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contents On the Cover 27 CELEBRATING 50 YEARS OF PEACE 26 34

As Zambia attains 50 Years of independence

POWERFUL AFRICAN WOMEN

Isabel Dos Santos: First African Woman Billionaire

TRAVEL GADGETS

NOKIA LUMIA 1020: World’s best camera phone

PERSONALS 6 EDITOR’S NOTE An intuition 7 YOUR LETTERS Your encouragement to someone 8 FASHION Having a successful outing as a lady

TRAVEL

10 EXPLORE ZAMBIA Visiting Kasanka: 5 Million bats in one hectare 12 ZAMBIA’S HOTSPOTS ISLANDS OF SIANKABA 15 DESTINATIONS TANZANIA: The home of the Serengeti!

LIFESTYLE

FEATURES

18 RELATIONSHIPS 10 ways to make your man listen to you 22 YOUR DREAM CAR Aston Martin - Rapide S 2014 24 FAMILY How to be a better wife

30 TRAVEL GADGETS NOKIA LUMIA 1020: World’s Best Camera Phone so far 31 PARENTING You & Your Child: Reasons for being a mum 32 LEGAL ISSUES Gender-based Violence: A serious offence in Zambia JULY/AUGUST

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TRAVLA JULY/AUGUST 2014 EDITOR: Worthy Graham Sikazwe

CONTRIBUTORS: Benson Gondwe Godfrey Kapansa Sharon O’Brien Silica N. Nsandika Yvonne Phiri Kunjeke

MODELS: Jayne Mwale (Cover) Ruth Musowoyo Chuma Sichikombo Suna Sinkala

PHOTOGRAPHY: Daniel Daka (DD Photography) Thomas Champo

MAKE-UP ARTISTS: Mirriam (MiMi) Haakazemba Emelda Mwansa

CLOTHING & FASHION: E & A Designs WortSAR Apparel & Beauty

HOST AGENCIES & COMPANIES WADA CHOVU Bus Services M’LEYA Car Hire, Travel & Tours

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WITH LOVE FROM THE EDITOR

he month of July is a great month for me because of the weather patterns that it comes with. You can agree with me that such weather forces you to at least have a cup of cofee or tea. When you travel to other countries within sub-saharan region, you will also find a similar weather pattern. I hope you have prepared adequately for your journey and are ready to face any changes in weather during your travels.

There’s enough content for you to read and enjoy in this magazine. Yvonne Kunjeke talks about 10 ways to make your man listen to you (for women), Godfrey Kapansa highlights the issues of Gender-based violence in Zambia, Silica N. Nsandika discusses the relationship between you and your child, Emelda Mwansa highlights the fashion trends and many other interesting articles, guides, and illustrations.

This is the first copy of TRAVLA Magazine and you are one of those privileged, first readers. We have an understanding with your transport company to which will host this magazine on this bus. Every time you travel to far destinations like Nakonde, Chipata, Livingstone, Malawi, Tanzania, Zimbabwe, Mozambique, Botswana, South Africa and DR Congo, you will receive a free copy of this magazine. This is because we understand that it’s boring to travel long distances by bus. You will be entertained, motivated, guided, connected, and instructed by this magazine as you travel.

Remember to also share this copy with someone you know when you reach your destination. You are one of the first travelers to experience and get free copy of a magazine on the bus. Lastly, remember to take photos of your favourite places as you travel and post them on our facebook page or send us an e-mail. You are very important to us and we would like to publish what you like. Visit our website at www.travlamagazine.com and post comments, join discussions, and read content.

You are obviously traveling to your destination for many reasons. I encourage you to stay put and ensure that your traveling objectives are met. I encourage you to get through this magazine.

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HAVING A

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SUCCESSFUL OUTING

AS A LADY IDENTIFY THE OCCASION You need to know what type of occasion it is that you are going to - whether itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s a wedding ceremony or some kind of a birthday party. As you find out about the occasion, understand what type of people will be there. This is very important for you. Culture is also an important thing to consider as you identify the occasion. If you are going to another province or country where culture is different from yours, understand the structure of the occasion in that culture and how different it is from yours.

DRESS ACCORDING TO THE OCCASION You cannot be dressed casually when attending a wedding ceremony. Imagine being invited to an evening wedding party, and you show up, dressed in shorts and a T-shirt; it just doesnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t look good at all. Again if the occasion involves another culture, different from yours, dress according to that culture so that you do not totally look and feel out of place.

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MAKE SURE YOU LOOK AT YOUR BEST

As you go out, find something that will look good on you â&#x20AC;&#x201C; according to your body size, shape and skin tone. One thing for sure is that women usually find courage in how they look.

BE CONFIDENT IN THE WAY YOU LOOK

Have courage. Remember that looking good without confidence kills everything.

