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There are two types of brides, in my opinion. There are the brides who have dreamed of their big day since they were little and got to be a flower girl in their cousin’s wedding. For years, they have a Pinterest board dedicated to being a “Future Mrs. Fill-in-the-Blank,” strong opinions about color trends like “blush and bashful” (a Steel Magnolias reference for any fans out there), and a pre-selected list of bridesmaids that pushes 10 women, at least. Then there are the brides—like I was. In February 2014, my wonderful, now-husband got down on one knee on a random Wednesday night (yes, a Wednesday night) in front of the fridge (yes, the fridge) while I was in my pajamas (yes, pajamas—and they weren’t even cute pajamas) and asked me if I would spend the rest of my life with him. He said he wanted to do something a little more planned the following weekend but says he “just couldn’t wait” after returning from a secret trip to meet my dad and ask for his blessing in person. All it took was one word from me, frumpy pajamas and all—and the race to the big day was on. I knew we were going to have a normal-sized wedding, with all of the typical stuff… ceremony, flowers, cake, etc. But I had no idea where to start. And I didn’t have the slightest clue I would have to make so many decisions, back to back. Would I like anemones in my flower arrangements? Buttercream frosting or fondant? Elbow length or fingertip length veil? What I love about this issue of Central Virginia Bridal Guide is we have ideas and advice for brides on both ends of the spectrum—from the overly curious to the utterly clueless. You may already have a photographer and a list of shots you want him or her to get. But are you prepared to pose for the perfect picture? On page 22, we went straight to the experts to get their insight and what they wish brides knew ahead of time. Plus, there are so many etiquette rules surrounding the wedding festivities; brides can sometimes feel like they aren’t measuring up. From the budget to the ceremony, a wedding planner shares some do’s and don’ts starting on page 19. Then, we’re helping you transition from the big day to the rest of your life with a closer look at what comes after the “I Do.” Marriage counselors give five tips to help you navigate the first year, on pages 42-43. So relax, if you can, as you flip through and get some pointers, advice and ideas. And when the planning gets stressful, try to think back to the moment you said “yes,” (even if you were wearing PJs) and think ahead to the years of happiness and love you two will share.
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The Planning Time to Turn Dreams into Reality
Helping You Put Your Best Face Forward
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The Details Making Sure You Don’t Miss a Thing
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The Memories AUDRA LYNNE CREATIVE
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The Mr. & Mrs. Welcome to Married Life
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Bride of the Year: Camry Garrison Venue Guide 20th Annual Bridal Showcase “I Wish I Had Known” 2017 Bride of the Year Luncheon
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In February 2014, Camry Garrison — then Camry Kelley — thought she had it all figured out. She’d just bought a house with her long-time boyfriend and was, as she puts it, “dead set” on marrying him. But while Camry and her boyfriend had been dating since high school, she just couldn’t shake something her mom had once said. “My mom gave me a good piece of advice,” Camry, a 26-year-old preacher’s daughter and Liberty University graduate, said. “I thought that God wouldn’t put someone in my life unless they were the one, and Mom sat down with me and said, ‘That’s so wrong. God gives you the choice. You can choose to take the path that he wants, not your own.’” Camry, admittedly stubborn, said it took a while for her mom’s advice to sink in, but eventually, it did. “One day,” she said, “I literally got down on my knees and said, ‘God, if you want me to be with this guy, make it so clear. If not, make it so clear that my heart hurts.’” They broke up the next day, albeit amicably. “We were so at peace with it, so friendly toward the situation,” Camry said. Story by Suzanne Ramsey Photography by Laura Bryan Make-up by In Your Face Makeup Art Hair by Emily Garbee at Body Works Day Spa and Salon Venue: The Trivium Estate & Conference Center Bouquet arranged by Bloom by Doyle’s
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“We just bought a house, on the verge of making the big step. We both sat down and had nothing but love and respect. We both agreed that’s not where life is going to take us. We’re still good friends.” The following day, Camry got a text from an acquaintance named Jordan Garrison: “You were on my mind yesterday. Want to talk on the way home from work?” Camry and Jordan had met on MySpace in 2005, while both were in high school in neighboring North Carolina counties. They had mutual friends, texted each other every so often, and had what Camry describes as a “really good friendship.” For Camry, there was nothing romantic about it. Besides, she’d just broken up with her boyfriend and planned to be single for a while. What she didn’t know was that Jordan had different plans. “He actually told his grandpa in high school he was going to marry me,” Camry said. “He never told me that. He kept hope throughout the years.” As Camry and Jordan talked over the next few months, her feelings began to change. They started dating in January 2015. “It clicked for me,” she said. “I called my mom and said, ‘I think that I was wrong. I hate to admit it, but you were right.’ She loved hearing that.” As boyfriend and girlfriend, Camry said they did “simple things” together, like her parents, married for 32 years, have done. “I always look to my parents and their relationship being a good testimony that love is really earthly and love will fade,” she said. “It’ll eventually be something you have to try to work for.
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“My parents don’t go on dates. They go to Wal-Mart and Sam’s Club and get samples. You know you love someone when you can do the little things in life and not really focus on these huge, romantic dates. “When we first got together, we went to Sam’s Club and got samples. He thought it was really strange and I said, ‘Well, this is what you do when you’re young and married.’” Jordan proposed in October of 2015. It was a complete surprise to Camry. They were visiting Camry’s parents in Lynchburg — the couple lives in Reidsville, N.C. — and romantic Jordan planned to propose at the top of the Peaks of Otter. When he asked Camry if she’d like to take a hike, however, she said, “I’m tired.” “Oh, well, do you want go to the park?” he countered. “No, I’m exhausted,” she said. Finally, Camry agreed to get coffee downtown. So, they got coffee, visited some antique shops and walked up Monument Terrace. At the top, Jordan got down on one knee. “He’s a really romantic type and I’m a really realistic type,” Camry said. “He had this romantic speech and all I could get out of my mouth was, ‘Absolutely not!’” >>
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As Bride of the year, Camry received: Photo session with Laura Bryan Photography, $275 Value; Makeup with In Your Face Makeup, $175 value; Bridal Bouquet arranged by bloom by Doyle’s, $60; Hair and Make-Up Design from Emily Garbee, $200 Value; Overnight stay for two in the honeymoon suite from Timberlake Tavern, $150 Value; Featured in the Central Virginia Bridal Guide; and a Three-night Honeymoon Trip for two from Travel Lovers, Priceless. More information on how you can win 2017 Bride of the Year on page 44.
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Realizing she’d hurt his feelings, Camry tried to explain. “No, I’m just caught off guard,” she said, adding that “of course” she’d marry him. Camry and Jordan got married on March 19, 2016, at Old Pate Chapel in Lynchburg. Her dad, pastor of Timber Ridge Baptist Church in Bedford, performed the ceremony. Her mom made most of the decorations. As one might expect, things didn’t go completely as planned. Someone forgot the cake stand and the sash for Camry’s wedding dress. Then there was the niece who insisted on driving her Barbie Mustang down the aisle and had to be persuaded to carry a balloon instead.
In the end, Camry said, those are the things she’ll remember. “Imperfections make the perfect day,” she said, adding that “no disaster could be big enough, as long as the family made it.” The day after the wedding, she and Jordan left on a honeymoon cruise. It was then that another imperfection — an important medication forgotten at home — led to perhaps the best wedding gift of all: a baby boy, due in mid-December. “We call it our souvenir from traveling,” Camry said. Camry, who hadn’t planned to start a family immediately, admits she spent some time “bawling and crying” over the news, but Jordan was optimistic, saying, “It’s OK, it’s God’s will.” She said Jordan was her “ultimate rock” during a first trimester that included plenty of morning sickness, and while it wasn’t the honeymoon phase she imagined, it was good for them. “Since we got pregnant, we’ve learned a lot about each other,” Camry said. “You’re not very comfortable being around your husband as newlyweds. Now, I’m throwing up and he has to hold back my hair. ... “Not that I would recommend getting pregnant as soon as you get married, but it’s been a huge blessing because we’ve learned to ultimately rely on each other. Instead of being newlyweds, we’ve gotten thrown into life.”
