OVERCOMING ANXIETY

Didn’t you know that anxiety is the new normal? This is what a client said to me the other day. She was trying to be comedic, yet we both knew this was coming from frustration and a feeling of being overwhelmed. Life today seems full of people who suffer from one form or another of this tormented state.

I have heard clients call their anxiety a primal fear that has the power to paralyze them in a one-two punch, no matter what their good intentions may be. Without management, anxiety makes life lose a sense of joy, purpose and any type of stable normalcy.

Possible causes may be rooted in the person’s childhood. For example, a lack of stability in one’s early life may create a poor foundation, and the worry centre in the brain may be over activated. Also the person’s genetics may contribute to the puzzle of anxiety. Ultimately, there are many possible sources for anxiety. A childhood that is rife with violent communication, volatility, addiction and trauma (physical as well as emotional) may work on the nervous system in ways that can cause the brain to be in a constant state of hyper vigilance and over reactivity. The brain is attempting to cope with the constantly changing landscape of a turbulent family.

And since we tend to form our world view by the time we are 7 years old, this state of never knowing what is around the corner or waiting for the other shoe to drop may cause a child to develop into an adult with severe anxiety.

Also quieter, less obvious family dynamics such as non-acknowledgment, which may turn into a constant need to perform, apologize, be perfect, be good, and be likeable in order to get what they seek. The anxiety of not getting what they need is there constantly as an undercurrent.

The nervous system constantly goes into full activation. The most primitive survival part of the brain is repeatedly getting the message that life is not safe (real or perceived) and thus produces the biochemicals of trauma. This may then cause chemical imbalances in the brain, causing cognitive distortions later on.

That said, there is no certainty that someone will have chronic anxiety if they have experienced the above family dynamics. People deal with early childhood experiences in different ways. Anxiety tends to run in families and we inherit these predispositions. So if all the pieces are there, the fertile soil to develop such a condition may ensue. But not necessarily.

Tips for Taming the Goliath of our Time

by Victoria Lorient-Faibish, MEd, CCC, RPP, RPE

If the patterns for anxiety exist in a person, it is important to use a variety of coping strategies so that quality of life is not diminished altogether

judgment, criticism, lack of boundary respect, emotional blackmail, passiveaggressiveness, cold or non-verbal family interaction may all be potential breeding grounds for developing emotional anxiety patterns later in life.

The “hard working baby ” may be in action as the child perceives he or she needs to work hard for attention, acceptance, love and recognition. An urgent need for closeness and belonging evolves, or a fear of abandonment unfolds,

Anxiety is uncomfortable. The person is caught in a physical response that feels uncontrollable; sweating, stuttering, worrying, obsessing, sometimes heart palpitations, faster breathing, panicky feelings, lost feelings, clinginess, paranoia and more. Logic has a hard time surpassing these anxiety patterns. The brain has developed thick neural pathways that reflect this type of mental/ emotional/ physical trauma response.

If the patterns for anxiety exist in a person, it is important to cope with this state with a variety of strategies so that quality of life is not diminished altogether. Also, the immune system of those who have anxiety can become compromised, so taming this seeming giant is so crucial.

Ten Powerful Tools to

Help You Cope with Anxiety

1) Deep, slow and con-

scious breathing is by far the simplest, cheapest and most effective tool that can quickly move the person to stimulate the relaxation response – and thus the parasympathetic nervous system – when in a heightened state of being. Breathing can begin the slow but sure journey of building the relaxation neural pathways that are crucial to interrupting the anxiety auto response.

Getting used to catching oneself at the beginning of an anxiety state and then consciously and deliberately slowing down the breathing will decelerate the heart beat and mind. This will then gently shift the focus

back to a safe space. There Notice your internal are many breathing tech- running commentary. niques, but a simple one to Are you constantly slow down the breathing is focusing on worst case to slowly breathe in to a scenarios? count of three and out to a count of three. Slowly increase the count to four in and four out, and five in and five out, etc. 2) Positive and relaxing visualizations capitalize on the fact that the brain does not seem to differentiate between real or perceived events. Creating a peaceful place in nature in one’s mind such as a beach, a mountain or waterfall, and focusing on it regularly in great detail, can be effective in calming anxiety if done habitually. The biochemistry of relaxation will ensue.

I often spend time in my office facilitating the creation of this safe, peaceful space in great sensory specific details with my clients so that they can use the visual often when feeling anxious. This is a muscle that needs to be worked and practised in order to stay useful and to facilitate the creation of these particularly important neural pathways that calm the worry centre down. 3) Create an Anxiety Thought Log, recording thoughts and processing events that create anxiety on a sheet of paper or in a journal. When a situation occurs that brings on anxiety, begin to breathe in a slow way and sit down somewhere quiet as soon as possible. Begin to ask yourself a variety of questions:

A) What is the situation? Who are you with? Where are you? When did it happen?

B) What is the mood and what are all the feelings that are present during the event. Write a list down of all the feelings you are experiencing associated with the situation causing anxiety. Then rate each feeling one to 10 on how intense each feeling is (increasing in intensity as the number increases).

C) What was going through my mind just before I started to feel anxious? What am I afraid of ? What is the worst thing that I am worried about in this situation? What words, pictures or memories come up for me as I think of this situation?

D) What is the evidence that you have to support the worry and fear thoughts? Avoid interpreting other people’s thoughts. You are not a mind reader.