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EXPLOREZAMBIA

KASANKA 5 M I L L I O N M A M M A L S I N O N E H E C TA R E !

asanka is a beautiful wilderness of woodland, plains, lakes, rivers and swamps in the North of Zambia. As well as its attraction for visitors it forms a valuable protected area for many endangered species.

It is Zambia’s first national park under private management and is entirely reliant on tourism revenue and charitable funding. It is a valuable conservation area with diverse flora and fauna including many endangered species and exceptional birdlife.

area, colonies of bats start arriving in late October. Straw-coloured fruit bats are identifiable by their pale, tawny fur and bright orange neck. As with all fruit bats (alias flying foxes) they have dog-like facial features with small ears, large eyes and a long snout. The wingspan of a straw-coloured fruit bat reaches 85cm making them the largest bat in Southern Africa.

The Bangweulu wetlands, just north of Kasanka are one of Africa’s most spectacular wildlife secrets with over 100,000 Black Lechwe and the world’s most visible Shoebills. That is five times as many mammals as the Serengeti wildebeest migration and happens in Zambia only 5 hours drive from Lusaka and the Copperbelt.

By day the bat colony roosts in the trees of the mushitu forest, packing themselves around branches and trunks which often break under the sheer weight of bat! Daily life is not easy for the bats as many predators including raptors turn to a diet of bats for the two months that the colony is in residence. Fish eagles, martial eagles, vultures and numerous other raptors have been seen to take the bats in flight and from the roost. Crocodiles, pythons and nile monitors clean up any bats found on the ground.

During November and December each year five million straw-coloured fruit bats take up residence in one hectare of Kasanka National Park’s mushitu swamp forest. Enticed by the abundance of such delicacies as musuku, mufinsa and the other wild fruits in the

Watching the bats by day dispels a lot of the myths people associate with these nocturnal creatures. They are fascinating to study as they land upright on a branch, crawl along using four limbs over sleeping friends, until a suitable place is found, then drop into a

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TRAVEL | TRAVLA hanging position only to be disturbed by one of the multitude of bats also clinging to the same small portion of branch. From this inverted position, the bats clean themselves, mate, urinate and perform most bodily functions associated with resting animals. Take off is very easy – let go with the feet and flap. At dusk the noisy chatter and activity from the colony increases. Scouts fly out first and then in a seemingly ordered fashion the entire colony stream out of their roost in search of food. For 25minutes the sky is full of bats for as far as the eye can see, as they disperse over a 360 degree radius from the forest. It’s like an air traffic controllers worst nightmare! An occasional individual changes his mind and heads back inwards ducking diving and dodging others on their way out. This is a spectacle not to be missed. Some of the world’s most experienced bat researchers have described it as a sight once seen, never forgotten. Chris and Tilde Stuart, wildife researchers and authors of many popular wildlife books, described it as one of Africa’s greatest wildlife spectacles if not the world’s.

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How better to spend a weekend in November or December than to experience the extraordinary spectacle of the nightly exodus of 5 million bats within 25 minutes whilst enjoying a sundowner! Bats aside November and December are probably the most beautiful months in Kasanka. Grass turns green, wildflowers appear, bright skies with occasional thunderstorms, migratory birds swell Kasanka’s bird list to well over 400 and as at all times of year sitatunga sightings are guaranteed from Fibwe hide! Kasanka is only 5 hours drive on excellent tarmac from Lusaka and the Copperbelt and offers self-catering or full catering breaks. A special bat package including charter flights, accommodation and catering is available from Lusaka. It is also easy to include a flying visit to the nearby Bangweulu Swamps which offer spectacular wildlife viewing at this time of year. Kasanka and Shoebill Island in the Bangweulu Swamps are open all year.

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EXPLOREZAMBIA

ZAMBIA’s

Islands of Siankaba

The Islands of Siankaba luxury lodge is located on two private islands in the middle of the mighty Zambezi River situated between the ‘Seventh Wonder of the Natural World’, the magnificent Victoria Falls, and the world famous Chobe National Park.

boasting spectacular views of tional natural beauty with quithe Zambezi River. et, unspoiled surroundings.

The unique feature of the lodge is the series of walkways and bridges that link the two islands together. The quirky design incorporates the use of natural materials that blend in with the feel of the surrounding bush This lodge has been developed while taking full advantage of as a luxurious five star retreat the beauty of the riverine setwith outstanding cuisine and ting. uncompromising levels of personal service to exclusive- The Islands of Siankaba is the ly sleep just fourteen guests. perfect retreat for discerning Each of Siankaba’s seven se- travelers who wish to witness cluded chalets have been the wonderful Victoria Falls yet uniquely designed to maximize also escape the crowds and encomfort and privacy whilst joy being in an area of excepJULY/AUGUST

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The uniquely designed chalets are constructed of teak and canvas tenting, and are raised well above ground levels in the tree canopy, with private balconies that extend over the river. They are linked by a winding overhead walkway, keeping guests safe and protecting the fragile riverine environment. Enjoy your evenings here with a gin and tonic as the sun dips below the horizon, painting the whole sky in unbelievable colors of brilliant reds, yellows, purples and mauves.

