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Do fathers and mothers have different roles in parenting? John Piper It's interesting that in Ephesians 6 Paul says, "Children, obey your parents," not just your dad. And then it gets to fathers and says, "Fathers, bring your children up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord." So I think there is a "both/and" in the Bible. Both mom and dad are responsible to give commandments and give teachings. The book of Proverbs talks about the teaching of a mother as well as of a father, so a parental team confronts this child with the will of God and with godliness. But fathers bear a unique responsibility. Fathers are given a unique responsibility in the marriage to lead, protect and provide for a wife, those three things. And the children are watching this, and they know that a special role is given to dad. And when it comes to discipline of the children, the way that this uniqueness comes out is that dad assumes the buckstopping, initiative-taking role. A child ought not to see that mom is always the initiator of discipline or devotions or of special family activities. That's going to breed into a child a sense that their dad doesn't get it, or is weak, or is not the spiritual leader that he ought to be. Dad,
So I sometimes say to couples, "Who says 'let's' more often in your family? Let's get to church on time. Let's eat out today. Let's talk about the finances in this marriage." And if the wife is always having to say, "Let's have devotions, let's discipline the children better, let's go to worship," and the dad is always responding or is always recalcitrant, then something is amiss there. A wife loves to have a husband, not who domineers or does everything, but who takes creative initiative. And if there is crisis with the kids or with the finances, he says, "Let's talk." And then he wants to hear what she says. Now she may have greater wisdom on the issue than he does, but he takes the initiative to get it done. So there is a unique role for fathers, and yet the teamwork is essential. However, I back off a little on essential to say for single moms and single dads that God can take an imperfect situation and provide that essential component so that the kids can grow up in a wonderful way. In fact, I just had dinner with a single dad and his two sons about three weeks ago, and I just stood in awe. I didn't probe into what had happened—she had been gone a long time, and it wasn't a death, so there is obviously some crisis there. But I looked at these two boys, one in college and one just finished with college, and thought, "This dad has done something really good here." God can make the difference.
Event Highlight | 30 Hour Famine
The Famine is students around the world loving God and fighting hunger. This is our chance to join other groups of students all over the world in learning the truth about hunger, poverty, and injustice, then to overcome it all with love. Along the way, our group will learn about hunger and make a difference in the lives of children living in poverty. To top it off, our students will be drawn closer to God and one another as they experience hunger firsthand. Worldwide, 925 million people are hungry. Every day, as many as 11,000 children under age 5 die due to hunger-related causes. That’s one kid every 8 seconds. The Famine gives our group a chance to do something about it: to rise up and serve the hungry. Every $30 raised by our group can help feed and care for a child for a month. And because the Famine is powered by World Vision, we’re not just feeding kids for today. We’re helping them and their families overcome poverty for a lifetime. Through the Famine, students will learn about real-world issues of poverty and injustice, and they get the chance to make a real difference for hungry children. Our prayer is that their own lives will be transformed as they experience hunger firsthand. Testimony from Josh, a student who did the 30 Hour Famine “30 Hour Famine has impacted me personally by opening my eyes to what people around the world have to go through every day. I’ve learned that hunger’s not easy to deal with, but I’ve also learned to rely on God.” Is Fasting Safe? Most people can safely go without food for 30 hours, but there are some people who shouldn’t, including kids under 12, the elderly, pregnant or nursing women, and people with certain medical conditions. If you have any concerns about your student fasting, check with a doctor first. If your student is unable to participate in a food fast, we have some creative alternatives. E-mail David at david.wood@villagebible.org or call him at 630.391.3572 for more info.
Calendar of Events Sun
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Wed 1 Student Ministry Gathering 6:30-8:30pm | SG
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8 Student Ministry Gathering 6:30-8:30pm | SG 15 Student Ministry Gathering 6:30-8:30pm | SG 22 Student Ministry Gathering 6:30-8:30pm | SG 29 Family Reunions/ 5th Wednesdays Check for times and places.
Student Ministry Gathering 6:00-8:30pm | AC 5
6 Super Bowl Parties 5:00-9:30pm | Campusspecific locations are online
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Student Ministry Gathering 6:00-8:30pm | AC 13 Student Ministry Gathering 6:00-8:30pm | AC 20 Student Ministry Gathering 6:00-8:30pm | AC 27 Student Ministry Gathering 6:00-8:30pm | AC
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Thurs 2 Rock & Worship Roadshow | $10 Meet: AC at 5:30pm or at IC at 4:45pm 9 Student Ministry Gathering 6-8:30pm | IC 16 Student Ministry Gathering 6-8:30pm | IC 23 Student Ministry Gathering 6-8:30pm | IC
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11 Loft Night 7-10pm | SG
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24 25 30 Hour Famine At SG Campus
Student Ministry Gathering 6-8:30pm | IC
March 9
Moody Bible Institute Day One Experience | 8am-6pm | All Campuses
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High School Loft Night | 7-10pm | SG Campus
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High School Loft Night | 7-10pm | SG Campus
April 13-14
Dare 2 Share | $75 ($60 Earlybird due March 1) | www.dare2share.org
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No High School Loft Night due to Dare 2 Share
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Senior Banquet | Senior High | $30 | 6–10:30pm | SG Campus
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Adulthood Banquet | 6-9:30pm | Aurora Campus
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High School Whirly Ball Celebration | 4:30-9:30pm
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High School Loft Night | 7-10pm | SG Campus
June 11-16
Aurora Mission Trip | Middle School | $125 | All Campuses
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Aurora Mission Trip | High School | $125 | All Campuses
Visit villagebible.org/students for details on these events and our ministry.