Vol 3 September 2011
St. Lucia Getaways Crock Pot Creations
Natural & Beautiful
YELLING DOES NOT Meet Our Cover Girl
Amelia Zvolanek
WORK !!!!
Finding Your Skin’s Season Dear Dr. Jan
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September Contributors Janice Alston resides in High Point ,NC. She contributes articles for the Poetry and Prose pages. Jan Stevenson Is an diagnostician for the HEB school system. She resides in Ft Worth, Texas
Steve Harris is an Asst Pastor. Steve lives in Hurst, Texas with his wife Roxanne He writes the what me wish women knew column.
CJ Kervin contributes articles for the Movie Madness column . She resides in Mansfield ,Texas . Kendra Timmons is a Master Stylist, salon owner, educator, and publisher who is on the cutting edge in the latest hair industry trends and styles. She resides in Arlington, Texas
Chef Will Fleming. Resides in Euless TX. Loves to cook and create . He has attended The Culinary Institute of America and Johnson Wells University.
Rona Walton owns Destynee Travels. She is an avid traveler and resides in Austin, Texas.
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After summer there is always a fall. When the circumstances and situations of life seem Welcome to another issue of WEFGW online
to be loosing their luster. What brought you
magazine. We are so pleased that you enjoy
joy and pleasure before has taken a turn for
reading the articles .
the worse. No longer do you find joy in the
Well we are entering a new season. Fall is
simple things of summer .The life season of
upon us. Things begin to show their last
fall requires that we see beauty in different
blast of color before winter sets in. Fall is a
shades of green, orange ,reds and yellows.
month of splendor and variety of colors.
Beauty is still present just not in the same hues as in summer.
The colors of fall are breathe taking. Just as the seasons change in nature so do the
And now winter in here. With its blanket of
seasons of our lives . Life seasons are not
white. crisp air now replaces the heat of
based on age or years. Life seasons are
summer and early fall. Winter brings a
based on events and circumstances. Some
different opportunity for beauty’s
of you maybe in the spring ,where all things
appreciation. We learn to appreciate the
are new and young and just beginning to
truth that the snow reveals and that it holds.
grow and prosper. Spring life seasons always
We learn that even though things look bleak
look forward to what new and inviting.
and dreary ,there is hope. Just as the buds begin to grow deep with in the seemingly
Some of you may be in the summer life
frozen earth, God is working in our winter to
seasons. This is when events and
make all things new.
circumstances are at their most glorious .
Don’t Give up in your winter, spring is just
The days are long and luxurious. Nothing is
around the corner. Appreciate all the
out of reach. All your dreams and wishes are
seasons of your life. They are necessary to
seemingly coming true, The sunshine of easy
develop you and perfect you. Just as it takes
success is in your eyes.
all seasons to make a yearly cycle, your life
can not be completed without experiencing every life season.
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Amelia Zvolanek, 30 years old Born in Abilene Kansas. Currently live in Justin Texas. Size 18/20.
Mom of 2. Licensed Massage Therapist Licensed Nail Technician. Passion – Roller Derby. Member of Crash Test
Hunnies, with the North Texas Derby Revolution.
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Natural and Beautiful That’s Me Natural and Beautiful, That is Me. I t took a little time, for me to see, That what God gave me, I must, let it be. Some might ask, who really cares, how you wear, your hair. Well you see, one day as I sat in my hairdresser’s chair Ready for the touch up of my relaxed hair, I wanted it to remain easy to manage. However, I had a revelation that I was causing my natural hair, unneeded damage. Then I recalled the time, when I was a tender young girl. My grandmother gave me some words; I now call granny’s pearls. She said to me, “Your natural hair is beautiful girl”! “Let what the good Lord gave you, be”! Tell your self, I am Natural and beautiful, that’s me. I replied to my granny, How can you say that when my curls are so tight, She then said to me, “one day my precious, you will, see the light”. Now many years later, and my granny is gone, I now see she was right and I was wrong. I wear my hair natural and the light, I finally see. Natural and Beautiful, That’s Me. © by Evangelist Janice O. Alston High Point, NC 6
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Will Young
St Lucia is one of the most beautiful islands of the Caribbean basin with its breathtaking natural resources such as the emerald green covered Piton Mountains, dense bird- filled rainforests and mind blowing waterfalls. Most tourists end up in the
northern area of the island near the capital city, Castries. Rodney Bay, Cap Estate and Gros Islet
are home to some of the most sought after luxury resorts in the world, where celebrities are frequently spotted winding to some good reggae, Soca or calypso music. But you don't have to be a celebrity to enjoy the luxuries of this exceptional vacation spot. Some truly hidden gems that will not pinch your pocketbook can be found in the south of the island.