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Destinations

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TANZANIA HOME OF THE SERENGETI

TANZANIA WAS FOUNDED IN 1964 FROM TWO SEPARATE NATION-STATES, TANGANYIKA AND ZANZIBAR, WHICH WERE COMBINED TO MAKE ‘TANZANIA’. IT IS HOME OF THE KILIMANJARO WHICH IS AFRICA’S HIGHEST MOUNTAIN, AND IS ONE OF AFRICA’S MOST POPULAR SAFARI DESTINATIONS.

MOUNT KILIMANJARO Mount Kilimanjaro is an inactive volcano in north-eastern Tanzania, near the border with Kenya. At 5,892 meters (19,331 feet) above sea level, Kilimanjaro is Africa’s highest peak and the world’s highest free-standing mountain. Although positioned close to the equator, Mount Kilimanjaro is famous for its snow-capped peak looming over the plains of the savannah. The mountain has become a major tourist attraction for mountaineers and trekkers from around the world.

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TRAVLA | TRAVEL Serengeti National Park is among the best-known big game safari destinations in Africa and one of the most popular tourist attractions in Tanzania. It is famous for its annual wildlife migration of wildebeest and zebra. One of the best times to visit the park is in May when the grass becomes dry

DESTINATIONS and exhausted and the wildebeest and zebra start to mass in huge armies offering a spectacular wildlife show.

SERENGETI NATIONAL PARK Also part of the Spice Islands, but smaller than Pemba, Mafia Island has a population of around 40,000 people. Don’t expect organized crime: the name derives either from the Swahili “mahali pa afya,” meaning “a healthy dwelling-place,” or from the Arabic

“morfiyeh,” meaning “archipelago”. The island attracts scuba divers, game fishermen, and people wanting to relax on one of the island white sandy beaches.

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DESTINATIONS

ZANZIBAR

The island of Unguja, part of Zanzibar, makes up the final Spice Island. Once part of the British Empire, today Zanzibar is a semi-autonomous region of Tanzania. The African island has been for centuries an important trading center, a melting pot of African, Indian and Arab influences. Zanzibar’s major tourist attraction is Stone Town,

with its whitewashed coral rag houses. Another big draw are its beautiful white sandy beaches.

RUAHA NATIONAL PARK Located in the middle of Tanzania, the Ruaha National Park is the largest national park in the country. The park is named after the Hehe word “ruvaha,” meaning “river.” Filled with wild dogs, lions, leopards, elephants, cheetah, giraffes, zebras, impala, bat eared foxes and jackals, the park offers visitors an opportunity to get up close and personal with nature. Due to the parks somewhat rnemote location visitors can enjoy viewing the wildlife without competing with hordes of other tourists.

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10 WAYS TO MAKE YOUR MAN LISTEN TO YOU How to ensure that what you say doesn’t go in one ear and out the other.

s women, we all know how hard it is to get our men to understand us. We talk to them and then we get the stare — you know, the one that looks like we just spoke a foreign language? Either he does that or he will respond with something completely off base or something that makes you really upset. This is when the argument begins and ruins the whole night or day. For the sake of improving your relationship and helping your man understand the woman’s language, check out these

BY: YVONNE PHIRI KUNJEKE

ways to get your man to understand:

1.DON’T TALK WHILE HE’S BUSY

he can get back to what he was doing before. That means, he really isn’t paying any attention to you. He’s probably thinking about which door he has to try to get into the next level of his PS3 game.

Don’t talk to him when he’s playing his video game, watching TV, or doing some other extra-curricular activity. You’ll be wasting your words because he is not listening. 3. DON’T YELL AT HIM Don’t yell at him to listen to you before you talk to him. He’ll most likely 2.DON’T INTERRUPT HIM Don’t demand him to stop whatever he be thinking you’re about to complain is doing to listen to you because all he about something he should have done will do is wait for you to be finished so or didn’t do and has already tuned you JULY/AUGUST

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LIFESTYLE | TRAVLA out. Once you are out, you are out for FROM THE RELATIONSHIP good. Just like telling him what you want to hear, tell your man what you want from 4. APPROACH HIM WITH A SMILE the relationship. Do you want poems? Make the conversation one that he Tell him that you want poems. Okay, so wants to be part of and one that he is it’s not as romantic as if he did it himgoing to like. To do this, smile and take self. But if you think about it, he has to his hands into yours. Sit on the couch choose one that makes him think of you and tell him that you miss him and that and that is romantic. you want to talk to him for a while.

