creating a space to train

of personal training in a group setting too.”

With Ben, who works for Deutsche Bank looking after the business side of operations, it’s an o ering s uarely ithin avid s area of expertise. as al ays into fitness and wanted to be good at everything,” said David. “I originally came to London to study architecture, but sitting in front of a computer all day wasn’t really what I was looking for.

“I started doing CrossFit and then decided to train as a coach – that was about seven years ago. After or ing at my first gym and helping to run it for a few years, I joined Third Space in 2019, working in Canary Wharf.

“The CrossFit gym taught me a lot a out running a small fitness business, while working at Third Space enabled me to look at the bigger picture – the language we use in classes and the impact this can have on members.

“I was also able to take a lead and get involved with developing new coaches and instructors, so that experience was really key for this project. Ben’s background is in usiness, finance and accounting, so he handles that side of things whereas I’m on the product side, looking after coaching, development and what we deliver for our members.

“This is perfect because it means we don’t cross over when we’re working together. We live close by and were aware there was nothing like this in Deptford, so we started looking to see if there was a space up for rent. Then Ben put together a business plan, looking at the area and why Baldr might be needed here – asking what the brand is and what its target audience will be.”

The pair found a space vacated by a fashion manufacturer and set about kitting it out with gym hardware, gender neutral toilets and, of course, the ig pride flag

The dream for Baldr is to expand with gyms in a number of parts of London and perhaps beyond.

David said: “We would like to have several locations so that we can attract people living in di erent areas

“We are aware gyms can be quite intimidating, especially for people not always comfortable with their sexuality, so we like to chat with them and point out it’s their space, their workout and that we’re here to support them.

“We want to make sure that everyone has a good experience in the community and make sure they get that one-to-one experience in a group setting.

“We are loud and proud, so if you need a space like ours, then we are here for you.” Go to baldrcrossfit.com for more information

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Rotherhithe - Deptford - Bermondsey what’s on things to do, places to go, people to see

Where? Brunel Museum Rotherhithe

EVENT | Midnight Apothecary

This ongoing attraction brings nature together with alcohol, open res and s’mores for one of the most magical evenings in south-east London. Fridays + Saturdays, from £8, themidnightapothecary.co.uk

Where? Brunel Museum Rotherhithe

EVENT | Stay Grounded Workshop

Participants are invited to the museum to discuss and talk about the links between aviation and climate justice as the world continues to warm. May 30, 6pm, £TBC, thebrunelmuseum.com

Where? The Albany Deptford

STAGE | Trinity Laban Presents Amour

The musical theatre BA students present their nal performances in this French show about a clerk who develops the ability to walk through walls. May 19-20, 2.30pm, 7.30pm, £15, thealbany.org.uk a way to ensure more beverage revenue than a genuine o er, at £8.50 it’s a decent price for a massive doorstep and a hot cup of Joe... mousetail.co

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by David Lefebvre Sell

by Jon Massey

David says self awareness means being able to recognise when you’re the wanker series of topical debates on the likes of sustainable cities and the promises and perils of AI.

We all know a person who seems to blame all their problems on someone else – every calamity is bad luck or the personal attack of some external force. The ip side of that is when someone believes everything is their fault. Although vastly di erent in relationships, what these people have in common is a lack of emotional maturity. This is essentially the ability to regulate and take responsibility for their emotional state through most of the challenges of life.

Let’s take the example of how someone might deal with anger. Some people might act out violently, either against people or things – they are unable to contain their feelings and need to do something physical.

Another person might not become violent but will instead say cruel things that they don’t really mean (maybe) and might later regret.

In both cases there is the tendency to not take responsibility for the outburst because the other person “made them angry”.

The open spaces of Greenwich Peninsula are set once more to welcome the vibrant hues, sights, smells and sounds of Urban Village Fete. Running from 11am until late on Sunday, May 14, the event will feature live performances, DJs, arts, crafts, street food, market traders and workshops with something for visitors of all ages.

Now in its seventh year, the fete is curated by Wayne Hemingway of Hemingway Design and celebrates local businesses and organisations alongside some big names.

Wayne said: “It’s almost a decade since we started to develop the concept of a free multi arts festival for London’s newest urban village.

Fitness classes will be hosted by locally based Outrivals gym, while fellow Peninsula-based ceramics expert Made By Manos will be guiding attendees in tile painting.

Further craft sessions will explore origami, collage, Japanese hanging baskets and knitted jewellery.

The fete will also host performances and interactive play sessions from The Merry Maker and Jon Hicks And The Incredibly Clever Canine Circus – the latter ideal for kids and dogs alike.

Continuing the local theme, this year’s makers market will feature products from Deptford clothing business Edy And Bridge alongside traders such as Heza, Scrump and Orris London.

Design District-based Novelic will be hosting a community book swap, complete with author drop-ins as part of the event and near neighbour The Photography Foundation will be shooting free headshots and family portraits at the event too.

Two of the characteristics of emotional maturity are taking responsibility and showing empathy – the ability to acknowledge when we’ve done something wrong, owning our mistakes and also the ability to put ourselves in other people’s shoes. Self awareness means being able to recognise when you’re the wanker. Of course, allowing others to walk all over us is no better. We also need the ability to set boundaries and walk away from harmful relationships.

“We had the simple premise of supersizing the concept of a much loved village fete and placing all its component parts from creative workshops to the music, to the myriad of participatory activities, the bars and street food, all in the hands of the capital’s most creative practitioners.

David Lefebvre Sell

Working on our own maturity begins with the decision to take responsibility, both for our actions as well as our own needs. Start with curiosity. What are you feeling? Why? What do you imagine the other person is feeling? Develop self compassion and self regulation strategies – there might be good reasons why you nd certain emotions di cult. Stop, breathe and re ect before you act.

David Lefebvre Sell is a Greenwich-based psychotherapist and Yoga instructor who teaches at Third Space in Canary Wharf

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“This year’s line-up is as good as you would get at many big ticket priced events and it’s free and open to everyone. What’s not to like?”

Topping the bill will be DJ r cru ho ill perform a three-hour, back-to-back set with Bradley Zero on the Central Park stage in addition to sets from Zakia and resident DJs.

Further down the Peninsula there will be performances from Tadi the Great, Claudia, Sticky Dub, Nouria Bah and Plumm X Skttrd as Future Bubblers take over the Design District stage indoors at Canteen.

Elsewhere, BBC Radio London’s Robert Elms will be hosting a

Then, inevitably, comes the food with on-site traders at Canteen and pop-ups on the Peninsula all open to visitors. The fete will also be hosting several street food pop-ups including Yorkshire Burrito, Cakehole, Rendang Thank You Ma’am and Hola Guacamole as well as a cocktail bar to assist revellers with the party spirit.

There will also be a classic Routemaster on site – the Afternoon Tea Bus – serving up traditional, vegetarian or vegan tiered delights for £25 created by Brigit’s Bakery.

While Urban Village Fete is free to attend, tickets should be booked online.

Some of the workshops taking place on the day have fees attached and should be booked in advance and space is limited at some activities, which can also be reserved online. Booking early is advised to avoid disappointment – fortune favours the organised. Go to urbanvillagefete.london for full event listings or to reserve tickets

Greenwich - Peninsula - Woolwich what’s on things to do, places to go, people to see

Where?

The O2 Arena Peninsula

If the hype is to be believed, this could be Elton John’s nal tour as he brings Farewell Yellow Brick Road to The O2, presumably for the last time. May 30, 6.15pm, from £172.25, theo2.co.uk

Where?

Greenwich Theatre Greenwich