One thing to keep in mind, unlike some of the other Caribbean islands, this island is not known for a lively night scene, except on weekends.
Try the Villa Caribbean Dream in Vieux Fort which offers rates as low as $45 (single) or $55 (double) per night. Included is a stunning view of the ocean and/or a Salsa lesson or two. Just
minutes from the Hewanorra International Airport are The Reef Beach Huts and CafĂŠ. Rates are only $50 (single) and $60 (double) and this includes breakfast on the beach.
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During the week, spend your energy
Typically they just run along the one
hiking, snorkeling, diving, and
main highway
relaxing under waterfalls. Most of
but if you need to go off this road a
these activities are very reasonable,
short ways, ask the driver and
some even free. The currency used on
they will usually comply. Tip them a
the island is Eastern Caribbean (EC)
little if they do. The town of Soufriere
which is currently 2.65 to 1 US dollar.
has some fantastic attractions.
Basically, if something is 15 EC, divide by 3 to get a price of $5.00 (US). When you are visiting the craft shops in Choiseul, this will help you to quickly calculate how much that beautiful wood carving will cost. Budget accommodations are easily found if you know where to look. The Reef is located on a beautiful
stretch of white sand beach overlooking the Maria Islands where
Among many favorite things to do is a
leatherback turtles and the rare
visit to the Diamond Falls Botanical
turquoise and black zandoli iguana
Garden which has mineral baths from
reside. This is also the perfect spot to
the days of King Louis XXIV, where
kite and windsurf the Atlantic Ocean.
you can soak and take in the
Meals are also reasonably priced; this
therapeutic waters that pour straight
is also a free Wi-Fi spot so don't
from a volcano in a breathtaking
forget your laptop.
waterfall. The gardens are a visual treat with luscious tropical flowers,
Renting a car is the best way to enjoy
homemade benches and stunning
the island but for budget conscious
waterfalls.
travelers, there is island wide bus service that is very affordable.
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Can you remember being yelled at as a
THERE has been a loss felt by the
child? Did you like it ? How did it make
person who was yelled at. To them it
you feel ? What did you want to do
was as if you’d hit them. Yelling has
after being yelled at? Did you clench
that effect . Yelling has never solved
your fist, curse, make threats ?Now for
any problem. It has just made things
the big question -what did it (yelling)
worse, much worst.
accomplish? One thing it did accomplish was separation of affection.
If women knew what men thought
Affection was usually placed on hold
about yelling it would
until sorries are said and kisses are
ceaeeeeeeeeeese .
exchanged. But that’s not all there is .
Yelling can cause men to shut down
The same feelings that you felt as a
emotionally.
child are still felt as an adult. When
•In your experience with men what did
you yell, it shows that you are really
you think or feel when you are being
angry. In the heat of anger you may say things you don't really mean and
yelled at?
often times will regret. .
•What reaction came to your mind, your very first reaction? Be truthful
Whatever you say that's hurtful will surely hurt your mate and to say sorry
• Does yelling have a place in a
may be too late. Yelling is a sign that
relationship? Yes or no, and why.
you can't control yourself.
•Is there a difference if it’s a male or
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female yelling?
In My Fathers Hands
In My Fathers Hands, all things will work out right. Even when things appear dark, remember, in him there is light. Put your trust in God, in his more than capable hands. He has ordained for your life, very special plans.
He will bless you and keep you, protecting you from harm. In my Father’s Hands, there is no need for alarm. Do not allow earthly cares to cause you to fear, You are In My Father’s Hands; he keeps you near. Now rest in his Blessed Assurance, For In his word, he hath promised the strength for endurance.
Walk in the power he has bestowed upon you, Trust In God, for all you have been called to do. In My Father’s Hands, there is joy, peace, protection and Love
He has All Power on Earth and in Heaven Above. Now walk, Run and Rest, giving your all to the Best, Know by faith, you can survive any test.
In My Father’s Hands he watches over you, minute-by-minute and day by day. Just Let Go and Let God have his way, because you are In My Father’s Hands.