9. DON’T TALK TO HIM WHEN HE’S 5. ASK HIM IF HE UNDERSTANDS UPSET As you’re talking, if you start to get the stare, stop and ask, “Are you following me?” If doesn’t seem like he is, go back and explain it better. Remember, he is male and him and his friends don’t converse like women do.

If he’s upset about something, don’t try to start a conversation with him. He’s already on another planet and isn’t going to be able to take in, never mind understand anything you are saying. Wait until he has cooled down before you discuss anything with him.

6. ENCOURAGE HIM TO ASK 10. PRAISE HIM. QUESTIONS As you are trying to get him to understand you more, praise him. The more you praise him, the more he will want to understand you. You’ll start to see how his eyes light up when you bring up the idea of talking about something or *gasp* his willingness to pause a video game for an instant for you to say some7. TELL HIM WHAT YOU WANT TO thing. Remember: commitment and patience HEAR Sometimes men don’t understand what will help your man understand. you want from them to make you feel better and they have to be told. It’s okay, These tricks don’t work overnight and many men really want you to tell them you can’t just do them one time and and yes, you should tell them — they expect your man to understand you really don’t know. So, if your man says, forever. You’ll have to follow these all “Wow! That dress really makes your the time. It’ll be worth it, though, just to butt look huge.” Correct him by saying have him understand and take interest something like, “Is that a good thing? If in what you have to say. it is, you might want to say something like, ‘Wow! You really look beautiful in A man’s attention span is 2-3 minutes: condense the story. Know yourself and that dress tonight.’” how many words you need to speak. Di8. TELL HIM WHAT YOU WANT vide by four. That is how many words he can physiologically handle. When he doesn’t understand something, ask him, “What part doesn’t make sense?” Tell him that you want to make sure he understands what you are talking about because you value his input on the topic. He will appreciate that you care so much about what he thinks.

GREAT LISTENING SKILLS! ______________________ BY: WORTHY GRAHAM SIKAZWE

istening is a magnetic and strange thing, a creative force. It involves hearing, sensing, interpretation, evaluation and response. It creates us, makes us unfold and expand. Ideas actually begin to grow within us and come to life when we listen. Good listening includes a package of skills, which requires knowledge of technique and practice very similar to good writing or good speaking.

any people believe that good listening skills are easy to learn or are automatically part of every person’s personality. Neither is correct. The difference is that poor listening skills are often not as obvious to other people. If we cannot speak effectively, it is immediately obvious, but it may take a little time for other people to become aware that you or I are poor listeners. Poor listeners are very common. In fact, more common than poor speakers.

ood listening skills will vary from one situation to the next. For example, what is effective feedback will vary from one person to another. Some people to whom you are listening may need more feedback than other people. ________________________

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YOUR DREAM CAR!

ASTON MARTIN

Rapide S Exclusive in design, enticing in experience, Rapide S – the power of luxury.

ou are obviously planning to buy your dream car one day. We all want to own a nice car that we’ve always dreamed of. One day, when you’ve worked extra hard, become rich and financially free, you would have to make a very important decision about buying your prestigious car. Actually that decision has to be

made now, so that you work towards it. In this issue, we take a look at the Aston Martin brand. Many Zambians are not familiar with this brand but are exposed to Mercedez Benz, BMW, Jeep, Honda, Hummer, Ferrari, and so on. I hope this review will get you interested in Aston Martin and may become your DREAM CAR

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ston Martin Incorporated knew that creating Rapide S would be a challenge. They wanted improvements in styling, performance and customer personalisation, but they didn’t start with their previous model, instead, they went back to the beginning. This process delivered a Rapide S that is more assertive

LIFESTYLE | TRAVLA than ever before. Aston Martin’s engineers delivered where their designers demanded, meaning the Rapide S is unbelievably pure compared to their original design.

he ‘Golden Ratio’ sits at the heart of every Aston Martin. Balanced from any angle, each exterior line of Rapide S works in concert and every propor-

tion is precisely measured to create a lithe, pure form. Aston Martin’s engineering follows the same principle. A near perfect weight distribution ensures Rapide S is balanced in form and balanced in function. Designed for grace and poise, Rapide S is also designed for dynamic performance. With a new bonnet structure and seven new

body panels the all new Gen4 AM11 engine sits 19 mm lower in the chassis. An aerodynamic profile, enhanced by the new rear ‘flip’, smooths exterior airflow to improve efficiency and performance. Comfortable as a luxurious GT or a nimble sports car, you instantly realise Rapide S is designed to be driven.