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“To Pin or not to Pin?” that is the question. Six years after the launch of Pinterest, almost every bride jumps to start her inspiration board right away; the real difficulty lies in recreating the look on a budget. In central Virginia, brides can get the most of out their Pinboards by soliciting the help of local professionals. According to The Knot’s annual Real Weddings study, the average cost of a wedding is approximately $32,641. Interestingly, The Knot’s report indicates that more brides are now using professional services, which might be the key to finding the most value. Below, we have collected top tips from local professionals on where you can save versus splurge. Venue
be more comfortable during the event. CoolSculpting supports exercise efforts and MiraDry reduces sweat. To start, Hill can recommend a personalized regimen to help a bride “…become the most radiant and confident version of [herself].” For each consultation, Hill discusses aesthetic goals, budget and timeframe to make an individualized plan. After 16 years of working with brides, Emily Garbee-Harris, a hairstylist, makeup artist and manager at Body Works Day Spa, knows how to listen. Her assistance starts with the wedding consultation, typically two months before the wedding. During this consultation, she carefully watches the bride’s reaction when she turns toward the mirror. According to Garbee-Harris, the only difference in budget is how many touchups the bride anticipates during the day. Similarly, Jennifer Griffin, a cosmetic tattooist at Beyond the Surface, lends her artistic eye to lash extensions. Griffin works out of several locations, including Caspian Tattoo. Her extensions are customized to the bride’s eye shape and fullness. Additionally, the extensions can last up to three weeks leaving long lashes for the honeymoon. Save vs. Splurge For wedding beauty, experts agree that professional experience saves both time and touchups. Garbee-Harris encourages Pinning because it helps clarify styles and expectations. Griffin also encourages Pinning because brides may use terms like “dramatic” or “classic” differently.
Photography Average cost: $2,618 Photographer Audra Lynne Rygh of Audra Lynne Creative explains her passion
Average cost: $14,788 At The Timberlake Tavern, Event Coordinator Jennifer Reynolds dialogues with brides to help them understand their options. She relishes the chance to help the bride create this part of the story. Reynolds explains, “The best case scenario is to visit your venue on the same day [as your wedding] a year prior. Then, you can check out the temperature and landscaping. You can see what’s blooming for outdoor pictures that time of year and the time of sunset.”
for weddings saying, “I love knowing that a bride can trust me to capture one of the most important and special days of her entire life.” This trust starts with the consultation where Rygh asks the bride what is most important. For example, some brides may be more focused on candid images than posed photos. Talking about these expectations early in the process focuses the shooting schedule. Save vs. Splurge When it comes to Pinterest, Rygh says Pins can help her create a checklist for
Save vs. Splurge Reynolds recommends, “…finding a venue that doesn’t have hidden fees but is more inclusive of linens and chairs.” For Pinning, she explains, “It’s always helpful
the bride’s story. Also, a Pinboard can create opportunities for Rygh to discuss the venue and how it may look in photos. For example, a bride may choose to
to have a picture of your vision.”
budget more for fresh flowers and lighting because these photograph well.
Flowers
To Pin or Not To Pin When it comes to your
Average cost: $2,300 Cheryl, owner at Cheryl’s Secret Garden, has been helping with weddings
wedding budget, the
for more than 20 years. For a consultation, Cheryl emphasizes the bride’s
consensus is “Pin away.” Don’t
personality by encouraging the bride to imagine what will make her happy.
assume you can’t achieve
Cheryl explains, “I don’t start by talking about her budget. Instead, we talk
your look on your budget
about her desired look. How does the bride want to feel when she looks at her
and will need to resort to
wedding? What will make her happy? Then, I find a combination of flowers that
overly ambitious DIY projects.
can create that look regardless of her budget.”
Local professionals can help
Save vs. Splurge
you turn those inspirational
While Cheryl explains that you can’t have “an orchid wedding for a carnation
photos into a personalized,
price,” you can get a beautiful wedding on any budget. Working with a florist can
budget-friendly look. In fact,
actually make those perfect Pins more attainable because floral arrangements can
their years of experience can
be repurposed during the event. For example, bridesmaids’ bouquets can become
help you find ways to save
centerpieces, lowering the cost of table arrangements during the reception. Also, an archway from the wedding ceremony can be moved to the reception site.
time, stress and money. If you find yourself wondering if you can afford your
Wedding Beauty
dream wedding, start with
Average cost: $209 Several beauty experts gave advice to feel comfortable and confident.
the Pinned photos and let
Samantha E. Hill, MD, FAAD, owner of Aesthetics by RidgeView Dermatology,
experienced professionals
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As you plan your wedding, you might be asking yourself some big questions like, “Who should pay for everything?” or “What is the proper order of the ceremony?” These questions all have to do with wedding etiquette. Below, a wedding planner helps couples sort out some of the four most common topics. Financial Planning
It is no surprise that most weddings cost a pretty penny these days, but traditionally—who should pay? Not only are there venue expenses, you must also consider attire, food, flowers, decorations and gifts. Knowing the proper etiquette can alleviate unnecessary stress and potential conflicts. “The bride’s family typically pays for the wedding,” said Connie AmosParsons, owner and CEO of At Your Service Events Planner. “The groom’s parents pay for the rehearsal dinner, and if the bride’s parents are not able to pay for the entire wedding, then sometimes if the bride and groom are both working full-time, they offset it by helping out with some of the costs.” To prevent strain for both families, budgeting is essential. “That’s the most important thing for the bride and groom to discuss,” AmosParsons said. Without a budget, planning can become very stressful. She recommends that the bride, groom and the bride’s parents sit down and discuss the budget prior to starting the planning process. “To try to wing a wedding without a budget is a recipe for stress,” she said. Jenny Cardinale, who is planning her wedding for May 2017, said her parents are helping with the wedding costs, and her fiancé’s parents are paying for the rehearsal dinner. However, she is covering the cost of specific things she wants. “Photography is very important to me, so I want to get a good photographer,” Cardinale said. “I’m going to be paying for that myself, and there are a couple other things that are important to me that I’ll pay for myself because it’s something more that I want versus the normal wedding cost.” Also, typically, the groomsmen, best man, bridesmaids and maid of honor, will pay for their own attire. “Sometimes the bride will treat the bridesmaids and maid of honor to hair and makeup,” Amos-Parsons said. Psst! See our budget checklist on page 48 to stay on track financially.
Gift Giving “The proper thing to do is to give gifts to your bridal party and your groomsmen,” Amos-Parson said. The groom should purchase gifts for all the groomsmen and best man, and the bride is expected to purchase gifts for the bridesmaids and the maid or matron of honor. “If she wants to, sometimes they buy for the mother of the bride and groom as an extra touch, and then they present it to them usually at the rehearsal dinner,” Amos-Parsons said. If the budget allows, some brides and grooms will also give gifts to others who are involved with the wedding. “You can give a tip to the vendors if they provide excellent service,” she said. The appropriate time to give a tip is at the end of the wedding.
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and two or three different types of beer, alcohol can be provided to guests and still fit into a budget. However, offering any alcohol will drive costs up significantly. “Alcohol is expensive,” Amos-Parsons said. “If they decide to have an open bar, that would probably add…10 percent to the reception, at least.” You’re not only paying for the alcohol itself but also for the bartenders. If you choose not to have alcohol, whether for financial reasons or personal reasons, there is always the option of serving a “sparkling” beverage as an alternative for the toast.
The Ceremony Amos-Parsons said that watching reality TV and weddings on TV is not necessarily a good thing, as it does not always portray traditional and proper wedding etiquette. “There are several different ways you can practice going down the aisle for rehearsal, but the bride is supposed to be traditionally on the right, not the left,” she said. “I see it (incorrectly) all the time on TV, on the reality shows, and even soap operas.” Placing the bride on the right symbolizes a place of honor. “Proper etiquette would be for the bridesmaids to go down by themselves, starting with the tallest one on the end, and then going inward until you get to the maid of honor,” Amos-Parsons said. If the bride has a matron of honor, she walks before the maid of honor, keeping the maid of honor closest to the bride so she can hold her bouquet. A junior bridesmaid should stand next to the maid of honor, and the flower girls stand slightly in front of the maid of honor. The groomsmen can either enter down the outside aisle or from another room, coming in with the groom, best man and the officiant. “It looks better and not as crowded for the bridesmaids to go down alone,” Amos-Parsons said. This traditional method symbolizes singleness as each bridesmaid and the bride walk down the aisle. At the end of the ceremony, each groomsman escorts a bridesmaid down the aisle, symbolizing unity. “There are definitely some traditional aspects that I think everyone should have at their wedding, but I think that there’s a certain amount of uniqueness and creativity that you can have based on the couple,” Cardinale said.
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The Alcohol Debate The average bride is not required or expected to have an open bar due to the high cost. It is more common for brides in this range to provide two or three drinks per person at the reception. The high-end bride, having a wedding that is budgeted at $30,000 and up, will most likely offer an open bar with a variety of alcohol. “The way that some of the brides are going now, the brides that are on a budget, they will have beer and wine,” she said. By providing a red and white wine,
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Q - How should I determine who to invite to the wedding? A – “After the couple gets engaged, they discuss with their parents how they would prefer to have their guest list developed. The guest list is divided into four lists: the bride, groom, parents of the bride and parents of the groom. The list is prioritized by ‘must invite’ and those on the ‘no way’ list. Decide on a total number of guests based on your budget.” Q – When should I send my invitations and expect guests to RSVP? A – “Invitations are normally mailed six to eight weeks before the wedding, and if it’s a destination wedding, up to three months before the wedding. RSVPs may be sent the first day listed on the invitation.” Q – How long can I wait to send thank you notes? A – “It’s customary to send thank you notes no later than three months after returning from your honeymoon that you take right after the wedding.”
