Women Beyond Forty - First Edition

Recently my online dating life has taken

an interesting turn. By taking a chance and swiping right on a “different” sort of profile I’ve found myself in the world of kink. I suppose I’ve had an abstract interest in this world since I was introduced to ”Dan Savage’s Savage Lovecast podcast about five years ago. It’s not that I didn’t know that there was a world of kink and fetish out there but I hadn’t really experienced it or known much about it in my personal life.

To be fair I previously had a very brief dating relationship with a man who was into this world and while our fledgling relationship didn’t pan out for other reasons I did enjoy the beginnings of exploring this world with him. A memorable Friday night involved us having very hot sex both dressed as French maids, including stockings and heels.

So some years later I swipe right on J* and very quickly learn of his kinks which are broad and fascinating and exciting. I take a big step into what I call the Hidden Room. It’s been there all along but until someone opens the door for you can easily keep walking past, not knowing what’s behind that door.

In the brief period of time I’ve known J, he has been a gentle, caring and wonderful guide into the Hidden Room, at least the part that he knows and explores. For me it’s been like falling into Alice’s Looking Glass. A Wonderland of ideas, people and experiences.... and it’s only just begun.

On Saturday night J invited me to come to a well known Sydney kink venue for their regular party. We started at what is called a Munch: a social gathering for those involved and interested in the BDSM scene. It was held in a pub on the outskirts of the city and upon walking in it appeared a regular Saturday night at a bar. People standing and sitting, drinking, eating and chatting. There were young, uni student types, middle aged couples (like us), older people, people dressed in very understated clothes and some with just a hint of fetish in their attire (animal ears, for example). J introduced me to the people he knew, all were friendly and welcoming. We shared a meal and some drinks and then it was time to head to the party.