Kinds of People You Shouldn’t Date

KINDS OF PEOPLE YOU SHOULDN’T DATE

By Avanti Giridharan

Unfortunately, a lot of us end up in the second category. We settle for people we shouldn’t be wasting our time on. Because we’ve been fed many confusing messages about relationships by media, books, movies and TV shows, most people don’t even realize it until it’s too late.

RED FLAGS

It’s every person’s dream to date a confident, through with anything. Such people can never mature person who makes them feel fulfill their promises and priorities and are generally unreliable. It’s like their best self. only a matter of time before they backtrack Conversely, it’s every on your relationship person’s nightmare to and you. be with an incompatible, 2: Entitled: Initially, this may start off as immature partner who minor requests. Then frustrates them. a few favors. And before you know it, they expect you to clean up after them and do everything for them. But never fear! It’s not that hard to spot They simply can’t or won’t do anything these red flags. The signs are all there. You themselves. They often take you for granted just have to know and observe them. Here and forget to even thank you! These are all are some – signs of entitlement displayed by spoiled people. This is definitely not something 1: Flakes: They promise the world but you want in your relationship. don’t give a dime. Sound familiar? If yes, then watch out! Their talk is cheap. They 3: No Planning: It’s okay to be confused. use words to charm you but will never follow We all have times when we don’t know what

to do. Things are uncertain sometimes. But having no plans, goals or ideas regarding anything is a recipe for disaster. Going with the flow is okay as long as it doesn’t extend to every aspect of your relationship. You’re worth committing to and deserve a bright future in your relationship. But someone who doesn’t have any idea of anything will definitely not have any for a relationship.

4: Weak: No matter how well you’re doing, there are always obstacles. It’s how you deal with them that matters. That’s the difference between strong and weak people. The strong ones are resilient and face challenges head on. Weak ones just bolt. They won’t stand by, support or be there for you when you’re having a bad day. Such people are too easily influenced by other’s opinions and won’t fight for you. It’s an especially worrying sign if they dismiss your struggles and are self-centered. They’ll ditch you at your worst and come crawling when you’re succeeding. Do you really want to be with such people?

5: Uncommitted: We all know them. They lead you on but never commit. They don’t want a label on the relationship and may even cheat on you. They use you for their own benefits but blame you for being concerned. Uncommitted is too complimentary a word for them since they deserve worse ones. These people are so selfish and narcissistic that they won’t understand kindness or generosity. Such people will never value you. Don’t fall into their trap.

6: Emotionally Uncontrolled: Now this is a dicey one. We all let loose and vent from time to time. It’s alright to express your emotions and just rant, as long as it’s done in a healthy manner. If your partner can never restrain themselves or handle their emotions, that’s a big red flag. Emotional regulation is a must for healthy relationships, otherwise you’ll end up as their emotional punching bag. Uncontrolled emotions can often lead to toxic behavior like gas-lighting, manipulation and even downright abuse. If you see these signs, get out while you can.

FINAL TAKE:

Life’s too short to squander your love away. You deserve better. So, make sure that the person you’re with values you and is worthy of your time and efforts.