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When it comes to weddings, everyone talks about the bride. Of course this is okay, she has a right to be in the spotlight on the big day. But a wedding is a celebration of a coupling—two becoming one—and is difficult (dare I say impossible) to pull off without a plus one for the bride. For the groom, planning the wedding might feel anywhere from overwhelming to unimportant, but as he looks to spend the rest of his life with his fiancée, this planning stage is an excellent opportunity to put being a life partner into practice. With the help of some friends who have married in the last year, I have pulled together a few tips that might help the groom in getting from her “Yes” to “I do.” Offer to help—and mean it From the beginning it is important as a groom to not relegate yourself to the sidelines, even if you might feel that is what your partner wants. Most brides want their fiancé to be involved, to help make decisions, to care about the details. Don’t assume the bride and company want to plan everything themselves. But when you offer your help, it needs to be sincere—this isn’t the time to put in half-effort. Give your honest opinions but note that “I don’t care,” even with genuine intent, will not translate well. Sometimes your bride might ask your opinion so that she can talk through her own ideas and get some fresh input. There are going to be times when the bride feels overwhelmed. These are opportunities to practice being a helpmate—listen, offer input after the emotions cool, affirm and listen (the importance of the latter cannot be overstated). Also, take it upon yourself to step up on her behalf. Some people might yield in areas that they care about simply because they do not want to confront someone. It is important for both of you to support each other—including occasionally sticking up for one another, even if it means saying something to an overbearing family member.
Focus on the important things There are two sides to this: priorities and personality. Early on you want to take care of the big things—the venue, the caterer
and the photographer (most people I know cannot emphasize enough the importance of getting a photographer who is not only talented but also trustworthy). Get quotes from different vendors and feel free to negotiate within reason—and note that many vendors can be flexible, substituting items for others in a package to either help customize or lower costs. Plan ahead so you don’t have to stress and scramble later. When budgeting, start with the “musts” and work your way down to the “that would be nice” items. Also, both you and your fiancée need to each decide the things that are important to yourselves. This helps you both understand the expectations of each other and to help meet those. Talk about what songs you want to hear. After our ceremony, my new wife and I exited the chapel to an upbeat song by my favorite band. It was a fun way to cap the formalities and allowed us and our wedding party to show some personality by dancing back down the aisle. Things like music, fashion, food and the drive away car are all opportunities to inject some personality into the festivities, and talking through how you express yourselves as a couple—with dashes of each individual personality combining—will help you both get the most out of it. Of course this is not about outshining one another, it is simply about blending your two personalities, just as your lives do together.
Enjoy This is your wedding. It is not a big party to impress your friends. Keep that in mind as you plan; the reception is a celebration of the wedding— your wedding. Don’t feel too much pressure about what everyone else will think. It is easy to get stressed, so remember the point of it all. Everyone will tell you it goes by fast. “It” can mean anything from the planning to the ceremony to your first anniversary. So relish the moments and remember what brought you here; you are getting married after all, enjoy your happily ever after step by step. There are moments of the wedding festivities you will never forget— dancing the night away with friends, pre-wedding festivities, a blush-inducing toast and, above all, the way she looks when she walks down the aisle. The memories don’t begin once the rings are exchanged. So turn registry shopping into an adventure. Throw a wink while addressing envelopes. And shirk convention here and there as you put the “your” in “your wedding.” Have. And hold. Congratulations to Ches & Meagan Helmick and David & Christiann Listor, who were recently wed (the guys helped me with ideas for this), and all my love to my bride, Naomi.
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Your wedding photos will last a lifetime. No pressure, right? Instead of worrying about how they will turn out, pose with confidence. Wedding professionals share some hidden desires and facts they wish brides knew before the big day. Get to Know (and Trust) Your Photographer • Trust matters in any relationship, including the one between you and your photographer. Your photographer wants to have a relationship with you and your groom, on both a personal and professional level. Unlike a caterer, the photographer is not a vendor hired for a job; he or she is an artist who will assist you in telling your story. On the day of your wedding, one of the most important days of your life, your photographer is going to be with you throughout the entire event. Having a relationship with that person will help you to relax when in front of the lens.
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• “We got this! Relax and know that you have a professional who will make sure your photos turn out.”—Sam Stroud • Be honest and have a conversation with your photographer about your concerns, before the wedding. This will help you to relax and ensure your wedding day moves along seamlessly.
Own Your Own Unique Look • If you feel awkward, own the awkwardness. • If your photographer gives you instructions to do a specific pose or action, do it. Although you may feel uncomfortable with advice that is out of the ordinary, trust your photographer. • “This might sound odd, but often times things that feel comfortable to us on a daily basis tend to look very awkward in photos. My biggest piece of advice for this is to follow the instructions that the photographer gives but remember not to look too stiff or uptight.” —Audra Rygh • When selecting your wedding gown, select a dress that flatters your body type, makes you feel confident, and resembles who you are. If you feel uncomfortable in your dress, it will translate into your photos. VISIONS BY HEATHER
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• When taking bridal portraits, don’t hide behind your wedding bouquet. Show off! • Be timeless. Make sure that you are not swept up in a wedding fad. • “When it comes down to the wedding theme and your wedding look, be true to you. Because that is when you are the most beautiful.”—Sam Stroud
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• Creating a timeline that takes into account the needed space for the creative process will help the day to flow seamlessly, making you more relaxed. It will also give your photographer the freedom to artistically capture the wedding day you have planned. • If you are unsure about the time needed for photos, ask your photographer for input. • “Take your time, because rushing will result in very lackluster photos.”—Audra Rygh • Communicate with your photographer to come up with a rainy day plan. “The more information I have, the better I can plan if we need to readjust.”—Audra Rygh • Before the photographer is scheduled to arrive, have the details arranged. Completing this task will maximize the time before the wedding day events begin and will help your photographer’s day progress smoothly. • “The details excite me because it gives me something so intricate to capture in combination with all of the fun and excitement that is happening on the wedding day.”—Audra Rygh
A few more ideas from photographers… • Understanding the artist or the photographer’s style is important in determining if their flair matches the vision you have in mind. • Never begin a sentence with the words, “So, I saw this idea on Pinterest.” You hired an artist to capture your day, so don’t kill your
photographer’s creativity. Trust your photographer, giving free reign to explore and capture the true spirit of your wedding day. With that, leave the expectations at the door. • “Having the lighting be as natural as possible will produce flawless photos.”—Adam Barnes • When getting ready, keep the room as clean as possible. You don’t want your empty coffee cup and lunch in the background of your wedding photos. • Work with your photographer to create a list of the immediate family members you want portraits with. Most times, you will spend more time tracking down each family member. So, think of whom you really want in your album and framed on your wall. Use the time during the reception to capture the photo with your extended family and guests.
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Poses That Pay Off On top of juggling the stress of organizing a wedding, brides also want to look their best in that perfect dress. If you are short on time, narrow your focus to the parts of the body that will show the most on the big day—the arms, back and shoulders. One of the best ways to tone these areas without bulking up? Yoga. Below, Nancy Allen from James River Yoga explains some simple poses you can incorporate into your daily routine. Start by holding each pose for three full breaths (that means a full inhale and exhale) then work up slowly from there.
Downward Facing Dog—Start with your hands and knees on the floor then raise your bottom to the ceiling while straightening your legs and arms. Create a triangle shape with your body. Your ears should be between your upper arms; tops of shoulders are relaxed so the neck is free. Fingers should be spread out. Heels may or may not touch the floor.
Dolphin—Similar to Downward Facing Dog but with your forearms on the floor in place of your hands. For an extra challenge, turn your palms facing up.
Plank— From Downward Facing Dog, walk your feet back so your body is no longer creating a triangle shape but rather a long line parallel to the floor. Start with a straight arm version then move to a more challenging pose with your forearms on the floor.
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bring your weight to one hand that is slightly in front of your shoulder. Stack feet on top of each other in line with that hand, toes spread. The top arm can lengthen along the ear or reach for the ceiling.Alternate on both sides. For more challenge, do this pose with forearm down and parallel to top of mat.
Starting with your bottom on the floor and your legs out in front of you, push your pelvis up to the ceiling, creating a straight line parallel to the floor. Your hands should be pointed toward your feet; chin can draw gently to the chest.
Stand up to complete your workout with this series of shoulder exercises: a. Hold arms straight out to sides; palms facing down. b. Bend arms; palms still facing down. Keep elbows as high as shoulders. c. Without dropping elbows, raise arms so palms face forward. d. Turn palms in, facing your ears. Hug energy from shoulders and make “Popeye” arms.
e. Turn palms to face out—draw the pinkies toward each other and reach the thumbs away from each other. f. Extend arms straight out to the sides, and release. Circle your shoulders a few times. Learn more about James River Yoga at jamesriveryoga.com.