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Quick Fix Hair Care
prone to splitting are moisturizing
We all have hair and scalp issues from
shampoos and conditioners (including
time to time. The problems that you are
leave-in
having are not always “your diet”, but
conditioners), hair moisturizers and
they could be seasonal, the wrong
pomades. Try to minimize the heat and
shampoo or conditioners, or over styling
definitely protect your hair at night with a
using too much product and possibly
silk bonnet or scarf along with a silk or
using it the wrong way. Following are 3
satin pillowcase.
quick fixes that will hopefully help fix these problems in no time.
Dry, dull hair can come from chemical over processing, heat damage, salt water,
Split ends are
chlorine, sun exposure and even poor
usually
circulation and poor diet. Using a
caused by over
moisturizing, sulfate free shampoo will
processing,
keep from stripping the natural oils from
over styling,
the hair and scalp. Use conditioners such
hair accessories,
as hair masks, hot oil treatments, deep
rough treatment and also under
conditioning treatments and protein
conditioning. The only way to really get
treatments depending on hair texture and
rid of split ends is to cut them off, despite
severity.
what you’ve heard or all the products
One solution that is popular right now and
you’ve seen with empty promises at your
is a good investment is a hair steamer.
local supply. Ends should be trimmed
The steaming process will allow the oils
every 6 to 8 weeks, so please ladies, STOP
and/or conditioner to penetrate up to 5
holding on to ends that need to be gone!
times more than a conventional hair dryer
It just doesn’t look good to have length,
and will definitely leave your hair feeling
but 3 inches of it is thin because of split
soft and moist.
ends. The perfect products for ends
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To protect against heat damage, make sure you use a heat protectant to guard your hair strands before exposure to heat. Also, look for products that contain UV protectors on the label. To make hair more lustrous, adding a serum to the hair when styling will give hair a polished finish. Consult a professional as to proper treatments and hair maintenance needed.
If the scales stick to the scalp, it may be psoriasis. Dandruff and dry scalp are both
A Flaking scalp can be very irritating as those
forms of dermatitis. Dandruff is often
flakes lift up throughout the hair, especially if
mistaken for dry scalp. It’s said that dandruff
it’s combined with itching, tightness and
is caused by an overgrowth of yeast that’s
inflammation. It doesn’t matter if it’s
found on even healthy scalps. It is a result of
dandruff, dry scalp eczema or seborrhea
skin cells dividing and multiplying at an
dermatitis, you just want it fixed. Here’s the
accelerated rate that they reach the surface
quick low down on the common “flaky”
before they die and clump there. These
problems you’re facing:
flakes are white and scaly that can easily
First of all you need to know what you’re
become infected, resulting in scabbing and
dealing with: When you comb or brush your
inflammation (seborrhea dermatitis), usually
hair and you notice tiny, dry, powdery bits on
linked with a food allergy or poor diet, and is
your dark blouse, you have dry scalp. If the
aggravated by stress or excessive intake of
flakes are larger and look slightly moist or
dairy products and junk foods.
greasy, they are dandruff. If you have large greasy flakes with a red, irritated scalp, you
probably have seborrhea.
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Dry, flaky scalp can result from poor
3)Also take 500mg capsules of evening
circulation, using harsh products causing
primrose oil every day until condition clears.
natural oils to be stripped from the scalp and
Itchy red patches are a common sign of eczema
not sufficiently rinsing products from the scalp
or psoriasis. Consult a Trichologist if unsure. If
properly. Dry scalp can feel tight and
you have either, it is more likely than not that
accompanied by flakiness. If you have a dry,
your immune system is under stress. To treat
flaky scalp, use a clarifying shampoo (cider
at home, use a mild, sulfate free shampoo,
vinegar can be added) to remove dead skin
then massage aloe vera juice into the scalp,
cells and any build up of shampoo or
leave on and style as normal. Aloe contains 18
conditioner on the scalp. Then try an oil
amino acids as well as numerous vitamins and
treatment or scalp cream designed for dry,
minerals.
itchy scalps. Dandruff is seasonal, occurring more frequently and more severely from October to March, when your hair is exposed to dry
Aloe also contains anti-inflammatory
indoor heat. The following rinses can be used
properties; anti-bacterial properties, immune
every couple of weeks to help combat the
stimulating properties and general tissue repair
flakes.
properties. Perfect for eczema or psoriasis
(1) Blend ten drops of thyme essential oil with
inflamed skin.
100ml of apple juice, massage into the scalp, leave on for five minutes and rinse and follow
If your scalp condition does not clear up or is
with a mild shampoo.
an extreme case, please don’t go at it alone. Consult with a Dermatologist.