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FAMILY

HOW TO BE A

BETTER WIFE By Sharon O’Brien

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ome guys might not realize this, but when most women get married they usually imagine cozy evenings by a fire, sharing their hopes and dreams with the men they love. Our Prince Charmings, however, sometimes turn into The Grinches Who Stole Romance, lying on the couch with a beer in one hand and a remote in the other. You may have noticed our displeasure about this on occasion. However, in the interest of your willingness to cater to our needs, here’s a list for the women out there. Ladies, instead of trying to fix your flawed but lovable husband, why not start by looking in the mirror? These 10 steps will help you re-energize your marriage and renew your appreciation for the former Mr. Perfect.

lude with your husband? If you can’t remember, you’re way overdue. Be affectionate, write love notes, give him a backrub, plan a date, and initiate sexual play. Remind him that you still find him attractive.

LET HIM HAVE “GUY TIME” Everyone needs time for themselves—to relax, enjoy a hobby, or socialize with friends. If your husband loves football and you don’t, don’t bug him about it. Encourage him to cultivate friendships with other men. He’ll enjoy the companionship. Studies show that people with friends tend to live longer, healthier lives.

MAKE YOUR HUSBAND A PRIORITY

With the everyday stresses of work, home, and kids, it’s easy to take your husband for granted. Make time for the two of you to reconTurns out that the best thing you can do for your husband is nect on a regular basis. Take an interest in his work and hobbies. Let also good for you. Eat healthy foods, maintain good groom- him know he’s important to you. ing, and exercise regularly. You’ll look and feel better, and you’ll continue to be the vibrant and attractive woman DON’T TRY TO CHANGE HIM he fell in love with, no matter your age. Are you outgoing, but your husband is shy? Do you like a clean

TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF

SAY THANK YOU, OFTEN When researchers ask men what they want from their wives, appreciation always makes the list. Everyone likes to be appreciated, so remember to notice the things your husband does—for you, for the kids, for the house—and thank him. You’ll put a smile on his face and a little joy in his heart.

KEEP THE ROMANCE ALIVE

house, but he leaves towels on the floor? Behavioral experts say you can’t change others, you can only change yourself and how you react—so look for ways other than nagging to handle these situations. Compromise on social activities by making them shorter, or go by yourself. Place a laundry basket in the bathroom. And when he attends a party or puts dirty towels in their proper place, thank him. Positive reinforcement beats nagging every time.

DON’T MAKE HIM GUESS—TELL HIM WHAT YOU WANT

It’s easy to assume that the person who lives with you every day When was the last time you also knows you well enough to know what you want. Not true. Most planned a romantic inter- of us view the world through our own needs and desires, so don’t be surprised if your husband thinks that what you want is what he would want. If you want something specific—advice, a hug, or a red sweater for your birthday—let him know.

CULTIVATE FRIENDS AND INTERESTS OUTSIDE YOUR MARRIAGE Once you’re married, it’s easy to shrink your social network to revolve around your husband. But no one person can meet all your needs, and it’s too much to expect your husband to be your partner, your lover, AND your best girlfriend. Make time for friendships outside your marriage. You’ll have more fun and bring new energy to your relationship.

LET FREE TIME BE FREE Just as you need time to relax and unwind, so does your husband. He may not define it the way you do, though; while your idea of relaxing after work may be talking over a glass of wine, he may enjoy being quiet for awhile, reading the newspaper, or watching TV. Find a compromise so both your needs are met. And give him time to recharge by not over-scheduling weekends with home projects and shopping.

BELIEVE IN YOUR HUSBAND, AND LET HIM KNOW IT Men can display a lot of bravado, but like us they sometimes struggle with low self-confidence and feelings of failure. And because men approach the world as competitors, they sometimes end up feeling like losers. When he comes home, your husband needs to know that the person he values most in the world believes in him— especially when he doesn’t believe in himself.

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POWERFUL

AFRICAN WOMEN ISABEL DOS SANTOS Africa’s First Woman Billionaire

en are always the ones who hit the peak of the business curve in Africa and world over, but it’s important to pause for a while and look at what women are able to do as well in business. Africa hatches powerful, influential and intelligent women and in this issue, we talk about Isabel Dos Santos, oldest daughter of Angolan President – José Eduardo dos Santos and his first wife – Tatiana Kukanova (Russian-born)

Urbana 2000, a subsidiary of Jembas Group, one that won the contract for cleaning and disinfection of the city. In 1997, at the age of 24, she started her first own business by opening the Miami Beach Club, one of the first night clubs and beach restaurants on the Luanda Island. Generally, over a period of nearly 20 years she expanded her business interests continuously and this led her to create several holdings, in Angola and mostly abroad, and to make substantial investments in a series of prestigious enterprises, especially in Portugal. Kento Holding, a Maltese-registered investment firm she fully owns, holds a 10% stake in Zon Multimedia, a Portuguese media conglomerate. She acquired the stake for about US$136 Million in 2010. Also owns major stakes in Portuguese banks Banco Espírito Santo and Banco Português de Investimento, and in Energias de Portugal, which generates and distributes electricity.