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Your wedding planner or officiant can offer guidelines for a typical wedding ceremony, but don’t feel obligated to stick with the routine. Whether you’re planning a traditional service or a casual celebration, there are many ways to customize your ceremony to fit the overall vision for your day. Here are 10 tips:
1. The Entrance Music. First of all, consider your overall wedding theme. Are you going for a relaxed, personal feel or something more formal? Choose songs and instruments that will enhance the motif of your day. A casual wedding might include acoustic guitars strumming your favorite love songs, while a formal wedding could incorporate a 5-piece string ensemble performing classical pieces. Either way, if you can, opt for live music rather than a recording in order to give guests the most enjoyable experience. 2. The Seating of Family Members. Honor the members of your family by having an usher formally accompany them to their seats at the beginning of the ceremony. Start by seating siblings (if they’re not in the wedding party), then grandparents, then great-grandparents. The mother of the bride should be seated last, just after the mother of the groom. If a family member has passed away, remember her legacy by having an usher place a flower in an empty seat. 3. The Procession. Here comes the bride! …right after the rest of the wedding party. First, the officiant will lead the groom and groomsmen to the front. Next, your bridesmaids will enter, followed by the maid of honor. The ring bearer and flower girl enter just before the bride. Feel free to seat flower girls and ring bearers in the front row, rather than asking them to stand for the entire ceremony.
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When you’re planning a wedding, it’s easy to get caught up in the details. Things like wedding favors, flowers, and seating charts can quickly take all of your attention. Although those details are important, remember to focus on the wedding ceremony, too. After all, it’s the main event! Adding your personal touch to the ceremony will make it unique and memorable for years to come.
4. The Welcome. Once the bridal party is at the altar and the processional music ends, your officiant will kick off the ceremony with a few opening remarks. Talk to your officiant about what he or she will say. Do you want an explanation of marriage and the meaning of this important day? Do you want to incorporate a few childhood stories about the bride and groom? Decide what you want to be said (or not said) and offer some tips in advance. 5. The Songs. If you’re having a religious ceremony, congregational singing is a wonderful way to engage your audience. Choose your favorite hymns or songs and ask everyone to sing along (just provide the words in your program or via projector). If you want to feature a song as special music, make sure the lyrics fit the mood of the ceremony. Recorded music is prone to technical difficulties, so have songs performed live. Asking a musically-talented family member or friend to perform the music will make it even more memorable. 6. The Readings. Do you have a favorite poem? A favorite Scripture verse? Choose a reading that is meaningful to you and your sweetheart and ask a family member, friend or wedding party member to read it aloud during your ceremony. 7. The Unity Symbol. Lighting a candle. Mixing colored sand. Planting a tree. There are a variety of ways to create a unique unity symbol that you can feature in your home for years to come. If you’ll be blending families during your ceremony, consider inviting stepchildren to participate in the unity symbol. Presenting stepchildren with a token like an engraved necklace or bracelet is a beautiful way to incorporate them in your ceremony and to affirm your commitment to love them as your own. 8. The Vows. Writing your own vows is a great way to customize your ceremony. Consider what you’re promising to your beloved and highlight those commitments in your own words. If you’ll be reciting your own vows, make sure you’ll have adequate sound amplification so guests can hear the beauty of your words to each other. 9. The Rings. Your wedding rings serve as a visual reminder of the commitment you make on your wedding day. Keep them in a safe place before the ceremony and ensure that the maid of honor and best man have the rings before walking down the aisle. Consider engraving the inside of your wedding bands with your wedding date or a special note for your sweetheart.
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On the morning of my wedding, my buzzing cell phone woke me from bridal daydreaming. “We’re calling to confirm your cake order for tomorrow night at seven,” said the baker on the other end of the phone. “I’m getting married today,” I exclaimed. We quickly deduced the mix-up. When my fiancé ordered the cake, he confused the date of the wedding. Fortunately, wedding professionals are prepared for forgetful mistakes, and the baker delivered a beautiful, emergency wedding cake. Like my scenario, brides are bound to forget some large or small details. Below are some common oversights and humorous stories when brides say, “Oops! I forgot...”
Common Oversights Even with a Pinterest checklist, a bride may overlook basic elements of the wedding as the many decisions and details overload her brain. The stories below highlight a few common oversights when wedding planning. “I forgot to bring an invitation to the wedding to have photographed as part of the detail shots. The invitation was a design from my favorite stationery company, and we even chose our flowers with it in mind. So, I would’ve loved to have it in a photo with my flowers.” –Christiann L., handlettering enthusiast and marketing associate “We bought a bunch of food in bulk the day before and put it in the fridge. Some items got left in the fridge accidentally until the very end of the reception when everyone had already eaten their fill. We had a ton of leftovers!” – Heather T., organized list-maker and project manager “As a wedding planner, my boss always carries with him a big box of emergency supplies to make sure we can deal with this anything-cancome-up industry. We have everything that you can think of in that box from Advil to a sewing kit to sunscreen. And when we thought we had everything prepared, we still had to run out to buy a razor and shaving cream for our bride last wedding.” - Annie, Wedding Coordinator at Jose Rolon Events, NY “I had a really tight timeline for my wedding, so the photographer really didn’t have a chance to take pictures of just me on the day of my wedding. Luckily, I had her come take some bridal portraits when I did my hair and makeup consultation. I was able to use those to bridge some of the gaps of the actual wedding day photos.” – Chaia, a Navy Nurse who married a Marine Corps Officer
anticipated to get to their seats. So, the song was cut off abruptly. In the end, it was fine because I still got to walk down to the song I had chosen for my processional.” – Heather T., organized list-maker and project manager “We had our ceremony at around 5:30 p.m. It only lasted eight minutes, and we had the reception right after. Well, we planned on doing a sparkler send off, but I didn’t think about how long it would be until the sun set. It was actually around 8:20 p.m. in late May. So, all my guests started leaving before we were able to do the send-off! Luckily we were able to bribe enough people to stay for the photo.” – Leah J., long-time Lynchburg resident and marketing professional “One of my closest friends just married the love of her life. However, there is one ongoing battle in their relationship: The New York Yankees vs. The Boston Red Sox. The bride, a devoted Yankees fan and New York native, swore to me that she would never date a Red Sox fan. However, she fell in love and decided to marry a loyal Red Sox fan. When we traveled to New York to pick out the bridesmaid dresses, the abundance of Yankees hats inspired our epic rehearsal prank. The bride and bridesmaids walked down the aisle wearing Yankee hats. While our rehearsal prank went well, there was one thing we forgot—retaliation. Just as the bride reached the doors of the church on the wedding day, the groom placed a Red Sox hat onto his head. The room erupted with laughter, and the bride beamed with the sweetest, surprised smile. While these two may never see eye to eye on America’s greatest team, they are committed to loving each other, for better or for worse—including winning and losing seasons—as long as they both shall live. That kind of love? A home run.” - Deana D., Lynchburg resident and social media professional Whether you lose the marriage license or forget where you stored the rings, last-minute fixes make the wedding day memorable. While the advice above may make you a better planner, it’s important to remember that your love will last much longer than those forgotten wedding details.
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1. Calendar—Create a document that includes all of your important dates, such as deliveries for items like the cake and payment for vendors. 2. Photo List—Create a list of “must have” shots you want your photographer to take. 3. Emergency Kit—Start putting a bag together now with things you might need. See our checklist on page 47 to get started!
Humorous Stories Sometimes, brides encounter unique problems on their special day because they did not think something through. But these circumstances create hilarious stories for couple to retell at dinner parties during their newlywed months. “The DJ had to start the song that the grandmothers and bridesmaids walked down the aisle to again because the grandmothers took longer than
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Valet Parking
Miles from Lynchburg Airport
Miles from Roanoke Airport
Alcohol permitted?
Overnight Accommodations?