2) Boil a few sprigs of Rosemary in 2 cups of water and cool. Rinse through the hair and massage into the scalp. Herbal antiseptics like tea tree oil that fights bacteria and yeast are great alternatives to dandruff shampoos. Also mild shampoos that include rosemary or sage can also help to control dandruff and won’t dry out your hair and scalp.
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BBQ Beef
Ingredients 3 pounds beef chuck shoulder roast, boneless 2 cups ketchup 1 medium onion, chopped 1/4 cup cider vinegar 1/4 cup dark molasses 2 tablespoons Worcestershire sauce 2 cloves garlic, minced 1/2 teaspoon salt 1/2 teaspoon dry mustard 1/2 teaspoon black pepper 1/4 teaspoon garlic powder 1/4 teaspoon red pepper flakes sesame seed buns, split Directions Cut roast in half and place into the Crock-Pot速 slow cooker. Combine ketchup, onion, vinegar, molasses, Worcestershire sauce, garlic, salt, mustard, black pepper, garlic powder and red pepper flakes in large bowl. Pour sauce mixture over roast. Cover and cook on Low for 8 to 10 hours or on High for 4 to 5 hours or until done. Remove roast from cooking liquid; cool slightly. Trim and discard excess fat from beef. Shred meat with 2 forks. Let cooking liquid stand 5 minutes to allow fat to rise. Skim off fat. Return meat to stoneware. Stir to evenly coat meat with sauce. Adjust seasonings if desired. Cover and cook on Low 15 to 30 minutes or until hot. Spoon filling into sandwich buns and top with additional barbecue sauc e if desired.
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Dear Dr. Jan …… Dear Dr. Jan , My husband and I have been married for over 20 years. We use to be really romantic, holding hands, lovey dovey. But here recently we have gotten stuck in a routine. We hardly are intimate.
We hardly kiss. We spend time together but it is so cold and non affectionate. I am not happy with how things are going but what can I do to help this marriage not die. Frustrated
Dear Frustrated,
I applaud you for staying married for 20 years. Sometimes marriages can go a little unappreciated. You u and your hubby need to find your ways back to the spark that brought you to together in the first place. You both need to rekindle your romance. You will need to work at it every day. Find ways to be extra sweet to each other. Do things to break the routine in your life. Do things that you don’t normally do be more spontaneous. We wish you much success in your marriage. Hope you have another 60 more.
Dear Dr Jan
,
What is a single mother to do? I have two young sons but I don’t have any help with them. Their father is incarcerated so I do not have any help from him or his family. I should not have to go to the system for help. I work every day but it seems to be getting worse and worse. I am so frustrated that I have even thought of giving my children up for adoption. I am at the end of my rope. Please help me? End of Rope
Dear End of Rope, Please seek some assistance from the town that you live in. If you belong to a local church
please speak with your Pastor or church counselor. You do not have to feel so alone in your situation. Speak to the social worker at your son’s school for direction to receive assistance. You are entitled to receive assistance when you are in need.
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of your aches and pains will melt away. Be sure to go to the Sulphur
Anse Chastanet has a buoyed off
Springs Volcano and take their short
snorkeling area called Fairy Land
tour of the bubbling sulphur and the
which drops from 20 to 140 feet into a
volcano's history. Treat yourself to
wall of coral and spectacular
some sulphur soap hand made by
underwater life which is an
locals while you are there, it is great
underwater photographer's
for aching joints and those who have
paradise. You can get equipment
arthritis pains.
rental and directions at any local dive
shop. On the historical Rabot Estate, the new Hotel Chocolat is busy growing and harvesting the best cocoa for delicious chocolates and treats. Two more excellent working plantations that encourage visitors are also in this region: Fond Doux Estate, which includes guest cottages,
Enjoy southern St Lucia, there is so
restaurant and hiking tours, and
much rich culture and beautiful
Mourne Coubaril, a reconstructed
scenery, there isn't enough time to
18th-century village which provides
see all the waterfalls, snorkel all the
visitors with a historical glance into
coves or hike all the trails that
Creole life. On the road to the Jalousie
abound. Plan to go back, really soon.