Isabel studied Electrical Engineering at King’s College in London, where she met her husband (Congolese) – Sindika Donkolo, a son of a millionaire. You can imagine the combination. They got married in Luanda, in December 2002 and there were reports that the wedding ceremony cost about US$ 4 million. As if that wasn’t enough, they hired a special choir from Belgium and two planes chartered to bring food from France. In attendance, at the wedding, were about 800 guests -- half of them were relatives of the couple with several African presidents. Lastly, Isabel dos Santos (an Angolan investor) just turned 41. She is considered by Forbes to be the richest woman in Africa and the In the early 1990s Isabel dos Santos returned from London to join most powerful and richest woman in her country. At 40 years of her father in Luanda, starting to work for a German recycling com- age, in 2013, according to research by Forbes, her net worth had pany, then, set up a trucking business. Here the development of a reached more than three billion U.S. dollars, making her Africa’s walkie-talkie system paved the way for her subsequent foray into first woman billionaire. telecoms. She also worked as a project manager and engineer for

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ambia has enjoyed peace for 50 years due to a variety of factors which include the mature, level-headed hand over system of presidency, tribal cousinship and is a haven of peace for political and economic refugees. Other important factors are at play, too. These further strengthen peace exhibited country-wide, not only at funerals and weddings, but also at parties and ceremonies. Any student of African history will recall that missionaries greatly influenced and taught Christian values and the majority of Zambia’s citizenry are Christians.

he late republican president Fredrick chiluba declared Zambia, a Christian nation, further strengthening the right to worship God and resultant peace from the same. Some people still doubt this declaration‘s application in this regard, Does it have any benefits? Many sceptical people ask.

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Churches have a pacifying role in any given community and nationally through education, health and arbitration when politicians’ differ. They also meet and continue to do so at weddings and funerals with the church providing a neutral ground. Thanks to Dr. Chiluba -- most Zambians have property. For those so crafty enough, investing in Real Estate is a new style of earning a passive income.

s for trade Unionists, they are able to organize more unions of their choice and are happy with such arrangements. Those who no longer had a voice suddenly come up with groupings which they target.

David Livingstone stands out as one missionary who brought the gospel to this region and unfortunately died at Chitambo mission. Even as Zambians view the Victoria Falls in Livingstone, they are reminded of this foreign missionary. Tourists from different regions of the world enjoy the warmth and peaceful nature, and this further encourages them to return. ambia’s first and founding father Dr. Kaunda adopted the slogan “one Zambia, one nation” where he held the meetings thus inculcating them to love one another. Civil servants from different parts of the country served anywhere and inter-marriages were encouraged further strengthening family ties across the nation. For 27 years,

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he late Nelson Mandela was on Dr Kaunda‘s lip, “release Mandela unconditionally.” Till the man was released. These were not individual efforts but collectively done with other stakeholders politically. As long as other neighbours were not liberated, Zambians suffered with them till peaceful negations were employed to liberate them, bringing human dignity for all in the region and beyond. Zambians always find ways to ease challenges they encounter along the way. Despite being land locked, our country is poised to bear regional hub more so with road networks spreading country-wide in all directions. This system of road networks is creating jobs as the country is opened up for business in agriculture, mining and construction.

ambia has had three types of governments led by United National Independence Party (UNIP), Movement for Multiparty Democracy (MMD) and the current Patriotic Front (PF). In each of those times, hand-overs were maturely peaceful and spiced with level headedness. All presidents have brought certain policies that have worked in the country such as Humanism, Privatization and Mixed Economy although change is generally resisted by most people, with those resisting being swept along. In the past, citizens were not interested in land issues, but that is history now. They have realized it’s important in the creation of wealth.

low middle income nation. It’s still a haven of peace regionally and before independence, it hosted polish refugees running away from European wars and persecutions ‘’Mr. Kabotolo Chibuta, a Luanshya resident added. ‘’Three distinctly decorated graves are there in Ndola Bwana Mkubwa area’’ he said. Twapia township is a well-known township where political and economic refugees from Southern Rhodesia (now, Zimbabwe), Mayukwayukwa, Maheba and Ukwimi also hosted refuges from the region, they still do. All these clearly show that Zambia is truly a haven of peace. ‘’On the home front, there is a unifying factor through intermarriages and a rare type of inter-tribal cousinship which makes it easy for Easterners and Northerners to interact anywhere at funeral, weddings, cultural ceremonies and games but at work places,” Mr. Xavier Alinani Mushenwa, another resident added. “Zambians can earn from their culture through tourism and rich mineral resources, more so when its citizenry embrace a changed mindset.” Mr. Kabotolo Chibuta contributed. The peaceful and warm deposition has been beneficial for decades hence Zambians have become more productive and are learning from other nations and cultures.

