Promoting Positive Behaviour Workshop Aims: 1. To explore what behaviour we expect of adults and children at group night 2. To have an increased personal understanding of what ‘pushes our buttons’ 3. To identify suitable strategies for managing the types of behaviour we do not wish to see at group night
Time 11:30am
Activity Introductions • Self, Debs McCahon, Membership Development Manager • Workshop aims
Equipment
11:35am
Grandma’s footsteps • An ice-breaker game to see what behaviours/action we naturally adopt in a group activity. • Ask for a volunteer to play Grandma. Grandma is to stand at one end of the room with ‘her’ back to the rest of the group. • Everyone else is to creep up on ‘Grandma’, but if she turns round she shouldn’t see you move.
Behaviour cards – complain that things aren’t fair, blames other people, encourages others to cheat, overly competitive
11:45am
Feedback from above activity • As a whole group ask and record: 1. What different behaviour strategies did members adopt? 2. Was all this behaviour what we would expect or encourage?
Flipchart paper & pen
11:55am
What is Behaviour? • In small groups list the types of behaviour associated with the following categories: 1. Good 2. Aggressive 3. Disruptive 4. Naughty 5. Unco-operative
Flipchart paper & pens Blue tac
12:15pm
Pushing Buttons & Responses • In three small groups (as adult helpers, as Pioneers & as adults) record:
Pieces of A5 card Pens
1. What do Pioneers do to push your buttons? 2. What do adults do to push your buttons? 3. What action could you take to support a Pioneer to co-operate? • Record one behaviour/action per card 12:25pm
Live it out • Get the ‘adult’ to stand at one end of the room, with the ‘pioneers’ at the other. The ‘adult helpers’ should be to the side with a table in the middle. • Ask the ‘adults’ to lay one of their behaviours/actions on the table. Encourage the ‘Pioneers’ to respond. Similar to a game of snap, and watch the behaviour escalate. • The ‘adult helpers’ are there to calm things, promote positive behaviour and encourage the behaviour we expect at group night. They should intervene with a promoting positive behaviour strategy whenever they see fit.
12:35pm
Feedback • • • •
How did the exercise feel? Did it remind you of your group night? What strategies do you use? Did the group suggest the following: 1. Separate the child from the behaviour: “I welcome you, but I will not accept this behaviour”. 2. Use ‘I’ messages” I feel upset” not “You naughty boy!” messages which accuse and put the child on the defence. 3. Take action for self, not against the child (that may mean removing yourself from the situation if you are going to ‘lose it’) 4. Stay calm, stay separate from the behaviour by remembering not to personalise the behaviour and do not get into conflict. 5. Act from a place of understanding
A table & some space
by talking ‘with’ not ‘at’ the child 6. Correct the behaviour, but not the child and do not over punish 7. Do not break relationship with your child 12:45pm
Points to remember
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Look at the child and ask the ‘W’ Questions Why is Behaviour happening? What’s going on for the child? Who is it happening with? When is it happening? Where is it happening? What is taking place? Why the defensive response? Look at yourself:
1. Look at how you interact with the child on a daily basis 2. Do you regularly affirm this child? 3. Do you treat him/her with respect? • Helpful hints: 1. Remember that a behaviour that is noticed increases ‘Thank you for putting your cup in the dishwasher’ in other words ‘Catch the child being good’ 2. Request respectfully, do not order or command 3. Be clear about expectations, write them as a group – Remember the younger members will have expectations too 4. A problem behaviour that’s ignored decreases i.e. Ignore the bad behaviour 5. Settle for less than perfection. 6. Give them choices, and say ‘You decide’, this shows you respect them and teaches responsibility. • Training: 1. Additional training as part of Learn 2 Play & Venturer Leader 2. Specialist training from organisations
Record ‘W’ questions on to flipchart Record ‘Helpful hints’ on to flipchart
such as the National Autistic Society 1pm
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