Details
Avoca
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YES
YES
70 INSIDE , 300 OUTSIDE
YES
YES
NO
25
45
YES
NO
Claytor Nature Study Center
23
YES
YES
50 INSIDE , 175 OUTSIDE
YES
YES
NO
25
32
YES
YES
YES
YES
NO
1/4
53
NO
YES
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Comfort Inn & Suites
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farmbasket
34
NO
YES
125
NO
YES
NO
9
53
YES
NO
Historic Avenel Plantation
26
YES
YES
80 INSIDE, 400 OUTSIDE
YES
YES
NO
22
32
YES, WITH
NO
Liberty Mountain Snowflex Centre
43
YES
NO
150
YES
YES
NO
3
55
NO
NO
Mead Lake Lodge
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YES
YES
200 INSIDE, 300+ OUTSIDE
YES
YES
YES
10
60
YES
NO
NO
YES
UPON REQUEST
11
56
YES,
NO
NO
YES, SOME RESTRICTIONS
NO
8
60
NO
NO
N/A
YES
NO
5
58
NO
NO
YES
UPON REQUEST
6
50
YES, WITH
NO
YES
NO
Oakwood Country Club
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YES
LIMITED
Old City Cemetery
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YES
YES
Old Pate Chapel
18
YES
NO
R.S. Exclusive Event House
13
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The Trivium Estate & Conference Center
200 60 INSIDE, CALL FOR OUTSIDE
400
THROUGH CLUB
YES
LIMITED
50
39
NO
YES
500
YES
YES
NO
62
112
YES
NO
18
YES
NO
250
YES
YES
NO
5
58
NO
NO
BACK COVER
YES
NO
300
NO
YES
NO
4
54
YES
YES
YES,
YES,
YES
YES
15
40
WITH ABC LICENSE
NO
YES
UPON REQUEST
10
50
YES
YES
YES
NO
15
67
YES, WITH ABC LICENSE
YES
YES
YES
200 INSIDE, 400+ OUTSIDE
SOME RESTRICTIONS
SOME RESTRICTIONS
Timberlake Tavern
29
YES
YES
200
PLEASE CALL
Winridge Manor
30
YES
YES/ TENTED
50 INSIDE, 175 OUTSIDE
YES
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Treat yourself & spread the JOY! This charming, rustic wedding venue features: • Fully renovated 2,400 square ft. event lodge with beautiful large deck, AC, and heating • 150 acres of superbly landscaped grounds and lakes • Full service kitchen for catering needs • Gazebos and lakeside Pavilion
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“To get the full value of joy you must have someone to divide it with.”
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Happy Honeymoons Tips and Tricks to Planning the Perfect Getaway By Tiffany Lyttle
The Wedding “To Do” list is a long one—invitations, caterers, music, the dress...but wait! What about the honeymoon? Steve Arthur, agent at Travel Lovers, laughs as he recalls the
desperation of many couples who have come to him franticly looking for last-minute honeymoon help. “It’s the last thing couples think about… which is never a good thing. Choices are diminished, and costs are a great deal more,” he said. Before you break into a sweat, Arthur and Elizabeth Huff from Travel Team weigh in on new trends and what to consider when planning your romantic vacation.
intimidated or deterred, a travel agent can be a wonderful resource. A common misconception is that using a travel agent is an added expense, but in reality, travel agents usually aren’t paid commission for their services. Arthur says an agent can be an incredible resource for choosing ideal destinations and finding points of interest that fit your preferences and
DIY vs. Travel Agent
budget. The benefits also include matching or beating advertised deals,
Planning a trip to a nearby destination may not require special qualifications, but if international or distant travel leaves you feeling
suggestions for daily itineraries and having the security of a person to contact in the event anything goes wrong.
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According to Huff, while prices for bigger honeymoons can vary, a week-long trip to a popular destination generally ranges between $3,000-$5,000. However, working with
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“In many cultures around the world—including Celtic, Hindu and Egyptian weddings—the hands of a bride and groom are literally tied together to demonstrate the couple’s commitment to each other and their new bond as a married couple (giving us the popular phrase ‘tying the knot’).”
— The Knot.com for Huffington Post
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tighter budget. Huff gives couples a wedding questionnaire so she can, “…as realistically as possible tend to their needs… provide suggestions… [and] help with travel. We work with you!” No matter if you chose a sentimental nearby destination or adventures in exotic lands,
throw tradition to the wind and enjoy the perks of the delayed
enjoy the planning, as it can be just as much of an adventure as the wedding.
honeymoon.
Mini-Moon vs. Honeymoon
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Weddings have a tendency to both mentally and financially drain a
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a travel agent can help you find deals to accommodate a
“People like getting in the summer…the
couple, which is why the new trend in honeymooning is the mini-moon:
disadvantage is that
a short weekend trip or stay-cation. As Huff explains, there is merit to
you’re competing with
this new trend, as young couples are just starting out, buying homes and
the most popular vacation time, and it’s more expensive,” said Arthur.
starting new jobs. Time and money are limited so a mini-moon is more in
If timing is flexible, the best months for honeymooning are March
line with what newlyweds need to start off on the right financial footing.
through mid-May and September through November. “If you go in the
Mini-moons can be as versatile as the couple, but Huff says popular options range from short cruises to a romantic train trip to New York City. Mini-moons vary in price but average around $1,000-$3,000.
spring or fall…prices are 20-25% less,…you’re not facing the crowds… [and] the weather is almost always better,” said Arthur. No matter the decision, delayed or immediate, couples should expect to have their reservations booked and paid for three to six months in
Immediate vs. Delayed Remember the big Royal Wedding? Will and Kate delayed their honeymoon, because even the Prince had to go back to work. The benefits
advance to avoid higher rates and limited options. After you’ve told the world you love each other, the honeymoon is a
of the immediate honeymoon are obvious to anyone who has ever planned
time to give each other that same message, in a more private setting.
a wedding—you need a break! Planning a wedding is hard work and often
It’s the first and last time you will ever be together in this way and no
the honeymoon is the first time you’ve been able to spend a quiet moment
matter the honeymoon location or timing, it will be perfect so long as
together. However, travel experts have noticed trends where newlyweds
you are together.
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I Wish I Had Known… Couples tell us how they would finish this statement, “When I first got married, I wish I had known:”
Here’s their wisdom for your benefit! Jeanine and Jeff Maxwell; married for 27 years since October 28, 1989.
Daniel and Megan Clark; married for 3 years since August 9, 2013.
“When I got married, I wish I would have known… how right my mother was when she would tell me ‘don’t
“When I got married, I wish I would have known…that marriage could be this fun. Marry
wish your life away.’ … I was always trying to get things
your best friend, that way you can experience
done quickly (rush to make dinner, get the kiddos to
life, and all it has, with your spouse and best
school and practices, finish that last load of laundry
friend at the same time!”—Daniel Clark
before tomorrow morning). With the stresses and deadlines of life, we soon forget to enjoy the present moments that we cannot get back. Now the kids are grown and gone, and we are down to just “us“ again. A bit slower but with more spare time that allows
“When I got married, I wish I would have known…that marriage would be such hard work. Fun work...the kind of job that you like to go to, but you have to be present—no slacking off. I was lucky enough to find someone who balances out
me to reflect on how silly the rushing around was.
my seriousness with his silliness. Oh, and always
I would have ended up at this moment in time anyway, but perhaps a bit less stressed and more thankful of my gifts—my marriage and my children, which I thank God for every day to be as lucky as I am to have such a beautiful family.” —Jeanine
Samantha and Andrew Moroz; married for 9 years since September 29, 2007.
make time for dates. That’s such an important way to reconnect, especially after a long week of work and life with kids!”—Megan Clark
Cindy and Steven Jones; married for 37 years since January 13, 1979. “When I got married, I wish I would have known...that everything is going to be all
right. When I got married, I wish I would have known... how exhausting being married is. Unless you are a clone of one another, you will both have different expectations and needs.
“When we first got married, I wish I had known…more about setting realistic expectations. As time went by, I realized
I wanted everything; he (the practical one) wanted to wait. My advice: wait. Stuff is not all that
responsibilities onto each other, which added unnecessary
I got married, I wish I would have known...being right is not what it is cracked up to
tension and even hurt feelings at times. At this point, being
be. Is a long, hurtful argument just to say you are right really worth it?
my husband and I both had projected various roles and
9 years into marriage, we have learned that consistent communication is key to a growing and healthy relationship, even with the smallest of details.”—Samantha
important; it’s nice but really not important. When
Things said in anger can never be unsaid. When
I got married, I wish I would have known…that we would be able to live through the worst
events ever imagined. We are able to cope with life only because we have worked at it and understand how the other is feeling.”—Cindy
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Nestled deep in the rolling wooded hills of southern Virginia, there’s a place where time holds its breath. A place where serenity lingers under every gently swaying tree branch. A place where timeless elegance rests with the gentleness of love’s first kiss. The place is The 1752, a world class special event and wedding venue. Located on 118 gorgeous acres, The 1752 offers facilities unrivaled by any in the area, including a luxurious inground pool, 5-acre lake, and pavilion equipped with a state of the art sound system and 75-inch flat screen television.
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SMART MARRIAGE
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Larry Compter, Executive Director – Compass Marriage & Relationship Services
Buckling your seat belt every time you get in a car – smart. Studying hard for that critical final exam – smart. Putting money aside in a personal emergency fund – smart. Going through a comprehensive premarital preparation program before your wedding – smart.