‘‘The prevailing peace for five decades has led the general citizen into all manner of agriculture, construction tourism. Wherever you go there is some unprecedented works and cultivations under way. This is slowly turning 0ur beloved motherland into a regional food basket, ’Muma Kalasa said. ‘’Our country should not take this relative peace for granted but jealously guard it as we are a

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n other parts of the world people are still killing each other, with higher deaths decimating the valuable human capital. Zambia is still peaceful and poised to celebrate its Golden Jubilee while hosting thousands of refugees and integrating those who have made Zambia their home.

From local musicians, you can pick lines such as ‘’Zambia niziko lamutendele.” Nasty-D is famous for this chorus. Who can argue with that message? One hopes that Zambians will generally produce goods and services to be able to earn foreign exchange and let it work for them especially in the rural areas.

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his month I have decided to befriend the Nokia Lumia 1020. That’s what is in my gadget bag now. Wow! This Windows Phone has been hailed by many With the increasingly popular Windows Phone 8 OS that it has, it feels comusers around the world as the best camera-phone in the world and it is true. I fortable to own because of flexibility, speed, durability and most of all stortotally agree with that. age capacity. It packs an enormous 41-megapixel sensor that not only captures spectacular detail but enables you to zoom in on your photo after the fact. Plus, it comes with the ProCamera app that lets you tweak all sorts of manual settings. The Lumia 1020 is Nokia’s attempt to build the ultimate camera-phone. The PureView camera sensor is more than just a huge collection of pixels. It’s physically larger than the sensors in most smartphones and even some compact cameras. Generally, the bigger the sensor, the more area there is to capture light and so the less image noise and better low-light performance. So if you love photos, the Nokia Lumia 1020 should be on your budget now. It does not only give you great photos but also has a super-fast CPU that saves your video and photos in real-time.

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Reasons for- Part being a mum 1

know there are many reasons you have in your mind as to why you should be a mother to your child but I would like you to think of it in the eyes and thoughts of your child. Here’s what your child thinks of you:

A HERO!

hen your child looks at you, he/she thinks of you as the most beautiful in this world and there will none other. Given an opportunity to choose a woman they would choose you as the most elegant and good looking woman.

THE CLEVEREST!

om you are too creative in every way. When you can’t buy expensive clothes, you make them expensive by designing and sewing with your bare hands. You make the food look and taste delicious. When you notice any sign of lack in a child’s diet, you always think what to do in order to make your children look healthy and strong.

THE STRONGEST AND WISEST PERSON IN THE WORLD!

ou face a lot of challenges in your life as a wife, a mother and a woman but to the children your face is always shining with glory the Lord has given you. Oh, how you manage to answer all life’s questions and are laden with a load of responsibilities yet do not show any sign of weakness.

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GENDER BASED VIOLENCE

A SERIOUS OFFENCE IN ZAMBIA

Some traditional practices in Zambia have contributed to the increase of gender-based violence which now affects nearly 50 percent of all women in the country.

Gender-based violence has long been recognized as a problem all over the world. Although it affects both males and females, women and children are particularly vulnerable to gender-based violence due to various factors. In many cases, gender-based violence culminates into injury and loss of human life. In particular,wife battery, sexual gender-based violence has become a major health concern, causing not only physical but also emotional and psychological harm to its victims. In the era of HIV and AIDS and considering all the serious

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consequences associated with the pandemic, there is great need to urgently address the situation. The Zambian parliament passed the Anti-Gender-Based Violence Act in response to a long-standing recommendation to enact legislation that specifically addresses gender-based violence. Former President Rupiah Banda signed the Gender-Based Violence Amendment Act on April 12, 2011 which is meant to address the abuse of not only women but men as well. The enactment of the law had proved governmentâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s commitment to the protection of womenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s rights hence the decision to assent to the bill, adding that government was aware of the various injustices women have experienced at the hands of men and that with the enactment of the law, the abuses will be addressed. Commenting on the launch of the national anti-gender-based- vi-

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FEATURES | TRAVLA olence campaign themed “Abuse: Just Stop It”, aimed at making Zambia a gender violence-free society, although with full knowl- Chileshe edge that tradition runs strong in Zambia …but people must know Until then, women like Chileshe will continue not only to receive that gender-based violence is not ‘cultural’…it is criminal. Whether abuse, but also to think they deserve it.“It is OK for him to beat it happens in a battle zone, in a brothel, in a bar, or in a bedroom, it me because I am unable to give him children,” chileshe says in is a crime. Whether it is committed by a stranger or a spouse, by a between sobs. . He plans on telling her to go big brother or a burglar, it is a crime. Whether to the store to get some groceries. What he the victim is a professor or a prostitute, it is a withholds from her is that she has a certain crime.” amount of time to do the shopping. When she We must stop gender-based violence, not because women are the weaker sex, not because they are fragile and in need of our protection, Not because they are somehow less worthy. We must stop gender-based violence because it is wrong, plain wrong From the many interaction I have had with men In our community generally itproves that a high proportion of persons agrees that wife beating is not justified although many view Women’s infidelity as a justified reason to beat or hit the wife; about three in five (60 percent) persons said that a man was justified in beating the wife for this reason.

