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What I Learned From The Crap In My Childhood Some people are lucky and have an amazing childhood, full of wonderful memories and incredible journeys. Others get the bad end of the stick and it’s incredibly horrible. Me – I’m in the middle somewhere. Mostly my childhood was fine, the usual memories of playing in mud, parks, visits to the beach once a year and so forth. But there were other parts too that weren’t so great. I have a daughter now and I look at her and no matter what I’m pretty sure she is going to be okay. Everyone can choose to be bitter or better, though for me this would be quite silly in my life to be bitter about my childhood. The small bad and the pain have taught me to be resilient, compassionate and stronger. Here is What I Learned From The Crap In My Childhood.
Everyone Matters In some ways I was forgotten, or so it felt to me. I only have one older sister, but as a teenager, she developed schizophrenia. Lots of other factors I won’t get nitty about were there too such as my father’s birthday is also a day before mine, and really, I’m just a quiet sort of person normally. I probably didn’t help my situation I’m sure, but I did feel alone a lot as a child. What this taught me was to appreciate people when they are there, to look for the person who is forgotten and alone and check on them. I always notice the quiet, reserved people first, though that may be like attracting like. Credit: www.huffingtonpost.com
What this taught me was to appreciate people when they are there, to look for the person who is forgotten and alone and check on them.
Don’t EVER Judge A Book By Their Cover I was actually born with twisted feet (pretty common) but they weren’t corrected as a baby like most people. I use to walk on my toes because my calf muscles were too short, and people use to think I was off with the fairies or that I wanted to be a ballerina. My parents were fine, but other family, teachers and adults use to punish me and yell at me. Team sports were terrible as running was miserable and I was always picked last. This was finally corrected surgically when I was 12 years old. Because this happened I became out casted slightly with my peers, though I had a bit of an attitude too (which you do when people are awful like that). Now couple that with being raised in a Christian household which encouraged getting to know and be kind to everyone, and the result was that I took time to get to know other “outcasts” and I found that usually they weren’t that bad.
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I found that a lot of other kids were just quirky, or didn’t fit what other children decided was normal. Sometimes they had slightly annoying habits, but I generally found they were good, kind, lovely kids. There were the odd ones that were very naughty, but I usually stayed away from them. What this taught me as an adult was patience, not to judge quickly and to look beyond someone’s appearance and social status. Funnily enough, it wasn’t until my final year of high school that the other students realised I was “normal”, as I didn’t talk much to people outside of my groups until then.
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What this taught me as an adult was patience, not to judge quickly and to look beyond someone’s appearance and social status.
Other People Have Very Different Lives Than You In my town there was only one high school, so unless you went to boarding school, we were all thrown in together. It put me into contact with people who I may not have had contact with if I had lived somewhere larger.
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I went to school with many Aboriginal Australians, and their entire way of thinking, social structure and so forth is very different to White Australia. There is an incredible amount of anger still present in their lives, because it really wasn’t that long ago the horror they went through (not 200 years like people keep saying, more like decades). Learning about other cultures made me really realize that the world is far more complex then we’d like to believe. It’s quite a mess and I’m not sure what is to be done about it. I’m leaving it up to greater minds. Credit: www.quotesvalley.com Credit: socialstudies.mrdonn.org
As a child I was also in contact with children who were terribly abused (though I didn’t understand until I was an adult) and they were very angry. Their reality and problems, perception of the world and so forth is very different to other people who have grown up in secure environments. What I learnt from this is that you can’t really judge someone’s anger, pain, outlook on the world and so forth. You have not lived in their shoes and you shouldn’t tell them what to think or feel or to just get over things and move on. No. The only person you should judge is yourself.
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What I learnt from this is that you can’t really judge someone’s anger, pain, outlook on the world and so forth. You have not lived in their shoes and you shouldn’t tell them what to think or feel or to just get over things and move on.
Are You Going To Be Bitter Or Better? It’s a choice you don’t make once, but every day when you have been through something – whether it occurred in your childhood or later as an adult. You should never lash out and hurt others, but keeping anger inside of you really does hurt your body and your mind and ruin your life. Credit: emilysquotes.com One of the key things my parents did right was to let me know I was loved and that I always have a place to go home to no matter how much I stuff things up. They instilled in me strong values just to simply be a good person, and that’s been fundamental to how I’ve viewed the crap that has happened in my life. The higher road is a harder one to take, and it can seem exhausting, but it gets easier with time and it is better for you (don’t do it for anyone else, do it for yourself) if you can get on it.
Sooo…. We have all survived childhood and the dreaded teens, so I think our children will be okay. Don’t be afraid of them learning things the hard way, but instill in them values of compassion and growth. Fill them up with so much love and give them a rock hard foundation that they know they can come back to you as a parent and that your love for them is eternal. So tell me in the comments below, What Have You Learnt From The Crap In Your Childhood? Take Care, Kathryn. You can find me on Facebook Email me at: Kathryn@WomenSeekWisdom.com Check out my Home Page
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