You’re excited about your upcoming wedding. You’re probably spending a lot of time preparing for that special day, as you should. Are you also preparing for the exciting future that follows, as a married couple? Getting ready for life-changing events seems like common sense to most people. Training and preparation is the norm when we’re talking about careers, operating a vehicle, or handling medical emergencies. It is just as important when you are getting ready to embark upon the most significant relationship in your life! Yet, as much time and money as some couples spend on preparing for the day of the wedding, many ignore the much more critical preparation for the life that follows. Why is it necessary to “prepare” for marriage? Because it’s a life-changer. As a married couple, you will experience both joys and challenges that you never have before. You don’t need a crystal ball to realize that there will be aspects of your life together that you did not expect. Having the skills and wisdom to handle them well is what premarital preparation is all about. One thing my wife and I have learned in 37 years together is this: it’s not the problems you
face, but how you face the problems that makes the difference in your marriage. Preparing for the unexpected is just plain smart. You’ve probably heard some people use the term premarital counseling. I have never liked that phrase. “Counseling” implies that there is a personality or relationship problem that needs to be addressed. That’s not usually the case for an engaged couple (certainly not for you, right?). In contrast, premarital preparation is more like training or coaching: teaching you and your fiance how to steer around some of the major potholes and speed bumps of married life and how to truly enjoy the journey for the rest of your life. So what does a good premarital preparation include? Ideally, it should start with a thorough assessment of the relationship as it is today. In our practice, we use a program called PREPAREENRICH©, which is a comprehensive and highly accurate online questionnaire for couples. It helps to identify those areas of the relationship that are going well, and those that may need some “tuning up.” Over the course of eight followup sessions, you and your fiance will discuss the results of the assessment and talk about your expectations of marriage. You’ll also learn important skills in communication, conflict resolution and solving problems as a team, rather than as adversaries. Along the way, you’ll get lots of tips and ideas for keeping the romance alive and dealing with children, inlaws, careers and friends. And there are fun, interactive exercises to help you get to know your mate even better! The ultimate goal of premarital preparation is to help you be absolutely confident that you have the knowledge and skills to make your marriage last a lifetime, and that you will enjoy the trust, intimacy and friendship that a healthy marriage is all about. It’s not too soon to start. Schedule your premarital preparation program today. Be smart!
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“Like a river flows surely to the sea,
Darling, so it goes; some things are meant to be. Take my hand, take my whole life too—
For I can’t help falling in love with you.”
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Now What? Writer Emily Hedrick with her husband Bryan; they’ve been married almost three years.
By Emily Hedrick
The first year of marriage is often referred to as the “honeymoon phase,” and it is certainly a time of much joy, discovery and excitement as a couple begins a new chapter Tip #2: Be willing to compromise on just of their lives together. That said, the first year is also a about everything period of big changes and adjustments, which can often My husband Bryan and result in conflict. Conflict is inevitable, and it is actually I, who have been married for almost three years, healthy for couples when resolved properly; when issues both have wonderful are left unresolved, however, the results can be disastrous. families who love to Read on to hear about some common issues that arise celebrate holidays and during the first year. Licensed marriage counselors and local other occasions together. Because my family lives married couples give some advice on how to surmount these in a different part of the state, however, it obstacles and build a strong foundation for your marriage. Tip #1: Don’t expect the first year— or marriage in general—to be easy One of the biggest mistakes couples make when getting married
is having unrealistic expectations; if you expect that nothing will go wrong, even the smallest argument will seem monumental. “Expect the first year to be difficult,” says Anthony Centore, Ph.D., founder and CEO of Thriveworks Counseling and Life Coaching. “If you expect your first year to be easy, you’ll only get more frustrated, and you’ll begin to wonder if something is ‘wrong’ with you or your marriage. If you expect it to be hard, at least you’ll know you’re not off track.” Weddings, though beautiful and symbolic, can sometimes play into the fairy tale notion of “happily ever after” and make the less romantic reality of marriage more difficult to accept. Jonathan and Sandra Fries of Lynchburg have been married for a little over eight years, and Sandra advises couples to keep this difference in mind. “Marriage isn’t easy; it’s stressful,” she says. “Don’t forget that the marriage is more stressful than the wedding.” She adds that a sense of humor can go a long way when dealing with this stress: “You can’t take yourselves too seriously. You Jonathan & Sandra Fries, married eight years.
have to learn to laugh at yourselves.”
isn’t always possible to attend both families’ festivities for a particular occasion. As such, we have compromised by alternating which holiday we spend with each family every year. According to Centore, deciding how to fairly divide your time between families is only one of myriad compromises you will have to make as a couple. “New couples are compromising on everything: from what friends to keep to how to spend money and free time, from the décor of the house to the temperature of the house,” says Centore. “There is a lot of change, and there are a lot of compromises and trade-offs.” If you approach compromise as a positive thing that benefits both you and your spouse, your marriage will be off to a much better start.
Tip #3: Put your spouse first, especially during a conflict The notion of compromise is directly linked to the notion of putting your spouse first; in both cases, you take a step back from your perspective and consider your spouse’s perspective before speaking or taking action. This process is especially important—and especially difficult—in the midst of conflict. “It is very easy to have emotional and relational connection during the great times, but it is much more challenging to have it during the difficult times,” says Chuck Rodgers, a licensed professional counselor and licensed marriage and family therapist at Wyndhurst Counseling Center. According to Rodgers, there are four distinct steps to properly resolving a conflict. “The first step is to ‘turn toward,’” he says. “When there’s conflict, somebody has got to begin to turn toward
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In fact, according to Rodgers,
you’ve got to give your concerns, but you have to give them in a way
there is a magic number when it
that can be heard by the other person. Third, you have to receive the
comes to quality time: five and
other person’s influence. When one spouse complains about the other
a half hours per week. “When
spouse, they are right. You must sit with open hands and receive the
couples spend at least five
influence of the other person without defense. Finally, each piece
and a half hours together
of this has to be wrapped up with a wonderful nurturing attitude. It
per week they tend to do
cannot be done with contempt.”
well,” he says. “If they spend less than five and a half hours
Tip #4: Spend quality time together Of course, marriage isn’t just about compromise and conflict; it’s also—and especially—about being connected and having fun! The best way to connect with your spouse and nurture your marriage is to spend quality time together. Price and Beverly Blair of Lynchburg have been married for 13 years, and according to Beverly, doing a variety of things together that first year was beneficial for several reasons. “I think one of the biggest challenges Price and I faced during our first year of marriage was moving to a new city, Boston, and simultaneously learning to live in a completely new environment while also learning to live
together, they tend to struggle or not make it at all. There needs to be at least 20 minutes per day where the couple ‘debriefs’ their day.
Price & Beverly Blair, married 13 years.
There need to be spontaneous times and planned times as well. It’s rather simple in concept, but it takes some real intentionality. It’s also really, really worth it.”
Tip #5: Remember that you aren’t perfect… and that is perfectly OK Above all, don’t be too hard on yourself, your spouse and your
together,” she says. “We learned to do a lot of things together, like
marriage. All married couples experience turbulence, and no two
studying, cooking, grocery shopping and chores, so we had more
couples will steer their way through it in the same exact way. “Have
time together. We lived on a tight budget, which forced us to find fun
patience with your spouse and with yourself,” says Centore. “Realize
free activities in the city, like libraries and free concerts and museum
that neither of you are perfect, and neither of you are going to be
events. But we also made sure to splurge once a month—maybe a
perfect to the other.”
Red Sox game or dinner out at a nice restaurant. The balance was so important and brought us closer together.”
As long as you love each other through the good times and the notso-good times, that is perfectly OK.
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Name Change
What to Do After the “I Do”
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What’s in your new last name may be less important to you right after the wedding than how to get it officially changed. The process is a bit lengthier than you might anticipate, but we are here to help. Here is how to get a jump on switching your maiden name to your married name once you have said “I Do.”
This piece is the first and most critical to complete as it allows you to make all of your other changes. Make sure to have someone responsible in charge of mailing it in for certification immediately after the wedding (have this planned in advance to give you peace of mind). If you’re lucky, your marriage certificate will arrive not long after you return from your honeymoon.
Driver’s License This is your primary form of ID. Simply visit your DMV with your marriage license, old
IRS This changes automatically when you get a new Social Security card.
driver’s license and another form of identification in hand. While you’re there, you might as well change your car title and registration.
Social Security Card You can download a replacement application at www.ssa.gov/ forms/ss-5.pdf. Fill it out and mail it in to the supplied address or take it to your local Social Security office. Processing can only be done with your original documents in your old and new name, so your marriage certificate and original social security card are what you need.
Passport Visit www.travel.state.gov to download a Passport Name Change
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Application, which is Form DS-5504. Fill it out and send it to your nearest passport agency (view the list of agency addresses on the same site). Also, send certified documentation of your name change (again, your marriage certificate will work here) and your current, valid passport. It will be amended and returned to you.
Voter Registration Call your local registrar’s office and have them send or fax you a
All brides in attendance will be eligible to win wonderful giveaways, including the title of 2017 Bride of the Year.
name change form. Ask what form of proof is needed (it varies from
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state to state).
Type up a letter detailing the proper information; include your old and new name, account number if applicable, your social security number, etc. Make sure to include a photocopy of your marriage certificate. These updates are typically free.
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“How about coffee, drinks, dinner, a movie. . .
for as long as we both shall live?”
