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LOVE & SEX Knowing the difference makes the difference.

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Once again we take you deeper into the bedroom.

Let's talk about SEX & LOVE. Most people confuse the two.

THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN LOVE

AND SEX.

When two individuals make love, their vulnerability levels are pretty high. This is often a result of sharing emotions and words that they may not have done before. Both persons tend to let their guard down and risk and reward come into play. During love making, one experiences unique closeness with their partner and find it difficult imagining other moments happening without them.

On the other hand when you are having sex with someone, although the vulnerability still plays a role, it is of a different kind. Namely, one may be afraid of the sexual intercourse not being good or losing the needed chemistry. Also, one may question if his/her sexual needs will be received well or not.

Love and sex are two different things. Some believe that the two are almost interchangeable. They assume that if sex is present, then love is as well. This can lead down some very rough roads. Others believe that the two aren't connected at all. They believe that you can easily have one without the other without any lasting effects.

Sexual desire and love lead to some of the same reactions in your brain. That means it can be easy to confuse what you are experiencing. This is why some people struggle to think that they are in love after they have sex when the other person doesn't.

Sexual desire is one way to show love to another person, however you can have sex without love being present, but then sex is just sex. There is nothing more to it. Even if you physically enjoy it, there will be a level of emptiness that comes with making love when love is absent. There is no real meaning to it. You know that it leads to nothing else. But when you love the person that you are with, it takes the sexual experience to a deeper level because emotional needs are being met as well as physical needs.

People Try Unsuccessful to Fill the Void of Love with Sex. out for one - night stands. They aren't short- term. There is no lasting positive impact from one- night stand or empty sex. However, if this person starts to experience a loving relationship, they don't have to go out hunting for the next hookup. Whether they want to admit it or not, they are filling the void of love in their life with sex.

If you believe that love and sex are the same things , and not just Connected, you will be led into sexual experiences because you are seeking love and believe you will find it by making love. This is only setting yourself up to be hurt. Love and sex are Connected but not the same. Many people will have sex with you to try to meet their needs, even if they have no feelings of love for you.

FACT IS, you either use people or get used by people- when you are in a loving relationship, you both want the same thing which eventually promotes your sexual compatibility. Your sexual experiences are deepening your relationship and you want to please each other both in bed and out of bed.

Examples of 2 different people who just wants sex for sex.

1) Someone can just want sex when he/ she feels sad because he/ she likes the comfort the physical holding provides. Some people wants to be held when they are sad, infact the need to be Some people are constantly on the look- cally programed into our brains. held when one feels sad is biologieven looking for a relationship they are 2) Some people desire sex when they just looking to hook up. There is no love are lonely. They believe it is weak to let involved in these types of connections, someone know that they feel lonely and it is poorly sexual.The reason for this wants company. Alternatively, they think person has to keep searching for the next it is acceptable to find and ask for sex, experience is that sexual fulfilment is which satisfies their need for human connection. 17 VICIOUS COLLECTIONS ISSUE 07

Sexual excitement is a core emotion. And each core emotion has a program, this program causes specific physical sensations and impulses to arise inside us at the moment when a particular emotion is triggered. Sexual excitement is often physically felt as sensations in the groin are with an impulse to seek orgasmic release. Sadness, anxiety, loneliness, anger , and dear are other emotions that can combine with sexual excitement. The mixture of the tender emotions with sexual excitement is the brilliant way the mind can make sure core human needs are met consciously covert yet culturally acceptable ways. No When having sex, the intimacy has to do with merging physical needs and body parts with the other partner, whereas love making is more about connecting your minds and souls through the act of sexual intercourse.

QUESTION Can someone have sex with someone for more than a year without falling in love?

Yes You can have a year of steamy casual sex with someone and never fall in love.

QUESTION Does sex increase love?

Sex in a monogamous relationship increases your level of commitment and emotional connection with the other person. Expressing love through sex increases the likelihood of couples staying together. As a result sex positively associated with a lower divorce rate.

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