Gender-based violence has long-lasting adverse consequences for women’s reproductive health, including unwanted pregnancy, pregnancy complications, miscarriage, unsafe abortion, sexually transmitted infections, including HIV, and maternal death.

is held up in traffic and is a few minutes’ late, he feels completely justified in assaulting her because “you’re having an affair with the store clerk.” He has just set her up. It’s impossible to know with certainty what goes on behind closed doors, but there are some tell-tale signs and symptoms of emotional abuse and domestic violence. If you witness any warning signs of abuse in a friend, family member, or co-worker, take them very seriously and make sure they are helped rightly especially here in Zambia which is very much male dominated creates further challenges in dealing with gender-based violence.

Almost one in five (19 percent) respondents(clients talked to) reported that they were slapped sometimes, 3 percent reported being slapped often and 78 percent not at all being slapped but that much of physical hits and biting have been done and most of them have sustained serious injuries as compared to men and children. The results from the Central statistical office on GBV show that 16 percent report that they had physically hurt their spouse or partner. According to the recent Zambia‘s Demographic Health Survey, 53% Males are more likely than females to hurt their spouse or a partner of women experience abuse of some sort and a quarter of these meaning the problem is so much centred on the men seeing that abuse attested to the fact that they have been involved in physical they are the main cause of GBV in Zambia. gender-based violence and WILSA also has noted that traditional beliefs also exacerbate gender-based violence. With these observations therefore the media can play an importAlmost two thirds (65 percent) in rural areas agreed that a husband was justified in beating the wife compared to one in five (52 percent) in urban areas. More than a third (38 percent) in rural areas said that a husband was justified in beating the wife if she neglected the children compared to 29 percent in urban areas.

A man abuses his partner. After he hits her, he experiences self-directed guilt. He says, “I’m sorry for hurting you.” What he does not say is, “Because I might get caught.” He then rationalizes his behaviour by saying that his partner is having an affair with someone. He tells her “If you weren’t such a worthless whore I wouldn’t have to hit you.” He then acts contrite, reassuring her that he will not hurt her again. He then fantasizes and reflects on past abuse and how he will hurt her. See underneath Mercy and Chilese’s story: on GBV from their husbands…….

Mercy “I got married in 2004 and my husband started giving me STDs [sexually transmitted diseases]....He goes out with women. When I ask for a condom, or go to the clinic to get treatment, he starts beating me. In January 2012 I went for VCT [voluntary counselling and testing for HIV]...The results came positive. From the time I got the results, he started beating me up. ..He beat me everywhere. When I was four months pregnant he beat me until the placenta came out.”

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ant role in raising awareness of risks and dangers as well as in influencing public opinion and policies that protect the rights of women, Children and Men also not even forgetting to state the results and implications on the offender and educating the community to know that no one is above the law and most especially on the women’s side who do not report such vices to the police so that law can take its course. The US in partnership with our government has been running the Woman’s Justice and Empowerment Initiative, a programme through which they have trained the police and the judiciary in investigating and prosecuting gender-based crimes. The Zambian government should back up the important progress it has made on providing support services to victims by criminalizing and enforcing the legislation of GBV effectively across Zambia, although Parliament is currently debating an anti-gender-based violence bill, which was presented last year and passed its second reading in February 2011. The bill aims to protect victims of gender-based violence by, among other measures, providing safe spaces for girls and women to live and protection orders for gender-based violence survivors, according to Sarah Sayifwanda, minister of gender and women in development. Traditional counsellors from all parts of the country must be educated on gender-based violence because these people interact directly with young women who are about to get married and those who have reached adulthood. While we wait, many Zambian women will continue to suffer from brutal abuse and will continue to wreck the lives of many Zambians;

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GENDER-BASED VIOLENCE Contd... this will be one way of fostering an environment where women can be able to walk with dignity and pride. Gender-based violence has long-lasting adverse consequences for womenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s reproductive health, including unwanted pregnancy, pregnancy complications, miscarriage, unsafe abortion, sexually transmitted infections, including HIV, and maternal death.

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Victims of domestic violence are also more likely to suffer long-lasting psychological and health problems, including persistent fear, low self-esteem, sexual dysfunction, chronic pain, disability, substance abuse, depression, and suicide. The children of abused women are more likely to experience low birth weight, malnutrition, behavioural problems, and higher mortality. The World Bank has estimated that the health burden of gender-based violence on women aged 15-44 is as heavy as that of HIV, tuberculosis, cancer and heart disease combined.

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