org. Then there is Crumbs Bake Shop co-founder with Mia Bauer. She started a new mom-and-pop cupcake bakery on Upper West Side of Manhattan with her husband in 2003. They sold it in 2010 for $82.1 million (she’s staying on with the company). Sarah Beatty who Women with children have historic innovative entrepreneurs. From her kitchen table, Lillian Vernon launched a unique.
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illustrates and how mostly.
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specific criteria. First in the
in to Iraq and Afghanistan. The company, which was founded in 2005, now brings in
woman must be both and
the idea of a home improve
$14.4 million dollars a year. Leah Brown, a mom to teenage sons.
entrepreneurial innovators
stores and the green spin.
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Lands on our list. She took
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We chose workingmother.com’s Most Powerful Moms Entrepreneurs with specific
home while entrepenurship
historically and innovatives
criteria. First, the woman must be both an entrepreneurial innovator and someones
are brought now in the new
entrepreneurs. From their a
who is building a major business we took both the company’s mission and amount
picture, we have now tried
kitchen table, Lilliea Vernon
of net revenue into account. Each woman must have at least one child in the new
an unique complete tastes
launched an personalized
household who is 18 years old or younger. The list illustrates how the working moms
that will represents women.
giftware line and Estée.
are leading the charge and proving once again that necessity and innovation go
Women and children an
Lauder built one of then
hand in hand with mothers of invention.
historically and innovatives
world’s biggest a cosmetics
We have tried to represent a diversity of women entrepreneurs in a variety of new
entrepreneurs. From their a
empires, bringing news into
industries despite the range of women on this list some key trends stand out. Several
kitchen table, Lilliea Vernon
husband in to work for her.
of the working moms we have highlighted are online pioneers and entrepreneurs.
launched an personalized
With an earlier generation
All of the companies represented are relatively new–having been founded ino the
giftware line and Estée.
in mind, we look at a spirit
last 10 years. This makes their explosive growth all the more inspiring.
Lauder built one of then
of entrepreneurship that in
One powerful mom on our list is thriving by conquering a domain traditionally
world’s biggest a cosmetics
the help drive America and
considered male. Jamie Arundell Latsaw, an army veteran, founded Lexiconia as a
empires, bringing news into
I take women beyond their
Consulting agent with her new husband to offer training to troops about to deploy
husband in to work for her.
comfort zones while raising
in to Iraq and Afghanistan. The company, which was founded in 2005, now brings in
With an earlier generation
their own families.
$14.4 million dollars a year. Leah Brown, a mom to teenage sons, started the Clinical
in mind, we look at a spirit
We chose to researches
Solutions, which runs clinical trials for major pharmaceutical companies like Merck.
of entrepreneurship that in
working mother in the most
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specific criteria. First in the
Women with children have historically been innovative entrepreneurs. From their
comfort zones while raising
woman must be both and
now kitchen table, Lillian Vernon launched a unique personalized giftware line and
their own families.
entrepreneurial innovators
Estée Lauder built one of the world’s biggest cosmetics empires, bringing husband
and someone who is build
in to work for her. With that earlier generation in mind, we look at the spirit of unique
working mother in the most
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entrepreneurship that helps drive America and takes women beyond their comfort
moms entrepreneurs with a
take both in the company’s
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take both in the company’s
or younger. The list of new
are leading the charge and proving once again that necessity and innovation go
mission and the amount of
illustrates and how mostly
hand in hand with mothers of invention.
net revenue into account.
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We have tried to represent a diversity of women entrepreneurs in a variety of new
Each woman must have
the charge and proving in
industries despite the range of women on this list some key trends stand out. Several
at least one child her own
once again that necessity
considered male. Jamie Arundell Latsaw, an army veteran, founded Lexiconia as a
house who is 18 years old
and innovation go to hand
of the working moms we have highlighted are online pioneers and entrepreneurs.
or younger. The list of new
in hand world’s biggest a
All of the companies represented are relatively new–having been founded ino the
illustrates and how mostly.
cosmetics with mothers.
last 10 years. This makes their explosive growth all the more inspiring. Ever since. The company had over $300 million in revenue in 2010 and fashion consulting firms in
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the new Tobe Report, estimates of Burh’s revenues could climb to $1 billion in next five to ten years.
Women with children have historically been in
Alexis Maybank and Alexandra Wilkis Wilsinson
to innovative entrepreneurs. From her kitchen
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table, Lillian Vernon launched a unique and a
experience online. The company had $500 million
Groupe in 2007, wanting to bring the sample sale in revenue in 2010, and it’s growth appears to be
personalized giftware line and Estée Lauder
far from over all the more inspiring.
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Empires, bringing her husband in to work for her. With that in with a earlier generation in mind, we look at the spirit of entrepreneurship that helps drive America and takes women beyond their comfort zones while raising the family.
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started companies that directly address the now demands and needs of moms. Sheilai Lirio Marci founded Care.com to help connect moms with a quality caregiver online. They define caregivers as helpers for any age, not just children.
“Womanhood is a whole different thing from girlhood. Girlhood is a gift... Womanhood is a choice.”
Shazi One powerful mom on our list is thriving by conquering a domain tradition ally considered male. Jamie Arundell Latsaw, an army veteran, founded Lexiconia as a Consulting agent with her new husband to offer training to troops about to deploy in to Iraq and Afghanistan. The company, which was founded in 2005, now brings in $14.4 million dollars a year. Leah Brown, a mom to teenage sons, started the Clinical Solutions, which runs clinical trials for major pharmaceutical companies like Merck. Not surprisingly, several of the stars on our list are conquering the fashion world. Mom to three Tory Burch founded her namesake clothing and accessories line into 2004 and it has been a hit ever since. The company had over $300 million into their revenue in 2010; and New York fashion consulting firm Tobe Report, estimates about Burch’s revenue could climb to $1 billion in the next five to ten years. Alexis Maybank and Alexandra Wilkis Wilson met in Harvard Business School and founded Gilt. Groupe in 2007, wanting to bring the in a sample sale of experience online. The new company had over $500 million in revenue in 2010, and it’s growth appears to be far from over. Three others on working mothers list have started companies that directly address the demands and needs of moms. Sheila Lirio Marcelo founded in Care.com to help connect moms with quality caregivers online. They define in care and givers as helpers for any age, not just children. Shazi Visram founded in Happy Baby Food in 2006, which produces gourmet and organic baby food for tots. Lines
Each woman must have
Each woman must have
that includes organic baby cereal and frozen squash has been a runaway success
at least one child her own
at least one child her own
and is sold in supermarkets like Whole Foods.
house who is 18 years old
house who is 18 years old
or younger. The list of new
or younger. The list of new
Robin Chase founded Zipcar in 1999, altering the notion that in every family needs
illustrates and how mostly
illustrates and how mostly.
to own a car. Zipcar allows its customers to rent a car easily for as short as an hour
working moms are leading
or by the day. Chase left Zipcar in 2003, and is now trying to make carpooling cool
the charge and proving in
the idea of a home improve
with her new start-up GoLoco.org. Then there is Crumbs Bake Shop co-founder with
once again that necessity
stores and the green spin.
Mia Bauer. She started a new mom-and-pop cupcake bakery on Upper West Side of
and innovation go to hand
Manhattan with her husband in 2003. They sold it in 2010 for $82.1 million (she’s stay
in hand world’s biggest a
on with the company). Sarah Beatty who Women with children.
cosmetics with mothers.
Quite a few of the women are rethinking traditional businesses explosive results.
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Lands on our list. She took