Possibilities

Iwould like to share 4 secrets to bring back your energy, bring back your vibrancy, bring back your best self.

First, I want to ask you if you have ever found yourself past exhaustion, sick, burned out, putting your work before yourself and your family? Oh – you would never say it out loud – my work is more important than my family or my own health, but that is how you are living.

You’ve always been the one to “be there” for everyone else, but secretly you sometimes feel lonely and wish you had a go-to of your own, because you’ve felt so depleted lately.

If this sounds like you, I want you to know you’re not alone. In fact, there was a time when that was my story. I loved taking care of everyone else, I loved my job and enjoyed the success I worked so hard for – but I didn’t realize that by always putting others first I was draining myself to the point that I had almost nothing left to give.

But I pushed myself harder and harder all the time. I had pushed myself past the point of exhaustion, to sickness, to burn out. How could I be the go-to now? I needed a go-to.

I had a big wake up call with my health and wellbeing that forced me to change. I learned how to make my wellbeing a top priority, and when I did, it seemed to have a ripple effect in almost every area of my life.

And it’s not what you think – not the typical advice you find all over the internet. What I found were 4 little known secrets that actually had the biggest impact. You don’t have to spend hours in the gym, hire a private chef, or quit your job.

What are those 4 secrets that turned my life around?

SECRET #1

Each morning I ask myself 2 questions: What am I grateful for today? And what is my intention for the day?

SECRET #2

I use fun and simple ways to nourish my body and mind. Water - hydrate, hydrate, hydrate, and taking a few minutes to breathe (I mean really breathe)

SECRET #3

I added some easy ways to move (maybe a dance party in the kitchen!)

SECRET #4

Asking for and receiving support (yes, you are worthy to receive)

They’re not hard, you just need to keep them on your mind and start implementing them. These have helped me make my wellbeing a priority and they can work for you too.

What’s possible for you when you have energy, when you’re vibrant, when you are your best self? Remember - when you feel healthy and vibrant, ANYTHING else in your life is POSSIBLE!

 Debra Loader is a National Board Certified Health and Wellness Coach and she works with women who are exhausted from doing it all. She can be reached for private or group coaching at debra@debraloaderlivingwell.com or 810.287.4096.

The Power

of Self-Discovery

Self-discovery wasn’t anything I ever thought about when I was busy raising my four children. My husband was a verbally abusive, alcoholic man who was not interested in helping me take care of the children. In fact, he was like having a fifth child because I did everything I could to try to keep him happy in hopes that the abuse would stop. I did the cooking, cleaning, the shopping, and taking care of the kids. I mowed the lawn, I took out the garbage, and at the end of the day when I was exhausted from all my other responsibilities, I even had sex with him when I didn’t want to, just to keep him happy.

When I asked my parents for advice on my situation they made it perfectly clear that divorce was not an option until all my children were grown and out of the house. I believed all “good” daughters took their parent’s advice. I believed they were telling me the truth and spent many more years of my life thinking I needed to suffer and sacrifice my own happiness in order to be viewed as a loving and responsible mom. In 1981 I unexpectedly got a phone call from a loyal and loving girlfriend that I hadn’t talked to in 2 years. As soon as I answered the phone she said Suzanne, “I couldn’t wait to call you and let you know how much my life has changed since you moved away”. She went on to tell me that she’d been selling UndercoverWear lingerie at home parties and she thought that I might want to sell this lingerie too because she knew in her heart, “with my fun personality and the fact that I love getting out with the girls,” I was bound to be successful.

I doubted her enthusiasm about this because I knew nothing about sales nor lingerie, but most importantly I also knew my biggest fear was having to ask my verbally abusive husband for the money to start this endeavor. When I did ask him, his negativity did not surprise me. He was really against it because he knew it meant he would have to stop going to the bar after work and come home to watch the children. He told me he thought I would fail and that I was too fat to be successful. He knew it would be a waste of time and money to do something like this. I was used to his verbal abuse, so despite his criticism, I found the courage to try it simply because my girlfriend loved and believed in me, like no one else ever had.

If I hadn’t picked up the phone that day, I imagine I would still be stuck thinking I was a victim of circumstances and that there was nothing I could do to change my miserable life. By taking this risk, I began to discover so much more about myself that I never would have known otherwise. Within a few short months of joining UndercoverWear, I built a successful team of women and became a manager. I was then asked if I would be willing to model some of our lingerie on a very popular 1980s talk show called the Phil Donahue show. This was totally out of my comfort zone but I faced my fear and said yes. As I allowed myself to keep experiencing new things, I kept learning more about myself. My self-esteem and self-confidence grew. I learned that over time our beliefs can change. I discovered the beliefs that “I could not be a good sales person” or that I had to “suffer and sacrifice to be considered a good mom” were both false. Within three years I began making as much money as my husband! The good news is, that within five years I was able to get a divorce and stop exposing my children and myself to verbal abuse. All of the new things I discovered about myself enabled me to move forward and raise my four children as a single parent for my remaining 25 year career in UndercoverWear.

If you feel stuck in a rut with no way out, I encourage you to step out of your own comfort zone and start your own journey of self-discovery. If you’re wondering where to begin, I invite you explore the many selfempowering ideas I used to change my life, here: Steppingintoalifeofjoy.com.

You too, might find yourself on your way to manifesting a life of peace and joy and success, just like I did.  Suzanne Young is an intuitive life coach. She specializes in the Law of Attraction and empowering others by helping them learn how to reconnect with their Inner Guidance. She is also an inspirational speaker, author, and co-owner of Personal Success Programs, since 2007, with her husband Kevin Young. You can email her at suzanne@psprograms.com and their website is www.psprograms.com. Her office number is 248.349.6225.