Women—Come Together For Good!

Would someone please explain why women…

… feel as though we are in competition with every other woman?

… are seldom able to communicate, no matter the age difference, with each other?

…feel like we need to have our butts and/or boobs hanging out, even at totally inappropriate engagements… like a little league game for example?

… hesitate to allow someone, especially a male, to assist us…unless we’re playing “helpless”? Why do we play “helpless” or “little girl”?

…gossip about each other, even our closest friends?

These issues have puzzled me for many years. I witness at least one every day.

I have searched for the answers. I’ve asked, called women out and tried to enlighten us both individually and collectively.

I’ve given up.

Do you not see it? Does it make you uncomfortable? Do you see yourself being this way?

Why are we unable to treat each other with the kindness, respect and empathy we deserve…especially from another woman?

I have reached a few conclusions.

1. We live in jealousy because of our own insecurities.

2. We consume whatever the media suggests to LOOK better, younger, and thinner. What about the way we should feel? Are there products that will allow internal exploration? Do we purchase those?

3. We judge ourselves and others by society’s standards, against magazine ads, models and women half our age.

4. We often abandon our female friends when we become “involved” in a new relationship…then those whom you have left behind talk about you.

5. The grass is always greener. We’re seldom satisfied with what we have, who we are and where we’re going.

Why? Because we’re selfish. Selfish enough to entice another woman’s partner, spread nasty rumors, and/ or make a scene because we need to be right. We are full of ego.

We need to stop trying to be and just “be”.

We have to begin a journey of self-exploration. Examine ourselves morally and spiritually. We need to sit down to think. Yes, think about something other than the grocery list, what to wear, what others think of us and our next Botox treatment.

I get it, we’re busy. Being busy accomplishes nothing… it just looks good and is often used as an excuse instead of the truth. We do not seek our own truth or search for enlightenment because we “do not have the time”.

I’m here to tell you, make the time. You are so much more than your reflection. Your purpose is greater than wearing the latest fashion. Your body is made to move, stretch and nourish…not just to look good to others but to know that you care about your physical and spiritual health. Caring for yourself in a way that you would nurture a child will allow you to feel more secure, to know that you are equal to all womankind.

Nurturing ourselves will help us realize that we share the same emotions, no matter our faith, ethnicity or sexual orientation. We are sisters, bound together by an invisible feminine force that will allow us to expand our collective consciousness, together and as individuals, for the benefit of all.

We raise the children, cook the meals, clean, sacrifice, laugh and cry for we are the nurturers. We mold the future. We hold the future.

Let’s come together for good. Let’s act with kindness, reverence and compassion. Start right now.

I guess I haven’t given up after all!

Love.

Deborah St.Hilaire is a unifier, enlightener and catalyst for change in the way women are treated and treat each other. Author, speaker, transformational coach and teacher, Deb, the founder of MyBodyMindSpirit.com, is dedicated to enriching lives through selfcare, meditation, movement, thought and journaling. She can be reached at 989.450.4200 or deb@ mybodymindspirit.com.