E) What is the evidence that does not support the worry and fear thoughts? Use logic and reality based thinking as much as possible.

F) Find other more balanced thoughts about the situation. For each negative, fearful thought you discover in the log, circle it and create a separate page that consists of the opposite, more balanced and empowered thought.

G) Rate your mood and feelings again after the thought

log process. Tune in to the new feeling state that is coming about. Rate the feelings one to 10 once again.

4) Separate what you have control over and what you do not. You do not have control over outcomes and over other people’s reactions and actions. You do have control over your own thoughts, feelings and perspectives on life.

5) Don’t overwhelm yourself. Deal with one thing at a time. Keep life simple. Know your limitations and don’t take on more than you can handle.

6) Take supplements to assist the brain chemistry.

Essential Fatty Acids are a natural mood booster and have a calming effect (at least 4,000 mg of EPA and DHA combined). A good vitamin B complex (100 mg per B) helps to support the exhausted adrenal glands. Vitamin D (at least 2,000 IUs) is proven to elevate mood and disposition. Take 5Htp –t his is the feel good amino acid precursor to serotonin (100 to 200 mg in the morning).

7) Exercise stimulates the release of endorphins and thus plays an important role in feeling good about life. It helps to maintain calmness and is a good stress reliever.

8) Become aware of your present moment. Notice your internal running commentary. Are you constantly focusing on worst case scenarios? Begin encouraging yourself to create a constant positive running commentary about life in general. Notice your inner thinking while doing mundane activities. Affirm that “Everything is working out better that you expect. ”

9) Don’t rush. Leave time for yourself when going out. Being in a rushed state will often trigger anxiety.

10) Get in touch with the child within you. Parent him or her as you wish you had been treated. Give your inner child what it needs: love, acceptance, relaxation, respect, empowerment, nurturing, good choices, safety and unconditionality.

All of these strategies have the potential, if used regularly and diligently, to change lives. Remember – new neural pathways are the key. They need repetition to be created. Once the new pathways are developed, the auto response to triggers begins to shift. The process becomes easier in time.

Victoria Lorient-Faibish MEd, RP, CCC, BCPP, RPE is a Relationship Expert, Registered Psychotherapist, Holistic Psychotherapist, Life Coach, author, speaker. Her other book is entitled Find Your Self-Culture: Moving Past Depression and Anxiety to Monumental Self-Acceptance. For appointments and more info, (416) 916-6066, visit www.visualizationworks.com

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FREE DANCE CLASSES

FOR SENIORS

AND THOSE LIVING

WITH PARKINSON’S

Every day, Dancing with Parkinson’s (DWP) brings people living with Parkinson’s disease, and seniors who want to exercise, out of isolation and into an artistic community where they can dance and connect with others, both online and in-person in Toronto.

DWP provides free evidence-based dance classes and artistic experiences that enrich the lives of people with Parkinson’s disease, other seniors who want to stay connected and active, as well as care partners, families and friends.

DWP offers 365 days of free in-person and virtual programming opportunities, in an effort to break down barriers to access, providing seniors opportunities for physical activity and social connection in an artistic, inclusive and joyful setting.

Virtual Classes: ● Seniors Daily Dance Connect: (Free) 11:00 –11:30 am (Online via Zoom)

This seated dance and movement program is open to those living with PD and all other seniors. Care partners are welcome, but not required. Register: https:// www.dancingwithparkinsons.com/free-classes

In-Person Classes: ● DWP In-Studio Dance Class (Bloor/Spadina): Free on Mondays 12:45 – 1:45 pm at Trinity St. Paul Centre: 427 Bloor Street West, Toronto

Specifically designed for people living with Parkinson’s Disease (PD) and based on the Dance for PD method, this class begins seated, moves to standing behind a chair, and then throughout the dance space. Open to people living with PD of all abilities. Walkers and wheelchairs welcome; care partners welcome, but not required. Register: https://www.dancingwithparkinsons.com/register-forin-person-class ● DWP In-Studio Dance Class (Broadview/Danforth): Free, on Wednesdays 3:30 - 4:30 pm at 721 Broadview Avenue, Toronto (lower level)

Offered in partnership with the Woodgreen Seniors’ Active Living Centre, this class is open to seniors of all abilities, as well as those with Parkinson’s Disease. Register: https://www.dancingwithparkinsons.com/register-for-woodgreen-class

More information call: (647) 217-9252, or email: info@dancingwithparkinsons.com

Free dance classes for seniors and those living with Parkinson’s are offered online and in-person

Master Teresa Yeung is offering a Chi Gong program to help alleviate the symptoms of menopause

CHI GONG: THE NATURAL MENOPAUSE SOLUTION

This is a healing-based program for before, during, and after menopause. It teaches women to take control of their health through easy-tolearn breathing techniques and gentle movements which create life force, in order to ease discomfort, pain, mood swings, sweating, and irritations.

The goal is to reduce the intensity of any uncomfortable feelings that come with hormonal imbalance, flush out the bad energies of the body, and bring in a healing energy – Chi (or Qi)

Master Teresa developed this program over the last decade as a woman who has overcome her own menopausal and postmenopausal discomforts and issues through Qi Gong practice, all the while living a full and joyful life.

Join Chi Gong: The Natural Menopause Solution™ and start your discovery journey to healing today.

The Five Modules SelfStudy Course was created from over two decades of