Plantation Hotel, be sure to stop at the Piton Falls. Entrance to this little paradise is only about $2.00 US. A 10
~Finding A Way 2 Your Purpose~
minute walk through the tropical
Rona Walton, Travel Designer
gardens leads you to a mineral waterfall cascading into a refreshing waist high pool. After you take in the warm thermal waters of this pool, all
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Movie
Mania
Movie Reviews by CJ
Ok here goes I was really impressed by all the movies that have been released this season there is something for everyone. On today's list we have my most liked of all the
ones I've seen The Help which was absolutely heart warming and real. I know that when we watch this movie we don't want to associate it with scenarios that may have actually taken place in the late 1950's to late 60's. The Help hits so close to home for the African American public because the stories told in the movie we've heard our grandparents and for some of us our parents retail. For some of us we are inspired to change the world and all it takes is for just one of us to reach deep within and grab hold to our faith and the courage God gives us to say I'm going to be the one that takes a stand. I loved this movie
and I encourage everyone to go and see it.
Also on today's list is Conan the Barbarian. I must say this one was against my better judgment however I was intrigued by the eye candy Jason Momoa. I didn't care so much for the plot because it was so typical and unimaginative however I did appreciate his candor and rude but gentlemen like qualities. I wanted more depth leading up to the ultimate revenge he was granted for the horrible wrong done to him. Maybe next time ok movie however I would wait for the red box debut.
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Movie Mania Next on the list is Columbiana. Zoe Saldana is not new to the movie
the edge of my seat while
industry although she is definitely
awaiting her next film. I
making a name for herself, we
recommend this film for anyone
know her from movies such as
who wants to see justice fulfilled,
Guess Who, Takers, and Avatar. In
street style.
those movies she gave us the best
Supercalifragilisticexpialidocio
of her as always by defying the
us movie!!!!!!
typical girl next door role and
I'm CJ and this has
completely gives us her character.
been my movie critiques.
The saying goes Hell hath no fury like a woman scorn and she is definitely a woman scorn. She is all in and gives movie goers a side
of her we did not know she was capable of. Never underestimate the power of a woman. This movie was action packed and filled with emotion that envelopes the viewer. It was spectacular and I am on
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What is Your Skin Tone?? Determine Your Skin Tone 5 "Spring": Spring complexions have
1 Decide which season most accurately describes your complexion. People - and
golden undertones and are usually
skin tones - can be divided into
creamy white or peach. Spring people
"seasons," depending on their skin tone.
generally have straw-colored or strawberry red freckles, rosy cheeks, and blue or green eyes.
2 "Winter" complexions have blue or pink undertones. Skin can be pale white, yellowish-olive, or dark. Winter
Instructions
people are generally brunettes, with deeply colored eyes. Many Asians and
Things You'll Need
3" x 5" gold foil ,
African Americans fall into this category.
3" x 5" silver foil White paper
3 "Summer" complexions, like winter complexions, have blue or pink
undertones. Skin is pale and pink.
1 Gently wash your face with a
Summers are often natural blondes or
mild, nonabrasive soap and pat
brunettes with pale eyes.
dry. Do not apply toner moisturizer or makeup yet. Wait for 10 to 15 minutes.
4 "Autumn": Autumn complexions have golden undertones. Many redheads and brunettes with golden brown eyes
2 Choose a large mirror with
fall into this category.
natural or nonfluorescent light to conduct your skin-tone tests.
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What is Your Skin Season?? Choose Clothes to Flatter Your Skin Tone 3 Hold a plain white piece of
1 "Winter": Winters should wear
paper next to your face. A
colors that are sharp, stark and clear.
"warm" skin tone will have
White, black, navy blue, red and
golden or yellow undertones
shocking pink all go well with winter
next to the paper and a "cool"
complexions. For lighter colors, wear
skin tone will look rosy or pink
icy tones rather than pastels. Avoid
with blue undertones.
subdued tones like beige, orange and gold.
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Take turns holding each color of foil next to your
2 "Summer": Summers should
face. One of the colors will
choose pastels and soft neutrals with
reflect a glow to your skin ;
rose and blue undertones. Lavender,
the other will make your
plum, rose-brown and soft blue suit
skin tone look ashen or
summers well while black and orange
gray. If the gold foil suits
do not.
you better, you have a
warm skin tone. If silver
3 "Autumn": Autumns should select
favors you more, you are a
colors with golden undertones, like
cool skin tone.
camel, beige, orange, gold and dark brown. Avoid colors with blue tones, like navy. 4 "Spring": Springs can wear warm colors like camel, peach, golden yellow and golden brown. Avoid dark, dull colors
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