Relationship Breakup and Surviving

MARY CAMPBELL

Tick, tock. How do you know when it’s time to break up with your significant other? That’s an unbearable question that some couples may never find the answer to. Even when there is still love, things may not be right. And, going separate ways while difficult is the right path to take.

If your head’s in chaos and you can’t stop thinking about whether ending a relationship or marriage is the right choice, hopefully, the article below can provide some clarity.

Surviving when love has hurt us can seem like climbing a mountain. There are feelings of despair, and the depression and hurt can cut so deep we feel like we may never heal. You think you have finally met the right person, and the connection is something you have never felt before. Then something happens, and you are trying to navigate life without this person. Everything you have done since the relationship began has revolved around them. Once there is a breakup, you literally forget how to function normally in daily life.

Understand that the feelings of misery and desperation are normal. Breakups can suck the life and energy right out of you. But some things can be done to help the process move forward more easily.

Take time for yourself. Yes, this is something we always hear, but what does it mean? For some, it means grabbing a cup of tea and a good book. For others, it means taking a nap or watching a good movie.

When the relationship ends, we literally do not know what to do with ourselves from minute to minute. This is normal, and if you were spending a lot of time together, a gaping hole must be filled. We hear that we should take on a new hobby. We often cannot even think straight to figure out what we would enjoy doing. It is essential to try to relax until our thinking becomes clearer.

Time heals all wounds. The time it takes for our wounds to heal depends on the individual. It may take two months for some, while others may take longer. Keeping in mind that time will heal the hurt can help.

When the breakup is new, we can become obsessed with figuring out what went wrong. Trying to replay every scene and the conversations exchanged can literally drive us crazy. The best thing to do is to focus on other things and take our minds off the previous events.

Talk to others you trust. Sometimes just having a person you trust to talk things through will help. Running things over and over through our heads often will make no sense, but when they are communicated to another, there may be things you would have needed to pick up on.

Do not stalk the ex on social media or by text messages. Although the desire to talk to them is strong, chasing them down will solve nothing and probably worsen matters. Besides, you do not want to take the chance of looking like a desperate person.

It takes time to get over a breakup; understanding this will give you a world of good. As you trudge one day, you will stop and realize that the pain is finally subsiding. Just remember, we are all special and deserve to be in a loving relationship.l