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The 12-Month Countdown 12 Months
Four Months
Determine Budget and discuss division of expenses Select a wedding coordinator Reserve ceremony and reception sites Decide on the size of your guest list Notify the officiant of your plans Begin discussing where you will live
Nine Months Choose attendants Select color scheme and decide on any theme Shop for wedding rings Select bridal gown, veil and accessories Decide on a photographer Select and book caterer Compile names and addresses of guests Schedule engagement photo session
Six Months Select and order attendants’ apparel, including bridesmaids, groomsmen, flower girl and mothers Consult travel agent about honeymoon plans Announce engagement in the paper Select & order invitations and other stationery Choose ceremony music and musicians Meet with florist, discuss style and costs Reserve rooms at hotel for out-oftown guests
Finalize guest list Start addressing envelopes Schedule Bridal Portraits Reserve tuxedo & accessories Reserve limousine, carriage or rental Order or make reception favors Select menu with caterer Meet with baker and select cake style and taste
Three Months Purchase attendants’ gifts Arrange and plan rehearsal dinner Arrange rehearsal details with wedding coordinator and party Select order of ceremony Select guest book attendant Reserve any wedding-day rentals or accessories Plan bridesmaid luncheon Make appointment for hair and make-up Plan order of events at reception with DJ or musicians Select ceremony and reception music Request vacation time at work
Six to Eight Weeks Send invitations Confirm ceremony details with officiant Order engravings on wedding rings Have all men measured for tuxedos Prepare wedding announcement for newspapers Practice-run with hair and make-up stylists
Four Weeks Prepare RSVP List Get marriage license Buy or make Groom’s gift Arrange for final fitting of gown Confirm honeymoon reservations Plan seating arrangements and place cards Confirm reservations for out-oftown guests Write Thank You notes for gifts as they come in
Two Weeks Prepare wedding day checklist, delegate responsibilities Meet with photographer to go over your expectations Meet with videographer to discuss details Meet with DJ or band to confirm your requests Send invitations for Rehearsal and Dinner Confirm time and wedding rehearsal schedule with everyone involved Confirm wedding vendors’ arrival and set up times Arrange for bouquet and gown preservation Arrange name and address changes on bank accounts, credit cards, driver’s license, social security card and utilities Move personal and mutual belongings to new home
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Take the week off from work Provide caterer with final guest count Pick up wedding rings Groom and Groomsmen try on and pick up tuxedos Consult with wedding coordinator about all details Final consultations with florist, musicians, photographer, video, decorators and rental company Pay clergy and musicians Pack for honeymoon – don’t forget your passport, if needed Attend bridesmaids’ luncheons Have nails done Have dress pressed Take maps and event schedule to hotel for out-of-town guests Arrange transportation for out-oftown guests Discuss seating arrangements with ushers
The Day Before Decorate ceremony and reception sites Keep all personal appointments Finish packing for the honeymoon Move all items to your new home Get plenty of rest!
On the Wedding Day Stay calm & relaxed Have hair and make-up done Take marriage license and rings to ceremony Above all else, have fun and cherish your day!
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sequence of events Confused about what happens when? Use the following guide to help plan the order of your ceremony and reception. Ceremony
The Groom Takes His Place
The Exchange of Vows
Every religion has their own established rituals, customs and traditions for wedding ceremonies. Also, your clergyman or officiant may also have specific rules and procedures to be followed when they officiate a wedding ceremony. So, when planning your ceremony, be sure to consult with your officiant every step of the way!
The officiant, ushers, best man and groom take their positions.
Traditional vows may be exchanged, or you may write your own personal vows to recite.
Attendants’ Procession
Music with Ceremony
The processional music for the bridesmaids, maid or matron of honor, flower girl and ring bearer begins as they are ready to march down the aisle.
Music is played during the candlelighting and other nonverbal portions of the ceremony.
Seating of Guests
Bridal Procession
Pre-ceremonial music as the ushers seat the guests. Music usually begins 15 minutes before the ceremony.
Following the attendants, the bride’s father offers the bride his left arm as they begin down the aisle. Music is played and the guests rise in honor of the bride following the cue of the bride’s mother.
The Ring Exchange
Seating of Parents After the guests are present and seated, the groom’s parents are escorted to their seats. The bride’s mother is the last to be seated. The bride’s father is waiting with the bride.
Be sure to know where your rings are.
Giving Away of the Bride/ Charge to the Bride and Groom Message, explanation of marriage or Scripture reading.
The Kiss! The Introduction At the end of the ceremony, the officiant may introduce the newlyweds to the guests as the new Mr. and Mrs.
The Recessional The bride and groom lead the bridal party back down the aisle.
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Medical Examinations:
Circuit Court Clerks Office, 900 Court Street, Lynchburg, VA 24504 434-455-2620
For all persons 18 years of age and older, the couple must both go in person to complete and sign the application. Acceptable forms of identification include driver’s license, passport, military ID or state ID. Persons under the age of 18 must provide notarized consent from parents or legal guardians.
There are no blood tests or exams necessary for a marriage license in the state of Virginia.
When to Apply: You can apply up until the day of the wedding. The license must be used within 60 days of issue. The license will be issued upon completion and acceptance of the application. This must be completed by the officiant performing the ceremony. Check with your officiant to see if he or she will also send in the completed application or if you need to take care of that yourself.
groom’s checklist Six to 12 Months Before Decide division of financial obligations Set budget
Remarriages:
Four Months Before Select formal wear for you and your attendants Make reservations for rehearsal dinner Arrange wedding day transportation Make arrangements for your out-of-town guests and family members Finalize your guest list Select wedding rings with your fiancée
Six to Eight Weeks Before
Choose best man, ushers and groomsmen
Set date with your fiancée to get marriage license Select gifts for attendants and your bride Pick up wedding rings Send rehearsal dinner invitations
Check passports and visas
There is a $30 fee for application (cash or check). These guidelines pertain to Lynchburg, Va. Call your local circuit county clerks’ office for your area guidelines.
Applicants will be required to give an accurate account on all previous marriages.
Set appointment with clergy/officiator Plan your honeymoon
Fee:
Central Virginia Bridal Guide
Select clothing for honeymoon Confirm honeymoon and travel details and reservations
One Week Before Pick up wedding day attire Give bride’s ring to best man Make sure groomsmen have their attire and are ready Give best man officiator’s fee in sealed envelope for delivery Pack for honeymoon Give final guest count for rehearsal Confirm time and place of wedding rehearsal with all your attendants
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wedding party roles Being the Best Man or the Maid of Honor is just that—an honor. Therefore, their duties go above and beyond those of the rest of the wedding party. But that doesn’t mean your bridesmaids and groomsmen get off scot-free. Here are some roles and responsibilities you can anticipate and assign to each person in your party for smooth sailing all the way down the aisle. Maid or Matron of Honor The maid or matron of honor is a person who the bride feels she can rely on to ensure that everything on her wedding day runs smoothly. The bulk of her responsibilities are centered around the celebrations: • Assists with stuffing invitations and putting favors together. • Coordinates the bridesmaids to plan bridal showers and bachelorette party. • Helps the bride stay on time and focused the day of the wedding and accompanies her to all wedding day appointments. • Ready to run last minute errands or help with those final details to see that everything runs smoothly for the rehearsal, ceremony, and reception. • Responsible for the groom’s ring, bride’s bouquet, and fixing train and veil the day of the wedding. • Helps the flower girl find her place during the ceremony. • Assists with decorating and clean up. • Makes sure the gifts and bride’s belongings get to the proper place.
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• Assist the Maid/Matron of Honor with showers and bachelorette party and keep track of the gifts received. • Makes sure the bride has her honeymoon bag packed and everything she needs for the wedding day. • Keeps the party going at the reception. • Helps with decorating and clean up.
Best Man The best man is more than just a glorified groomsman—he’s the groom’s right-hand man: • Serves as the groom’s personal assistant before and during the wedding. • Helps the groom choose formal wear and coordinate the other groomsmen’s rentals. • Organizes the bachelor party. • Holds the bride’s ring the day of the wedding. • Helps the ring bearer find his place during the ceremony. • Makes sure the marriage license and honorarium are delivered to the officiant. • Gives the first toast at the reception. • Decorates the getaway car. • Makes sure the groom’s honeymoon bag gets in the car. • Returns his tux.
Groomsmen
Bridesmaids The bridesmaid’s most important role is to provide emotional support for the bride during the planning process and throughout the wedding. There are also pre-wedding tasks that are important to perform: • Assist with stuffing invitations and putting favors together.
• Assist the Best Man with the bachelor party. • Make sure the groom has everything he needs for the ceremony and honeymoon. • Run any errands he may need. • Keep the party going at the reception. • Help decorate the getaway car. • Help get the gifts to the proper place.
bride’s emergency kit Essentials you need should the unexpected happen Beauty/Grooming
Health
Miscellaneous
Nail file Nail polish (one in the bride’s color and clear for runs in hose) Brush/comb Hair elastic Earring backs Lint brush Tweezers Makeup remover, skin cleanser/moisturizer Deodorant Toothbrush, toothpaste, mouthwash, floss Bobby pins Hair dryer (for hair or drying dresses after stain removal)
Straws (for drinking without ruining lipstick) Acid relief Smelling salts Eye drops Contact lens solution Headache medicine (two different types in case someone in the party is allergic) Band-aids Tampons/sanitary napkins Tissues
Baby powder (useful for getting out last minute spills on a white dress) Static cling spray Bottled water Small hand towel (put around neck when doing makeup) Hard candy Mints/breath spray Travel size perfume White chalk to cover stains on the dress Package of wet wipes Portable iron or steamer Tape, safety pins and scissors Directions to reception (extra copies) Sewing kit Super glue (‘cause you never know!)
