Golden Gazette • September 2021 • Page 19
The need for faith and spirituality along the caregiving journey Caregiving can be a fulfilling, loving journey, but it is also one that is often filled with stress and anxiety. Family caregivers may worry how they are physically and financially going to take care of their aging loved one. Older adults worry because their lives are changing, and they don’t want to be a burden to others. In order to find strength and make the most of the caregiving journey, it’s important for family caregivers to find an outlet, said Dr. Lakelyn Hogan, Home Instead gerontologist and caregiver advocate, in a the webinar: Faith’s Role in the Caregiving Journey. “For many people faith is that outlet,” Hogan said. When discussing faith, religion and spirituality, it’s important to note they all speak to individualized beliefs. While many people belong to a faith community and find comfort in that experience, not everyone is religious. However; we all have a spiritual dimension that can be nourished through connections. Just as beliefs are deeply personal, the approach to incorporating these beliefs and activities is as unique as the person. One Husband’s Caregiving Story That was certainly true for devoted husband and father Carlen Maddux, when he became the primary caregiver after his wife’s early
onset Alzheimer’s diagnosis at age 50. For five years, he managed the caregiving responsibilities and found ways to cope. But eventually, the stress took a toll, and he looked to others—including a nun, a minister and a spiritual healer—for advice. After meeting with the healer, what eventually gave the couple peace was a faith and feeling of God’s presence that they found within themselves, said Rick Hamlin, executive editor of Guideposts magazine. “In a course of several days through prayer, he had this incredible vision, and this is an amazing thing, of God’s tent,” Hamlin explained. “There was this tent just covering him and his wife and his family. And feeling that shelter, he held on to it. “He found it was less difficult to do some of those chores with his wife. Whatever it was, that feeling of God’s presence was there. And getting her dressed in the morning, which sometimes could be a source of struggle, instilled confidence and trust that she could share or feel, even though the words weren’t shared.” Just as Maddux’s faith helped him through the dementia caregiving journey, it’s important to note those living with Alzheimer’s or another form of dementia may lose the ability to
initiate beloved spiritual activities. Care partners play a key role in supporting a loved ones’ faith and spiritual journey. Spirituality is not dependent on cognition. Memory care expert and author of “The Best Friends Approach to Dementia Care,” David Troxel offers these tips to help find focused time for spiritual activities during the day. How to incorporate faith & spirituality into daily caregiving • Regularly attend or watch a religious service • Share or read prayers and scripture together • Sing or listen to hymns (music can have a dramatic impact for loved ones living with dementia) • Meditate and/or discuss important life events and accomplishments • Spend time outdoors connecting with nature Positive effects of faith and spirituality Whether it’s because we have seen friends and family who have passed or because we have more time to reflect, as we age, our faith and spirituality tend to grow stronger. In fact, in a recent Reli-
gious Landscape Study, 70 percent of adults over age 65 said they believe in God with absolute certainty; the number drops to 51 percent in the 18-29 age group. There are a variety of reasons why spirituality is so important, especially for caregivers and older adults. Slows cognitive decline. In studies, spirituality and religion appear to slow cognitive decline in older adults with dementia, and help people deal with their disease and have a better quality of life. Improves physical health. Studies have found that religious involvement is associated with less heart disease, hypertension, and mortality rates. Helps develop coping strategies. As in Maddux’s case, his
faith was his way of coping with stress and the emotional demands of caregiving and gave him a renewed energy, which also positively affected his wife. Provides a sense of community. Especially for older adults who may feel socially isolated, faith provides them a way to feel connected, whether by physically attending services with others or simply by feeling connected and part of something bigger through prayer. - HomeInstead.com What did mom need to know about dad before she married him? 1. His last name. 2. She had to know his background. Like is he a crook? Does he do drugs? 3. Does he make at least $800 a year? Did he say NO to drugs and YES to chores?
