Supporting Sensitive Children

Child - Mummy I feel everything

Mother -what a wonderful super power that is.

Lets talk about sensitive children, across all levels, from the empaths, highly sensitives and those who feel and see much more than us grown ups. Being one myself growing up I found it very challenging, I could see and speak to spirits and earth bound souls (ghosts to you and me) since a child. My best friend was a spirit I very ingeniously called Barney, he used to appear in my garden and play with me. For me, going to sleep and seeing an angel kiss me goodnight and shine light on me was normal.

My mum would say I was a very deep and introverted child, and I guess I was, I tried to make sense of all I could see and feel knowing it was more than most could understand, accept or even listen too. So I kept it to myself and carried on going to various places and parties seeing spirits walking around as clear as day. When I was 5 my father died and that really strengthened what I could see, feel and hear, although he did not come through to me until I was in my 20s for fear of causing me too much pain.

I felt I was very unsupported in this as a child, I only felt safe to open up about what I saw to my grandmother, who had healing hands. She was a true light in my life and so open hearted I am blessed to have known her. It was inevitable that I closed it all down as a teenager, but the years before I had my son I opened up again, I started to see beyond many veils and planes of existence and see energy in the body, crystals and the land. I didn’t deny it anymore and embraced doing energy work and healing.

I found myself in my 30’s, that lost girl found her home in her heart, I had shifted so energetically, I was living each day with such intent and from such a heart centered place. I had my son Arlo when I was 29. At this time I was working with crystals, sound, oils and rituals that he was always going to be a part fo that, it was not a choice it was a way of life for us as a family.

I believe that our child chooses us before they incarnate, for many reasons to teach us and guide us, to fulfill lessons and karma sometimes. But they choose us because they know that we can facilitate the greatest growth, healing and lessons for them. I felt so grateful for this little soul choosing me and helping with my inner child healing.

From an early age I could see he was gifted, he was clairvoyant like me and clairsentient - he deeply ‘feels’ the world and emotions round him. Like a deer in the head lights he found this world harsh, he’s so conscious about the planet and helping animals a true elemental soul. Often I would travel for work and his little spirit would follow me, wanting to be close. In fact at a circle I was holding in London a healer came to me and said - you know the whole time you were speaking your son was sat next to you, he’s a jumper, like you. We jump through portals through many dimensions. And of course I knew, I felt him there.

He has grown up with crystals and sound, we play the bowls together most days, and he asks to place crystals on my body, I’m always so intrigued by which ones he goes for as he’s so tuned into what I need energetically. I feel so blessed to be able to raise my child so openly sensitive, and I hope that in t he future all children will be given the space to explore and nurture this side of them. So many more wonderful healers are helping our children with mindfulness classes, yoga, crystals and sound. My friend Kathy Bell has written a book called ‘The Sensitive Subject’ which I recommend.

We all have our own beautiful ways of introducing new concepts to our children and I am aware that not everyone has singing bowls at home or a huge quarry of crystals. You don’t need to spend hundreds, you can find some great sound bath audios online to listen to together, wonderful kids meditation books, and you can go collect crystals and stones from the woods and forests.

School has been difficult, especially here in the US, he doesn’t fit into the box and they struggle to get him to communicate with them, so he often goes into school with crystals. He has a rose quartz in his pocket that I put my energy into (there is an exercise on how to this on my book ‘Crystals - A Conscious Guide) so when he holds it he feels me close to him if ever he is sad or upset. He also has a protective stone with him, we use Shungite or smoke quartz which shields him from any lower emotions of vibrations as he’s a little sponge to them, collecting them in his solar plexus for others. He’s also a mirror and helps others see and know their truths, which can be hard for those who don’t want to know or are not ready to face them. Days he’s finding it hard energetically he holds blue calcite, a beautiful calming stone and we take 3 deep blue calming breaths whilst holding it to his heart. And lastly he has a blue crystal called Sodalite which I really recommend for sensitive children as it’s a wonderful grounding throat energy that helps them communicate safely, from the heart with confidence.

I feel very deeply passionate about helping the light children that are incarnating in this time and supporting the parents to understand them better. Many rainbow children are incarnating with no karma, so beautiful pure, here to help the parent heal in so many ways. I regularly read for parents on their gifted children, following their soul astrally and bringing forward any past life wounds and relationships to heal as I feel giving us the insights into our children’s gifts helps us support them better.

There are things you can do to support them which I find really help with my son. Just speaking and making them aware of energy around us encourages them to open up. Regarding crystals, encouraging any interaction with them, asking which they like and what its energy feels like to them. We do breath work at home and it really helps especially including oils in this practice.

My son chooses essential oils he likes and we mix them with a base carrier oil (almond or coconut) and then add flowers and crystals to them to infuse their energies. Every evening we use some oil on our pulse points and take in 3 deep breaths, breathing in pink loving light into our hearts.

69We talk about what we are grateful for and our wishes for this world. In the morning before school we do the same, only this time we breath in blue calming light into our heart and chest and say our intention or feeling for the day out loud. ‘I am calm, safe and happy in my body.’

I hope that my son never feels alone or ashamed of who he is like I did, society still has a long way to come but we are getting there, small steps lead to great changes.

I have included a visual meditation below to do with your child when trying to move stuck emotions. And I offer crystal consultations on stones that are attuned to your childs specific energy needs. As well as readings for them I have written a child’s book I am working on with a really talented illustrator friend.

The Emotion bubble

In this exercise we focus on them, identifying emotions they hold such as worry, anxiety, sadness, fear. We collect it up and release it in a bubble.

*Sit comfortably in a quiet space with any crystals and oils around you you want to work with.

*Ask your child to take 3 deep breaths into their heart, try to breath with them, leading them on the rhythm of the breath.

*Ask them to start to feel, even hear their heart beat (we are bringing awareness into their heart space which is important).

*Ask them how they feel in their heart? How do you feel in your body?

*Once they have told you, ask them to give that emotion a colour.

*Now we start to make the bubble - ask them to hold their hands apart and imaging an empty bubble between their hands, they are going to put all of these colorful emotions into this bubble, it fills up as they move it from their body through their hands into the bubble.

*It will get bigger and bigger full of swirling colors until its full.

*Ask them when it is full.

*Then they are going to clap their hands together to pop the bubble and let go of these emotions trapped within.

*When they have done that they say - ‘I Let go of that energy’

words by Katie-Jane Wright and photography by Kate Warren