Attire
Flat shoes or ballet slippers Extra buttons and pair of hose Gloves Jewelry
wedding day checklist Wedding Day Apparel
Gown—alterations & pressed Shoes Bra/Undergarments Jewelry Garter
Wedding Day Accessories
Guest Book & Pen Ring Pillow Cake Knife and Server Toasting Glasses Favors
The Bride’s Resource
Wedding Day Necessities Marriage License Groom’s Ring
Bride’s Emergency Kit (See above)
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who’s doing what It’s often hard enough to keep all of your responsibilities straight as the bride or groom—from rings to vows—much less anyone else’s job. That’s why it is so important for the couple to delegate jobs to those around them who are often more than happy to help. Here’s a list of who’s doing what that will help ease your wedding day jitters and make sure everyone has a role to play.
Assigned TO:
Phone Number:
Decorate Ceremony Site_____________________________ ___________________ Clean-up Ceremony Site_____________________________ ___________________ Decorate Reception Site_____________________________ ___________________ Clean up Reception Site_____________________________ ___________________ Pick Up Groom’s Tux________________________________ ___________________ Return Groom’s Tux_________________________________ ___________________ Guest Book Attendant______________________________ ___________________ Hair & Makeup_____________________________________ ___________________
Assigned TO:
Phone Number:
Light Candles Before Wedding_______________________ ____________________
Aisle Runner_______________________________________ ____________________
Couple’s Transportation_____________________________ ___________________
Beverages_________________________________________ ___________________
Music at Ceremony_________________________________ ___________________
Wedding Gown____________________________________ ___________________
Music at Reception_________________________________ ___________________
Bringing Marriage License___________________________ ___________________
Paying Officiant____________________________________ ___________________
Mailing Completed License___________________________ ___________________
Photographer______________________________________ ___________________
Cake Knife & Cutting________________________________ ___________________
Videographer______________________________________ ___________________
Toast_____________________________________________ ___________________
Programs_________________________________________ ___________________
Cake Top__________________________________________ ___________________
Rings_____________________________________________ ___________________
Decorating Car_____________________________________ ___________________
Announcing the Couple_____________________________ ___________________
Deliver Bridal Portrait_______________________________ ___________________
Transport Gifts from Reception_______________________ ___________________
Distribute Flowers__________________________________ ___________________
Miscellaneous______________________________________ ___________________
wedding budget Item
Item
Budget Actual
Budget Actual
Item
Budget Actual
Wedding Attire
Reception Continued...
Photography Continued...
Wedding Bands
Wedding Cake
Wedding Programs
Bridal Gown
Cake Topper/Knife
Postage
Headpiece/Veil
Toasting Glasses
Calligraphy
Undergarments
Napkins
Addressing
Alterations
Additional Services
Flowers
Groom’s Tux/Suit Bride’s Mother Bride’s Father Gown Preservation Hair & Makeup Pedicure Manicure Shoes Jewelry Lingerie
Reception Site Rental Rental Supplies
(linens, china, tables, chairs)
Caterer/Food Beverages Decorations
(servers, bartenders, valet parking)
Ceremony Site
Entertainment
Reception Site
Ceremony Music
Bridal Bouquet
Reception Music
Attendants’ Flowers
Band/DJ
Parents/Grands
Dance Lessons
Honored Guests
Photography & Invitations
Other
Engagement Pictures
Clergy/Officiant
Bridal Portraits
Marriage License
Wedding Day
Attendants’ Gifts
Wedding Albums Extra Prints Videography Photographer’s Fee Announcements Invitations
(other than flowers)
Reply Cards
Gratuities & Taxes
Thank You Cards
Central Virginia Bridal Guide
Transportation Favors Rentals Honeymoon Spending Money Wedding Night Accommodations
Total
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honeymoon checklist Essentials
Glasses/Contacts
Tickets Itinerary Passports
flower checklist
Bride’s List
Cost
Number
(take at least one
Shirts
extra pair)
Jeans/Shorts/Pants
Bride’s Bouquet______________________
____________
Coat/Sweater
Groom’s Boutonnière__________________
____________
Maid/Matron of Honor’s Bouquet________
____________
Purse/Wallet
Bridesmaids’ Bouquets________________
____________
Plastic Ziploc Bags
Phone Numbers
(for dirty laundry or
Cosmetics
Wallet/Purse
items that may leak)
Dresses
Photo I.D.
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$50 cash/coins
Reservations
(in small bills for
Jewelry
Flower Girl’s Bouquet/Basket___________
____________
Traveler’s Checks
tipping and
Lingerie/Sleepwear
necessary expenses
Robe
Floral Headpieces____________________
____________
while traveling)
Shoes
Hostesses’ Flowers____________________
____________
Bathing Suit
Mothers & Grandmothers______________
____________
Groom’s List
Evening Wear
Fathers & Grandfathers________________
____________
Swimming Trunks
Razor
Umbrella/Rain Coat
Dress Shirt and Tie
Underwear/Bras
Best Man’s Boutonnière________________
____________
Calling Cards
Dress Pants
Groomsmen & Ushers_________________
____________
Sunglasses
Shoes/Socks
Will You Need?
Aisle or Pew Decorations______________
____________
Meds/Prescriptions
Robe
Electrical Adapters
Altar Arrangements___________________
____________
Camera/Batteries
Shaving Kit
Vaccination Records
Shirts
Candelabra Flowers___________________
____________
Toiletries
Language Guide Book
Deodorant
Sleepwear
Travel Guide Book
Gift Table___________________________
____________
Sunscreen
Jeans/Pants/Shorts
Map (especially if
Bride & Groom’s Table_________________
____________
Hair Products
Belt
Cake Table__________________________
____________
Dress Shoes
Underwear Overnight Bag
Food Table/Décor____________________
____________
Luggage Tags
Centerpieces________________________
____________
Toss Bouquet________________________
____________
General List First Aid Kit Toothbrush/ Toothpaste
you’re driving)
Travel Alarm Clock
(separate from
Walking/
luggage with
Running Shoes Sandals/Flip Flops
Name and number of your travel agency or booking agent Photocopy of
essentials for
Passports and
Miscellaneous________________________
____________
one night)
important items
Total______________________________
____________
Credit Card
wedding photos Photographer:___________________________
Creating a “shot list” has little to do with adult beverages when it comes to your wedding. Arguably, one of the most important aspects of your big day is what will last after it is over—your vows, love, and hopefully, your photos! While more professional photographers understand what is essential to capture, here is a simple list to add to or subtract from. Give your personalized list to your photographer so he or she will know which moments you want to remember for a lifetime.
Phone:____________________________________ Budgeted Cost:___________________________ Actual Cost:______________________________ Formal PortraitS Date/TIME:______________
Bride, dressing for ceremony
Groom with grandparents
Recessional
Best man toasting newlyweds
Bride, full-length solo
Groom with siblings
Formal bride and groom together
Newlyweds toasting each other
Bride with parents (together)
Groom with best man
Newlyweds and parents
Cake and punch servers
Bride with parents (individually)
Groom with groomsmen
Newlyweds with children/
Musicians
Bride with grandparents
Groom’s, Bride’s parents being
Bride with siblings
seated for ceremony
Bride with maid of honor
Bridesmaids walking down the aisle
Bride with attendants
Flower girl/ring bearer walking
Bride with ring bearer/flower girl
down the aisle
stepchildren
Newlyweds’ first dance
Newlyweds with entire bridal party
Guests dancing
Close-up of newlyweds’
Bride tossing bouquet
hands clasped
Groom removing garter
Close-up of rings
Groom tossing garter
Garter being put on
Bride and father approaching the altar
Receiving-line guests and bridal party
Guests throwing rice/birdseed
Groom, full-length solo
Bride’s father giving hand to groom
Cake table
Newlyweds getting into limo or car
Groom with parents (together)
Exchanging of vows
Bride and groom cutting cake/
Father/daughter dance
Groom with parents (individually)
Ring ceremony
feeding each other
The Bride’s Resource
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LOCAL LOVE
LOCAL LOVE STORIES Whether big or small, engagements that highlight the special moments of your unique relationship are what make the difference.
Here are some engagement stories of local love:
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Stephanie and Macon Knigh t Tied the Knot on May 28, 2 016
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Megan and Stephanie were two of our finalists for Bride of the Year 2016; to find out more about entering the 2017 contest, see page 44.
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